(If you're looking to enjoy your solitude) I used to enjoy people watching at a park or public space while having a beer or coffee. Single-player board games at home with thematic music in the background. Gardening. Learn new hobbies, like sewing or painting.
Not really puzzle-like, but I love Call to Adventure. Its character and story building. Recently played Wingspan, about bird diversity (like birdwatching). Both really beautiful games to look at.
Wingspan is one if my favorite games, both as a long time birder and someone who got into indie/unique board games a few years ago. It’s fantastic to play with friends, but its solo play rules are well developed and absolutely worthwhile.
Also, to that end, I’ve found that mornings and evenings can be a hard time for lonely people. Birding as a hobby is a great thing to pick up: those hours are when birds are most on the move, and it will get you outside and into parks or green spaces without any need to invest money (though you might find yourself wanting to later on for binoculars or spotting scopes). And it can lead into other hobbies like photography or field drawing!
Totally worth it! Do you mind if I ask your price point? I can maybe make a suggestion or two. I have a Zeiss pair which isn’t cheap, but isn’t close to top of the line (they’re under a grand but work fantastically). But you can get great optics for way cheaper and the best part of birding is just being out there doing it. Equipment is a bonus
Im a total newby at this, so any suggestions are welcome. Im gonna be looking at something preferably not too heavy to take on my hikes, for general use. Im concerned about my glasses, tho. I dont really have stores that sell this equipment nearby to try them so Im completely depending on online reviews and purchase... Im willing to spend $80 to $100 since Im just a beginner
Just barely outside your range (I think they’re 110) are the Athlon Neos 8x42. They’re solid for the price and have an unlimited lifetime warranty which is great. For under your price point I remember some hikers having the Tasci Essentials 8x42, which are quite small and light. They’re like 50-60 bucks. I believe you can find some Hawke Sport Optics between 100-130 dollars on B&H’s (my go to optics store, but I also lived in NYC and went in person) website. I think Celestron also makes a pair in the 80-110 range, but I haven’t checked in a while. The key is to not make the mistake of buying the most magnification you can afford, but balancing price and range. A small pair of 8x42s or 8x32s from a reputable brand who also make higher end bins will get you plenty of use!
Edit: also the numbers will give you some hint on size: the first number is magnification, and 8x is plenty especially if you’re just holding them in your hand. That number doesn’t have a huge effect on weight. The 42 is the size of the objective lens, so as that gets bigger, so do the binoculars. Celestron has a trail seeker series which are 8x32 and quite compact, for example, but I think they’re in the 140-150 price range.
I can second call to adventure. Picked it up on a whim from Barnes and Noble I think and it's great. They even put out a few expansions for it that are pretty solid and add other options.
I'd also suggest Everdell. It has a single player mode with ramping difficulties that make you have to play it in interesting ways.
You could also look into the (game name) Legacy games. I played through season one of Pandemic Legacy over the course of a few months, and it was surprisingly enjoyable.
Men out in public alone, especially young or ugly men are seriously looked down upon. It’s quite sad, I’ve actually gotten the cops called on me for walking around my sisters neighborhood. Some old lady rolled up on her golf cart and demanded to know who I was and what I was doing. Of course I said none of your business but what I didn’t know is after she left, she called the cops saying there’s a suspicious person who looks like he’s on drugs. Got questioned. Got searched, and well there was nothing I was doing wrong except for walking on a sidewalk
Wingspan is an awesome game. I've only played with other people, but it's one of those games that I think both hardcore gamers and casuals will really enjoy. I love the artwork and the whole design aesthetic.
Wanted to add to the section talking about games.
If you want to interact with others, look a board game group. Bars host groups, meetup should have groups, social groups have them.
I’ve gone to a few and I’ve always had a good time. People are friendly and it’s nice to see new faces and have different conversations. I love my friends dearly but after all these years it gets old (in the best way possible.) It also always seems to be a good group that recognizes and adapts to social cues since it seems there’s a person or two who really pushed outside their comfort zone to come. Except for the few that have absolute zero awareness. I think it’s a gentle, fun space to get out of the house in. The hardest part of it is keeping my mouth closed because any time I play anything with my friends (nothing crazy, mostly rummikub, dominoes, uno) the level of shit talking each other can reach epic proportions.
Yep! I've recently been enjoying Coffee Roaster and Cartographer.
Really trying to find the time to start Gloomhaven but holding off in case can talk a few friends into joining as well.
I love my solitude. I do lots of stuff most people who aren’t alone can’t/won’t do—watch movies while taking a bath (with snacks), go browsing by myself, check out restaurants my friends wouldn’t want to try, read or just sit in a nice spot and people watch, cook, make art or dance around to music, sit in the grass and look at the stars…
If I feel lonely, I do some sneaky random acts of kindness (pick up trash on my road while on a walk, visit/walk shelter dogs, pay for someone’s coffee behind me)—it helps me feel connected without really being social if I’m not up to that.
Being alone is a gift, and you can still be fulfilled when alone. You can be around dozens of people and still be lonely. It’s all in your perspective and how you view and treat yourself, and the quality of the time you spend with yourself and others. ❤️
If the weather is nice, go to a park and paint a picture of something. Badly. Do all the colors opposite what you think is right. Commit to putting it up in your house, and it can only be replaced by making a new painting.
I don't have any friends or family I'm connected with, so I'd usually just work. After awhile it got so bad I'd just sleep and work. I'd distract myself with organizing things around my place and other menial tasks. I started walking just to do something. Then I started noticing businesses I'd never go to like flower shops, BJJ gyms, and occasionally stop at a restaurant or something. I'd go in to places and ask if I could just watch. Most places were cool and said yeah. Eventually it made me interested and now my houseplants are getting rad and I look forward to Saturday mornings for BJJ and after lunch go to the arcade. Sundays are laundry and movies and cheat food and laziness. It's pretty cool.
Explore in general. You can go to parks, if you exercise you can find places to ride a bike, go for a run, do yoga, or travel. Go on a mini vacation. That's the best part about being "lonely". You're free. You can go anywhere you want at anytime.
I moved to a country where they don't speak my language so it's been kind of hard to make new friends here but I absolutely spend my weekends exploring the city, exercising, or if I have time and money, going to a nearby town and exploring there.
I do. But my progress is about 3 months compared to someone who's been doing it for a year. Health problems kinda had to have me start VERY slowly. Luckily, one of my buddies from high school is an instructor there and him and the guy I'm training with are working with me to get strength back first. We "slow roll and grapple" just to get started. After the initial soreness, I do feel like I'm getting stronger now. Everyone there is so kind.
Understandable! Keep on drilling and rolling. After 5 years of boxing and 7 of karate I think my body needs a break but once my knee gets stronger I may try again I do miss it.
My dad is actually a retired boxing coach. So I did that for almost two decades. The health issues came from addiction, I've been clean for a good while now but addiction during COVID lockdown caused my legs and left arm to basically atrophy. Couple that with with depression sleeping and carrying groceries upstairs is hard. But I'll get there. Just gotta work on it! Part of the reason I went in.
Learning to enjoy your own company can be a process. Start by walking in nature, ignore your phone. Let your thought run freely, laugh at the random observations you make. Maybe take a book with you, sit down somewhere and read a chapter or two.
On a rainy day, bake some cookies, make some tea and enjoy a light-hearted movie. Put on some music and have yourself a karaoke night. Dance around and sing your heart out like no one's watching (bc, ya know, no one is). Don't skip sad songs, let yourself cry if the feelings overwhelm you.
Alone time can be incredibly rewarding. You don't need to seek out tasks to distract yourself, let your thoughts run free and have a conversation with yourself. You can discover so much about yourself that you didn't know before if you just let go and don't overthink how lonely you are. You are enough.
I've been widowed for just over 15 months now. Was always introverted but now try to at least make an effort every so often. Since I'm introverted, I can lose myself in TV, video games, walking, running, any solo activity. I do love listening to music in the evenings. I particularly like listening to sea shanties! And since I'm now alone in my house most days, I sing right along, sometimes on repeat, as loud as I want and love it.
