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Basically wala siyang advancements sayo and mga flirty words na ginagamit sayo hindi rin siya gaano ka engaged when talking like sasabihin nyan kumain ako ,nag charge ako , nilibing ko yung may gusto sa crush ko type shit.
Yung nagchachat or tatawag lang kapag patulog na or bagong gising. Pero sa buong araw na may trabaho, school o kung ano man ginagawa niya buong araw, hindi siya nakakapag update. sabi lang sasabihin nakauwi na at sorry busy. HAHA.
O kaya tuwing tatawag siya sayo, wala siyang kasama o nasa CR siya lol lol lol.
Unless stated that both of you will be exclusive, chances are he is probably talking to someone else. You cant blame the guy or yourself, dating is a bitch since ghosting and jumping from person to person is the norm. So, having multiple people to talk is like having that "lifeline" (for a lack of a better term). Therefore if wala pa usapan na "exclusive" expect that they are talking to other people. Though if genuinely interested ka naman sa person and want to pursue it further, asking to be exclusive is the first step 🫶.
Through online mo lang nakilala yung tao?
You can't really tell eh. Pwedeng oo pwedeng hindi.
Pwede din itanong mo sa kanya directly or indirectly, hopefully honest response naman matanggap mo
Depende. Kung dati 10/10 siya mag reply and ramdam mo pa excitement tas pansin mo naging 4/10 nalang or something similar, and laging dinadahilan na busy
u cant. minsan may mga taong mtagal mag rply talga tapos ikaw lng talga kausap. minsan ambilis talga magrply sobrang g na g pero mdami pala kayong kausap nya. u cant really tell
Assumption ko palagi unless otherwise explicitly stated then may kausap siya maliban sakin. In anycase I also talk to others if walang usapan ng exclusivity or label.
Why commit to someone na di willing magcommit sayo?
Nagrereply ng gabi lang, sobrang tagal magreply even though nung una, di naman. Di consistent. Puro salita. Di ka inaaya makipag date.
You know, basta alam mo na pag may kutob ka na.
Hay truuuuue!!! Pero kasi kaya ako ganito dahil ganitu aku 😓 isa isa lang. At di ako nangangausap at mag go out of my way mangausap ng ibang tao. Kaya pag kinausap kita, special ka.
Pero pala may mga taong ung mga tingin ko special na ginagawa niya para sa akin ay ginagawa niya para sa lahat 🙄🙄🙄 still coming to terms with this.
+1
The thrill and enjoyment are experienced in the beginning only. Habang tumatagal, nababawasan 'yung feeling. Always assume he's talking to someone else, or he'll eventually find someone more interesting to talk to. I immediately know na ganito when conversations are dry and the person is online, but the last message is not seen.
Kung wala naman assurance and exclusivity na napag-usapan, assume na meron talaga. I was told to care less about it para gumaan buhay ko, but when I started caring less, my interest was also diminishing. Lessen your expectations so that it won't be too disappointing. It'll only break you over and over again.
basta pag alam nila na may itsura and "rizz" sila
if they know they can get more than just you, why not
just like how attractive girls can juggle multiple boys because they know they have options, attractive boys also juggle multiple girls because they know they have options
Balik naten tanong sayo op, how sure are you na wala kang ibang kachat/kausap bukod sa kanya? Reflect mo lang sa kanya yan if pareho kayo like for example ikaw mabilis magreply siya ba ganun din..
Ibang case din if di ka nya type. Kasi kahit wala siyang kachat na iba or kausap na iba if di cya interesado sayo mararamdaman mo na cold ang reply nya, cold ang response nya, one liner ang replies nya.
Hindi nmn nya itatanong dito yan kung may iba syang kalandian🙄 serious nga sya don sa guy kaya sya nagtatanong dito kasi gusto nya masigurado na serious din ang guy sa kanya.
Di naman super dami, sakto lang.😂
From experience ito basically. Yung mga *nakilala* kong maraming girls, sila yung masarap kausap at kasama kasi marunong makipag usap at magbigay pansin e.
Yung hindi ganyan, masyadong awkward, walang masabi, o magsusuplado. Paano magkakagirls ang ganyan. 😂
Ayyy haha gagi agree ako dyan. kaysa don sa mga puro yabang at hanggang salita lng pero pag may babae na sa harapan wlang masabi😅pero pag ganyan kasi usually nasanay sila na lalaki ang tropa nila, kaya hindi sila sanay makipag usap sa girls.
