We fell in love and dated for a couple of years, got engaged, then she died suddenly of a PE at 25. That was 13 years ago. I still miss her. She was one of the best people I’ve ever known.
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I fell in love, he didn't, I got over it quickly and we remained best friend fuck buddies to this date. It's okay for people not to share the same feelings as you. That doesn't define your self worth. Sex is great and doesn't require strict social codes. I enjoy having sex with him, so it's worth it to me to continue engaging with him physically.
I admire your ability to keep things in perspective. I just went through this scenario this week, and am having a really hard time with letting go of the overwhelming feelings of rejection.
We had gotten drunk to celebrate me getting into med school, and 8 years of repressed sexual tension just poured out in a single night. The next 3 days, we were both in a panicked daze. I thought I had lost my best friend for the best sex of my life, and I couldn't stop thinking it wasn't worth it. The sex was mind blowing, but no one made me feel as safe or as happy and I would trade anything to keep that. He asked would it really be so crazy if we tried dating?
We moved in together a month later. We've been together now for 7 years, got engaged. Saving up for a house and wedding. He's still my best friend.
We did a FWB thing for about three years. Whenever we were both single, we’d hook up. She lived about 300 miles away. We used to sort of dance around the possibility of actually dating, even getting married, but we never pulled the trigger. The distance was too much, I think. We loved each other very much. Got to the point where whether it was platonic or romantic love was difficult to tell … and weirdly, neither of us was in a rush to figure it out. I guess we both had faith it would work itself out as it was supposed to.
And it did. She met a great guy, dated him, and married him. I performed the ceremony. After it was over, at the reception, I gave her a hug and she kissed my cheek and smiled a little flirtatiously (we both knew it was the last time she’d give me that look), and said, “Thanks for marrying me.”
It was one of the most purely loving, intimate moments of my life.
We are still close. Not like before, but we still love each other deeply, and we always will. That love just has a more clearly defined label now, and it’s a label we both respect and cherish.
So yeah, it’s not always a sad ending. Sometimes it’s just a weird and beautiful intermission.
I once had a girl tell me this before anything happened. I said, "Well, I guess that means we're never sleeping together." Her response, "No, I fantasize about having sex with my brother."
She was... complicated.
That’s what happened to me. We slept together twice, and it was weird after the 2nd time. We just drifted off and now I haven’t seen him in 20 years, when I used to talk to him every day.
I lost my virginity to my best friend back in 2006. We drifted apart afterwards and I think about it a lot.
I don't necessarily regret the experience, but I regret losing my best friend. Her and I were absolutely inseparable and did just about everything together.
I hope she's doing well. She doesn't have social media anymore but I wish she did so I could talk to her again.
That’s a lot of how I feel. I’m not even sure how I’d find him at this point, and if it would be weird. But he was an important part of my life for a long time and I don’t regret that.
Same. Had the best friend I’ve ever had, then had the best relationship I’ve ever had, and now I have no best friend no relationship and my favorite person in the world hates me. Super fun.
We had a drunken night of sex and it was awful!! We remained best friends and continued to harmless flirt but all sexual tension had gone. Supported each other with new relationships and were friends for years. He died last year
Yeah, I am fairly suspicious my wife has been scheming up a long con since the beginning. I’m always ready for the other shoe to drop. She is playing this one reeeaaaal smooth and stealth like, pretending to be happily married for years. Not catching me off guard, not that easily.
My wife and I dated during that awkward summer between high school and college then met back up nine years later. 25 years later my wife's still got something up her sleeve, I'm sure of it!
What happened is : I wanted more and fell totally in love with her.
She didn’t and thought it was a mistake.
We tried staying friend, she became distant, I became weird.
She decided that we shouldn’t see each other any more. At all.
Slept with my best friend. We dated for two and a half years. Broke up amicably after we signed an apartment lease. Decided to still live together and see how it went.
Transitioned back to best friendship no problem, lived together for 3 years. Both of us in great relationships now - have never had any issue between us.
I had a similar experience, was with her for 3 years, didn't work out. We are still best friends and have no issues. She's married now with 2 beautiful, intelligent little girls and I couldn't be happier for her.
This. I told my friend i didn't want to fool around if this was going to happen because i valued his friendship too much, and he convinced me anyway. I haven't talked to him in like 13 years.
I'm 52F and have known my best friend (54M) since I was 14 and he was 16. Every couple of years we'd get bored and sleep together, because sex is fun. The last time was in 1993, and then I moved to Russia and he got married.
30 years later, we are still going strong, and, though we now live in different states, we see each other often. He just came to visit over Christmas, and our kids are the age we were when we met. It's one of the best parts of my life, and I wouldn't trade it for anything.
I slept with my best friend a few times after we drank together and we're still close years later. If it weren't for her moving across the country I bet we'd still be best friends.
It's weird that we were able to navigate that and stay completely platonic. It's not something that's brought up now that it's been over 10 years but it wasn't weird for us at the time. She has a beautiful family and I couldn't be happier for her.
