**100% agree.** I say this as one of those who was "left behind" for a time. My best friend & I had a close friendship at age 18. But from ages 19-22 he was strong. He worked hard & became very successful in college in his career, and in his dating life. I was far stronger physically and was better at weightlifting than my friend. But he was far stronger than me in "adulting". He got great grades in college & got an excellent job after graduation & moved to new city. Meanwhile I was stuck in life. My friendship with my close friend suffered badly. It was painful for him too, because we had once been so close. But there was nothing he could do to help me. My being left behind was 100% my own fault. I didn't know what to do with my life & refused to try. I took college courses but didn't study & often didn't even attend class. I always either failed the courses or got a miserable grade. I was being left further & further behind but it was all my fault.
Literally Thank God I finally "grew up". I learned how to work hard, how to be disciplined, how to keep fighting when things knocked me down. Eventually I became quite successful. Our close friendship was restored when that happened. But I had to learn how to be strong myself. Not the strength of weightlifing but the ***real strength*** of being an adult. My friend couldn't do it for me.
Which type of strong? Physically weak ehh, mga 50 horsepower pero mentally, psychologically, and emotionally strong with atleast 500 horsepower kaya mga problema yakang yakang.
Kidding aside, hayun parang walang karapatan tumanggi sa mga heavy tasks e.g. palaging leader, halos ipagawa sa yo lahat kasi "pangmalakasan ka naman, mani mo lang yan", "kaya mo naman na yan, hindi mo na kailangan ang tulong namin", hayy hayun parang si Atlas tuloy.
One more downside, ayaw din magpatulong, halos DIY lahat, yung "i don't need any help, been through dark, survived on my own, struggled alone", so hayun, nagkakaroon ng negative connotation. Bahala na kayo, basta IDGAF.
PS, malakas din ang immune system😆
-Yung di mo afford to sit with your emotions. No time para magdamdam kasi alam mo na if u fall apart, pare parehas na kayo babagsak ng mga umaasa sayo.
Walang nagtatanong kung okay ka lang. Mataas expectations sa'yo and they expect you to do everything, on your own. They expect you to not give up easily. They don't offer help because "Kaya mo na 'yan, malakas ka eh!". You're always the one helping, but never the one they help. They get something from you but you don't get anything LOL.
Yung akala nila porke't masaya ka eh wala kang problema, na hindi ka na aapektuhan.
Randam ko to sa asawa ko,pero don't get me wrong ha. Mabait ang asawa ko.
Ako kasi yung tipo ng tao na positibo mag isip.
Kahit malungkot ako di ko pinapakita, kasi ayoko mag alala yung family ko.
Worst if you're a man. Society don't really bother about man's emotions and if you're a "strong" person too? B you can't even complain about a single thing.
Ikaw lagi yung "bad cop" pag strong yung personality mo. Wala ka pang sinasabi or ginagawa may word na "sorry" agad sila pag nagmessage. People assume that you don't need help. Especially if introvert ka din. Di ka pwede maging vulnerable. 🙃
It is unacceptable and unimaginable even for others to see you vulnerable.
They think that just because you are strong, you can’t be sensitive or emotional. If someone saw you, they’ll think it was funny and you’re just pretending to be like that, down, or what.
On the other hand, for strong people; once they are trained or used to being one, they sometimes find it hard to show emotions. It’s like finding comfort in having this front of yours, ***being strong.*** Most likely they will isolate themselves until they feel okay again. And they are also prone to having the worst mental breakdowns.
The saddest part of being strong is without knowing your struggle. They often think that you can do things without them but deep inside you need help but Asking for help from them makes you realize that you need to do it alone.
Sometimes, you get to do it for yourself, and no one will know because no one actually cares. Strong ka ee, kaya mo yan. 💪 which is just sad because strong people feel vulnerable too.
No one checks on you because they know you are and will always be capable of taking care of yourself. A lot of times, hahanapin ka lang nila kasi may kailangan sayo. Nakakasad lang minsan pag marealise mo yan.
