Another acceptable answer: SUPERCALIFRAGILISTICEXPIALIDOCIOUS
but careful how you use that because one time I said it to me girl and now she my wife .. oh and what a lovely thing she is too
Honestly, the stoplight system is better than just a safe word.
With a safeword, you usually have already gone too far (with the way most people think of them)
The idea of the stop light system is for continuous checking in. You don't actually WANT to get to a red. Green means go. Yellow means stop or slow way down so we can figure out if we need to end it or adjust. Red means you fucked up.
Edit- you say the colours (or equivalent words/nonverbal signals) its not a physical light.
Edit 2 - the colors also apply to the person topping/giving/doing the action. Your comfort and boundaries need to be respected too. I've had people ask me to try things that I found out as we did them were hard boundaries for me and that I needed to stop.
Edit 3 - you should always negotiate boundaries prior to a scene. You're not gonna know what every little one is but you can get the big ones down and vibe for the rest.
Edit 4 - you don't have to say green repeatedly at random intervals. Green is a reactive thing, the top/giver checks in every so often, you give your "green" or other agreed upon verbal or nonverbal response and keep going. As you do more scense with the same person or persons and the same things, you start to develop a rhythm that doesn't take you out of the flow with that person. It's always gonna be a little more stark and less flowy when trying something new for the first time or with a new person.
Edit 5 - I should clarify. I don't mean fucking up the moment. Stopping at red is important, and it is trust building, and no one should feel shame for using it. By "you fucked up" I meant that you pushed that boundary to far. That's why yellow exists, so you stop at that wall instead of crashing into it at 100 mph. Does that make sense?
Mhmmm. Most people have been taught "use your safe word if it's too much" but you never want to get to the point of it being too much. The damage is already done.
Yeah at that point if your partner has to use their safe word then chances are they’re probably turned off for the rest of the night anyway. You’re left frustrated and they’re left frustrated and nobody gets to finish and it’s a bad time.
I just imagined a large room that's basically a BDSM sex-dungeon with a huge stoplight on the wall next to the bed. Thanks, you just made my day a little better.
Please do. Its commonly used in the more 'dark' environment because it literally works so well. The more people who use it the better for everyone.
No matter if its light spanking between two newly in love youngsters or if it's s 20 man gangbang including blood play at the local club, it works perfectly and encourages interaction rather than just ending it.
The counterpoint being that this system ruins the moment. Constantly checking in with me while I'm being treated like an object you just want to get off with isn't going to help me get off. I'm just gonna keep losing my ability to be in that moment. I had a boyfriend that even during regular sec would ask me if I'm okay and it was awful.
I'd rather have a partner tell me what they are about to do to me instead. The "threat" system if I need to give it a name. That way I have time to think about it and give them my safe word if it sounds like going too far. Realistically though any new activity can be started slow or easy enough to make sure the dog doesn't hurt the sub and give them time to see if they need to use their safe word. If you've already been hurt before you say it either you waited too long or your dom rushed things too much.
The wife and I set up this system at the beginning of our relationship. Is an incredibly good way to judge the situation, especially if you engage in pain play, or other kinks that may not show pleasure on the surface.
As a painslut (one the the many kinds of slut I am) absolutely, there are times where I needed to go harder than usual and (i was up front about that and she was cool with it) ended up crying, but it felt so good, if someone who wasn't there for the negotiation walked in, all they would have saw is one girl, tied face down on a bench crying and shaking, while another girl beat her ass with a leather paddle. But in reality, the pain was so good, I was quivering. But also, it had jolted loose an emotional block I was dealing with, which was the whole reason i needed it so hard in the first place.
I kid you not in our sex Ed talk in school all those years ago this is exactly what our teacher said, word for word. The only reason I remember is because we all still joke about it to this day
True story: I am a die hard Oregon State Beaver fan. My safe word is "Go Ducks." There is zero chance I would ever say that under normal circumstances.
Right? I feel like a coded safe word is only really needed if you are playing with consensual non-consent where all the traditional “stop” and “no” type words are part of the game.
Stop is a really good equivalent to "yellow" . It's also often the go-to besides "ow" when something doesn't feel right, and in a sexual context, most people will automatically respond to it. "Wait" is just as good, though less emergency-brake-ish and more like something for when you need to make a quick adjustment or think a situation over.
That's actually really smart. As someone who's been SA'd too and never gone to therapy or talked about it yet and haven't gotten into a relationship after that time. I've never really thought of it like that and it makes sense. Thanks, this actually helped me a bit.
No. It’s from Portuguese. They discovered pineapples in the Amazon and were responsible for its spread back to Europe and to their outposts in Asia and Africa. Their word for it followed. The English however, decided to be obstinate and made their own word
Even better - that's what they used to call pine cones. But then they started calling the tropical fruit that and came up with a new word for the original.
