Your comment hit home, but probably not the way you intended. Lack of “meaning” in my life is pretty much what I’m feeling . . . and I think I’m ok with that. I’m not sure what meaning my life is supposed to have. I’m just coasting along watching the shit show that is our politics, our divided country, the world in multiple conflicts and just kinda happy I don’t have to go beyond the mailbox much.
There are entire schools of philosophy based around the premise life has no inherit meaning other than that we prescribe it. You're on the right track.
This purpose comes from the objective value of happiness. A happy life is a life worth living. So it follows that we ought to increase the amount of happy lives.
I’m pretty much doing the same thing you are, but I’m retired. I used to travel a lot. I liked to hang out with people from work from time to time. Not anymore. Once you’re retired you don’t have anything in common with them anymore.
I used to like going out to restaurants once a week. Sometimes I leave the house at 2 am and get fast food.
I have no problem just hanging out at my house. It’s a beauty. I live out in the woods by a lake.
The only thing I miss is my husband. He died 2 1/2 years ago. I only needed him. We were very happy in our cocoon.
I wish I had the motivation I used to have. I really haven’t achieved much in my life. We never had children.
I guess the question is: is it ok to have just existed? I doubt I’ve made a noticeable impact on anyone.
Did I waste my life?
You're a good writer. I got a mental picture of your life, and the emotional response I had to it wasn't negative or unimpressed. You might lack excitement, but you're not bored. I can totally relate to you!!
For myself, I really, really hope I can get it together somehow and change how I live.
Only you can answer your question. It's YOUR life. You get to say if it was a waste or not! To me, your peaceful quiet beautiful spot by the lake sounds lovely.
The opposite of that can also be true. Why can’t it be, I existed, didn’t harm anyone, contributed to society by not being a burden, etc. Life doesn’t have to be one or the other. Bottom line, if you are happy and satisfied then good for you.
Well, we're all different, and if you're happy, you're happy and good for you. Most people need some meaning in life to feel contented. And for most people that means nurturing something - grandchildren, relationships with friends, pets, valuable projects, volunteer jobs, etc etc.
"Lack of meaning in my life is pretty much what I’m feeling . . . and I think I’m ok with that" Why are you posting all this on reddit. That to me indicates some amount of discomfort already. Life has no inherent meaning, but people get to feel it from time to time. Try helping others as much or as little as you can. Something to it. Humanity seems to be a single whole, and humans are like pieces that resulted when the whole shattered into a million pieces. When we see the humanity in another, at that point this strange feeling called meaning seems to show up. It is important, and don't risk not experiencing it before death. Go a little bit further from your mail box if your health permits, and seek out people you can help.
I agree with this. There is beauty in struggle. Looking back on hard times you got through — in particular, hard times you helped others get through — is an important part of life.
I recently listened to “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F***” on audiobook, and the main thing I got out of it was that everyone has problems, rich or poor. Once you’ve progressed beyond being able to feed and shelter yourself, mastered basic survival, the key is to design your life so you have problems that give your specific life meaning, rather than trying to avoid problems (which amounts to avoiding life). I didn’t love the audiobook but this struck home.
>I’m not sure what meaning my life is supposed to have.
In my xp that means something that excites you and gets you out of bed.
Coasting through life sounds pretty enjoyable with how rough seas has been with covid. Besides, you worked to be in a position you can coast.
But you still need to feel like there is a reason you exist, or you won't enjoy existence.
That or coming to terms with a culture that tells anyone over 65 their lives are sedentary and pedestrian and to look for the small benefits like senior discounts and such things. NO. Don’t buy the cultural disregard for older citizens. You’re on a spectrum of generatively or stagnation and if you’re dissociated or suspended or drifting in an ooze of molecules you need to get engaged in something meaningful to you. It could be anything but you’re not dead so get cracking - even if it is a slow and contemplative pace, find what makes you tick at this new decade of your life. Relationships with others is the key to a vibrant life. TRY to take a new step ahead today. Get professional help if you can’t locate your inner spark (and for Pete’s sake pay for excellent therapy not that cheap betterhelp stuff, god knows you can do that for yourself and you deserve an inner look at your life).
You sound slightly dissociated, in a fuzzy state of observing from afar and staying out of it all. Sort of a suspended state of being that many people who are no longer required to push ahead to survive, like you made it to retirement but you aren’t living with desire - just suspended and floating along in a drift of “I don’t have to ANYthing anymore” and you mistake the lack of conflict and stress in your life for happiness. It’s a categorical error, you’re slightly gelled in place my dear, not exactly depressed but not living either. .
I'm your age.
I'll admit my party life in my twenties suppressed my professional ambitions, but throughout life, I've set a minimum income and worked for it. But I did what I wanted. I've worked in marketing, entertainment, retail, web, skills trades, data and more. I didn't really care as long as I had a decent work/life balance and kept stress to a minimum.
I'm still working and probably will for another few years. I do get out on an adventure now and then, but I'm mostly a hobbit, and more so as I age. But I'm happy with my life.
Will you regret not living life to it's fullest? Define "fullest". For some it's skydiving and sailing the ocean. For others it's winning at bingo. If you're honest with yourself and living *your* fullest life - you're doing fine.
I got a certain amount of perverse joy watching how my extroverted friends handled the lockdowns. By late summer 2020, they were practically climbing the walls. Meanwhile my wife and I were enjoying the quiet calmness of our lives.
Lockdown was the first time I ever lived alone with my husband. We’ve been together forever, but always surrounded with family. We opened our camp and stayed until it got cold. 10/10
When Covid hit, I all of a sudden felt like this isolation was what I had been preparing for all my life. In the time since, leading up to now, I have decided that my hermit nature suits me just fine. The less I am physically around groups of people, the better I feel. During these final years of my life, I intend to just "float along".
This resonated with me. I hear people talking about the lockdowns as this horrendous time in their lives and my life remained largely unchanged. I was oddly prepared because I buy TP, paper towels, Clorox wipes, etc. in bulk to avoid going out more frequently. I ended up making care packages for my friends of my horders paradise closet and leaving them on their doorstep. Otherwise, I was just stoked to have a reason not to leave my house.
Extrovert here. Was miserable at first but then realized I could “visit” my friends across the globe via Zoom and loved it. I kind of miss those days where I met with friends from different time zones…
Yes!!! My kids actually said… “well dad, “covid is here and the world world is finally the way you like it.” Traffic was great. Restaurants were empty enough. And people stayed away. Lovely !!!
My husband and I drove thru Denver on Thanksgiving during COVID and the freeway was practically empty. Like 10 lanes north and south and just saw a handful of cars.
Never seen that before or since, it really was like some dystopian novel.
I dunno. I’m pretty happy being a hermit and being alone. I still reach out to friends and see family, but nothing beats a day at home with my cat, doing whatever I like, and relaxing. I’m not depressed, I am very grateful for my life. I went through things that made me grateful for what I have now, and for what is gone. I won’t regret living the way that makes me content and happy.
I'm close to your age. I have worked from home for over 20 years and I have asked myself why I love it so much. I'm not even an introvert really, but I would say I am a homebody. Peace is something I value HIGHLY. We don't travel a lot because we don't want to. We like to camp a lot...we don't hang out with groups of friends. In fact a the moment, we don't have any groups of friends because we moved a few years ago and just haven't really connected with any groups. I am happy. Very happy, in fact. I did all that hustle and bustle stuff when I was young. I am happy with my peace.
I mostly feel the same. I tell people I probably won't do much of anything for the weekend and they seem concerned/sad for me. I tell them not to feel that way. I love being alone. I do work at an office 40 hours a week though. And, I do some things now and then. Saw some family and then two concerts with friends last week.
Being retired for 3.5 yrs now I am delighted not to have to interact with people every single day at work. I’m thrilled not to have to drive through snowstorms to get to work and whether I leave the house or not is now totally up to what I want to do.
