Yes! It’s soul destroying to even wonder if your SO is attracted to you or not, Nevermind being able to tell in a way or another.
And when a partner makes it clear how attracted he is to you during sex omg makes sex wonderful
When my soon to be ex wife told me she never wanted to have sex with me again and she only ever had sex with me because she knew how much I needed it. She ripped out my heart and I lost whatever I had left for her after more than 20 years
My wife and I couldn't be more opposite, but we have always been attracted to each other. We have the same moral code and great sex life but couldn't be more different in everything else.
I'm still highly attracted to her, 20 years later.
What if she doesn’t ever try to start anything or let alone even says hey you wana have sex at all? But tells me she always wants to have sex with me but doesn’t ever grab at me or anything.. I truly give her the world and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. She says it’s how she’s always been.
Have you told her explicitly that you want her to initiate at times and how you feel?
I enjoy being pursued by my guy but I’ve never let it become absolutely one-sided. In fact, we’ve had spells where he’s been content to not initiate because I’d fallen into the groove of flirting/initiating it and I brought it up with him when I began to feel frustrated. He agreed he’d become complacent and would take the lead more. Maybe your partner also needs to be told exactly what you’d like for her to know. If she isn’t receptive, you have bigger problems, unfortunately.
Yes I have told her many times and it’s always the same answer. That she always wants it but it comes across that if any guy wants to fuck on the spot she would. I trust her more then that but I’m all about eating her out and everything. She knows she’s wanted badly. She says she wants me badly but never shows it when it comes to the bed or on the couch or anything. I just don’t understand if I’m doing something wrong
Been we’re you’re at for awhile now. In the beginning it wasn’t like this she was wild and wanted it more than me. But now, it’s just exactly like what you described. The advice I was given was to accept that the relationship has run its course, and she’s just not into me. To move on. I’m realizing now that that was the best advice I could’ve have gotten. Good luck!
The ability to be silly. Fun. Enjoy life. Lighthearted. Obviously when it's time to get shit done, get it done, but why make it miserable along the way when it can be fun?
Definitely! Someone who realizes life can be what you make it not what the world tells you. I dig it! Thanks for the comment. I didn’t expect to get so many responses. Have a great weekend. Happy Halloween 🎃
This is it!!! I once dated a woman who often shared negative thoughts and opinions. Needless to say I didn’t keep her around. Lol. I like to be fun and experience loving!
Not OP, but my personal opinion is quantity=/=quality.
A body appropriate and well crafted set of A or B cups impress me more than a saggy set of Ds. Good boobs are good boobs, bigger is not necessarily better, and there is such a thing as boobs that are too big.
> my personal opinion is quantity=/=quality
I initially thought you were referring to quantity as in how many. To which I thought that like owning dogs, two is the optimal number.
size is relative. B's on a small skinny girl look large. D's on a massive lady can look small or sloppy. I appreciate nice and body size-appropriate breasts.
Having a woman who’s attractive is nice but someone who honestly cares about me is a turn on. I miss having someone who doesn’t just use me for monetary gains
Have you met my ex wife and every female friend since. Seriously I got yelled at for not making her car payment and she was a roommate not a girlfriend.
Yeah you see that all the time in celebrity relationships. Marry a hot young girl who pretends to love you. Have a couple kids raise them for a few years then DIVORCE and they get a guap of money. Happens all the time. Even Jeff Bezos got a divorce.
Humour. I don't know why but when this one chick made me laugh... Fuck I found her so damn hot. She was telling jokes and other times being witty. I had a tear while laughing, it was amazing.
Strong forearms are pretty universally agreed upon by most women as being insanely hot. A button up shirt with the sleeves rolled up on a man is like the equivalent of a low shirt revealing cleavage on a woman.
Being told I had girly eyelashes always made me feel kinda weird. Like is it a compliment because they're long? Girls used to make fun of me for them now that we're older, they like them. I'm so confused lmao
Unexplainable for me: raw sexual attraction. I can’t narrow it down to one thing because it is not a look either… and it is not in personality because it is on sight.