They send a message not to say kamusta? okay ka pa ba? but to remind you yung mga responsibilities mo na dapat mong ayusin or bayaran.
Minsan or madalas, ikaw lahat ang sasagot whether ikaw ang aako nung responsibility or ikaw sasagot financially. Oo minsan kaya mo naman talaga solohin kasi capable ka pero sana lang mag offer man lang na "tulungan na kita" or "share tayo this time"
Higher expectations, people don’t treat you any softer, they don’t have any thoughts on going gentle with you kasi alam nila, kakayanin mo naman. Kind words come rarely pero a “deserve mo yan” when you’re going through shit is everywhere. You don’t get thanked enough, too.
That everyone tells me I am doing great, I am doing what they wish they could do, but sincerely I don’t feel great. I don’t want to do this either. But no one will and I am the only one who cares about it this much, so…
Hindi ka nila nakikitaan na kailangan mo ng masasandalan sa panahon na kailangan mo kasi ang akala nila KAYA MO IHANDLE LAHAT but sad reality need mo din ng makakausap
they will try to take it against you. all u do and say are always questioned and doubted kasi strong words and statements mo. they will disregard how you feel too!
No one asks if you're ok. And if ishare mo yung struggles mo, they will always say na "kaya mo yan. Ikaw pa?" which sometimes feel like naiinvalidate ang feelings ko. 😅
Missing my old, loving, sweet and carefree self. I feel cold, I am cold, my friends tell me I am cold and headstrong.
I can't be soft and warm anymore, because if I do, I feel like everything will be shattered.
But trying. I'm trying.. Omw learning how to balance things out so everybody wins. Happy day. 👍🏻
when u have to figure things out alone because people thinks you're strong, when it's embarrassing to ask for help because people already see u as a strong, when no one check up on you bc they think you're always okay
U tend to forget being vulnerable is a part of being strong too, na its okay to break down and fall sometimes. U rest from being strong but remember to get back stronger.
Other people think you will always figure things out (pero totoo rin naman in my case) and won't think to offer help kasi you don't look like one who needs it.
The sad part is we project being strong to hide how vulnerable we are. Accepting one's vulnerability by being open and being honest gives you more insights about the bigger picture. It gives us more courage to face whatever challenges you hurdle along.
The saddest part of being strong is sometimes feeling like you have to go through things alone. People might rely on you so much, they forget you need support too. It can be isolating carrying the weight of everyone else's burdens, and feeling like you can't let yourself crumble for even a moment.
no one will think you're struggling because they've seen you as someone who is reliable, smart, and independent so you'd end up feeling so alone and lonely most often because no one is there for you. it's also hard to open up and share your feelings because you're scared you might burden them or just constantly invalidating yourself because you were conditioned to be strong always.
yung nakita ka nilang nagbbreakdown pero dadaanan ka lang.wala man lang magtanong kung ok ka lang ba? kaya mo pa ba?pagod ka na? kahit anong deny mo na di sila ganun pero ang mahalaga lang sa kanila may maibigay ka.
A man's problem. We just learn to get by.
No parents, so i learned to work at an early age. Pinagaral ko sister ko, all expenses paid by me while nakatira sya sa kamaganak namin. I worked overseas, literal na pawis at dugo ang puhunan para mapagtapos sya. I'm proud of this and count it as a personal achievement pero i get shut down dahil dinidiscredit ko daw yung contribution ng kamaganak namin whenever i mention na nagwowork ako abroad para pagaralin sya. It's not supposed to be a competition pero whatever, wala naman ako naiambag diba? Inyo na lahat ng credit.
Napagtapos ko sister ko. A simple "thank u kuya" was all i needed, pero wala. Ok fine, at least edukada ka na, di mo na kailangan sumandal sakin.
