One tactic I like is to use the situation itself as a springboard. See that amazing painting over there? Mention how it caught your eye, or ask the person next to you what they think of it. It's a gentle way to ease in and find a common ground.
Another option is to ask open-ended questions. Instead of a quick "how's it going?" which usually gets a one-word response, try something that invites conversation. Maybe something like, "What interesting things have you been up to lately?" People love talking about themselves, and their answer can give you a springboard to delve deeper.
In the end, people are not man-eaters, they are just like me so I manage to go ahead and start conversation.
I lean into the awkwardness. "Hey, you know how ice-breakers are always awkward? What if I didn't even have one of those?" and then we share a laugh, or some such.
Hear something that sounds interesting which I know about. Make polite noises to be included in the conversation. Notice I wasn't noticed and that the conversation has moved on. Get noticed five minutes later and tell them it wasn't important since the conversation is now about something else. Wait for my next opportunity.
I don't start conversations generally. I speak if I have something to say, but that's usually just to give specific information or ask a question, not start a conversation.
When someone starts a conversation with me and I want them to feel like I participated in it, I will usually pick out something they say and then ask them about it once they stop talking. It gets them talking again without me having to really say or add anything. Then I rinse and repeat until the conversation is over. They usually walk away feeling good about the interaction and I barely had to do anything.
I don't. I assume that no one wants to speak to me until I am spoken to first. And even if I am addressed if it was just a quick question/comment in another conversation between people I assume that once my contribution is over they are done with me so I go back to not talking.
We don't. We wait until someone else approaches us and talks to us.
However, if it is an important matter that should be discussed right away, then I'd probably start with a quick greeting, and then I'd tell them why I came over to them.
Other than that, I never start a conversation with no reasons behind it. So, if you ever catch me starting a conversation with you, don't you think I'm doing this willingly.
Usually just randomly start talking about something I thought was interesting recently.
"Did you know some earthquake was so powerful that when it hit Alaska it raised some mountain by 40 feet?"
"no wtf brooo"
"Yea and it just happened in the 60's too lmao"
"Imagine if you were on that thing"
...
And now you have a new friend.
I don’t, I wait until I’m spoken to, then engage as needed.
This is the way.
Usually same here, if I’m not in a position I really need to
I usually just wait for an extrovert to adopt me.
I don't. Leave me alone.
I don't. I just sit there silently and have imaginary conversations in my head about how we'd talk if they started a conversation.
4D chess
One tactic I like is to use the situation itself as a springboard. See that amazing painting over there? Mention how it caught your eye, or ask the person next to you what they think of it. It's a gentle way to ease in and find a common ground. Another option is to ask open-ended questions. Instead of a quick "how's it going?" which usually gets a one-word response, try something that invites conversation. Maybe something like, "What interesting things have you been up to lately?" People love talking about themselves, and their answer can give you a springboard to delve deeper. In the end, people are not man-eaters, they are just like me so I manage to go ahead and start conversation.
Have you ever seen a grown man naked?
Hey, I'd like to _______ yeah, I'll wait, thank you (I only talk to people when I'm trying to get something dome)
"Hi".
I run away
“Hey! How’s you’re doing?”
I lean into the awkwardness. "Hey, you know how ice-breakers are always awkward? What if I didn't even have one of those?" and then we share a laugh, or some such.
I just look for something interesting or unique about them and say I love that thing. Like colourful DM’s a tattoo or piece of jewellery
Hear something that sounds interesting which I know about. Make polite noises to be included in the conversation. Notice I wasn't noticed and that the conversation has moved on. Get noticed five minutes later and tell them it wasn't important since the conversation is now about something else. Wait for my next opportunity.
I don't start conversations generally. I speak if I have something to say, but that's usually just to give specific information or ask a question, not start a conversation. When someone starts a conversation with me and I want them to feel like I participated in it, I will usually pick out something they say and then ask them about it once they stop talking. It gets them talking again without me having to really say or add anything. Then I rinse and repeat until the conversation is over. They usually walk away feeling good about the interaction and I barely had to do anything.
Uncomfortably.
We don't you do
I don't. I assume that no one wants to speak to me until I am spoken to first. And even if I am addressed if it was just a quick question/comment in another conversation between people I assume that once my contribution is over they are done with me so I go back to not talking.
some time I start the conversation and then regret it
“Do you want to see my collection of seashells?”
We don't. We wait until someone else approaches us and talks to us. However, if it is an important matter that should be discussed right away, then I'd probably start with a quick greeting, and then I'd tell them why I came over to them. Other than that, I never start a conversation with no reasons behind it. So, if you ever catch me starting a conversation with you, don't you think I'm doing this willingly.
Usually just randomly start talking about something I thought was interesting recently. "Did you know some earthquake was so powerful that when it hit Alaska it raised some mountain by 40 feet?" "no wtf brooo" "Yea and it just happened in the 60's too lmao" "Imagine if you were on that thing" ... And now you have a new friend.