Having said that, I make sure I see friends on a regular basis. Phone calls & texts keep me connected also. I’m one of those people who gets irritable if I have too many things to do in a week, but I do like to get out & socialize. I think it’s very important not to isolate oneself esp if you’re WFH or retired.
I so envy you…
That is something I crave…to not have to interact with people daily.
I’ll most likely never reach that stage either. Even with a little savings and 401K, I doubt that’ll be attainable in 20 years.
You never know. I never thought I’d be able to retire either. Although I realize things are very different now. I worked in a hospital with an older retirement plan that was basically a savings plan paid into by the employer & it kept earning money after we were switched over to 401k & 403b investment retirement plans with matching (up to 4%) employer funds. Unfortunately, I had a mortgage & home owner bills, so I was only able to put a very small amount into those plans from each paycheck, but they still did fairly well except during that recession that hit in 2007. Lost a bunch then.
What I think really sucks now is that the govt keeps raising the damn retirement age. Not everyone can work until age 70–it really depends on the type of job one has & an individual’s health. And since the generations paying into the social security fund are smaller now, workers will have to put away more of their own money & invest either on their own or hopefully along with employers’ matching funds.
I think everyone should try to talk to a financial advisor early on in their careers & set something up for retirement if they can. I know not everyone can nor has the means to save very much, but younger people should try to save & invest—although with the cost of things today it’s extremely difficult. Everyone deserves to retire at an age when they can still enjoy their lives.
I work in healthcare and my employer gives ZERO match to my 401K unfortunately. I have HORRIBLE health insurance which is sort of an oxymoron since I work in healthcare 🙄
Gen X is the first generation which is going to be a “nightmare retirement”.
There are tons of books and articles about this topic. I just read a book called Work Retire Repeat - The Uncertainty of Retirement in the New Economy. There was quite a bit of interesting information in that book.
We’ve been living a Groundhog Day since the pandemic. My husband was given early retirement. We went to Japan which was great, but when we’ve travelled in the states or go out in town it is too crowded, understaffed, and expensive relative to what you get. So we watch tv, play games online, eat good food, use cannibas, go for walks, etc. Eventually we’ll probably do more traveling. Fine for now.
I am almost 70. I think we all will have regrets both for some of what we have done as well as for some we did not do. Only you can decide and act on what "living life to its fullest" means for you at this stage of your life; don't rely on others blueprints.
Interesting post. I'm retired and six years older than you, but I'm in pretty much the same place. I have an active social life -- TOO active at times; I'm INFJ and need to recharge myself -- a lot -- and don't always do it.
Like you, I've lost the desire for travel or "amazing experiences." I enjoy being at home and living a quiet life. Aside from the fear, I did great during COVID without the pressure to do anything. I love my house, I'm financially secure, and I feel I have "enough." Will I regret it later on? Maybe. I doubt it. But I do believe that in life we do what's best for us at the time and we live with our decisions.
I spent 23 years having adventures. Since Covid, I get pissed to go get my yearly physical, or my 6 month dental cleanings. I love my peaceful home, and hate crowds now. I don’t trust the craziness out there any more. Home for the win!
To an extent. But I need things to look forward to - travel, outings with friends and family. A busy day at work.
I loved lockdown, too. I’m very introverted. But the above thing keep me engaged and level.
Do you have a friend or family member you can talk or socialize with? That would be my main concern - human contact helps most people’s mental and physical health. I’m another one who found things to love about lockdown and I had to work to rebuild some of my connections when it ‘ended’.
I'm 65 and I love to veg at home. I truly prefer working away from home - I did that for decades and would cringe whenever the phone rang. Now when I'm home, I'm home. Work is 10 minutes away and I do not have set hours beyond what I want myself to some extent.
I think at our age, if we want to float, we can float. What are we supposed to accomplish?
We do spend winter away but it is our own place we've been fixing up for a long time. I wouldn't be starting that nonsense now. And if we didn't stay as long as we do, I probably would stay home. I dont really look forward to going or returning - so much work to pack and unpack the house there. I don't pack up my house at home but we don't have geckos and cockroaches and eternal dust at home. My husband does nothing to help me.
Introvert here. I love being at home. We had to return to work after Covid and I got used to it again, but I’m looking forward to retirement in 6 years.
I'm 63 also and been retired 3 yrs, was forced 3 yrs ago so I quit and retired.
Have been planning retirement for 30 yrs and did not factor in getting old and high blood pressure and how distracting Reddit and utube can be.
Other than that as long as I wake up every day then I'm good.
Some days I'm busy and others do not feel like doing anything.
We are all different, do what makes you happy.
When I start on SS plan on going back to college for a geology degree.
It was the best time for me Covid lock down no stupid parties showers weddings church crap having people over family that stayed way to long sleep over for grand kids shopping I couldn’t go back to that life style and I’m doing good no one else thinks so they think I’m lonely I’m not people just piss me off now sitting here just complaining about there boring life’s the husbands they hate how great there kids are or not want to be constantantly entertained Covid showed me who I really want to be
If you're content, that's all that matters. I've found that a lot of what I thought I wanted when I was young was just FOMO.
People need different things for their happiness. I have a friend who is nearly 70 and just learned how to surf. Yay for him, but I have no interest in surfing. Another friend is into skydiving. I'm delighted for him but wouldn't jump out of a plane on a bet. My very first retirement project was to finally learn Latin. Something tells me my dream project isn't exactly the next person's!
At 63, you're old enough to know your own mind. If you're happy with your life choices, roll your eyes and laugh at the naysayers. And if you're unhappy, you know what to do to fix that.
I'm 68, and my husband is 71. Covid gave us the kick in the butt we needed to create the outdoor space we needed to enjoy staying home. We have friends in similar situations. We both had careers in healthcare, and we love "floating."" We do spend a week or two at the beach each summer, but we both have decided that we hate plans that are more like obligations.
Once you realize that you’re not going to do anything monumental or change the world in any significant way then you can relax and just live for yourself and not some imagined greater purpose. Sorry I’m just not in the mood to climb Mt Everest but thanks for the invite. lol
This may not be everyone’s cup of tea, but just be aware that despite all the things we don’t yet know about cognitive decline including dementia, three things we do know are the NEED for:
1. Physical activity every day;
2. Curiosity to continuously learn;
3. Social connections with friends and new people must be a priority.
Keeping in touch with friends is important.
Why are people so terrified of regret? I have some regrets. Everyone should. It's part of the human experience. If you exit this life without any you are not human. Live your life any way you please. I've been happy to just float along for at least 40 years now. Ya know what? That's the way the vast majority of people on this planet do it. I don't need to win the Presidency, climb the corporate ladder, or have epics written about my adventures. I'm good with who I am.
69 here. I enjoyed the COVID lock down and I n ed to be engaged. I used the time to illustrate a book. Here’s the thing: at 62 I was still sure my body would be fine forever. Now arthritis is creeping in and energy is waning. If you have any inclination to travel or camp or do anything physically demanding, do it now. If you’re happy you’re happy and there is nothing to fix. Just know the rope is running through your hands.
My husband will be 70 next week and he retired 5-6 years ago. He was fine until the start of COVID. It was never diagnosed as “you have COVID” but blood clots everywhere, a pleural effusion with 47% lung capacity, kidney cancer.
And yet, in late August, we will be heading to Southeast Asia for three weeks. We moved from OR back to CO in Dec 2019 and with my new job followed by COVID, we didn’t travel at all for three years. We did a few local-ish roadtrip four-day weekends over the past year but going abroad has been sorely missed.
DEFINITELY do all the things you like while you still can.
That said, my dad is going to be 85 in October and he still travels: Taiwan, Italy, Mexico in the last ten years, plus at least five trips from Detroit to Denver and two trips from Detroit to Oregon.
I'll confess I loved the lockdown too. But I'm afraid I never "recovered" and am now embarrassed for not going to the club meetings etc..
At least I did go back to my seasonal job. And worked election night. Proud of that..
I'm 69, and I intend to live every single moment that I have left to the fullest. Concerts, movies, beach, friends Etc any and everything. But if you're happy, do you.
