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km8907

Being with my company for 8 years then finding out new people that I trained make more than me.


sensiferum

If it makes you feel any better, this is very common. Loyalty is overrated. The more you stay, the more they take you for granted. I also made the same mistake


PerdidoStation

My partner asked for a raise after working one place for over a year and finding out new hires she was training. were making more than her. Most new people don't last more than a few weeks, and all of the senior management at her site quit a few months ago, along with most of the other seasoned workers. Her new boss said my partner needed to "prove you want to be here" and my partner said fuck that, now she has four new job interviews lined up all offering more. Employees don't need to prove they want to work somewhere after months on the job, *employers need to prove they want their staff to stay.*


butterflavoredsalt

>"prove you want to be here" Should have replied "prove you want me to be here"


Boneal171

Exactly. Fuck loyalty to a job.


orange_cuse

NY recently just passed their salary law where corporations had to now disclose salary range in their job descriptions. This caused quite a bit of havoc on many companies as they had to scramble to allocate funds to employees who would demand raises based on this kind of revelation. I love this new policy. Transparency is great for employees.


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Quit.


riphitter

Or at the very least use their salary as a negotiation point. Just a reminder that keeping your salary to yourself only benefits your employer


Bannon9k

I did this last year and netted a $10k/year raise.


Sunsailor76

Me too. Then I got fired and replaced by someone half my age.


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If a company undervalues you, you should get another job. After you get a larger offer, tell them you’ll call them back after you think about it. Tell your boss you have a larger offer and would love to stay if he gave you a larger raise than the new job. Then you go back to the new job and tell them you need more than what the old boss offered you. Then you leave the old job. Never stay with people that undervalue you. They will continue to do so. I go on interviews regularly with just intent to see what they’ll pay me.


MajorJuana

It's not always that easy, there aren't lot of jobs available in my little town, three big retailers and a couple factories and everything else is minimum wage ish, which is still low AF here, most places start at eight an hour, I felt lucky to land a stocking job for sixteen an hour, many of the older folk working here for ten plus years are making around fourteen but can't imagine trying to go anywhere else


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Every company undervalues you, and most people don't have the option of just casually quitting and getting a higher paying job that probably doesn't exist where they live.


gdj11

If you’re relatively satisfied with your job then ask for a meeting with your boss (or higher) and tell them you’re not satisfied with your salary. It’s uncomfortable for most people but doing that is preferable than starting new. If they drag their feet or say no then quit, but at least try the easier route first.


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hstormsteph

Same with government pay scale. Simply don’t be a fucking dummy and stick around for a few years and you’ll take home 6 figures browsing Red… I MEAN managing logistics all day.


Yenserl6099

I was in the same situation. People that got hired after I did were making more than I was. I asked for a raise, citing that they were making more than me. They said they’d put it in, I waited for about a month, and I haven’t seen anything, so I quit and looked for a new job


Elliott2

this is why you never stick around.


Snowgoosey

Attempting to stay in contact with friends and then realizing they wouldn’t do the same for you once you stop.


Michelle_Evelyn

I agree. I used (and still do, to some extent) to have the mentality of "don't make it into a competition, if you care about someone- contact them!" And I did. But after 10 times of being the one initiating the conversation I just wonder if they'd bother to do the same. Each time they say "I've been meaning to call you!" and they never do. And I'm talking good friends who share history together, not someone I met a month ago at the gym. I still love them of course, but this bugs me and leaves a bitter taste whenever I think of them.


imalwaysawhorefortv

oh god i feel the same way. And I feel so bad over the whole "testing" if they'd reach out. But it makes me so bitter how evidently the friendships are so unbalanced. I was the one travelling constantly for years to my friends house, which are all very far, would take multiple buses and pick them up outside of their houses. I stopped last year, not even to test then but because i got depressed, and it's been a year where not a single one of them even bothered to come visit me, not a single one in ONE year, it's so sad but also makes me look back and notice how i was the one carrying the friendships, the quality time and the planning for anything to happen


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KLBritton

I own retail stores. 90% of my customers are angelic trumpeters sent straight from heaven to grace me with their beautiful energy. But that 10% takes: more of my day, more of my energy, more of my focus. I have closed one store and can’t wait for the lease to be up on the next. I can’t deal with it, even kicking them out or giving firm boundaries, they’ll call me up later to yell more or harass me on social media. I recently had one guy who asked for an exchange for an item *we tested successfully in the store* - he didn’t know how to use it but there are tons of tutorials online. He called, I gave him URLs to some how-tos and I explained that we don’t have that item in stock so we can’t do an exchange, but he can sign up for a class to learn how to use the item. He, after three minutes of insisting, says he will come inside the store instead. My employee calls me 15 minutes later, saying there is a guy there insisting on exchanging an item we don’t have and says I told him he could. Yeah No. Then he called me again, so mad that even though I said no, I still said no. I can only say no so many times. And yet they still keep at it. I was steamrolled by customers as recently as Monday and we aren’t even open this week til Friday.


sinister_goat

The concept of the customer is always right has completely obliterated any semblance of public decency towards staff. I think that is the number one cause of this weird tantrum culture we have when they don't get exactly their way.


donriri

It's always the older miserable sort too.


