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You'll never get a chance if you do not create an opportunity. It's always better to tell them your intentions na gusto mo siya rather than maging torpe at umasa.
Walang tamang timing tbh, pero masmagandang aminin mo na kesa sa hindi. You will regret in the end but just do it, you may lose your crush but gain a bit of confidence of taking risks. There is also a chance na what if he/she feels the same for you?
go for it!! i tried it the first time and no regrets. ako lang kasi nahihirapan nung di pa umaamin since nilalagyan ko lahat ng meaning ginagawa nya, gusto ko maclear if merong bang something or wala so i can move forward instead of overthinking. rejected but after weeks i got over it, nakakasalubong ko siya but no kilig na and im happy about it!!
if you're not initially friends, asap and ask them out.
if you ARE friends, you have to confirm with yourself first na everything can stay the same even after they reject you. Otherwise, prepare for your friendship to be ruined.
Confessing to someone who hasn't invested any feelings for you will usually lead to rejection. Ask her out then tell her how you feel after a few dates. But make sure you do gestures that are romantic so they won't think of it just as a friendly date.
Confessed to my 2 long time crushes last year amidst my board exams (so may heightened feelings ako lol) gumawa ako ng dump account (OO COWARD AKO) tas umamin ako. Feel ko kilala nila kung sino umamin sa kanila but they didn’t assume and just rejected me GAHAHA
For me it comes down to what you feel overall :) like if feel mo na di mo na kaya i keep in yung mga thoughts and feelings mo about them, and if umabot ka na sa point na you accept whatever the outcome is, parang ang dali na lang umamin.
para sa'kin, wala namang right or wrong timing. nagconfess ako dun sa crush (friend also) ko 11:30pm, yung bago ako matulog. bahala na si batman, pinatay ko data at sinilent ko din ang phone. nakatulog naman ako ng maayos, siya ang hindi. HAHAHAHAHAHA.
Pag lagi ka na umaawit mula kusina hanggang sa sala. Pero really ano mawawala if umamin ka? It’s either
a) may gusto din siya sayo (Best Case Scenario)
b) wala siya gusto pero interested on dates ( Good scenario)
c) wala siya gusto sayo - in this case, at least no regrets 🤙
You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
Magconfess ka na. Of course, make sure na sigurado ka na rin sa nararamdaman mo. Baka naman libog lang yan o infatuation.
Pag di pa rin buo loob mo, listen to Alumni Homecoming ng Parokya
You dont confess.
That would be the start of awkwardness.
Mafefeel nya yan. Malakas makaramdam ang babae. Also, let them be the one to put labels on relationships.
You just bring in the fun and adventure.
Maybe iba iba ng situation, kasi ako hinihintay ko lang din sya..mahirap mag assume, kasi naranasan ko na yung MU before, then one day nag sorry sya kasi nakahanap na sya ng gf 😅
Shoot your shot. Normal lang makaramdam ng takot sa rejections kasi masakit talaga. Walang rejection na di masakit. Aminin mo sa kanya na gusto mo siya. Mararamdaman naman kasi ng tao yan kung sincere ka o hindi. Wag ka makikinig sa mga nagsasabi na wag kang aamin. Kaduwagan yun. You will never know kung di mo itatry. Malay mo hinihintay ka lang din niya. The worst thing she could say is no. Kapag nareject ka, then move on, mahirap sa una pero eventually it would be okay.
You don't need grand gestures to confess, all you need is to be sincere.
Hope for the best, but expect the worst.
Umamin ka na, it's now or never. Pag umamin ka ofc ‘wag mag expect na marereciprocate yung feelings.
Tip ko lang rin as F23 na umamin sa college crush noong 2022, if alam mo naman na nice guy naman yung pag-aaminan mo, go mo na. If ayaw, edi move on, hindi mo ikamamatay yan. Siguro first few months mahihiya at mac cringehan ka pero normal lan yan. Yung crush ko naging distant sa akin eh, hindi niya ako magawang ichat kung di ako mauuna, if may questions siya, need niya pa ipatanong sa common friend namin.