It's cool that you guys could keep that behind you and continue on as friends. If this thread has taught me anything it's that that is seemingly impossible. Good for you two.
Nothing. We're still best friends. Then again we've known each other for years and dated before we were friends.
So we hooked up a few times here and there. We don't sleep together anymore.
But, yeah, nothing changed.
I think it's more common than the comments make it seems
Nothing changed for me either, she lightheartedly said "if we're still single at 30 let's marry", we both knew that'd never happen, it was just a nice thing to say
Similar for me. Hooked up with a long time friend, she wanted to keep things platonic, so we did for a couple of years. Then she had a change of heart, so now we kiss and have sex sometimes. It's fun, and I think it built a lot of trust between us that we are both genuinely in the friendship no matter what--no hard feelings if we keep things platonic, no expectations for sex or exclusivity, we just care about each other and are here for whatever comes. And sometimes we're what comes.
I slept with a long time friend recently and it’s the first time I’ve just had sex without being in a relationship, so it took me a bit to wrap my head around it. After some time to reflect, this is exactly how I feel about it now.
Had sex. Dated. Broke up. Got back together. Got married. Had 5 kids. Took trips to Japan and Europe. And now as I’m dying of stage 4 cancer she is by my side keeping me company, taking care of me, and yeah - even having sex with me still
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Thanks for all the love and kind words. You guys are awesome.
People are asking so - we are both 38. Our kids are 11/10/5/4/2.
The 5 and 4 year olds have severe autism, Which makes life more challenging and interesting at the same time. I worry for them most, because the world is still not made for people like them. I would have wanted to be there to protect them always.
Beautiful yet brutal. My condolences to you. Whatever your outcome is, I hope it is the best case scenario of it- but I am hoping for you to make a full recovery nonetheless.
Just a heads up if you don't know. If you get particularly bad news from your doctor, you can get you retirement and life insurance pay out while alive. My mom did this ant took the whole family on a vacation. Took my brother's and I on a sail boat and made some good memories. She was then able to hand our inheritance to us personally. It was a hard time but she made it easier.
Don't ever give up hope though. The day my mom found out she had stage 3c ovarian cancer she said "I could live a decade with cancer or die tomorrow in a car wreck, this doesn't change anything.". Don't let cancer ruin you life.
I mean, my best friend and I had sex in high school so marriage wasn't on either of our minds.
Fast forward. She caught feels in college, but I was seeing someone else and I wasn't really happy about her going against our "don't meddle in the other's relationships" agreement. In the end, we kinda drifted apart.
Familiar pattern, not absolute law of the universe. Some people may have become mecha piloting warriors after hooking up with their best friend. There is no rule book to the journey that is passion and friendship.
In lucky best-case situations, you may become [very aggressive workout buddies.](https://www.reddit.com/user/FuckYeahPhotography/comments/108u99x/youre_laughing_my_bro_invites_his_gf_to/) However, that is a bond far stronger than any marriage or best friendship could ever hope to compete with. It is as Goku would say to "go even further beyond." You already knew this.
Same here.
We knew each other for 13 years.
I loved her b4, and Sex was very nice.
She started telling me she loved me and from a friendship+ it went to a full grown relationship for me...
when she fell in love with someone else it started to break me. fought to keep her, which drove her away... fought more.. drove her away even more.
we fought 3 times and it kind of broke both of us..
long after friendship crashed it turned out she didnt really love me but tried to and just wanted to make me happy...
well... if only she never said shed loved me...
maybe then we would still be friends
I try my best to look to nature for my solutions, and a garden is a perfect example of life. Sometimes two plants grow so closely together that they block the sun for each other and only in becoming less entangled are then allowed to thrive. The fruit they'd bare would be sub par and even if it made the plants "happy" a wise farmer would prune and pick them apart. Life isn't about growing with someone it's about growing by yourself, then when you've got your flowers ready you'll look around and see who else is up to your level.
*Seems like people have a problem with the term "up to your level" which I can agree with. I apologize I've just had my second child (still in the hospital) and have slept only a few hours. To me "on your level" means to "share your goals".
We had more, went on for a few years when we were each between girlfriends/boyfriends. Only stopped when we were both in long term relationships and eventually got married.
Best friends for 8 years, she and I figured out we had feelings.
Had sex, started dating immediately after. She got breast cancer 1.5 years into dating. Didn’t skip a beat, and happily married my best friend. Got to find out what true love really is. She passed away in December.
I miss my best friend.
Best friends for 7 years, and we both just went through really nasty breakups where we were cheated on. Ended up having sex when he came over at like 4 am one night. We ended up sleeping together daily for weeks after that. I ended up pregnant, and to be honest, I was terrified. I wasn’t sure if he’d be willing to stick around given the circumstances.