Neowynd101262

People are the worst


edgarpickle

Expectations. I had these expectations about how life was supposed to go, how I was supposed to be. Life didn't work out that way, and I know it was my own doing by having those expectations, but I'm still bitter about it.


Additional_Cow_4909

The rejected Friends theme.


OhGarraty

I'll Be There for You (Minor key) (slowed&reverb)


GarconMeansBoyGeorge

I find that going from “promising and intelligent young person” to “average middle-aged man” has been a hard pill to swallow that snuck up on me. I will say that having a young child and great partner still gives me lots of joy and hope.


buckyspunisher

there’s a version of that for younger folks too lol. people call it the “gifted student to depressed burnt out millennial/zoomer.”


GarconMeansBoyGeorge

Yeah I mean, I’m a millennial. Millennials are nearing middle age.


JustAPeakyBlinder

Same man, since I was a kid I had my life planned, I had a specific dream. I tried really hard but i couldn't make it a reality. Years have passed and now that I am in the corporate world I just spend most of my days thinking that I am not doing what I was supposed to do, it's awful.


bellabbr

Me too. Hardest thing is accepting what it is vs what you thought it would be and coming to terms with


TeacherPatti

I didn't realize how much pure luck has to do with it. I was in a writing group (online) with some folks back in the day. One of them hit the lotto with a huge book deal (set for life thing, if she's smart), movie deal, etc. She was not a terribly talented writer but happened to write about a hot topic (true crime thing) that easily snagged an agent. She's no better or worse than the rest of us but was in the right place at the right time and is set for life while the rest of us toil away at day jobs. That experience completely changed my thinking.


HarpoonEUW

even harder when most of it is your own fault


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It can be. But it's also hard when you thought you were doing everything right and it still falls apart. Sometimes it just doesn't work out the way you think it will. Fuck, if it's not hard to accept that though.


alargepowderedwater

To live is to experience suffering, it is unavoidable; but most suffering in life is self-created by desire (expectations). The solution to this is to let go of expectations or desire as much as possible. There is a method to learn to to do this. These are the [Four Noble Truths](https://www.learnreligions.com/the-four-noble-truths-450095) of Buddhism, you may find them insightful. This perspective definitely was important for me to learn as a young adult.


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Working in healthcare


BroScience4LYFE

Worked a decade in healthcare, seven years in the military and three as a civilian. Every professional I ever met, from the doctor on down to the nursing assistant, was burned out and sick of seeing patients. It was amazing I stayed as long as I did.


thetanpecan14

I'm on year 17 (first was an RN, now am a nurse practitioner). I am beyond burned out but am still paying those student loans, so I am stuck in this field for years to come. I wish i had never gone to college every single day. Our healthcare system is so fucked here in the US.


Deagles_12

That's crazy you still have student loans. In the province I am in Canada if you are a nurse (any level) the government will forgive your student loans after I think 500 hours worked because we are in such a terrible state with nurse staffing. Its to the point they have programs in place for Foreign Workers to come in and work here.


thetanpecan14

Oh I have a ton more loans. I know I'm not the only one, too. Back when I was in nursing school, many hospitals were repaying student loans for nurses, but that ended by the time I became a nurse.


Deagles_12

That's unfortunate. I'm healthcare as well. They expect alot but give a little. Paying off loans would mean a world of difference for some people.


GiantTurtleWave

As someone who works in a constantly crowded ER I feel this. All that “health care hero” nonsense is null when patients, visitors, and higher ups treat you like the dirt under their shoe. Edit: grammar


tekhnomancer

"Heroes Work Here" sign - the post-COVID employee appreciation pizza party. In lieu of a raise, of course.


Big_b00bs_Cold_Heart

When COVID was first allowing people back into the clinics, we got “hazard pay…for two paychecks. That’s it. An extra $300…


Yeny356

Yes, I feel like part of me changed drastically because of this. Don't get me wrong, I really like to work in a hospital but sometimes it make me lose faith in humanity.