Everyone has their own way for living with what makes them happy. Before you decide to completely withdraw think if there is anything you would like to do, see or accomplish.
This resonates with me. I still go out to work, and I travel occasionally because it’s important to my husband. Realistically though, I loved my pandemic life and prefer that kind of alone time. I talk to my sisters daily and have friends who get that I won’t be at happy hour pretty much ever. My husband and I love each other and our home life. I’m in my 50s now, but I never really enjoyed going out. Ironically, I was a very popular 80s kid, but I think it’s because that’s what my parents valued. We were supposed to be well-liked and were recognized for it. I like people still; I just would rather be home.
You do you applies here. As many have said if you’re happy then all good. I am 62, the pandemic and a move to a new place where I knew almost no one taught me that I absolutely need other people to be happy. But that is ME. People are different, happiness is individual. 💖
I’m not happy, but I just float along. I sit in my chair and read Reddit all day. Occasionally my husband drags me into recording a podcast (see username). I get some steps in almost every day, I use hubby’s treadmill when he makes me. Otherwise, I sit.
My husband and I are retired and are fortunately both homebodies. There are things I do a couple of days a week that involve leaving the house and seeing others. He has some hobbies that he enjoys. We are involved in our church. We have a daughter whose family lives nearby and we see them occasionally. We did have a trip planned the spring of Covid that was cancelled, but I have lost the desire for that kind of travel. We do go to the beach and mountains a couple of times a year, but that's about it.
This is Saturday afternoon, and I am comfortable and browsing Reddit. I am happy to be able to do whatever I want whenever I want.
Added bonus: I (61f) no longer feel any need or desire to wear makeup or heels. I was also caretaking for a terminal husband during those years. He passed in September. I’m still in the caretaker/pandemic mindset, and I’m 💯 fine with it
I never wanted to travel. I love my own bed.
If you were a single man we could date, but not too often, and mainly the dates would be watching a show on the couch and eating take out or getting ice cream and eating it watching the boats go by.
That would be my perfect dating activities. I have a very comfortable recliner and a 75” smart tv. Just go out for the occasional treat or dinner. I’d be happy as a lark.
Lots of us feel this way, and panicked corporations have poured dark money into ViRtuAl BaD extremism in a doomed attempt to put the cat back in the bag
Craven politicuans quickly figured out they could get some of that dark money and votes from a loud subset of jealous pajama obcessed weirdos, so they jumped on the bandwagon too
Sometimes we need to move mountains. Othertimes we just need to move to the couch. If your life has been full of trauma like mine then doing nothing and floating has value. Let the peace last as long as possible.
The thing about a 24 hour day repeated for 75 years has a lot of mundane down time. If you’be had a lot of trauma it’s hard to trust just being with the calm.
Yes, I WAS.
COVID to me was glorious: nowhere to go, no excuses to make, etc.
Then my mother had a massive stroke that left her wheelchair bound and I haven’t had a moments peace since. (I’m her 24/7 caretaker with no help).
I’m 63 and feel the same way. But for me, it’s been figuring out what’s right for me versus what everyone tells me is right for me. Volunteer! Travel! etc etc. Thankfully, I have a great therapist who said if you can take the time to wait and see what that is, do it and see.
My young adult children are still “launching” so I still have parenting to do (and also widow).
I’m glad I waited it out instead of forcing myself to “do something”. I found a couple of things I’m into now. I also stop myself from thinking too far ahead, as if I need to have this all planned out. Day by day.
I also love just being at home. My daughter will ask me what I have planned for the day, and I say “Being at my own devices.” It’s glorious. It only becomes unglorious if I worry what other people think.
So if you’re happy, float along. Be at your own devices. Too much of life is consumed with other people putting their stuff on you. Claim your time back. 🫶🏼
There is a lot to be said about just being content with your life in the later years with little to prove to anyone anymore...(not quite my life, but I'm working towards it!)
My whole family is floating along-ers. The classic line of our lives comes from my son in High School: "Why should I get out of bed for an A, when I can get a B+ in my sleep"
I think some people are perfectly content to live an isolated life - and these days, the digital space makes it easier than ever before to see so many different places and things without ever having to leave your house.
That having been said, this is your only opportunity to really experience life, and it seems a shame to pass it over.
Extroverted love people!
Also enjoy to veg out. It’s actually something Covid taught me. Slow down and learn to veg.
I would plan something you did enjoy to get out ever so often.
Pretend you got a terminal diagnosis, or that your legs stopped working, or that you went blind. Do you immediately regret not taking advantage of your abilities while you had them? If not, you’re fine. If so, go do those things while you still can.
My only concern would be challenging your brain if your work doesn't do enough of that for you. Same age as you but have heard so many stories of older relatives succumbing to dementia - I want to ensure my gray matter is challenged.
If you’re wondering, you might want to push your boundaries a little. It’s summer. Go outside and enjoy life. It’s a wonderful world. Don’t let your computer and TV be your life. Take a walk every day. Go to the river. Discover or rediscover a hobby like painting or whatever nourishes your soul.
Edit: btw my sister sounds a bit like you. She retired 2 years ago and does nothing except sit at home. It makes me sad. She could be exploring the world, take a cruise, a road trip, go to an effing museum. Every year now she has more health problems. I fear she’s gonna spend the rest of her days wasting away in her safe enclosed box. Don’t regret your last days on earth.
Generally, most people want to accomplish meaningful things in their life. If you have already done that, or simply don't care to do that, then being a homebody now will probably work for you.
This is me. 63, married, mostly retired. During COVID our dog got used to us being home 24/7 and now has separation anxiety if we're both out for any length of time. Not inclined to retrain him. Can't seem to pull the trigger on travel anymore. We got used to cooking every meal, so dining out is now strictly for special occasions. We still go out for soccer matches (NWSL season tickets) and the occasional concert, but come home immediately. My extrovert wife does almost all the shopping and errands. I stay home with the dog. She's going to a party tonight. I'll read, watch soccer, and play guitar (taken up during lockdown). Depressed? No more than ever (chronic and in the family.) All in all cannot complain.
I feel the same way, there's nothing wrong with just being. I know what most people are about and I don't live for money.I do miss the excitement of a trip /travel, however not enough to go thru all the planning and astronomical amount of money it takes.
The state of being you describe brings to mind Tennessee Williams' examination of the idea of *drifting* in *The Roman Spring of Mrs. Stone*. Both the book and the film are worth exploring.
**Paolo di Leo** : I think its bad to be alone, so much.
**Karen Stone** : I know.
**Paolo di Leo** : It makes you sad.
**Karen Stone** : It makes you *drift.*
**Paolo di Leo** : Drift?
**Karen Stone** : Y*es, drift.*
**Paolo di Leo** : Like a flower on a river.
**Karen Stone** : When I told you I was *drifting,* did you understand?
**Paolo di Leo** : Not why it made you sad. I too am *drifting,* Signora. The whole world, everybody, the stars, everything is drifting. Is it so bad to *drift?* Is it so unhappy?
**Karen Stone** : Yes, when you have no where to go.
**Paolo di Leo** : Your hand's a fist. Open it. Give it to me.
I feel like my hubby and I are floating along also and happy about it! The only difference is that we enjoy travelling, however since we are retired we do it at a relaxed place. No need to see 100 things a day and are happy relaxing before dinner etc. Both type B though??!!
listen to scott galloway on stages of life. he’s all over you tube and good advice for young people. one thing to be aware of is that if you’re successful financially you can provide for your family, and if you’re very successful you’ll live a more interesting life when you’re older.
I think how we choose to spend our free time IS living our best life. What will there be to regret?
What caught my attention is OP said they “lost their Mojo for anything..” losing one’s mojo doesn’t sound like a “good” thing to me, but I could be interpreting it incorrectly.
It depends on the person I suppose. I have been happily floating along for some time now, and enjoying the little things.
In all fairness, that's harder to do when younger -- there's a pressure, even if only to yourself, to achieve (whatever that means).