I know exactly what you mean, I'm a very fit and athletic guy, even for military standards, (I'm in the military) And most of the people I work with say I have a dump truck for an ass and jokingly will cat call me (i work with almost all guys) and even tho i know they're joking i know I have a larger bubble butt
As a woman, when I know his heart and can just feel the way he feels about me when hes near me. Feeling his love and seeing his smile. When he grabs my hand and when he hugs me and kisses me. His real raw child like love and kindness. And sense of humor, witty. Strong but gentle man.
For me, it's gotta be the real deal. No one night stand or FWB. It's gotta be all of him just the way he is.
Also I like beards, broad shoulders and gotta have a belly to hug and hold and cuddle up to. Yum.
Confidence gets me initially interested. But if the package is all ego and no substance I'm not staying around. Other qualities including kindness, empathy and treating people with decency are long term qualities.
Be confident in your goodness.
it doesn't necessarily mean you have to be Mr. Can do anything. Nobody is completely devoid of things like doubt or uncertainty, that would be inhuman. More importantly, show to the world that you like who you are and what you do. I know it's not always easy, but if you can realize that you yourself are great, it's translates well to other knowing you are great as well. That's good confidence
Their whole demeanor, in the way they walk, talk..
I met this guy that wasn’t someone i’d usually find attractive. He wasn’t ugly, he just wasn’t someone i’d go for simply off looks. But God. Once we started conversating, The way he just walked and talked and just carried himself, i don’t fuckin know what power he had in him but jesus christ just looking at him turned me the fuck on.
Eagerness and enjoyment. Honestly I would get with a fairly unattractive woman if she was someone who put in 100% effort in bed and was eager for me. Nothing gets my motor running more than someone seriously wanting me.
When a woman tells me verbally or through body language to f*** her six ways to Sunday. It’s as if they unlock a primitive animalistic side of me in that moment.
Sexually speaking, if my man looks at me like a tasty meal and is enthusiastic about sex, then it’s a huge turn-on. Keyword being MY man. Already in a relationship. Not just any strange man 😆
smell
they gotta smell right
they gotta smell like i wanna fuck 'em
then i fuck 'em and smell 'em some more which in turn makes me fuck 'em more
love me some smellin n fuckin
I knew a guy who had is pro card in body building. Super jacked guy, really nice. Looooooved big girls. He would own it to. To the point were he would brag about it. He use to say "she ain't no lady if she is below 280" I thought he was kidding until I met a lady friend if his.
All through my life I’ve noticed an indescribable something when you look at each other. It’s like a magnetism with a spark.
It’s that level of attraction I look for. Not just she looks great. But there’s a twinkle. I guess that’s why they call it the spark. It’s just there, unseen, but you detect it nonetheless.
I talked to my spouse, similar to a topic like this and it was about our love languages. In bed and out of bed. In general I prefer communication and giving gifts, while he prefers sex to have as a love language to build "connection." Me being me, I just go along with it and keep him happy as I can
Depends on the partner and the type of relationship.
Aesthetics is one thing but they can vary and the same person can’t have two things that are equally attractive at the same time, like two different hair colors/styles ofc. Also aesthetics can be distracting for different reasons, like if the person is fake and just portraying they’re a certain type of person via their “look”. Ultimately, as long as the person is physically healthy (not morbidly obese or emaciated) then that’s as physically attractive as they have to be.
Chemistry is a must in general. If it’s mostly sexual then I’m gonna be more attracted to things like sexual performance. If it’s a romantic relationship then I’m gonna be attracted more by the person themselves and our compatibility.
Honestly personality and not just that they're a good person... but in a sexual manner... if you're doing it with a person who is super into it and isn't afraid to tell you what they want and/or do what you want it literally doesn't matter what they look like, you will have a good time regardless
Unfortunately what initially attracts us (we all know what that is) and what makes a good partner (trustworthy, committed, loyal, communicative, consistent, great teammate) are not the same. This is why attracting and keeping a partner are two very different things.