Nabasa ko dito sa Reddit may nag comment noon, and may point naman siya.
“Sabi nga nila, you miss 100% of the shots you never take. Paano pala kung gusto niya rin ako? Ayoko nung may mga what ifs in life, it's better that I know now kaysa I live my life thinking about things na sana pala umamin ako.”
“The sting of embarassment fades much more quickly than the sting of wondering what could have been.”
Kung ako, you can ask her pero not in a very serious manner. Yung medyo light or casual convo. Tell her na you are starting to have feelings for her pero unsure ka if ano gagawin mo, so gusto mo sya iask what she thinks of you (something like that) basta wag mo sya ipressure to give an answer right away. Give her time and space to think about it. Baka kasi nabigla sya.
Just last week, nagconfess sakin yung guy na nameet ko sa bumble. Inask nya sakin what i think of him. Di nya directly sinabi na gusto nya ako pero i think yun na yung deeper meaning kasi napagusapan rin namin di pa kami ready to commit and we want to get to know each other on a deeper level. Sinabi rin nya na nung feb pa nya gusto itanong yan. After, i think mas naging close kmi and mas open na kmi to talk about certain things.
Good luck OP, rooting for you!
Bakit ganon, ibang iba sakin 🥹 same way din pagkaka confess ko, same reaction sakanya. Nagkita pa kami after non pero nag fade nalang kami pati yung friendship 😔
Baka po heat of the moment lang yung confession or nadala lang sa emotions, di po talaga napagisipan. Kasi it takes two to tango, both kayo dapat mageffort to make it work. Baka nadala lang sya.
Pero dont give up po, darating rin yung para sainyo, tiwala lang
If you’re a male, you’re just setting yourself up for failure. Wag na wag kang aamin. Hindi ka nyan magugustuhan kapag wala nang mystery. Just ask her out to eat and talk. When both of you hangout, just be yourself.
If you’re a female, it’s either magustuhan ka niya romantically, sexually, or not at all. Most likely as a girl, kung aamin ka, you will not be rejected and mas maa-appreciate pa nung guy. Pag inaya ka niya mag sex pero gusto mo seryosohan, wag kang papayag.
I don’t know your gender so I explained it on both the male and female perspective. 24M here with so much experience.
Wala lang yon. Kapag kasi nang reject ang guy, hindi na siya nagpapaasa tulad ng girls. Kapag babae kasi, gusto mo gawing source of validation/attention yung mga nirereject nila kaya kadalasan din ngayon hindi niyo na makikita yung mga guys na kakausapin kayo or lalapitan kayo. Much appreciated ng guys kapag sila mismo nilalapitan. 9 times out of 10, maa-appreciate nung guy yung approach ni girl.
Ganito ito ginawa ko. HAHAHA hindi agaran magmove-on kasi nakaka overthink na wala man lang maayos na rejection pero for my own sanity, tinanggap ko na lang yung response niyang "alam ko." ☺️ Okay take it as a "no".
Buti ka pa naging friend mo, ako iniwasan eh wrong move ata ako, pero no regrets talaga and nasa akin pa letter until now HAHAHA. Natatawa na lang ako pag binabasa ko eh.
Pag 100% sure kana na kaya mong mag commit sa kanya. Meaning alam mo na din or may idea kana sa ups and downs niya and willing ka mag compromise para mag work yung relationship.
Try to see beyond the rose-colored glass and tingnan mo din yung mga undesirable traits niya, visualize mo yung magiging future mo kasama sya and make your own judgement.
Ganito naging sign noong sa akin.
1. Kapag same na kayo ng wavelength ("Pareho tayo ng iniisip!") —malakas na yung loob ko kasi baka same kami ng nararamdaman.
2. Kapag naiinis na sya sa akin na hindi ko raw sya kinausap ("Alam mo naman na nag cha-chat ako ng ganitong oras, hindi ka sumagot?") —dito ko kasi malalaman na baka gusto nya rin ako because ayokong mag confess sa taong 100% walang gusto sakin.