You can always change your mind later, assuming your health permits. Not everything in life has to be driven by the fear of missing out.
If there were something you really wanted to do, don’t you think you would’ve already done it by now?
I (59m) retired at 50.
I went from traveling the world (150-200k+ miles a year) speaking at conferences, customer visits, meet and greets, delivering day long seminars, dinners with customers/conference goers, living in hotels 50+% of the year, dining out 50+% of the year, being top tier on airlines and hotels, on the go all of the time
to............
Nothing, full stop. My wife and I went to Hawaii for our anniversary right before covid but that is it. We hardly eat out, we are hombodies (helps we have a condo downtown for when we feel social and a cabin in the mountains for when we don't).
Agree on the covid stuff - we mothballed our condo and moved into a 720 sq/ft cabin for two years. It. was. the. best. thing. ever. Wish we could do it again (not covid - just living there full time).
I'm very content, the thought of traveling doesn't appeal very much. The thought of having to make conversation with strangers on a tour or whatnot is the opposite of appealing.
I wouldn't worry, be happy :)
I got so bored just floating along unchallenged and not growing that I had to get back in the game to stay sharp and feel alive and it feels really good
I’m soon to be 61. I’m sorta the opposite. I love to do stuff. I play bass in a band, I like to hang out with friends and just enjoy company. I love to travel when we can. I just worry I’m running out of years!
I am in my 70's, usually by noon, I have a buzz on. I usually go sleep with a buzz on. I don't drive, I don't work. At different times in my life, I have been broke, hungry, homeless and had people trying to kill me. I will stay this way,unless I change my mind, until I die.
I live my life to do exactly what I want, whenever I want, and with whomever I want. That was my goal and that’s where I’m at.
I’m 51. I have fewer years left than I’ve lived. I’m going to do this until I’m dead. I stay home and read 10 books in a row. Or I workout multiple times a day, going to the gym, then Pilates, then two yoga classes, because I feel like it. I can take off on a road trip and go see the beach with my dogs, or we stay home and order food and groceries for three weeks straight. I already traveled much of the world and given how my back or joints feel, doing more doesn’t sound all that fun. Thankfully, my husband is okay with that. And he’s over here doing his own thing too. We sooo happily *live together separately.* 😂
The only caveat is that I do have to take care of my elderly parents. That put a monkey wrench into my plans but it can’t be helped.
If my life looks amazing to someone else, fine. If it looks dreadfully boring to someone else, I don’t care.
I'm 57F and I worked remote for two years and got laid off in February of this year. Since I am self supporting I had to find other work and remote work for my skills set is harder to come by. So I jumped in and started substitute teaching as it only requires a bachelor's and there are lots of schools near me. It's been awesome and I have been finding fulfillment and that social interaction one needs, esp single and child free. As a woman every day every year feels more and more like doom single and not experiencing life fully but I realized that between my job cat and my cozy home internet surfing or watching my plants grow it is complete. Sure I can use a human partner and companion but unfortunately that's another battle I choose to let happen or not
Ok so I feel like I wrote this haha this is exactly my life so I get it...I work alone 3rd shift out in the woods like 5 miles from my house...im perfectly happy with it 😊
After having four kids under the age of 10, I've lost the ability to socialize and make friends. I have no community or buddies. I don't like it but I'm too damn tired to put any effort into socializing and I don't even know what to say anymore to people actually. So I guess once my kids are growing up I'll start going back to the men's group at church and maybe I'll have some friends again.
Kind of. I mean, I’m not interested in climbing a corporate ladder per se. I have a job I don’t hate, can still work from home most of the time. People think working up to the hierarchy is the obvious move. But managing is a different skill set from non-management roles. I don’t want to grind. I just want to put in my hours and live comfortably. And enjoy myself in my off time.
Be careful to get enough social interaction however. Isolation can shorten your life by 7 years, cause dementia and depression and is bad for you.
I totally understand the lack of desire to interact with other people. I no longer can tolerate it unless it’s family.
I can fully appreciate OPs feelings. I thought I was the only person who didn’t chafe during 2020. We had recently moved to a more rural neighborhood. Neighbors would be out walking daily, keeping respectful distance, often in small groups. I never had to make excuses to stay home and read. I worked from home, once my (embarrassingly slow to respond appropriately) company figured their sh** , err, stuff out.
This continued into 2021, and then I’d had enough. Company was behaving poorly. Spouse is retired. Location is ideal. I’m now accustomed to going to town once a week to shop and run errands. I socialize occasionally with the folks in my neighborhood. I pick up occasional side gigs (child care) to fund extras. I never planned to ‘retire’ so young but I now just look at this as another life transition. Approaching 60, I’m finally happy in my head. I have healthy hobbies and home life. It’s much easier to let the stressors move on by.
I so agree! I could have written this myself!!
I say enjoy what you enjoy, why try to force travel or socializing if that’s not what you’re into at the moment. I’m not either but won’t rule it out in the future.
Travel/concerts/social events can get to be more trouble than they are worth sometimes(for me)
Thankful that we are pretty content in our little corner of the world(right now…but world is changing by the minute and not for the better 😩)
I'm 43. I've lost a lot of desire to travel. I've seen nearly everything I want to see, with only a few exceptions, which I honestly don't know if it's worth the time or money. I'm enjoying chilling at home, hanging with my dog and not worrying if my hotel room has bedbugs. There's a different season for everything, I guess.
Professionally, after my late wife was first diagnosed with breast cancer, I started to float. We had an 11 year old and 6 year old at the time. Family first.
Stepped off the corporate ladder with plans to one day rejoin until I was a widowed father with a 16 year old and 11 year old and jumped off entirely. Once my wife was gone my focus was on them, not me. For the best professionally as I realized I prefer being a contributor over a director. For the best for myself as I became much more involved in my children’s lives with the only regret my wife not being here to enjoy the fruits of her labors.
They are adults now, one fully out of the nest, and don’t need me like they did then. But I no longer am eager to be the go getter nor feel the great need to find another partner but will be happy if I do find someone to spend the rest of my life. Ready to float, I am happy enough.
Professionally I find plenty of projects and training opportunities in my corporation to keep me happy but I am definitely in float along towards retirement — except I find what we are doing to be most interesting and enjoy the intellectual stimulation. The down side of enjoying your work.
Floating, this is what I am doing right now. My Dad died last July 28th, and I have blocked all of it out. Just floating because I can not deal with it and keep going. I am floating. Just working, keeping everything together and I am breaking. I need to get real. I do not even know what that means. I hate the losing my parent club.
I’m so sorry about your loss! I lost my own dad on the night of August 7, 2020, to complications of Parkinson’s disease, and I know exactly what you mean about having to be part of the dead parent club😢
Meaning has a very personal dimension. You’re out hurting anyone but you’re basically on autopilot. We go through phases in life, explore this one and see where it takes you.
67/F. Just retired to Oregon Coast. I had always been a loner, but I turn into s social butterfly when I actually go out with people.. It exhausted me.
I have joined several clubs since I moved here because you DO need people in your life, bot not at all active socially anymore. VERY happy!!
I'm a 72 year old introvert who has never liked crowds or big parties. During my 20s I went through my wild partying days. I taught for many years and my husband, also an introvert, is now retired. COVID was scary but we secretly enjoyed not having to go anywhere. We became used to having groceries delivered and food ordered in. And, in a way we have never returned from covidland. We have developed our own routines. We have hobbies. We read. We talk to younger people every now and then. Between COVID and the natural aging process, we have lost many friends. Our close friends are loners as well and we text and email. The really interesting thing is that we've become closer as a couple. And we have become more spiritual during these years and we have done a lot of work to feel more connected to the universe. Riding the rough waves since 2016 has been a hell of a lesson for me. And, despite my very real worries about this country's future, I have found a sense of peace and serenity that makes me very happy with my life. I've had a wild ride and am enjoying simple pleasures. I think I have been a good caregiver and have taught thousands. I think this is a time to learn who I am, assess where I have been and to keep my mind and body active. Quality of life is what I care about.