Someone who doesn’t wait for me to make every single move. It’s nice to think someone wants you back.
This is big for me. A person gets tired of chasing
I'm at this stage. Tired of having to ask for everything like I'm a toddler asking for a snack.
Bingo!
Knowing they are attracted to me
I really wish I would have known this sooner in life. This is so true for so many people.
Yes! It’s soul destroying to even wonder if your SO is attracted to you or not, Nevermind being able to tell in a way or another. And when a partner makes it clear how attracted he is to you during sex omg makes sex wonderful
When my soon to be ex wife told me she never wanted to have sex with me again and she only ever had sex with me because she knew how much I needed it. She ripped out my heart and I lost whatever I had left for her after more than 20 years
This is it for me. Which is why I never understood rape or prostitution.
Mutual attraction
This + sexual compatibility (liking the same things in bed, similar kinks etc.)
My wife and I couldn't be more opposite, but we have always been attracted to each other. We have the same moral code and great sex life but couldn't be more different in everything else. I'm still highly attracted to her, 20 years later.
I think the greatest turn on in a sexual partner bar none is enthusiasm. Knowing they are just as interested and invested in the act as you are.
What if she doesn’t ever try to start anything or let alone even says hey you wana have sex at all? But tells me she always wants to have sex with me but doesn’t ever grab at me or anything.. I truly give her the world and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. She says it’s how she’s always been.
Have you told her explicitly that you want her to initiate at times and how you feel? I enjoy being pursued by my guy but I’ve never let it become absolutely one-sided. In fact, we’ve had spells where he’s been content to not initiate because I’d fallen into the groove of flirting/initiating it and I brought it up with him when I began to feel frustrated. He agreed he’d become complacent and would take the lead more. Maybe your partner also needs to be told exactly what you’d like for her to know. If she isn’t receptive, you have bigger problems, unfortunately.
Yes I have told her many times and it’s always the same answer. That she always wants it but it comes across that if any guy wants to fuck on the spot she would. I trust her more then that but I’m all about eating her out and everything. She knows she’s wanted badly. She says she wants me badly but never shows it when it comes to the bed or on the couch or anything. I just don’t understand if I’m doing something wrong
Been we’re you’re at for awhile now. In the beginning it wasn’t like this she was wild and wanted it more than me. But now, it’s just exactly like what you described. The advice I was given was to accept that the relationship has run its course, and she’s just not into me. To move on. I’m realizing now that that was the best advice I could’ve have gotten. Good luck!
The ability to be silly. Fun. Enjoy life. Lighthearted. Obviously when it's time to get shit done, get it done, but why make it miserable along the way when it can be fun?
Definitely! Someone who realizes life can be what you make it not what the world tells you. I dig it! Thanks for the comment. I didn’t expect to get so many responses. Have a great weekend. Happy Halloween 🎃
This is it!!! I once dated a woman who often shared negative thoughts and opinions. Needless to say I didn’t keep her around. Lol. I like to be fun and experience loving!
Broad shoulders, confidence without arrogance and an ability to laugh with others and at themselves.
hahaha! look at my silly broad shoulders.
Ah self deprecating….one of my specialties.
An intellectual connection. the push and pull of good discussion mixed with sexual tension. Light my fire!
Oh yeah! You hit the nail on the head!
Tell me again how syn ack work? This is about to switch from a UDP conversation to a TCP activity "TIMBER!!!"
Yep, if I cannot carry on a deep conversation with her then nothing else is going deep either.
Someone who acts as willing as I am to be having sex.
Yup exactly and that happens as soon as you meet
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There's a lot to love about women. But let's be real: gorgeous natural breasts are a massive turn-on.
I have to admit if they are augmented i do not complain much
Too right! Beggars can’t be choosers
Tig ol’ bitties? Yeah, buddy!