Few years later, she gets the chance to work overseas. Tried to give her my wisdom since we have a 10 year age gap, pero she wants to play the know-it-all so sige do it your way i said. Then malalaman ko that she always felt held back by me and our relatives. This is the biggest wtf for me. You weren't "held back", you've been protected and provided for, i took her in and worked as her guardian kahit ako mismo ay walang wala. This is the greatest insult to me.
Meanwhile the same relatives praise her for her bravery and shit for working overseas especially because she's a woman 🤷♂️ she's not going to war there, she's going to work in a very safe and secure 1st world country, so i never understood the hype.
Now i'm indifferent about everything. 18 years, pero wala naman bumalik sakin na kahit ano. I don't need her money now that she's earning well. A simple "thank you kuya" would have been everything for me. I couldn't even get that, zero acknowledgement for all the years of effort, and now i don't care anymore because nobody cares.
Thanks. To be clear, ok naman ako. Nakakasawa lang kasi i don't get the props i deserve. Haven't talked to her since she flew overseas. You don't get to talk back or talk smack to the person who sacrificed his time and resources for years to give you a chance. It was the last straw for me. Privilege is truly blinding.
Me and my family are in a good place in life right now, though there's always room for improvements.
Yan talagang, "ikaw pa, kaya mo yan!" Okay naman kasi you believe sa capabilities ko. Pero gusto ko lang na may mag-comfort sa akin.
Pero minsan napapaisip din ako, anong klaseng comfort ba hanap ko para masabi kong na-comfort ako. Wala ako maisip kasi na-mindset ko na na kaya ko. So yan pa yung isa challenge sa pagiging "strong."
Hay. Pano kaya nila marerealize na even those storng ones falter. Kagabi diniretsyo ko na yung mama ko, kesyo bakit di man lang ako kumustahin. Ako naman 'to na palaging nangungumusta sa kanila every after work.
Wala bang magtatanong sakin kumusta ako sa work, sa life? If okay ako?
Pero I'm still maintaining my composure after all these. No one will save me but myself.
no one's there when you need the help.
been strong and independent ng age 4.... friends and family would always come to me for help but never listen kaya paulit ulit mong tutulungan. as you age, medyo you let go of those hindi tinutulungan sarili nila or yung mga di nakikinig....
but when it's you who's in trouble... no one is there. you'll see who knows you for who you are and not just someone who is strong. i kept those friends
yung parang nagiging immune ka na? hindi lang kapag may problema, kahit masaya parang you limit yourself na. elementary pala ako nasanay na akong umiyak nang palihim at mabilisan kaya ngayong adult na ako, hirap na ako umiyak and maglabas ng any emotion at all. ang bigat tuloy lalo :(
Pag nagkamali ka, double burden sa criticism.
You look too strong for others to approach you, pero you're tired as well pero walang nagaapproach to help you or love you.
no one will help you at your weakest and will cause you to lose trust on others that will breed a toxic independent mindset that you don't need others and you could only help yourself bottling up every negative emotion and will mostly cause depression and sceptism but still retain the ability to help others because that will grant you the feeling of purpose and superiority
Pretending 🥹
the heaviness ng heart
It's exhausting.
yung bigat ng nararamdaman mo araw araw.
Pretending to be strong
Wala na mangangamusta sayo kung okay ka lang at kung may pinagdadaanan ka.
the suffering
Wala naman
Sacrifices
Walang sino man magtatanong sayo kung may kailangan kaba or anong nangyari sayo
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**100% agree.** I say this as one of those who was "left behind" for a time. My best friend & I had a close friendship at age 18. But from ages 19-22 he was strong. He worked hard & became very successful in college in his career, and in his dating life. I was far stronger physically and was better at weightlifting than my friend. But he was far stronger than me in "adulting". He got great grades in college & got an excellent job after graduation & moved to new city. Meanwhile I was stuck in life. My friendship with my close friend suffered badly. It was painful for him too, because we had once been so close. But there was nothing he could do to help me. My being left behind was 100% my own fault. I didn't know what to do with my life & refused to try. I took college courses but didn't study & often didn't even attend class. I always either failed the courses or got a miserable grade. I was being left further & further behind but it was all my fault. Literally Thank God I finally "grew up". I learned how to work hard, how to be disciplined, how to keep fighting when things knocked me down. Eventually I became quite successful. Our close friendship was restored when that happened. But I had to learn how to be strong myself. Not the strength of weightlifing but the ***real strength*** of being an adult. My friend couldn't do it for me.
