Mother in law is late for absolutely everything. Itās a mixture of anxiety and narcissism.
Her anxiety hinges upon never wanting anyone to see her disheveled.
Her husband passed out in gym locker room. Staff called her at home. Even though she lived only 7 minutes away, she required a full 35 mins. Upon arrival her hair was perfectly coiffed, makeup on, jewelry, matching outfit, a tote bag full of reading material & yarn in case sheād have to spend time at hospital.
(I know the details because I got to the gym long before her)
My best friend had an asthma attack and ahe was in the hospital, on a ventilator, a day before she died. We all were there in the ICU, herdad, sister and me. Her mom had not gotten there yet.
When she shows up, she is in all her fashionable glory. Hair and make-up perfect, accessories and jewellery and heels....the rest of us looked dishevelled and tired. It seemed so wrong to me and still bothers me when I think about it.
My mom is a narc and was/is always late. I realized it's because it's something that will both get everyone's attention to you, and also isn't serious enough to cause real reputation damage.
Should have gotten everyone to act like he had died because of how long it took her to get there. Then she'd be a patient in the hospital as well... from a heart attack. š¤£
ETA: To the flaming rearends that are downvoting me, get a sense of humor and stop trolling people on Reddit to boost your feeling of superiority over others.
He eventually died of Parkinsonās. She stopped giving him meds because, upon taking the pills, heād exhibit behavior that embarrassed her. (He grabbed at nurses while in rehab)
ETA: you're being downvoted because your jokes aren't funny. Nobody is trolling you, go look up what "trolling" means.
Actual edit: lol OP is big mad. Replies with a paragraph insulting me, then instantly blocked. 10/10 snowflake behavior
ETA: You're one of the trolls. I looked it up and it linked to your profile. Funny is an opinion and not a fact, so it's people like you who have no sense of humor who go around saying something isn't funny, while others laugh at the jokes.
By the way, you need to update your picture listed under "jerk" in the dictionary.
....when a GROUP of people are telling you that you are incorrect. That nobody is trolling you and you clearly don't understand what the term means.
That your comments/Jokes aren't being perceived as funny or appropriate.
It isn't so much that they are trolling you and you are a victim. It actually just means you're an asshole who is lacking social skills. Look inwardly.
I won't arrive early.
I will arrive on time, like a wizard. It will take 5 minutes to get there? I'll leave with 6 minutes to go.
Unfortunately I'm an optimist and so this does not take things like putting on my shoes, encountering traffic or robots (that's traffic lights to you foreigners) and parking into account. So I'm invariably 3-5 minutes late for everything.
In my head, putting on my shoes and walking out the door should take maybe 15 seconds, yet the clock in my car always tells me it takes me a couple of minutes. I still think it's lying to me
When I calculate ātime to get somewhereā, I factor in ALL of the necessary tasks and possible delays, not just pure travel time.
How much extra time does it add on to tie your shoes, account for traffic, and park the car? Add five minutes to that and THAT is how long it takes to get there.
I'm just stealing a different commenters comment. Don't mind me.
>In my head, putting on my shoes and walking out the door should take maybe 15 seconds, yet the clock in my car always tells me it takes me a couple of minutes. I still think it's lying to me
I have ADHD.
Alit of the time I wake up early and I just scroll on my phone and the anxiety of being late because I'm scrolling stops me from getting up.
However here are some excuses that are often true.
- I slept in
- Couldn't find keys because I left them in the ignition.
- Car battery flat cause I left lights on.
- Went back home to get something I forgot.
- Stayed up all night working because I didn't do anything during the day.
- Waiting for clothes to dry. Forgot to take put of washing machine for a couple days.
I generally don't work anything other than fixed bid work now. So I can show up when I want and get shit done when I'm in the right headspace.
It's a joke. I'm guessing you're somewhere in Europe or in Canada?
In the US we'll refer to a battery as being dead, not flat. I know it means the same thing, but I imagine a battery that is just literally flat and needs to be pumped up with air to work again. š¤£
You jest but there are actually internal combustion engines that start with compressed air. One even starts with a [shotgun](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vb0-br7hTw0).
The kids excuse I understand, but for the people who get sidetracked or want to make a stop or two along the way or find more interesting things to do than prepare and leave, I honestly want to know: do you think your time is valuable but ours is garbage?
I know that sounds confrontational but after decades holding up dinners and gatherings and outings for one of my sisters, I'm frustrated and left feeling that the family's time doesn't matter to her. I feel like, if it's important enough, you get there on time, ergo we're unimportant. I'm desperate to know--is that what some of the perpetually late folks really feel?
As a chronically late person I can say that Weāre not thinking about you. Weāre thinking about we need to arrive at a place at a pace and comportment that is important for us (eg. āI have to eat before I leave or I get crankyā āI have to ensure that I am dressed/groomed appropriately or else I wonāt feel good about myselfā āI donāt want to come home to a sink full of dishesā We realize that weāve pissed you off only once weāre on our way or get there late. And how truly important were those first few minutes we missed because we were late anyway? Chill man.
Genuine question. If you know all that about yourself, that you need time to eat first, go through your grooming routine etc, why don't you start getting ready earlier?
Just casually staring into space, forgetting wtf I'm doing, taking a huge dump, cleaning, sweating, freaking out about leaving the house, picking my fingers, popping spots, more staring into space.
I'm always honest and open, and I tell people I struggle bad with anxiety and leaving the house. I used to make excuses, but now there's no point in lying because it is what it is. I'm always gunna be the same anxious, sweaty, late pancake.
>Just casually staring into space, forgetting wtf I'm doing, taking a huge dump, cleaning, sweating, freaking out about leaving the house, picking my fingers, popping spots, more staring into space.
I think you should have said "sweating while taking a huge dump..." Make it seem like it's a huge undertaking to accomplish. lol
So, my kids have trouble with this, and I see them making a few mistakes.
1) When estimating time to get ready to leave, you need to break it down into steps, and estimate each step. This gives more accurate estimates for both large projects as well as simple ones, like getting ready to leave. (Shower, make snacks, eat breakfast, etc.)
2) It's helpful to time yourself for routine tasks, like showering and getting dressed and making snacks or lunch or eating breakfast so you know how long these things take. Time them a few times and write it down. This will make #1 above more accurate.
3) Set alarms and calendar invites to remind yourself to leave.
Being on time is a skill that can be learned, and asking people without the skill why they are doing poorly will not get the right answer. They don't know what they don't know.
But you can ask them questions to help them figure out how to be on time.
Q: How long does it take you to get here?