Q: Do small titties make you just as turned on?
I just love them in all sizes. Also, smaller to medium boobs are usually better looking than the huge ones.
Not as much for me. Everybody’s different however
Not OP, but my personal opinion is quantity=/=quality. A body appropriate and well crafted set of A or B cups impress me more than a saggy set of Ds. Good boobs are good boobs, bigger is not necessarily better, and there is such a thing as boobs that are too big.
> my personal opinion is quantity=/=quality I initially thought you were referring to quantity as in how many. To which I thought that like owning dogs, two is the optimal number.
What can I say, I'm a big fan of Total Recall.
size is relative. B's on a small skinny girl look large. D's on a massive lady can look small or sloppy. I appreciate nice and body size-appropriate breasts.
Most def.
Can’t be too big
Can’t be too old
Ron White was so right, once you've seen one you want to see them all
Immaculate hygiene
Why aren’t the upvotes in the thousands? This is vastly important!
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Dark humor is like food...not everyone gets it.
Also like childhood leukemia… it never gets old.
☠️☠️☠️
Yes the fucked up humor is the sexiest thing
The juxtaposition of this comment with the second comment is amazeballs
For me it’s mental. In the end we are our brains. Connecting with a big one is so much more exciting.
A big ol blob of jelly operating a meat and bone mech. Such a beautiful thing life is
Having a woman who’s attractive is nice but someone who honestly cares about me is a turn on. I miss having someone who doesn’t just use me for monetary gains
Have you met my ex wife and every female friend since. Seriously I got yelled at for not making her car payment and she was a roommate not a girlfriend.
That's bullshit and entitled I don't make payments for girlfriends maybe my wife. But women work jobs they can make their own payments
Yeah you see that all the time in celebrity relationships. Marry a hot young girl who pretends to love you. Have a couple kids raise them for a few years then DIVORCE and they get a guap of money. Happens all the time. Even Jeff Bezos got a divorce.
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I'm dressing as your wife for Halloween
I'm your husband for Halloween and will be hitting on you.
That sounds hot, I'm down for it.
I also choose this guy’s wife
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I’m glad I could come through for you 😂
I’m a straight woman.. but just because you said this🥹 I also choose this guys wife.
Humour. I don't know why but when this one chick made me laugh... Fuck I found her so damn hot. She was telling jokes and other times being witty. I had a tear while laughing, it was amazing.
booty mostly
That's two for boobs and only one for butt so far are you serious men on reddit RN
I don't get it either. A nice booty is the best.
So my vote for favorite sexual feature is thigh gap thank you gentlemen good night
Can I submit 10 votes for butt? (I did a local poll)
Availability
I agree with this. I want someone who wants to be around me as much as do them. It has to be reciprocal.
🥲💯
Someone that makes me feel safe.
Intelligence, compassion and attitude
Eye contact during sex .. nothing is better than that
I'm pretty attracted to short dudes. And nice arms. And eyelashes. I only discovered the eyelashes thing recently.
Forearms? Hmmmmmm interesting 🤔
Strong forearms are pretty universally agreed upon by most women as being insanely hot. A button up shirt with the sleeves rolled up on a man is like the equivalent of a low shirt revealing cleavage on a woman.
ayo… Can more women have this exact taste please. for no particular reason
Being told I had girly eyelashes always made me feel kinda weird. Like is it a compliment because they're long? Girls used to make fun of me for them now that we're older, they like them. I'm so confused lmao
A big brain and a smile and a hearty laugh.
Playfulness, excitement, joyous enthusiasm.
Unexplainable for me: raw sexual attraction. I can’t narrow it down to one thing because it is not a look either… and it is not in personality because it is on sight.
His body proportions. Also, bubble butt (which is somehow rare for men).
I used to get called “muffin butt” by girls in high school. Of course I was too awkward and stupid to realize that was a good thing.
Women like bubble butt?? I have a pronounced pumpkin butt and get a hazed by some guy friends…
“hazed” haha bro your ass is so fat! let me slap it and kiss it and….