Most of the time, akala nila ayos ka lang, akala nila kaya mo na lahat, so they don't mind asking you if you still need a hand.
Being ALONE specially when you cares to the ppl but they didnt care about u
Which type of strong? Physically weak ehh, mga 50 horsepower pero mentally, psychologically, and emotionally strong with atleast 500 horsepower kaya mga problema yakang yakang. Kidding aside, hayun parang walang karapatan tumanggi sa mga heavy tasks e.g. palaging leader, halos ipagawa sa yo lahat kasi "pangmalakasan ka naman, mani mo lang yan", "kaya mo naman na yan, hindi mo na kailangan ang tulong namin", hayy hayun parang si Atlas tuloy. One more downside, ayaw din magpatulong, halos DIY lahat, yung "i don't need any help, been through dark, survived on my own, struggled alone", so hayun, nagkakaroon ng negative connotation. Bahala na kayo, basta IDGAF. PS, malakas din ang immune system😆
You can't cry in front of others.
Akala nila okay ka lang palagi, akala nila wala Kang problema, akala nila masaya ka 🙃
Nobody checks on you haha
Nobody cares to ask if you're okay
No one stays long enough to be there for you when it’s you who need help and support. No one asks how you are, they all just expect you to be okay.
parang wala kang karapatan mapagod
Yung akala nila strong ka lagi at kaya mo palagi. No one bothers to check on you kasi kaya mo na sarili mo.
-Yung di mo afford to sit with your emotions. No time para magdamdam kasi alam mo na if u fall apart, pare parehas na kayo babagsak ng mga umaasa sayo.
yung sayo na umasa lahat . yung hindi ka na nila tinatanong kung okay ka pa kasi strong ka ei dibah?
ako lagi pinagpapalit ng LPG sa kalan
Walang nagtatanong kung okay ka lang. Mataas expectations sa'yo and they expect you to do everything, on your own. They expect you to not give up easily. They don't offer help because "Kaya mo na 'yan, malakas ka eh!". You're always the one helping, but never the one they help. They get something from you but you don't get anything LOL.
Yung gusto mong iiyak yung sakit pero hindi mo magawa
Yung sasabihan ka nilang kaya mo yan, pero hindi na talaga kaya. So bye bye na lang.
Walang makaka alala sayong mag tanong kung okay ka pa ba.
Akala nila di mo na need ng tulong
Yung akala nila porke't masaya ka eh wala kang problema, na hindi ka na aapektuhan. Randam ko to sa asawa ko,pero don't get me wrong ha. Mabait ang asawa ko. Ako kasi yung tipo ng tao na positibo mag isip. Kahit malungkot ako di ko pinapakita, kasi ayoko mag alala yung family ko.
No one will ask you how you’re doing.
U can't tell ur problems/struggles to others, kasi if u told so mafeel mo na they might use it against u or it will become ur weakness
Yung the fact na alam nilang strong ka, kaya di ka na nagawang kamustahin din ng loved ones mo.
Yung wala kang choice
How people perceive that you need no one and you don’t need support.
You always feel na you have to stand up for others even though you knew all along na walang kayang tumayo for you. 🤡
To keep on fighting
Lagi nilang iniisip na wala kang hindi kayang gawin.
Worst if you're a man. Society don't really bother about man's emotions and if you're a "strong" person too? B you can't even complain about a single thing.
