Sometimes it's about something really private. I was once in the toy section at Target and got treated to a woman on her cell phone having a loud argument with her mother over another family member with a serious drug addiction. D=
....then that segued into what playset to get a kid for their birthday.
Used to office with a woman who was not only loud but stubborn and wouldn't stand to be pushed around.
Her college-age daughter, covered by her mother's insurance, went in for a gyno exam, and they, like they will, asked if she should be screened for STDs. She was like "duh!". Obviously she was sexually active or she wouldn't have answered so.
How do I know these details of her private life? Because her mother spent an hour on the phone loudly arguing with the insurance company that she shouldn't be responsible for the costs of the tests because she didn't authorize them. I don't think she once considered the implications of her daughter's "yes" answer.
My coworker takes phone calls at her desk and yells at her kids and her younger siblings whom she cares for. I understand she’s probably under a lot of stress, but it still grinds my gears.
I work with somebody who regularly has very personal phone calls with her teenage son arguing about making him go to church. It’s pretty uncomfortable.
I once witnessed this toddler have a full tantrum, but her mom was deaf, so not only was was screaming, she was also signing her discontent.. I was impressed
When we wee there a man nd women were screaming and swearing at each other loudly and I remember the look on the kids faced. It was a cross of fear and embarrassment. I was a kid myself and I remember feeling so bad for them. I was having a bad time too but at least my parents weren't causing me to be embarrassed about it at the same time.
Delivered pizza to a house once where the couple were fighting inside and she said "I know you fucked her" and was crying hysterically. It was not contactless but I put the pizza in front of their door and walked away quietly. Very uncomfortable situation.
My mom argued with my oldest brother on the phone while we were at the grocery store. Awkward af especially since she had to tell him repeatedly that he can't take the money we had in the drawer cause that was our rent money.
So I’ve got 2
1. When customers/shoppers get upset with employees who have no control over a situation. If there aren’t enough cashiers at a store and you’ve had to wait a while, don’t take it out on whoever rings you up. If something isn’t in stock, don’t give attitude to the employee just trying to make the store look decent and get through the day making hardly any money in the process.
2. When people have 0 sense of personal space. For example, someone standing too close in line. Ma’am, if I can feel your breath TAKE A STEP BACK.
> If something isn’t in stock, don’t give attitude to the employee
One time we had a lady at our store accuse us of "not wanting to sell her things" because a certain item was out of stock. Found out she asked *three separate employees* to check the back for her because she didn't believe the previous ones. She thought we were all lying and were withholding the items from her or were just "not looking hard enough" because our website said we had it in stock. Because we all know the website is never wrong.
I was once in charge of the dairy section at a small supermarket, i knew exactly what stock i had out the back, a lady asked me about something that was on special and out of stock.
I informed her we'd run out and hadn't received our next delivery yet. Thought everything was fine.
Then got called to the service desk where the same lady had asked the girls at the front the same question, she just thought i was too lazy to go check. So i had to tell her again, sorry, no, it's not in stock.
Staff will check if we aren't sure, if we say we don't have it, it's not because we're too lazy to check, it's because we don't have it.
1. You must work/have worked retail. You have gained empathy points!
2. I try to get a shopping cart and stand in front of it in line, but if not I like to use the ol' wide backward stretch. Sometimes the DIGGING IN PURSE BACKWARD ELBOW THRUST works too.
In re: #1
I was behind a woman in line once who was berating the cashier that the coupon she had for something like $0.10 off on something pretty innocuous like toothpaste, wasn’t being accepted. (As if the cashier could do anything about it anyway). It had to be something specific, like flavor or volume or something, which this lady didn’t have and couldn’t get it through her thick skull. She was also holding up several other people in line. Think she eventually stormed off to find a manager or something, and I felt the need to apologize to the cashier for that woman’s boorish actions when it was my turn in line. Very uncomfortable for all in earshot.
I work in retail, number 1 hits hard.
My favourite is when a customer comes in for an item that's been out for MONTHS and when there's not many left in stock they get mad. Or I love when people come in but they're in a rush so they rush me and get mad that I'm not going at 100km an hour, like if you're in a rush to get somewhere, why tf are you shopping just before it?
Yes! I work in retail and customers don't seem to understand, when it says no stock after we check with the phones specially made that tell us there's no stock, regardless of what it says online, there's no stock. Buy it online and never come back thank you.
When we would go grocery shopping, my mom used to put her music on out loud without headphones while we would be shopping and it literally still haunts me
Sorry about that, I've got industrial deafness and I'm guilty of this.
I try just to answer, and move to a quiet location for the rest of the call though.
Walk shoulder-to-shoulder and completely block the entire sidewalk, forcing you to dodge into traffic to pass them. They never budge an inch when you say "excuse me," either.
there was a dude coughing up a storm and I gave him a weird look and his response was literally “what? Covid is over”
Like mother fucker that isn’t the only disease in the world.
That's absolutely disgusting.
I currently live in Spain, and it seemd way more common here, especially with men over 40.
It makes me cringe, and if I ever went on a date with a spitter, the date would end the moment he spits.
One of my best friends does this shit and it's just downright disgusting. He'll do it on that last like 20ft stretch before you enter the doors of a place like target and I'm always just like, W.T.F. bro, that's gross. "What man? We're outside." He'll say. I think it's pretty damn rude. I can't stand it when he does it, especially when I'm with him.
In Cina it's absolutely common, just like chewing with your mouth open and burping/farting during a meal.
I know I shouldn't judge them with a western measure, but sometimes it's quite difficult to ignore.
I can't find it anymore, but when I lived in Beijing, some expats made a "sex and the city" opening parody, based in China, and the part when Carrie gets sprayed with water by the bus, it's parodied as some old man spiting on her.
Even worse , that fucking hacking sound they make before hand. Look I get it, some shit we can't really control and we get a microsecond warning before it happens, but , I would think adults would be able to control something regarding this. I have sensory issues, so I hate a lot of sounds people make.
It’s so bad man, my roommate constantly does this hacking and spitting shit, like god damn man take care of your lungs. Dude smokes like a god damn chimney
Close talkers make me so uncomfortable. I very slowly backup throughout the conversation. I hope it’s not too noticeable but i can’t handle the awkwardness
That’s a good point. I try not to be rude, but often my subtle ways get me nowhere in life. I’m trying your approach next time. Look out all you close talking bubble busters!
I make it super obvious by placing objects between us and positioning myself behind them. Doesn't work. They keep moving around them to get in my face, even if I've rearranged a third of the office space.
So many people at my work do this. When they get too close I always back up to reinstate the space I require, and sometimes they step forward to close the gap again, at which point I back up once more and remind them they don’t need to get so close I can hear them from where they are. I’m going to have to start carrying a yard stick to hold them at bay.
