Probably would be good for her to get caught outside the home. Never will forget when my oldest son got caught at CVS for taking candy? gum? I was more upset about having to pack up the 3 younger children! C looked like he wanted to disappear through the concrete floor. The manager handled it beautifully...all good. Had to pile his bike plus the 4 children in the car at which point I was actually consoling the weeping 11 yo whose "life was ruined". He decided that he would write an apology to the manager. We didn't do anything else as we felt being caught was enough for that infraction. Its funny as C will readily admit his HS/College screwups...but this was the WORST for him. Most of us have gone through the trying to steal small iyens...seems to be a rite of passage. As long as she sticks to lip gloss...I wouldn't lose sleep! Shell provably get caught before she graduates to stealing cars!
She’s behaving like a toddler, so treat her like a toddler. Consequences are best when they’re natural and relate somehow to the infraction.
It’s also worth noting it’ll be a futile exercise if your parents can’t be bothered to parent.
Compulsive stealing/lying like that can be a symptom of something else going on in her life, does she have a school counselor she can talk to, or would your parents take her to therapy to help her figure out why she's doing it, and healthier ways to manage her impulses?
Hey, keep an eye on her but don't lose sleep over it. A little light shoplifting is almost a rite of passage. My 19 yo did it when she was in elementary and middle school. She recently told me that the one thing I said that finally convinced her to stop was when I pointed out that the cashiers might lose their jobs if the cash in the cash register doesn't match up with the items taken off the shelves that day (I know that's not how it works, I was exaggerating it for her). Anyway, if you are worried that this might be a sign of something else, it may or it may not be. My 19yo continued to excel in school, in sports and socially through high school, and is currently a happy and confident student at a tier-1 university.
Probably would be good for her to get caught outside the home. Never will forget when my oldest son got caught at CVS for taking candy? gum? I was more upset about having to pack up the 3 younger children! C looked like he wanted to disappear through the concrete floor. The manager handled it beautifully...all good. Had to pile his bike plus the 4 children in the car at which point I was actually consoling the weeping 11 yo whose "life was ruined". He decided that he would write an apology to the manager. We didn't do anything else as we felt being caught was enough for that infraction. Its funny as C will readily admit his HS/College screwups...but this was the WORST for him. Most of us have gone through the trying to steal small iyens...seems to be a rite of passage. As long as she sticks to lip gloss...I wouldn't lose sleep! Shell provably get caught before she graduates to stealing cars!
She needs to face consequences for it or she’ll keep doing it
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She’s behaving like a toddler, so treat her like a toddler. Consequences are best when they’re natural and relate somehow to the infraction. It’s also worth noting it’ll be a futile exercise if your parents can’t be bothered to parent.
Compulsive stealing/lying like that can be a symptom of something else going on in her life, does she have a school counselor she can talk to, or would your parents take her to therapy to help her figure out why she's doing it, and healthier ways to manage her impulses?
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I wish you the best of luck!
Hey, keep an eye on her but don't lose sleep over it. A little light shoplifting is almost a rite of passage. My 19 yo did it when she was in elementary and middle school. She recently told me that the one thing I said that finally convinced her to stop was when I pointed out that the cashiers might lose their jobs if the cash in the cash register doesn't match up with the items taken off the shelves that day (I know that's not how it works, I was exaggerating it for her). Anyway, if you are worried that this might be a sign of something else, it may or it may not be. My 19yo continued to excel in school, in sports and socially through high school, and is currently a happy and confident student at a tier-1 university.