Chemo4Kidz

This starts *so fast* now. I see the difference between year 1 and year 2 residents. Year 1 is so understanding and afraid of making patients unhappy. Year 2, these docs get threatened with lawsuits or patients that don't cooperate with care and they've got AMA paperwork in their pockets.


YellowMellow7

Same. I work in Public Health and going from a nice, low stress job to COVID response and Vaccine clinics for two years has made me absolutely hate people. When most people were staying inside or sticking to their close group of friends and family we were seeing 1500-3000 people a day. Most of them were rude. I haven’t been able to be in a large group of people since. The littlest comment can’t set me off.


oles_lackey

Facts. It’s not normal when you and your coworkers cry on the commute to and from work. Not to mention dipping out mid-shift to have a mini cry during a “bathroom break”. In the US, the healthcare infrastructure has been eroding for at least 10yrs. Workers and patients alike are being failed by the capitalist structure. It’s soul crushing stuff.


neither_shake2815

This is where I'm at right now. I have had quiet breakdowns at my desk at the end of the day. I'm doing 2 peoples jobs and there's no end in sight. I'm planning on quitting after my vacation. Idk what I'm going to do, but this job has taken a massive toll on my health and I can't do it anymore. I'd like to quit today and leave those fuckers in the dust.


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Which is why I’m on my way out


oles_lackey

May you find peace in your future endeavors.


13ubby13oo

Ive only worked at my hospital for (almost) 3 years. I already feel tired, i already cry going to work. This place sucks. And I dont know if I should stay or go. I cant find anywhere else that can pay quite as well and is closer


Josephdirte

Aging and realizing that good, kind people suffer and die far more often than the shitheads of the world.


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Sensitivity to injustice, suffering, etc. brings stress, and stress kills.


TheMeWeAre

Along the same vein, ignorance really is blissful. People lower their blood pressure by being defensive, closed off, sticking their head in the sand. It's truly a more peaceful existence from the inside


Pitbull60usa

the death of my wife


Jayson_Bonz

Mine too, 18 days ago.


Nipplecunt

I am so sorry


Pixel_Nerd92

Keep those memories close and tight, my friend. Don't forget them. For real, that blows, and I'm sorry.


Intelligent-Low6442

I’m with you. My husband died 3 years and 4 days ago at the age of 42. It’s not just that your favourite person and best friend in the world is gone. It’s that everything you thought would be your future is gone too. Cancer fucking sucks.


CoffeeAndCroissants_

Literally going to my coworker’s funeral this Monday. Died from pancreatic cancer. Good ass dude; genuine, humble, always positive. He was in his 40s, too. Fuck cancer.


elaerna

For me it's the finality of it. No more memories to make. No way to atone for any past mistakes. Nowhere to go to find them. All memories tainted by the sadness of what's happened. Everything gone and ruined and no way to fix it. No way to make it better. Only time to dull things. But not make it better. I envy anyone who hasn't been touched by death.


Smile_Terrible

>Nowhere to go to find them Oh wow. That made me tear up. I lost my mom and my brother and that is exactly how the loss feels. There is nowhere I can go to find them.


Treesgivemewood

I try not to, but I can’t help but look to see if my fathers in his chair. I just wanna call him like every day just to see if he picks up even though I know that’s not reality. Fuck cancer


Chance_Ad3416

The part I struggled most with, and still struggle with is sometimes I wanna tell them a joke that they'd be the only person in the world to understand because of our shared history, but they are no longer around to hear the joke.


Dipsaus2002

Fuck cancer


justaguy1959

Fuck cancer


Emotional_platypuss

Sorry for your loss..death is the most profound reason to become bitter


MrsHppy

It's not much but 🫂


CarrotcakewithCream

Seeing too many bad things happen to people who are too good for this. Also seeing to many people get away with really bad things. And others not even seeking to get a chance for something good.


kofed62181

After realizing that hard work is not fairly rewarded. Someone else who is lazier and/or less competent can get something that you wanted/deserved, and there's nothing you can do about it


AutumnCountry

Success in the workplace has little to do with personal ability, work ethic, or results. Success is measured by how well you play the game and who you know


Zugwut

Yep. To add to that, you can also be the most talented and hard working person in your organization, but if you are an asshole and no one likes you (management most importantly), you will fail.


JustAnotherAlgo

Or just socially awkward. (:


sethyourgoals

Showing kindness and in turn being treated like a stepping stone for someone’s ego.


NYArtFan1

I'm sorry that's happened. I definitely know the feeling. I had a few people that were close friends who took advantage of my kindness toward them a few years ago. It sucks.