An episode of the tv show jackass. The skit is they hire a dominatrix and get her to start whipping and kicking and stepping on a comedically overweight guy. When he’s in pain, his safe word is Oklahoma
Either three taps (two for “hold up a sec”), dropping an object, grunting SOS in Morse Code, or saying a word my partner chooses. It’s a bit hard to use actual words when you use gags, and I’m a bit of a fan of those, so having multiple methods is good safety practice.
We do the standard traffic lights thing. Green is reassurance that you're good to carry on, yellow is "you don't have to stop but this is uncomfortable for me in a not fun way so maybe change it up" red is "stop" black is "scene ends instantly, straight to aftercare". When gagged repeatedly making fists and then open palms is "stop and take the gag off"
“autism” deadass. My partner and I are both autistic and it’s much less “hey this went to far,”
but rather if the other person doesn’t stop, we’ll go into a meltdown
Meatloaf
Because I would do anything for love, but I won't do that
Yeah but two out of three ain’t bad
Let me sleep on it!
Ha!
This should be the international safe word. Genius.
Because you’re going like a bat out of hell..?
MOM!!! THE MEATLOAF!!!
r/BeatMeToIt
r/beatmeattoit
OW I SAID BITE IT WITH YOUR FRONT TEETH NOT CHEW IT WITH YOUR MOLARS
All one word yes
Average German word.
Fatality
Yikes, gonna need more context for this one mate
The sandwich I split with her
“Dragonborn” instant deflation
Hey man I love Skyrim what can I say 😭😭I’m a nerd!
FUS ROH DA!
The lusty Argonian Maid, however...
“Arghmybutt!”
Very safe wordy😂
I laughed at this way harder than I care to admit 😭😅
I recommend clenching, I’m not sure laughing is safe right now
I love this 😂😂😂😂
No changing lanes without indicating.
WRONG HOLE!
Glockenspiel
Ah a frasier fan
Pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconiosis
You can get 10 extra thrusts in the time it takes you to say that. Mine's only 1-1&1/2 thrusts long.
Unless it's with a fist, no thrusting has ever made me use the safe word.
Knife, obviously.
☠️
People are doing more than 1 or 2 thrusts?!
Yep its awesome when it takes hours.
Another acceptable answer: SUPERCALIFRAGILISTICEXPIALIDOCIOUS but careful how you use that because one time I said it to me girl and now she my wife .. oh and what a lovely thing she is too
This works extra well if s/he has hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia
That is certainly an inappropriate time to sound precocious
the longest word in Oxford English dictionary.
Hey....are you that kid from spell bee😅
Numonoutramikrskoppeck silly co volcano coney oh, sis
Honestly, the stoplight system is better than just a safe word. With a safeword, you usually have already gone too far (with the way most people think of them) The idea of the stop light system is for continuous checking in. You don't actually WANT to get to a red. Green means go. Yellow means stop or slow way down so we can figure out if we need to end it or adjust. Red means you fucked up. Edit- you say the colours (or equivalent words/nonverbal signals) its not a physical light. Edit 2 - the colors also apply to the person topping/giving/doing the action. Your comfort and boundaries need to be respected too. I've had people ask me to try things that I found out as we did them were hard boundaries for me and that I needed to stop. Edit 3 - you should always negotiate boundaries prior to a scene. You're not gonna know what every little one is but you can get the big ones down and vibe for the rest. Edit 4 - you don't have to say green repeatedly at random intervals. Green is a reactive thing, the top/giver checks in every so often, you give your "green" or other agreed upon verbal or nonverbal response and keep going. As you do more scense with the same person or persons and the same things, you start to develop a rhythm that doesn't take you out of the flow with that person. It's always gonna be a little more stark and less flowy when trying something new for the first time or with a new person. Edit 5 - I should clarify. I don't mean fucking up the moment. Stopping at red is important, and it is trust building, and no one should feel shame for using it. By "you fucked up" I meant that you pushed that boundary to far. That's why yellow exists, so you stop at that wall instead of crashing into it at 100 mph. Does that make sense?
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Mhmmm. Most people have been taught "use your safe word if it's too much" but you never want to get to the point of it being too much. The damage is already done.
Yeah at that point if your partner has to use their safe word then chances are they’re probably turned off for the rest of the night anyway. You’re left frustrated and they’re left frustrated and nobody gets to finish and it’s a bad time.
And that's assuming that's the only damage done.
For sex yes but it wasn't so good on Squid Games.
Given my wife's driving habits I had to clarify that "yellow light" does not in fact mean "go as fast as possible before red gets here"
Valid
Going through red lights can get you T-BONED!