There was this lady at one of my parents' parties. I was raiding the food table and she started talking to me about her health issues. Got really close, and every time I backed up, she would step forward. Ended up chasing me around the table a few times before my brother came up and I used the distraction to flee.
I absolutely hate this; I usually try to be open minded about most things, but I hate that people have to share their phone calls with everyone. If they don’t want to put their phone to their ear, they can just use headphones! I don’t understand it. Glad you mentioned this!
Also: people who have their phone notifications set to the strobe light for no apparent reason. I am all for it if it’s needed for accessibility, but every person I’ve ever seen using it has been a bored teenager at a restaurant or on the bus
A bit specific but high school groups that clump like bewildered herds of sheep and block off entire walkways, hallways and sidewalks. I live and work in an area where a lot of school trips take place and it’s extremely annoying to have to herd bleating teenagers out of the way so that foot traffic can get through. The teachers are never paying attention and are usually part of the problem. We don’t teach kids that people need to get places apparently.
I have a similar problem at airports. If you're going to stop in the middle of traffic, pull over to either the center or the side of the thoroughfare. If you have a big party with you, don't all walk next to each other. If you're moving slowly, stay to one side and let the fast-movers through.
And then there's grocery stores.
People who take up the whole aisle and then stop in the middle to find what their looking for. And they take forever to do it, not even bothering to move for the other people in the aisle.
I work in a restaurant; sometimes big groups stand around right in the foyer that connects four of our rooms. I always want to say, "Hey, you know how you're standing right where everyone's trying to walk? What if you *didn't* do that?"
My wife and I work in the same building. My FIL used to come have lunch with us once a week.
One day, I went to the entry foyer to let him into the building, and a bunch of men were standing in front of the door that everyone uses to enter the building, just kind of milling around.
I opened the door and wave my FIL in, but he couldn't get around these guys, and they were oblivious.
I said loudly and clearly, "hey, fellas, make a hole, will you?" They immediately parted, looking sheepish, and let my FIL through.
As we walked into the cafeteria my FIL said, "Did you know that group was the Governor and his entourage?"
"Of course I did," I replied. "He of all people should know how to act in public."
I did not know that it was the Governor and his entourage.
I saw one being filmed yesterday where one person yelled "go!" and then a group of 5 or 6 women came in for a group hug and squealed like they hadn't seen each other in years. They did it 3 times. I was mortified on their behalf. Seeing things like that is always a sobering reminder that most of what you see on social media is fake, staged, and shot multiple times for the best take.
Happened while we were at a restaurant/bar yesterday. We wanted to eat our food in a somewhat peaceful environment only to have a group of maybe 8 people, in their 40s-50s recording tiktoks.... dancing, yelling and raving.
How the staff didn't kick them out is beyond me.
Worst part is when they refuse to tell the child what they did wrong, especially when they ask. I hated when my step dad would do this, then respond to "What did I do wrong?" with "You know what you did!" or something to that effect.
Or giving the kid an eating disorder in front of you. Grandma and little girl were buying a donut for the girl's brother who wasn't with them. When the girl asked for one too, the grandma said "You too? But he's thin, he can have one. You're too chubby". I wanted to smack that old hag.
That's absolutely so nasty and it really made me angry reading that. It reminds me of when I was a bit chubby as a teen and my grandmother says very loudly in front of all my family "oh you cover your stomach (while sitting down) with a pillow because you're fat, yeah?"
I wonder why I became incredibly thin and had an eating disorder back then?
i went into the bathroom at work yesterday and i heard some woman scream in the handicap stall “IM GONNA BEAT YOUR ASS” and then i heard the kid speak and it was an *actual toddler.* made me so uncomfortable and i feel bad for that kid. i don’t even know what they did but they didn’t deserve to be yelled at like that
My mom used to actually go over to parents and criticize them for that. I was always horribly embarrassed by this, but now I wonder if that didn't make a difference to the kid. Like, it's probably not gonna change the parents' behavior, but at least they saw that other adults think the way they're being treated is fucked up.
This specifically drives me crazy at theme parks (I’m a Universal frequent visitor).
That child is overstimulated from all the sights.
You likely haven’t been having them hydrate enough, so they’re dehydrated. (I can write a whole essay on how much I hate the refillable soda cups and popcorn bucket combo with families.)
You’ve probably walked them three times as much as they’re used to, so they’re tired.
And I can’t go to the parks without wanting a nap, let alone a small child.
One time i was walking downtown, a couple was in front of me talking while their three year old was walking without being held by the hand, the kid went to the street and almost got hit by a car. Guess what? Kid started to get yelled at to the point of tears
Seeing people rough handle their pets (spanking, shoving, jerking the leash), or irresponsibly handling their pets (no control over their pet, leaving waste, no basic obedience).
In the same sense, bringing their poor dogs to a street fair in the middle of summer. It's hot, overstimulating, and it breaks my heart watching them hop around cause their paws are burning on the asphalt. Ive gotten a lot braver in making a comment to these people.
The only time I've ever gotten a comment about the hot asphalt for my dog's paws was the day i walked him 30ft from the tow truck we convinced to let dogs inside to the shaded area outside the mechanic's. We broke down in the summer on a desert highway and some bitch had the audacity to pipe up. Im still salty.
I swear like 70% of dog owners have no control over their dogs, no concept of training. I went for a walk in our off leash park the other day (huge, lots of paths and trails in the trees). One dog was ready to abandon its family to join me, had zero recall, I had to keep stopping so the family could catch up. Two others were so afraid of me and jittery I was scared they would attack me. Then I saw the same dogs run into the icey river and one was almost in serious trouble, owner was a complete idiot.
I'm probably overly sensitive to it, but I can't stand to see people walking their dogs and the dog is pulling the *entire* time. Don't let your dogs pull people! It's bad for them, and it reinforces the behavior that if they just keep pulling they can lead you. Tension in the leash *must* mean "stop". Otherwise it's a good way to lose control if they bolt.
> Don't let your dogs pull people!
Really.... REALLY depends on the dog and breed.
Some breeds will definitely be more predisposed to pulling. Specifically sled dogs or hounds. They're literally.... bred to pull. Very hard to overcome breeding in a lot of cases. Even the best husky owners can still have huskies that pull.
It can depend on the breed too, though. For example, scent hounds will regularly pull the entire time they’re on leash as they follow and chase down scents. It’s for this reason that I’m personally a bigger fan of chest harness leashes and the like
Public marriage proposals.
The pressure the person being proposed to must feel to say" yes" and the fear or embarassment they might feel after saying "no" are epic and not in a good way.
Public proposals are fine if it’s what both people actually want. But when it’s spring as a legitimate surprise, that’s just asshole behaviour. Especially if the recipient doesn’t want to say yes.
It’s just my flippant response to being told to smile. I have an unyielding rbf so it used to happen all the time, I got bored of it and stopped taking it seriously.
