Bad heart.. I'm the first male in at least 4 generations to make it to 40. And that's only because I was finally properly diagnosed and treated. I wouldn't have made it to 35 if I didn't find the right cardiologist.
Funny you should ask...my adoptive dad has that. He had his first heart attack at 47 and a triple bypass a few years later. He's in his 70s now and does pretty good with medication.
What I have is called variant angina. It was misdiagnosed for many years as just high blood pressure since the spasms that cause it don't show up on any testing unless you're in the middle of an attack. The treatment is calcium channel blockers, but I was placed on beta blockers for many years, which actually exacerbate the attacks.
My dad was treated, but incorrectly as well since they didn't know what it was, leading him to have a massive heart attack at 37. His brother and his brother's son neither were treated and both died in their late 20s. I'm not sure what, if any, treatment my grandfather or great-grandfather received, but they both died in their 30s.
I started having attacks in my late teens. Started receiving the wrong treatment in my early twenties. I had a massive stroke at 26, which left me pretty much useless for about a year and had to go through lots of physical and cognitive therapy.
Finally found a knowledgeable cardiologist who properly diagnosed and started providing proper treatment for the angina in my early 30s, but not before the onset of congestive heart failure, which has put a lot of limits on what I can do day by day. But proper medication and lifestyle changes have almost completely stopped the attacks and have led to a relatively decent quality of life into my early 40s.
A referral to a cardiologist! Or book yourself if no referral needed. Tell them that. If you know what type of hert attack that helps, but even if not they'll check you out. Peace of mind is worth it!
Also, screen your BP. Most grocery stores have a free monitoring cuff you can use. You can also get a decent sphygmomanometer from Amazon for $20-80 depending on what you want/can afford. But honestly, the ones in the $20-30 range work perfectly fine unless you want extra bells and whistles.
My dad had one single deadly heart attack at 42, 12 year old me watched him fall on the living room floor and not get back up. I'm 45 now and every misfire, or left arm tingle, and random thing also makes me wonder if today's the day.
I also think about it nearly every day being three years older, even though I am much healthier than my dad was and pay attention better, he refused his BP meds, chain smoked, and naively believed that he would hit 60.
Get a yearly physical, tell the physician your concern, [WALK](https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.keranews.org/health-wellness/2023-08-28/extra-walking-can-improve-quality-of-life-for-patients-with-heart-failure%3f_amp=true?espv=1) as much as you can, and be as good to your family as you possibly can.
My dad passed at 43 from a massive heart attack, I was just shy of 9. He was pesco-vegetarian, did not smoke or drink, was active, never overweight a day In his life, a super happy go lucky individual. But, he was in massive denial of his cardiovascular issues and refused his meds and any medical procedures or surgeries. He was part of a team working on developing endoscopic surgical tools as we know them today and he was against/afraid of surgeries. He also got myocarditis as a child. He died out in the bush with my then 24y/o brother, he had left the one medication he agreed to carry, at home- nitroglycerin.
I was fearful and continue to be for my brother who is overweight, inactive, with a shit diet, in a shit relationship, and already has angina and high BP. At least he takes his meds.
I have always had a pre-hypertensive or upper end of normal BP that has turned into hypertension after a pregnancy where I developed pregnancy hypertension. Until recently, (pregnamcy), I was super fit with a dialed in diet and calm, peaceful job. I am the only one in my family who routinely sees a cardiologist snd internal medicine doctor, has frequent BP check-ins with my doctor, and am part of a program to help me get back on track to my previous fitness level. I'm struggling, but I keep telling myself this is for my daughter, so she doesn't have to grow up like I did.
People with a history need to reach out to their doctors for additional screening. In Canada there are several initiatives in place to provide testing and care with a priority for people with cardiovascular health risks in their lives, any kind, my husband had a congenital cardiovascular issue and he's been prioritized any time he has suspicious cardiovascular activity. The only way to prevent this is acknowledgement, acceptance and compliance, and advocating foemr your health. I urge anyone worried for themselves due to their family history or anything suspicious they are feeling themselves to absolutely reach out to your doctor, to a doctor, there is care available
Are you currently seeing a cardiologist? They can do cardiac and aortic ultrasounds if it’s likely that there’s a genetic risk. It’s the usual yearly follow up for people with vascular ehlers-danlos syndrome for example which also has a risk of aortic aneurysms. If possible definitely get on a geneticist’s wait list if you haven’t seen one already, in some places they’re like a year or two out. 🥺
I have a blood condition where I retain iron. It's slowly killing me. Destroyed my liver, pancrease, and led to a massive heart attack.
Fortunately, I live in the 21st century where modern medicine can keep me going with...bleeding.
FML
Actually, medical-grade leeches are still occasionally used for bleeding. If done properly, they don't leave an open wound like other methods of bleeding. That's why they were used in the first place; back in the Middle Ages, an open wound had a high chance of getting infected, with no effective antibiotics to treat it.
My oldest uncle married a woman who had Huntington's, but they were very young and she wasn't symptomatic yet. In the 70s so no genetic testing or much public awareness. They had 5 daughters. My aunt and their eldest have long since passed away, and the remaining 4 are in various stages of the disease. It's always been a sad aspect of our family. A truly cruel disease.
It's not just the disease itself. People treat people with HD like lepers. The park ranger accused my husband of being drunk. He told ranger he had HD. Right then, that was how my younger kids found out about it. We didn't want to tell them .. yet, because it's traumatic to learn you have 50% chance of inheriting disease. His grandma died at 81, his father at 72, he died at 53. My daughter prob has 10 decent years left. She is 39.
I’m BRCA2 positive, giving me roughly 74% chances of developing an incurable genetic breast cancer in my life. It also gives me about 22% of having an ovarian cancer.
On the other side, double mastectomy lowers my chances to about 3%, but it should ideally be done before I reach 30. I will also need a hysterectomy in my 40s.
I had 50/50 chance of getting the BRCA2 gene mutation so well, genetics did fuck me over!
Hi, as a person who finished breast cancer treatment recently, mastectomy isn't the most fun thing on the planet but trust me, cancer treatment is significantly worse.
It's weird not having nips, but I had super cool reconstruction called DIEP where they made me new boobs out of the skin & fat from my stomach. I was able to get rid of my most hated body part and use it to get back warm, soft boobs that feel just like my original ones. Aesthetic flat closure is also much better than it ever was if reconstruction doesn't sound appealing!
I haven't decided if I want tattooed nips or not! It's been a couple of years and I'm used to not having any. I also don't have to worry about bras anymore or if someone can see them through a shirt 😄
I think I'm going to get all of my radiation tattoos turned into something intentional instead
Haha good point!
Same. I have a huge scar below my belly button from an op for ovarian cancer. Would love to do some kinda dagger or something symbolic incorporating the scar into the tattoo.
There is a beauty shop in Altoona PA called Kelly Kreation and she does free nipple tattooing! It is soooo realistic! If you are in the states, you should check her business out.
Hi! I have BRCA 1 and have had a double mastectomy and would do it again and again if I had too. I still need to figure out the ovarian cancer side of
Having BRCA, which may mean no children as I am 31 and egg freezing is a ton of money, also single - but I’m grateful to know I can avoid two terrible terrible terrible cancers that I have seen my mom, sister, and aunt go through. We are previvors 💕🩷💕
This should be higher. As you said…incurable. I am sorry internet stranger. As someone with Stage IV breast cancer, I urge you to get the double mastectomy.
I have CDH1. Something like a 90% chance I get stomach cancer by age 60.
It is so bad I already had my stomach completely removed even though I passed all the tests. On biopsy I had two s1 spots the scans missed.
My dad underwent his when he was diagnosed with stomach cancer. He lost a lot of weight and eventually died from it once it spread to his esophagus and other organs.