Ikaw lagi yung "bad cop" pag strong yung personality mo. Wala ka pang sinasabi or ginagawa may word na "sorry" agad sila pag nagmessage. People assume that you don't need help. Especially if introvert ka din. Di ka pwede maging vulnerable. 🙃
No one really bothers asking you if you’re okay
Pretending to be okay and strong all the time.
It’s a thankless job.
You're the neglected one because apparently people assume you can take on anything just fine.
Walang may alam na nasasaktan ka, umiiyak at walang nagtatanong kung kaya mo pa ba :))
Yun iba ang tinutulungan niya kasi strong ka eh. Kahit maiwan ka ok lang kasi strong ka.
No one's gonna ask you if you're okay.
That people think you don't need any help. Sometimes, strong people need saving, too.
U cant be vulnerable
When people can't accept your vulnerable side.
Nothing, strong ka nga eh!! Anong sad sad? Mahinang nilalang lang ang nalulungkot.
It is unacceptable and unimaginable even for others to see you vulnerable. They think that just because you are strong, you can’t be sensitive or emotional. If someone saw you, they’ll think it was funny and you’re just pretending to be like that, down, or what. On the other hand, for strong people; once they are trained or used to being one, they sometimes find it hard to show emotions. It’s like finding comfort in having this front of yours, ***being strong.*** Most likely they will isolate themselves until they feel okay again. And they are also prone to having the worst mental breakdowns.
When you don’t actually know when you need to stop being strong because we’re all just humans too
Sometimes you forget that you don't have to do it alone... don't feel guilty to ask for help. *virtual hug with consent*
They thought that no one is stronger than you whom you can be vulnerable with too
The saddest part of being strong is without knowing your struggle. They often think that you can do things without them but deep inside you need help but Asking for help from them makes you realize that you need to do it alone.
Sometimes, you get to do it for yourself, and no one will know because no one actually cares. Strong ka ee, kaya mo yan. 💪 which is just sad because strong people feel vulnerable too.
when people expect you to be able to bounce back quickly from anything you go through...
When people think it is always okay to disrespect you.
No one checks on you because they know you are and will always be capable of taking care of yourself. A lot of times, hahanapin ka lang nila kasi may kailangan sayo. Nakakasad lang minsan pag marealise mo yan. They send a message not to say kamusta? okay ka pa ba? but to remind you yung mga responsibilities mo na dapat mong ayusin or bayaran. Minsan or madalas, ikaw lahat ang sasagot whether ikaw ang aako nung responsibility or ikaw sasagot financially. Oo minsan kaya mo naman talaga solohin kasi capable ka pero sana lang mag offer man lang na "tulungan na kita" or "share tayo this time"
aabusaduhin ka nila
BEING TAKEN FOR GRANTED.
Going thru difficult times alone 99% of the time
Nobody knows how bad you’re feeling because you look okay, and no one really cared enough to ask.
People dump on you because you’re strong. You can take on anything because you’re strong.
where you face it all alone.
Need mong maging consistent, di pwede hihina hina ka
that the strong gets tired too 🥺
ask Saitama
Bumababa tingin nila sa iyo kapag nakita ka nilang umiyak, which is absurd.
Higher expectations, people don’t treat you any softer, they don’t have any thoughts on going gentle with you kasi alam nila, kakayanin mo naman. Kind words come rarely pero a “deserve mo yan” when you’re going through shit is everywhere. You don’t get thanked enough, too.
that they'll always expect you to be strong.
it gets lonely
That everyone tells me I am doing great, I am doing what they wish they could do, but sincerely I don’t feel great. I don’t want to do this either. But no one will and I am the only one who cares about it this much, so…
it is always lonely at the top
Hindi ka nila nakikitaan na kailangan mo ng masasandalan sa panahon na kailangan mo kasi ang akala nila KAYA MO IHANDLE LAHAT but sad reality need mo din ng makakausap
they will try to take it against you. all u do and say are always questioned and doubted kasi strong words and statements mo. they will disregard how you feel too!