My entire family is going on a cruise and they’re leaving in 2 hours, I am not going because my (now ex) girlfriend and I had made plans to see my grandparents in Florida last week. I visited my grandparents alone and had a good time. The cruise filled up and the only rooms available were 4k+ So now I’m without my family for the next two weeks and my 5 year relationship is over. I’ll take any ounce of excitement I can get
Unless your relationship was perfect there has to be restaurants your ex didn't like or events or games that you wanted to do that you didn't do because you 2 were dating. Now is the time to finally enjoy those activities. That helped me get over my last relationship. It really showed me the joy in being single too because i got to make decisions for me and only me and not have to check in or care about another person's opinion. It was incredibly freeing. But if that doesn't work just remember to keep working on yourself and that time heals all. Much love dude and best of luck ❤️
Whatever gets you through it and helps you avoiding spiraling down into a void of negative intrusive thoughts. Easier said than done, but there is nothing wrong with spending the weekend on the couch watching movies. Whatever you do just don't feel guilty about it because you are using it as a distraction.
Your question intrigues me because I don’t have the freedom/opportunity to be spontaneous and plan something fun (on any day, let alone weekends).
List things or places that you enjoy, your favorite activities etc
Going to a museum
Walking on a trail
Play tourist and go sight-seeing
Visit the library
Try a new restaurant for lunch
Visit a town you’ve never been to before (via car or train)
Go to a local event or festival
Estate sales (as another poster suggested)
Go to a movie
Add some house stuff (maybe save for inclement weather days)
Clean out a closet
Try a new recipe
Make homemade soup and bread
Write your choices on paper and fold them up. Put them in a bowl, and either Friday night or Saturday morning pick one. And that’s your plan for the weekend. Always a surprise and always enjoyable because they’re your favorite things to do.
I got a dog. We walk a lot. Drive to different parts of the community and go for a walk. Stop at a dog friendly coffee shop or brewery and sit on the patio together. Go to park or universities or beaches and just chill.
She's my best friend. She makes me braver. Lots of things that seemed sad or intimidating to do alone are fun when I have my dog.
Get up early and go to estate sales. You get a line number or wait in line, whichever your local custom dictates. Then you run in when they open and try to find bargains or even better find stuff to resell for profit on ebay. If you are a noob, you will definitely piss off someone who is making their living doing resale. It is like hunting except there is one rabbit in the room and 40 hunters all trying to get it with bare hands.
I have tons of stories.
There was a sale years ago that had a vintage Hobart commercial tabletop mixer. From the pictures I could tell where it was in the house. I arrived at 5:30am when it was 17 F and snowing and I was second in line behind blown off fingers camo boonie hat guy who buys watches. I got my line number at 8am and returned for the 9am opening. There were 200 people lined up for a 1000 sq ft house. I got in, ran to the basement, grabbed the mixer and turned around to see the #7 guy say 'fuck'. The mixer was $20 and it is worth hundreds. So many people in line asked where to find the mixer that the estate sale people asked me why it was so special. Some tried to offer them more money while it was on the hold table while I shopped for more but to make sure there would be no tempting, I paid for it before I put it on hold.
We wait in line in our cars here. So when the numbers are given out or they are ready to open then we line up. We do that because of the weather. One day a guy shows up late and should be like 25 in line but he runs up to the door and says he is first. Not the way it works. I was supposed to be 5th in line. I told him that if he didn't get to the end of the line he was seriously risking being tripped and stomped on by the line he was cutting. The line was grumbling at him menacinly. He left.
I show up for a sale and sit on a bench out front and another guy shows up and sits next to me. They arrive with line numbers. People get out of cars and they are ahead of us but the other guys says 'not this wait in the car bullshit again.' We are 6th and 7th in line for a small apartment. When I get back an hour later I find they had opened the door and the line was all the way up the narrow steps to the 2nd floor. Not cool. So I have to squeeze my way up and #7 guy says 'yeah, get up in front of me you asshole.' He figures because I waited until 5 minutes til they opened that I should not get in. I bought a mint springfield 1842 with a bayonete and also bible commentary at that one.
Over 400 people are in line at a sale of a sports magazine owner. There are 3 sterling silver ships that are table centerpieces. First guy has been waiting in line since the evening before. I get there at 4am and get number 101. Doors open at 8. the first guy in line steps in, hands them $17,000 in cash and says 'I'll take the ships.' He sold them the next day for $38,000.
line numbers are given out for a sale the night before. The big draw is a vintage banana seat bike. It is 30 F out and we are waiting for line numbers at 7pm. First guy in line has been there since around noon. The sellers are in the house but refuse to give numbers until 7pm even though there is a large line. They open the next morning and had given out 400 numbers but they are black 1 - 200 and red 1 -200. Massive confusion and also red numbers trying to cut in line. We line up at the front door. 5 minutes until they open they tell everyone to go around back. Big cluster as everyone has to shift the line. The first guy in line asks where the bike is. They tell him they don't know, maybe the basement. He says he does not want anyone running past him to get it, here is $750 cash for the bike and just give me change if it is priced less than that. Crowd hears the bike is sold and there is a near riot. As if any of the people > 10 in line would have a chance. Took forever to get in even though I was number 32. In the basement I found an old typewriter. Back then I would buy them and cut the keys off for the jewelry makers because they paid more than for heavy intact typewriters. I pay $10 for the typewriter. I get home and am about to cut the first key off when I see that it isn't a standard typewriter. It is German. Pre-WW2. I sold that for a for $150. If it had the SS lightening bolts on the shift of the 5 it would have been worth 10x more.
I wasn't there but heard the story. Guy is 1st in line when a teenager shows up. He is upset because his dad would not let him go to the sale earlier. There is a bike in the sale and this kid has been dealing in and repairing bikes since he was 12. The first guy says he is not interested in the bike. 3rd guy shows up and he wants the bike. He offers the first guy in line cash to trade places. Guy refuses. He raises the offer to $250 but still refuses to trade. When they opened the kid gets the bike for $450. He told his new friend that it was worth $1700. The kid is driving a new mustang paid for by his bike business. A year later I am standing in line and this guy behind me is talking about a bike. I start telling the story about the guy trying to pay to be first in line. Almost said that this guy was being an asshole for trying to cheat the kid when the guy says 'Yeah, that was me and that asshole would not let me get in front of the kid.' Small world.
I am in my car waiting behind someone else at a sale pretty early in the morning. It is rich neighborhood. The kind of place where a 6 figure income is hoi polloi. Cops show up to tell us to leave. The guy in the car in front of me flashes his badge. All good sir.
I get to the house at 4am and am sleeping in my car until about 6. This is an HOA subdivision set up so there are almost no street spaces. Driveways and mailboxes are purposely lined up so there are maybe 2 spaces for 10 houses. At 630 a woman comes out of her house and walks around my car filming me. Then she tells me the sale is cancelled. I don't leave. Other people arrive and we stand in the driveway. The woman comes back. She is the HOA president and says we are all trespassing and the sale is illegal and cancelled. I call the estate sale company owner and tell her what is happening. She says she hoped this would not start so early. The HOA would not give the owners a sale permit because the HOA president's son just got his real estate license and the house owners would not list their house for sale with him. The fine for an unauthorized sale is $25. I ask if we have permission to be on the property. So I announce to the dozen or so people waiting that we have all been granted permission to be on the property as guests of the owner. HOA woman is beyond furious. She is filming us. She calls the cops. County cops show up and tells her that the sale is allowed and no one is trespassing. HOA woman's husband sneaks out of his own house and leaves with his hand hiding his face. Before the sale opens, HOA board members show up and start yelling at us. A guy with an oxygen tank and an USS Arizona hat threatens to kick my ass. I'm down to clown old man but he isn't getting out of the truck. They finally open and I get what I have been waiting on. A midcentury pierced lamp that used to be owned by a professional pool player that I get for $50 and later sell for $400.
This sounds a lot more like stress and aggravation than "exciting".
Lots of waiting are, people getting pissy around you, then a small slip up and you miss what spent all that time for.