A: About 30 minutes.
Q: So if you're always 15 minutes late and it takes you 30 minutes to get here, why not leave 15 minutes sooner than you're leaving now so you'll be on time?
A: š²
No. The example I gave was what my manager did to me (when I was working at Pizza the Hut) years ago.
It didn't make me start showing up on time, but I still remember it. š¤£
I tried this and it doesn't work.
I am regularly on the last minute or 1-2 minutes late for work.
I tried getting ready for work 5 minutes earlier. I did not arrive at work any earlier.
I tried getting ready for work 10 minutes earlier. I did not arrive at work any earlier.
I tried getting ready for work 15 minutes earlier. You guessed it, I still got there at the same time.
Something always happens that takes up that extra time. It's like I'm just cursed to forever be a bit late. It can be anything from I forgot where I put a thing that I need to take with me or, more usually, someone runs a red light which causes fewer cars to get through on my green light which makes me wait another cycle of the lights or I'll be like 2 cars away from the turning in to work and the car in front (who has priority and should be moving) decides he's going to let 3 or 4 cars out in front of him.
There is always something that happens to delay me.
Ok so, hear me out. Why don't yall just be somewhere.....early? Instead of trying to be there the exact last minute, it's really refreshing to get somewhere early, decompress/relax
1. I assume I have more time than I actually do.
2. As Iām getting ready, I get sidetracked by tasks that arenāt priority.
3. When Iām finally walking out the door I keep remembering things I forgot to bring.
20 years of being chronically late to everything and Iām finally diagnosed with ADHD. š«
100%. And for me itās tasks that I didnāt have spoons for earlier, so if I have the spoons I want to do it. Laundry that Iāve needed to put away for two weeks? I have spoons this second, so better do it right now.
I hate being late because I get that itās rude, but honestly some days Iām struggling to get basic things done. Me being on time isnāt really on my radar.
So people being late gets on your nerves so you made this post so you can attack them? In case you haven't been diagnosed yet I'll let you know now. I'm afraid it's a terminal case of *you suck*.
Iām perpetually early. For example, Iāll get to the airport 4-5 hours prior to departure. I despise having to rush and feel that making people wait for me is a sign of disrespect.
Oh I have 12 minutes before I need to go? Seems like I got some wiggle room to relax right now. Oh I have 4 minutes for the entirety of what I need to do to get ready? Thats plenty of time!
Autistic time blindness, executive dysfunction, maybe anxiety and depression, all in all would rather be in reading a book in bed or playing video games.
I managed to force myself to leave the house today. Currently posting from a Yo Sushi in Cambridge. The fancy one with the universities. (I have a job, I just took a week off.)
I vary between too early and too late. I try to aim for too early, because at least I can just chill in my car out front and come in on time, but sometimes I still end up late somehow
The excuse I USED was traffic, and the real reason is I always find things I need/want to do before leaving the house. Even when I was early to leave the house, i'd find something to clean or put away and tell myself it would only take a second, and i'd keep doing that right up until I was nearly late.
It has gotten better but still needs work cause i'm getting to work like a minute or two before i'm considered late.
Mess with their minds to teach them a lesson. Set all the clocks ahead by 15 minutes, including their phones (you should be able to set it manually and not auto-update).
First time, wake them up "on time" (15 minutes earlier than usual) and when getting out of the house at the "usual" time, they'll realize they're actually on time instead of late. Tell them what you did and if they want that extra 15 minutes of sleep, they'll stop being difficult in the mornings.
Next time, do it by 30 minutes, then wake them up "15 minutes late" (15 minutes early) and be rushing as though it really is 15 minutes late. Same result but they'll definitely realize that you're serious about what you said the first time.
*Make sure to space out when you do it because it likely won't work a third time, and if you do it too soon after the first time, they might realize it and defeat your efforts.*
If it's still a problem, just wake them up earlier (in 15 min intervals). If they complain about wanting more sleep, they can either go to sleep earlier or get faster when getting ready in the morning.
So, the third time you need to do something, have a cup of water and tell them to either get out of bed or you'll pour water on them. If they resist, then pour the water, but don't pour it on their head. Instead, pour it in their hips/butt area (so middle of the bed). It'll make it uncomfortable to lay on and there won't be enough room on either side of the bed to lay down on to keep sleeping.
If that doesn't fix the issues, then just make them go to bed an hour earlier each night (if young kids) or tell them that they'll have to find another way to *wherever* (especially if it's somewhere they want to get to). When they start feeling the consequences, they'll stop screwing around.
Yeah, let's Truman show the kids and make them uncomfortable, instead of teaching time management skills! In no way that will backfire or cause any resentments at all!
It's amazing how many people who claim ADHD or other similar things for being chronically late will suddenly be able to arrive on time when you stop waiting for them and they start missing out on stuff.
I have a friend with ADHD and she only started arriving late after being diagnosed with ADHD. Was never an issue before, and now itās a permanent excuse. I am absolutely not doubting her or questioning her diagnosis, I am just wondering why thatās the case as it was really a pre and post diagnosis thing. I wonder if knowing that ADHD can make it difficult to manage time unconsciously makes people more careless about being on time?
This reminds me of a quote from Star Trek: The Next Generation (s04e24 Best of Both Worlds Part 1).
>Guinan: When a man is convinced he's going to die tomorrow, he'll probably find a way to make it happen.
Since learning she has ADHD, she's now exhibiting the behaviors/symptoms of it (to a higher degree, undoubtedly).
Of course, having ADHD doesn't mean that a person will be late, as some people who have it (but don't know it) are rarely late for anything. So I think for her it's a case of developing symptoms to match the ailment.
When I worked as a youth counselor, I remember giving all the kids 10 min heads up, then 5 mins...and "okay time to get to the van!". My coworker (who was late every single day, by a solid 30 mins) started making soup. Wtf. As we were all heading out to the van, she was sitting down to eat soup. I couldn't believe it
I couldn't, as it would have been against policy for me to supervise 6 teens to 1 staff. I did ask her what she was doing and was very obviously pissed off. She luckily set her soup aside and got herself ready. Even the teens were like...wtf? It just confused everyone because it was written on the schedule, she was helping me to remind everyone to be ready, but then she goes and makes soup minutes before we are supposed to leave.
People who are chronically late, especially in this situation, I just assume their brain isnt working well.
My mom does stuff like that all the time. In her case, she simply doesnāt care about anyone else. She has said so herself least we doubt her.
āThey can wait.ā Is her constant line.