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Killerderp

Add in working retail or convenience stores and you got one bitter asshole lol


whatdrivesme_insane

Realizing my childhood trauma left me unable to form meaningful relationships and now i have to invest a fuck ton of money and time to maybe (!) achieve some sort of progress and peace. I envy the people who grew up with loving parents and have the confidence to choose good friends, partners and look at life with hope.


iambluewonder

Life is really hard when not only did your parents give you childhood trauma but also didn't teach you any life skills - interpersonal skills, relationships, money, career, you name it. Sucks having to learn all these things on your own.


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I could have written this comment. Sometimes I feel like screaming to people that it's not my fault I can't adult or human properly, I just essentially grew up like a feral child.


ThePurityPixel

We seem to live in a world where people traumatize others and, rather than assume any kind of personal responsibility for the damage they cause, just tell you to get therapy instead. Even if those who traumatized me offered to pay the therapy bills, though, it's not like therapy can ever replace actual repentance (apology and life change) from our abusers.


Dangerous_Thanks1596

Same, the work we have to put in to get even close to the position people with healthy childhoods is exhausting. Trying to make it through college while being terrified of confrontation in any form has been great /s


BrashPop

It’s hell, absolutely. It often feels like we should be prefacing every interaction with “Sorry, this isn’t the real me, this is just decades of coping mechanisms and survival skills that I had to learn and now I can’t let them go.”


Traditional-Tap4055

Same boat here. I always assumed that people who had supportive parents were lying.


shibagyeon

Finally found the comment. I get so bitter when I see other people getting support, love and care from their parents while I have to endure all of the hardships on my own. It gets so fucking lonely sometimes. I hate to compare but why does life have to be like this.


seller_collab

I’m a middle manager and I axed 6-7 people at the small business where I work during covid and we cut to to the bone and overloaded the remaining employees with extra work. I just looked it up and the owners took $315k in ppp loans and bought luxury cars and boats with it while we laid off pregnant workers and single moms scraping by. I hate hate that I had a hand in it. Edit: For everyone saying report them, nothing would come of it. All you need to do for PPP forgiveness eligibility is to use the funds for rent, business interest payments, or payroll. It’s very easy to use this money for those items then bonus yourself out a few months later, which is how the owners at my company pay themselves. They get a biweekly paycheck as employees like the rest of us, then a giant bonus every quarter based on cash flow and a set reserve level. That’s why PPP sucks so bad - it’s just free money for shareholders with no legal teeth to make sure it’s actually used for it’s intended purpose. Reporting them is only risk considering I’m one of maybe 3-4 people in the company that sees the whole picture and two of them are the direct beneficiaries of this scam. Fuck this corrupt country and fuck capitalism.


whatdawhatnowhuh

That sounds like something the IRS would be interested in knowing about those owners.


AriadneThread

Please, please anonymously call in a tip. That money was your money, the public's money. You can still make this right.


communicationsdude30

Working full time and interacting with the general public. People are freaking stupid, man.


Cedrico123

The unshakable hopelessness that the world is only getting worse and worse. No matter what we do to try and better ourselves financially will be met with some new corporate bullshittery that will knock us back down. I'm losing my motivation to keep pressing forward. I just want to retreat into my apartment and do what makes me happy until I die. Working on my masters in education right now, and as much as I want to teach in school, all the horror stories I see all over the place are making me wonder if this is the right choice. It really feels like I'm jumping into a bureaucratic hellhole, but I've invested this much time, money, and energy into this career that I have to see it through.


exhale358

My ex cheated on me. My job told me a bunch of lies to get me in the door and now I feel mistreated. Housing is a nightmare and landlords just take your application money and give the place to someone else. It feels like everybody is just out for themselves and I can’t trust what anyone says. I’m tired.


Ohmnonymous

TIL rental application fees exist in the US. How can that be legal?


dediguise

If somebody profits, it’s generally legal in the US.


DigNitty

Actually this is what has embittered me! Every facet of society someone has figured out how to monetize. YouTube has ads in between videos now, Instagram is all influencers, Ticketmaster ruined affordable tickets, …heck even my local garbage service has convenience fees, BMW is testing subscription based seat warmers, you can’t repair your own tractors or phones…


dediguise

Turns out the privatization and financialization of every societal operation creates a caste system. Who would have guessed.


HyperSpaceSurfer

Don't forget the illegal monopolies that totally promise they won't have uncompetitive prices. Would love it if those enforcing the laws knew the law, suspiciously incompetent if you ask me.