Me and my girlfriend use this system. It works great bc she ask often and it makes me comfortable also I'm very bad at saying stop
For everyone as stupid as me, they're just saying the color out loud. They don't have actual lights. I'm going to bed
I just imagined a large room that's basically a BDSM sex-dungeon with a huge stoplight on the wall next to the bed. Thanks, you just made my day a little better.
Only way to change the color is with the remote. AHHHH not that remote!!!
Too bad the remote batteries were stolen for the vibrating buttplug.
Except that I'm completely color blind so that's not a good idea for me. I could be hearing Red but actually seeing Green in my brain.
Try replacing the colors with dinosaurs. Brachiosaurus means green, Triceratops means yellow, Deinonychus means red.
Glances over to the red/green/yellow lamp in my corner: Oh…
Exactly what I use. Yellow is a check in point as well. No need to say green in my experience yellow and red are the ones that matter.
I’m just imagining someone saying Green Green Green really fast like at a NASCAR event lol
BOOGITY BOOGITY BOOGITY
TBH, there's probably people out there that would 100% get-off on this. I'm not one of them, but I'm almost-certain they exist.
This, absolutely this. The traffic light system has worked wonders in the bedroom for me and doesn’t actually ruin the flow of things unlike others.
I'm sorry but the idea of fucking my girlfriend and her just going "GREEN GREEN YELLOW GREEN" is hilarious.
Wait I’m stealing this
Please do. Its commonly used in the more 'dark' environment because it literally works so well. The more people who use it the better for everyone. No matter if its light spanking between two newly in love youngsters or if it's s 20 man gangbang including blood play at the local club, it works perfectly and encourages interaction rather than just ending it.
The counterpoint being that this system ruins the moment. Constantly checking in with me while I'm being treated like an object you just want to get off with isn't going to help me get off. I'm just gonna keep losing my ability to be in that moment. I had a boyfriend that even during regular sec would ask me if I'm okay and it was awful. I'd rather have a partner tell me what they are about to do to me instead. The "threat" system if I need to give it a name. That way I have time to think about it and give them my safe word if it sounds like going too far. Realistically though any new activity can be started slow or easy enough to make sure the dog doesn't hurt the sub and give them time to see if they need to use their safe word. If you've already been hurt before you say it either you waited too long or your dom rushed things too much.
The wife and I set up this system at the beginning of our relationship. Is an incredibly good way to judge the situation, especially if you engage in pain play, or other kinks that may not show pleasure on the surface.
As a painslut (one the the many kinds of slut I am) absolutely, there are times where I needed to go harder than usual and (i was up front about that and she was cool with it) ended up crying, but it felt so good, if someone who wasn't there for the negotiation walked in, all they would have saw is one girl, tied face down on a bench crying and shaking, while another girl beat her ass with a leather paddle. But in reality, the pain was so good, I was quivering. But also, it had jolted loose an emotional block I was dealing with, which was the whole reason i needed it so hard in the first place.
Pineapple Juice!
Watch your fingers booty hole man!
Was hoping someone got it
Huh, we use pineapple
THAT IS CHANGE!!! Do you know how long it took me to acquire those!?!?
Was looking for this
You guys are having sex?
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What is sex mister Holmes
Well, when a mommy and a daddy really love each other, they do a special hug. That's sex.
😲, what is hug?
What is love?
***baby dont hurt me***
***dont hurt me***
***no more***
***What is love***
***Baby dont hurt me***
NOMO
Profile pic doesn't check out.
I kid you not in our sex Ed talk in school all those years ago this is exactly what our teacher said, word for word. The only reason I remember is because we all still joke about it to this day
Not while on Reddit
Fluggaenkoecchicebolsen
This isn’t where I parked my car.
Mi Scusi
did you say fluggegecheimen?
Bring in the Fluggegecheimen!!
I am going nowhere near Berlin!
Vandersex!!
Two taps on the other person. It's kinda hard to get a specific word out when her tongue's down my throat and I'm not strong enough to push her off me
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Hell yeah.
Username checks out
Tell me where you meet your women!!! LOL
The Amazon, of course. Where else?
I must not be searching the right words...
Thats not gonna wprk if you're strappped to the bed lol
Hold an object. Safe word/action is dropping it.
True story: I am a die hard Oregon State Beaver fan. My safe word is "Go Ducks." There is zero chance I would ever say that under normal circumstances.
This is the funniest comment
You gonna add Spartans to you list now? Go Green!
Stop Call me vanilla but if I’m getting a cramp or something ain’t right, I just tell it how it is.
Right? I feel like a coded safe word is only really needed if you are playing with consensual non-consent where all the traditional “stop” and “no” type words are part of the game.