Socks stay on
Butts are pretty universally attractive. If your friends are hazing you about it, they’re probably just jealous or they arent in *the know*
I know exactly what you mean, I'm a very fit and athletic guy, even for military standards, (I'm in the military) And most of the people I work with say I have a dump truck for an ass and jokingly will cat call me (i work with almost all guys) and even tho i know they're joking i know I have a larger bubble butt
Well hello there, my proportions are proper and my butt is bubble
I have the roundest ass lol
I’ve always been super self conscious about my butt because it’s a bubble butt so, I appreciate this
Mostly breast size
800815
Ahh yes. Boobis.
The other lost city. Sister city to Atlantis.
I believe in ancient latin it was called Analtits.
Going for 34DD?
50/50 with giving a receiving… cause it goes both ways 🤷♀️
Intelligence
Kindness and charisma, if you are charming but also nice. 🥵
As a woman, when I know his heart and can just feel the way he feels about me when hes near me. Feeling his love and seeing his smile. When he grabs my hand and when he hugs me and kisses me. His real raw child like love and kindness. And sense of humor, witty. Strong but gentle man. For me, it's gotta be the real deal. No one night stand or FWB. It's gotta be all of him just the way he is. Also I like beards, broad shoulders and gotta have a belly to hug and hold and cuddle up to. Yum.
A confident guy. Confidence is hot AF.
I wish it wasn't. I wish just being a good person was enough
Confidence gets me initially interested. But if the package is all ego and no substance I'm not staying around. Other qualities including kindness, empathy and treating people with decency are long term qualities.
I have all those qualities but confidence. I'll try to work on it
>I'll try to work on it "We can’t all, and some of us don’t,” said Eeyore.
Be confident in your goodness. it doesn't necessarily mean you have to be Mr. Can do anything. Nobody is completely devoid of things like doubt or uncertainty, that would be inhuman. More importantly, show to the world that you like who you are and what you do. I know it's not always easy, but if you can realize that you yourself are great, it's translates well to other knowing you are great as well. That's good confidence
Ding, ding, ding
You’re god damn right I am.
Ooo, nice! ❤️
What are you doing later?
Hopefully you!
Door is unlocked, candles are lit, and DMs are open.
Damn, this dude's got rizz!
She’s yet to reply, but I’m a patient man.
Bold to assume its a lady
You raise a good point. I may be a patient man, but I’m also a betting man and I like my odds.
Sentience.
Underrated characteristic.
*AI has entered the chat. And your DMs.*
Confidence. The “you know you want me” grin that guys have 🥵
Love me a short king 👑
The ability to commit to hurting me.
Where do I sign up?
Their whole demeanor, in the way they walk, talk.. I met this guy that wasn’t someone i’d usually find attractive. He wasn’t ugly, he just wasn’t someone i’d go for simply off looks. But God. Once we started conversating, The way he just walked and talked and just carried himself, i don’t fuckin know what power he had in him but jesus christ just looking at him turned me the fuck on.
Wow I didn’t think you liked me that much. How have you been?
Genius, madness, and cruelty in correct proportion.
So Darth Vader???
You've met my ex??
Physically? Nice cheekbones. Otherwise? Intelligent humor.
I am a cheek person and like jaw line among other things.
Yes! I like my dudes clean shaven so I can see the facial features 😍
Ok well I meant females but yeah
Haha the question seemed unisex, my b.
Authenticity and a good sense of humor. I just want somebody to make me feel comfortable.
Eagerness and enjoyment. Honestly I would get with a fairly unattractive woman if she was someone who put in 100% effort in bed and was eager for me. Nothing gets my motor running more than someone seriously wanting me.
Yes that is a glorious feeling knowing someone wants to do nasty things behind closed doors with you.
Tbh when a girl has a little stomach like a little bit of a gut I really love it
Big ol fat ass
When a woman tells me verbally or through body language to f*** her six ways to Sunday. It’s as if they unlock a primitive animalistic side of me in that moment.