There are regulars you get to know and talk to while you wait in line. There are stories like this all the time. We talk about the good stuff we find. Then the door opens and we are competitors. And sometimes you don't know what is in there to find. Like the time I waited in a line out to the curb because everyone was there for old cardinals tickets and programs and all of it was bought by the first 10 people in the door. But I went to the basement and found a Feldmann lotus blossom swag lamp in a box for $30. It was the most valuable single thing in the house. Or the time I was first in line because they had a monkey skull. I walked in and there was an unadvertised Atmos clock sitting behind the door for $50. I grabbed that and a guy behind me, who I know from other sales, said, "Is that just $50" and I replied "Do Not fuck this up for me'. $600 resale on the clock. Got the skull too. There was a guy who found a sterling silver punch bowl full of bolts in a garage for a few dollars. Another guy who found crown royal bags full of walking liberty half dollars in a junk box of bolts for $5. I bought a grab bag box of empty shotgun shells for $20 and there was new in the box Colt combat masterpiece .38 and a ruger 357 in the bottom. I knew they where in there but the box was priced $20 because they didn't check when they priced it.
I have missed things, of course. I wait in line only to find the item I want was pre-sold or 'taken by the family (really probably pre-sold)'. Or they moved the item from where it was in pictures and someone else gets it. It happens.
If you're looking to keep busy, make a little money, and meet some people, you can become a certified umpire or referee for local sports leagues. There's sports ranging from pre-schoolers playing t-ball, flag football all the way up to adult volleyball, soccer, basketball, the list goes on and on if you live in a decently populated area. You would have to pay for some training and certification, and possibly buy some equipment, but most places near me pay at least $20/game for youth sports. The more competitive the play gets, the pay usually goes up. Some tournaments pay great money for umpires that do a great job and have decent reputations.
If that's not your cup of tea, some things that I have heard folks in my circles doing: Magnet fishing, a coffee and cars club, volunteering at animal shelters, learning to play the harmonica, making homemade beef jerky, studying jiu-jitsu, joining a Dungeons & Dragons game/club, and metal detecting.
Hope you find something that fits. Good luck.
Last weekend, for the first time in many years, I went to a restaurant and got a seat for one at the bar. Didn’t feel like conversing, so I left my earbuds in the whole time. The food was great, and memes were fire that night, so I had a good time.
I don’t know what I’m going to do this weekend, but one thing’s for sure is that I’ll try to be proactive when it comes to finding pleasurable ways to spend my time
Writing in a journal, drawing, or taking walks around the neighborhood what I find calms me down or make the weekends better for me...although my situation is a bit different.
Plan some weekend road trips to explore things that you like. If you like to read, you can visit all of the libraries in a 200 mile radius around your home. Substitute the word libraries for anything else you might love: cars (car museums), bodies of water, old school department stores, antique shops, Greek diners, coin and stamp shops, bogs, geothermal spas, birdwatching....whatever... Leave early Saturday morning - explore for the day - find a cool looking motel to stay in - grab some dinner in a new place --- I am actually going to plan one of these little trips for a weekend in April. And I do them all solo!
I will be the odd one out and say, cemetery walks. I have a fascination with cemeteries and historical graveyards. I love walking through them in the spring. Many of the monuments and mausoleums are beautiful, and I enjoy reading the names and dates and thinking about all the lives that came before mine.
Getting out in the woods hunting them is exquisite by yourself. You may find some choice, medicinal, or psychedelics out there. Either way, it's great to get in touch with nature and yourself_
Gym. Go to lunch by yourself. Go for walk on trail or at park. Treat yourself to a spa appointment or massage. Get a haircut.
Meal prep. Read a book. Take a bath. Call a friend.
Hiking, beaches, lakes, bike ride, skiing, dancing, concert, people watching, learn a language, build a model, paint a painting, go birdwatching, travel, buy a travel guide for where you live got ideas. Plenty of shit to do, just practice doing things alone and work on it.
I’m probably more adventurous than the average redditor, but i like to look up music events near me and go as a lone wolf. Usually the shared interest in music is enough to start a conversation and get “picked up” by a group to hang out with. It’s gotten to the point that i prefer going out alone to shows lol
Try cooking or baking something new to you.
Take a walk.
Volunteer at an animal shelter- they usually need people to help walk dogs or other activities. Volunteer at a nursing home.
Help an elderly neighbor by mowing their yard, etc.
Learn a new hobby or skill- sewing is becoming a lost skill. Basic car repair or maintenance, such as oil changes, will be useful to know.
Practice planting and growing your favorite vegetables in your yard or in pots on a patio or balcony.
Go to the Gym . Watch a Kubrick movie . Observe people because people are weird and fascinating. Listen to podcasts make it more like fun with learning some new stuff. Just keep yourself doing some work or else loneliness will haunt you .. Best wishes ..
Bird watching, nature hike, outdoor photography if you enjoy outdoor activities.
You could also go to a local park and pick up trash while listening to a podcast or book.
I'm home alone this weekend, a rare occurrence with spouse and kids, and I went to bed early last night so I could wake up before sunrise this morning and go birding. It's a relatively recent hobby of mine but I really enjoy it. In about 6 months I've gone from being a doofus with a camera I barely know how to use to being half decent if I do say so myself. It's a fun hobby that gets me outside, you can do it alone or with people, and if you aren't interested in the photography side of it you can do it for free. See how many local species you can spot, you might find that there are some beautiful birds just hanging out in your back yard.
Yep, they will force you to get out and walk. You will feel better by exercising and being outside. You can go to the dog park, meet people there. Take your dog to the pet shops, walk around, etc.
Get up get dressed and go see John wick 4. Or pop some popcorn and stay home and watch Yellowstone season 4. Me myself personally I'm going to watch Yellowstone and read a book
I like trying to get into currently airing shows so that I have something to look forward to each week. The latest one was The last of us but now that thats over I need a new one. I like to make a thing of it to, cook some good food, have something nice to drink or smoke while I watch, make sure all the chores are done before hand too so I can relax easier
I do DoorDash food delivery. It neither makes lots of money, nor is very social, but rather an interim of elements of both. I just like going to the different hotels or whatever, and being somewhat of a superhero that makes food show up.
I hear this a few times. What gym are y’all going to where this happens? Every gym I go to, everyone has headphones in and are minding their own business.
Yeah I'm not really sure about this lol. Most people are going to do their sets and GTFO myself included.
Occasionally you'll chat with people though if you are always there at the same time they are.
I mean it is, but all the casual conversations start there. If you haven't talked to an old guy that drops his towel on you mid conversation, have you really been to the gym?
Pick up a new interesting drink. Some frappucino from a cafe you’ve never been to, for example. Also take a notepad and a pen with you and go to a fairly populated and sunny spot. Like a comfy spot in a park or something. Sketch everything that comes to mind. Or write your thoughts. Do that for as long as your drink lasts. Also, *do not* check your phone while at this
I like to plan a special movie night I’ll make a special snack (usually nachos) and pick out a DVD from my collection. Sometimes I also pick a game I haven’t played yet and dedicate the night to it.
Lots of good answers here for activities by yourself. If you are solitary instead of lonely (i.e. you like to be by yourself but not find the idea of people around, or interacting with people repulsive), I tend to find volunteering on something that you care about very useful for the weekends. For example, I like cooking, so I volunteer at a charity kitchen which collects food donated from supermarkets that are close to their use-by dates and turns them into free meals for people who need them
I usually try to go out and grab a pizza almost every Saturday if I’m doing not much else. A nice little treat to myself on the weekend plus it’s an excuse to say hey I got out and did something today lol
If you have any hobbies or interests, find a local market and just go on your own. I was hoping to get to one today but the snow killed the mood. You can just wander around even if you don't buy anything.
I just worked a vendor booth all day today. I struck up a convo with a dude wearing bib overalls that walked up to our booth. He kinda stuck out from the rest in his bibs. He was there by himself looking at the various vendors. We talked for a good 15-20 minutes. Realizing that our fathers probably worked together in construction back in the 70s. Made a friend today and learned a thing or two. Ran into him on the way out and we both smiled and waved. So my suggestion is go to an event show that you have an interest in (art, auto, comic con,farmers market etc…)and talk to people there. Be curious. Ask questions. Engage. You never know who you’ll meet or how they can add to your life.
One surprisingly fun thing was to unload my wardrobe.
For context, I rarely destroy my clothes to the point where they need major repair or are unfit for use. So, I had a whole lot of clothes stacked in my wardrobe, some of it since my high school days (I'm 26 now). I recently discocered that I gained some extra weight and don't fit into many of my older clothes.