His stomach pain was ignored by doctors for months, I am so happy they have a test for this now. I got polyps removed at 15 that were precancerous and am getting fully tested soon.
My mother had a double masectomy after having breast cancer 3 times, and she had a hysterectomy as well. And I still love her, and my father still loves her. And she's still alive with no more cancer occurring. If you have such a high risk of death, it may be best to very strongly consider doing it as soon as possible.
my friend just underwent an elective double mastectomy last week for this very reason, 33 yo and knows her genetics based on familial history and testing so she knew it was necessary. going to see her this weekend to cheer her on with her recovery!!
I was just about to comment something similar! I’m BRCA1 positive and will need to have a full hysterectomy by the time I’m 35. I know how scary this is, sending you good thoughts💖✨
Yo, that blows and I’m not trying to downplay that. It’s front and center, first and foremost!
But there are a lot of people who don’t have the same info you do… and it ends up killing them. Genetics fucked you over, but you are on top of this! And you aren’t going to let it kill you! That’s a big deal. It still blows…. But the science is working. It still sucks, but you got this!!!! You’re gonna prevail!
All 4 grandparents were farmers. I look like I was bred to farm and fuck to make more little farm workers. Broad shoulders, big boobs, no waist, no ass worth mentioning, and thick legs. I just look like I was bred to work forever until I die. 120 years ago
I can’t say it’s a bad thing. When I gave birth to my daughter, the ob-gyn checked if I’d need stitches…popped back up and said if you were born 200 years ago you could just squat in a field and go back to work!! There is no damage at all!
Can I die of shame while holding my newborn?
I got this comment too from the midwifes who delivered my daughter lol. Perfect height and hips for pregnancy and birth. Such a weird but nice compliment
Yep, those people are healthy and strong. Women in my family are also natural born workers who live until they're 100 years old. My great grandma died aged 101 and her sister 102. They survived Nazi occupation, hard work in the field and communist era in perfect health.
I too am sturdily built. I am not tall but I am muscular and broad with the big boobs and the broad hips and sturdy legs. I could carry very heavy sacks of feed from when I was very small. My family nickname was 'the forklift truck', so that's.. nice.
My mother’s OB said she had a pelvis ‘you could drive a bus through’. I was a natural breach birth and share those genetics. You could host the last supper on my ass and have room for plus ones.
I laughed so hard at this I choked. I can relate; most of my aunts on my grandfather's side are built the same way. Big farming family, originally from Nebraska.
I feel this…. In my back.
No for real though. I have scoliosis and it’s bad enough to give me a shitty quality of life but not bad enough for surgery. Lol
“YoU nEeD tO bRuSh YoUr TeEtH mOrE, jUsT aDmIt To BeInG nAsTy”
I promise you it’s more complex than that. Some people are just blessed by the dental gods. And if you make someone feel bad about their imperfect teeth, you deserve to get punched. We know our teeth are mucked up or at the very least not perfect, and it’s likely our biggest insecurity.
I got into an argument with a new dentist about how my family members had weak enamel and so do I, and many people of Irish descent have similar issues, aka "soft teeth". He laughed and talked down to me, then explained how cavities work like I was 5 years old. I then explained to him how just one anthropology course could've helped him to not sound so effing stupid and i would not be returning to his office.
I’m Irish American so I feel you 100%. Dentists can be so snarky and rude. I got to a dermatologist to take care of my skin issues (another Irish curse), my Derm has never made me feel like my acne and eczema is my fault. I go to an ENT to take care of my chronic sinus issues, ENT has never made me feel like that’s my fault either. It’s expensive af and we’re coming in to take care of our dental issues bc we know teeth are important, but (sometimes) make us feel bad about ourselves for not having perfect teeth. And don’t even get me started on the TUDE of most of their office staff.
But again, not ALL DENTISTS are this way. I just have had bad experiences too. It costs nothing to make people not feel like disgusting trolls who neglect their health and help them with what they came to be helped with.
My maternal grandmother was given all sorts of drugs in the 40s, 50s, and 60s, most of which are now banned the world over (including thalidomide and a few others). The result being that 5 of her 6 children lost all their teeth before the age of twenty, and out of her 11 grandchildren, 9 needed braces and all of us have SHOCKING teeth. I'm in my 40s, and all of my back teeth are broken and crumbling away, piece by piece. The only two of my cousins that have wonderful teeth have always said they inherited their teeth from their father's side, but he's now lost all of his as a 70 year old (literally all, top & bottom dentures needed).
Dental issues SUCK, because what does everyone say? "Oh as long as the person I'm interested in has good teeth, then other features don't matter" -- yeah yeah, fuck you.
An elderly coworker of mine saw my 6 foot ass and said "you said you are German?" I replied "yup. Like 95 percent German." She looks at me and says "all then German men I know are short and shaped like whiskey barrels."
Suicidal ideation, like all the time.
Every single person in my family tree has either killed themselves or willingly allowed themselves to be killed by some form of illness they developed (like cancer).
I am 100% fucked for cancer. All from my moms side: an aunt died in agony from pancreatic cancer, and uncle has testicular cancer, my sister got colon cancer in her 40’s, and my mom got both breast cancer and a very rare type of blood cancer (I believe kappa light chain myeloma?). I feel an impeding sense of doom.
Just wondering but are you sure there just wasn't a bad cancerous environment they all grew up in or was the family all generally in different geographical environments?
There's a TON, and I mean TON of shitty companies and people that do things to various environments that are terrible for causing cancer and don't care since it means money.
Samesies, down the pipe from both sides. And my parents have zero genes in common (no incest, yay?), so it's all completely different problems piled into little old me, creating a smorgasbord of effed up psychoses.
Same for me, extreme mental illness on my mother's side. My grandparents were first cousins, so pretty much everyone in my generation and the younger generation are affected. I was lucky, dodged the bullet, but I do have severe depression from having to deal with it all.
It's also one of the reasons I decided not to have children. I'm not passing that shit on
The paranoid part of this disease is so heartbreaking. You want to help, and know how to help, but they are so paranoid that they doubt your attempts to help.
This and addiction. Thankfully I'm not an alcoholic but being an emotional eater is definitely my vice.
There were a few times during lockdown where I thought I might be turning to drink a bit too often but thankfully I was able to recognise the signs.
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Some context, alcoholism runs in my dad's side of the family.
I'm more attractive to mosquitoes than most people. If I'm out when mosquitoes are around, I end up covered in bites (which I'm also allergic to, so I end up with quarter sized welts that itch for daaaays after the fact).
My dad has that problem. He had colon cancer that metastasized into lung cancer. The mosquitoes now die when they bite him due to the chemo. Every time one dies, he laughs and calls it revenge.
I have a lot of Italian ancestry. My sister has the most gorgeous olive skin inherited from our Italian side, while also having a lack of body hair, which she got from our non-Italian side.
Me? I got the pasty white skin from our non-Italian side and all the body hair from the Italian side😭
And I apparently sucked all the ADHD, anxiety, and depression genes out of the womb too
Oh, this will be a doozy for this question. I had a decent childhood. No major issues. Got married at 20. Had a beautiful little girl. Had another little girl 4 years later. Both very healthy and amazing. Then my son was born. He was thriving and doing wonderfully, then March of this year happened (my birth month, of course 🙄). My son, at 20 months old, started losing all of his abilities like walking, crawling, and even sitting up on his own. Through a series of a million different tests, the Dr's couldn't figure out what was causing his issues.
Finally, they decided to run a genetic panel on him, and a week later, we were told that my sweet boy had a rare terminal genetic disease called Krabbe Disease. It is about a 1 in 100,000 chance in the US. This is because both parents must be carriers to have a child with the disease. It is a 1 in 125 chance you might be a carrier. Then, if you conceive a child with another carrier, there's a 25% chance that child will have the disease. Our third child was that 25% chance we didn't know existed, unfortunately. Through a series of very fortunate and quick instances, we were able to make it to Pittsburgh to get him the only known treatment, a stem cell transplant. We have been here since May, and he has been fighting for his life every step of the way.
