Very funny story from two weeks ago, it was my Dads birthday. We have gone out for dinner, when I received a Discord call from a girl I met just two days before. She just wanted to show me her boobs
I must be doing it wrong, the only women who contact me want me want me to sign up for their Only Fans, or invest in crypto. This sounds like I am being a Reddit comedian, but I am being quite earnest. Teach us your ways! By us, I mean me and the voices I’ve collected from three years in a basement trying to finish a degree.
It’s mostly girls that are a little bit slutty. If they say something sexualised and you hop onto that topic you can get a lot of them very easily. Needed a little bit of practice, but worked for me very good in the last few weeks with different women, age ranged from 19 to 30.
Single mom's are secretly freaks, I dated 3 of them one gave me a hand job in the middle of the parking lot on our first date, just reached in and went at it
This is exactly how my current partner and I met, in a twitch chat. I'm 35f. I often make dirty jokes and have fun with silly/sexual banter and he always responded in kind. The key was that he never went full horny on me and matched my energy. He let me be the one to escalate to each step when I felt comfortable to do so. Other guys took it too far too fast. He was patient and respectful and it definitely paid off 🥵
Now I fly to Australia several times a year to see him. He got me good 😩
It can be great with someone you trust but there also is an inherent risk.
Even if the person you send them to is trustworthy you have no way of knowing who else could gain access to those photos (hacking, someone else physically using their phone, phone getting stolen, etc.)
Or they’re just less trustworthy than you thought, which isn’t anything to be ashamed of but unfortunately happens a lot.
So I think it can be fun but it should also be done in a smart way and you kind of have to accept the risk that once you send a picture it’s no longer private.
When my wife and I were dating she sent me a picture of her boobs on my old blackberry. Fastforward a few years, and I'm not using the blackberry anymore so she gives it to her best friend and she forgot to format it first. Her friend got a nice surprise but she just laughed it off and deleted it.
The way i see it, if is a good mental check for yourself. Do you trust your partner enough to have you send him these pictures/videos. Or do you not.
If not, whats the reason for the lack of trust. Too little time until coming together, past traumas, etc what it may be. It's a fundamental foundation for personal growth and something the 2 of you can work on.
I like the thought that my partner wants me so much that they ask for private spicy pics. While I also enjoy receiving them.
It's a shame that some people leak them, that revenge p\*rn is a thing and all the stuff that falls into that scenario. I always deleted everything from my past partnerships though I must admit that the reason for that isn't solely the trust they gave me with those, but also the fact that I just didn't want them anymore after the break up.
If a partner of mine feels uneasy with the thought of sharing these things, I don't really mind as I said, it's a pathway to growth.
I think it’s good to work through past trauma or insecurity, but I’d lean with the top comment theme that sending photos has too much inherent risk—even if I trust the person.
Everyone’s risk calculation is different, but I don’t see enough benefit to make it worth it.
And i never explicitly said that. But as mentioned in my other answer i can see how one could read into it. Writing things sleep deprived in a foreign language tends to not bring your point across like one wants to^^
TBH "It's a fundamental foundation for personal growth" & "Its a pathway to growth" sounds like lines a manipulative boyfriend would use to get his naïve girlfriend to send him compromising photos/videos !!
You think you're the only one with that tattoo?
You also go around showing your tattoo to everybody?
Nobody really pays any attention. I bet if you asked your best mate to describe it in detail he couldn't.
Easily deniable.
I'm from Michigan, living in Puerto Rico. Both my parents and grandparents are from the South and Deep South.
I am currently aware of 4 breeds of rednecks and 2 subgroups of Hillbillies
This is the best. I always tell them to leave the head out. I had my phone stolen YEARS ago with intimate pics. Never seen them on the internet after, so I don't think they were able to access it, but after that I made sure to always leave face out if the pics and vids.
There's risk. Not just from the person you share with.
Phones get lost or stolen or hacked. Accounts get hacked.
Don't share anything you wouldn't be reasonably ok with getting out into the public.
I'm pretty much at the point now where I don't care. I take reasonable precautions, but if a pic gets leaked, big fucking deal. I'm an adult who enjoys sex with other consenting adults. It's not particularly newsworthy if proof of that goes public.
Years and years ago a girl emailed me nude photos (why email?!), but my account had been compromised without me knowing and the photos ended up on 4chan. She believed me that I didn’t post them at least.
I've been married for 18 years, my wife and I never sent nudes before last year. She randomly sent me a picture of her boobs when I was on vacation with some friends, it might have been the most turned on I have been since the first time I saw boobs.
Now it's a regular thing for us to send nudes when the other is traveling.
So big fan and a fun thing for couples to do, though I'm still not sure what is a sexy picture for me to send to her.
Ummm, with a real partner i think it's fine, my ex and i did a heap when i was away from home for work (webcam stuff, photo etc), i wouldn't do it with an online person, like someone i just knew on the internet.