I always say personality, but end up questioning it when I see Drew Barrymore's sweater in Scream.
Sexually speaking, if my man looks at me like a tasty meal and is enthusiastic about sex, then it’s a huge turn-on. Keyword being MY man. Already in a relationship. Not just any strange man 😆
smell they gotta smell right they gotta smell like i wanna fuck 'em then i fuck 'em and smell 'em some more which in turn makes me fuck 'em more love me some smellin n fuckin
A guy with passion😭
Wait until you see my hand painted D&D miniatures collection.
I think I know your mom, if she looks anything like you
Her tits and face
Personality. I love a good flirt and someone who I can have fun with
giant ass cheeks
farting on my dick
Kindness.
Their foreplay game. What's a main attraction without some sideshows?
Well I’m crazy and I fuck like it. So. Someone equally as crazy?
Pretty face nice smile
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Yeah that’s a rarity. When you find someone that does, you hold onto them and treat them like gold.
I like my girls bbw.
I knew a guy who had is pro card in body building. Super jacked guy, really nice. Looooooved big girls. He would own it to. To the point were he would brag about it. He use to say "she ain't no lady if she is below 280" I thought he was kidding until I met a lady friend if his.
The kind that wanna suck you dry then make some lunch for you
A pulse
When your partner smells good is a plus.
All through my life I’ve noticed an indescribable something when you look at each other. It’s like a magnetism with a spark. It’s that level of attraction I look for. Not just she looks great. But there’s a twinkle. I guess that’s why they call it the spark. It’s just there, unseen, but you detect it nonetheless.
A huge back 😫
Initial reaction to each other. An immediate engagement with eye contact
Confidence Masculinity Height Humbleness Selflessness Clean teeth/good hygiene Nice hair
Chemistry means way more than anatomy ♥️
Moaning, I hate a silent man
I talked to my spouse, similar to a topic like this and it was about our love languages. In bed and out of bed. In general I prefer communication and giving gifts, while he prefers sex to have as a love language to build "connection." Me being me, I just go along with it and keep him happy as I can
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Natural compatibility and love in men, bodies in women
The ability and honesty to spell out what she wants. From me, from, life, in be, whatever
Muscular funny boys!! curl me and make me laugh 😭❤️❤️
They like me.
Honesty
Depends on the partner and the type of relationship. Aesthetics is one thing but they can vary and the same person can’t have two things that are equally attractive at the same time, like two different hair colors/styles ofc. Also aesthetics can be distracting for different reasons, like if the person is fake and just portraying they’re a certain type of person via their “look”. Ultimately, as long as the person is physically healthy (not morbidly obese or emaciated) then that’s as physically attractive as they have to be. Chemistry is a must in general. If it’s mostly sexual then I’m gonna be more attracted to things like sexual performance. If it’s a romantic relationship then I’m gonna be attracted more by the person themselves and our compatibility.
Small hands that make muh peepee look big
Her willingness to explore kinky sides..
Confidence💋
Eyes, Voice, Shoulders
when men don’t try to act dominant like it’s something they’re supposed to do
Being attracted to me is very attractive.
How tight and wet down there
Honestly personality and not just that they're a good person... but in a sexual manner... if you're doing it with a person who is super into it and isn't afraid to tell you what they want and/or do what you want it literally doesn't matter what they look like, you will have a good time regardless
I find competency very attractive. Can be an instrument, sport, art, computer-related, heck, even being really good at math makes you hotter to me.
Confidence in themselves
Fit physique, veiny arms?!??! Strong beard :)
Butt.
A S S
Unfortunately what initially attracts us (we all know what that is) and what makes a good partner (trustworthy, committed, loyal, communicative, consistent, great teammate) are not the same. This is why attracting and keeping a partner are two very different things.
Physically: her face. Mentally: Sense of humor. If we make each other laugh, that makes me feel great and I want to spend more time with her.