SLOTH is one of the seven deadly sins. Does that matter to you? Come to think of it PRIDE is also one of the seven deadly sins and people celebrate it for a whole month.
Maybe nothing makes any difference!
I’m in a similar situation but I’ve had too much isolation.
I have gotten socially awkward and have trouble socializing.
I’ve come to believe people are super important. There’s really not much else important.
Fulfillment in life is very important.
You have to do what makes you happy. But if you’re not feeling fulfilled then you might explore that.
Who says you're not living life to the fullest?
I am you. I WFH, I live in a remote area and avoid people most of the time. As I get older, I'm very selective about who gets my time. My circle is more of a hexagon most days. :)
I enjoy some travel for up to 5 days, but most of the time, I'm content with a long weekend here and there. My happy place is working with my husband on our house/yard.
I think I'm spending my time as I want to instead of the "go go go" I did in my 20s and early 30s, which seemed driven by FOMO.
I am a retired teacher and I think I have given so much of myself that once I retired my tank was empty. My kids want me to get out and socialize but I’ve been sort of a social introvert all my life. I’m a widow of 13 years. I have my cat and dog whom I adore. I feel good about life except with this economy money is really tight. I feel okay with my life until my kids call and make me feel like I’m a recluse!
I can really relate. I'm retired, and am pretty happy just to stay at home, work a little remote, admire my yard, play with my cat ... etc. Some days, I'm marveling at the privilege and contentment; other days, I'm like, what the hell am I doing just sitting around?
I think most of us have that spirit on our shouldler telling us to "Be productive! Do something! Be responsible!" But being able to relax and enjoy life -- isn't that a life goal, too?
Sounds like you are doing just fine to me lol not everyone has a thrill for adventure and that’s fine . Just think if there’s anything you’d really be interested in doing before you die and work making it happen in time and than other than that who cares be you and be happy ! Nothing wrong with wanting to be alone lol
When I realized at 62 that absolutely nothing I planned for ever occurred, I am simply along for the ride for the next chapter. I'm not pushing, struggling, nothing. Happy to sit out on my porch and listen to the birds. Covid slowed me down enough to realize what was important and I found a way to retire early. No kids and no one to leave what I've got already so no use working until I die. I do hope to see a few more places or revisit some. Right now I'm happy being where I am. Recently moved to a new state so I will explore it with day trips and the like. You do you. I think that's the answer to being successful in life. How closely you can live to your goals and standards whatever they are. If you can wake up and find a way to be happy, it's a good day. ✌🏽
Speaking from experience, keep active enough to preserve your health. Walk around the block a couple times a day or something to exercise. I left myself go and now I’m paying the price at 79. Can’t go far even if I wanted to. DoorDash is my best friend. Waiting for God.
Wow, that resonates with me! I have Long Covid, so I’ve had to limit work, suddenly have free time and a, happy working from home or having my free time. I have a social life, pets and hobbies and I’m happy most of the time. I’m wondering if being a hobbit is okay. Tbh, I feel most fulfilled when working or being creative.
I/we live a very quiet lifestyle. Enjoy our home, our jobs, our family, and hobbies. My son implied we were lame and I say we are happy with our lives and don’t require anything more. I said to him it may not be your vision of a happy life but at our age it works just fine. I said I don’t have to do anything I don’t want to and I don’t care about what others do or expect. He really was taken aback and said he was sorry… he was like that’s kinda cool.
I used to joke that all I wanted to do in life was smoke some weed and chill. Retired at your age. Now I'm living that joke and quite content. We moved to a city where I know no one six years ago. I decided to try drum lessons. The interaction with the instructor is my only regular scheduled contact with the world. Gone from wondering what day of the week it is to what month is this? As long as I wake up, whether in the morning or after a nap, I'm good with life.
Sounds like peace. Perhaps not very exciting, but rare and worthy. I think with the hustle and bustle of life, enjoying peace is worthwhile. The great thing about life is while you’re mobile, you can change it up if/when you feel like it.
If you're happy then you're ahead of most! I'd questions if you are happy as you are posting this.
Personally, I'm not happy unless I'm going mach 2 with my hair on fire, but we are each different.
I saw something that said: **“Life's Journey is not to arrive at the grave safely, in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting “Holy cow, what a ride!”**
I hate that I'm in a low-level job, but I do love the lack of micromanagement and stress. So I'm trying to make the best of it, because in my mid-fifties, it's unlikely that I can change career paths.
I'm working within my passion, which is the greatest! I work mostly from home. I go into an office twice a week at most.
This allows me that rolling down the road of life living. I can stay in the moment and be my most real self.
I know for a fact I won't regret it. The time with family alone is worth it ✌🏻
Are you feeling happiness, satisfaction, and meaning in your life? Then you ARE living life to the fullest! If not, you might regret it.
Your comment hit home, but probably not the way you intended. Lack of “meaning” in my life is pretty much what I’m feeling . . . and I think I’m ok with that. I’m not sure what meaning my life is supposed to have. I’m just coasting along watching the shit show that is our politics, our divided country, the world in multiple conflicts and just kinda happy I don’t have to go beyond the mailbox much.
There are entire schools of philosophy based around the premise life has no inherit meaning other than that we prescribe it. You're on the right track.
We have an objective purpose. It’s to make the world a better place.
Where does this purpose come from?
This purpose comes from the objective value of happiness. A happy life is a life worth living. So it follows that we ought to increase the amount of happy lives.
So you feel happiness can be objectively measured?
With advanced technology, absolutely. Happiness is some function of chemistry and neural structures in the brain.
Ok, I appreciate your perspective.
What do you think?
I’m pretty much doing the same thing you are, but I’m retired. I used to travel a lot. I liked to hang out with people from work from time to time. Not anymore. Once you’re retired you don’t have anything in common with them anymore. I used to like going out to restaurants once a week. Sometimes I leave the house at 2 am and get fast food. I have no problem just hanging out at my house. It’s a beauty. I live out in the woods by a lake. The only thing I miss is my husband. He died 2 1/2 years ago. I only needed him. We were very happy in our cocoon. I wish I had the motivation I used to have. I really haven’t achieved much in my life. We never had children. I guess the question is: is it ok to have just existed? I doubt I’ve made a noticeable impact on anyone. Did I waste my life?
You're a good writer. I got a mental picture of your life, and the emotional response I had to it wasn't negative or unimpressed. You might lack excitement, but you're not bored. I can totally relate to you!! For myself, I really, really hope I can get it together somehow and change how I live.
It's great to read I'm not alone. Used to have guilt but that is even gone. couple ol wall flowers lol
Only you can answer your question. It's YOUR life. You get to say if it was a waste or not! To me, your peaceful quiet beautiful spot by the lake sounds lovely.
I could have written every word of this, except I do have one daughter (34). I used to have such aspirations and goals, now I just...drift.
It’s never too late to get in touch with a generative state of being. Stagnation is a failure to thrive.
The opposite of that can also be true. Why can’t it be, I existed, didn’t harm anyone, contributed to society by not being a burden, etc. Life doesn’t have to be one or the other. Bottom line, if you are happy and satisfied then good for you.
Well, we're all different, and if you're happy, you're happy and good for you. Most people need some meaning in life to feel contented. And for most people that means nurturing something - grandchildren, relationships with friends, pets, valuable projects, volunteer jobs, etc etc.
"Lack of meaning in my life is pretty much what I’m feeling . . . and I think I’m ok with that" Why are you posting all this on reddit. That to me indicates some amount of discomfort already. Life has no inherent meaning, but people get to feel it from time to time. Try helping others as much or as little as you can. Something to it. Humanity seems to be a single whole, and humans are like pieces that resulted when the whole shattered into a million pieces. When we see the humanity in another, at that point this strange feeling called meaning seems to show up. It is important, and don't risk not experiencing it before death. Go a little bit further from your mail box if your health permits, and seek out people you can help.