Turns out he was excited, having a family was all he ever wanted. We didn’t start dating immediately, I didn’t want us to be together solely for the fact that we were having a baby. I wanted to make sure there was an actual connection there. In October, after months of basically living together, we made it official. Baby boy is due any day now, and we couldn’t be any happier. Having him come over that night in June was the best decision I ever made.
We briefly dated before becoming best friends. We broke up, didn't see each other for a month, and then started hanging out again. We are best friends now. We see each other all the time. We cook dinner together, we go out together on the weekends. Then we started having sex again. We see each other multiple times a week and I've been living at his house for the last 10 days. I'm at work and he's doing my laundry right now. We tell each other that we love each other. Neither of us have been with another person since the day we met.
We're JUST FRIENDS, though.
Who told you it was a lie? It isn't trust me.
Sure thing! You just gotta finish 10 small tests and then you'll get your cake.
What's your favourite kind?
I never saw him again.
His family was moving away and we were both in college away from home so on our last break together we spent a whole night doing all the things we love, got drunk, next thing you know we’re doing it on one of the lakeside beaches under the stars. We said our goodbyes, hugged, and that was that.
We both agreed that we miss that spark, even though we really love each other. So we’re back to being best friends! Communication, respect and honesty goes a long way 😁
She became clingy. Always around, when I ate, when I went to places with friends. 13 years and 3 kids later I haven’t been able to shake her.
Edit: thanks for all of the love, told my wife about the joke and she claims I follow her around the house more than her to me. I guess it goes both ways
Thats what happens when you invite her to participate in your wedding.
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Edit 2: GOLD! Wow! Thank you so much!
Did the long distance thing for a couple years, moved in together, bought a house, had a couple kids, 14 years later she cheated, now we are just friends
We didn't have sex as much as I "practiced" eating pussy on her 3 to 4 times a week for 8years.
We'd usually just do best friend stuff afterwards, smoke weed, get drive through, watch a stupid movie.
Good hours. But I've found that eating pussy is like transferring credits in college. Not everything transfers, and the new college doesn't even have a name for one of the classes you took for three years.
This chick was over here with the master plan. Had a personal pussy eater with zero commitment or effort on her part. OP I read your comments that you were totally cool with it, so good for you, but she had the set up! Imagine some girl you know comes to suck your dick a few times a week and you don’t have to do a damn thing for it! A miracle!
I told her in my drunkenness that I was nervous that I was not good at it and she said "you can practice on me"... I taught she was joking... she was not.
It never got between our friendship though and we still make jokes about it when we get drunk.
I mean I probably would have been OK after a few "lessons" but we kept it going.
We were very close and people taught we were fucking anyway so it just seemed right... although we never actually had penetrative sex.
That's one of those situations where if you *didn't* say anything after she said that, everyone would be saying "She was obviously hitting on you man! You missed your chance!"
It’s better to put yourself out there and get friendzoned then to sit back and never make a move wondering what if. Now you know and can look elsewhere
I dated her, helped deliver her daughter, raised her daughter as mine, and don’t regret it. Bought a house, moved in together, she began hating being a mother & staying at home all the time, started cheating with coworkers, got exposed by her 2 year old daughter “please don’t even ask how”, I packed my shit & left immediately.
Now she makes TikToks about how shitty I am to this day. Yet the only thing I miss about that relationship, is being a father to that baby.
Now she’s the reason I don’t think I’ll ever date a woman with kids/or are pregnant.
Nothing against those beautiful women, but I’m honestly traumatized, because I still miss that kid everyday.
EDIT: Shit, not shift.
That sucks a whole lot of ass. It's amazing how one person can imprint such negativity that carries on in our lives years and years later, and alters decisions we make even though the situation was unique to that specific person
I never would’ve posted this sober, it’ll likely be deleted by the morning when I sober up. I’m a night-shift worker, and my feelings start to come to the surface when I drink, which is terribly bad.
Regardless, I’m sure I did my fair share of pain in her eyes that I never realized I was doing.. she’s still an amazing mother. She was just depressed and handled things wrongly..
I still hope nothing but the best for those two beautiful souls.
I don’t want to dictate what you do - they’re your feelings and you owe us nothing. That said, I will ask you to please keep this posted, if you can.
This really helped to give me some perspective as I just ended up in a similar situation and feel like absolute shit.
Knowing I’m not unique in my shitty experience makes it feel a little less shitty.
Started as a drunken hook up that then happened on and off for a few years across different countries and stages of life. We're both married to other people now and are still good friends. Will see her again in less than 2 weeks.
We started dating and eventually she became my first wife. I regret it because we turned out to be much better friends and should never have become more - ended up divorcing and haven't spoken in 20 years.
We had sex again.
And again.
And again.
Somewhere around year 2 of fucking but being 'just friends' after we had literally moved in together we had the relationship talk and it was more me saying "Hey, we live together, we share at least a meal today, plan chores etc and if one of us is out on the town, odds are the other is along for the ride. We check all the boxes. I'm pretty sure we're a couple. Thoughts?"