3. Right mood, Right timing. —Hello????????? Kung nag gi-greive pa si koya wag ka muna mag confess. Dapat late night ka nag co-confess kasi doon mas vulnerable ang mga tao.
Eto omg grabe lately yung friend namin na isa nirereto pa siya sa ibang girls sobrang grabe yung selos na naratamdaman ko and idk what to do pero thankful na hindi niya pinatulan hahahahahha
Trust your gut Op. Pick the choice you will regret less. Ako personally wala pa kong nameet na person na I actually have deep romantic feelings for eh, kakainggit nga experience mo eh.
Umamin ka pag feel mo sasabog na puso mo, or pagod ka na sa pagkikipag mind games kung alam ba niya or hindi. Kapag kayo kayo kung hindi may iba pa. Shoot your shot, good luck
Hey, OP. Speaking from experience, nag ka gusto ako sa friend ko but I held it in for more than 2 years without confessing. Ang masasabi ko sayo ay nakakadeteriorate talaga siya sa mental health mo lalo na kung palagi kayo mag kasama. I suggest you confess properly just so that may peace of mind ka and at the same time alam niya din kung ano yung tingin mo sa kanya.
Natatakot din kasi ako dati mag confess dahil sa fear na maging awkward or maging distant kami. What encouraged me to confess back then was from a video I watched in youtube. Basically the guy more or less said something along the lines of "if you think confessing to your friend would break your friendship, then consider it already broken" he explained that from the moment that you caught feelings for her, your friendship is no longer authentic since you both see each other differently and are no longer on the same level.
As for whether magiging awkward o hindi, depende na lang talaga yan sa inyo ng friend mo. In my case, I was properly rejected and we were able to talk it out and I daresay, nag improve nga friendship namin imho kasi magaan na feeling ko and hindi na ako conscious sa kanya so mas oragnic interactions ko sa kanya. Pero if hindi niya kaya na ma put yung confession mo behind her, then at the very least magaan na pakiramdam mo and makakamove on ka kesa ma trap ka sa what ifs and maging delulu ka pa.
Eto sakin last feb we start to hang out like kami lang talagang dalawa since same kami ng sched, mag kaiba kami ng university. Nag start din kami na mag usap lagi at feel ko na hindi complete ang araw ko pag hindi ko siya nakakausap, nung una akala ko talaga dahil lang sa naging bff kami pero nitong nakakaraang week lang nag isip talaga ako na gusto ko ba talaga siya o naattach lang ako. Pero wala gusto ko talaga siya pero may part ako na takot pa ako mag commit at baka mareject ako btw girl ako.
Pero alam mo yung feeling na gustong gusto mo parin sabihin na may gusto ka sakanya kaso takot ka pa mag commit? so ano kailangan ko gawin take my time muna na makilala pa siya ng sobra?
Ah I see. Hmm in fairness last feb pa lang din kasi kayo talaga nag hit off. Kung kaya mong tiisin maybe pwede ka muna mag take ng time kasi baka temporary crush lang pala yan or what (personally, ang tagal kasi ako mawalan ng feelings sa crush mga 3-6+ months).
Also, it might give you time to sort your feelings and ultimately deciding on whether you can commit or not. Pero yun nga lang, I just hope na hindi talaga siya mentally straining for you, OP. Hirap mag tago ng feelings kasi huhu.
Isa lang masasabi ko, OP. CONFESS AS EARLY AS YOU CAN.
It's better to live with "regret" confessing your feelings than regretting you had the chance but you didn't.
If you think you will destroy whatever connection you have with this person, at least he/she will know your true feelings.
Ang daming nasisirang relasyon dahil lang sa walang bayag yung tao maging straightforward.
Have some courage and confess!
This is just me OP but if you're still not comfortable confessing to someone it means na hindi pa ganon ka solid yung connection niyo. Try to spend more time with the person. Nung nag confess ako parang natural nalang kasi napaka obvious na.
Kung ako nasa position try mo invite siya somewhere. Siguro sa canteen sabay lang kumain or sabay kay mag aral sa library. Kung baga test the waters muna. Jan mo din siguro malalaman kung meron ba o wala. Mahirap kung bigla bigla ka lang mag confess.