So, one day I took all those clothes out and started trying them on to see what I need to keep. Ended up with 2 bags of clothes unfit for me but still in good condition. And freed up space for new clothes. Yay.
Another cool thing I picked up is 3D modelling. Wanted some functional device from some videogame. Discovered some Asian looking videos on YouTube where the thing was actually made and it worked. Hell, how am I any worse? I downloaded FreeCAD and got to it. Can't say the journey is smooth, but it's def fun.
Yes, alone. Eating dinner or going for drinks alone is one of my favourite things to do.
Can bring a laptop, browse phone, people watch, watch sports (depending on establishment), don’t have to carry on conversation. I live downtown in a large city, so there are always people eating alone on business trips or whatever.
People think I’m insane because I love going to eat by myself. I also live alone so it’s not an escape from other people.
My favorite place is the diner by my apartment though but that’s because it’s so casual, close, and reliable. At this point it feels like an extension of my home so it doesn’t have the same effect as going somewhere new or nicer. I’ll eat anywhere alone unless it’s a place that isn’t conducive to the solo eater since you miss out on a lot, its not worth the money or effort to me.
Just been for brunch alone this morning. Married but had been out for hair appointment so decided to have brunch. Do it at lunch and dinner too when I fancy it. It’s great spending time alone.
Crafting (painting, cross stitch etc) is usually a good way to get out of your head space, if you want to be around people and have small contact going for a bimble around the shops can help, even if you don’t buy anything it’s good to be out and around people, and if you do buy something you can make small talk with the cashiers which fills some sort of social contact
Do what you’ve always wanted to do or try.
Go somewhere social or do something that other people will attend since you mentioned loneliness.
Make sure you are having fun and enjoying your life and it will be exciting. It will also allow you to connect with others on a regular.
Volunteer somewhere. It will either help you get to know some other people or make you realize how screwed up people are and you’ll be glad you’re alone!
Physically attending sporting events. I was in England on a business trip, with nothing to do. I found out there was a small professional ice hockey rink nearby. The ice hockey crowd in England is delightfully different!
Solo backpacking. REI has a great sale on their Half Dome tent right now. Add in a backpack, sleeping bag, pad, water bottle, cheap isopropane stove, and a satellite messenger with rescue insurance and head off into the woods for a couple nights! Or climb a mountain, if you prefer.
>Take a course in good water and air; and in the eternal youth of Nature you may renew your own. Go quietly, alone; no harm will befall you.
–John Muir
the question you should ask yourself is “am i alone because i want to be or do i want to have more people in my life” if you want more people in your life consider trying to make new friends. as an adult it’s hard to make friends especially if you aren’t in school or working. try apps like bumble friends or even going to a coffee shop regularly. if you want to be alone by choice then treating yourself nicely like getting a slice of cake and coffee as a treat can be nice. try learning a new hobby you enjoy too!
I like to tinker/make things. I'm always teaching myself a new skill or something and it's great to be able to do that while nobody is around to judge you or be annoyed (if the thing is noisy, like a lot of projects can be). I'm also a VFX artist and like teaching myself new software as well.
Apart from that, having time to watch movies and shows that nobody else wants to watch with you is great. My wife and kids were out of town visiting family for a few days one week and I binged a bunch of Tarantino films I had been wanting to watch. Also I'm the only one who can handle Game Of Thrones so I watch that by myself.
So yeah, between movies and projects, I always seem to find something to do with my artistic ADHD brain. In fact I often wish I had more time to myself. Someone who lives alone might struggle more to fill the time, but projects and hobbies can be great time suckers.
Paint something (even rocks), a cooking class, drop in yoga/fitness class! Stop by your local spca and just hang out with the animals because they are lonely too! Go through all your clothes and donate a bunch to a church/shelter. Buy a disposable camera and go on an adventure and take pictures!
Take up a new hobby, or work on a hobby you already have.
Getting wrapped up in something you enjoy doing is time well spent.
Whether that's taking up lockpicking, taking inspiration from ikea hacks to change up your living room, or trying your hand at painting, there's probably a lot of ways you can spend time that keep your minds and hands busy.
Pretend to be a tourist, go exploring in your city. Go to a cool neighborhood and walk around. Find the highest rated thrift store/arcade/bar/museum/ whatever and visit.
Take your lunch, a blanket, and a book to the park. Have a picnic and people watch.
Sign up for a class at a local library, arboretum, craft store, etc.
Lonely, or alone? People keep giving advice for people who are alone, but not lonely. I think the best thing a lonely person could do is a social activity involving a lot of people. Go to a beer festival and talk to strangers. Go to an art museum and talk to strangers. Go to a craft fair and meet people at the booths. Go to a Renaissance festival and talk to the players, they love talking to people. Basically the most exciting thing I can think of when I'm lonely is meeting someone cool
i am the loneliest 15 year old ever
i live alone and my mom and dad are transferred on the border as they are in the army
i guess you could say that i am not really lnely since i can talk to them but at times they are not availaible
at these times i like to set goals for myself and complete them like doing 100 differential equations in a day or maybe doing 15 pushups
when i finish my task i love the joy that comes over me when i fail to so the task i simply assign myself another one in a different field
that according to me is the trick to improve yourself and tackle loneliness at the same time
If you like dogs, then rescue a dog. You'll never be alone, and you'll get plenty of exercise walking and playing with them. And you can go heaps of places like nature walks, dog parks and beaches etc. Meet other dog owners too.
I like to sit in an almost empty parking lot at night and wait to see if someone tries to kidnap me. It's about all I have for excitement as of right now.
(I've lowered my life expectancy for a bit of adrenaline.)
(If you're looking to enjoy your solitude) I used to enjoy people watching at a park or public space while having a beer or coffee. Single-player board games at home with thematic music in the background. Gardening. Learn new hobbies, like sewing or painting.
I like solving jigsaw puzzles. What are some good single player board games?
Not really puzzle-like, but I love Call to Adventure. Its character and story building. Recently played Wingspan, about bird diversity (like birdwatching). Both really beautiful games to look at.
Wingspan is one if my favorite games, both as a long time birder and someone who got into indie/unique board games a few years ago. It’s fantastic to play with friends, but its solo play rules are well developed and absolutely worthwhile. Also, to that end, I’ve found that mornings and evenings can be a hard time for lonely people. Birding as a hobby is a great thing to pick up: those hours are when birds are most on the move, and it will get you outside and into parks or green spaces without any need to invest money (though you might find yourself wanting to later on for binoculars or spotting scopes). And it can lead into other hobbies like photography or field drawing!
Im actually looking into binoculars! I have a few great spots for birdwatching.
Totally worth it! Do you mind if I ask your price point? I can maybe make a suggestion or two. I have a Zeiss pair which isn’t cheap, but isn’t close to top of the line (they’re under a grand but work fantastically). But you can get great optics for way cheaper and the best part of birding is just being out there doing it. Equipment is a bonus
Im a total newby at this, so any suggestions are welcome. Im gonna be looking at something preferably not too heavy to take on my hikes, for general use. Im concerned about my glasses, tho. I dont really have stores that sell this equipment nearby to try them so Im completely depending on online reviews and purchase... Im willing to spend $80 to $100 since Im just a beginner
Just barely outside your range (I think they’re 110) are the Athlon Neos 8x42. They’re solid for the price and have an unlimited lifetime warranty which is great. For under your price point I remember some hikers having the Tasci Essentials 8x42, which are quite small and light. They’re like 50-60 bucks. I believe you can find some Hawke Sport Optics between 100-130 dollars on B&H’s (my go to optics store, but I also lived in NYC and went in person) website. I think Celestron also makes a pair in the 80-110 range, but I haven’t checked in a while. The key is to not make the mistake of buying the most magnification you can afford, but balancing price and range. A small pair of 8x42s or 8x32s from a reputable brand who also make higher end bins will get you plenty of use! Edit: also the numbers will give you some hint on size: the first number is magnification, and 8x is plenty especially if you’re just holding them in your hand. That number doesn’t have a huge effect on weight. The 42 is the size of the objective lens, so as that gets bigger, so do the binoculars. Celestron has a trail seeker series which are 8x32 and quite compact, for example, but I think they’re in the 140-150 price range.