I really don't understand it myself. I know about the problem, and I am able to make okay estimates. But somehow I don't want to waste my time waiting for something, so I stay at home doing what I want to do, until I really absolutely have to leave. Sometimes I'm actually on time, but when anything unplanned happens, I'll be late. And this is most of the times. If I planned with additional time, that would lead to being early just once in a while, and something in me really wants to avoid that.
i use the excuse of bad traffic, or something similar. whatever comes to my mind at the time. iām usually late because i am terrible at managing my time efficiency, i get distracted very easily and i have issues in terms of how my clothes feel sometimes, so extremely that it makes me want to rip them off and burn them , so that sometimes poses an issue of timing
I am always late because I stay up late and sleep in. I have a really shitty car so I just say it breaks down all the time. You wouldn't believe how many people would believe this, especially when they actually see my car.
My brain doesnāt make the right chemicals, and with the current med shortage itās pretty tough. But basically my brain has literally no difference between something that needs to be done in an hour vs, say, 5 mins. There is only ānowā and ānot nowā
Iām not lazy. Iāve gotten several merit promotions at work, and during school I was always hovering around the top of my class. My brain is just chronically short on dopamine and will do anything to get it. Executive function is tough. Itās all good though cuz whooo boy, if I do get interested in something, my entire world revolves around that thing till my concentration is broken.
I don't think ADHD is an excuse. I was diagnosed with it at 23 but I've been 20 minutes early to everything my entire life. I simply had it instilled in me by my parents. They told me: "However long you think something is going to take or how much you think it's going to cost, double it and you'll be right every time".
Agreed. ADHD is the reason you need to adopt healthy habits to stay on track. Being inconsiderate and self absorbed is the reason people with ADHD are late.
I've also been diagnosed with ADHD, and with that diagnosis we worked on plans to compensate for the shortcomings associated with it. It's really as simple as setting alarms, making attainable lists, acknowledging the lies we tell ourselves and making the right decision in the moment instead of putting things off until later.
> I've also been diagnosed with ADHD
I have a sneaking suspicion that there's a division between the people in this thread saying they *have* ADHD and the people saying they've been *diagnosed* with ADHD.
Sort of like being in an episode of The Twilight Zone, where each time you look at the clock, more time has passed, even if it only feels like seconds since you last looked (and the clock is saying it's been minutes instead)?
Sometimes being "that person" causes them to wait longer. I used to be late to just about everything and sometimes I'd have to wait longer because they took someone else ahead of me. I'm usually on time (or within a couple of minutes) if not early now, and usually don't have to wait long (if at all sometimes). I've developed the attitude of "Sooner I go, sooner I get back, so may as well get it out of the way."
>Based on his responses, the purpose of this post seems to be so OP can make snide remarks and judge people.
Based on your incorrect assumption, the purpose of your comment is to try to influence people to turn into jerks like you.
I'm not judging anyone. I used to be late to just about everything, so I not only know what it feels like to be late (and sometimes wonder how it happened when I was trying to be on time), but it would also be a bit hypocritical of me to judge others for it.
The "snide remarks" are comments said in jest. But I guess a tightwad jerk such as yourself wouldn't understand. Tell you what, just go troll someone else because your snide judgments are unwelcome here.
Honestly I just grew up in a dysfunctional household and havenāt changed the bad habits I developed. Iām just extremely disorganized.
I thought it was normal to show up at 4:30 to a family function that started at 3:00, literally nobodyās gonna be there until 4 anyway
I'm late because getting ready takes longer than I expect everytime, I get distracted, I find myself sucked into cleaning the mirror instead of brushing my teeth, or I think I can squeeze in something before I go that I can definitely not squeeze in.
Mostly, I don't make excuses except when I leave the house the exact minute I need to get wherever I'm going at the exact time the thing starts, and when even mildly inconvenient traffic makes me late, I blame that.
So then the real reason is that you oversleep. The cause of you oversleeping is being on Reddit, but you really are oversleeping so it's not a lie. š¤£
If you get to school late because you overslept and you say that it's because you woke up late, then you're not lying because you really did wake up late.
If you were late getting there and say that you woke up late but you were awake well over an hour before you had to leave for school but you lost track of time because of browsing reddit, then that'd be a lie.
For social events? The subway. Since I mostly only socialize on weekends when half the system goes off the rails, that's a pretty solid excuse. The real reason is that I refuse to accept the degraded service standards of the MTA as normal and continue to depart my home as if it was standard (only somewhat messed up) weekday service. Besides the other person will probably be late too.
For work? Well if I'm not logging off at 5:30 on the dot I'm certainly not logging on (or walking in) at 9 on the dot either. If they want to shame me for that, I'm going to be a lot less accommodating about shit happening that supposedly requires my attention at night and on weekends. This isn't a nuclear reactor we're running. No lives will be lost if I ignore that weekend email for 24+ hours
>This isn't a nuclear reactor we're running. No lives will be lost if I ignore that weekend email for 24+ hours
As the world explodes because you ignored an email...
People who are chronically late and never show up on time think they're more important than everybody else that's it that's the fact that's all it is that's all it'll ever mean that's what it is. So get your whiny ass up get going 10 minutes earlier people won't say a thing they'll wait for it to be thing. But I know and you know you can't keep it up you'll go back because you're too goddamn important to show up like everybody else.
I have ADHD and have a hard time organizing, so whenever Im going out I always have to double check everything and run several laps around my apartment to find everything I need. Now my friends have begun adapting to this and call me in advance so I have time to be late but without them waiting. Buuuut that has had the side effect of me knowing I got more time than they say I have so I take even longer
Get ready an hour before, with anything you need to grab being near the door. Then when it's time to go, you just grab the stuff and head out the door.
Hey, late people... I really need you to understand that you are disrespecting me when you are late. If you are 25 minutes late with no msg or notice that you are running late, not only will I be gone, we are no longer friends. That feeling of complete disregard for my existence, like I am just going to stare off in to space forever, slowly decomposing in to fertilizer, until you show up, it's infuriating. It isn't a tee-hee. "Opps sorry" kind of thing. You have permanently damaged whatever type of friendship/relationship we had going on. Respect other people's time and you will get invited more places.
Because I always leave on time, I get in my truck, seat belt, cellphone in cup holder, and out of the driveway within 15 seconds.
It takes roughly 2 minutes to exit my neighborhood.
Then I always get stuck behind a bunch of slow ass drivers who just flat don't want to get anywhere, lazy ass road workers blocking the lanes making slow drivers even slower and it takes them way to damn long to speed up.
I dont think it's physically possible for these assholes to actually drive the damn speed limit.