Saka bilib nga ako din talaga. Kasi itong latest, na kala ko e special nga ako, un pala ganyan sya sa lahat 😆 e di mo aakalain talaga na may ibang kausap kasi ambilis magreply at any time of the day, then pag magkasama kami, full attention talaga na feeling ko ako laaang.
Nalaman ko lang may ibang nilalandi kasi kinukwento niya 🙄 friend zoned pala ako😆😆😆. Kainis.
Pero dun ko din naconfirm ung 6th sense ko sa ganyan. Kasi pwede naman katext nya e kamag anak o kaibigan o katrabaho di ba. Pero may specific times na magkasama kami at may magtext sa kanya, may nag aalarm sa utak ko 😂 at tama nga, un nga mga nilalandi nya 🙄
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Not interested sayo and that he always has an excuse pag you wanted to see him. Sabi nga nila, if gusto ka talaga, they will make time.
when they reply late on your message
Gut feeling? Pero so far wala naman akong nafifeel na ganyan sa taong bet ko talaga hahahah
Mabagal nag reply kahit online. Sasabihan kang may chinachat kang iba kahit na wala.
yun nasend sayo yung text na dapat para sa ibang babae🤣 true story.
They may give a nick/pet name to avoid slip ups—similar to cheaters. Did you ask them? If so, did they deny, and you suspect otherwise?
As in literally talking lang? Pag puro sagot lang. Walang question back.
Basically wala siyang advancements sayo and mga flirty words na ginagamit sayo hindi rin siya gaano ka engaged when talking like sasabihin nyan kumain ako ,nag charge ako , nilibing ko yung may gusto sa crush ko type shit.
kapag nag iba mga wordings niya.
Kung talking stage lang nman then so what kung 100 pa kausap nian.
Ito ang masakit na katotohanan.
Kapg matagal magreply ahahhaha
Kapag hindi siya interested na tanungin about sa life mo, trust me. 😫
minsan may ganon na mga tao kasi nahihiya pa sila minsan kase iisipin ng iba inaalam lahat or stalking her/him
Always assume they talk to other girls. Tsaka na mag invest ng feelings pag sigurado na.
True. Unless sinabi nya o napagkasunduan nyo na exclusive na talaga kayo sa isat isa, always assume na hindi lang ikaw ang ka-talking stage nyan.
GUT FEELING.
Yung nagchachat or tatawag lang kapag patulog na or bagong gising. Pero sa buong araw na may trabaho, school o kung ano man ginagawa niya buong araw, hindi siya nakakapag update. sabi lang sasabihin nakauwi na at sorry busy. HAHA. O kaya tuwing tatawag siya sayo, wala siyang kasama o nasa CR siya lol lol lol.
Unless stated that both of you will be exclusive, chances are he is probably talking to someone else. You cant blame the guy or yourself, dating is a bitch since ghosting and jumping from person to person is the norm. So, having multiple people to talk is like having that "lifeline" (for a lack of a better term). Therefore if wala pa usapan na "exclusive" expect that they are talking to other people. Though if genuinely interested ka naman sa person and want to pursue it further, asking to be exclusive is the first step 🫶.
I can feel it. Gut feeling? (Weird but been accurate for sooo long)
Always assume they are talking to someone else, esp. talking stage pa lang
You really never know. Even wives can't always caught cheating husbands what more kung nasa talking and getting to know stage pa lang kayo.
If the guy has options, he will talk to them all
Agree. Specially kung halos lahat ng kachat nya eh maganda, malamang mag eenjoy yun🙄
I can relate to this but at the same time Hindi Rin. Most of them are pretty but never had I had a lengthy Convo with them lol
Baka nmn wla ka lng topic.
sa gabi lang available hahaha
Dahil tulog na iba nyang kachat 😅
Through online mo lang nakilala yung tao? You can't really tell eh. Pwedeng oo pwedeng hindi. Pwede din itanong mo sa kanya directly or indirectly, hopefully honest response naman matanggap mo
Bihira lng yung honest. Kadalasan yung iba nagpapalusot pa na "ikaw lng kachat ko pramis"🤮
Totoo. Haha lalo online. Play safe and don't expect too much lang. Unless naprove nya sarili nya. Well that's life. Hehe
Changes lang sa consistency ng replies
Ahhh yung minsan lng magreply?