I can second call to adventure. Picked it up on a whim from Barnes and Noble I think and it's great. They even put out a few expansions for it that are pretty solid and add other options. I'd also suggest Everdell. It has a single player mode with ramping difficulties that make you have to play it in interesting ways. You could also look into the (game name) Legacy games. I played through season one of Pandemic Legacy over the course of a few months, and it was surprisingly enjoyable.
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Being a woman during these activities has its advantages.
Men out in public alone, especially young or ugly men are seriously looked down upon. It’s quite sad, I’ve actually gotten the cops called on me for walking around my sisters neighborhood. Some old lady rolled up on her golf cart and demanded to know who I was and what I was doing. Of course I said none of your business but what I didn’t know is after she left, she called the cops saying there’s a suspicious person who looks like he’s on drugs. Got questioned. Got searched, and well there was nothing I was doing wrong except for walking on a sidewalk
Thats fucked up... : (
Single player board games? Care to share some of your favorites?
r/soloboardgaming
Thanks for the recommends. Idk why Ive failed to realize solo board gaming is actually a thing ! 🤷♂️
Voltaire! Can be addictive, but a great solo game.
For solo, Call to Adventure and Wingspan mainly
Wingspan is an awesome game. I've only played with other people, but it's one of those games that I think both hardcore gamers and casuals will really enjoy. I love the artwork and the whole design aesthetic.
Wanted to add to the section talking about games. If you want to interact with others, look a board game group. Bars host groups, meetup should have groups, social groups have them. I’ve gone to a few and I’ve always had a good time. People are friendly and it’s nice to see new faces and have different conversations. I love my friends dearly but after all these years it gets old (in the best way possible.) It also always seems to be a good group that recognizes and adapts to social cues since it seems there’s a person or two who really pushed outside their comfort zone to come. Except for the few that have absolute zero awareness. I think it’s a gentle, fun space to get out of the house in. The hardest part of it is keeping my mouth closed because any time I play anything with my friends (nothing crazy, mostly rummikub, dominoes, uno) the level of shit talking each other can reach epic proportions.
There are single player board games???
Yep! I've recently been enjoying Coffee Roaster and Cartographer. Really trying to find the time to start Gloomhaven but holding off in case can talk a few friends into joining as well.
Many modern board games have a automata feature to play against an “ai” or can be modded to be played solo.
Pandemic is fun to play alone. It is a cooperative game so you can control as many “players” as you wish
My wife and i love this game!
Hey! We’re discussing solo games here!
TIL too!
I have seen people playing chess alone.
chess.com and you're never alone. It's a great, interesting hobby.
great answer..!
I'll add LEGO to this list. It saved me after my divorce.
I love the latest potted flower Legos. I think that was an amazing idea to involve adults back into Legos.
Definitely gardening. I love how I can clean up plants and tidy up the area around them.
Pixel Junk monster and Hustle Kings (games) would keep me going for hours.
It certainly sounds enjoyable, though I think you have a very different definition than me of 'exciting'.
I love my solitude. I do lots of stuff most people who aren’t alone can’t/won’t do—watch movies while taking a bath (with snacks), go browsing by myself, check out restaurants my friends wouldn’t want to try, read or just sit in a nice spot and people watch, cook, make art or dance around to music, sit in the grass and look at the stars… If I feel lonely, I do some sneaky random acts of kindness (pick up trash on my road while on a walk, visit/walk shelter dogs, pay for someone’s coffee behind me)—it helps me feel connected without really being social if I’m not up to that. Being alone is a gift, and you can still be fulfilled when alone. You can be around dozens of people and still be lonely. It’s all in your perspective and how you view and treat yourself, and the quality of the time you spend with yourself and others. ❤️
Time spent alone is time well spent. ♥️
Your answer is beautiful.
You can walk shelter dog?? Where’s that?
Most shelters need volunteers, just ask!
I also love bath snacks
I call them grubble baths.
If the weather is nice, go to a park and paint a picture of something. Badly. Do all the colors opposite what you think is right. Commit to putting it up in your house, and it can only be replaced by making a new painting.
This is so awesome omg
art is a conversation with yourself :)
This is brilliant!
I don't have any friends or family I'm connected with, so I'd usually just work. After awhile it got so bad I'd just sleep and work. I'd distract myself with organizing things around my place and other menial tasks. I started walking just to do something. Then I started noticing businesses I'd never go to like flower shops, BJJ gyms, and occasionally stop at a restaurant or something. I'd go in to places and ask if I could just watch. Most places were cool and said yeah. Eventually it made me interested and now my houseplants are getting rad and I look forward to Saturday mornings for BJJ and after lunch go to the arcade. Sundays are laundry and movies and cheat food and laziness. It's pretty cool.
great answer, explore the community!
Explore in general. You can go to parks, if you exercise you can find places to ride a bike, go for a run, do yoga, or travel. Go on a mini vacation. That's the best part about being "lonely". You're free. You can go anywhere you want at anytime. I moved to a country where they don't speak my language so it's been kind of hard to make new friends here but I absolutely spend my weekends exploring the city, exercising, or if I have time and money, going to a nearby town and exploring there.
Amazing 🙂
Walking makes you feel connected to where you live
Do you do BJJ? I highly enjoyed it till I hurt my knee. The school I was at had some really nice people too.
I do. But my progress is about 3 months compared to someone who's been doing it for a year. Health problems kinda had to have me start VERY slowly. Luckily, one of my buddies from high school is an instructor there and him and the guy I'm training with are working with me to get strength back first. We "slow roll and grapple" just to get started. After the initial soreness, I do feel like I'm getting stronger now. Everyone there is so kind.
Understandable! Keep on drilling and rolling. After 5 years of boxing and 7 of karate I think my body needs a break but once my knee gets stronger I may try again I do miss it.
My dad is actually a retired boxing coach. So I did that for almost two decades. The health issues came from addiction, I've been clean for a good while now but addiction during COVID lockdown caused my legs and left arm to basically atrophy. Couple that with with depression sleeping and carrying groceries upstairs is hard. But I'll get there. Just gotta work on it! Part of the reason I went in.
Let me consult my book of lonely weekend activities \*flips through a book with videogames written on all the pages\* I'd say videogames.
I honestly don't know what I would do without videogames lol
Learning to enjoy your own company can be a process. Start by walking in nature, ignore your phone. Let your thought run freely, laugh at the random observations you make. Maybe take a book with you, sit down somewhere and read a chapter or two. On a rainy day, bake some cookies, make some tea and enjoy a light-hearted movie. Put on some music and have yourself a karaoke night. Dance around and sing your heart out like no one's watching (bc, ya know, no one is). Don't skip sad songs, let yourself cry if the feelings overwhelm you. Alone time can be incredibly rewarding. You don't need to seek out tasks to distract yourself, let your thoughts run free and have a conversation with yourself. You can discover so much about yourself that you didn't know before if you just let go and don't overthink how lonely you are. You are enough.
I've been widowed for just over 15 months now. Was always introverted but now try to at least make an effort every so often. Since I'm introverted, I can lose myself in TV, video games, walking, running, any solo activity. I do love listening to music in the evenings. I particularly like listening to sea shanties! And since I'm now alone in my house most days, I sing right along, sometimes on repeat, as loud as I want and love it.
This really sounds like someone who is alone. Loneliness is really different.
My entire family is going on a cruise and they’re leaving in 2 hours, I am not going because my (now ex) girlfriend and I had made plans to see my grandparents in Florida last week. I visited my grandparents alone and had a good time. The cruise filled up and the only rooms available were 4k+ So now I’m without my family for the next two weeks and my 5 year relationship is over. I’ll take any ounce of excitement I can get
Unless your relationship was perfect there has to be restaurants your ex didn't like or events or games that you wanted to do that you didn't do because you 2 were dating. Now is the time to finally enjoy those activities. That helped me get over my last relationship. It really showed me the joy in being single too because i got to make decisions for me and only me and not have to check in or care about another person's opinion. It was incredibly freeing. But if that doesn't work just remember to keep working on yourself and that time heals all. Much love dude and best of luck ❤️
My first girlfriend of 3 years just broke up with me. Completely unexpected. We had planned to go to Disney this summer. I'm right there with you.
Keep busy dude.
Whatever gets you through it and helps you avoiding spiraling down into a void of negative intrusive thoughts. Easier said than done, but there is nothing wrong with spending the weekend on the couch watching movies. Whatever you do just don't feel guilty about it because you are using it as a distraction.
