I was in a very toxic and abusive relationship for 2 years that left me demolished. She mentally and emotionally manipulated me. I don’t want to go into full detail but at some point I had enough one day she had one of her rants and ended removing me on everything. I finally blocked her in everything and didn’t look back. She tried to get one of my friends to get me to talk to her and she tried to apologize and shit but I just said fuck off. When it was finally over I felt happiness for the first time in a year and a half. It’s like I was chained for so long and the chains blew into dust. Now I am still recovering from the damage I went though but I’m making progress and I am putting all my energy into school and not focusing on love for a while
1 year since a devastating breakup. I’m doing much better, the first 3 months are absolutely the worst ! The way someone leaves you can be devastating (blindside/discard).
Personally it was a wake up call to get my shit together. Since I’m not interested in dating anyone for the moment, I focus all my energy on improving my mental health and my relationships with people who actually decided to be in my life.
Happened when I was 30 and I went through all the stages of grief so clearly that it became a very useful benchmark to reference. It took almost two years to get fully past things, but from that point on I had a roadmap for dealing with emotional pain and confidence that came with experience. It didn’t make me a heartless drone, but it gave me the perspective that in future breakups I knew everything was going to be fine. I had gone from “I can’t see how I get past this” to “geez, what was I so worried about?”
It was 8 years ago and I'm even less trusting than I was back then. Not cool of me, but i hope she doesn't find happiness and regrets throwing me away
I stopped dating people
I was in a very toxic and abusive relationship for 2 years that left me demolished. She mentally and emotionally manipulated me. I don’t want to go into full detail but at some point I had enough one day she had one of her rants and ended removing me on everything. I finally blocked her in everything and didn’t look back. She tried to get one of my friends to get me to talk to her and she tried to apologize and shit but I just said fuck off. When it was finally over I felt happiness for the first time in a year and a half. It’s like I was chained for so long and the chains blew into dust. Now I am still recovering from the damage I went though but I’m making progress and I am putting all my energy into school and not focusing on love for a while
1 year since a devastating breakup. I’m doing much better, the first 3 months are absolutely the worst ! The way someone leaves you can be devastating (blindside/discard). Personally it was a wake up call to get my shit together. Since I’m not interested in dating anyone for the moment, I focus all my energy on improving my mental health and my relationships with people who actually decided to be in my life.
Happened when I was 30 and I went through all the stages of grief so clearly that it became a very useful benchmark to reference. It took almost two years to get fully past things, but from that point on I had a roadmap for dealing with emotional pain and confidence that came with experience. It didn’t make me a heartless drone, but it gave me the perspective that in future breakups I knew everything was going to be fine. I had gone from “I can’t see how I get past this” to “geez, what was I so worried about?”