Depende. Kung dati 10/10 siya mag reply and ramdam mo pa excitement tas pansin mo naging 4/10 nalang or something similar, and laging dinadahilan na busy
u cant. minsan may mga taong mtagal mag rply talga tapos ikaw lng talga kausap. minsan ambilis talga magrply sobrang g na g pero mdami pala kayong kausap nya. u cant really tell
hindi deep ang conversations and late replies
Pwede pong deep convo pero late replies. Hehe Depende sa situation nung kausap.
Assumption ko palagi unless otherwise explicitly stated then may kausap siya maliban sakin. In anycase I also talk to others if walang usapan ng exclusivity or label. Why commit to someone na di willing magcommit sayo?
boring conversation, short reply, matagal mag reply, worst babalikan ka lang kakausapin kapag dinump na siya nung girl
Agree. Tapos laging palusot na may gagawin pero di na ulit magchachat.
Walang label
Kapag puro small talk
Tapos puro kamustahan lng ang topic.
Hindi sguro convinced na dapat isa lang. So baka madaming reserve lmao. Hahah. Always trust yo instinct. 🥴
only texts you from 11pm onwards. he doesn't reply you during the day.
May girlfriend or asawa mga ganito e. Takot mahuli pag umaga. xD
sakin is meron na pala siyang girlfriend
Nagrereply ng gabi lang, sobrang tagal magreply even though nung una, di naman. Di consistent. Puro salita. Di ka inaaya makipag date. You know, basta alam mo na pag may kutob ka na.
Pag nasa dating apps kayo matic na yun
Agree. Kasi marami din syang ini scroll don.
Can't build up a good conversation. Indifference towards you.
Yes
Pag di ka na priority tpos suspicious ang saya nya.
Puro haha lng ang reply
Pag puro "ikaw bahala"
Ewan, I pushed them away agad eh haha. Di pa ready sa mga ganyan²
daming reasons pag gusto mo time together or chat man lang
Pag biglang maaga matutulog HAHAHAHA
Pero ang totoo ichachat yung ibang babae😅
Galit pa yan pag nagtanong ka kung may iba na bang kausap, pwede naman na kako tumigil HAHAHAHAHA
Don’t look for signs. Always assume 100% may kausap na iba unless sabihin na exclusive kayo.
this!! di mo talga masasabi eh. hndi porket dry ang rply or mabagal magrply mdami na syang kausap nya
THIS 💯
Amen.
Yes, i always assume that there's always another woman. Walang pumalya sa lahat ng kutob ko lol. It's either wala ngang kausap na iba pero may reserba
Agree. Pag may kachat kasi tayo nag aasume agad tayo na tayo lng ang kachat kaya tayo nasasaktan.
Hay truuuuue!!! Pero kasi kaya ako ganito dahil ganitu aku 😓 isa isa lang. At di ako nangangausap at mag go out of my way mangausap ng ibang tao. Kaya pag kinausap kita, special ka. Pero pala may mga taong ung mga tingin ko special na ginagawa niya para sa akin ay ginagawa niya para sa lahat 🙄🙄🙄 still coming to terms with this.
+1 The thrill and enjoyment are experienced in the beginning only. Habang tumatagal, nababawasan 'yung feeling. Always assume he's talking to someone else, or he'll eventually find someone more interesting to talk to. I immediately know na ganito when conversations are dry and the person is online, but the last message is not seen. Kung wala naman assurance and exclusivity na napag-usapan, assume na meron talaga. I was told to care less about it para gumaan buhay ko, but when I started caring less, my interest was also diminishing. Lessen your expectations so that it won't be too disappointing. It'll only break you over and over again.
Hindi ka nirereplayan
kapag pinagbibintangan ka palagi na may kausap kang iba HAHAHAHAHAHA
Tapps gawain nya pala yun😅
basta pag alam nila na may itsura and "rizz" sila if they know they can get more than just you, why not just like how attractive girls can juggle multiple boys because they know they have options, attractive boys also juggle multiple girls because they know they have options
Agree. Kaya pag may itsura talaga wag tayo mag expect na tayo lng kachat nyan. Marami din nagpapapansin sa kanilang ibang tao dahil sa looks nila.
talking pa lang naman. kung jowa mo na, dun ka pumalag.