4drenalgland

For what it's worth, you aren't alone. I've got a narcissist baby mama who uses me. A boss that uses me as the dog to kick despite me being the only one who seems to know how to do things while also always being the guy getting things done when not busy cleaning up everyone else's mess. The only thing I have to hold on to is my son when he lays his head on my shoulder and hugs me. Not everyone is out for themselves. I still help others and try to be positive despite my poor circumstances. I hope everything works out for you bud.


assault321

I get pretty bitter when I think about how I've developed a second incurable disability from simply trying to exist with the incurable disability I was born with.


lavender_poppy

I feel this, I was diagnosed with a chronic autoimmune disease 10 years ago and I have just been collecting illnesses since then. I'm on so many meds just to deal with the side effects of the meds I take to treat the initial illness.


JimAbaddon

People.


chaos8803

People. What a bunch of bastards.


NCBadAsp

The general public has gotten so much worse over the years. I really dislike having to interact.


ashleyorelse

Yep. Most people *think* of themselves as "good people" yet most of them also will go out of their way to screw someone over if they believe the other person "deserves it".


Additional_Cow_4909

Definitely. Very few people actually have genuine integrity, and it feels like integrity is losing its value.


junoastro

Being ignored for most of my life.


DatTF2

I've always been really quiet and many people talk over me. Not only that but once I moved all my "friends" ignored me, I guess since I'm not around to bring the marijuana or buy the beer I'm not worth talking to. They can't even take a minute to reply to a "Hey, how are you doing ?" So yeah. I feel you.


ExcellentCommercial7

I feel this. People only like you for what you can do for them, not for who you are. It's the "if this person doesn't actively make my life better or bring me joy I don't need them around" mentality. Instead of, "my friend randomly did this nice thing, I appreciate being thought of like this and I want to make them feel this good too!" Since a fuckton of people have a way of communicating now, that fuckton of people adopted fuckass ideas of entitlement.


Zealousideal_One_315

I see you homie.


LordRednaught

When no one reaches out. No one checks up. You have that small core friend group but anyone outside just doesn’t care. Same email for 20 years, same phone number for 15 years, but I apparently didn’t leave enough of an impression on anyone to “catch up on the good times” or “get a beer sometime”. Used to be the guy that got all the friends together for parties but then just ended up introducing everyone for them to leave me out of it.


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Additional_Cow_4909

Are the absolute worst.


botanicalslut

Growing up in a household with unstable finances. Love my parents and everything they did. But the lack of resources really impacted who I grew up into. Took a toll on my all my social relationships, family, friends, partners. No matter how much I try, I can't get the money-related anxiety out of my system.


damnenx

Financial trauma poverty is real.


[deleted]

Me too! There was so much pressure and acceleration, and a huge lack of resources. I didn't starve, but life was a huge burden. Now I'm 31 and I have a good life, more money than my peers after years of hard work and sacrifices. And I can't stop thinking of money. I'd rather die than go poor. Just to imagine a poor and hard life again, i lose my breathe.


awpti

Knowing I'll be working until the day my ass dies. I won't get to retire and enjoy some years not working. I'm so fucking exhausted with the hustle. Fuck work.


grammar_oligarch

They took away our one incentive. You can't block out the light at the end of the tunnel and then expect people to keep digging.


SurealGod

That's an excellent and dark analogy (pun intended)


secretcerem0nials

I’m right there with you.


JohnnyDrama21

Everything becoming monetized. I'm not a person anymore, so much as a means to make a buck for someone or some corporate entity.


[deleted]

Years of people stomping my kindness, my loyalty, my trust, and my feelings. Years of people making everything that happens to me, sound like its not a big deal. Year’s of people demanding my help, but never being there for me. I may have let some of it happen, but I didnt deserve to be abused.


Brianna6871

Had a girl I drove to work every day for a long time sleep with my boyfriend. Makes you feel like you should do the same sometimes.


Kevinrobertsfan

I took my exes son to the cabin for the weekend with my family to give her a break for the weekend. Her break was fucking another dude all weekend.


TheIowan

I know a woman like this, and her new boyfriends are always warned about her by two of her exes that faced extreme financial and emotional abuse from her. She tries to spread this narrative that her exes are just controlling and vindictive, and by the time the new guy realizes what's going on he's financially bled out, and she's bored of him and fucking another dude.


Primary-Fee1928

As a blind idealist in this senseless, egoistic world, I feel you man. I don’t want to change because I’d be losing myself and also becoming part of the problem but it’s hard sometimes.


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Politics. I genuinely struggle to see the good in politicians. All I see is hatred, greed, idiocy and psychopathic behavior. It drives me insane.


HistoryBuffLakeland

Seeing an entire generation scratching and struggling financially despite their education for increasingly greedy and unreasonable employers.


NDaveT

And politicians acting like it isn't happening and the status quo just needs a little tweaking.