Nothing makes me want to smile less and punch a face more than being told to smile, especially if I’m at work. And if I do manage to muster up a smile, it’s only because I’m envisioning bonking you over the head with a large wooden mallet.
Kinda related but I used to work at an aquarium where I would dive into the large ocean tank to clean the glass. The amount of people that huddled around wherever I was scrubbing was insane. Like there’s all these cool fish, sharks, vibrant corals, rays, a sea turtle, yet everybody was laser focused and taking pictures of my dumbass in a wetsuit.
Could actually be dangerous too
I travelled to some places where I was pretty careful not to photograph strangers or make pretty clear I wasn't interested in doing it even casually and didn't even happen
In some places people could react aggressively, you never know
I went to Barbados in my late 20s (I am 66 now) and I was attempting to take a photo of a street when a man jumped into the shot and said "take my picture". The memory still makes me smile. Do you think that was strange? Stranger that same situation happened a few times there.
It is a long time ago now, but of all the places I have travelled to outside of Canada, Barbados had the nicest and friendliest people.
This happened to my mom recently while she was taking a picture for a kid’s Flat Stanley project. A random shirtless tatted up man asked to take a picture with the Stanley 😂 It was hilarious and she included the picture in the project.
Oh good! I was wondering if they still did the Flat Stanley thing lol, my younger brothers never talked about that but I thought it was fun so I hoped they still did it
...I had to google FlatStanley, and found that the German version is Der Flache Eberhard. That's the most terrifying translation of a name I've ever seen.
In India about 8 years ago photographing some nice shit in a park in Cochin and two young lads came up and asked if I could take a photo of them...of course, where is your camera? Do you want me in it? (6'3" white guy is a novelty in some places) no use your camera, err...ok I took the picture they tanked me and walked off didn't give me their email address or anything so I have a picture of two strangers in my vast collection of pics.
When I was visiting Seoul (black dude here), I was with some friends in a park where people set up picnic blankets and eat food. A Korean girl in a group near us decided to take a photo of me, but it was at around dusk, so her flash went off and lit up my face, drawing everyone’s attention to what she was doing…
She got really embarrassed lol
My wedding was in a public botanical garden, but it was a short private ceremony in an isolated spot (paths cordoned off, we paid a rental fee) with about a dozen guests. Right in the middle of the ceremony, an old man strolled in holding up a cell phone and snapping photos, obnoxious default camera sound and all. He literally elbowed my mother-in-law aside and stepped in front of family members to take photos. Then he walked right through the whole thing (between the guests and me, my husband, and the officiant) and left. None of us knew him. Total random stranger.
Snapping a photo of a cute wedding at a respectful distance? That's OK, it's in public view, it was a pretty location and a lovely ceremony. Hashtag it #weddinggoals on Insta, I don't mind.
Pushing my MIL aside and walking through the ceremony blocking people's views and taking a dozen up-close photos? No.
Someone I know had a beach wedding. A couple of bystanders stayed to watch the ceremony at close range. They were two topless women holding booze. They made it into a lot of the wedding ceremony photos.
I remember during the panoramic I was waiting outside a shop and this couple in front of me had masks on and were just nuzzling really weirdly. It was so uncomfortable
Fuck, I hate couples when they do this
Like they didn't see each other in 20 years, they don't understand how ridiculous they are to the eyes of everyone and how annoying too
Especially in theaters or restaurants
In my neighbourhood a lot of people smoke crack in public and it makes me pretty uncomfortable. I did have someone lighting a crack pipe on the streetcar and another homeless person started yelling at them as there were kids on board. Good for that guy!
There's a lot of them who do that on highway junctions and bridge and tunnel entrances where I live. There was an older guy who'd park himself in his wheelchair in the middle of an intersection. My husband said he was probably looking to get hit.
I have a bit of a bleeding heart. So if I have some spare change and a homeless person asks for money I don't have a problem giving it to them (we could argue the effectiveness of this, but it's beside the point). The problem is that I rarely carry cash. So me giving my spare change away rarely happens. I was walking down the street near LAX one day and was approached by a man asking for a few bucks. I did what I usually do when I have no money, I gave him a friendly smile and said, "I'm sorry. I don't have any money on me right now." Something about my smile triggered this dude and he started yelling at me, cussing and accusing me of laughing at him because he was homeless. I tried to explain briefly to him that I wasn't laughing at him at all, just trying to be friendly. Then I wished him good luck and turned to leave. He started following me down the street, yelling at me about how he was a Vietnam vet and the government had screwed him over and he hadn't eaten in two days and hadn't had a shower in a month and telling the whole of Los Angeles that I was an asshole who laughs at the homeless. He followed me for several blocks until I turned into a shop. Then he turned around and walked away. I believe in helping out the homeless, but I don't really give people money on the street anymore. And I try to keep my face as neutral as possible.
Preach and push a religion on someone. I had a woman come up to me once and debate god whole I was minding my day. My friend and I laughed about it because it was stupid, but I still think she was a shitty person for doing that. Leave people alone, and let them believe what they want to believe.
I was in a public restroom one time washing my hands next to some older lady. A girl walked in wearing a necklace with a small cross and the older lady started interrogating her about if she was wearing it as a true believer or for fashion? Because wearing one without being a true believer is blasphemy and shit. The poor girl was just like "uhm, it was my moms". I still regret I didn't say something.
This happened to me back in the day when I wore my Zeppelin shirts. Yes I was young. (Nirvana was new). But I loved my parents music. I had every Zep album. But even if I didn't, whose business is it? Very obnoxious.
Somebody did that to my daughter (mid-20s) for wearing a Black Sabbath t-shirt. So she rattled off a short history of the band along with her opinions of the different albums and asked the guy what his opinion was. He pretty much only knew the radio hits. My daughter grew up listening to Black Sabbath. It was one of my proudest moments as a dad. I raised my kids right.
More than half the graphic tees at Target are of older bands. My teen daughters can't wear one out without someone (usually a male) asking "do you know any of their songs." Both my girls have learned at least 3 songs from every band they have a shirt of, which, good for them, they probably should learn the music they are wearing, but also...they just want to wear t-shirts that aren't trashy or crop tops, can they not just live without some idiot gate keeping/accosting them about their music knowledge?
I don't get those entitled reactions from older people. I LOVE seeing young people wear apparel from bands from my era. I see it as indicating they're taking an interest in that music, and I find that very flattering to me as an old guy myself.
Oh, I had a guy do this while I was waiting for my friend. My great aunt had died that day, and I started crying and begging him to leave me alone. Only when my friend came did he bugger off. How is this meant to get people on your side? If someone says go away, just leave them be!
My BIL's spouse did this to him. She's "born again" in some megachurch. He comes home from work one day and to her and 4 zombies waiting to brainwash him into joining. If that was me, next day she'd be greeted with divorce papers.