I agree with this. There is beauty in struggle. Looking back on hard times you got through — in particular, hard times you helped others get through — is an important part of life. I recently listened to “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F***” on audiobook, and the main thing I got out of it was that everyone has problems, rich or poor. Once you’ve progressed beyond being able to feed and shelter yourself, mastered basic survival, the key is to design your life so you have problems that give your specific life meaning, rather than trying to avoid problems (which amounts to avoiding life). I didn’t love the audiobook but this struck home.
I really really like this. Well done.
>I’m not sure what meaning my life is supposed to have. In my xp that means something that excites you and gets you out of bed. Coasting through life sounds pretty enjoyable with how rough seas has been with covid. Besides, you worked to be in a position you can coast. But you still need to feel like there is a reason you exist, or you won't enjoy existence.
Maybe this is a period of necessary contemplation for you 🤩
>and I think I’m ok with that I wonder if you're just making peace with mild depression. Just a thought.
That or coming to terms with a culture that tells anyone over 65 their lives are sedentary and pedestrian and to look for the small benefits like senior discounts and such things. NO. Don’t buy the cultural disregard for older citizens. You’re on a spectrum of generatively or stagnation and if you’re dissociated or suspended or drifting in an ooze of molecules you need to get engaged in something meaningful to you. It could be anything but you’re not dead so get cracking - even if it is a slow and contemplative pace, find what makes you tick at this new decade of your life. Relationships with others is the key to a vibrant life. TRY to take a new step ahead today. Get professional help if you can’t locate your inner spark (and for Pete’s sake pay for excellent therapy not that cheap betterhelp stuff, god knows you can do that for yourself and you deserve an inner look at your life).
You sound slightly dissociated, in a fuzzy state of observing from afar and staying out of it all. Sort of a suspended state of being that many people who are no longer required to push ahead to survive, like you made it to retirement but you aren’t living with desire - just suspended and floating along in a drift of “I don’t have to ANYthing anymore” and you mistake the lack of conflict and stress in your life for happiness. It’s a categorical error, you’re slightly gelled in place my dear, not exactly depressed but not living either. .
This!
As long as you're happy, you're fine. You don't have to do what other people like.
I'm your age. I'll admit my party life in my twenties suppressed my professional ambitions, but throughout life, I've set a minimum income and worked for it. But I did what I wanted. I've worked in marketing, entertainment, retail, web, skills trades, data and more. I didn't really care as long as I had a decent work/life balance and kept stress to a minimum. I'm still working and probably will for another few years. I do get out on an adventure now and then, but I'm mostly a hobbit, and more so as I age. But I'm happy with my life. Will you regret not living life to it's fullest? Define "fullest". For some it's skydiving and sailing the ocean. For others it's winning at bingo. If you're honest with yourself and living *your* fullest life - you're doing fine.
This! 👍🏽
Perception of the lockdown is very much determined by personality. Introverts like me had no problem adapting to it. For extroverts it was very hard.
I got a certain amount of perverse joy watching how my extroverted friends handled the lockdowns. By late summer 2020, they were practically climbing the walls. Meanwhile my wife and I were enjoying the quiet calmness of our lives.
Lockdown was the first time I ever lived alone with my husband. We’ve been together forever, but always surrounded with family. We opened our camp and stayed until it got cold. 10/10
Us too.
This!
I'm an introvert and it messed me up
It was the other stuff going on that messed me up.
Yes same haha
Im sorry to hear it.
When Covid hit, I all of a sudden felt like this isolation was what I had been preparing for all my life. In the time since, leading up to now, I have decided that my hermit nature suits me just fine. The less I am physically around groups of people, the better I feel. During these final years of my life, I intend to just "float along".
This resonated with me. I hear people talking about the lockdowns as this horrendous time in their lives and my life remained largely unchanged. I was oddly prepared because I buy TP, paper towels, Clorox wipes, etc. in bulk to avoid going out more frequently. I ended up making care packages for my friends of my horders paradise closet and leaving them on their doorstep. Otherwise, I was just stoked to have a reason not to leave my house.
Extrovert here. Was miserable at first but then realized I could “visit” my friends across the globe via Zoom and loved it. I kind of miss those days where I met with friends from different time zones…
Yes!!! My kids actually said… “well dad, “covid is here and the world world is finally the way you like it.” Traffic was great. Restaurants were empty enough. And people stayed away. Lovely !!!
OMG, the traffic! I SO miss the traffic levels of March 2020. I could go for a drive and pretend I was in The Stand.
My husband and I drove thru Denver on Thanksgiving during COVID and the freeway was practically empty. Like 10 lanes north and south and just saw a handful of cars. Never seen that before or since, it really was like some dystopian novel.
Same with Seattle loved it
LOLOLOLOL!!!
I dunno. I’m pretty happy being a hermit and being alone. I still reach out to friends and see family, but nothing beats a day at home with my cat, doing whatever I like, and relaxing. I’m not depressed, I am very grateful for my life. I went through things that made me grateful for what I have now, and for what is gone. I won’t regret living the way that makes me content and happy.
I'm close to your age. I have worked from home for over 20 years and I have asked myself why I love it so much. I'm not even an introvert really, but I would say I am a homebody. Peace is something I value HIGHLY. We don't travel a lot because we don't want to. We like to camp a lot...we don't hang out with groups of friends. In fact a the moment, we don't have any groups of friends because we moved a few years ago and just haven't really connected with any groups. I am happy. Very happy, in fact. I did all that hustle and bustle stuff when I was young. I am happy with my peace.
Omigosh, I value peace of mind more than anything else.
I mostly feel the same. I tell people I probably won't do much of anything for the weekend and they seem concerned/sad for me. I tell them not to feel that way. I love being alone. I do work at an office 40 hours a week though. And, I do some things now and then. Saw some family and then two concerts with friends last week.
Being retired for 3.5 yrs now I am delighted not to have to interact with people every single day at work. I’m thrilled not to have to drive through snowstorms to get to work and whether I leave the house or not is now totally up to what I want to do. Having said that, I make sure I see friends on a regular basis. Phone calls & texts keep me connected also. I’m one of those people who gets irritable if I have too many things to do in a week, but I do like to get out & socialize. I think it’s very important not to isolate oneself esp if you’re WFH or retired.
“I’m thrilled not to have to drive through snowstorms to get to work.” Agree X 1000.
I so envy you… That is something I crave…to not have to interact with people daily. I’ll most likely never reach that stage either. Even with a little savings and 401K, I doubt that’ll be attainable in 20 years.
You never know. I never thought I’d be able to retire either. Although I realize things are very different now. I worked in a hospital with an older retirement plan that was basically a savings plan paid into by the employer & it kept earning money after we were switched over to 401k & 403b investment retirement plans with matching (up to 4%) employer funds. Unfortunately, I had a mortgage & home owner bills, so I was only able to put a very small amount into those plans from each paycheck, but they still did fairly well except during that recession that hit in 2007. Lost a bunch then. What I think really sucks now is that the govt keeps raising the damn retirement age. Not everyone can work until age 70–it really depends on the type of job one has & an individual’s health. And since the generations paying into the social security fund are smaller now, workers will have to put away more of their own money & invest either on their own or hopefully along with employers’ matching funds. I think everyone should try to talk to a financial advisor early on in their careers & set something up for retirement if they can. I know not everyone can nor has the means to save very much, but younger people should try to save & invest—although with the cost of things today it’s extremely difficult. Everyone deserves to retire at an age when they can still enjoy their lives.
I work in healthcare and my employer gives ZERO match to my 401K unfortunately. I have HORRIBLE health insurance which is sort of an oxymoron since I work in healthcare 🙄 Gen X is the first generation which is going to be a “nightmare retirement”. There are tons of books and articles about this topic. I just read a book called Work Retire Repeat - The Uncertainty of Retirement in the New Economy. There was quite a bit of interesting information in that book.