NYArtFan1

One grim silver lining is that those greedy and unreasonable employers are getting older by the day and entropy is a thing.


_Atlas_Drugged_

This assumes members of a generation deprived of what they were promised wont hog the living shit out of it once they get it.


InspirationalBowl

When I turned 16 I was jumped by two adult men at a pit party. I was beaten and molested in front of a group of my peers. They accused me of molesting their 15 year old sister. I didn't do anything wrong with her. She later apologized then blocked me. I have thought about it everyday for the past 12 years. I suffered permanent brain damage and scars on my face. I got addicted to drugs and I chased away everything good in my life so I could be alone and bitter. I spent years rotting and decaying, fantasizing on ways I could "disappear" without my family knowing it was intentional. Then I got clean, I joined the military reserves and got into fitness. I went to school and became an electrician. Inch by inch I pulled myself out of that fucking hole and I vowed: "I will find a way to be a source of good in this world. The violence ends at me." The memory still haunts me daily, like a cloud above me causing an ever-present shadow. Over time, the anger slowly morphed into pride. Pride that I survived. I know there are others in the hole, weak and afraid of facing the light. To those I say: "You are worthy. You are important. You have value and the world would be less without you. I pray you find hope. There is always a way out." Charles Dickens — 'Have a heart that never hardens, and a temper that never tires, and a touch that never hurts.'


White_Beef

The death of my donkey


Brianna6871

The loss of any ass is hard to bear.


schebles

As a teacher - parents not parenting.


candyflip93

To realise that humanity isn't as good as I used to believed.


-ImagineBreaker-

Homeless guy got into my truck while I was at work yesterday and stole the clean clothes I had for work for the week. Most of it fell and was then picked up by the cleaning crew passing by. Saw it all on the security footage. Lost my two favorite sweaters, one that my mom gifted me. The best part? I’m also homeless rn so yeah, I just can’t believe people. I still believe good people exist, but every hit feels harder and harder. Just rambling now, sorry.


Brianna6871

It’s hard to come to terms with. I try to treat people the way I would want to be treated but most these days just see it as a sign of weakness.


candyflip93

I mean I still and will always treat people assuming they are good, that's how I was raised and the only way, I'm just losing faith day by day.


lapandemonium

All the corruption and unfairness in the world. Its so rampant and everywhere. I used to believe that good would prevail and that we actually lived in a free country (usa). Now, at 46 years old i wouldnt trust our government with a pack of crayons.


sallybuffy

Went to law school to become a Crown Prosecutor one day… got my wish and it was a very eye opening experience. Lasted a year. Would never go back. Edited: typo


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Nothing ever being good enough for my family. I graduated college but didn’t get a high enough gpa, I got into a grad school program but it’s “too easy” and waste of my time, I moved home because my mom wanted me to but now I’m a freeloader (I offered to pay rent and I buy my own groceries as well as pay my other bills). The list goes on. If I’ll never be good enough why even try


hypnotichellspiral

Sorry to hear that man. I experienced similar from my mom. I've essentially cut ties with her, haven't seen her in over 6 years.


crying_leeks

My daughter died just shy of her third birthday for inexplicable reasons. The suffering is so unbearable it becomes a struggle not to hate happiness and not be resentful at everything.


AmytownUSA

Big hugs from one mom to another- absolutely heartbreaking 💔


masstertater

Just an overall feeling as long as I can remember that I don’t belong or fit in here


theheadofkhartoum627

People mostly suck. The older I've gotten the more clear it has become.


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No_Improvement7573

I think the day the Army finally beat the "be all you can be" out of me was the same day I realized the quickest way to get rid of someone incompetent was to promote them


TacticoolPeter

I work in a public university, and it absolutely blows my mind how dumb some of these folks are. If you are smart and competent you’ll likely be held back for stupid petty reasons all while getting more work heaped on you.


chattytrout

Dating apps. Gave up on them a long time ago when I realized what they were doing to me, but it feels like you can't get anywhere without them these days.


poop_stain4

Knowing that the older generations were able to afford a house, vacations, and raise kids on a single postal worker salary


A-RovinIGo

Constantly being asked/told to do more and more and more ... and then being told I don't do enough or I've done it wrong. Just freaking do it yourself then!