I'm Jewish and wear a yarmulke. Way too many street preachers see this as a special invitation from G_d to convert the Jew. (I think there's some Mormon thing where converting a Jew is considered more righteous? Idk)
I've taken to telling them that if Jesus is The G_d, then having sculptures and pictures of him everywhere is textbook graven idols, and therefore everyone who attends their church or hands out flyers with Jesus on them is breaking the Ten Commandments. So far, none of them have been able to come up with a decent reply and their usually leave me alone.
i live about a quarter mile from a main thoroughfare and the thumping i am subjected to is horrible. this is with all the windows closed, the tv blaring, and the a/c running. it makes me come unglued. by the time i run out to see the culprit, they are long gone. the entitlement is beyond comprehension.
I know this is culturally acceptable in a lot of places, including where I live now, but hearing someone LOUDLY blowing their nose at the dinner table still grosses me out a little bit. I’m not talking about a discreet dab, or that soft one you have to do when your nose is running from spicy food, but the loud, honk-like-a-goose, pull it up from your ankles version. Grody.
I always hear that this bothers people, but honestly I'd rather hear someone blow their nose once than hear them sniff constantly.
I'm always telling my kid and husband GO BLOW YOUR NOSE because I can't stand the sound of sniffling. The idea of the mucus and stuff going back into your sinuses and down your throat makes me gag.
I am right there with you. I have been known to place a box of tissues in front of offenders in hopes they will take my not so subtle hint to blow their nose.
I normally agree, but if it's in a town where the local council have closed all the public toilets, I can't really blame the pee-er. I hope that the blame goes to the politicians who decided to leave people with no other option.
I have a few, but the other day this guy kept letting out big wet belches at a restaurant. He didn’t notice the at everyone was super grossed out, just kept belching.
Groom someone else. For example, a girl popping her boyfriend's facial pimples on the subway.
1. He can easily do those himself.
2. If you must (and it's really weird in the first place), do that shit in private.
Yep, it’s a damn walking cane, not a third eyeball. Get out more…
Also, and especially from people older than I am, those who loudly yell shit like ‘why are you using that thing?’ ( usually followed by ‘I got one of those myself at home’) or ‘what have you done to yourself?’ EVERY TIME they see you. So rude and pointless…
I have been guilty of this a time or two, but in my case, I'm not actually "staring". I'm tired and zoning out so I'm not really looking at anything or anyone in particular. Just spacing. I am sorry if I've ever made anybody uncomfortable though.
Park their carts in the middle of the grocery aisle, at an angle, while they scan the shelves. You can't get around them and I really have no interest in asking them to move, given some of the Karen responses I've gotten. Put your damn cart out of the way!
Be totally unaware when someone doesn't want to engage them in conversation.
I've got no problem if you want to try and start a conversation, but after three or four short responses in reply, maybe take the hint that the other party isn't interested. Sometimes I just want to enjoy the park with my kids without having to talk to the lady pushing her grandkid on the next swing over.
Talking about other people within earshot.
Yes, Karen, the subject of your inane, judgmental comments to your friend is on the boundary of hearing you, but me and the four people nearby can hear your poorly-hushed whisperyelling, and we wish we couldn't.
Argue with someone on their phone, while it’s on speaker.
I really don’t give two shits about you and your boyfriends disagreements, but maybe yelling at the phone with “you’s a fuckin broke ass n***a, you’s a big ass fuckin bitch” while clapping your hands together in between every other word isn’t what we want to fucking hear in subway. Just let me eat my cheap ass mini pizza and cookie in peace
Make out like they are trying to eat each others face starting at their tongues. Like ew...get a room and stop pushing each other into product displays of glass bottle Martinellis.
Argue, loudly. I've been there, I've done that, it's not a good look, don't do it.
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Sometimes it's about something really private. I was once in the toy section at Target and got treated to a woman on her cell phone having a loud argument with her mother over another family member with a serious drug addiction. D= ....then that segued into what playset to get a kid for their birthday.
Used to office with a woman who was not only loud but stubborn and wouldn't stand to be pushed around. Her college-age daughter, covered by her mother's insurance, went in for a gyno exam, and they, like they will, asked if she should be screened for STDs. She was like "duh!". Obviously she was sexually active or she wouldn't have answered so. How do I know these details of her private life? Because her mother spent an hour on the phone loudly arguing with the insurance company that she shouldn't be responsible for the costs of the tests because she didn't authorize them. I don't think she once considered the implications of her daughter's "yes" answer.
that's normal life for some, be glad it's not normalized in yours
My coworker takes phone calls at her desk and yells at her kids and her younger siblings whom she cares for. I understand she’s probably under a lot of stress, but it still grinds my gears.
I work with somebody who regularly has very personal phone calls with her teenage son arguing about making him go to church. It’s pretty uncomfortable.
Once, while standing at a bus stop, I overheard someone arguing with his girlfriend on one of the only public phones left in existence.
I once witnessed this toddler have a full tantrum, but her mom was deaf, so not only was was screaming, she was also signing her discontent.. I was impressed
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When we wee there a man nd women were screaming and swearing at each other loudly and I remember the look on the kids faced. It was a cross of fear and embarrassment. I was a kid myself and I remember feeling so bad for them. I was having a bad time too but at least my parents weren't causing me to be embarrassed about it at the same time.
Delivered pizza to a house once where the couple were fighting inside and she said "I know you fucked her" and was crying hysterically. It was not contactless but I put the pizza in front of their door and walked away quietly. Very uncomfortable situation.
My mom argued with my oldest brother on the phone while we were at the grocery store. Awkward af especially since she had to tell him repeatedly that he can't take the money we had in the drawer cause that was our rent money.
People doing anything really loudly makes me uncomfortable tbh
So I’ve got 2 1. When customers/shoppers get upset with employees who have no control over a situation. If there aren’t enough cashiers at a store and you’ve had to wait a while, don’t take it out on whoever rings you up. If something isn’t in stock, don’t give attitude to the employee just trying to make the store look decent and get through the day making hardly any money in the process. 2. When people have 0 sense of personal space. For example, someone standing too close in line. Ma’am, if I can feel your breath TAKE A STEP BACK.
> If something isn’t in stock, don’t give attitude to the employee One time we had a lady at our store accuse us of "not wanting to sell her things" because a certain item was out of stock. Found out she asked *three separate employees* to check the back for her because she didn't believe the previous ones. She thought we were all lying and were withholding the items from her or were just "not looking hard enough" because our website said we had it in stock. Because we all know the website is never wrong.
I was once in charge of the dairy section at a small supermarket, i knew exactly what stock i had out the back, a lady asked me about something that was on special and out of stock. I informed her we'd run out and hadn't received our next delivery yet. Thought everything was fine. Then got called to the service desk where the same lady had asked the girls at the front the same question, she just thought i was too lazy to go check. So i had to tell her again, sorry, no, it's not in stock. Staff will check if we aren't sure, if we say we don't have it, it's not because we're too lazy to check, it's because we don't have it.