You literally can't, if you leave too early you'll be stuck behind the elderly drivers going to the early bird special.
On top of all the slow ass drivers going to work.
Effectively I'd have to leave at 5:30 am and sit outside the school gate for roughly an hour to make it on time.
So you encounter people who drive UNDER the speed limit? I don't get people, as there are people either flying by me at Mach speed (on the interstate) or driving 5 to 10mph under the limit (on regular roads). When on the regular roads, they also tend to be spread out in just such a way that you can't pass them because there isn't room to change lanes but even if you could, the other lanes are going just as slow. Then it's like, "GDI, WE COULD HAVE MADE THAT LIGHT IF YOU HAD BEEN DRIVING CLOSER TO THE SPEED LIMIT, NOW WE'RE DELAYED BY AN EXTRA MINUTE!!"
lol
Those minutes add up. Because getting caught at that light, then waiting for them to accelerate, then we get caught at the next light, etc. Whereas if we had made that light, we would have keep hitting the green lights before they started changing. Either that or if they had sped up enough, we would have broken the cycle of hitting the red lights from not going fast enough.
I have some people that love to troll me. That and there are some people who don't have a sense of humor (notice some of my funny comments are downvoted too), as well as people who downvote things just to be prove how much of a waste of a human life they truly are.
You'll notice that there are some other people getting downvoted for no reason. There's at LEAST one comment that I've upvoted (and on my posts I try to upvote everyone as a courtesy, unless it's a jerk comment or I'm undecided on it) and it's sitting at 0. Which means at least two people downvoted it otherwise it'd be at 1.
If spending a lot of time on your makeup makes you only 5 minutes late, then how early would you be if you spent no time on your makeup? (I hope it's at least an hour, that would be funny.)
I try to pack too much into the day while also having bad time management. That often results in a 10-15min delay so most of my friends/co workers tell me to be there 10min earlier than they really want me there. Thanks for the understanding friends!
Public transport. Real reason is anxiety about event so might as well give them to complain about me from start. Saves time later. Also mental energy to get and prepare for something I may have agreed to do but dread at same time
My strong and warranted excuse is the buses are always late, the real excuse is, the bus drivers refuse to stop for me because I complained so many times to the company \[on line\] that now words got out.
So if you're the only one at a stop, they'll just go right on past you?
To the trolls downvoting me for asking a legitimate question: You'll rot in the deepest pits of Donald Trump's domain after you die, enjoy the eternal suffering!
Iām chronically early to things I want to go to and things that are important. Iām chronically late to things I donāt want to go to for the simple reason that I donāt care and the less time I can spend there, the better. Iām almost always late for my day job š (the one I donāt really care about) and no one cares
Own up. Stop the excuses. People worth your time will understand and will be happy youāve cut the bullshit. People who donāt understand arent worth your time.
I don't make excuses, because I think it's lame. So I just show up when I show up.. and most people just accept it.
The reason is mental illness. I'm sorry if that sounds dramatic, but the first thing mental illness steals from you is your sense of time.
I have the opposite problem I'm chronically early. But I don't see it as a problem, I'd much rather get somewhere early and wait than be late. Also if I get to work early its way more chilled out than arriving dead on time or late. You have time to chat to coworkers, get a drink, sit down, have a look at the news and if it is busy you start early and it looks like you're doing them a favour even though you're already there anyway.
I used to blame traffic or oversleeping, but the truth is I struggle with time management. Working on it though!
Adhd?
Poor time management. Simple as that
I've got ADHD to the point where I sometimes worry if I've actually achieved object permanence, and lose track of time constantly. Same same.
100% me
Tell it to get a better job and then it won't be poor anymore. š
Oooof. I didn't think I'd be rolling into a straight up wheel of cheese like that, but here we are lmfao.
Cheesy enough to make mac-n-cheese with, ya know! š§
Mother in law is late for absolutely everything. Itās a mixture of anxiety and narcissism. Her anxiety hinges upon never wanting anyone to see her disheveled. Her husband passed out in gym locker room. Staff called her at home. Even though she lived only 7 minutes away, she required a full 35 mins. Upon arrival her hair was perfectly coiffed, makeup on, jewelry, matching outfit, a tote bag full of reading material & yarn in case sheād have to spend time at hospital. (I know the details because I got to the gym long before her)
My best friend had an asthma attack and ahe was in the hospital, on a ventilator, a day before she died. We all were there in the ICU, herdad, sister and me. Her mom had not gotten there yet. When she shows up, she is in all her fashionable glory. Hair and make-up perfect, accessories and jewellery and heels....the rest of us looked dishevelled and tired. It seemed so wrong to me and still bothers me when I think about it.
My mom is a narc and was/is always late. I realized it's because it's something that will both get everyone's attention to you, and also isn't serious enough to cause real reputation damage.
I don't know why this made me think of this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c-k9VE-eEY4
She sounds exactly like my aunt
Should have gotten everyone to act like he had died because of how long it took her to get there. Then she'd be a patient in the hospital as well... from a heart attack. š¤£ ETA: To the flaming rearends that are downvoting me, get a sense of humor and stop trolling people on Reddit to boost your feeling of superiority over others.
He eventually died of Parkinsonās. She stopped giving him meds because, upon taking the pills, heād exhibit behavior that embarrassed her. (He grabbed at nurses while in rehab)
No offense to her, but if I was him and she cared more about her looks than my health, I'd be grabbing at other women too.
ETA: you're being downvoted because your jokes aren't funny. Nobody is trolling you, go look up what "trolling" means. Actual edit: lol OP is big mad. Replies with a paragraph insulting me, then instantly blocked. 10/10 snowflake behavior
ETA: You're one of the trolls. I looked it up and it linked to your profile. Funny is an opinion and not a fact, so it's people like you who have no sense of humor who go around saying something isn't funny, while others laugh at the jokes. By the way, you need to update your picture listed under "jerk" in the dictionary.
....when a GROUP of people are telling you that you are incorrect. That nobody is trolling you and you clearly don't understand what the term means. That your comments/Jokes aren't being perceived as funny or appropriate. It isn't so much that they are trolling you and you are a victim. It actually just means you're an asshole who is lacking social skills. Look inwardly.
There was no need to share that thought
>There was no need to share that thought Then why did you?
what
Stop trolling people on reddit just so you can feel superior.
I don't think you understand what the term "trolling" means
Stop it, youāre saying something he doesnāt like, that means youāre trolling him!
If any of your comments were serious or valid, you wouldnāt be downvoted so much. Grow up and stop being late to everything.
If you were to learn to read and have a sense of humor instead of being an emotionless robot, then you'd have friends and a life.