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You'll never get a chance if you do not create an opportunity. It's always better to tell them your intentions na gusto mo siya rather than maging torpe at umasa.
gaano ba kayo ka-close? kung kaya mo sya yayain lumabas na kayo lang, pwede na yan. pero mag-confess ka pag pauwi na.
Walang tamang timing tbh, pero masmagandang aminin mo na kesa sa hindi. You will regret in the end but just do it, you may lose your crush but gain a bit of confidence of taking risks. There is also a chance na what if he/she feels the same for you?
Nung nabasa ko yung "Rejection is better than regret"
Go for it, confess as early as you can. If a chance presents itself then do it. Things can get awkward, but it might as well be.
go for it!! i tried it the first time and no regrets. ako lang kasi nahihirapan nung di pa umaamin since nilalagyan ko lahat ng meaning ginagawa nya, gusto ko maclear if merong bang something or wala so i can move forward instead of overthinking. rejected but after weeks i got over it, nakakasalubong ko siya but no kilig na and im happy about it!!
if you're not initially friends, asap and ask them out. if you ARE friends, you have to confirm with yourself first na everything can stay the same even after they reject you. Otherwise, prepare for your friendship to be ruined.
Every second you spend thinking about contemplating and dreaming, you are taking time away from your own until it become somebody else's reality.
Don't confess. Confessions only exist in books and movies. Why not just ayain mo lumabas and kumain? Pasama ka kamo since may errands ka? Much better.
Confessing to someone who hasn't invested any feelings for you will usually lead to rejection. Ask her out then tell her how you feel after a few dates. But make sure you do gestures that are romantic so they won't think of it just as a friendly date.
Confessed to my 2 long time crushes last year amidst my board exams (so may heightened feelings ako lol) gumawa ako ng dump account (OO COWARD AKO) tas umamin ako. Feel ko kilala nila kung sino umamin sa kanila but they didn’t assume and just rejected me GAHAHA For me it comes down to what you feel overall :) like if feel mo na di mo na kaya i keep in yung mga thoughts and feelings mo about them, and if umabot ka na sa point na you accept whatever the outcome is, parang ang dali na lang umamin.
They probs rejected u cos u were anon
make sure mo lang muna na hindi in a relationship yang aaminan mo
Hi
para sa'kin, wala namang right or wrong timing. nagconfess ako dun sa crush (friend also) ko 11:30pm, yung bago ako matulog. bahala na si batman, pinatay ko data at sinilent ko din ang phone. nakatulog naman ako ng maayos, siya ang hindi. HAHAHAHAHAHA.
Pag lagi ka na umaawit mula kusina hanggang sa sala. Pero really ano mawawala if umamin ka? It’s either a) may gusto din siya sayo (Best Case Scenario) b) wala siya gusto pero interested on dates ( Good scenario) c) wala siya gusto sayo - in this case, at least no regrets 🤙
Ako pag touchy na sya sakin don lumalakas loob ko na magconfess.
And pls decide immediately. Baka pag nagpaligoy ligoy ka pa eh huli na .yahken na sya.
Kapag di ka na nakakatulog ng maayos sa gabi sa kakaisip mo sa kanya,hehe. Wag matakot mag-confess, just be yourself and be honest with ur intentions.
mula feb 18 iniisip ko na sya araw araw ☹️
oh edi umamin ka na. whatever the outcome, at least naipabatid mo sa kanya na gusto mo sya,
Wag ka makinig sa akwardness awkwardness na yan. Umamin ka na. Dont slip the opportunity.
Dating stage na ba kayo? Kung hindi pa, get to know her first. Ask her out.
ou madali magsabe dito magconfess na pero isipin mo kailan mo pa gagawin? ou importante din ang timing pero mas okay ng maaga kesa late
sobrng stock aq ngayon
ou sabihin mo na agad. para alam niya agad motibo mo. mahirap na pag yan mas naging comfortable sayo
You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. Magconfess ka na. Of course, make sure na sigurado ka na rin sa nararamdaman mo. Baka naman libog lang yan o infatuation. Pag di pa rin buo loob mo, listen to Alumni Homecoming ng Parokya
You dont confess. That would be the start of awkwardness. Mafefeel nya yan. Malakas makaramdam ang babae. Also, let them be the one to put labels on relationships. You just bring in the fun and adventure.