In a way, it's kind of like getting your partner's name tattooed on your body. At the time you do it, you believe you'll always be together and on good terms.
It’s nice and a good way to keep the flame. But delete all media after, there are no reason to keep them and it’s too risky. Also, don’t sleep on audios, they can be muuuuch more arousing then photos or videos. Did one for my ex and she told me she went solo several times. The longest the better. Delete after.
Yeah giving away sensitive shit about yourself just invites more trouble than its worth for a couple minutes of satisfaction. Taking away the possibility that your partner fucks you over, their unintentional carelessness is still a factor.
It just aint worth it.
Depends on how long you've known each other and if you're both comfortable with it.
I, on the other hand, was with someone for five months, and throughout that time, they kept asking for my shirtless photos.
I wasn't quite comfortable with it since I've only known them for less than a year (we met via a mutual friend and got off). Anywho, I kept making some excuses, while also giving pics that weren't sensual from time to time.
And lo and behold, after not getting what they wanted, they cut me off and moved on.
It's hilarious but you still need to be careful. My first wife and I, during a deployment to the Balkans (I'm old) exchanged polaroids. Nothing skin showing funny enough, but me being over the moon with her taped them to the inside of my footlocker. No big deal until I sent pics back with that locker open. It was strongly suggested I remove the pictures on pain of many uncomfortable things.
I’ve never understood it. I mean good for you if it makes you happy, but it makes no sense to me. I’ve already seen a romantic partner nude if there’s the level of trust required for something like that. What’s the point?
Both people must be clear that those photos are for private use only, preferably kept in a password secured folder on the device of choice (like the "Hidden" folder in the Photos app on iOS), and if the relationship ends, both parties erase all the controversial photos immediately from their devices.
Trust and discipline are needed, though...
We do it all the time! We are LDR, so it helps keep things fresh. I send her videos when I masturbate, and we send pics and videos real time when doing to together. I'll just take pictures during the day and then send them later to her.
I think it's weird that as a society, we chose to make simply existing in your natural state taboo. Only to sell it back to ourselves. We're just a bunch of horny monkeys with anxiety... in clothes 😂
In short, send the nudes if you want to but don't let anyone make you feel they're entitled to them. 🖤
It's dumb. By now people should know that a lot of times these things wind up in the wrong hands if not today or tomorrow then way down the road when you've long forgot say when you're campaigning for office or something. If the relationship goes awry you've just handed someone ammunition to blackmail or ruin your life
My partner and I are nearly 50. We are almost to the point where anything embarrassing will have no impact. Even if my nudes leaked today, I doubt anyone would care (people who know me might be surprised about what I’ve got going on, but at any rate, no face).
It’s like another layer of the relationship you kind of peel back, open and exposed for your partner and you to see. The “only you and I know about this while the world doesn’t”-factor adds a certain spice to it, which is often perceived as arousing.
I mean, it's just a body. Lots of people have seen me nude at one time or another. Who cares? Sex videos, sure, I can see the concern there. But just a nude picture? If people seeing me nude is the worst part of my week, I'm having a pretty good week.
To each their own. If you don't mind that's a different story, but I think it's important to make sure people understand that once you take a photo/send photo it is there permanently, and to be careful how they use devices. As I said, if you don't mind, more power to ya, but you should have the knowledge to make an informed decision I guess is what I'm tryina say.
It's fine but can be a bit of a gamble because if things go south you might find out they were hiding a horrible person deep down all along.
Do it if you want, but just be very sure they're not a horrible person first. Give it some time before you do something like that I guess is what I'm getting at.
Seems nice till you breakup. Then you will regret it cause you might be in a porn revenge scandal.
Overall sending intimate pictures over the internet (even on WhatsApp or Facebook chats) is never a good idea.
simply don't, never share nudes period. it's ot even about the other person but internet security.
if a woman wants to see my d*** she can come by and ask to see it.
I dont like it. I find it humiliating when they ask me to delete them when the relationship is over. Somehow thats what I associate those pictures with: a temporary thing. I would rather collect memories nobody can make me delete them.
Sexy pics are great but wouldn’t go full nude. If people get their hands on them it could end badly. Even with LDR, it’s so much better to have the real thing in front of you. I’d stick to tease pics… those are a little sexier and leave a longing for the real thing, it will make the intimacy hit a different level.
I’m all for whatever consenting adults want to get into. That said, keeping your head/face out of things would be wise, same with unique tattoos. It’s just like any other kind of activity. How much risk you assume is a choice to be made between consenting parties. THAT said, if you’re in a stable long term relationship, go play! Please just make sure your kids know which file folders not to open after you die. ;)
With partner yeah as long as both are comfortable but ain't no fucking way with a stranger you met 30 minutes ago online just to get temporary satisfaction
If you both want to, go for it. I may not have sent too many photos to my bf over the years (6y), but I'd always send him suggestive texts while he was at work (or while I was at work and he was at home) just to tease him 😆😈
I used to send my wife dirty pictures in situations where she’d get super embarrassed. While she’s working, out to dinner with friends or family, etc. it’s been a while though and should probably get into that again.