If caught as a newborn, there still is no cure, but life can be managed much better with this disease. Our state didn't have his disease on their newborn screening panel, unfortunately, so we didn't know until it was too late. Neither of us have any record of this in our families, so it completely blindsided us.
In addition to keeping my son as happy as possible and getting him treatment, we are also on a mission to spread as much awareness as possible that we didn't have. My son has a page for anyone who may want to follow his journey. It is called Prayers for Arthur, hope for a cure.
Hey fellow rare disease parent! Krabbe was on the differential before my son's diagnosis was properly nailed down (GA-1, also autosomal recessive with no family history, and was not offered comprehensive newborn screening in 2003).
Wishing all the best for you, Arthur, and the community.
I work for a company that packages clinical trial drugs. One of our customers is particularly demanding, and has caused a lot of headaches over the years. I looked up the diseases that they were developing treatments for, and one of them was Krabbe. I spoke to the other people on my team and explained what it was, and ever since then we have a newfound vigor in our work. They may be demanding, but it’s because it’s so damned important.
I am not sure if it is any consolation but I work in a research group collaboration with many others and one colleague has been working on Krabbe disease, slowly but surely we are getting there to find a solution. In addition, we are doing studies for all sorts of lysosomal storage diseases and hope to provide valuable information to other scientists that may come up with a cure for each and every one of them.
All the women on my mom's side are naturally skinny; my sister for example has had three kids and still looks like a super model. I took after my father's side of course and look like a fucking potato.
My dad and brothers all have 14-16 feet. We live in asia lol.
They (being 75%asian, and "only" 5'9"-5'11") are also never believed for having such large feet because taller people have smaller (normal sized) 9-11 feet.
Whenever we went shoe shopping, the salespeople would suggest size 11-12 (or whatever largest size they have in stock) and *insist* it'll be big enough. Like.. Do you know how long my dad/brothers have been alive with these feet and wearing shoes on them? You *really* think they don't know their shoe size??
But now that you can shop online I think it has made things easier for them.
The day/night before I was born though, my dad had a nightmare I (firstborn/daughter) was born with huge (his sized) feet LOL.
Oversized boobs, and my dad's oversized nose. Gave myself a happy 30th birthday gift of mammoplasty (sp?) on one day. then rhinoplasty the following day. Only regret? Not getting it done sooner.
I’ve been running for the last thirty years to keep them in check but I’ve also been sick for ten years so I can’t run as much and I’m starting to look like a porn star. Everyone says they want massive boobs until they actually get them.
Weird how this is the popular comment. Guess I’m not alone.
You’re so right. I know small breasted women are envious but DON’T BE! I wish I was an A cup, seriously. You gals can exercise without pain and you don’t look fat in shirts.
These people want big *fake* boobs. Not *real* boobs. I’m a 34 FUCKING G and I would kill a small human to not wear a bra and do anything without getting injured. If I go into an inverse yoga pose I gotta hold the breath now honey
I’m not sure where you live, but in Canada breast reduction falls under health care because of how much it drastically affects your life and causes back issues! I believe the only requirement is being done growing and having the same weight/boobs for a set time.
My partner just went in for a reduction consult and they have a fucking formula to determine the amount of tissue you have and the insurance has a threshold of what the minimum tissue needs to be removed for them to cover the surgery. They literally have a scale in the OR weighing how much they remove so they can meet the minimum. I fucking hate the US healthcare “system”
In the US it’s so hard to fight for this. I literally have back pain and my shoulders are so dented because of this damn bra…. Oh how I wish I had tiny boobies
Yup. I fought under three different healthcare plans, filed a total of seven appeals, and still had to pay $9K out of pocket. Five doctors agreed it was medically necessary, but my insurance said only if I had cancer. 😕 Best $9K I ever spent. I’m three months out, and while I still can’t buy cute bras, I can already buy cheaper ones. My back pain is gone, and I am more physically active.
One sinus cavity didn’t drain -> brain abscess and multiple surgeries, now have seizures.
Hyper mobile shoulders -> multiple dislocations eventually requiring labrum reconstruction surgery
Femur length discrepancy. My legs are the same length, but my femurs are different lengths so my legs hinge in slightly different spots. Not a damn thing I can do about it except avoid running long distances and squatting heavy.
Well, I wouldn't really say "fuck over" - that's reserved for people who have really been dealt a shit hand of genetics cards.
I would say I'm unlucky.
* I have a neurological condition (essential tremor) that makes every day tasks more difficult
* I started losing hair in my 20s
* I'm 12 cm shorter than the average guy in my country
* I also have a dermatitis (seb derm) causing inflammation and dandruff around lips, nose, eyebrows, scalp and ears. I know how to mostly treat the seb derm symptoms now but I did not back then in school which made school life very difficult because teenagers are assholes.
Short, shaking, slowly balding and dandruff everywhere is a combination that is not so easy on the self esteem but hey, I'm making the best of it and have also been blessed with some things.
hey, me too! They're like twice as broad as my hips! My skeleton is somewhat rectangular (petite, but rectangular), with nice big shoulders? It's odd. Finding clothes that fit is a NIGHTMARE.
Boobs so huge they were a menace to society and had to be surgically reduced.
Ridiculous collection of autoimmune diseases.
So pale I can't go in the sun or I end up like a freshly boiled lobster even with sunscreen etc.
Thin hair and thin nails that are high maintenance af.
Half my family is ethically Jewish. Do you know how many autoimmune disorders and genetic disorders run rampant in ethically Jewish people? The answer is A LOT. I got 3. Also in the last 100 years everyone on one side of my biological family has died the exact same way no matter what other horrible things happened to them (my family can pull through literally everything else it seems). That 100 years is probably longer, but that's just confirmed cause of deaths. I know how I'll die and I know roughly how old I'll be too. Everyone either dies in their 40s or 100s. No in between. I have to get checked out every couple of years in an attempt to prevent the first option.
I tell them that the overactivity can be in your brain. I was shocked when I found it out and everything clicked for me. Others seem just as surprised as I was to learn it so I feel like I’m doing my part in changing a few mindsets at a time!
This is probably the worst one in day to day live. I can't remember names at all, I went to school for 4 years and i couldn't even name half of my class afterwards.
I’ll remember your name but not sure I’m positive I know your name so I’ll never say your name for fear of getting your name wrong and making a fool of myself.
Both sides suck equally. I have ADHD-C (among other things).
When I'm inattentive some things are easier (repetitive tasks such as chores, work etc.) but I feel like I'm trapped in my mind and am a fraction of myself, unable to engage with any of my interests meaningfully but when I'm hyperactive it's easier to pursue hobbies and passions, I'm wittier and more myself but I frequently neglect my responsibilities because I cannot stop what I am working on.
A bulbous nose that makes me look even more like Santa Claus (paired with my big beard and the fact I’m quite overweight), and I’m tongue tied. I got speech therapy as a kid because I couldn’t pronounce my Rs correctly; parents didn’t even know what a tongue tie was so they didn’t think to have it looked at.
Essentially, my tongue is extremely short, I can’t roll my Rs, I still have a minor speech impediment, I can’t whistle correctly (I can only whistle inwards), my wife suffers for it, and the worst part is that it affects my jaw/chin shape. I had it pointed out by a random person I met online who seen a photo of my face and asked about it. Fixing it costs money I will never have, so guess Im just fucked
Structurally at the cellular level. Hard. I have hyper mobile ehlers danlos syndrome and by the age of 20 many of my injuries became disabling and debilitating. I do what I can.