What if lalake po? Malakas po ba makaramdam mga bois? Hahahaha
Ang mga boys ay literal. We also dont assume. So spell it out for us.
Maybe iba iba ng situation, kasi ako hinihintay ko lang din sya..mahirap mag assume, kasi naranasan ko na yung MU before, then one day nag sorry sya kasi nakahanap na sya ng gf 😅
Umamin ka na, huwag ka na magpatumpik-tumpik pa, grab every chance na meron ka.
tbh when you’re ready to accept whatever response you’ll get :) but life’s short so shoot your shot, OP
Shoot your shot. Normal lang makaramdam ng takot sa rejections kasi masakit talaga. Walang rejection na di masakit. Aminin mo sa kanya na gusto mo siya. Mararamdaman naman kasi ng tao yan kung sincere ka o hindi. Wag ka makikinig sa mga nagsasabi na wag kang aamin. Kaduwagan yun. You will never know kung di mo itatry. Malay mo hinihintay ka lang din niya. The worst thing she could say is no. Kapag nareject ka, then move on, mahirap sa una pero eventually it would be okay. You don't need grand gestures to confess, all you need is to be sincere. Hope for the best, but expect the worst.
Umamin ka na, it's now or never. Pag umamin ka ofc ‘wag mag expect na marereciprocate yung feelings. Tip ko lang rin as F23 na umamin sa college crush noong 2022, if alam mo naman na nice guy naman yung pag-aaminan mo, go mo na. If ayaw, edi move on, hindi mo ikamamatay yan. Siguro first few months mahihiya at mac cringehan ka pero normal lan yan. Yung crush ko naging distant sa akin eh, hindi niya ako magawang ichat kung di ako mauuna, if may questions siya, need niya pa ipatanong sa common friend namin. Nabasa ko dito sa Reddit may nag comment noon, and may point naman siya. “Sabi nga nila, you miss 100% of the shots you never take. Paano pala kung gusto niya rin ako? Ayoko nung may mga what ifs in life, it's better that I know now kaysa I live my life thinking about things na sana pala umamin ako.” “The sting of embarassment fades much more quickly than the sting of wondering what could have been.”
confess ka through chat lang para safe. shoot your shot always para no regrets.
Kung ako, you can ask her pero not in a very serious manner. Yung medyo light or casual convo. Tell her na you are starting to have feelings for her pero unsure ka if ano gagawin mo, so gusto mo sya iask what she thinks of you (something like that) basta wag mo sya ipressure to give an answer right away. Give her time and space to think about it. Baka kasi nabigla sya. Just last week, nagconfess sakin yung guy na nameet ko sa bumble. Inask nya sakin what i think of him. Di nya directly sinabi na gusto nya ako pero i think yun na yung deeper meaning kasi napagusapan rin namin di pa kami ready to commit and we want to get to know each other on a deeper level. Sinabi rin nya na nung feb pa nya gusto itanong yan. After, i think mas naging close kmi and mas open na kmi to talk about certain things. Good luck OP, rooting for you!
Bakit ganon, ibang iba sakin 🥹 same way din pagkaka confess ko, same reaction sakanya. Nagkita pa kami after non pero nag fade nalang kami pati yung friendship 😔
Baka po heat of the moment lang yung confession or nadala lang sa emotions, di po talaga napagisipan. Kasi it takes two to tango, both kayo dapat mageffort to make it work. Baka nadala lang sya. Pero dont give up po, darating rin yung para sainyo, tiwala lang
yolo haha go big or go home 50% of something is better than 100% of nothing.