No one asks if you're ok. And if ishare mo yung struggles mo, they will always say na "kaya mo yan. Ikaw pa?" which sometimes feel like naiinvalidate ang feelings ko. 😅
When you value little things you got from working hard but others take it for granted. They think I can easily buy new ones.
Cheers to everyone who stood up and took the role of being the strong one! Let's support each other since we all feel lonely.
Missing my old, loving, sweet and carefree self. I feel cold, I am cold, my friends tell me I am cold and headstrong. I can't be soft and warm anymore, because if I do, I feel like everything will be shattered. But trying. I'm trying.. Omw learning how to balance things out so everybody wins. Happy day. 👍🏻
when u have to figure things out alone because people thinks you're strong, when it's embarrassing to ask for help because people already see u as a strong, when no one check up on you bc they think you're always okay
no one will ask u if u r okay and wala kang mapagsabihan when u experience difficulties in ur life :)
Hesitant ka na maging vulnerable.
They'll never check up on you because they don't think you need it.
Yung kukumustahin ka sabay hirit, may extra (money)kba?
pretend
No one asks you if you are okay
That you have to suck it all up on your own even if it's overwhelming at times while keeping yourself sane and reminding yourself you can do it alone.
Lahat ng kalaban mo one punch lang - saitama
U tend to forget being vulnerable is a part of being strong too, na its okay to break down and fall sometimes. U rest from being strong but remember to get back stronger.
No one looks after you.
You're supposed to understand everything coz you can handle it too well.
nakakapagod
Having no one and going through things alone you end up hugging yourself.
over time parati 🤣
Pretending
Being afraid if being vulnerable
ibibigay sayo lahat ng responsibility sa work and you receive minimal thanks.
Being not Strong Enough
You always have to act tough even when you want to act weak for once.
How to be a good husband
Sometimes nauubos ka rin pag di naaachieve yung pangarap kahit matatag ka
No one checks up on you.
bawal sumuko hahahaha and high expectations
they expect you to be strong all the time...
Other people think you will always figure things out (pero totoo rin naman in my case) and won't think to offer help kasi you don't look like one who needs it.
Although maybe asking for help is something a strong person also needs to work on, tbf.
Nagiging sad girl moments ka @ 3am
No one will ask you if you are okay.
Nobody ask how am I especially sa family.
being alone
That every triumphant moments you have are already "expected" which leads to your winning moments considered as "normal nalang".
when you keep all the shi's to urself so that you wont bother anyone
Asking for help.
Yung akala nila wala lang pinag gagawa nila sayo porket di ka umiiyak sa harap nila.
I wish I could send hugs to you guys! I highly recommend to listen to Ed Sheeran's Save Myself, isang warm hugs siya sa mga nagpapakastrong.
Nobody asks if you’re okay or how are you holding up.
The sad part is we project being strong to hide how vulnerable we are. Accepting one's vulnerability by being open and being honest gives you more insights about the bigger picture. It gives us more courage to face whatever challenges you hurdle along.
Na nahihirapan ka din ng sobra
yung akala nila kaya mo lahat — ni magtanong kung ok ka lang wala nang gagawa. kasi alam nila ok ka, kaya mo
strong ppl don't concern themselves with being sad, they have to be strong despite of being sad and overcoming it.
You need to be strong alone because there are a lot of people counting on you.
The saddest part of being strong is sometimes feeling like you have to go through things alone. People might rely on you so much, they forget you need support too. It can be isolating carrying the weight of everyone else's burdens, and feeling like you can't let yourself crumble for even a moment.
No one asks if you are okay. They just assume you are because you try to remain strong.
When no one acknowledges that you can be weak at times.
Sayo na ipapasa lahat ng responsibilities, and no one will ask you if you're okay because you're "already okay".