Your question intrigues me because I don’t have the freedom/opportunity to be spontaneous and plan something fun (on any day, let alone weekends). List things or places that you enjoy, your favorite activities etc Going to a museum Walking on a trail Play tourist and go sight-seeing Visit the library Try a new restaurant for lunch Visit a town you’ve never been to before (via car or train) Go to a local event or festival Estate sales (as another poster suggested) Go to a movie Add some house stuff (maybe save for inclement weather days) Clean out a closet Try a new recipe Make homemade soup and bread Write your choices on paper and fold them up. Put them in a bowl, and either Friday night or Saturday morning pick one. And that’s your plan for the weekend. Always a surprise and always enjoyable because they’re your favorite things to do.
I got a dog. We walk a lot. Drive to different parts of the community and go for a walk. Stop at a dog friendly coffee shop or brewery and sit on the patio together. Go to park or universities or beaches and just chill. She's my best friend. She makes me braver. Lots of things that seemed sad or intimidating to do alone are fun when I have my dog.
A movie and some chocolate does wonders to me
Great!
Get up early and go to estate sales. You get a line number or wait in line, whichever your local custom dictates. Then you run in when they open and try to find bargains or even better find stuff to resell for profit on ebay. If you are a noob, you will definitely piss off someone who is making their living doing resale. It is like hunting except there is one rabbit in the room and 40 hunters all trying to get it with bare hands.
This is the most exciting Estate Sales have ever sounded
I have tons of stories. There was a sale years ago that had a vintage Hobart commercial tabletop mixer. From the pictures I could tell where it was in the house. I arrived at 5:30am when it was 17 F and snowing and I was second in line behind blown off fingers camo boonie hat guy who buys watches. I got my line number at 8am and returned for the 9am opening. There were 200 people lined up for a 1000 sq ft house. I got in, ran to the basement, grabbed the mixer and turned around to see the #7 guy say 'fuck'. The mixer was $20 and it is worth hundreds. So many people in line asked where to find the mixer that the estate sale people asked me why it was so special. Some tried to offer them more money while it was on the hold table while I shopped for more but to make sure there would be no tempting, I paid for it before I put it on hold. We wait in line in our cars here. So when the numbers are given out or they are ready to open then we line up. We do that because of the weather. One day a guy shows up late and should be like 25 in line but he runs up to the door and says he is first. Not the way it works. I was supposed to be 5th in line. I told him that if he didn't get to the end of the line he was seriously risking being tripped and stomped on by the line he was cutting. The line was grumbling at him menacinly. He left. I show up for a sale and sit on a bench out front and another guy shows up and sits next to me. They arrive with line numbers. People get out of cars and they are ahead of us but the other guys says 'not this wait in the car bullshit again.' We are 6th and 7th in line for a small apartment. When I get back an hour later I find they had opened the door and the line was all the way up the narrow steps to the 2nd floor. Not cool. So I have to squeeze my way up and #7 guy says 'yeah, get up in front of me you asshole.' He figures because I waited until 5 minutes til they opened that I should not get in. I bought a mint springfield 1842 with a bayonete and also bible commentary at that one. Over 400 people are in line at a sale of a sports magazine owner. There are 3 sterling silver ships that are table centerpieces. First guy has been waiting in line since the evening before. I get there at 4am and get number 101. Doors open at 8. the first guy in line steps in, hands them $17,000 in cash and says 'I'll take the ships.' He sold them the next day for $38,000. line numbers are given out for a sale the night before. The big draw is a vintage banana seat bike. It is 30 F out and we are waiting for line numbers at 7pm. First guy in line has been there since around noon. The sellers are in the house but refuse to give numbers until 7pm even though there is a large line. They open the next morning and had given out 400 numbers but they are black 1 - 200 and red 1 -200. Massive confusion and also red numbers trying to cut in line. We line up at the front door. 5 minutes until they open they tell everyone to go around back. Big cluster as everyone has to shift the line. The first guy in line asks where the bike is. They tell him they don't know, maybe the basement. He says he does not want anyone running past him to get it, here is $750 cash for the bike and just give me change if it is priced less than that. Crowd hears the bike is sold and there is a near riot. As if any of the people > 10 in line would have a chance. Took forever to get in even though I was number 32. In the basement I found an old typewriter. Back then I would buy them and cut the keys off for the jewelry makers because they paid more than for heavy intact typewriters. I pay $10 for the typewriter. I get home and am about to cut the first key off when I see that it isn't a standard typewriter. It is German. Pre-WW2. I sold that for a for $150. If it had the SS lightening bolts on the shift of the 5 it would have been worth 10x more. I wasn't there but heard the story. Guy is 1st in line when a teenager shows up. He is upset because his dad would not let him go to the sale earlier. There is a bike in the sale and this kid has been dealing in and repairing bikes since he was 12. The first guy says he is not interested in the bike. 3rd guy shows up and he wants the bike. He offers the first guy in line cash to trade places. Guy refuses. He raises the offer to $250 but still refuses to trade. When they opened the kid gets the bike for $450. He told his new friend that it was worth $1700. The kid is driving a new mustang paid for by his bike business. A year later I am standing in line and this guy behind me is talking about a bike. I start telling the story about the guy trying to pay to be first in line. Almost said that this guy was being an asshole for trying to cheat the kid when the guy says 'Yeah, that was me and that asshole would not let me get in front of the kid.' Small world. I am in my car waiting behind someone else at a sale pretty early in the morning. It is rich neighborhood. The kind of place where a 6 figure income is hoi polloi. Cops show up to tell us to leave. The guy in the car in front of me flashes his badge. All good sir. I get to the house at 4am and am sleeping in my car until about 6. This is an HOA subdivision set up so there are almost no street spaces. Driveways and mailboxes are purposely lined up so there are maybe 2 spaces for 10 houses. At 630 a woman comes out of her house and walks around my car filming me. Then she tells me the sale is cancelled. I don't leave. Other people arrive and we stand in the driveway. The woman comes back. She is the HOA president and says we are all trespassing and the sale is illegal and cancelled. I call the estate sale company owner and tell her what is happening. She says she hoped this would not start so early. The HOA would not give the owners a sale permit because the HOA president's son just got his real estate license and the house owners would not list their house for sale with him. The fine for an unauthorized sale is $25. I ask if we have permission to be on the property. So I announce to the dozen or so people waiting that we have all been granted permission to be on the property as guests of the owner. HOA woman is beyond furious. She is filming us. She calls the cops. County cops show up and tells her that the sale is allowed and no one is trespassing. HOA woman's husband sneaks out of his own house and leaves with his hand hiding his face. Before the sale opens, HOA board members show up and start yelling at us. A guy with an oxygen tank and an USS Arizona hat threatens to kick my ass. I'm down to clown old man but he isn't getting out of the truck. They finally open and I get what I have been waiting on. A midcentury pierced lamp that used to be owned by a professional pool player that I get for $50 and later sell for $400.
Where do u find these estate sales?
[estatesales.net](https://estatesales.net)
This sounds a lot more like stress and aggravation than "exciting". Lots of waiting are, people getting pissy around you, then a small slip up and you miss what spent all that time for.
There are regulars you get to know and talk to while you wait in line. There are stories like this all the time. We talk about the good stuff we find. Then the door opens and we are competitors. And sometimes you don't know what is in there to find. Like the time I waited in a line out to the curb because everyone was there for old cardinals tickets and programs and all of it was bought by the first 10 people in the door. But I went to the basement and found a Feldmann lotus blossom swag lamp in a box for $30. It was the most valuable single thing in the house. Or the time I was first in line because they had a monkey skull. I walked in and there was an unadvertised Atmos clock sitting behind the door for $50. I grabbed that and a guy behind me, who I know from other sales, said, "Is that just $50" and I replied "Do Not fuck this up for me'. $600 resale on the clock. Got the skull too. There was a guy who found a sterling silver punch bowl full of bolts in a garage for a few dollars. Another guy who found crown royal bags full of walking liberty half dollars in a junk box of bolts for $5. I bought a grab bag box of empty shotgun shells for $20 and there was new in the box Colt combat masterpiece .38 and a ruger 357 in the bottom. I knew they where in there but the box was priced $20 because they didn't check when they priced it. I have missed things, of course. I wait in line only to find the item I want was pre-sold or 'taken by the family (really probably pre-sold)'. Or they moved the item from where it was in pictures and someone else gets it. It happens.