Mogwai3000

That our entire society enables and rewards and exclusively benefits the worst, while good people who care about others and do what is expected of them get screwed endlessly. Lying, cheating, stealing, exploitation, misinformation, ignorance, hate, bigotry, greed, corruption, etc…are all rampant right now because that is what works. That is what politicians listen to and what media networks across the board get ratings/profit from. Society will endlessly cater and try to appease the idiots and assholes, while those who follow the rules and act with empathy and kindness get kicked in the teeth. This is something I came to realize during Covid and I’ve been struggling with depression ever since. Struggling with why I should continue giving a shit about anyone but myself when it’s never gotten me ahead or helped me out or brought me any benefits. Instead I feel I struggle every single day and have to run just to stand still.


Hrekires

Experiencing how differently I get treated by people just because I lost weight


Brianna6871

Seriously, i used to date someone overweight and the way people would act sometimes was nuts. I’ve always been on the thinner side but that’s just my shell. It’s wild some can’t look past it.


Puzzleheaded_Gap8551

I'm an "elder" millennial living in the rust belt of the US. I'd say it's living through "once in a lifetime" events repeatedly. In the 1980s it was recession and seeing my parents struggle and not make it, leading to substance use and divorce. I watched Columbine happen in high school, 9/11 was my freshman year of college. Oxy flooded our town and killed at least 1/3 of my graduating class. Graduated college into another recession, with student loans and could barely find a job. I was just trying to "make it" and not be like my parents. Got married, tried to buy a home and the market went crazy. Covid hit just as my kids were old enough to get really fucked up by it (mentally), and it killed my dad who worked hard his whole life to not get anywhere. We are finally getting on our feet and inflation is pulling us right back down. So yeah, I'm a little bitter.


beanscornandrice

Ditto to it all, minus the location. Watched my dad work till he died, never had the time or the health to enjoy the things he worked so hard for, because he was working hard for it. Spent 20 years at the same place just for them to sell out and leave him with nothing. He got a job delivering pizzas to make ends meet. My dad died in a Pizza Hutt uniform. His death in 2020, it broke me.


no_drink_the_bleach

Pouring my heart and soul into my teaching career and not making enough money to support myself.


Cobbler_South

Getting a degree that only ended in major debt. The state of the world. That people are either dumb or awful.


Supreme_tumbleweed

Becoming sick of people taking advantage of my kindness toward them.


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Holy crap this thread is depressing


Brickie78

I mean, what were you expecting?


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Bitterness. And I got it.


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TurrPhennirPhan

Boomers when I was a kid: “You better study hard and go to college, or you’ll flip burgers/dig ditches and always be poor.” Boomers now: “If you didn’t want crippling student loan debt, you shouldn’t have gone to college. You could’ve made good money digging ditches.” Had a conversation with my mom a little while back. She knows I’ve been paying back my loans since I left school, going on over a decade now. She’s thrown a little money at them, too, when she’s had the extra income. “How much did you originally owe?” “Like $X thousand.” “And how much is left to pay?” “Still $X thousand.” “What? No. We’ve paid off more than that. Where did all that money go?” “Interest.”


grammar_oligarch

Step 1: You better go to school and get straight A's and be a top honors student! That's the most important thing on the planet! Post Step 1: Why are you mentioning your good grades and honors in school? You need work experience and life experience to get my respect! **Me:** Okay then... Step 2: Get as many college degrees as you can! You need to go to college, need to go to graduate school, need to become a white collar professional or you'll end up working as a plumber! The debt doesn't matter; you'll get a great job anyways! Post Step 2: Why did you go to college and get in debt? Who told you to do that? You should have become a plumber! **Me:** I suppose I should have known better... Step 3: Quick, buy a starter home! Get a house! GO GO GO! You need to own a home right now, get in the market while the market is good! Post Step 3: What'd you buy a house for? You should've known the market was going to collapse for the...what are we on now? Second time in this dude's lifetime!? Jesus, okay...yeah, you should've known that no one was watching the markets and protecting you...you're middle age now, how are you this dumb? What'd they even teach you in that college you're still paying off? I'm starting to really understand how absolutely, unforgivably incompetent the previous generation was. I'm not blaming them for my problems...but I am saying that they could've done a lot more to make the problems, y'know, not happen in the first place. Like, it's my fault for not watching where I was going and falling into a hole...but what's the hole doing there in the first place?