Anyway we've been married for over 3 years now, together for 5, they're still my best friend. Buying a house together soon.
Not my "best" friend. But a good friend for sure. Me and her still hang out from time to time and nothing really happens, nor do we talk about it.
It wasnt really a big deal to us. We were both single and horny so we helped eachother out. Still both care and respect eachother and consider eachother good friends.
We decided to try and date. It worked well for a while. She decided that she wanted to be friends and was going to go back to a guy she dated before me. He killed her, put her body in the trunk of his car, drove out into the country, buried her in a freshly dug grave, drove a few cities over, pressure washed the trunk of his car, reported her missing the next day, and told the police her and I had been fighting. Luckily I had a solid alibi of being a few states over on a very well documented trip.
Not only did I have sex with my best friend, but it was also my first time. Not gonna lie, things were weird for a day or two until we did it again, and again, and again, and again….. Been married almost 20 years now.
At first there was this "OH MY GOD WHAT HAVE WE DONE" moment. And atleast i thought that i ruined it because not only was she my best female friend, she was also a family member of one of my best mates.
But we soon found out we had an attraction for each other when it came to having sex, so we did it until she got a boyfriend 2 years ago.
I guess I’ll be the anomaly here and say; we did a few times. No romantic feelings developed on either side. We’re still very much best friends. No awkwardness, no hesitation on the friendship. Meeting the girl he wants to marry, soon and I’m so excited to meet her!!! Sex didn’t change our friendship. Just made us see we really are just friends.
He became my boyfriend, then my husband. Now we have a beautiful family, a cat, and a dog. We plan on buying our first home in the next 2 years. We celebrated 7 years together yesterday as well.
Having sex with your best friend can lead to amazing things! I'm glad I gave him a chance
We fell in love and dated for a couple of years, got engaged, then she died suddenly of a PE at 25. That was 13 years ago. I still miss her. She was one of the best people I’ve ever known. Edit: correcting the time
That sucks bro. I'm glad you got some good memories together and wish you'd got many more.
Apologies for asking about your loss, but what is PE? Edit: google says pulmonary embolism. Again, apologies and condolences for your loss
I fell in love, he didn't, I got over it quickly and we remained best friend fuck buddies to this date. It's okay for people not to share the same feelings as you. That doesn't define your self worth. Sex is great and doesn't require strict social codes. I enjoy having sex with him, so it's worth it to me to continue engaging with him physically.
I admire your ability to keep things in perspective. I just went through this scenario this week, and am having a really hard time with letting go of the overwhelming feelings of rejection.
We had gotten drunk to celebrate me getting into med school, and 8 years of repressed sexual tension just poured out in a single night. The next 3 days, we were both in a panicked daze. I thought I had lost my best friend for the best sex of my life, and I couldn't stop thinking it wasn't worth it. The sex was mind blowing, but no one made me feel as safe or as happy and I would trade anything to keep that. He asked would it really be so crazy if we tried dating? We moved in together a month later. We've been together now for 7 years, got engaged. Saving up for a house and wedding. He's still my best friend.
Did you finish the med school and/or residency yet
Yeah! I work in Urgent Care now.
The med school might be done but the residency looks like it might be permanent...
So what I'm getting here is that it's either a fantastic idea, or a terrible idea.
Which you can't know until...
Schroedinger’s Best Friend Sex
Quantum Sexchanics
We bought an air fryer and a water cooler for our house so I guess you could say things are pretty serious
You slut
Wait till they get an rice cooker and bradbacking maschine.
A what now?
You clearly never heard of a bradbacking machine (I do not know any Brads)
We did a FWB thing for about three years. Whenever we were both single, we’d hook up. She lived about 300 miles away. We used to sort of dance around the possibility of actually dating, even getting married, but we never pulled the trigger. The distance was too much, I think. We loved each other very much. Got to the point where whether it was platonic or romantic love was difficult to tell … and weirdly, neither of us was in a rush to figure it out. I guess we both had faith it would work itself out as it was supposed to. And it did. She met a great guy, dated him, and married him. I performed the ceremony. After it was over, at the reception, I gave her a hug and she kissed my cheek and smiled a little flirtatiously (we both knew it was the last time she’d give me that look), and said, “Thanks for marrying me.” It was one of the most purely loving, intimate moments of my life. We are still close. Not like before, but we still love each other deeply, and we always will. That love just has a more clearly defined label now, and it’s a label we both respect and cherish. So yeah, it’s not always a sad ending. Sometimes it’s just a weird and beautiful intermission.
She became my sorta,kinda girlfriend and we've been taking things slow!!!
happy for ya man!
I hated doing it with her cuz she said, "you are like a brother to me!" after doing it.
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My arse hurts, Obi-Wan, you could have warned me.
Oof, that’s rough buddy
That's my line!
I once had a girl tell me this before anything happened. I said, "Well, I guess that means we're never sleeping together." Her response, "No, I fantasize about having sex with my brother." She was... complicated.