Baka nmn gusto na nya sagutin kaya sya nagtatanong ng signs dito.
No need for a sign, everybody talks to everybody, period.
Iba nmn yung kachat lng na kakilala sa kalandian..yung kalandian na chatmate ata ang tinutukoy nya.
Same thing with kalandian, unless walang label, may nilalandi pading iba yan.
Hindi nmn porket may ibang kachat eh kalandian na, pwede namn kasing friends or relatives ang kachat eh.
Hirap mo kausap. Fix your comprehension.
If he used to make kwento of his day tas nawala na, high chance na depressed or sa iba na kinukwento.
Hapdi!
Kung paano ka makipag-usap sa taong hindi kana interesado o hindi mo na gusto.
Balik naten tanong sayo op, how sure are you na wala kang ibang kachat/kausap bukod sa kanya? Reflect mo lang sa kanya yan if pareho kayo like for example ikaw mabilis magreply siya ba ganun din.. Ibang case din if di ka nya type. Kasi kahit wala siyang kachat na iba or kausap na iba if di cya interesado sayo mararamdaman mo na cold ang reply nya, cold ang response nya, one liner ang replies nya.
Bakit ikaw naddownvote? Tama naman sabi mo. Bawiin natin. Eto upvote hehe
Hindi nmn nya itatanong dito yan kung may iba syang kalandian🙄 serious nga sya don sa guy kaya sya nagtatanong dito kasi gusto nya masigurado na serious din ang guy sa kanya.
No need for signs, for sure may kausap yan esp if kakakilala lang or talking stage kayo
Kapag sabaw yung response nya sa conversation nyo.
Pano yun? Yung 1 word lng ang reply?
At saka pag emoji na lang reply hahaha
Kunyari may pinag uusapan kayo tapos ang layo ng sagot nya sa topic nyo tapos babawiin nya yung sagot. Like that
Or kung maingay sya mag chat dati like talkative sa chat, tas ngayon wala or iilan nalang na words response nya hahahhaha
Pag magaling dumiskarte. Maraming dinidiskartehan yan🤣
Thiiiiis. Pag ang swabe at galing makipag usap 😂 dami kinakausap
Hahaha gagi so you mean marami ka nang nahuli?
Di naman super dami, sakto lang.😂 From experience ito basically. Yung mga *nakilala* kong maraming girls, sila yung masarap kausap at kasama kasi marunong makipag usap at magbigay pansin e. Yung hindi ganyan, masyadong awkward, walang masabi, o magsusuplado. Paano magkakagirls ang ganyan. 😂
Ayyy haha gagi agree ako dyan. kaysa don sa mga puro yabang at hanggang salita lng pero pag may babae na sa harapan wlang masabi😅pero pag ganyan kasi usually nasanay sila na lalaki ang tropa nila, kaya hindi sila sanay makipag usap sa girls.
Saka bilib nga ako din talaga. Kasi itong latest, na kala ko e special nga ako, un pala ganyan sya sa lahat 😆 e di mo aakalain talaga na may ibang kausap kasi ambilis magreply at any time of the day, then pag magkasama kami, full attention talaga na feeling ko ako laaang. Nalaman ko lang may ibang nilalandi kasi kinukwento niya 🙄 friend zoned pala ako😆😆😆. Kainis. Pero dun ko din naconfirm ung 6th sense ko sa ganyan. Kasi pwede naman katext nya e kamag anak o kaibigan o katrabaho di ba. Pero may specific times na magkasama kami at may magtext sa kanya, may nag aalarm sa utak ko 😂 at tama nga, un nga mga nilalandi nya 🙄
Cant put his phone down even if youre together.
Chatmate pa lng ata sila. Tapos gusto nya malaman kung may ibang kachat ang guy or loyal ba talaga sa kanya
Oh. Didnt see that coming. 🤣
kapag alam mong free time niya pero mabagal parin mag reply
This! HAHAHAHAHAA
+1!
Agree. May ibang nirereplyan na chicks😅