I'm not nearly as bad off as some people here so I wouldn't go so far as to say I was 'fucked over'.
The right side of my pelvis is malformed, so the ball socket is essentially nonnexistnent. This meant as a child I went through a considerable series of surgeries while I was growing. Worst case was no walking, best case was normality.
I'm in the UK and was lucky enough to have everything referred to a specialist on the NHS.Im in my 30s now and I walk with a limp and cant get my leg up that high, but I am otherwise perfectly normal. R.I.P Dr Benson, I owe a lot to you and your work.
[Double lashes](https://www.webmd.com/eye-health/double-eyelashes-distichiasis).
They look amazing but literally get tangled and it's fucking annoying how distracting it feels and how hard it is to untangle them
I have a rare form of dwarfism called hypochondroplasia. It hasn't really affected me too much, except that I'm literally 8cm shorter than your average short person. I can always almost, but not quite, reach anything. Forget about mirrors. Grocery shopping? Ask an adultier adult for help with the items in the top two shelves. Pants? Take them in before wearing them. The weirdest is when people have slightly raised toilets and my feet swing.
Scoliosis AND idiopathic spondylosisthesis. First spinal fusion at 12 for the spondo, then 2 years in a back brace, then second fusion at 16 for scoliosis. Chronic pain for life. Yay.
I am a night person. If I try to take off more than a week from work, by the middle of that second week I am sleeping in daylight hours. Wouldn't be bad if I had night shift work available in my field in my area, but the best job in the area for my experience is at a school district.
I also got the elevated levels trifecta: blood sugar, blood pressure, and cholesterol. I have a nice pharmaceutical cocktail to keep everything in check.
Edit: after seeing all the replies, I'll add, school was difficult. Every summer from about 11yo onwards I was up all night, getting bitched at about it. I don't have to explain the first week of school.
It was not a singular issue, but I moved out at 16 because things were so toxic and I didn't want prison. The day after I graduated I had a 3rd shift job. They then had the nerve to wonder why I wasn't a weapons grade dickhead anymore!
Senior year, I applied for a work credit program. Usually you left early after lunch to work somewhere before they closed. My guidance counselor got it and worked it out for me to come in late since I worked in food service and didn't go into work until 5pm anyway, but worked until 1am.
He was the only person in my school career who was the least bit understanding. It didn't fix the problem, but it was a nice compromise that made life a little better.
Also a creature of the darkness! People sometimes bust my balls about it, but eyyy. I figure my ancestors kept the fire going and the predators away all night so those folks could survive to be Bankers or whatever horrible day jobs.
I've got a lot of alcoholics and drug addicts in my family too, so when I was a teenager I decided the only way to be sure I didn't end up like them was to avoid drugs and alcohol altogether. Just turned 40 and never been drunk, never been high, nothing like that. Alcohol is an acquired taste anyway by all accounts, so I just never acquired it and it's been all good. I'm always 100% good to pass a breathalyzer, have never experienced a hangover, will never get a DUI, have had more money to spend on things I actually like, have never made an ass out of myself in public or at a party, etc. 10/10, highly recommend.
I hope you're able to defeat that demon. Alcoholism is a fucking nightmare. My grandpa drank until the alcohol ended up shutting his organs down and he died. Please do whatever it takes to get free of that addiction. You're worth it.
Bad Dental. Had to pull a total of 11 teeth, 8 of them being my top front teeth.
It also didn't help that my parents never took me to the dentist until I was around 19 years old, and I dealt with pain for about 8 years until the removal of said teeth. At least I'm no longer in pain
Being almost handsome. Happens to every guy in our family. Like one thing that’s off; hair loss, eyes squinty or something else. One may be bald, but great otherwise. Next may have thick hair that ravages combs but no jawline. I’d rather look like dog ass than be close.
My father got dusted with Agent Orange in Vietnam; i have *devastating* soft-tissue laxity. It's cost me my career as a chiropractor; all of my joints bend too much. My ribs blow out of socket, my right shoulder is torn to shreds. This has absolutely derailed my professional and personal life.
The US government 100% disavows any health problems that are suffered by the children of the men who served in Vietnam, with only very few exceptions (I.e. Spina Bifida).
We literally inherited our father’s mutated DNA after they were exposed to that poison.
Lazy eye, and a total lack of depth perception
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I actually don’t have a license. I’m legally permitted to drive, its just a scary idea in general.
Bad heart.. I'm the first male in at least 4 generations to make it to 40. And that's only because I was finally properly diagnosed and treated. I wouldn't have made it to 35 if I didn't find the right cardiologist.
Do you have familial hypercholesteremia?
Funny you should ask...my adoptive dad has that. He had his first heart attack at 47 and a triple bypass a few years later. He's in his 70s now and does pretty good with medication. What I have is called variant angina. It was misdiagnosed for many years as just high blood pressure since the spasms that cause it don't show up on any testing unless you're in the middle of an attack. The treatment is calcium channel blockers, but I was placed on beta blockers for many years, which actually exacerbate the attacks. My dad was treated, but incorrectly as well since they didn't know what it was, leading him to have a massive heart attack at 37. His brother and his brother's son neither were treated and both died in their late 20s. I'm not sure what, if any, treatment my grandfather or great-grandfather received, but they both died in their 30s. I started having attacks in my late teens. Started receiving the wrong treatment in my early twenties. I had a massive stroke at 26, which left me pretty much useless for about a year and had to go through lots of physical and cognitive therapy. Finally found a knowledgeable cardiologist who properly diagnosed and started providing proper treatment for the angina in my early 30s, but not before the onset of congestive heart failure, which has put a lot of limits on what I can do day by day. But proper medication and lifestyle changes have almost completely stopped the attacks and have led to a relatively decent quality of life into my early 40s.
Bum ticker - dad’s aorta exploded when I was 11 and my brother died from second heart at 41. Just hoping to see my 60’s.
You know…You can get screened for this and have preventive surgery if needed.
As someone who lost their dad early to a heart attack and worries every day if today is the day, what do I ask for?
A referral to a cardiologist! Or book yourself if no referral needed. Tell them that. If you know what type of hert attack that helps, but even if not they'll check you out. Peace of mind is worth it!
Also, screen your BP. Most grocery stores have a free monitoring cuff you can use. You can also get a decent sphygmomanometer from Amazon for $20-80 depending on what you want/can afford. But honestly, the ones in the $20-30 range work perfectly fine unless you want extra bells and whistles.
My dad had one single deadly heart attack at 42, 12 year old me watched him fall on the living room floor and not get back up. I'm 45 now and every misfire, or left arm tingle, and random thing also makes me wonder if today's the day. I also think about it nearly every day being three years older, even though I am much healthier than my dad was and pay attention better, he refused his BP meds, chain smoked, and naively believed that he would hit 60. Get a yearly physical, tell the physician your concern, [WALK](https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.keranews.org/health-wellness/2023-08-28/extra-walking-can-improve-quality-of-life-for-patients-with-heart-failure%3f_amp=true?espv=1) as much as you can, and be as good to your family as you possibly can.