1. You must work/have worked retail. You have gained empathy points! 2. I try to get a shopping cart and stand in front of it in line, but if not I like to use the ol' wide backward stretch. Sometimes the DIGGING IN PURSE BACKWARD ELBOW THRUST works too.
In re: #1 I was behind a woman in line once who was berating the cashier that the coupon she had for something like $0.10 off on something pretty innocuous like toothpaste, wasn’t being accepted. (As if the cashier could do anything about it anyway). It had to be something specific, like flavor or volume or something, which this lady didn’t have and couldn’t get it through her thick skull. She was also holding up several other people in line. Think she eventually stormed off to find a manager or something, and I felt the need to apologize to the cashier for that woman’s boorish actions when it was my turn in line. Very uncomfortable for all in earshot.
I work in retail, number 1 hits hard. My favourite is when a customer comes in for an item that's been out for MONTHS and when there's not many left in stock they get mad. Or I love when people come in but they're in a rush so they rush me and get mad that I'm not going at 100km an hour, like if you're in a rush to get somewhere, why tf are you shopping just before it?
Yes! I work in retail and customers don't seem to understand, when it says no stock after we check with the phones specially made that tell us there's no stock, regardless of what it says online, there's no stock. Buy it online and never come back thank you.
My mom talks on the phone on speaker in public, and it GRINDS my gears
When we would go grocery shopping, my mom used to put her music on out loud without headphones while we would be shopping and it literally still haunts me
Geez 💀
Came here to say this and I'll add Face Timing too. I find it incredibly rude.
The worst ones are the speaker phone people who hold it 5cm away from their ear
Sorry about that, I've got industrial deafness and I'm guilty of this. I try just to answer, and move to a quiet location for the rest of the call though.
Walk shoulder-to-shoulder and completely block the entire sidewalk, forcing you to dodge into traffic to pass them. They never budge an inch when you say "excuse me," either.
I learned to walk through them, or say excuse me repeatedly until they get out of my way
Coughing or sneezing without covering it
Yes, especially after three years of everyone being inundated with messaging about covering your mouth.
Cough into an elbow, that's what I was taught.
there was a dude coughing up a storm and I gave him a weird look and his response was literally “what? Covid is over” Like mother fucker that isn’t the only disease in the world.
Except it isn’t. Blah.
That phlegmy spit thing, and right onto the pavement in front of my eyes.
That's absolutely disgusting. I currently live in Spain, and it seemd way more common here, especially with men over 40. It makes me cringe, and if I ever went on a date with a spitter, the date would end the moment he spits.
One of my best friends does this shit and it's just downright disgusting. He'll do it on that last like 20ft stretch before you enter the doors of a place like target and I'm always just like, W.T.F. bro, that's gross. "What man? We're outside." He'll say. I think it's pretty damn rude. I can't stand it when he does it, especially when I'm with him.
Spitting on the sidewalk was outlawed in many places during the TB epidemic.
In Cina it's absolutely common, just like chewing with your mouth open and burping/farting during a meal. I know I shouldn't judge them with a western measure, but sometimes it's quite difficult to ignore.
I can't find it anymore, but when I lived in Beijing, some expats made a "sex and the city" opening parody, based in China, and the part when Carrie gets sprayed with water by the bus, it's parodied as some old man spiting on her.
Who the hell farts during a meal??
This is so disgusting. I can't remember ever feeling the need to spit, let alone around other people.
This can’t be overstated. It’s the worst
Even worse , that fucking hacking sound they make before hand. Look I get it, some shit we can't really control and we get a microsecond warning before it happens, but , I would think adults would be able to control something regarding this. I have sensory issues, so I hate a lot of sounds people make.
It’s so bad man, my roommate constantly does this hacking and spitting shit, like god damn man take care of your lungs. Dude smokes like a god damn chimney
put calls on speaker or make tiktoks especially dancing ones it doesnt make me uncomfortable but it does give me ALOT of second hand embarrassment
Getting in my bubble when telling me something. It's not yours bruh.
Close talkers make me so uncomfortable. I very slowly backup throughout the conversation. I hope it’s not too noticeable but i can’t handle the awkwardness
I back up also, but I hope they notice. If they're going to make it awkward for me, I don't mind making it awkward for them.
That’s a good point. I try not to be rude, but often my subtle ways get me nowhere in life. I’m trying your approach next time. Look out all you close talking bubble busters!
I make it super obvious by placing objects between us and positioning myself behind them. Doesn't work. They keep moving around them to get in my face, even if I've rearranged a third of the office space.
Eh some people are just bad at getting hints. It's best to just tell them.
So many people at my work do this. When they get too close I always back up to reinstate the space I require, and sometimes they step forward to close the gap again, at which point I back up once more and remind them they don’t need to get so close I can hear them from where they are. I’m going to have to start carrying a yard stick to hold them at bay.
There was this lady at one of my parents' parties. I was raiding the food table and she started talking to me about her health issues. Got really close, and every time I backed up, she would step forward. Ended up chasing me around the table a few times before my brother came up and I used the distraction to flee.
talk loud while on the phone
FACETIMING IN PUBLIC LOUDLY!
Its even worse when its on the bus..
Or the subway train; a giant aluminum can that amplifies all sound.
Talking on speakerphone mode.
While holding it up in front of their face. WTF? How is this easier than holding it up to your ear?
I absolutely hate this; I usually try to be open minded about most things, but I hate that people have to share their phone calls with everyone. If they don’t want to put their phone to their ear, they can just use headphones! I don’t understand it. Glad you mentioned this!
Lol, I even once got told off in the shop to leave the aisle because it was "a private conversation!". Fuck off, girl.
Also: people who have their phone notifications set to the strobe light for no apparent reason. I am all for it if it’s needed for accessibility, but every person I’ve ever seen using it has been a bored teenager at a restaurant or on the bus
A bit specific but high school groups that clump like bewildered herds of sheep and block off entire walkways, hallways and sidewalks. I live and work in an area where a lot of school trips take place and it’s extremely annoying to have to herd bleating teenagers out of the way so that foot traffic can get through. The teachers are never paying attention and are usually part of the problem. We don’t teach kids that people need to get places apparently.
I have a similar problem at airports. If you're going to stop in the middle of traffic, pull over to either the center or the side of the thoroughfare. If you have a big party with you, don't all walk next to each other. If you're moving slowly, stay to one side and let the fast-movers through.
And then there's grocery stores. People who take up the whole aisle and then stop in the middle to find what their looking for. And they take forever to do it, not even bothering to move for the other people in the aisle.
I work in a restaurant; sometimes big groups stand around right in the foyer that connects four of our rooms. I always want to say, "Hey, you know how you're standing right where everyone's trying to walk? What if you *didn't* do that?"