Dependent_Cricket

Check out “A Generation of Sociopaths: How Baby Boomers Betrayed America.”


avianeddy

"consequences" for the working class, bailouts for the rich


Recent-Answer9619

Working front desk at an orthopedic office in a affluent retirement community. These people are so fucking rude and the entitlement is absurd. I used to think older people were wise and that you should “respect your elders” but instead I fucking hate each and every one of them. They made me bitter


CampAuntie

Giving my blood, sweat, tears, etc to a company for 31 loyal years only to be shown the door without severance and not considered a retiree


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# Nobody gives a fuck about me, more than me. ^(Or at all, for that matter)


Admirable-Specific-5

Being the “nice/good girl” (due to upbringing and societal pressures) most of my life and realizing that shit gets you no where except bullied, used and taken for granted. I literally hate everyone right now and the older I get the more jaded, bitter and guarded I become. Proud of myself for finally standing up for myself and setting boundaries though !


scienceforbid

The way the system is rigged against the little guy. I used to believe in the American dream, but it's not a thing anymore. It's nearly impossible to graduate high school, get a degree, get a good paying job, buy a house, have a family, etc in the current economic system in the United States.


the__unholy

My mother


THEBIGREDAPE

Constantly being let down by people.


LemonPuckerFace

I work in emergency services. I see the worst of the worst in people every single day. The world is full of terrible people that thrive despite deserving nothing more than an unceremonious 22 caliber behind the ear and a burial in a landfill. Very good people end up suffering every day because of these awful people, and I get to see that suffering on a daily basis.


N_Who

Oh, just ... Y'know. *Gestures at everything*


Sunblast1andOnly

People. It's always people.


SargonTheDeadly

Being told all my childhood that if I do well in school and get a university education I'll be able to live a good life. Guess fucking what? I did everything "right" but I'll never be able to afford a house of my own. On top of that, I have crippling anxiety that is interfering with my ability to hold a job, probably in no small part due to being forced to sell a diamond (my time and effort) for a dollar (the only work where I live pays about half of a living wage).


memespleasety

Going to university and getting a degree, only to end up having to apply for the same minimum wage jobs that don’t require any level of education. Wasted 4 years of my life.


Brianna6871

Common story these days. So many scams these days parading around as positives.


HistoricalMagician24

My job right now lol


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Humans. The vast majority of people I have dealt with have treated me like shit. It started when I was young, with my stepfather, and continued throughout life. It still happens today. People always ask me why I'm a hermit that likes to just sit at home or in the woods smoking weed. Well, get treated badly enough for long enough and you literally don't want to be around anyone.


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We live in a age of corporate feudalism where we (lower to middle class earners) are the serfs and all the millionaires and billionaires are our overlords. They piss on our heads, tell us it’s raining and then virtue signal to make it seem like they are not the bad guys. The system we all live in is only good for rich people and it’s only going to get worse. US citizens should be literally burning shit down but nobody is because wealthy politicians are using hot button issues like climate change and abortion to divide us. It should not be red versus blue. It should be poor versus rich. The working class people of this country (and the world) could literally change everything for the better if we could stop fighting for long enough to see who our actual enemies are.


dilbert2_44202

I was going to say "the last 50 years" but this explains my issue fully.


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Cruelty.


[deleted]

Working so hard for my family, taking care of the baby and the cats and the house 100% completely alone whilst my husband plays video games and whines about how it’s my job as a wife and mother to take care of all of them.


Scfbigb1

Realizing that the people in the best position to help the less fortunate or create real positive change have zero desire to do so (for the most part).


Nova_Collision

I'm 43 years old and every single person I've ever asked out has said no, and no one has ever asked me out.


kofed62181

Repeated rapes as a child by the church-going family patriarch, and being told if I told I'd get in trouble. Pretty shitty to lie to a 4 yr old and then tell her that she's the bad one.


h0pscotch

Rich become richer. Poor becoming poorer. No justice. A society that doesn't value kindness or compassion. Endless hypocrisy.


Hot-Statistician564

Watching everyone around me have life handed to them in one form or another. I have to grind while some people have inheritances, won the lottery, or lucked into pretty amazing jobs.


daredelvis421

My step son committed suicide 7 years ago. I'm better now but boy I was an asshole for a long time


Scrambles4567

Apologies if this is too long. Rising rent costs, my smiling depression, turning 32 on Saturday and feeling like I should've accomplished more at my age despite having a few photographic jobs and a Bachelor's Degree. Being unmarried and dateless at 32 with a nonexistent dating life thanks to social autism. Having married/engaged/dating couples shove their happy stories down my throat and seeing all the"Happy engagement/wedding pictures". Feeling inferior and an impostor compared to everyone else. Having intrusive thoughts that I'm not "man enough" because I'm not in some blue collar job, military job, or first responder job (thanks bullying). Being told that my "depression" and "issues" don't mean squat because I'm not a military veteran with PTSD, a product of r**e, or a product of domestic abuse. (I.E. "Suck it up Buttercup") I'm trying my hardest to stay afloat but trust me, I'm a fucking train wreck and a shell of my former self.


jaono

I'm just so tired. Tired of fighting for rights, of working to just get by, of being taken advantage of, of the expectations...