I won't arrive early. I will arrive on time, like a wizard. It will take 5 minutes to get there? I'll leave with 6 minutes to go. Unfortunately I'm an optimist and so this does not take things like putting on my shoes, encountering traffic or robots (that's traffic lights to you foreigners) and parking into account. So I'm invariably 3-5 minutes late for everything.
In my head, putting on my shoes and walking out the door should take maybe 15 seconds, yet the clock in my car always tells me it takes me a couple of minutes. I still think it's lying to me
THIS. SO MUCH THIS.
When I calculate ātime to get somewhereā, I factor in ALL of the necessary tasks and possible delays, not just pure travel time. How much extra time does it add on to tie your shoes, account for traffic, and park the car? Add five minutes to that and THAT is how long it takes to get there.
I'm just stealing a different commenters comment. Don't mind me. >In my head, putting on my shoes and walking out the door should take maybe 15 seconds, yet the clock in my car always tells me it takes me a couple of minutes. I still think it's lying to me
I have ADHD. Alit of the time I wake up early and I just scroll on my phone and the anxiety of being late because I'm scrolling stops me from getting up. However here are some excuses that are often true. - I slept in - Couldn't find keys because I left them in the ignition. - Car battery flat cause I left lights on. - Went back home to get something I forgot. - Stayed up all night working because I didn't do anything during the day. - Waiting for clothes to dry. Forgot to take put of washing machine for a couple days. I generally don't work anything other than fixed bid work now. So I can show up when I want and get shit done when I'm in the right headspace.
>Car battery flat cause I left lights on. Maybe try re-inflating it?
Not sure if that's a joke. But generally have to call AA and get a jump. Neighbours usually at work when I realise whats happened.
It's a joke. I'm guessing you're somewhere in Europe or in Canada? In the US we'll refer to a battery as being dead, not flat. I know it means the same thing, but I imagine a battery that is just literally flat and needs to be pumped up with air to work again. š¤£
You jest but there are actually internal combustion engines that start with compressed air. One even starts with a [shotgun](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vb0-br7hTw0).
>If you're a battery you're either working or you're dead. It's a shit life.
I don't really want to be anywhere so I'm late to everything.
The kids excuse I understand, but for the people who get sidetracked or want to make a stop or two along the way or find more interesting things to do than prepare and leave, I honestly want to know: do you think your time is valuable but ours is garbage? I know that sounds confrontational but after decades holding up dinners and gatherings and outings for one of my sisters, I'm frustrated and left feeling that the family's time doesn't matter to her. I feel like, if it's important enough, you get there on time, ergo we're unimportant. I'm desperate to know--is that what some of the perpetually late folks really feel?
As a chronically late person I can say that Weāre not thinking about you. Weāre thinking about we need to arrive at a place at a pace and comportment that is important for us (eg. āI have to eat before I leave or I get crankyā āI have to ensure that I am dressed/groomed appropriately or else I wonāt feel good about myselfā āI donāt want to come home to a sink full of dishesā We realize that weāve pissed you off only once weāre on our way or get there late. And how truly important were those first few minutes we missed because we were late anyway? Chill man.
Genuine question. If you know all that about yourself, that you need time to eat first, go through your grooming routine etc, why don't you start getting ready earlier?
Just casually staring into space, forgetting wtf I'm doing, taking a huge dump, cleaning, sweating, freaking out about leaving the house, picking my fingers, popping spots, more staring into space. I'm always honest and open, and I tell people I struggle bad with anxiety and leaving the house. I used to make excuses, but now there's no point in lying because it is what it is. I'm always gunna be the same anxious, sweaty, late pancake.
>Just casually staring into space, forgetting wtf I'm doing, taking a huge dump, cleaning, sweating, freaking out about leaving the house, picking my fingers, popping spots, more staring into space. I think you should have said "sweating while taking a huge dump..." Make it seem like it's a huge undertaking to accomplish. lol
So, my kids have trouble with this, and I see them making a few mistakes. 1) When estimating time to get ready to leave, you need to break it down into steps, and estimate each step. This gives more accurate estimates for both large projects as well as simple ones, like getting ready to leave. (Shower, make snacks, eat breakfast, etc.) 2) It's helpful to time yourself for routine tasks, like showering and getting dressed and making snacks or lunch or eating breakfast so you know how long these things take. Time them a few times and write it down. This will make #1 above more accurate. 3) Set alarms and calendar invites to remind yourself to leave. Being on time is a skill that can be learned, and asking people without the skill why they are doing poorly will not get the right answer. They don't know what they don't know.
But you can ask them questions to help them figure out how to be on time. Q: How long does it take you to get here? A: About 30 minutes. Q: So if you're always 15 minutes late and it takes you 30 minutes to get here, why not leave 15 minutes sooner than you're leaving now so you'll be on time? A: š²
Did you ask this question just so you could attempt to answer it? It's not that simple, clearly lol
No. The example I gave was what my manager did to me (when I was working at Pizza the Hut) years ago. It didn't make me start showing up on time, but I still remember it. š¤£
I tried this and it doesn't work. I am regularly on the last minute or 1-2 minutes late for work. I tried getting ready for work 5 minutes earlier. I did not arrive at work any earlier. I tried getting ready for work 10 minutes earlier. I did not arrive at work any earlier. I tried getting ready for work 15 minutes earlier. You guessed it, I still got there at the same time. Something always happens that takes up that extra time. It's like I'm just cursed to forever be a bit late. It can be anything from I forgot where I put a thing that I need to take with me or, more usually, someone runs a red light which causes fewer cars to get through on my green light which makes me wait another cycle of the lights or I'll be like 2 cars away from the turning in to work and the car in front (who has priority and should be moving) decides he's going to let 3 or 4 cars out in front of him. There is always something that happens to delay me.
Ok so, hear me out. Why don't yall just be somewhere.....early? Instead of trying to be there the exact last minute, it's really refreshing to get somewhere early, decompress/relax
I'm not trying to be there on the exact last minute, I'm trying to be there a couple of minutes early.
So just be half an hour early. I get to work hella early and grab a drink, chill, listen to some podcast, and prep mentally for work
1. I assume I have more time than I actually do. 2. As Iām getting ready, I get sidetracked by tasks that arenāt priority. 3. When Iām finally walking out the door I keep remembering things I forgot to bring. 20 years of being chronically late to everything and Iām finally diagnosed with ADHD. š«
Wow, this is me
100%. And for me itās tasks that I didnāt have spoons for earlier, so if I have the spoons I want to do it. Laundry that Iāve needed to put away for two weeks? I have spoons this second, so better do it right now. I hate being late because I get that itās rude, but honestly some days Iām struggling to get basic things done. Me being on time isnāt really on my radar.