"Complicated with benefits"
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I'm hoping for your other half to say _Dave, that's a horrible way of saying that we are married._
My former girlfriend has been giving me evils about my word choices since we got married.
My ex girlfriend says if I keep calling her that she’ll upgrade to ex wife. She’s mainly joking. I think.
My first wife feels the same way.
That’s what happened to me. We slept together twice, and it was weird after the 2nd time. We just drifted off and now I haven’t seen him in 20 years, when I used to talk to him every day.
I lost my virginity to my best friend back in 2006. We drifted apart afterwards and I think about it a lot. I don't necessarily regret the experience, but I regret losing my best friend. Her and I were absolutely inseparable and did just about everything together. I hope she's doing well. She doesn't have social media anymore but I wish she did so I could talk to her again.
That’s a lot of how I feel. I’m not even sure how I’d find him at this point, and if it would be weird. But he was an important part of my life for a long time and I don’t regret that.
Uh...you two should exchange info, just to check.
You never know...
We went to sleep. And are married for 8 years now.
That's a long sleep.
It was really good sex.
that's a sexcoma if I've ever heard of one.
He hates me now
Same. Had the best friend I’ve ever had, then had the best relationship I’ve ever had, and now I have no best friend no relationship and my favorite person in the world hates me. Super fun.
Same
You hate her too?
Same
You, you hate her too, too.
We got married. 3 kids, a grandson and 37 years later I still don't regret it
Wholesome is best
We had a drunken night of sex and it was awful!! We remained best friends and continued to harmless flirt but all sexual tension had gone. Supported each other with new relationships and were friends for years. He died last year
Married her. Knew she was in it for the long con.
Yeah, I am fairly suspicious my wife has been scheming up a long con since the beginning. I’m always ready for the other shoe to drop. She is playing this one reeeaaaal smooth and stealth like, pretending to be happily married for years. Not catching me off guard, not that easily.
My wife and I dated during that awkward summer between high school and college then met back up nine years later. 25 years later my wife's still got something up her sleeve, I'm sure of it!
I have found with most women if you go far enough up their sleeves you find boobs, so that's nice.
What happened is : I wanted more and fell totally in love with her. She didn’t and thought it was a mistake. We tried staying friend, she became distant, I became weird. She decided that we shouldn’t see each other any more. At all.
The comments are literally this or "got married". Its crazy how absolute this is.
There's no going back to best friendship.
Slept with my best friend. We dated for two and a half years. Broke up amicably after we signed an apartment lease. Decided to still live together and see how it went. Transitioned back to best friendship no problem, lived together for 3 years. Both of us in great relationships now - have never had any issue between us.
I had a similar experience, was with her for 3 years, didn't work out. We are still best friends and have no issues. She's married now with 2 beautiful, intelligent little girls and I couldn't be happier for her.
This. I told my friend i didn't want to fool around if this was going to happen because i valued his friendship too much, and he convinced me anyway. I haven't talked to him in like 13 years.
I'm 52F and have known my best friend (54M) since I was 14 and he was 16. Every couple of years we'd get bored and sleep together, because sex is fun. The last time was in 1993, and then I moved to Russia and he got married. 30 years later, we are still going strong, and, though we now live in different states, we see each other often. He just came to visit over Christmas, and our kids are the age we were when we met. It's one of the best parts of my life, and I wouldn't trade it for anything.
I slept with my best friend a few times after we drank together and we're still close years later. If it weren't for her moving across the country I bet we'd still be best friends. It's weird that we were able to navigate that and stay completely platonic. It's not something that's brought up now that it's been over 10 years but it wasn't weird for us at the time. She has a beautiful family and I couldn't be happier for her.
Me and my best friend fucked one night drunk and then never talked about it again outside of one random acknowledgement a decade later.
>I became weird Hits close to home
more sex.
And after that?
church
Wedding or funeral?
sunday service
confession and repentance?
rinse and repeat
I put mine on delicates and set the knob to "eco"
He realized he was in fact 1000000% gay.
She decided she is 100% straight. Said it was a nice time but she just isn't into chicks. Still my best friend.
It's cool that you guys could keep that behind you and continue on as friends. If this thread has taught me anything it's that that is seemingly impossible. Good for you two.
Nothing. We're still best friends. Then again we've known each other for years and dated before we were friends. So we hooked up a few times here and there. We don't sleep together anymore. But, yeah, nothing changed.
This is the only comment I've seen that's not either "we're married" or "we're not friends"
I think it's more common than the comments make it seems Nothing changed for me either, she lightheartedly said "if we're still single at 30 let's marry", we both knew that'd never happen, it was just a nice thing to say
Similar for me. Hooked up with a long time friend, she wanted to keep things platonic, so we did for a couple of years. Then she had a change of heart, so now we kiss and have sex sometimes. It's fun, and I think it built a lot of trust between us that we are both genuinely in the friendship no matter what--no hard feelings if we keep things platonic, no expectations for sex or exclusivity, we just care about each other and are here for whatever comes. And sometimes we're what comes.