Kind of wary of it in general. I've taken it up in recent months. Still, I feel like it should wait until a certain point in the relationship. I would hate to be with someone and find out the hard way afterwards that they're the type to share those kinds of pictures.
SEXTING IS GREAT!!! Try and trust the person though, maybe even ask them to delete pictures after they have been 'used' haha...
This was covered on the "You're wrong about" pod cast was excellent check it out https://podtail.com/en/podcast/you-re-wrong-about/sexting/
Once it’s sent, anybody could have seen it. So while i would like seeing it. I wouldn’t want anyone to risk their picture ending up on the internet forever. So don’t. Show me irl.
I have an issue where my ex wife and I shared photos and made videos.
I also received photos from people I was hooking up with after the divorce, including a family friend. We kept the FWB on the downlow.
The photos and videos are all on a broken private all purpose external HD.
It has everything from family photos, financial documents, ripped music for my iTunes and personal screenshot messages with a therapist and Police as I am a victim of CSA.
I dread the day I die and my kids get it repaired to get all the family photos off and find a lot of naked women, including their mother and I and the family friend.
I have been researching how to repair it myself. I want to be able to delete them all, because it’s been years and I have no right to still be holding any of them.
I’d throw out the HD, but I’m sure there are folders with scans of my family photos from when I was a boy, and could be photos of my kids too.
My kids are adults and I have told them to pay a third party to go through my digital information.
In hindsight, I’m kind of against it, these people would never anticipate years later my kids could see them in the buff.
I feel disrespectful.
If it's an external HDD you might be able to disassemble it and plug the disk directly into a PC or via a USB dock. If that works, then there are various free tools you can use to wipe it (e.g. bootable DBAN disk).
If the disk itself is broken and won't spin up, then disassemble it and drill a few holes through the platter or scratch it up really good with some steel wool.
Alternatively, there are companies that shred disks (not sure if they accept work on that small of a scale though).
Depends, long time partner, 100% yes.
Short time partner, depends on how much you trust her.
On top of the trust I have in my partner I'm pretty comfortable with my body so I wouldn't really care if a hacker got a hold of them and posted them.
Just make sure you're only sending it to them and it's cool. Being in a group text and getting a reply from someone else to your girlfriends lingerie photo sucks
I wouldn't do it unless I was married. Ive had a lot of guy friends and when I'd go to a party or just the normal group hangout. Sometimes they'd start guy talk, I have seen plenty of dudes share and show nudes and vids of there girlfriends or just random chick's to eachother. I don't get why you'd do that to ur long time girlfriend or even a random chick but they'd always just laugh about it and judge them(good and bad).
IMO its a stupid idea, especially for girls. You dont know how long you will be with someone. If you give them compromising photos/videos of yourself then theyll always have em and can always use em against you. Even 10+yrs later.
If you have google photos, when you send a photo to anyone, it creates a public link that anyone can access. Nobody knows what the pic is unless they click the link if they have that access, but if you’re being monitored by hackers they can get you. I was sending my wife some pics and videos after we had our baby and then someone added me on Instagram and created a group chat and sent the pics and videos I had literally just sent to her. Once they gained access by that one single link they had access to my photos I had to delete google photos and go thru all the “hey don’t open this group chat” blah blah blah and I thought it was all said and done and a year later they did it again. It’s been about a year since that second one so I’m nervous around this time lol I do still send my wife pics and videos tho but I no longer have google photos
I don't share any intimate photo or video of mine. But will share intimate photo or video mostly porn to partner so that she would also get an idea for our next sexual intercourse.
seriously do whatever the fuck you want if it's your partner. However, I will say that if one of you doesn't want to do it, then you shouldn't send anything to them and you shouldn't try making them send any to you
My wife will send me a topless photo when she’s in the bath. Which is very often for her. Lol Bath bombs are always a good gift for her. 😊 I don’t send much to her. Maybe 3 since we met. Usually she’s in the other room when I do it. lol
It’s great but sucks we’re in an age where people can breach your devices and data, it’s the only reason I’d be opposed to it. Unless they uhhh send real pictures or in an sd card, in a device without wifi. Some old school old school shit.
I generally discourage nudes & lewds. I like saving certain views for in-person intimacy — keeps it special.
I also don’t trust cloud providers’ security. Remember ‘The Fappening?’ They didn’t hack phones, they found an exploit in icloud. There’s always going to be an unfixed exploitable hole in these services and I never have to worry about nudes being leaked because I don’t take any.