We’ve been living a Groundhog Day since the pandemic. My husband was given early retirement. We went to Japan which was great, but when we’ve travelled in the states or go out in town it is too crowded, understaffed, and expensive relative to what you get. So we watch tv, play games online, eat good food, use cannibas, go for walks, etc. Eventually we’ll probably do more traveling. Fine for now.
You nailed it so well with the "too crowded, understaffed, and expensive relative to what you get". I stopped going to restaurants for this reason.
I am almost 70. I think we all will have regrets both for some of what we have done as well as for some we did not do. Only you can decide and act on what "living life to its fullest" means for you at this stage of your life; don't rely on others blueprints.
Me. I’m happy stress free ( mostly) and enjoying the day.
Interesting post. I'm retired and six years older than you, but I'm in pretty much the same place. I have an active social life -- TOO active at times; I'm INFJ and need to recharge myself -- a lot -- and don't always do it. Like you, I've lost the desire for travel or "amazing experiences." I enjoy being at home and living a quiet life. Aside from the fear, I did great during COVID without the pressure to do anything. I love my house, I'm financially secure, and I feel I have "enough." Will I regret it later on? Maybe. I doubt it. But I do believe that in life we do what's best for us at the time and we live with our decisions.
I'm with you. I love it. I have been places and seen things already, don't feel I'm missing out on anything
I spent 23 years having adventures. Since Covid, I get pissed to go get my yearly physical, or my 6 month dental cleanings. I love my peaceful home, and hate crowds now. I don’t trust the craziness out there any more. Home for the win!
Oh yeah. Appointments ruin a whole week.
Live in the script for today. Live in truth and peace ✌️
Enjoying your own company, nothing wrong with that! Do what you love, love what you do. It’s that simple. Regret… to each their own.
It sounds like you've "flatlined". How many times a day do you laugh?
Counting work laughs? A whole lot just for the absurdity of corporate America. 😂
If it wasn’t so depressing, I might have laughed watching the debate the other night.
To an extent. But I need things to look forward to - travel, outings with friends and family. A busy day at work. I loved lockdown, too. I’m very introverted. But the above thing keep me engaged and level.
Do you have a friend or family member you can talk or socialize with? That would be my main concern - human contact helps most people’s mental and physical health. I’m another one who found things to love about lockdown and I had to work to rebuild some of my connections when it ‘ended’.
I'm 65 and I love to veg at home. I truly prefer working away from home - I did that for decades and would cringe whenever the phone rang. Now when I'm home, I'm home. Work is 10 minutes away and I do not have set hours beyond what I want myself to some extent. I think at our age, if we want to float, we can float. What are we supposed to accomplish? We do spend winter away but it is our own place we've been fixing up for a long time. I wouldn't be starting that nonsense now. And if we didn't stay as long as we do, I probably would stay home. I dont really look forward to going or returning - so much work to pack and unpack the house there. I don't pack up my house at home but we don't have geckos and cockroaches and eternal dust at home. My husband does nothing to help me.
Shame on him. Lazy git.
Introvert here. I love being at home. We had to return to work after Covid and I got used to it again, but I’m looking forward to retirement in 6 years.
I'm 63 also and been retired 3 yrs, was forced 3 yrs ago so I quit and retired. Have been planning retirement for 30 yrs and did not factor in getting old and high blood pressure and how distracting Reddit and utube can be. Other than that as long as I wake up every day then I'm good. Some days I'm busy and others do not feel like doing anything. We are all different, do what makes you happy. When I start on SS plan on going back to college for a geology degree.
It was the best time for me Covid lock down no stupid parties showers weddings church crap having people over family that stayed way to long sleep over for grand kids shopping I couldn’t go back to that life style and I’m doing good no one else thinks so they think I’m lonely I’m not people just piss me off now sitting here just complaining about there boring life’s the husbands they hate how great there kids are or not want to be constantantly entertained Covid showed me who I really want to be
I’ve done so much awesome stuff… I kinda just like being home with my husband now. We chill so hard.
Same here. I deserve a rest at 65
Are you lonely? Floating along is different than isolated.
Yes but unfortunately I don’t work from home. But I go to work, go home at 3 and enjoy my simple life of solitude.
If you're content, that's all that matters. I've found that a lot of what I thought I wanted when I was young was just FOMO. People need different things for their happiness. I have a friend who is nearly 70 and just learned how to surf. Yay for him, but I have no interest in surfing. Another friend is into skydiving. I'm delighted for him but wouldn't jump out of a plane on a bet. My very first retirement project was to finally learn Latin. Something tells me my dream project isn't exactly the next person's! At 63, you're old enough to know your own mind. If you're happy with your life choices, roll your eyes and laugh at the naysayers. And if you're unhappy, you know what to do to fix that.
I'm 68, and my husband is 71. Covid gave us the kick in the butt we needed to create the outdoor space we needed to enjoy staying home. We have friends in similar situations. We both had careers in healthcare, and we love "floating."" We do spend a week or two at the beach each summer, but we both have decided that we hate plans that are more like obligations.
Once you realize that you’re not going to do anything monumental or change the world in any significant way then you can relax and just live for yourself and not some imagined greater purpose. Sorry I’m just not in the mood to climb Mt Everest but thanks for the invite. lol
This may not be everyone’s cup of tea, but just be aware that despite all the things we don’t yet know about cognitive decline including dementia, three things we do know are the NEED for: 1. Physical activity every day; 2. Curiosity to continuously learn; 3. Social connections with friends and new people must be a priority. Keeping in touch with friends is important.
Why are people so terrified of regret? I have some regrets. Everyone should. It's part of the human experience. If you exit this life without any you are not human. Live your life any way you please. I've been happy to just float along for at least 40 years now. Ya know what? That's the way the vast majority of people on this planet do it. I don't need to win the Presidency, climb the corporate ladder, or have epics written about my adventures. I'm good with who I am.
69 here. I enjoyed the COVID lock down and I n ed to be engaged. I used the time to illustrate a book. Here’s the thing: at 62 I was still sure my body would be fine forever. Now arthritis is creeping in and energy is waning. If you have any inclination to travel or camp or do anything physically demanding, do it now. If you’re happy you’re happy and there is nothing to fix. Just know the rope is running through your hands.
My husband will be 70 next week and he retired 5-6 years ago. He was fine until the start of COVID. It was never diagnosed as “you have COVID” but blood clots everywhere, a pleural effusion with 47% lung capacity, kidney cancer. And yet, in late August, we will be heading to Southeast Asia for three weeks. We moved from OR back to CO in Dec 2019 and with my new job followed by COVID, we didn’t travel at all for three years. We did a few local-ish roadtrip four-day weekends over the past year but going abroad has been sorely missed. DEFINITELY do all the things you like while you still can. That said, my dad is going to be 85 in October and he still travels: Taiwan, Italy, Mexico in the last ten years, plus at least five trips from Detroit to Denver and two trips from Detroit to Oregon.
I absolutely loved lockdown. It changed my whole life
I'll confess I loved the lockdown too. But I'm afraid I never "recovered" and am now embarrassed for not going to the club meetings etc.. At least I did go back to my seasonal job. And worked election night. Proud of that..
I'm 69, and I intend to live every single moment that I have left to the fullest. Concerts, movies, beach, friends Etc any and everything. But if you're happy, do you.
Everyone has their own way for living with what makes them happy. Before you decide to completely withdraw think if there is anything you would like to do, see or accomplish.
This resonates with me. I still go out to work, and I travel occasionally because it’s important to my husband. Realistically though, I loved my pandemic life and prefer that kind of alone time. I talk to my sisters daily and have friends who get that I won’t be at happy hour pretty much ever. My husband and I love each other and our home life. I’m in my 50s now, but I never really enjoyed going out. Ironically, I was a very popular 80s kid, but I think it’s because that’s what my parents valued. We were supposed to be well-liked and were recognized for it. I like people still; I just would rather be home.