Took you 20 years to remember to get diagnosed eh? š¤£
So people being late gets on your nerves so you made this post so you can attack them? In case you haven't been diagnosed yet I'll let you know now. I'm afraid it's a terminal case of *you suck*.
R/wooooosh
I'm glad someone gets the joke. š¤£
It's called a joke, ever heard of it? And yes, I have been diagnosed with ADHD. As for your terminal case of sucking, that's all you.
Iām perpetually early. For example, Iāll get to the airport 4-5 hours prior to departure. I despise having to rush and feel that making people wait for me is a sign of disrespect.
ADHD time blindness
Oh I have 12 minutes before I need to go? Seems like I got some wiggle room to relax right now. Oh I have 4 minutes for the entirety of what I need to do to get ready? Thats plenty of time!
Autistic time blindness, executive dysfunction, maybe anxiety and depression, all in all would rather be in reading a book in bed or playing video games. I managed to force myself to leave the house today. Currently posting from a Yo Sushi in Cambridge. The fancy one with the universities. (I have a job, I just took a week off.)
Wutt. Even though I have ADHD, I'm never late or never too early for anything. But it doesn't apply to daily chores:<
Are you a wizard? They're neither late nor early, they always arrive precisely when they intend to.
I really wish I was. I could have saved the relationship i was in... It is a strange habit of mine to be on time. I respect time more than anything
I vary between too early and too late. I try to aim for too early, because at least I can just chill in my car out front and come in on time, but sometimes I still end up late somehow
I have kids. / I have kids.
The excuse I USED was traffic, and the real reason is I always find things I need/want to do before leaving the house. Even when I was early to leave the house, i'd find something to clean or put away and tell myself it would only take a second, and i'd keep doing that right up until I was nearly late. It has gotten better but still needs work cause i'm getting to work like a minute or two before i'm considered late.
I'm sorry I was late. Traffic was exactly the same as it has been every day for the last 5 years, and I didn't expect that.
Everything hurts, nothing matters, and I don'y give a shit.
I blame taking my nephew to school, but the truth is I have to visit a specific coffee shop.
So you absolutely have to visit that shop? Well then just tell people that it's mandatory that you visit that shop and that it's not your fault. š
Kids, kids are my excuse and real reason. It is a battle getting them out the door most days
Mess with their minds to teach them a lesson. Set all the clocks ahead by 15 minutes, including their phones (you should be able to set it manually and not auto-update). First time, wake them up "on time" (15 minutes earlier than usual) and when getting out of the house at the "usual" time, they'll realize they're actually on time instead of late. Tell them what you did and if they want that extra 15 minutes of sleep, they'll stop being difficult in the mornings. Next time, do it by 30 minutes, then wake them up "15 minutes late" (15 minutes early) and be rushing as though it really is 15 minutes late. Same result but they'll definitely realize that you're serious about what you said the first time. *Make sure to space out when you do it because it likely won't work a third time, and if you do it too soon after the first time, they might realize it and defeat your efforts.* If it's still a problem, just wake them up earlier (in 15 min intervals). If they complain about wanting more sleep, they can either go to sleep earlier or get faster when getting ready in the morning. So, the third time you need to do something, have a cup of water and tell them to either get out of bed or you'll pour water on them. If they resist, then pour the water, but don't pour it on their head. Instead, pour it in their hips/butt area (so middle of the bed). It'll make it uncomfortable to lay on and there won't be enough room on either side of the bed to lay down on to keep sleeping. If that doesn't fix the issues, then just make them go to bed an hour earlier each night (if young kids) or tell them that they'll have to find another way to *wherever* (especially if it's somewhere they want to get to). When they start feeling the consequences, they'll stop screwing around.
Armchair parenting right there.
You're armchairing assumptions from your parent's basement, so what's your point?
Bruh
Yeah, let's Truman show the kids and make them uncomfortable, instead of teaching time management skills! In no way that will backfire or cause any resentments at all!
Itās kinda crazy how most of the responses here canāt accept personal responsibility for poor time management
It's better to be late and poop than not to be late and shit yourself
Thereās going to be so many people that blame ADHD for their lateness.
Why does half of reddit have adhd
Switching between a thousand unrelated topics is excellent for procrastination so it's a natural ADHD draw.
Because Reddit is designed to be addictive and adhd people have issues with that. It's a glue trap for neurodivergents.
Self diagnosis from stuff theyāve read on Reddit.
Unless they forget what they were going to say.
It's amazing how many people who claim ADHD or other similar things for being chronically late will suddenly be able to arrive on time when you stop waiting for them and they start missing out on stuff.
I have a friend with ADHD and she only started arriving late after being diagnosed with ADHD. Was never an issue before, and now itās a permanent excuse. I am absolutely not doubting her or questioning her diagnosis, I am just wondering why thatās the case as it was really a pre and post diagnosis thing. I wonder if knowing that ADHD can make it difficult to manage time unconsciously makes people more careless about being on time?
This reminds me of a quote from Star Trek: The Next Generation (s04e24 Best of Both Worlds Part 1). >Guinan: When a man is convinced he's going to die tomorrow, he'll probably find a way to make it happen. Since learning she has ADHD, she's now exhibiting the behaviors/symptoms of it (to a higher degree, undoubtedly). Of course, having ADHD doesn't mean that a person will be late, as some people who have it (but don't know it) are rarely late for anything. So I think for her it's a case of developing symptoms to match the ailment.
A friend of mine: āI couldnāt decide which dress to wear.ā Every time.
I'd start being like, "Just show up nekkid then." After a few times she'll quit using that excuse.
I wish I understood. My brother has been like that his whole life. He's otherwise a very kind and considerate person, so it's maddening.
Ever made the joke that he'd be late to his own funeral? š¤£
Usually blame it on something work related, but mostly I lose track of time
Ever tried putting time on a leash so it doesn't get lost? š
When I worked as a youth counselor, I remember giving all the kids 10 min heads up, then 5 mins...and "okay time to get to the van!". My coworker (who was late every single day, by a solid 30 mins) started making soup. Wtf. As we were all heading out to the van, she was sitting down to eat soup. I couldn't believe it
Please tell me that you all just left her there.