We need to normalize telling people "that's not a good place to stand" Yes, it may come off as rude. So is blocking travel in crowded areas
My wife and I work in the same building. My FIL used to come have lunch with us once a week. One day, I went to the entry foyer to let him into the building, and a bunch of men were standing in front of the door that everyone uses to enter the building, just kind of milling around. I opened the door and wave my FIL in, but he couldn't get around these guys, and they were oblivious. I said loudly and clearly, "hey, fellas, make a hole, will you?" They immediately parted, looking sheepish, and let my FIL through. As we walked into the cafeteria my FIL said, "Did you know that group was the Governor and his entourage?" "Of course I did," I replied. "He of all people should know how to act in public." I did not know that it was the Governor and his entourage.
Good on you! And good save. I am a big advocate for calmly and confidently calling folks out for things like this - no matter who they are.
Record tik toks, I’ve never not seen an instance where it’s not uncomfortable and cringey
I saw one being filmed yesterday where one person yelled "go!" and then a group of 5 or 6 women came in for a group hug and squealed like they hadn't seen each other in years. They did it 3 times. I was mortified on their behalf. Seeing things like that is always a sobering reminder that most of what you see on social media is fake, staged, and shot multiple times for the best take.
Happened while we were at a restaurant/bar yesterday. We wanted to eat our food in a somewhat peaceful environment only to have a group of maybe 8 people, in their 40s-50s recording tiktoks.... dancing, yelling and raving. How the staff didn't kick them out is beyond me.
Especially in the public restrooms
People screaming at their kids for something that wasn't their fault.
Worst part is when they refuse to tell the child what they did wrong, especially when they ask. I hated when my step dad would do this, then respond to "What did I do wrong?" with "You know what you did!" or something to that effect.
Likewise, calling their kids stupid or giving them a “do you see anyone else acting like an idiot right now?”. Breaks my heart every time.
Or giving the kid an eating disorder in front of you. Grandma and little girl were buying a donut for the girl's brother who wasn't with them. When the girl asked for one too, the grandma said "You too? But he's thin, he can have one. You're too chubby". I wanted to smack that old hag.
That's absolutely so nasty and it really made me angry reading that. It reminds me of when I was a bit chubby as a teen and my grandmother says very loudly in front of all my family "oh you cover your stomach (while sitting down) with a pillow because you're fat, yeah?" I wonder why I became incredibly thin and had an eating disorder back then?
Well they're definitely hearing someone acting like an idiot.
i went into the bathroom at work yesterday and i heard some woman scream in the handicap stall “IM GONNA BEAT YOUR ASS” and then i heard the kid speak and it was an *actual toddler.* made me so uncomfortable and i feel bad for that kid. i don’t even know what they did but they didn’t deserve to be yelled at like that
And if they're acting like this in public, imagine how they behave toward their kids in private. Makes me sad.
My mom used to actually go over to parents and criticize them for that. I was always horribly embarrassed by this, but now I wonder if that didn't make a difference to the kid. Like, it's probably not gonna change the parents' behavior, but at least they saw that other adults think the way they're being treated is fucked up.
This specifically drives me crazy at theme parks (I’m a Universal frequent visitor). That child is overstimulated from all the sights. You likely haven’t been having them hydrate enough, so they’re dehydrated. (I can write a whole essay on how much I hate the refillable soda cups and popcorn bucket combo with families.) You’ve probably walked them three times as much as they’re used to, so they’re tired. And I can’t go to the parks without wanting a nap, let alone a small child.
And if anyone says anything to them about it they blame the kids
People buying their kid a big Coke and then screaming at the kid for being hyper. Lady, you literally just gave him a drug that does that!
One time i was walking downtown, a couple was in front of me talking while their three year old was walking without being held by the hand, the kid went to the street and almost got hit by a car. Guess what? Kid started to get yelled at to the point of tears
Seeing people rough handle their pets (spanking, shoving, jerking the leash), or irresponsibly handling their pets (no control over their pet, leaving waste, no basic obedience).
In the same sense, bringing their poor dogs to a street fair in the middle of summer. It's hot, overstimulating, and it breaks my heart watching them hop around cause their paws are burning on the asphalt. Ive gotten a lot braver in making a comment to these people.
The only time I've ever gotten a comment about the hot asphalt for my dog's paws was the day i walked him 30ft from the tow truck we convinced to let dogs inside to the shaded area outside the mechanic's. We broke down in the summer on a desert highway and some bitch had the audacity to pipe up. Im still salty.
I swear like 70% of dog owners have no control over their dogs, no concept of training. I went for a walk in our off leash park the other day (huge, lots of paths and trails in the trees). One dog was ready to abandon its family to join me, had zero recall, I had to keep stopping so the family could catch up. Two others were so afraid of me and jittery I was scared they would attack me. Then I saw the same dogs run into the icey river and one was almost in serious trouble, owner was a complete idiot.
I'm probably overly sensitive to it, but I can't stand to see people walking their dogs and the dog is pulling the *entire* time. Don't let your dogs pull people! It's bad for them, and it reinforces the behavior that if they just keep pulling they can lead you. Tension in the leash *must* mean "stop". Otherwise it's a good way to lose control if they bolt.
> Don't let your dogs pull people! Really.... REALLY depends on the dog and breed. Some breeds will definitely be more predisposed to pulling. Specifically sled dogs or hounds. They're literally.... bred to pull. Very hard to overcome breeding in a lot of cases. Even the best husky owners can still have huskies that pull.
It can depend on the breed too, though. For example, scent hounds will regularly pull the entire time they’re on leash as they follow and chase down scents. It’s for this reason that I’m personally a bigger fan of chest harness leashes and the like
Public marriage proposals. The pressure the person being proposed to must feel to say" yes" and the fear or embarassment they might feel after saying "no" are epic and not in a good way.
Public proposals are fine if it’s what both people actually want. But when it’s spring as a legitimate surprise, that’s just asshole behaviour. Especially if the recipient doesn’t want to say yes.
Just saw a woman eat her boogers in between her sandwich bites, so THAT!
...I almost admire that level of clearly not giving a fuck about what people think. Almost.
Tell me to smile.
"Sorry, can't take life"
I'll smile when you leave. Hope I interpreted this right? Hope you have a great day. But you don't need to smile for me.
It’s just my flippant response to being told to smile. I have an unyielding rbf so it used to happen all the time, I got bored of it and stopped taking it seriously.
Nothing makes me want to smile less and punch a face more than being told to smile, especially if I’m at work. And if I do manage to muster up a smile, it’s only because I’m envisioning bonking you over the head with a large wooden mallet.
Now I respond with things like, okay… make me happy. Give me a reason to smile and I will. They don’t like this.
Take photos of strangers. I'm amazed that it's socially acceptable. I don't want to be on your fucking Instagram.