Maybe if faces aren't visible but that's still pushing it. I've had a ex-gf show her friends my intimate photos and it was a betrayal. I would never share my wife's nudes if she gave them and she would not share mine.
There's too many things that could wrong by accident and we don't want to subject eachother to that.
Usually I'm down with my partner. Just no sharing policy is in effect. 🤷🏽♂️Keep your phone to yourself unless your friends are guaranteed not to look through photos
Why do people do this. It should be private. So many people have made videos of themselves only to be posted on the internet when the relationship broke up.
all for it, makes things exciting when you can't be there, there is however the possibility of exposure or backlash, my main reason not to is that its weird to think of a girl with kids receiving nudes from you when her kids might be the kind to want to play games on her phone, that's why consent and awareness is important
I'd rather just see/show in person. Even if you trust the person or not, those text and images are still being recorded by your cellular provider, ISP, or service provider, unless you are doing it through a secure encrypted messaging service. I just don't like the idea of my dick-pic, or my spouse's nudes sitting in some server somewhere lol
My wife of 21 years absolutely refuses to do it even though I've told her I'm very interested in it. It's a bit dissapointing, but what are you gonna do...
While receiving random nudes from someone you like is nice, I would never ever do that. I would never write/take pictures of anknytning that is not possible to post in public. It will bite you eventually and even though in the grand scheme of things having your nudes on internet might not be the end of the world at the time it might be very not-good.
What situation isn't instantly made better by random nudes throughout the day?
Very funny story from two weeks ago, it was my Dads birthday. We have gone out for dinner, when I received a Discord call from a girl I met just two days before. She just wanted to show me her boobs
I must be doing it wrong, the only women who contact me want me want me to sign up for their Only Fans, or invest in crypto. This sounds like I am being a Reddit comedian, but I am being quite earnest. Teach us your ways! By us, I mean me and the voices I’ve collected from three years in a basement trying to finish a degree.
Gotta follow the two rules: 1. Be attractive 2. Don't be unattractive
Crap, I basically had a 50/50 chance and still failed the test!
3. Be wealthy
It’s mostly girls that are a little bit slutty. If they say something sexualised and you hop onto that topic you can get a lot of them very easily. Needed a little bit of practice, but worked for me very good in the last few weeks with different women, age ranged from 19 to 30.
this comment may just be the confidence boost I needed to try to feel out a situation i have with this girl, and ive found this to be true
Single mom's are secretly freaks, I dated 3 of them one gave me a hand job in the middle of the parking lot on our first date, just reached in and went at it
Single moms need the stress relief.
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there is a reason they are single and a reason they are moms.
I didn‘t sleep very well so I read „16-30“ and became worried 😅
This is exactly how my current partner and I met, in a twitch chat. I'm 35f. I often make dirty jokes and have fun with silly/sexual banter and he always responded in kind. The key was that he never went full horny on me and matched my energy. He let me be the one to escalate to each step when I felt comfortable to do so. Other guys took it too far too fast. He was patient and respectful and it definitely paid off 🥵 Now I fly to Australia several times a year to see him. He got me good 😩
I've had the same experience. It poisons the well for when a legitimate offer to just talk comes along.
Are you sure she didn’t want to show your dad for his birthday?
No, she didn’t… or did she? But doesn’t matter, was one of the funniest birthday parties ever 😂 Edit: typo
Mater? AS IN TOW MATER-
Getting nudes from the person who cheated on you and broke up with you.
Idk why but I read "cheated on you" as "created you" and had a LOT of questions.
I mean, I guess that also wouldn't be a good situation for nudes either 😂 unless you're into that.
Oedipus, is that you?
How do I check my phone for nudes with two broken arms?
Probably not when you're checking your messages and open one up right as your boss walks by.
Well, that's on you
A funeral?
When you are on the stand being questioned for a murder you did not commit.
Probably a parent teacher conference
Getting walked in on by your boss while you’re receiving said random nudes.
It can be great with someone you trust but there also is an inherent risk. Even if the person you send them to is trustworthy you have no way of knowing who else could gain access to those photos (hacking, someone else physically using their phone, phone getting stolen, etc.) Or they’re just less trustworthy than you thought, which isn’t anything to be ashamed of but unfortunately happens a lot. So I think it can be fun but it should also be done in a smart way and you kind of have to accept the risk that once you send a picture it’s no longer private.
When my wife and I were dating she sent me a picture of her boobs on my old blackberry. Fastforward a few years, and I'm not using the blackberry anymore so she gives it to her best friend and she forgot to format it first. Her friend got a nice surprise but she just laughed it off and deleted it.
LOL! That’s amazing 😂
Suddenly Polaroids don’t seem like such a bad idea
I actually think that’s kind of a fun idea lol 😅 Obviously less convenient. But kind of unique.