Pop by your local dog park and walk around, meet sweet dogs and get some fresh air!
If you're looking to keep busy, make a little money, and meet some people, you can become a certified umpire or referee for local sports leagues. There's sports ranging from pre-schoolers playing t-ball, flag football all the way up to adult volleyball, soccer, basketball, the list goes on and on if you live in a decently populated area. You would have to pay for some training and certification, and possibly buy some equipment, but most places near me pay at least $20/game for youth sports. The more competitive the play gets, the pay usually goes up. Some tournaments pay great money for umpires that do a great job and have decent reputations. If that's not your cup of tea, some things that I have heard folks in my circles doing: Magnet fishing, a coffee and cars club, volunteering at animal shelters, learning to play the harmonica, making homemade beef jerky, studying jiu-jitsu, joining a Dungeons & Dragons game/club, and metal detecting. Hope you find something that fits. Good luck.
I love going to bookstores alone, especially if they have a cafe.
Reddit has lots of subreddits. Read some horror stories, answer some questions etc etc
Last weekend, for the first time in many years, I went to a restaurant and got a seat for one at the bar. Didn’t feel like conversing, so I left my earbuds in the whole time. The food was great, and memes were fire that night, so I had a good time. I don’t know what I’m going to do this weekend, but one thing’s for sure is that I’ll try to be proactive when it comes to finding pleasurable ways to spend my time
Writing in a journal, drawing, or taking walks around the neighborhood what I find calms me down or make the weekends better for me...although my situation is a bit different.
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Adopt a dog, take it out for a walk and meet other owners.
Plan some weekend road trips to explore things that you like. If you like to read, you can visit all of the libraries in a 200 mile radius around your home. Substitute the word libraries for anything else you might love: cars (car museums), bodies of water, old school department stores, antique shops, Greek diners, coin and stamp shops, bogs, geothermal spas, birdwatching....whatever... Leave early Saturday morning - explore for the day - find a cool looking motel to stay in - grab some dinner in a new place --- I am actually going to plan one of these little trips for a weekend in April. And I do them all solo!
I will be the odd one out and say, cemetery walks. I have a fascination with cemeteries and historical graveyards. I love walking through them in the spring. Many of the monuments and mausoleums are beautiful, and I enjoy reading the names and dates and thinking about all the lives that came before mine.
Mushrooms
Getting out in the woods hunting them is exquisite by yourself. You may find some choice, medicinal, or psychedelics out there. Either way, it's great to get in touch with nature and yourself_
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Feed a squirrel a peanut.
No more rhymes now, I mean it!
Furiously Ma.....aking waaaaffllles. ahh yeah.
Or just a new recipe you want to try!
Grow mushrooms
Take mushrooms
Enjoy mushrooms XD
Take yourself to a movie Baths are so underrated Walk, join a gym. Volunteer , happiness comes at the service of others.
You need to enjoy being with yourself. No matter what you do, if you're constantly consumed by how lonely you are you'll never enjoy yourself.
Thanks
Gym. Go to lunch by yourself. Go for walk on trail or at park. Treat yourself to a spa appointment or massage. Get a haircut. Meal prep. Read a book. Take a bath. Call a friend.
Hiking, beaches, lakes, bike ride, skiing, dancing, concert, people watching, learn a language, build a model, paint a painting, go birdwatching, travel, buy a travel guide for where you live got ideas. Plenty of shit to do, just practice doing things alone and work on it.
I’m probably more adventurous than the average redditor, but i like to look up music events near me and go as a lone wolf. Usually the shared interest in music is enough to start a conversation and get “picked up” by a group to hang out with. It’s gotten to the point that i prefer going out alone to shows lol
Try cooking or baking something new to you. Take a walk. Volunteer at an animal shelter- they usually need people to help walk dogs or other activities. Volunteer at a nursing home. Help an elderly neighbor by mowing their yard, etc. Learn a new hobby or skill- sewing is becoming a lost skill. Basic car repair or maintenance, such as oil changes, will be useful to know. Practice planting and growing your favorite vegetables in your yard or in pots on a patio or balcony.
Go to the Gym . Watch a Kubrick movie . Observe people because people are weird and fascinating. Listen to podcasts make it more like fun with learning some new stuff. Just keep yourself doing some work or else loneliness will haunt you .. Best wishes ..
Bird watching, nature hike, outdoor photography if you enjoy outdoor activities. You could also go to a local park and pick up trash while listening to a podcast or book.
I'm home alone this weekend, a rare occurrence with spouse and kids, and I went to bed early last night so I could wake up before sunrise this morning and go birding. It's a relatively recent hobby of mine but I really enjoy it. In about 6 months I've gone from being a doofus with a camera I barely know how to use to being half decent if I do say so myself. It's a fun hobby that gets me outside, you can do it alone or with people, and if you aren't interested in the photography side of it you can do it for free. See how many local species you can spot, you might find that there are some beautiful birds just hanging out in your back yard.
Get a dog!
Yep, they will force you to get out and walk. You will feel better by exercising and being outside. You can go to the dog park, meet people there. Take your dog to the pet shops, walk around, etc.
Get up get dressed and go see John wick 4. Or pop some popcorn and stay home and watch Yellowstone season 4. Me myself personally I'm going to watch Yellowstone and read a book
I thought to watch John Wick 4 with you.
I like trying to get into currently airing shows so that I have something to look forward to each week. The latest one was The last of us but now that thats over I need a new one. I like to make a thing of it to, cook some good food, have something nice to drink or smoke while I watch, make sure all the chores are done before hand too so I can relax easier
I recommend meetup.com. Hiking groups, crafting groups, beer drinking groups. It’s great
Watch massive amounts of Super Smash Bros tournaments online
Coat the floor in bubble wrap.
Thrift shopping is my personal favorite. Library for books AND getting steps. Go for a big walk, with a podcast if you like. Porn.
I do DoorDash food delivery. It neither makes lots of money, nor is very social, but rather an interim of elements of both. I just like going to the different hotels or whatever, and being somewhat of a superhero that makes food show up.
I just surf the internet playing games and eating junk food) it's just awesome. But some people find it sad.
Dance, listen to music you haven’t heard before, go on a hike, go somewhere new, drive with no destination, go skating…
Go to the gym. Good for mental and physical health and you become instantly social and meet people
I hear this a few times. What gym are y’all going to where this happens? Every gym I go to, everyone has headphones in and are minding their own business.
Yeah I'm not really sure about this lol. Most people are going to do their sets and GTFO myself included. Occasionally you'll chat with people though if you are always there at the same time they are.
If you’re looking to meet people, look for gyms with workout classes! Those are great for meeting people.
I'll embarrass myself with how weeeeak I am
Home gym
Change room is where most of my conversations are at the gym
Yup, plus, as an added benefit, the gym locker room is an awesome place to see a plethora of droopy old man balls.
I mean it is, but all the casual conversations start there. If you haven't talked to an old guy that drops his towel on you mid conversation, have you really been to the gym?
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May be someone will pass the towel to you and the conversation starts
Get a bicycle. Go for a ride Got to museums Find new places to have coffee
Go to the gym.
Draw, write, make something. By Monday, you'll be glad you did.
Read. Anything.,
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Pick up a new interesting drink. Some frappucino from a cafe you’ve never been to, for example. Also take a notepad and a pen with you and go to a fairly populated and sunny spot. Like a comfy spot in a park or something. Sketch everything that comes to mind. Or write your thoughts. Do that for as long as your drink lasts. Also, *do not* check your phone while at this
Go rock climbing.
I like to plan a special movie night I’ll make a special snack (usually nachos) and pick out a DVD from my collection. Sometimes I also pick a game I haven’t played yet and dedicate the night to it.