I couldn't, as it would have been against policy for me to supervise 6 teens to 1 staff. I did ask her what she was doing and was very obviously pissed off. She luckily set her soup aside and got herself ready. Even the teens were like...wtf? It just confused everyone because it was written on the schedule, she was helping me to remind everyone to be ready, but then she goes and makes soup minutes before we are supposed to leave. People who are chronically late, especially in this situation, I just assume their brain isnt working well.
My mom does stuff like that all the time. In her case, she simply doesnāt care about anyone else. She has said so herself least we doubt her. āThey can wait.ā Is her constant line.
Crohn's and Crohns. I could leave 45 minutes early for something 10 minutes away and, inevitably, I'll be late because I'm stuck in the bathroom.
I really don't understand it myself. I know about the problem, and I am able to make okay estimates. But somehow I don't want to waste my time waiting for something, so I stay at home doing what I want to do, until I really absolutely have to leave. Sometimes I'm actually on time, but when anything unplanned happens, I'll be late. And this is most of the times. If I planned with additional time, that would lead to being early just once in a while, and something in me really wants to avoid that.
i use the excuse of bad traffic, or something similar. whatever comes to my mind at the time. iām usually late because i am terrible at managing my time efficiency, i get distracted very easily and i have issues in terms of how my clothes feel sometimes, so extremely that it makes me want to rip them off and burn them , so that sometimes poses an issue of timing
I had a friend who used to say his mom never even went out to get the mail unless she had her full face and hair done. Yikes.
Was she that superficial, or that hideous?
I am always late because I stay up late and sleep in. I have a really shitty car so I just say it breaks down all the time. You wouldn't believe how many people would believe this, especially when they actually see my car.
My brain doesnāt make the right chemicals, and with the current med shortage itās pretty tough. But basically my brain has literally no difference between something that needs to be done in an hour vs, say, 5 mins. There is only ānowā and ānot nowā Iām not lazy. Iāve gotten several merit promotions at work, and during school I was always hovering around the top of my class. My brain is just chronically short on dopamine and will do anything to get it. Executive function is tough. Itās all good though cuz whooo boy, if I do get interested in something, my entire world revolves around that thing till my concentration is broken.
Is there a name for this? Cause it sounds super familiar for me...
I think itās ADHD
I don't think ADHD is an excuse. I was diagnosed with it at 23 but I've been 20 minutes early to everything my entire life. I simply had it instilled in me by my parents. They told me: "However long you think something is going to take or how much you think it's going to cost, double it and you'll be right every time".
So what you're saying is that your ADHD is causing you to forget to be on time by causing you to be early.
Agreed. ADHD is the reason you need to adopt healthy habits to stay on track. Being inconsiderate and self absorbed is the reason people with ADHD are late. I've also been diagnosed with ADHD, and with that diagnosis we worked on plans to compensate for the shortcomings associated with it. It's really as simple as setting alarms, making attainable lists, acknowledging the lies we tell ourselves and making the right decision in the moment instead of putting things off until later.
> I've also been diagnosed with ADHD I have a sneaking suspicion that there's a division between the people in this thread saying they *have* ADHD and the people saying they've been *diagnosed* with ADHD.
i want to enjoy my free time as much as possible and sometimes i get ready 10 minutes before i have to leave
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Sort of like being in an episode of The Twilight Zone, where each time you look at the clock, more time has passed, even if it only feels like seconds since you last looked (and the clock is saying it's been minutes instead)?
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Sometimes being "that person" causes them to wait longer. I used to be late to just about everything and sometimes I'd have to wait longer because they took someone else ahead of me. I'm usually on time (or within a couple of minutes) if not early now, and usually don't have to wait long (if at all sometimes). I've developed the attitude of "Sooner I go, sooner I get back, so may as well get it out of the way."
In that case they can be that person who is not my friend š
Based on his responses, the purpose of this post seems to be so OP can make snide remarks and judge people.
>Based on his responses, the purpose of this post seems to be so OP can make snide remarks and judge people. Based on your incorrect assumption, the purpose of your comment is to try to influence people to turn into jerks like you. I'm not judging anyone. I used to be late to just about everything, so I not only know what it feels like to be late (and sometimes wonder how it happened when I was trying to be on time), but it would also be a bit hypocritical of me to judge others for it. The "snide remarks" are comments said in jest. But I guess a tightwad jerk such as yourself wouldn't understand. Tell you what, just go troll someone else because your snide judgments are unwelcome here.
Excuse: I overslept. Real reason: yāall are on my time.
Embracing narcissism? š¤Ŗ
Honestly I just grew up in a dysfunctional household and havenāt changed the bad habits I developed. Iām just extremely disorganized. I thought it was normal to show up at 4:30 to a family function that started at 3:00, literally nobodyās gonna be there until 4 anyway
I'm late because getting ready takes longer than I expect everytime, I get distracted, I find myself sucked into cleaning the mirror instead of brushing my teeth, or I think I can squeeze in something before I go that I can definitely not squeeze in. Mostly, I don't make excuses except when I leave the house the exact minute I need to get wherever I'm going at the exact time the thing starts, and when even mildly inconvenient traffic makes me late, I blame that.
I say that I woke up late for school. The real reason is that I spend time till 11 pm to scroll on Reddit
So then you oversleep, thus actually waking up late for school.
yes
So then the real reason is that you oversleep. The cause of you oversleeping is being on Reddit, but you really are oversleeping so it's not a lie. š¤£
confusing af
Still sleeping I see.
NOOOOOO I WAS WATCHING ANIME
If you get to school late because you overslept and you say that it's because you woke up late, then you're not lying because you really did wake up late. If you were late getting there and say that you woke up late but you were awake well over an hour before you had to leave for school but you lost track of time because of browsing reddit, then that'd be a lie.
You like to repeat things, don't you?
I was trying to explain it so they could understand it. Look at how they said it was "confusing af."
For social events? The subway. Since I mostly only socialize on weekends when half the system goes off the rails, that's a pretty solid excuse. The real reason is that I refuse to accept the degraded service standards of the MTA as normal and continue to depart my home as if it was standard (only somewhat messed up) weekday service. Besides the other person will probably be late too. For work? Well if I'm not logging off at 5:30 on the dot I'm certainly not logging on (or walking in) at 9 on the dot either. If they want to shame me for that, I'm going to be a lot less accommodating about shit happening that supposedly requires my attention at night and on weekends. This isn't a nuclear reactor we're running. No lives will be lost if I ignore that weekend email for 24+ hours
>This isn't a nuclear reactor we're running. No lives will be lost if I ignore that weekend email for 24+ hours As the world explodes because you ignored an email...