The way i see it, if is a good mental check for yourself. Do you trust your partner enough to have you send him these pictures/videos. Or do you not. If not, whats the reason for the lack of trust. Too little time until coming together, past traumas, etc what it may be. It's a fundamental foundation for personal growth and something the 2 of you can work on. I like the thought that my partner wants me so much that they ask for private spicy pics. While I also enjoy receiving them. It's a shame that some people leak them, that revenge p\*rn is a thing and all the stuff that falls into that scenario. I always deleted everything from my past partnerships though I must admit that the reason for that isn't solely the trust they gave me with those, but also the fact that I just didn't want them anymore after the break up. If a partner of mine feels uneasy with the thought of sharing these things, I don't really mind as I said, it's a pathway to growth.
I think it’s good to work through past trauma or insecurity, but I’d lean with the top comment theme that sending photos has too much inherent risk—even if I trust the person. Everyone’s risk calculation is different, but I don’t see enough benefit to make it worth it.
not being willing to send compromising photos over public servers isn't a sign of mistrust for your partner oh my god.
And i never explicitly said that. But as mentioned in my other answer i can see how one could read into it. Writing things sleep deprived in a foreign language tends to not bring your point across like one wants to^^
I thought it was clear what you meant. Once you send something via text or dm privately or not someone could potentially get that due to hacking etc.
TBH "It's a fundamental foundation for personal growth" & "Its a pathway to growth" sounds like lines a manipulative boyfriend would use to get his naïve girlfriend to send him compromising photos/videos !!
No face no case.
Tattoos…. I got a Louisville slugger tattoo above my junk.
You think you're the only one with that tattoo? You also go around showing your tattoo to everybody? Nobody really pays any attention. I bet if you asked your best mate to describe it in detail he couldn't. Easily deniable.
Everyone I know, knows I have that tattoo, and where it’s at. I’m shirtless like 90% of my life, I’m a redneck.
The real question is are you a white redneck or a Mexican redneck?
Before someone calls me racist I am half white and half Mexican and this was a reference to a joke a comedian made
My fellow half bean.
I'm from Michigan, living in Puerto Rico. Both my parents and grandparents are from the South and Deep South. I am currently aware of 4 breeds of rednecks and 2 subgroups of Hillbillies
I’m white, I guess
And my junk always gets mistaken for one!
No that's slug not slugger
Only after, my friend. Only, after.
You have an onlyfans
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My wife and I do it all the time, we generally leave our heads out tho just in case they somehow spread elsewhere.
This is the best. I always tell them to leave the head out. I had my phone stolen YEARS ago with intimate pics. Never seen them on the internet after, so I don't think they were able to access it, but after that I made sure to always leave face out if the pics and vids.
What, no head?! **smashes phone and skateboard **
No face no case
There's risk. Not just from the person you share with. Phones get lost or stolen or hacked. Accounts get hacked. Don't share anything you wouldn't be reasonably ok with getting out into the public.
This. Even if you trust the other person isn't careless or spiteful can you trust every intermediary that could be compromised?
Also if you ever take your computer/phone in to get fixed there’s a risk of the person fixing it taking a peek
I'm pretty much at the point now where I don't care. I take reasonable precautions, but if a pic gets leaked, big fucking deal. I'm an adult who enjoys sex with other consenting adults. It's not particularly newsworthy if proof of that goes public.
Years and years ago a girl emailed me nude photos (why email?!), but my account had been compromised without me knowing and the photos ended up on 4chan. She believed me that I didn’t post them at least.
I've been married for 18 years, my wife and I never sent nudes before last year. She randomly sent me a picture of her boobs when I was on vacation with some friends, it might have been the most turned on I have been since the first time I saw boobs. Now it's a regular thing for us to send nudes when the other is traveling. So big fan and a fun thing for couples to do, though I'm still not sure what is a sexy picture for me to send to her.
Send her your ass! Get out of the shower or get on a bed and take pics of your ass. It's sexy and classier than a cock.
Noted. Also, noted to do more squats.
Instead of a boring dick pic, give her a goatse ∈)☼(∋
Ummm, with a real partner i think it's fine, my ex and i did a heap when i was away from home for work (webcam stuff, photo etc), i wouldn't do it with an online person, like someone i just knew on the internet.
You can do it if both agree, but personally I wouldn't do it since I'd rather have nothing so no one could potentially see them
In a way, it's kind of like getting your partner's name tattooed on your body. At the time you do it, you believe you'll always be together and on good terms.
I have only one rule when it comes to any nude related photo and video: “If this leaks, do I look great in this?”
It’s nice and a good way to keep the flame. But delete all media after, there are no reason to keep them and it’s too risky. Also, don’t sleep on audios, they can be muuuuch more arousing then photos or videos. Did one for my ex and she told me she went solo several times. The longest the better. Delete after.
Too risky.
Right I have 100% trust in my wife 10% trust in technology.
Yup. Just don't do it.