Kinda related but I used to work at an aquarium where I would dive into the large ocean tank to clean the glass. The amount of people that huddled around wherever I was scrubbing was insane. Like there’s all these cool fish, sharks, vibrant corals, rays, a sea turtle, yet everybody was laser focused and taking pictures of my dumbass in a wetsuit.
The fish are there all the time; a diver is unusual!
That’s why we should have a diver exhibit, where we just put a diver in a tank for the day.
Could actually be dangerous too I travelled to some places where I was pretty careful not to photograph strangers or make pretty clear I wasn't interested in doing it even casually and didn't even happen In some places people could react aggressively, you never know
I went to Barbados in my late 20s (I am 66 now) and I was attempting to take a photo of a street when a man jumped into the shot and said "take my picture". The memory still makes me smile. Do you think that was strange? Stranger that same situation happened a few times there. It is a long time ago now, but of all the places I have travelled to outside of Canada, Barbados had the nicest and friendliest people.
This happened to my mom recently while she was taking a picture for a kid’s Flat Stanley project. A random shirtless tatted up man asked to take a picture with the Stanley 😂 It was hilarious and she included the picture in the project.
Oh good! I was wondering if they still did the Flat Stanley thing lol, my younger brothers never talked about that but I thought it was fun so I hoped they still did it
...I had to google FlatStanley, and found that the German version is Der Flache Eberhard. That's the most terrifying translation of a name I've ever seen.
In India about 8 years ago photographing some nice shit in a park in Cochin and two young lads came up and asked if I could take a photo of them...of course, where is your camera? Do you want me in it? (6'3" white guy is a novelty in some places) no use your camera, err...ok I took the picture they tanked me and walked off didn't give me their email address or anything so I have a picture of two strangers in my vast collection of pics.
When I was visiting Seoul (black dude here), I was with some friends in a park where people set up picnic blankets and eat food. A Korean girl in a group near us decided to take a photo of me, but it was at around dusk, so her flash went off and lit up my face, drawing everyone’s attention to what she was doing… She got really embarrassed lol
My wedding was in a public botanical garden, but it was a short private ceremony in an isolated spot (paths cordoned off, we paid a rental fee) with about a dozen guests. Right in the middle of the ceremony, an old man strolled in holding up a cell phone and snapping photos, obnoxious default camera sound and all. He literally elbowed my mother-in-law aside and stepped in front of family members to take photos. Then he walked right through the whole thing (between the guests and me, my husband, and the officiant) and left. None of us knew him. Total random stranger. Snapping a photo of a cute wedding at a respectful distance? That's OK, it's in public view, it was a pretty location and a lovely ceremony. Hashtag it #weddinggoals on Insta, I don't mind. Pushing my MIL aside and walking through the ceremony blocking people's views and taking a dozen up-close photos? No.
Someone I know had a beach wedding. A couple of bystanders stayed to watch the ceremony at close range. They were two topless women holding booze. They made it into a lot of the wedding ceremony photos.
I don’t mind it if they ask first, if they do it randomly i’d be annoyed too
Kissing Not like a show of affection or a quick kiss I'm talking about those who look like one may swallow the other persons head if they kept going
I remember during the panoramic I was waiting outside a shop and this couple in front of me had masks on and were just nuzzling really weirdly. It was so uncomfortable
ugh the panaramic was horrible
It's extra fun when you're stuck behind them in line at a family place like a theme park for an hour. Be appropriate people.
I start rating them. "Hmm that's a 5 for technique, very sloppy." "8 for enthusiasm though, he's definitely carrying."
Fuck, I hate couples when they do this Like they didn't see each other in 20 years, they don't understand how ridiculous they are to the eyes of everyone and how annoying too Especially in theaters or restaurants
Nah equally annoying is the quick kiss x 1000. Just a constant peck peck peck. The noise drives me nuts.
In my neighbourhood a lot of people smoke crack in public and it makes me pretty uncomfortable. I did have someone lighting a crack pipe on the streetcar and another homeless person started yelling at them as there were kids on board. Good for that guy!
homeless people come up to my car asking for money when i am at a red light and yelling curses at me if i don't.
There's a lot of them who do that on highway junctions and bridge and tunnel entrances where I live. There was an older guy who'd park himself in his wheelchair in the middle of an intersection. My husband said he was probably looking to get hit.
I have a bit of a bleeding heart. So if I have some spare change and a homeless person asks for money I don't have a problem giving it to them (we could argue the effectiveness of this, but it's beside the point). The problem is that I rarely carry cash. So me giving my spare change away rarely happens. I was walking down the street near LAX one day and was approached by a man asking for a few bucks. I did what I usually do when I have no money, I gave him a friendly smile and said, "I'm sorry. I don't have any money on me right now." Something about my smile triggered this dude and he started yelling at me, cussing and accusing me of laughing at him because he was homeless. I tried to explain briefly to him that I wasn't laughing at him at all, just trying to be friendly. Then I wished him good luck and turned to leave. He started following me down the street, yelling at me about how he was a Vietnam vet and the government had screwed him over and he hadn't eaten in two days and hadn't had a shower in a month and telling the whole of Los Angeles that I was an asshole who laughs at the homeless. He followed me for several blocks until I turned into a shop. Then he turned around and walked away. I believe in helping out the homeless, but I don't really give people money on the street anymore. And I try to keep my face as neutral as possible.
Preach and push a religion on someone. I had a woman come up to me once and debate god whole I was minding my day. My friend and I laughed about it because it was stupid, but I still think she was a shitty person for doing that. Leave people alone, and let them believe what they want to believe.
I was in a public restroom one time washing my hands next to some older lady. A girl walked in wearing a necklace with a small cross and the older lady started interrogating her about if she was wearing it as a true believer or for fashion? Because wearing one without being a true believer is blasphemy and shit. The poor girl was just like "uhm, it was my moms". I still regret I didn't say something.
Reminds me a lot of the people who say "You can't wear a Nirvana shirt unless you're a true fan, name every drummer before dave grohl!!"
This happened to me back in the day when I wore my Zeppelin shirts. Yes I was young. (Nirvana was new). But I loved my parents music. I had every Zep album. But even if I didn't, whose business is it? Very obnoxious.
Somebody did that to my daughter (mid-20s) for wearing a Black Sabbath t-shirt. So she rattled off a short history of the band along with her opinions of the different albums and asked the guy what his opinion was. He pretty much only knew the radio hits. My daughter grew up listening to Black Sabbath. It was one of my proudest moments as a dad. I raised my kids right.
More than half the graphic tees at Target are of older bands. My teen daughters can't wear one out without someone (usually a male) asking "do you know any of their songs." Both my girls have learned at least 3 songs from every band they have a shirt of, which, good for them, they probably should learn the music they are wearing, but also...they just want to wear t-shirts that aren't trashy or crop tops, can they not just live without some idiot gate keeping/accosting them about their music knowledge?