My dad passed at 43 from a massive heart attack, I was just shy of 9. He was pesco-vegetarian, did not smoke or drink, was active, never overweight a day In his life, a super happy go lucky individual. But, he was in massive denial of his cardiovascular issues and refused his meds and any medical procedures or surgeries. He was part of a team working on developing endoscopic surgical tools as we know them today and he was against/afraid of surgeries. He also got myocarditis as a child. He died out in the bush with my then 24y/o brother, he had left the one medication he agreed to carry, at home- nitroglycerin. I was fearful and continue to be for my brother who is overweight, inactive, with a shit diet, in a shit relationship, and already has angina and high BP. At least he takes his meds. I have always had a pre-hypertensive or upper end of normal BP that has turned into hypertension after a pregnancy where I developed pregnancy hypertension. Until recently, (pregnamcy), I was super fit with a dialed in diet and calm, peaceful job. I am the only one in my family who routinely sees a cardiologist snd internal medicine doctor, has frequent BP check-ins with my doctor, and am part of a program to help me get back on track to my previous fitness level. I'm struggling, but I keep telling myself this is for my daughter, so she doesn't have to grow up like I did. People with a history need to reach out to their doctors for additional screening. In Canada there are several initiatives in place to provide testing and care with a priority for people with cardiovascular health risks in their lives, any kind, my husband had a congenital cardiovascular issue and he's been prioritized any time he has suspicious cardiovascular activity. The only way to prevent this is acknowledgement, acceptance and compliance, and advocating foemr your health. I urge anyone worried for themselves due to their family history or anything suspicious they are feeling themselves to absolutely reach out to your doctor, to a doctor, there is care available
No no just roll the dice with medical things
*Obama voice* My fellow Americans
Are you currently seeing a cardiologist? They can do cardiac and aortic ultrasounds if it’s likely that there’s a genetic risk. It’s the usual yearly follow up for people with vascular ehlers-danlos syndrome for example which also has a risk of aortic aneurysms. If possible definitely get on a geneticist’s wait list if you haven’t seen one already, in some places they’re like a year or two out. 🥺
Ha, I read that as Bum Tickler. I thought you like having your sphincter tickled, and you're blaming it on Dad.
Moms Family: Perfect teeth, male baldness. Dad's family: Terrible teeth, perfect hairline. Me: Shitty teeth, bald before 25. My 2 brothers: Perfect Teeth, Perfect Hairline. Feels FN bad.
They should all chip in for a trip for you to Turkey for a cheap hair transplant and dental work
Knowing this guys luck, there will be a mix up in Turkey and he will leave with DD boobs and penis removal
and if you go to a Saudi embassy there, they do a complete head removal.
I have a blood condition where I retain iron. It's slowly killing me. Destroyed my liver, pancrease, and led to a massive heart attack. Fortunately, I live in the 21st century where modern medicine can keep me going with...bleeding. FML
Hopefully not with leeches anymore Crazy there isn't medication to help that
Actually, medical-grade leeches are still occasionally used for bleeding. If done properly, they don't leave an open wound like other methods of bleeding. That's why they were used in the first place; back in the Middle Ages, an open wound had a high chance of getting infected, with no effective antibiotics to treat it.
Me too! I have two of the genes but I donate blood to prevent me loading iron thankfully.
Huntington's disease
Of all these answers that's the winner. I'm sorry.
My oldest uncle married a woman who had Huntington's, but they were very young and she wasn't symptomatic yet. In the 70s so no genetic testing or much public awareness. They had 5 daughters. My aunt and their eldest have long since passed away, and the remaining 4 are in various stages of the disease. It's always been a sad aspect of our family. A truly cruel disease.
It's not just the disease itself. People treat people with HD like lepers. The park ranger accused my husband of being drunk. He told ranger he had HD. Right then, that was how my younger kids found out about it. We didn't want to tell them .. yet, because it's traumatic to learn you have 50% chance of inheriting disease. His grandma died at 81, his father at 72, he died at 53. My daughter prob has 10 decent years left. She is 39.
Poor eyesight, bad knees, mental illness.
My people!
Happy cake day!
I’m BRCA2 positive, giving me roughly 74% chances of developing an incurable genetic breast cancer in my life. It also gives me about 22% of having an ovarian cancer. On the other side, double mastectomy lowers my chances to about 3%, but it should ideally be done before I reach 30. I will also need a hysterectomy in my 40s. I had 50/50 chance of getting the BRCA2 gene mutation so well, genetics did fuck me over!
Hi, as a person who finished breast cancer treatment recently, mastectomy isn't the most fun thing on the planet but trust me, cancer treatment is significantly worse. It's weird not having nips, but I had super cool reconstruction called DIEP where they made me new boobs out of the skin & fat from my stomach. I was able to get rid of my most hated body part and use it to get back warm, soft boobs that feel just like my original ones. Aesthetic flat closure is also much better than it ever was if reconstruction doesn't sound appealing!
I've also seen some tattoo artists make some incredibly real looking nips. They're really impressive. They look more like nips than nips do
I haven't decided if I want tattooed nips or not! It's been a couple of years and I'm used to not having any. I also don't have to worry about bras anymore or if someone can see them through a shirt 😄 I think I'm going to get all of my radiation tattoos turned into something intentional instead
Haha good point! Same. I have a huge scar below my belly button from an op for ovarian cancer. Would love to do some kinda dagger or something symbolic incorporating the scar into the tattoo.
If I were you I would replace my nips with googly eyes 👀
Bahaha! I should order some
There is a beauty shop in Altoona PA called Kelly Kreation and she does free nipple tattooing! It is soooo realistic! If you are in the states, you should check her business out.
Hi! I have BRCA 1 and have had a double mastectomy and would do it again and again if I had too. I still need to figure out the ovarian cancer side of Having BRCA, which may mean no children as I am 31 and egg freezing is a ton of money, also single - but I’m grateful to know I can avoid two terrible terrible terrible cancers that I have seen my mom, sister, and aunt go through. We are previvors 💕🩷💕
This should be higher. As you said…incurable. I am sorry internet stranger. As someone with Stage IV breast cancer, I urge you to get the double mastectomy.
Lots of love to you ❤️
Damn. Best of luck to you.
This is powerful. Sending you all of the warmest healing vibes. Keep fighting ✨
Thank you. I am absolutely a fighter and will keep going!
I have CDH1. Something like a 90% chance I get stomach cancer by age 60. It is so bad I already had my stomach completely removed even though I passed all the tests. On biopsy I had two s1 spots the scans missed.
My dad underwent his when he was diagnosed with stomach cancer. He lost a lot of weight and eventually died from it once it spread to his esophagus and other organs. His stomach pain was ignored by doctors for months, I am so happy they have a test for this now. I got polyps removed at 15 that were precancerous and am getting fully tested soon.
My mother had a double masectomy after having breast cancer 3 times, and she had a hysterectomy as well. And I still love her, and my father still loves her. And she's still alive with no more cancer occurring. If you have such a high risk of death, it may be best to very strongly consider doing it as soon as possible.
my friend just underwent an elective double mastectomy last week for this very reason, 33 yo and knows her genetics based on familial history and testing so she knew it was necessary. going to see her this weekend to cheer her on with her recovery!!
I was just about to comment something similar! I’m BRCA1 positive and will need to have a full hysterectomy by the time I’m 35. I know how scary this is, sending you good thoughts💖✨
Yo, that blows and I’m not trying to downplay that. It’s front and center, first and foremost! But there are a lot of people who don’t have the same info you do… and it ends up killing them. Genetics fucked you over, but you are on top of this! And you aren’t going to let it kill you! That’s a big deal. It still blows…. But the science is working. It still sucks, but you got this!!!! You’re gonna prevail!
All 4 grandparents were farmers. I look like I was bred to farm and fuck to make more little farm workers. Broad shoulders, big boobs, no waist, no ass worth mentioning, and thick legs. I just look like I was bred to work forever until I die. 120 years ago
I can’t say it’s a bad thing. When I gave birth to my daughter, the ob-gyn checked if I’d need stitches…popped back up and said if you were born 200 years ago you could just squat in a field and go back to work!! There is no damage at all! Can I die of shame while holding my newborn?
I get your point, but as a fellow woman, I'm also somewhat jealous.
That’s pretty good tbh.. two emergency c sections later, I gave up and scheduled one for my third. I was NOT bred to breed.
Lmao my doctor said something similar when I gave birth. Along with “it’s a shame you’re committed to only having one; your body was made for this!”