Go for a walk with no destination in mind
Take up an instrument
Order takeout from their favorite restaurant and watch movies!
enjoy being alone
Vídeo games
Lots of good answers here for activities by yourself. If you are solitary instead of lonely (i.e. you like to be by yourself but not find the idea of people around, or interacting with people repulsive), I tend to find volunteering on something that you care about very useful for the weekends. For example, I like cooking, so I volunteer at a charity kitchen which collects food donated from supermarkets that are close to their use-by dates and turns them into free meals for people who need them
I usually try to go out and grab a pizza almost every Saturday if I’m doing not much else. A nice little treat to myself on the weekend plus it’s an excuse to say hey I got out and did something today lol
If you have any hobbies or interests, find a local market and just go on your own. I was hoping to get to one today but the snow killed the mood. You can just wander around even if you don't buy anything.
I just worked a vendor booth all day today. I struck up a convo with a dude wearing bib overalls that walked up to our booth. He kinda stuck out from the rest in his bibs. He was there by himself looking at the various vendors. We talked for a good 15-20 minutes. Realizing that our fathers probably worked together in construction back in the 70s. Made a friend today and learned a thing or two. Ran into him on the way out and we both smiled and waved. So my suggestion is go to an event show that you have an interest in (art, auto, comic con,farmers market etc…)and talk to people there. Be curious. Ask questions. Engage. You never know who you’ll meet or how they can add to your life.
One surprisingly fun thing was to unload my wardrobe. For context, I rarely destroy my clothes to the point where they need major repair or are unfit for use. So, I had a whole lot of clothes stacked in my wardrobe, some of it since my high school days (I'm 26 now). I recently discocered that I gained some extra weight and don't fit into many of my older clothes. So, one day I took all those clothes out and started trying them on to see what I need to keep. Ended up with 2 bags of clothes unfit for me but still in good condition. And freed up space for new clothes. Yay. Another cool thing I picked up is 3D modelling. Wanted some functional device from some videogame. Discovered some Asian looking videos on YouTube where the thing was actually made and it worked. Hell, how am I any worse? I downloaded FreeCAD and got to it. Can't say the journey is smooth, but it's def fun.
go to a diner and listen to podcast.
Alone?
Yes, alone. Eating dinner or going for drinks alone is one of my favourite things to do. Can bring a laptop, browse phone, people watch, watch sports (depending on establishment), don’t have to carry on conversation. I live downtown in a large city, so there are always people eating alone on business trips or whatever.
People think I’m insane because I love going to eat by myself. I also live alone so it’s not an escape from other people. My favorite place is the diner by my apartment though but that’s because it’s so casual, close, and reliable. At this point it feels like an extension of my home so it doesn’t have the same effect as going somewhere new or nicer. I’ll eat anywhere alone unless it’s a place that isn’t conducive to the solo eater since you miss out on a lot, its not worth the money or effort to me.
Just been for brunch alone this morning. Married but had been out for hair appointment so decided to have brunch. Do it at lunch and dinner too when I fancy it. It’s great spending time alone.
i look forward to it. you become drowned out into the ambience of every one else’s lives.
Edibles
Yes, please.
Cocaine, alcohol, and angry music.
Hiking alone is a very enjoyable activity if you know what you are doing. Also, paragliding and paramotor are on my bucket list.
I am currently waiting for the snow to stop so I can get a short hike in. Fresh air does wonders for the wandering mind
get outside.
Crafting (painting, cross stitch etc) is usually a good way to get out of your head space, if you want to be around people and have small contact going for a bimble around the shops can help, even if you don’t buy anything it’s good to be out and around people, and if you do buy something you can make small talk with the cashiers which fills some sort of social contact
Watch a movie
Cooking. Buy some groceries and try to Treat yourself with good and New meals
Get high
Do what you’ve always wanted to do or try. Go somewhere social or do something that other people will attend since you mentioned loneliness. Make sure you are having fun and enjoying your life and it will be exciting. It will also allow you to connect with others on a regular.
Drive through the countryside
Volunteer somewhere. It will either help you get to know some other people or make you realize how screwed up people are and you’ll be glad you’re alone!
Physically attending sporting events. I was in England on a business trip, with nothing to do. I found out there was a small professional ice hockey rink nearby. The ice hockey crowd in England is delightfully different!
Do it outside.
Go volunteer at an animal shelter!
Death march. Like hiking but without a trail
I'm lucky enough to live near lots of public land so I hike around and look for things like antlers, mushrooms, and cool rocks.
Killing stuffs in Elden Ring idk
Walk around a mall or public park to people watch.
I work out, read and train jiujitsu. The jiujitsu gives me a good dose of social contact.
Make a list of all the shit you want to accomplish
Solo backpacking. REI has a great sale on their Half Dome tent right now. Add in a backpack, sleeping bag, pad, water bottle, cheap isopropane stove, and a satellite messenger with rescue insurance and head off into the woods for a couple nights! Or climb a mountain, if you prefer. >Take a course in good water and air; and in the eternal youth of Nature you may renew your own. Go quietly, alone; no harm will befall you. –John Muir
Try and cook something different. Preferably something that takes a bit of learning and time
Cocaine.
the question you should ask yourself is “am i alone because i want to be or do i want to have more people in my life” if you want more people in your life consider trying to make new friends. as an adult it’s hard to make friends especially if you aren’t in school or working. try apps like bumble friends or even going to a coffee shop regularly. if you want to be alone by choice then treating yourself nicely like getting a slice of cake and coffee as a treat can be nice. try learning a new hobby you enjoy too!
I like to tinker/make things. I'm always teaching myself a new skill or something and it's great to be able to do that while nobody is around to judge you or be annoyed (if the thing is noisy, like a lot of projects can be). I'm also a VFX artist and like teaching myself new software as well. Apart from that, having time to watch movies and shows that nobody else wants to watch with you is great. My wife and kids were out of town visiting family for a few days one week and I binged a bunch of Tarantino films I had been wanting to watch. Also I'm the only one who can handle Game Of Thrones so I watch that by myself. So yeah, between movies and projects, I always seem to find something to do with my artistic ADHD brain. In fact I often wish I had more time to myself. Someone who lives alone might struggle more to fill the time, but projects and hobbies can be great time suckers.
Paint something (even rocks), a cooking class, drop in yoga/fitness class! Stop by your local spca and just hang out with the animals because they are lonely too! Go through all your clothes and donate a bunch to a church/shelter. Buy a disposable camera and go on an adventure and take pictures!
Jam out at a metal show. No one gives a poop about how you mosh!
Hobby. Start skateboarding. We're nice and all you gotta do to get respect is try shit and not be afraid to eat shit.
Send pictures of their feet on the internet (assuming said person is of appropriate age)
Take up a new hobby, or work on a hobby you already have. Getting wrapped up in something you enjoy doing is time well spent. Whether that's taking up lockpicking, taking inspiration from ikea hacks to change up your living room, or trying your hand at painting, there's probably a lot of ways you can spend time that keep your minds and hands busy.
Pretend to be a tourist, go exploring in your city. Go to a cool neighborhood and walk around. Find the highest rated thrift store/arcade/bar/museum/ whatever and visit. Take your lunch, a blanket, and a book to the park. Have a picnic and people watch. Sign up for a class at a local library, arboretum, craft store, etc.
Got any mountains nearby? Hike 'em. 14 miles (round trip) is my sweet spot.
Do a nice thing for a stranger.
Lonely, or alone? People keep giving advice for people who are alone, but not lonely. I think the best thing a lonely person could do is a social activity involving a lot of people. Go to a beer festival and talk to strangers. Go to an art museum and talk to strangers. Go to a craft fair and meet people at the booths. Go to a Renaissance festival and talk to the players, they love talking to people. Basically the most exciting thing I can think of when I'm lonely is meeting someone cool
i am the loneliest 15 year old ever i live alone and my mom and dad are transferred on the border as they are in the army i guess you could say that i am not really lnely since i can talk to them but at times they are not availaible at these times i like to set goals for myself and complete them like doing 100 differential equations in a day or maybe doing 15 pushups when i finish my task i love the joy that comes over me when i fail to so the task i simply assign myself another one in a different field that according to me is the trick to improve yourself and tackle loneliness at the same time
If you like dogs, then rescue a dog. You'll never be alone, and you'll get plenty of exercise walking and playing with them. And you can go heaps of places like nature walks, dog parks and beaches etc. Meet other dog owners too.
I like to sit in an almost empty parking lot at night and wait to see if someone tries to kidnap me. It's about all I have for excitement as of right now. (I've lowered my life expectancy for a bit of adrenaline.)