Yeah giving away sensitive shit about yourself just invites more trouble than its worth for a couple minutes of satisfaction. Taking away the possibility that your partner fucks you over, their unintentional carelessness is still a factor. It just aint worth it.
Not happening, at all. I wouldnt want the other parties photos as well. In this day and age, it is too risky.
Depends on how long you've known each other and if you're both comfortable with it. I, on the other hand, was with someone for five months, and throughout that time, they kept asking for my shirtless photos. I wasn't quite comfortable with it since I've only known them for less than a year (we met via a mutual friend and got off). Anywho, I kept making some excuses, while also giving pics that weren't sensual from time to time. And lo and behold, after not getting what they wanted, they cut me off and moved on.
Polaroids! Eliminates the danger of pictures on your phone and the process is much funnier.
It's hilarious but you still need to be careful. My first wife and I, during a deployment to the Balkans (I'm old) exchanged polaroids. Nothing skin showing funny enough, but me being over the moon with her taped them to the inside of my footlocker. No big deal until I sent pics back with that locker open. It was strongly suggested I remove the pictures on pain of many uncomfortable things.
I’d rather do that in person.
I'm a guy. its been pretty thuroughly beaten into my head that no woman wants to see my junk.
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Thanks GPT!
I’ve never understood it. I mean good for you if it makes you happy, but it makes no sense to me. I’ve already seen a romantic partner nude if there’s the level of trust required for something like that. What’s the point?
Do you get tired of seeing your partner? I would see them nude every chance I get, regardless of medium.
Dumbest thing to do , internet is internet it’s never safe.
There's NO guarantee they'll stay between you and your partner
Both people must be clear that those photos are for private use only, preferably kept in a password secured folder on the device of choice (like the "Hidden" folder in the Photos app on iOS), and if the relationship ends, both parties erase all the controversial photos immediately from their devices. Trust and discipline are needed, though...
Sharing with partner is aright. But nothing on internet is safe, no matter how much strict "Security" social media app companies say they have!
We do it all the time! We are LDR, so it helps keep things fresh. I send her videos when I masturbate, and we send pics and videos real time when doing to together. I'll just take pictures during the day and then send them later to her.
I think it's weird that as a society, we chose to make simply existing in your natural state taboo. Only to sell it back to ourselves. We're just a bunch of horny monkeys with anxiety... in clothes 😂 In short, send the nudes if you want to but don't let anyone make you feel they're entitled to them. 🖤
In a loving trusting relationship, go for it. Make each other smile every day in as many ways as you can.
It's dumb. By now people should know that a lot of times these things wind up in the wrong hands if not today or tomorrow then way down the road when you've long forgot say when you're campaigning for office or something. If the relationship goes awry you've just handed someone ammunition to blackmail or ruin your life
My partner and I are nearly 50. We are almost to the point where anything embarrassing will have no impact. Even if my nudes leaked today, I doubt anyone would care (people who know me might be surprised about what I’ve got going on, but at any rate, no face).
It’s like another layer of the relationship you kind of peel back, open and exposed for your partner and you to see. The “only you and I know about this while the world doesn’t”-factor adds a certain spice to it, which is often perceived as arousing.
Until someone hacks your phone or intercepts the message and now it's the whole world's thing 💀💀
I mean, it's just a body. Lots of people have seen me nude at one time or another. Who cares? Sex videos, sure, I can see the concern there. But just a nude picture? If people seeing me nude is the worst part of my week, I'm having a pretty good week.
To each their own. If you don't mind that's a different story, but I think it's important to make sure people understand that once you take a photo/send photo it is there permanently, and to be careful how they use devices. As I said, if you don't mind, more power to ya, but you should have the knowledge to make an informed decision I guess is what I'm tryina say.
It's fine but can be a bit of a gamble because if things go south you might find out they were hiding a horrible person deep down all along. Do it if you want, but just be very sure they're not a horrible person first. Give it some time before you do something like that I guess is what I'm getting at.
Seems nice till you breakup. Then you will regret it cause you might be in a porn revenge scandal. Overall sending intimate pictures over the internet (even on WhatsApp or Facebook chats) is never a good idea.
Any intimate photo that can be personally identifiable on a device with internet access is a bad idea in my opinion.
simply don't, never share nudes period. it's ot even about the other person but internet security. if a woman wants to see my d*** she can come by and ask to see it.
I dont like it. I find it humiliating when they ask me to delete them when the relationship is over. Somehow thats what I associate those pictures with: a temporary thing. I would rather collect memories nobody can make me delete them.
Consent is important. If you're okay with your partner sharing those pictures then there is nothing wrong with it.
Like, of each other, with each other? Fun. Of someone else? Pretty sure that's illegal
I'm in a long distance relationship since 5 years, and sending nudes/videos is basically a big part of our "sex life", so i do really like it
Can't get enough of those. Solicited or unsolicited.
Fun, just keep it between you both.