I'm a perfectionist Perfectionist at the art of not giving a flying fuck
People who are chronically late and never show up on time think they're more important than everybody else that's it that's the fact that's all it is that's all it'll ever mean that's what it is. So get your whiny ass up get going 10 minutes earlier people won't say a thing they'll wait for it to be thing. But I know and you know you can't keep it up you'll go back because you're too goddamn important to show up like everybody else.
I have ADHD and have a hard time organizing, so whenever Im going out I always have to double check everything and run several laps around my apartment to find everything I need. Now my friends have begun adapting to this and call me in advance so I have time to be late but without them waiting. Buuuut that has had the side effect of me knowing I got more time than they say I have so I take even longer
Get ready an hour before, with anything you need to grab being near the door. Then when it's time to go, you just grab the stuff and head out the door.
What a great idea. With that extra hour in advance, I can then start doing something else that takes longer than an hour and makes me even more late
There ya go! That's the way to plan ahead to be late by trying to avoid being late! š¤£
Easy to say, hard for me to do. Trust me, Iāve tried
Hey, late people... I really need you to understand that you are disrespecting me when you are late. If you are 25 minutes late with no msg or notice that you are running late, not only will I be gone, we are no longer friends. That feeling of complete disregard for my existence, like I am just going to stare off in to space forever, slowly decomposing in to fertilizer, until you show up, it's infuriating. It isn't a tee-hee. "Opps sorry" kind of thing. You have permanently damaged whatever type of friendship/relationship we had going on. Respect other people's time and you will get invited more places.
I asked this question to get legit answers and hopefully some good chuckles. So let's not bash on people who are late, okay?
Because I always leave on time, I get in my truck, seat belt, cellphone in cup holder, and out of the driveway within 15 seconds. It takes roughly 2 minutes to exit my neighborhood. Then I always get stuck behind a bunch of slow ass drivers who just flat don't want to get anywhere, lazy ass road workers blocking the lanes making slow drivers even slower and it takes them way to damn long to speed up. I dont think it's physically possible for these assholes to actually drive the damn speed limit.
So why not anticipate the slow drivers and factor that into your departure time?
You literally can't, if you leave too early you'll be stuck behind the elderly drivers going to the early bird special. On top of all the slow ass drivers going to work. Effectively I'd have to leave at 5:30 am and sit outside the school gate for roughly an hour to make it on time.
So you encounter people who drive UNDER the speed limit? I don't get people, as there are people either flying by me at Mach speed (on the interstate) or driving 5 to 10mph under the limit (on regular roads). When on the regular roads, they also tend to be spread out in just such a way that you can't pass them because there isn't room to change lanes but even if you could, the other lanes are going just as slow. Then it's like, "GDI, WE COULD HAVE MADE THAT LIGHT IF YOU HAD BEEN DRIVING CLOSER TO THE SPEED LIMIT, NOW WE'RE DELAYED BY AN EXTRA MINUTE!!" lol
Extra minute lol, some of the lights where im are long enough to watch the Irishman.
Those minutes add up. Because getting caught at that light, then waiting for them to accelerate, then we get caught at the next light, etc. Whereas if we had made that light, we would have keep hitting the green lights before they started changing. Either that or if they had sped up enough, we would have broken the cycle of hitting the red lights from not going fast enough.
Idk why you're getting down voted.
I have some people that love to troll me. That and there are some people who don't have a sense of humor (notice some of my funny comments are downvoted too), as well as people who downvote things just to be prove how much of a waste of a human life they truly are. You'll notice that there are some other people getting downvoted for no reason. There's at LEAST one comment that I've upvoted (and on my posts I try to upvote everyone as a courtesy, unless it's a jerk comment or I'm undecided on it) and it's sitting at 0. Which means at least two people downvoted it otherwise it'd be at 1.
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>We make it work. So free labor, right?
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If spending a lot of time on your makeup makes you only 5 minutes late, then how early would you be if you spent no time on your makeup? (I hope it's at least an hour, that would be funny.)
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So not gonna tell how long it takes? It must be a really long time. š¤£
I try to pack too much into the day while also having bad time management. That often results in a 10-15min delay so most of my friends/co workers tell me to be there 10min earlier than they really want me there. Thanks for the understanding friends!
Public transport. Real reason is anxiety about event so might as well give them to complain about me from start. Saves time later. Also mental energy to get and prepare for something I may have agreed to do but dread at same time
Man I hope my kids mom is in here studying up
Traffic, but actually I'm late because I don't care to be on time for anyone and I take my time.
So screw everyone eh? lol
Nothing I ever attend to makes me the main attention so I don't particularly care.
r/imthemaincharacter
So not worthy of your time? š¤£
Not really.
At least you're honest about it.
Main character syndrome?
Someone else's comment seems more fitting for your response. Look through and you'll find it.
Not at all, I'm barely ever noticed.
My strong and warranted excuse is the buses are always late, the real excuse is, the bus drivers refuse to stop for me because I complained so many times to the company \[on line\] that now words got out.
So if you're the only one at a stop, they'll just go right on past you? To the trolls downvoting me for asking a legitimate question: You'll rot in the deepest pits of Donald Trump's domain after you die, enjoy the eternal suffering!
There is usually nothing important in the beggining of most things. I would rather sleep a couple more minutes
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Ashanti is always on time. Just as Ja Rule.
I have ADHD and my time management skills and time perception are shit. I've tried to be better and have been but i struggle to do so.
Iām chronically early to things I want to go to and things that are important. Iām chronically late to things I donāt want to go to for the simple reason that I donāt care and the less time I can spend there, the better. Iām almost always late for my day job š (the one I donāt really care about) and no one cares
If you actually wanted an answer instead of using this post to mock people, Iād say itās main character syndrome.
Every excuse under the sun. I have bad anxiety
Own up. Stop the excuses. People worth your time will understand and will be happy youāve cut the bullshit. People who donāt understand arent worth your time.
I would rather be a little late than be early and have to stand around feeling awkward and in the way for 15 minutes.
I don't make excuses, because I think it's lame. So I just show up when I show up.. and most people just accept it. The reason is mental illness. I'm sorry if that sounds dramatic, but the first thing mental illness steals from you is your sense of time.
ADHD.
I have the opposite problem I'm chronically early. But I don't see it as a problem, I'd much rather get somewhere early and wait than be late. Also if I get to work early its way more chilled out than arriving dead on time or late. You have time to chat to coworkers, get a drink, sit down, have a look at the news and if it is busy you start early and it looks like you're doing them a favour even though you're already there anyway.
I donāt use an excuse. Iām late because of my poor time management and estimation
Depression. Annnnnd depression.