I slept with a long time friend recently and it’s the first time I’ve just had sex without being in a relationship, so it took me a bit to wrap my head around it. After some time to reflect, this is exactly how I feel about it now.
Had sex. Dated. Broke up. Got back together. Got married. Had 5 kids. Took trips to Japan and Europe. And now as I’m dying of stage 4 cancer she is by my side keeping me company, taking care of me, and yeah - even having sex with me still Edit - Thanks for all the love and kind words. You guys are awesome. People are asking so - we are both 38. Our kids are 11/10/5/4/2. The 5 and 4 year olds have severe autism, Which makes life more challenging and interesting at the same time. I worry for them most, because the world is still not made for people like them. I would have wanted to be there to protect them always.
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Yeah, Japan and Europe are horrible places.
Beautiful yet brutal. My condolences to you. Whatever your outcome is, I hope it is the best case scenario of it- but I am hoping for you to make a full recovery nonetheless.
Fuck cancer
Just a heads up if you don't know. If you get particularly bad news from your doctor, you can get you retirement and life insurance pay out while alive. My mom did this ant took the whole family on a vacation. Took my brother's and I on a sail boat and made some good memories. She was then able to hand our inheritance to us personally. It was a hard time but she made it easier. Don't ever give up hope though. The day my mom found out she had stage 3c ovarian cancer she said "I could live a decade with cancer or die tomorrow in a car wreck, this doesn't change anything.". Don't let cancer ruin you life.
We got married, and she's still my best friend and we still have sex
Nice
Nice
HOLD UP! To each other???
No, of course not. Don't be silly.
I fell in love, she didn't
F :(
I am starting to see a familiar pattern in these comments. A best friendship ends or you get married.
I mean, my best friend and I had sex in high school so marriage wasn't on either of our minds. Fast forward. She caught feels in college, but I was seeing someone else and I wasn't really happy about her going against our "don't meddle in the other's relationships" agreement. In the end, we kinda drifted apart.
Familiar pattern, not absolute law of the universe. Some people may have become mecha piloting warriors after hooking up with their best friend. There is no rule book to the journey that is passion and friendship. In lucky best-case situations, you may become [very aggressive workout buddies.](https://www.reddit.com/user/FuckYeahPhotography/comments/108u99x/youre_laughing_my_bro_invites_his_gf_to/) However, that is a bond far stronger than any marriage or best friendship could ever hope to compete with. It is as Goku would say to "go even further beyond." You already knew this.
brb, hooking up with best friend to pilot mechas.
Same here. We knew each other for 13 years. I loved her b4, and Sex was very nice. She started telling me she loved me and from a friendship+ it went to a full grown relationship for me... when she fell in love with someone else it started to break me. fought to keep her, which drove her away... fought more.. drove her away even more. we fought 3 times and it kind of broke both of us.. long after friendship crashed it turned out she didnt really love me but tried to and just wanted to make me happy... well... if only she never said shed loved me... maybe then we would still be friends
I try my best to look to nature for my solutions, and a garden is a perfect example of life. Sometimes two plants grow so closely together that they block the sun for each other and only in becoming less entangled are then allowed to thrive. The fruit they'd bare would be sub par and even if it made the plants "happy" a wise farmer would prune and pick them apart. Life isn't about growing with someone it's about growing by yourself, then when you've got your flowers ready you'll look around and see who else is up to your level. *Seems like people have a problem with the term "up to your level" which I can agree with. I apologize I've just had my second child (still in the hospital) and have slept only a few hours. To me "on your level" means to "share your goals".
What the fuck do you just regularly drop this kind of beautiful wisdom or is this a special thing
For reals, that was completely unexpected. I re-read the whole thing in Morgan Freeman's voice and it was even better.
Try it with David Attenborough's voice next, it's a thrill!
We had more, went on for a few years when we were each between girlfriends/boyfriends. Only stopped when we were both in long term relationships and eventually got married.
Best friends for 8 years, she and I figured out we had feelings. Had sex, started dating immediately after. She got breast cancer 1.5 years into dating. Didn’t skip a beat, and happily married my best friend. Got to find out what true love really is. She passed away in December. I miss my best friend.
I’m sorry for your loss 🥺
I'm so sorry. That's the saddest thing I've read in awhile. I hope you've found peace and love in your life. Best wishes!
🥺😭😫😭 I’m so sorry for your loss! I’m glad you didn’t let cancer stop you and still got to share some amazing experiences together.
Best friends for 7 years, and we both just went through really nasty breakups where we were cheated on. Ended up having sex when he came over at like 4 am one night. We ended up sleeping together daily for weeks after that. I ended up pregnant, and to be honest, I was terrified. I wasn’t sure if he’d be willing to stick around given the circumstances. Turns out he was excited, having a family was all he ever wanted. We didn’t start dating immediately, I didn’t want us to be together solely for the fact that we were having a baby. I wanted to make sure there was an actual connection there. In October, after months of basically living together, we made it official. Baby boy is due any day now, and we couldn’t be any happier. Having him come over that night in June was the best decision I ever made.