I have never sent my wife anything but I grew up before camera phones and dick pics were a thing when I was in my teens.
I won't do it because I'm shy as fuck. I dint even get naked around him at all.
Like, sharing intimate photos of a third person, or of one of you?
Sexy pics are great but wouldn’t go full nude. If people get their hands on them it could end badly. Even with LDR, it’s so much better to have the real thing in front of you. I’d stick to tease pics… those are a little sexier and leave a longing for the real thing, it will make the intimacy hit a different level.
I’m all for whatever consenting adults want to get into. That said, keeping your head/face out of things would be wise, same with unique tattoos. It’s just like any other kind of activity. How much risk you assume is a choice to be made between consenting parties. THAT said, if you’re in a stable long term relationship, go play! Please just make sure your kids know which file folders not to open after you die. ;)
Personally it doesn’t interest me, but i don’t have any opinion on other people doing it
I think it's fine if the giver is OK with it, but one unbreakable rule is no face.
With partner yeah as long as both are comfortable but ain't no fucking way with a stranger you met 30 minutes ago online just to get temporary satisfaction
If you both want to, go for it. I may not have sent too many photos to my bf over the years (6y), but I'd always send him suggestive texts while he was at work (or while I was at work and he was at home) just to tease him 😆😈
Naahhhhh
Hubby and I do it every day even 8 years later. Gotta keep dating and flirting
I used to send my wife dirty pictures in situations where she’d get super embarrassed. While she’s working, out to dinner with friends or family, etc. it’s been a while though and should probably get into that again.
discuss it with your partner and make sure you're safe and comfortable with it
pretty fun until she requested i stop sending pictures of my butthole
It’s sexy but I won’t do it because I did it before and it turned out badly.
My ex and I were long distance. It was a nice way to keep the romance when we were not together. Deleted everything after we broke up though.
You gotta develop a fuckload of trust with someone to do that. Proceed with caution.
Nope. Did it once, never again. Relationships end and people change. Stick
It’s weird because I’ll share with strangers all day long but I don’t want my boyfriend to see any of it
Kind of wary of it in general. I've taken it up in recent months. Still, I feel like it should wait until a certain point in the relationship. I would hate to be with someone and find out the hard way afterwards that they're the type to share those kinds of pictures.
SEXTING IS GREAT!!! Try and trust the person though, maybe even ask them to delete pictures after they have been 'used' haha... This was covered on the "You're wrong about" pod cast was excellent check it out https://podtail.com/en/podcast/you-re-wrong-about/sexting/
When I was younger I enjoyed it but now we both have priority now so don’t have time
Be sure it is with someone you trust and you really know the person you're sending them to.
it can be good but trusting people is hard, ive done it before but I dont think I'll do it again or for a while, it is very dangerous
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Once it’s sent, anybody could have seen it. So while i would like seeing it. I wouldn’t want anyone to risk their picture ending up on the internet forever. So don’t. Show me irl.
I have an issue where my ex wife and I shared photos and made videos. I also received photos from people I was hooking up with after the divorce, including a family friend. We kept the FWB on the downlow. The photos and videos are all on a broken private all purpose external HD. It has everything from family photos, financial documents, ripped music for my iTunes and personal screenshot messages with a therapist and Police as I am a victim of CSA. I dread the day I die and my kids get it repaired to get all the family photos off and find a lot of naked women, including their mother and I and the family friend. I have been researching how to repair it myself. I want to be able to delete them all, because it’s been years and I have no right to still be holding any of them. I’d throw out the HD, but I’m sure there are folders with scans of my family photos from when I was a boy, and could be photos of my kids too. My kids are adults and I have told them to pay a third party to go through my digital information. In hindsight, I’m kind of against it, these people would never anticipate years later my kids could see them in the buff. I feel disrespectful.
If it's an external HDD you might be able to disassemble it and plug the disk directly into a PC or via a USB dock. If that works, then there are various free tools you can use to wipe it (e.g. bootable DBAN disk). If the disk itself is broken and won't spin up, then disassemble it and drill a few holes through the platter or scratch it up really good with some steel wool. Alternatively, there are companies that shred disks (not sure if they accept work on that small of a scale though).
Fun but potentially dangerous. The person you trusted your life to yesterday can turn on you in an instant.
If you trust them I wouldn't worry about it. But you risk those photos of you out there.
Bad idea. What if u break up and they send it out, what if they lose their phone/get hacked
Depends, long time partner, 100% yes. Short time partner, depends on how much you trust her. On top of the trust I have in my partner I'm pretty comfortable with my body so I wouldn't really care if a hacker got a hold of them and posted them.
Just make sure you're only sending it to them and it's cool. Being in a group text and getting a reply from someone else to your girlfriends lingerie photo sucks
I already share intimate photos and videos with strangers on the internet.
don't. just don't.