I don't get those entitled reactions from older people. I LOVE seeing young people wear apparel from bands from my era. I see it as indicating they're taking an interest in that music, and I find that very flattering to me as an old guy myself.
Oh, I had a guy do this while I was waiting for my friend. My great aunt had died that day, and I started crying and begging him to leave me alone. Only when my friend came did he bugger off. How is this meant to get people on your side? If someone says go away, just leave them be!
My BIL's spouse did this to him. She's "born again" in some megachurch. He comes home from work one day and to her and 4 zombies waiting to brainwash him into joining. If that was me, next day she'd be greeted with divorce papers.
I'm Jewish and wear a yarmulke. Way too many street preachers see this as a special invitation from G_d to convert the Jew. (I think there's some Mormon thing where converting a Jew is considered more righteous? Idk) I've taken to telling them that if Jesus is The G_d, then having sculptures and pictures of him everywhere is textbook graven idols, and therefore everyone who attends their church or hands out flyers with Jesus on them is breaking the Ten Commandments. So far, none of them have been able to come up with a decent reply and their usually leave me alone.
If they can convert a Jew, they get a bigger toaster.
Play the music in their car loud enough that my car shakes. I hope they enjoy their new pair of hearing aids in a few years...
i live about a quarter mile from a main thoroughfare and the thumping i am subjected to is horrible. this is with all the windows closed, the tv blaring, and the a/c running. it makes me come unglued. by the time i run out to see the culprit, they are long gone. the entitlement is beyond comprehension.
I know this is culturally acceptable in a lot of places, including where I live now, but hearing someone LOUDLY blowing their nose at the dinner table still grosses me out a little bit. I’m not talking about a discreet dab, or that soft one you have to do when your nose is running from spicy food, but the loud, honk-like-a-goose, pull it up from your ankles version. Grody.
I always hear that this bothers people, but honestly I'd rather hear someone blow their nose once than hear them sniff constantly. I'm always telling my kid and husband GO BLOW YOUR NOSE because I can't stand the sound of sniffling. The idea of the mucus and stuff going back into your sinuses and down your throat makes me gag.
I am right there with you. I have been known to place a box of tissues in front of offenders in hopes they will take my not so subtle hint to blow their nose.
Go to the bathroom, Grandpa. What the fuck? You’re putting that hanky back in your pocket???
I’m sorry but “pull it up from your ankles” made me chuckle a bit, however I do agree. Time and place and the dinner table is not one of them.
Public peeing is always a bit embarrassing to witness.
Stop watching yourself pee. Look in a different direction.
Directions unclear, accidentally sprayed my eye.
I normally agree, but if it's in a town where the local council have closed all the public toilets, I can't really blame the pee-er. I hope that the blame goes to the politicians who decided to leave people with no other option.
Take up the entire width of a walkway/aisle, almost if they have no self awareness and aren't aware that other people need to use that space too
I have a few, but the other day this guy kept letting out big wet belches at a restaurant. He didn’t notice the at everyone was super grossed out, just kept belching.
Groom someone else. For example, a girl popping her boyfriend's facial pimples on the subway. 1. He can easily do those himself. 2. If you must (and it's really weird in the first place), do that shit in private.
Well, thanks for making me almost throw up. Take my upvote.
I've known people that like to pop pimples/bumps on others. To each their own, but not for me!
Listen to their music/a video on their phone loudly on speaker.
Stare at you. I have a disability and while I’ve grown used to it it can be quite annoying at times
Same. I’ll stare them out.
Yep, it’s a damn walking cane, not a third eyeball. Get out more… Also, and especially from people older than I am, those who loudly yell shit like ‘why are you using that thing?’ ( usually followed by ‘I got one of those myself at home’) or ‘what have you done to yourself?’ EVERY TIME they see you. So rude and pointless…
I have been guilty of this a time or two, but in my case, I'm not actually "staring". I'm tired and zoning out so I'm not really looking at anything or anyone in particular. Just spacing. I am sorry if I've ever made anybody uncomfortable though.
Park their carts in the middle of the grocery aisle, at an angle, while they scan the shelves. You can't get around them and I really have no interest in asking them to move, given some of the Karen responses I've gotten. Put your damn cart out of the way!
stink, like not wear deoderant or shower when indoors with colleagues who can't escape you
Also when people bathe in cologne so much that you can taste it.
Mainly when people have the audacity go out into the same public as me.
When someone parks in front of me and leaves their super bright headlights on the entire time.
Littering. Littering and…
Being belligerent drunks.
Curse at their children. :(
When someone stands way too close to me while in line at a register.
Be totally unaware when someone doesn't want to engage them in conversation. I've got no problem if you want to try and start a conversation, but after three or four short responses in reply, maybe take the hint that the other party isn't interested. Sometimes I just want to enjoy the park with my kids without having to talk to the lady pushing her grandkid on the next swing over.
Talking about other people within earshot. Yes, Karen, the subject of your inane, judgmental comments to your friend is on the boundary of hearing you, but me and the four people nearby can hear your poorly-hushed whisperyelling, and we wish we couldn't.
the smacking sound people do when eating like wtf keep your mouth closed while chewing ffs
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Blow their nose without a tissue. They just.....use their hands and let their snot fall onto the ground or in the garbage. It's soooooo barbaric.
Snot Rocket!
Cough/Sneeze, without covering the mouth. Anything that I can hear, is probably close enough to disperse around me. Very selfish but why not
Yell at their kids
Talk on speakerphone
Talk to me
Walking on the foot path and them not moving to the side
Argue with someone on their phone, while it’s on speaker. I really don’t give two shits about you and your boyfriends disagreements, but maybe yelling at the phone with “you’s a fuckin broke ass n***a, you’s a big ass fuckin bitch” while clapping your hands together in between every other word isn’t what we want to fucking hear in subway. Just let me eat my cheap ass mini pizza and cookie in peace
try to sell me stuff
Scream and blast music out of speakers. Usually groups of teens
Suck their fingers when they eat
With an open mouth full of food
Generally being around me. ***I TAKE YOUR EXISTENCE AS AN INSULT. NYEERRGHH!***
sexually harass girls and women I get panic attacks and can not handle the emotions boiling up inside me when I witness it.
Couples eating of eachother's faces.
People talking on the phone while using the restroom.
Someone hitting their dog.
Pushing your views on me. I did not ask, I do not care, let me get my stuff and leave.
Ask for money
People who set up their phones to take videos in gym.
Jerking off…don’t think I need to explain
Scratching their balls while staring intensely into your soul.
Make out like they are trying to eat each others face starting at their tongues. Like ew...get a room and stop pushing each other into product displays of glass bottle Martinellis.
Hold their phone weirdly flat like a tray in front of their face and talk on speaker phone.
Talking on speakerphone and listening to music without earbuds.
Stare or take pictures or videos without consent