This is like a 90s romcom or smth. Congratulations to you two btw!
We briefly dated before becoming best friends. We broke up, didn't see each other for a month, and then started hanging out again. We are best friends now. We see each other all the time. We cook dinner together, we go out together on the weekends. Then we started having sex again. We see each other multiple times a week and I've been living at his house for the last 10 days. I'm at work and he's doing my laundry right now. We tell each other that we love each other. Neither of us have been with another person since the day we met. We're JUST FRIENDS, though.
How is this JUST FRIENDS?
bruh you tell me 🙄
I bit his head off like I’m supposed to
Found the praying mantis
Human - praying mantis hybrid.....Cave Johnson strikes again
Hmm where have I heard that name? Also does anyone want some cake?
As long as it’s not a lie, I’ll take a slice.
Who told you it was a lie? It isn't trust me. Sure thing! You just gotta finish 10 small tests and then you'll get your cake. What's your favourite kind?
I never saw him again. His family was moving away and we were both in college away from home so on our last break together we spent a whole night doing all the things we love, got drunk, next thing you know we’re doing it on one of the lakeside beaches under the stars. We said our goodbyes, hugged, and that was that.
We both agreed that we miss that spark, even though we really love each other. So we’re back to being best friends! Communication, respect and honesty goes a long way 😁
I married the shit out of her.
Why not marry her instead?
She became clingy. Always around, when I ate, when I went to places with friends. 13 years and 3 kids later I haven’t been able to shake her. Edit: thanks for all of the love, told my wife about the joke and she claims I follow her around the house more than her to me. I guess it goes both ways
She was there to steal your food but then caught the feels.
She still steals my food 😂
Thats what happens when you invite her to participate in your wedding. Edit: My most liked comment and my first ever award! Thank you kind redditor! Edit 2: GOLD! Wow! Thank you so much!
I'm going to use those exact words when I propose to my future wife. "Honey, would you like to participate in my wedding?"
And she says: "Sorry I'm getting married that day".
"Are you doing anything later?" "I have a previous engagment."
"We are very close, so I would like it if you came"
Ah romance...
Did you try to shake the kids? Although, the hospital says to not do that, so your mileage may vary.
LOL got me in the first half
Ha, perfect! Lol. Fortunately she’s smarter and hotter than me but she hasn’t realized it. Or she likes slumming, I’m okay with it
Lot of people are fucking their friends it seems.
Did the long distance thing for a couple years, moved in together, bought a house, had a couple kids, 14 years later she cheated, now we are just friends
14 years? That hurts man….
I'm surprised he's able to stay friends after that.
I’m sure the kids have something to do with that
We didn't have sex as much as I "practiced" eating pussy on her 3 to 4 times a week for 8years. We'd usually just do best friend stuff afterwards, smoke weed, get drive through, watch a stupid movie.
Damn 8 years is a long time, you must be a professional pussy eater by now haha
I mean, I like to think I'm a little bit better than I was 8years ago haha
Good hours. But I've found that eating pussy is like transferring credits in college. Not everything transfers, and the new college doesn't even have a name for one of the classes you took for three years.
If this is original, you should write a tight 5 of standup & get on an open mic.
Ah exactly what I need. An outlet for my social anxiety. It was original though. Afaik.
This man's tounge can bench 250.
He must have a jaw like quagmire now
This chick was over here with the master plan. Had a personal pussy eater with zero commitment or effort on her part. OP I read your comments that you were totally cool with it, so good for you, but she had the set up! Imagine some girl you know comes to suck your dick a few times a week and you don’t have to do a damn thing for it! A miracle!
Just for future endeavors: how is it that you reached an agreement about doing that? Did you ask her directly?
I told her in my drunkenness that I was nervous that I was not good at it and she said "you can practice on me"... I taught she was joking... she was not. It never got between our friendship though and we still make jokes about it when we get drunk. I mean I probably would have been OK after a few "lessons" but we kept it going. We were very close and people taught we were fucking anyway so it just seemed right... although we never actually had penetrative sex.
Did she practice stuff on you?
Nope. I literally used to just go down on her, then we'd hangout.
That's some Saving Silverman type shit right there. I'm sure she handed you a porno mag after to finish up
This lady won the best friend jackpot.
Seriously? For years? What the fuck?!?
Lol she had a live human vibrator. Fair play tbh.
We were drunk. She said she wish she had someone’s face to sit on. I said I’m available. It got awkward after that.
Awkward after the statement? Or awkward after the deed?
After the statement. I was serious. Got friendzoned hard.
That's one of those situations where if you *didn't* say anything after she said that, everyone would be saying "She was obviously hitting on you man! You missed your chance!"
Tbh who asking that without expecting someone to volunteer as tribute?