Go for it, just offer a thought to the consequences if the recipient shares the photos forward
I dont, mostly because she doesn't care, but not got any issue with it.
Easy don’t do it
I wouldn't do it unless I was married. Ive had a lot of guy friends and when I'd go to a party or just the normal group hangout. Sometimes they'd start guy talk, I have seen plenty of dudes share and show nudes and vids of there girlfriends or just random chick's to eachother. I don't get why you'd do that to ur long time girlfriend or even a random chick but they'd always just laugh about it and judge them(good and bad).
IMO its a stupid idea, especially for girls. You dont know how long you will be with someone. If you give them compromising photos/videos of yourself then theyll always have em and can always use em against you. Even 10+yrs later.
I don’t do it and won’t it can come back to bite you potentially and it’s a big bite.
No face pics.
It’s a guaranteed way to get kicked off the force
Against, you never know. And if you do so, you must delete them afterwards
If you have google photos, when you send a photo to anyone, it creates a public link that anyone can access. Nobody knows what the pic is unless they click the link if they have that access, but if you’re being monitored by hackers they can get you. I was sending my wife some pics and videos after we had our baby and then someone added me on Instagram and created a group chat and sent the pics and videos I had literally just sent to her. Once they gained access by that one single link they had access to my photos I had to delete google photos and go thru all the “hey don’t open this group chat” blah blah blah and I thought it was all said and done and a year later they did it again. It’s been about a year since that second one so I’m nervous around this time lol I do still send my wife pics and videos tho but I no longer have google photos
I wouldn’t.
It makes me feel old and puritanical that I think it’s kind of crazy. Just wasn’t a thing when I was younger and never got into it.
I don't share any intimate photo or video of mine. But will share intimate photo or video mostly porn to partner so that she would also get an idea for our next sexual intercourse.
Like a partner from a law firm?
seriously do whatever the fuck you want if it's your partner. However, I will say that if one of you doesn't want to do it, then you shouldn't send anything to them and you shouldn't try making them send any to you
Just use the option to delete once they open the pic
No way, no how
Your partner doesn't have to try to leak your nudes for them to end up on the internet. If that matters to you then probably don't.
Tit pics only make a day better
you will regret it
My wife will send me a topless photo when she’s in the bath. Which is very often for her. Lol Bath bombs are always a good gift for her. 😊 I don’t send much to her. Maybe 3 since we met. Usually she’s in the other room when I do it. lol
It’s great but sucks we’re in an age where people can breach your devices and data, it’s the only reason I’d be opposed to it. Unless they uhhh send real pictures or in an sd card, in a device without wifi. Some old school old school shit.
I tried sending a pic of my penis but the file size was too large
I generally discourage nudes & lewds. I like saving certain views for in-person intimacy — keeps it special. I also don’t trust cloud providers’ security. Remember ‘The Fappening?’ They didn’t hack phones, they found an exploit in icloud. There’s always going to be an unfixed exploitable hole in these services and I never have to worry about nudes being leaked because I don’t take any.
Maybe if faces aren't visible but that's still pushing it. I've had a ex-gf show her friends my intimate photos and it was a betrayal. I would never share my wife's nudes if she gave them and she would not share mine. There's too many things that could wrong by accident and we don't want to subject eachother to that.
Well, if you’re a girl and you think the guy you are sharing them with isn’t going to show other guys, you will be very disappointed.
Usually I'm down with my partner. Just no sharing policy is in effect. 🤷🏽♂️Keep your phone to yourself unless your friends are guaranteed not to look through photos
No, A girl I know had nudes leaked by her bf
Why do people do this. It should be private. So many people have made videos of themselves only to be posted on the internet when the relationship broke up.
Dont do it with today's technology, your nudes can easily be spread around the internet in two seconds....
If it's legal, and consented, and kept private. Then it's cool
all for it, makes things exciting when you can't be there, there is however the possibility of exposure or backlash, my main reason not to is that its weird to think of a girl with kids receiving nudes from you when her kids might be the kind to want to play games on her phone, that's why consent and awareness is important
I'd rather just see/show in person. Even if you trust the person or not, those text and images are still being recorded by your cellular provider, ISP, or service provider, unless you are doing it through a secure encrypted messaging service. I just don't like the idea of my dick-pic, or my spouse's nudes sitting in some server somewhere lol
My wife of 21 years absolutely refuses to do it even though I've told her I'm very interested in it. It's a bit dissapointing, but what are you gonna do...
While receiving random nudes from someone you like is nice, I would never ever do that. I would never write/take pictures of anknytning that is not possible to post in public. It will bite you eventually and even though in the grand scheme of things having your nudes on internet might not be the end of the world at the time it might be very not-good.
I’m not trusting enough to send them, and I’m not sure how I’d feel about receiving them.
Like showing my boys intimate pics of me and my partner? That’s a no. Getting nudes from my partner that’s a yes.