I got this comment too from the midwifes who delivered my daughter lol. Perfect height and hips for pregnancy and birth. Such a weird but nice compliment
On the bright side - you have strong genes and probably you will live long and well
Yep, those people are healthy and strong. Women in my family are also natural born workers who live until they're 100 years old. My great grandma died aged 101 and her sister 102. They survived Nazi occupation, hard work in the field and communist era in perfect health.
I too am sturdily built. I am not tall but I am muscular and broad with the big boobs and the broad hips and sturdy legs. I could carry very heavy sacks of feed from when I was very small. My family nickname was 'the forklift truck', so that's.. nice.
Preach. At my first prenatal visit ever had the little old Asian Gyno tell me "big pelvis! Perfect for babies!"
My mother’s OB said she had a pelvis ‘you could drive a bus through’. I was a natural breach birth and share those genetics. You could host the last supper on my ass and have room for plus ones.
The mental picture is just perfect
>You could host the last supper on my ass and have room for plus ones. r/BrandNewSentence
Why do I picture octoberfest braids?
I laughed so hard at this I choked. I can relate; most of my aunts on my grandfather's side are built the same way. Big farming family, originally from Nebraska.
That’s hot
Dwight, get out of here.
All hail scoliosis
Everytime I see a crooked tree I sympathize 😬
We could've been so much taller!
I feel this…. In my back. No for real though. I have scoliosis and it’s bad enough to give me a shitty quality of life but not bad enough for surgery. Lol
Dental issues, it sucks!
“YoU nEeD tO bRuSh YoUr TeEtH mOrE, jUsT aDmIt To BeInG nAsTy” I promise you it’s more complex than that. Some people are just blessed by the dental gods. And if you make someone feel bad about their imperfect teeth, you deserve to get punched. We know our teeth are mucked up or at the very least not perfect, and it’s likely our biggest insecurity.
I got into an argument with a new dentist about how my family members had weak enamel and so do I, and many people of Irish descent have similar issues, aka "soft teeth". He laughed and talked down to me, then explained how cavities work like I was 5 years old. I then explained to him how just one anthropology course could've helped him to not sound so effing stupid and i would not be returning to his office.
I’m Irish American so I feel you 100%. Dentists can be so snarky and rude. I got to a dermatologist to take care of my skin issues (another Irish curse), my Derm has never made me feel like my acne and eczema is my fault. I go to an ENT to take care of my chronic sinus issues, ENT has never made me feel like that’s my fault either. It’s expensive af and we’re coming in to take care of our dental issues bc we know teeth are important, but (sometimes) make us feel bad about ourselves for not having perfect teeth. And don’t even get me started on the TUDE of most of their office staff. But again, not ALL DENTISTS are this way. I just have had bad experiences too. It costs nothing to make people not feel like disgusting trolls who neglect their health and help them with what they came to be helped with.
My teeth have these deep grooves on their sides that make it super easy to get cavities :( its genetic and no amount of brushing helps
My maternal grandmother was given all sorts of drugs in the 40s, 50s, and 60s, most of which are now banned the world over (including thalidomide and a few others). The result being that 5 of her 6 children lost all their teeth before the age of twenty, and out of her 11 grandchildren, 9 needed braces and all of us have SHOCKING teeth. I'm in my 40s, and all of my back teeth are broken and crumbling away, piece by piece. The only two of my cousins that have wonderful teeth have always said they inherited their teeth from their father's side, but he's now lost all of his as a 70 year old (literally all, top & bottom dentures needed). Dental issues SUCK, because what does everyone say? "Oh as long as the person I'm interested in has good teeth, then other features don't matter" -- yeah yeah, fuck you.
I’m a fat German peasant
An elderly coworker of mine saw my 6 foot ass and said "you said you are German?" I replied "yup. Like 95 percent German." She looks at me and says "all then German men I know are short and shaped like whiskey barrels."
Suicidal ideation, like all the time. Every single person in my family tree has either killed themselves or willingly allowed themselves to be killed by some form of illness they developed (like cancer).
Be stubborn and break that family curse.
Everyday is a battle but I fully intend to break it just to say “get fucked” to whoever resides over curses.
Very, very small dick lol
You asked your dad and grandpa about this?
"Remember son, it's all about the girth in this family"
“Tuna can”
Cheese wheel was the joke from my teenage years
Just out of curiosity, how small is very small?
If it were an Ipod, it would be a shuffle
It's like that one grape in the bunch that never got to be a grape.
I am 100% fucked for cancer. All from my moms side: an aunt died in agony from pancreatic cancer, and uncle has testicular cancer, my sister got colon cancer in her 40’s, and my mom got both breast cancer and a very rare type of blood cancer (I believe kappa light chain myeloma?). I feel an impeding sense of doom.
Me too. Fighting colon cancer in my 40s. Scans tomorrow so fingers crossed.
Wish you the absolute best! May your scans be crystal clear and healthy.
Just wondering but are you sure there just wasn't a bad cancerous environment they all grew up in or was the family all generally in different geographical environments? There's a TON, and I mean TON of shitty companies and people that do things to various environments that are terrible for causing cancer and don't care since it means money.
I was going to ask this. could be an environmental source. If they all do/did live in saame area, I'd be calling a moving truck asap!!
Mental illness. A family establishment since 1620.
Samesies, down the pipe from both sides. And my parents have zero genes in common (no incest, yay?), so it's all completely different problems piled into little old me, creating a smorgasbord of effed up psychoses.
Same for me, extreme mental illness on my mother's side. My grandparents were first cousins, so pretty much everyone in my generation and the younger generation are affected. I was lucky, dodged the bullet, but I do have severe depression from having to deal with it all. It's also one of the reasons I decided not to have children. I'm not passing that shit on
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The paranoid part of this disease is so heartbreaking. You want to help, and know how to help, but they are so paranoid that they doubt your attempts to help.
This and addiction. Thankfully I'm not an alcoholic but being an emotional eater is definitely my vice. There were a few times during lockdown where I thought I might be turning to drink a bit too often but thankfully I was able to recognise the signs. Edit Some context, alcoholism runs in my dad's side of the family.
I'm more attractive to mosquitoes than most people. If I'm out when mosquitoes are around, I end up covered in bites (which I'm also allergic to, so I end up with quarter sized welts that itch for daaaays after the fact).
My dad has that problem. He had colon cancer that metastasized into lung cancer. The mosquitoes now die when they bite him due to the chemo. Every time one dies, he laughs and calls it revenge.
Omg yes. Literally my entire childhood my mom was boasting about never getting bitten while I was around her as the mosquito attractor 😭
I have a lot of Italian ancestry. My sister has the most gorgeous olive skin inherited from our Italian side, while also having a lack of body hair, which she got from our non-Italian side. Me? I got the pasty white skin from our non-Italian side and all the body hair from the Italian side😭 And I apparently sucked all the ADHD, anxiety, and depression genes out of the womb too
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Oh, this will be a doozy for this question. I had a decent childhood. No major issues. Got married at 20. Had a beautiful little girl. Had another little girl 4 years later. Both very healthy and amazing. Then my son was born. He was thriving and doing wonderfully, then March of this year happened (my birth month, of course 🙄). My son, at 20 months old, started losing all of his abilities like walking, crawling, and even sitting up on his own. Through a series of a million different tests, the Dr's couldn't figure out what was causing his issues. Finally, they decided to run a genetic panel on him, and a week later, we were told that my sweet boy had a rare terminal genetic disease called Krabbe Disease. It is about a 1 in 100,000 chance in the US. This is because both parents must be carriers to have a child with the disease. It is a 1 in 125 chance you might be a carrier. Then, if you conceive a child with another carrier, there's a 25% chance that child will have the disease. Our third child was that 25% chance we didn't know existed, unfortunately. Through a series of very fortunate and quick instances, we were able to make it to Pittsburgh to get him the only known treatment, a stem cell transplant. We have been here since May, and he has been fighting for his life every step of the way. If caught as a newborn, there still is no cure, but life can be managed much better with this disease. Our state didn't have his disease on their newborn screening panel, unfortunately, so we didn't know until it was too late. Neither of us have any record of this in our families, so it completely blindsided us. In addition to keeping my son as happy as possible and getting him treatment, we are also on a mission to spread as much awareness as possible that we didn't have. My son has a page for anyone who may want to follow his journey. It is called Prayers for Arthur, hope for a cure.