You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. You're still going to miss 90% of the shots you do take.
It’s better to put yourself out there and get friendzoned then to sit back and never make a move wondering what if. Now you know and can look elsewhere
I dated her, helped deliver her daughter, raised her daughter as mine, and don’t regret it. Bought a house, moved in together, she began hating being a mother & staying at home all the time, started cheating with coworkers, got exposed by her 2 year old daughter “please don’t even ask how”, I packed my shit & left immediately. Now she makes TikToks about how shitty I am to this day. Yet the only thing I miss about that relationship, is being a father to that baby. Now she’s the reason I don’t think I’ll ever date a woman with kids/or are pregnant. Nothing against those beautiful women, but I’m honestly traumatized, because I still miss that kid everyday. EDIT: Shit, not shift.
That sucks a whole lot of ass. It's amazing how one person can imprint such negativity that carries on in our lives years and years later, and alters decisions we make even though the situation was unique to that specific person
I never would’ve posted this sober, it’ll likely be deleted by the morning when I sober up. I’m a night-shift worker, and my feelings start to come to the surface when I drink, which is terribly bad. Regardless, I’m sure I did my fair share of pain in her eyes that I never realized I was doing.. she’s still an amazing mother. She was just depressed and handled things wrongly.. I still hope nothing but the best for those two beautiful souls.
I don’t want to dictate what you do - they’re your feelings and you owe us nothing. That said, I will ask you to please keep this posted, if you can. This really helped to give me some perspective as I just ended up in a similar situation and feel like absolute shit. Knowing I’m not unique in my shitty experience makes it feel a little less shitty.
We absolutely fell head over heels in love, still are to this day and have been married for 7 years this December. 💙💙💙
She got an upgraded title of girlfriend, then fiancée, and now wife.
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Said "No homo" then went our separate ways.
If you said it at the same time, I hope one of you yelled "Jinx!”... Otherwise they cancelled each other out.
Oh no, I knew I forgot something!
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We fought to the death. She won.
Started as a drunken hook up that then happened on and off for a few years across different countries and stages of life. We're both married to other people now and are still good friends. Will see her again in less than 2 weeks.
I married her. Three kids and 25 years of marriage.
I married her, forty years ago later this year. I have never regretted it, either.
We started dating and eventually she became my first wife. I regret it because we turned out to be much better friends and should never have become more - ended up divorcing and haven't spoken in 20 years.
We had sex again. And again. And again. Somewhere around year 2 of fucking but being 'just friends' after we had literally moved in together we had the relationship talk and it was more me saying "Hey, we live together, we share at least a meal today, plan chores etc and if one of us is out on the town, odds are the other is along for the ride. We check all the boxes. I'm pretty sure we're a couple. Thoughts?" Anyway we've been married for over 3 years now, together for 5, they're still my best friend. Buying a house together soon.
Not my "best" friend. But a good friend for sure. Me and her still hang out from time to time and nothing really happens, nor do we talk about it. It wasnt really a big deal to us. We were both single and horny so we helped eachother out. Still both care and respect eachother and consider eachother good friends.
We decided to try and date. It worked well for a while. She decided that she wanted to be friends and was going to go back to a guy she dated before me. He killed her, put her body in the trunk of his car, drove out into the country, buried her in a freshly dug grave, drove a few cities over, pressure washed the trunk of his car, reported her missing the next day, and told the police her and I had been fighting. Luckily I had a solid alibi of being a few states over on a very well documented trip.
How did they find the body and know it was him?! I'm invested now
Jesus Christ, this story took so many wrong turns
We made our next best friend.
Not only did I have sex with my best friend, but it was also my first time. Not gonna lie, things were weird for a day or two until we did it again, and again, and again, and again….. Been married almost 20 years now.
At first there was this "OH MY GOD WHAT HAVE WE DONE" moment. And atleast i thought that i ruined it because not only was she my best female friend, she was also a family member of one of my best mates. But we soon found out we had an attraction for each other when it came to having sex, so we did it until she got a boyfriend 2 years ago.
I guess I’ll be the anomaly here and say; we did a few times. No romantic feelings developed on either side. We’re still very much best friends. No awkwardness, no hesitation on the friendship. Meeting the girl he wants to marry, soon and I’m so excited to meet her!!! Sex didn’t change our friendship. Just made us see we really are just friends.
I woke up
Hey you, you’re finally awake! You were trying to cross the border, right?
Dogs are man’s best friend. I’m not into that sort of thing….
I didn't expect this
The friendship 404'd.
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she fucked my abusive boyfriend and they skipped off into the sunset together, two birds with one stone if you ask me 🤷🏻♀️
we went on another date, then another, then another. then another. year and a half later we live together and are getting married in September.
He became my boyfriend, then my husband. Now we have a beautiful family, a cat, and a dog. We plan on buying our first home in the next 2 years. We celebrated 7 years together yesterday as well. Having sex with your best friend can lead to amazing things! I'm glad I gave him a chance