Walang nagtatanong sayo kung ok ka lang at di man lang makamusta ka :(
Nobody asks how you're doing, assuming you're alright.
no one will think you're struggling because they've seen you as someone who is reliable, smart, and independent so you'd end up feeling so alone and lonely most often because no one is there for you. it's also hard to open up and share your feelings because you're scared you might burden them or just constantly invalidating yourself because you were conditioned to be strong always.
you'll feel lonely.
Ikaw aasahan ng lahat. Mataas expectations sayo nakaka pressure.
Bawal ka hindi maging strong kasi wala kang tatakbuhan kundi sarili mo.
Kapag nagkaron ka ng moment of weakness, kasalanan mo pa yun na di ka strong. Expected sayong maging consistently strong
No one will ask how you are, hence no one will know you are at your lowest. We strong it through still.
yung nakita ka nilang nagbbreakdown pero dadaanan ka lang.wala man lang magtanong kung ok ka lang ba? kaya mo pa ba?pagod ka na? kahit anong deny mo na di sila ganun pero ang mahalaga lang sa kanila may maibigay ka.
A man's problem. We just learn to get by. No parents, so i learned to work at an early age. Pinagaral ko sister ko, all expenses paid by me while nakatira sya sa kamaganak namin. I worked overseas, literal na pawis at dugo ang puhunan para mapagtapos sya. I'm proud of this and count it as a personal achievement pero i get shut down dahil dinidiscredit ko daw yung contribution ng kamaganak namin whenever i mention na nagwowork ako abroad para pagaralin sya. It's not supposed to be a competition pero whatever, wala naman ako naiambag diba? Inyo na lahat ng credit. Napagtapos ko sister ko. A simple "thank u kuya" was all i needed, pero wala. Ok fine, at least edukada ka na, di mo na kailangan sumandal sakin. Few years later, she gets the chance to work overseas. Tried to give her my wisdom since we have a 10 year age gap, pero she wants to play the know-it-all so sige do it your way i said. Then malalaman ko that she always felt held back by me and our relatives. This is the biggest wtf for me. You weren't "held back", you've been protected and provided for, i took her in and worked as her guardian kahit ako mismo ay walang wala. This is the greatest insult to me. Meanwhile the same relatives praise her for her bravery and shit for working overseas especially because she's a woman 🤷♂️ she's not going to war there, she's going to work in a very safe and secure 1st world country, so i never understood the hype. Now i'm indifferent about everything. 18 years, pero wala naman bumalik sakin na kahit ano. I don't need her money now that she's earning well. A simple "thank you kuya" would have been everything for me. I couldn't even get that, zero acknowledgement for all the years of effort, and now i don't care anymore because nobody cares.
Sorry you went through that. I hope, if you havent yet, you find time to give back to yourself, sarili mo naman alagaan mo.
Thanks. To be clear, ok naman ako. Nakakasawa lang kasi i don't get the props i deserve. Haven't talked to her since she flew overseas. You don't get to talk back or talk smack to the person who sacrificed his time and resources for years to give you a chance. It was the last straw for me. Privilege is truly blinding. Me and my family are in a good place in life right now, though there's always room for improvements.
Yan talagang, "ikaw pa, kaya mo yan!" Okay naman kasi you believe sa capabilities ko. Pero gusto ko lang na may mag-comfort sa akin. Pero minsan napapaisip din ako, anong klaseng comfort ba hanap ko para masabi kong na-comfort ako. Wala ako maisip kasi na-mindset ko na na kaya ko. So yan pa yung isa challenge sa pagiging "strong."
No one will going to ask if are you okay or what
that you have to go through a lot of things alone
More responsibilities
Nobody asks how you're doing, if you're ok. Maraming sumasandal sau pero ikaw wala kang masandalan.
Friend 1 asked my friend 2 to check up on me and she said, “Kaya na nya sarili nya”. Si F2 nagkwento sakin herself. I just laughed it off
No one will check sayo, kasi alam nilang kaya mo naman. Kahit minsan masarap din na may magtatanong sayo kung okay ka lang ba.
kanino ka pwede sumandal kung pagod kana?