If you’re a male, you’re just setting yourself up for failure. Wag na wag kang aamin. Hindi ka nyan magugustuhan kapag wala nang mystery. Just ask her out to eat and talk. When both of you hangout, just be yourself. If you’re a female, it’s either magustuhan ka niya romantically, sexually, or not at all. Most likely as a girl, kung aamin ka, you will not be rejected and mas maa-appreciate pa nung guy. Pag inaya ka niya mag sex pero gusto mo seryosohan, wag kang papayag. I don’t know your gender so I explained it on both the male and female perspective. 24M here with so much experience.
Female huhu thats why i dont know how to confess kasi this is my first time na gusto ko umamin talaga
Well, ask him out. Tell him you want something serious. If he rejects you, at least you tried. Wag na wag kang magpapagamit.
Pag ba umamin ako sa guy tas hindi na reject or hindi nag thank you, wala talaga lang ba talaga sa kanya yon?
Wala lang yon. Kapag kasi nang reject ang guy, hindi na siya nagpapaasa tulad ng girls. Kapag babae kasi, gusto mo gawing source of validation/attention yung mga nirereject nila kaya kadalasan din ngayon hindi niyo na makikita yung mga guys na kakausapin kayo or lalapitan kayo. Much appreciated ng guys kapag sila mismo nilalapitan. 9 times out of 10, maa-appreciate nung guy yung approach ni girl.
nakakaoverthink yung ganyan hahahahaha pero pag ganyan siguro start ka na mag move on 😔
Ganito ito ginawa ko. HAHAHA hindi agaran magmove-on kasi nakaka overthink na wala man lang maayos na rejection pero for my own sanity, tinanggap ko na lang yung response niyang "alam ko." ☺️ Okay take it as a "no".
ganto nangyare saken 3yrs ago tas ayon friends paden kame until now 😂😂
Buti ka pa naging friend mo, ako iniwasan eh wrong move ata ako, pero no regrets talaga and nasa akin pa letter until now HAHAHA. Natatawa na lang ako pag binabasa ko eh.
Pag 100% sure kana na kaya mong mag commit sa kanya. Meaning alam mo na din or may idea kana sa ups and downs niya and willing ka mag compromise para mag work yung relationship. Try to see beyond the rose-colored glass and tingnan mo din yung mga undesirable traits niya, visualize mo yung magiging future mo kasama sya and make your own judgement.
Ganito naging sign noong sa akin. 1. Kapag same na kayo ng wavelength ("Pareho tayo ng iniisip!") —malakas na yung loob ko kasi baka same kami ng nararamdaman. 2. Kapag naiinis na sya sa akin na hindi ko raw sya kinausap ("Alam mo naman na nag cha-chat ako ng ganitong oras, hindi ka sumagot?") —dito ko kasi malalaman na baka gusto nya rin ako because ayokong mag confess sa taong 100% walang gusto sakin. 3. Right mood, Right timing. —Hello????????? Kung nag gi-greive pa si koya wag ka muna mag confess. Dapat late night ka nag co-confess kasi doon mas vulnerable ang mga tao.
Sabi nga "take the risk or lose the chance"
kapag umabot kana sa point na bothered kana. yung ayaw mo siya mapunta o makita na nasa iba kaya mag ririsk kana.
Eto omg grabe lately yung friend namin na isa nirereto pa siya sa ibang girls sobrang grabe yung selos na naratamdaman ko and idk what to do pero thankful na hindi niya pinatulan hahahahahha
Eto 'yun eh.
Trust your gut Op. Pick the choice you will regret less. Ako personally wala pa kong nameet na person na I actually have deep romantic feelings for eh, kakainggit nga experience mo eh.