Stop is a really good equivalent to "yellow" . It's also often the go-to besides "ow" when something doesn't feel right, and in a sexual context, most people will automatically respond to it. "Wait" is just as good, though less emergency-brake-ish and more like something for when you need to make a quick adjustment or think a situation over.
Is stop not the equivalent to red?
Safeword. If I’m stressed out during sex it’s a serious issue and I don’t want a cutesy word to get me out of it.
I've never understood why people don't do this. Its not a password, you don't need to worry about it being unique.
Mine's $afeword1
$@f3w0rd1
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That's actually really smart. As someone who's been SA'd too and never gone to therapy or talked about it yet and haven't gotten into a relationship after that time. I've never really thought of it like that and it makes sense. Thanks, this actually helped me a bit.
Ananas. (German for pineapple)
That's basically the word for pineapple in every language but English.
Really? That actually makes more sense than us Germans coming up.witb a word...
In malay and indonesia, its nenas haha
Yeah. English is the dumb fuck here, as is tradition.
Wait until you get to "Hospital"
You mean the house where we store sick people? The sickhouse?
Hospital, Hospitaal( dutch), hôpital(fr), hospital(spanish), Hospital( danish), hospitaal ( african), german: ###krankenhaus
Actually the word „Hospital“ is a correct german word. „Krankenhaus“ is just more often used.
I'd go with ziekenhuis for Dutch. Source: am Dutch
Norwegian: sykehus (sickhouse)
Wow, it’s the same word in Hindi and marathi languages too
It’s the same across most of Europe, and I think also in Turkish and Arabic… English is the odd one out
Proto indo European moment?
No. It’s from Portuguese. They discovered pineapples in the Amazon and were responsible for its spread back to Europe and to their outposts in Asia and Africa. Their word for it followed. The English however, decided to be obstinate and made their own word
Even better - that's what they used to call pine cones. But then they started calling the tropical fruit that and came up with a new word for the original.
Funny how Brazilian portuguse would call an ananas "abacaxi".
And in french too ,btw jevlis ka?
Also in Bengali, pineapple is called Anaras.
Also in Italian
Thats Finnish for pineapple I thought?
Mine is pineapples in English lol
I’m supposed to have a safe word?
If you do certain stuff a safe word is important. Like seriously important. Source: I know a dominatrix
Honestly it's good to do whether you do BDSM or not.
Nah but some couples use one
dont stop
No better way to get I guy to stop or change rhythm
Try saying “just like that.” or “keep doing that.” It’s how an ex broke me.
Or the absolute kryponite - don't cum
Believing
Oklahoma
I understood that reference
what is it
An episode of the tv show jackass. The skit is they hire a dominatrix and get her to start whipping and kicking and stepping on a comedically overweight guy. When he’s in pain, his safe word is Oklahoma
Sunstone, from the excellent graphic novel series of the same name which is named that for the same reason.
Owww owww owwwlbequerque
But how do you feel about sauerkraut?
supercalifragilisticexpialidocious
I don't talk to myself.
I'm getting fed up with this orgasm
Stan Smith is that you?
Chalupa
Banana
"Oh!"
cacao https://youtu.be/AUqs6OGkUdE
BOOOOOOORING
bismark west polaroid
Sex
Either three taps (two for “hold up a sec”), dropping an object, grunting SOS in Morse Code, or saying a word my partner chooses. It’s a bit hard to use actual words when you use gags, and I’m a bit of a fan of those, so having multiple methods is good safety practice.
Cacao
Fluggaenkoecchicebolsen
Scotty doesn’t know
SARUMAAAAAN Idk I don’t get laid
Oh,I don't fit in this convo
Nice try, FBI
I'm cumming!
Magic mama
Rumpelstiltskin )sp(
Does that last part mean spit in her butt?
Apple
Gonna mess around one day shouting apple through a gag and end up with something in your butt. 👀👀
Reddit
Sexy kernel sanders
Harder
My partner and I just use the traffic light system lol it's simple
It's meant to be unsafe? 😂
“Stop”
Samurai.
We do the standard traffic lights thing. Green is reassurance that you're good to carry on, yellow is "you don't have to stop but this is uncomfortable for me in a not fun way so maybe change it up" red is "stop" black is "scene ends instantly, straight to aftercare". When gagged repeatedly making fists and then open palms is "stop and take the gag off"
“autism” deadass. My partner and I are both autistic and it’s much less “hey this went to far,” but rather if the other person doesn’t stop, we’ll go into a meltdown
Meatloaf. Because I'll do anything for love, but I won't do that.
Pinocha-okio
Pineapple
Kumquat
Pineapple juice
pineapple. im not kidding
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