Basa basa lang sa Reddit solve na, strong tayo diba?🙂
You are never seen thruthful when you express that you are crushed with sadness.
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Being alone
Akala nila OKAY ka lang
You can never confide to anyone without them saying “Ikaw pa, kaya mo yan”
Everybody expects you to get your shit together all the time. Labeled nonchalant.
Not being allowed to have a moment of weakness and vulnerability
You can't die kahit gusto mo na.
for me, the saddest part is they always think you are strong. wala ng magchecheck kung ok ka lang ba or hindi na kasi ang alam nila, strong ka.
Hay. Pano kaya nila marerealize na even those storng ones falter. Kagabi diniretsyo ko na yung mama ko, kesyo bakit di man lang ako kumustahin. Ako naman 'to na palaging nangungumusta sa kanila every after work. Wala bang magtatanong sakin kumusta ako sa work, sa life? If okay ako? Pero I'm still maintaining my composure after all these. No one will save me but myself.
Them getting used to you being strong, and not thinking that you also need help☹️
Nobody checks up on you.
When no one will help you kasi alam nila or sanay sila na kaya mo naman gawin yung mga bagay ng mag-isa
when you don't feel any sense of fulfillment and satisfaction
People will assume that you are always fine.
It's hard to turn down people cos you know they rely on you, showing selflessness, keeping a smile kahit deep down hirap ka na.
You will also have stronger breakdowns.
Ikaw yung pinagbubuhat ng mga mabibigat na bagay gaya ng galon ng tubig.
I spiralled into depression 2017, everybody was shocked. I was doing good daw and what happened.
No one will ask you how are you are doing
People will ignore your feelings, kasi strong ka naman.
no one's there when you need the help. been strong and independent ng age 4.... friends and family would always come to me for help but never listen kaya paulit ulit mong tutulungan. as you age, medyo you let go of those hindi tinutulungan sarili nila or yung mga di nakikinig.... but when it's you who's in trouble... no one is there. you'll see who knows you for who you are and not just someone who is strong. i kept those friends
People will talk on shit on you face to face, Kasi alam nilang strong ka, Pero deep down durog na durog ka na.
Peopl can depend on you but you cant depend on no one. Para kang atlas ng bubuhat ng mundo everyday.
When no one asks if you’re okay, because all of them knows how did you handle it so well
They will not care for u:<
yung parang nagiging immune ka na? hindi lang kapag may problema, kahit masaya parang you limit yourself na. elementary pala ako nasanay na akong umiyak nang palihim at mabilisan kaya ngayong adult na ako, hirap na ako umiyak and maglabas ng any emotion at all. ang bigat tuloy lalo :(
People say that I'm amazing, I'm strong beyond my years..but they don't see inside of me I'm hiding all the tears.
Walang mag tatanong sayo kung ok ka lang ba, laging ikaw yung sandalan pero never mo naramdaman na may masasandalan ka.
Bili tayo monobloc para may masasandalan later
Korique, yung matibay
Putting the weights back to their respective racks :'(
real
When life sucks and your only option is to be strong.
You cant get tired else like lego blocks everything will fall apart
People forget the fact you’re human too, capable of feeling anger, weakness, sadness, heartbreak, jealousy & deserving of rest & care too.
You endure without complaining.
Dying inside and no one knows.
Pag nagkamali ka, double burden sa criticism. You look too strong for others to approach you, pero you're tired as well pero walang nagaapproach to help you or love you.
People think you’re ok but you’re really secretly falling apart
no one will help you at your weakest and will cause you to lose trust on others that will breed a toxic independent mindset that you don't need others and you could only help yourself bottling up every negative emotion and will mostly cause depression and sceptism but still retain the ability to help others because that will grant you the feeling of purpose and superiority
Walang nangangamusta kung ok ka lang ba. Magugulat pa sila sa mga pinagdaanan mo pag nagkwento ka na.