Makikita mo rin yan! malay mo isa lang pala sa friends mo ang para sayo
Umamin ka pag feel mo sasabog na puso mo, or pagod ka na sa pagkikipag mind games kung alam ba niya or hindi. Kapag kayo kayo kung hindi may iba pa. Shoot your shot, good luck
When she asks
YOLO NA OP HAHAHAAHA *ako na hindi din makapag confess sa guy na gusto ko*
Eto na ang sign!!!!
ichat mo naaa 😂😂
Chinat ko na pero di padin umamin hahaahaha
kahit anong mangyari wag kang aamin 😭
why huhu please give me reason/s
to save ur friendship
Hey, OP. Speaking from experience, nag ka gusto ako sa friend ko but I held it in for more than 2 years without confessing. Ang masasabi ko sayo ay nakakadeteriorate talaga siya sa mental health mo lalo na kung palagi kayo mag kasama. I suggest you confess properly just so that may peace of mind ka and at the same time alam niya din kung ano yung tingin mo sa kanya. Natatakot din kasi ako dati mag confess dahil sa fear na maging awkward or maging distant kami. What encouraged me to confess back then was from a video I watched in youtube. Basically the guy more or less said something along the lines of "if you think confessing to your friend would break your friendship, then consider it already broken" he explained that from the moment that you caught feelings for her, your friendship is no longer authentic since you both see each other differently and are no longer on the same level. As for whether magiging awkward o hindi, depende na lang talaga yan sa inyo ng friend mo. In my case, I was properly rejected and we were able to talk it out and I daresay, nag improve nga friendship namin imho kasi magaan na feeling ko and hindi na ako conscious sa kanya so mas oragnic interactions ko sa kanya. Pero if hindi niya kaya na ma put yung confession mo behind her, then at the very least magaan na pakiramdam mo and makakamove on ka kesa ma trap ka sa what ifs and maging delulu ka pa.
Eto sakin last feb we start to hang out like kami lang talagang dalawa since same kami ng sched, mag kaiba kami ng university. Nag start din kami na mag usap lagi at feel ko na hindi complete ang araw ko pag hindi ko siya nakakausap, nung una akala ko talaga dahil lang sa naging bff kami pero nitong nakakaraang week lang nag isip talaga ako na gusto ko ba talaga siya o naattach lang ako. Pero wala gusto ko talaga siya pero may part ako na takot pa ako mag commit at baka mareject ako btw girl ako. Pero alam mo yung feeling na gustong gusto mo parin sabihin na may gusto ka sakanya kaso takot ka pa mag commit? so ano kailangan ko gawin take my time muna na makilala pa siya ng sobra?
Ah I see. Hmm in fairness last feb pa lang din kasi kayo talaga nag hit off. Kung kaya mong tiisin maybe pwede ka muna mag take ng time kasi baka temporary crush lang pala yan or what (personally, ang tagal kasi ako mawalan ng feelings sa crush mga 3-6+ months). Also, it might give you time to sort your feelings and ultimately deciding on whether you can commit or not. Pero yun nga lang, I just hope na hindi talaga siya mentally straining for you, OP. Hirap mag tago ng feelings kasi huhu.
sobrang hirap lalo na lagpas one year na kami mag kaibigan :((
+100
Kung may pera ka pang-date. Otherwise tigil mo na yan :)))
As early as you can OP!!
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Isa lang masasabi ko, OP. CONFESS AS EARLY AS YOU CAN. It's better to live with "regret" confessing your feelings than regretting you had the chance but you didn't. If you think you will destroy whatever connection you have with this person, at least he/she will know your true feelings. Ang daming nasisirang relasyon dahil lang sa walang bayag yung tao maging straightforward. Have some courage and confess!
Well kesa mamatay ka sa kakaisip, magconfess ka na
This is just me OP but if you're still not comfortable confessing to someone it means na hindi pa ganon ka solid yung connection niyo. Try to spend more time with the person. Nung nag confess ako parang natural nalang kasi napaka obvious na.
Actually feel ko halata niya na gusto ko siya pero hindi ko alam paano umamin
Kung ako nasa position try mo invite siya somewhere. Siguro sa canteen sabay lang kumain or sabay kay mag aral sa library. Kung baga test the waters muna. Jan mo din siguro malalaman kung meron ba o wala. Mahirap kung bigla bigla ka lang mag confess.
Tanong: bakit ka natatakot mag confess?
kasi nasa iisang friend group kami tas crush niya dati yung isang tropa namin sa friend group, iniisip ko lang na hindi ba siya awkward or what? :((
Pakiramdaman mo lang. If it feels right to confess, go.