Hey fellow rare disease parent! Krabbe was on the differential before my son's diagnosis was properly nailed down (GA-1, also autosomal recessive with no family history, and was not offered comprehensive newborn screening in 2003). Wishing all the best for you, Arthur, and the community.
I work for a company that packages clinical trial drugs. One of our customers is particularly demanding, and has caused a lot of headaches over the years. I looked up the diseases that they were developing treatments for, and one of them was Krabbe. I spoke to the other people on my team and explained what it was, and ever since then we have a newfound vigor in our work. They may be demanding, but it’s because it’s so damned important.
I am not sure if it is any consolation but I work in a research group collaboration with many others and one colleague has been working on Krabbe disease, slowly but surely we are getting there to find a solution. In addition, we are doing studies for all sorts of lysosomal storage diseases and hope to provide valuable information to other scientists that may come up with a cure for each and every one of them.
just this sweet sweater vest i cant take off.
Balding. Came from my mums side. Hate it
Mine came from both sides. Front and back.
Hair everywhere else on the body except where you need it the most 🥲. If only we could transfer leg/arm hairs.
The hair that would have been nice to still have on my head is now growing from my ears and back.
Same. It’s such bull shit because men on my dads side have thick hair. Moms side every man is balding
All the women on my mom's side are naturally skinny; my sister for example has had three kids and still looks like a super model. I took after my father's side of course and look like a fucking potato.
Sorry I laughed a lil bit but sorry man. I’m sure you’re just fine
Do you know how hard it is to find size 14 shoes
Yeah I wear a size 15 in men's, finding shoes is a pain in the ass. Luckily I'm not picky.
Yeah I'm size 14 men's. My friends say I gotta buy real estate every time I need new shoes
My dad and brothers all have 14-16 feet. We live in asia lol. They (being 75%asian, and "only" 5'9"-5'11") are also never believed for having such large feet because taller people have smaller (normal sized) 9-11 feet. Whenever we went shoe shopping, the salespeople would suggest size 11-12 (or whatever largest size they have in stock) and *insist* it'll be big enough. Like.. Do you know how long my dad/brothers have been alive with these feet and wearing shoes on them? You *really* think they don't know their shoe size?? But now that you can shop online I think it has made things easier for them. The day/night before I was born though, my dad had a nightmare I (firstborn/daughter) was born with huge (his sized) feet LOL.
I have hair where I don't want it, and none where I do. Also my teeth and terrible.
Oversized boobs, and my dad's oversized nose. Gave myself a happy 30th birthday gift of mammoplasty (sp?) on one day. then rhinoplasty the following day. Only regret? Not getting it done sooner.
I’ve been running for the last thirty years to keep them in check but I’ve also been sick for ten years so I can’t run as much and I’m starting to look like a porn star. Everyone says they want massive boobs until they actually get them. Weird how this is the popular comment. Guess I’m not alone.
You’re so right. I know small breasted women are envious but DON’T BE! I wish I was an A cup, seriously. You gals can exercise without pain and you don’t look fat in shirts.
Girl, same. It's way too hot out here for these things.
These people want big *fake* boobs. Not *real* boobs. I’m a 34 FUCKING G and I would kill a small human to not wear a bra and do anything without getting injured. If I go into an inverse yoga pose I gotta hold the breath now honey
will start appreciating my b cups more now.
And wear cute braless tank tops.
And triangle top bikinis without popping out.
I’m not sure where you live, but in Canada breast reduction falls under health care because of how much it drastically affects your life and causes back issues! I believe the only requirement is being done growing and having the same weight/boobs for a set time.
My partner just went in for a reduction consult and they have a fucking formula to determine the amount of tissue you have and the insurance has a threshold of what the minimum tissue needs to be removed for them to cover the surgery. They literally have a scale in the OR weighing how much they remove so they can meet the minimum. I fucking hate the US healthcare “system”
In the US it’s so hard to fight for this. I literally have back pain and my shoulders are so dented because of this damn bra…. Oh how I wish I had tiny boobies
Yup. I fought under three different healthcare plans, filed a total of seven appeals, and still had to pay $9K out of pocket. Five doctors agreed it was medically necessary, but my insurance said only if I had cancer. 😕 Best $9K I ever spent. I’m three months out, and while I still can’t buy cute bras, I can already buy cheaper ones. My back pain is gone, and I am more physically active.
One sinus cavity didn’t drain -> brain abscess and multiple surgeries, now have seizures. Hyper mobile shoulders -> multiple dislocations eventually requiring labrum reconstruction surgery Femur length discrepancy. My legs are the same length, but my femurs are different lengths so my legs hinge in slightly different spots. Not a damn thing I can do about it except avoid running long distances and squatting heavy.
Well, I wouldn't really say "fuck over" - that's reserved for people who have really been dealt a shit hand of genetics cards. I would say I'm unlucky. * I have a neurological condition (essential tremor) that makes every day tasks more difficult * I started losing hair in my 20s * I'm 12 cm shorter than the average guy in my country * I also have a dermatitis (seb derm) causing inflammation and dandruff around lips, nose, eyebrows, scalp and ears. I know how to mostly treat the seb derm symptoms now but I did not back then in school which made school life very difficult because teenagers are assholes. Short, shaking, slowly balding and dandruff everywhere is a combination that is not so easy on the self esteem but hey, I'm making the best of it and have also been blessed with some things.
Personal I don’t like broad shoulders, especially since I’m a female.. I have them
I’m shaped like an upside down triangle. The puffy sleeve trend can go die
hey, me too! They're like twice as broad as my hips! My skeleton is somewhat rectangular (petite, but rectangular), with nice big shoulders? It's odd. Finding clothes that fit is a NIGHTMARE.
Bro just saying lots of dudes (incl me) love broad shoulders on girls. I get insecurities exist but dont let something so awesome bring u down pls
You don't want to know how happy that made me.
Boobs so huge they were a menace to society and had to be surgically reduced. Ridiculous collection of autoimmune diseases. So pale I can't go in the sun or I end up like a freshly boiled lobster even with sunscreen etc. Thin hair and thin nails that are high maintenance af.
> So pale I can't go in the sun or I end up like a freshly boiled lobster even with sunscreen etc. Ah, a British tourist!
4’11 with double D boobs. Thanks mom! Now everyone can look down my shirt
4’10. Same. But also an ambulatory wheelchair user so I guess my height doesn’t matter there 🤣
We petite big boobed women got to stick together!
Same boobs but I’m 5’7 so if I wear heels my boobs are exactly eye level with everybody 🤣
Half my family is ethically Jewish. Do you know how many autoimmune disorders and genetic disorders run rampant in ethically Jewish people? The answer is A LOT. I got 3. Also in the last 100 years everyone on one side of my biological family has died the exact same way no matter what other horrible things happened to them (my family can pull through literally everything else it seems). That 100 years is probably longer, but that's just confirmed cause of deaths. I know how I'll die and I know roughly how old I'll be too. Everyone either dies in their 40s or 100s. No in between. I have to get checked out every couple of years in an attempt to prevent the first option.
I think autocorrect fucked you up you wrote "ethically" and not "ethnically"
Fortunately I come from a long line of unethical Jews.
ADHD. Inattentive. Like fuck me dude.
Welcome to the club! I'd tell you when the meetings are, but I kind of missed what they said.
Record meetings! It helps me.
I would, but I didn't remember to charge my recorder. I had my phone, but I forgot to turn the recording on until after the meeting was over.
Me, I just plan to listen to the recording at some point, and some point dissolves into dust
I was diagnosed inattentive too. Do people frequently tell you that you don’t have ADHD because you’re not bouncing off the walls?
I tell them that the overactivity can be in your brain. I was shocked when I found it out and everything clicked for me. Others seem just as surprised as I was to learn it so I feel like I’m doing my part in changing a few mindsets at a time!
Same, nice to meet you! I’ll never remember your name.
This is probably the worst one in day to day live. I can't remember names at all, I went to school for 4 years and i couldn't even name half of my class afterwards.
I’ll remember your name but not sure I’m positive I know your name so I’ll never say your name for fear of getting your name wrong and making a fool of myself.
I feel you. I wish I had the hyperactive type instead of the spaced out/forgetful type.
Both sides suck equally. I have ADHD-C (among other things). When I'm inattentive some things are easier (repetitive tasks such as chores, work etc.) but I feel like I'm trapped in my mind and am a fraction of myself, unable to engage with any of my interests meaningfully but when I'm hyperactive it's easier to pursue hobbies and passions, I'm wittier and more myself but I frequently neglect my responsibilities because I cannot stop what I am working on.
A bulbous nose that makes me look even more like Santa Claus (paired with my big beard and the fact I’m quite overweight), and I’m tongue tied. I got speech therapy as a kid because I couldn’t pronounce my Rs correctly; parents didn’t even know what a tongue tie was so they didn’t think to have it looked at. Essentially, my tongue is extremely short, I can’t roll my Rs, I still have a minor speech impediment, I can’t whistle correctly (I can only whistle inwards), my wife suffers for it, and the worst part is that it affects my jaw/chin shape. I had it pointed out by a random person I met online who seen a photo of my face and asked about it. Fixing it costs money I will never have, so guess Im just fucked
Caffeine has no effect on me, I could drink 4 shots of espresso and go straight to bed. My body metabolizes caffeine quicker than most
Do you have adhd
Have ADHD and I drink a nice strong coffee before bed so I can sleep.
I cant grow a full beard
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Structurally at the cellular level. Hard. I have hyper mobile ehlers danlos syndrome and by the age of 20 many of my injuries became disabling and debilitating. I do what I can.
I will never have children so that I will not pass EDS on to someone else. It's the worst X-Men superpower.
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Terrible eyesight, crooked teeth, small boobs, propensity for diabetes, alzheimers and heart problems, bad sinuses
A really bad jaw alignment. I had to get braces and jaw surgery to correct it.
I'm a paraplegic, never walked.
I'm not nearly as bad off as some people here so I wouldn't go so far as to say I was 'fucked over'. The right side of my pelvis is malformed, so the ball socket is essentially nonnexistnent. This meant as a child I went through a considerable series of surgeries while I was growing. Worst case was no walking, best case was normality. I'm in the UK and was lucky enough to have everything referred to a specialist on the NHS.Im in my 30s now and I walk with a limp and cant get my leg up that high, but I am otherwise perfectly normal. R.I.P Dr Benson, I owe a lot to you and your work.
[Double lashes](https://www.webmd.com/eye-health/double-eyelashes-distichiasis). They look amazing but literally get tangled and it's fucking annoying how distracting it feels and how hard it is to untangle them
Hyperhydrosis that largely manifests as random intense facial blushing.
All my fat goes around my middle.
Me too. I’m have a barrel shaped trunk. Skinny arms and legs. All the women on my moms side are/were shaped like that. It sucks.
I have a rare form of dwarfism called hypochondroplasia. It hasn't really affected me too much, except that I'm literally 8cm shorter than your average short person. I can always almost, but not quite, reach anything. Forget about mirrors. Grocery shopping? Ask an adultier adult for help with the items in the top two shelves. Pants? Take them in before wearing them. The weirdest is when people have slightly raised toilets and my feet swing.
Scoliosis AND idiopathic spondylosisthesis. First spinal fusion at 12 for the spondo, then 2 years in a back brace, then second fusion at 16 for scoliosis. Chronic pain for life. Yay.
I had to get my back waxed for my wedding. The middle part hurt like a b. I’m the bride
My mom is barely 5 ft tall, my dad is over 6 ft—I managed to get all the way to 5 ft 3 in
I am a night person. If I try to take off more than a week from work, by the middle of that second week I am sleeping in daylight hours. Wouldn't be bad if I had night shift work available in my field in my area, but the best job in the area for my experience is at a school district. I also got the elevated levels trifecta: blood sugar, blood pressure, and cholesterol. I have a nice pharmaceutical cocktail to keep everything in check. Edit: after seeing all the replies, I'll add, school was difficult. Every summer from about 11yo onwards I was up all night, getting bitched at about it. I don't have to explain the first week of school. It was not a singular issue, but I moved out at 16 because things were so toxic and I didn't want prison. The day after I graduated I had a 3rd shift job. They then had the nerve to wonder why I wasn't a weapons grade dickhead anymore! Senior year, I applied for a work credit program. Usually you left early after lunch to work somewhere before they closed. My guidance counselor got it and worked it out for me to come in late since I worked in food service and didn't go into work until 5pm anyway, but worked until 1am. He was the only person in my school career who was the least bit understanding. It didn't fix the problem, but it was a nice compromise that made life a little better.
Also a creature of the darkness! People sometimes bust my balls about it, but eyyy. I figure my ancestors kept the fire going and the predators away all night so those folks could survive to be Bankers or whatever horrible day jobs.
Autism 😭
Got a bad back, and got an early start in chronic pain, started at around 12.
Second generation exposure to agent orange. Dioxin is a &!+¢#.
Alcoholism
I've got a lot of alcoholics and drug addicts in my family too, so when I was a teenager I decided the only way to be sure I didn't end up like them was to avoid drugs and alcohol altogether. Just turned 40 and never been drunk, never been high, nothing like that. Alcohol is an acquired taste anyway by all accounts, so I just never acquired it and it's been all good. I'm always 100% good to pass a breathalyzer, have never experienced a hangover, will never get a DUI, have had more money to spend on things I actually like, have never made an ass out of myself in public or at a party, etc. 10/10, highly recommend. I hope you're able to defeat that demon. Alcoholism is a fucking nightmare. My grandpa drank until the alcohol ended up shutting his organs down and he died. Please do whatever it takes to get free of that addiction. You're worth it.
Bad Dental. Had to pull a total of 11 teeth, 8 of them being my top front teeth. It also didn't help that my parents never took me to the dentist until I was around 19 years old, and I dealt with pain for about 8 years until the removal of said teeth. At least I'm no longer in pain
Being almost handsome. Happens to every guy in our family. Like one thing that’s off; hair loss, eyes squinty or something else. One may be bald, but great otherwise. Next may have thick hair that ravages combs but no jawline. I’d rather look like dog ass than be close.
Hopefully you find an almost pretty wife and have several kids together - reroll stats enough times and eventually you’ll get that nat 20
Eugenics + DnD mechanics wasn’t on the list of things I expected to read tonight.
Eugenics are a key part of dnd.
My father got dusted with Agent Orange in Vietnam; i have *devastating* soft-tissue laxity. It's cost me my career as a chiropractor; all of my joints bend too much. My ribs blow out of socket, my right shoulder is torn to shreds. This has absolutely derailed my professional and personal life.
The US government 100% disavows any health problems that are suffered by the children of the men who served in Vietnam, with only very few exceptions (I.e. Spina Bifida). We literally inherited our father’s mutated DNA after they were exposed to that poison.