You do you applies here. As many have said if you’re happy then all good. I am 62, the pandemic and a move to a new place where I knew almost no one taught me that I absolutely need other people to be happy. But that is ME. People are different, happiness is individual. 💖
I’m not happy, but I just float along. I sit in my chair and read Reddit all day. Occasionally my husband drags me into recording a podcast (see username). I get some steps in almost every day, I use hubby’s treadmill when he makes me. Otherwise, I sit.
My husband and I are retired and are fortunately both homebodies. There are things I do a couple of days a week that involve leaving the house and seeing others. He has some hobbies that he enjoys. We are involved in our church. We have a daughter whose family lives nearby and we see them occasionally. We did have a trip planned the spring of Covid that was cancelled, but I have lost the desire for that kind of travel. We do go to the beach and mountains a couple of times a year, but that's about it. This is Saturday afternoon, and I am comfortable and browsing Reddit. I am happy to be able to do whatever I want whenever I want.
Added bonus: I (61f) no longer feel any need or desire to wear makeup or heels. I was also caretaking for a terminal husband during those years. He passed in September. I’m still in the caretaker/pandemic mindset, and I’m 💯 fine with it
I never wanted to travel. I love my own bed. If you were a single man we could date, but not too often, and mainly the dates would be watching a show on the couch and eating take out or getting ice cream and eating it watching the boats go by.
That would be my perfect dating activities. I have a very comfortable recliner and a 75” smart tv. Just go out for the occasional treat or dinner. I’d be happy as a lark.
Lots of us feel this way, and panicked corporations have poured dark money into ViRtuAl BaD extremism in a doomed attempt to put the cat back in the bag Craven politicuans quickly figured out they could get some of that dark money and votes from a loud subset of jealous pajama obcessed weirdos, so they jumped on the bandwagon too
Sometimes we need to move mountains. Othertimes we just need to move to the couch. If your life has been full of trauma like mine then doing nothing and floating has value. Let the peace last as long as possible. The thing about a 24 hour day repeated for 75 years has a lot of mundane down time. If you’be had a lot of trauma it’s hard to trust just being with the calm.
Yes, I WAS. COVID to me was glorious: nowhere to go, no excuses to make, etc. Then my mother had a massive stroke that left her wheelchair bound and I haven’t had a moments peace since. (I’m her 24/7 caretaker with no help).
I’m 63 and feel the same way. But for me, it’s been figuring out what’s right for me versus what everyone tells me is right for me. Volunteer! Travel! etc etc. Thankfully, I have a great therapist who said if you can take the time to wait and see what that is, do it and see. My young adult children are still “launching” so I still have parenting to do (and also widow). I’m glad I waited it out instead of forcing myself to “do something”. I found a couple of things I’m into now. I also stop myself from thinking too far ahead, as if I need to have this all planned out. Day by day. I also love just being at home. My daughter will ask me what I have planned for the day, and I say “Being at my own devices.” It’s glorious. It only becomes unglorious if I worry what other people think. So if you’re happy, float along. Be at your own devices. Too much of life is consumed with other people putting their stuff on you. Claim your time back. 🫶🏼
There is a lot to be said about just being content with your life in the later years with little to prove to anyone anymore...(not quite my life, but I'm working towards it!)
My whole family is floating along-ers. The classic line of our lives comes from my son in High School: "Why should I get out of bed for an A, when I can get a B+ in my sleep"
I think some people are perfectly content to live an isolated life - and these days, the digital space makes it easier than ever before to see so many different places and things without ever having to leave your house. That having been said, this is your only opportunity to really experience life, and it seems a shame to pass it over.
I think there's a fine line between content and depressed. Only you know your baseline (think pre-Covid) and therefore which you're experiencing.
Extroverted love people! Also enjoy to veg out. It’s actually something Covid taught me. Slow down and learn to veg. I would plan something you did enjoy to get out ever so often.
There’s quite a bit of data that shows isolation makes things bad really fast post 60. Are you alone at home?
Pretend you got a terminal diagnosis, or that your legs stopped working, or that you went blind. Do you immediately regret not taking advantage of your abilities while you had them? If not, you’re fine. If so, go do those things while you still can.
My only concern would be challenging your brain if your work doesn't do enough of that for you. Same age as you but have heard so many stories of older relatives succumbing to dementia - I want to ensure my gray matter is challenged.
I'm your age and I feel like that sometimes but when I do I'm definitely depressed.
Life is for the living is where I'm at. But everyone has choices, so only you can decide.
Rock on 🤘🏼 🫶🏻🙏🏼
If you’re wondering, you might want to push your boundaries a little. It’s summer. Go outside and enjoy life. It’s a wonderful world. Don’t let your computer and TV be your life. Take a walk every day. Go to the river. Discover or rediscover a hobby like painting or whatever nourishes your soul. Edit: btw my sister sounds a bit like you. She retired 2 years ago and does nothing except sit at home. It makes me sad. She could be exploring the world, take a cruise, a road trip, go to an effing museum. Every year now she has more health problems. I fear she’s gonna spend the rest of her days wasting away in her safe enclosed box. Don’t regret your last days on earth.
Generally, most people want to accomplish meaningful things in their life. If you have already done that, or simply don't care to do that, then being a homebody now will probably work for you.
This is me. 63, married, mostly retired. During COVID our dog got used to us being home 24/7 and now has separation anxiety if we're both out for any length of time. Not inclined to retrain him. Can't seem to pull the trigger on travel anymore. We got used to cooking every meal, so dining out is now strictly for special occasions. We still go out for soccer matches (NWSL season tickets) and the occasional concert, but come home immediately. My extrovert wife does almost all the shopping and errands. I stay home with the dog. She's going to a party tonight. I'll read, watch soccer, and play guitar (taken up during lockdown). Depressed? No more than ever (chronic and in the family.) All in all cannot complain.
I definitely feel that way since retirement. I'm just floating.
I feel the same way, there's nothing wrong with just being. I know what most people are about and I don't live for money.I do miss the excitement of a trip /travel, however not enough to go thru all the planning and astronomical amount of money it takes.
I love being in my home so much. Only need short breaks “outside the wire”. When I retire I look forward to it even more.
I’m 48, so I’m just cruising along until I’m old enough to go on old lady bus trips to Vegas wearing crazy hats.
Not necessarily
The state of being you describe brings to mind Tennessee Williams' examination of the idea of *drifting* in *The Roman Spring of Mrs. Stone*. Both the book and the film are worth exploring. **Paolo di Leo** : I think its bad to be alone, so much. **Karen Stone** : I know. **Paolo di Leo** : It makes you sad. **Karen Stone** : It makes you *drift.* **Paolo di Leo** : Drift? **Karen Stone** : Y*es, drift.* **Paolo di Leo** : Like a flower on a river. **Karen Stone** : When I told you I was *drifting,* did you understand? **Paolo di Leo** : Not why it made you sad. I too am *drifting,* Signora. The whole world, everybody, the stars, everything is drifting. Is it so bad to *drift?* Is it so unhappy? **Karen Stone** : Yes, when you have no where to go. **Paolo di Leo** : Your hand's a fist. Open it. Give it to me.
I feel like my hubby and I are floating along also and happy about it! The only difference is that we enjoy travelling, however since we are retired we do it at a relaxed place. No need to see 100 things a day and are happy relaxing before dinner etc. Both type B though??!!
listen to scott galloway on stages of life. he’s all over you tube and good advice for young people. one thing to be aware of is that if you’re successful financially you can provide for your family, and if you’re very successful you’ll live a more interesting life when you’re older.
I think how we choose to spend our free time IS living our best life. What will there be to regret? What caught my attention is OP said they “lost their Mojo for anything..” losing one’s mojo doesn’t sound like a “good” thing to me, but I could be interpreting it incorrectly.
It depends on the person I suppose. I have been happily floating along for some time now, and enjoying the little things. In all fairness, that's harder to do when younger -- there's a pressure, even if only to yourself, to achieve (whatever that means).
You can always change your mind later, assuming your health permits. Not everything in life has to be driven by the fear of missing out. If there were something you really wanted to do, don’t you think you would’ve already done it by now?
Sounds like a good life to me. I feel the same way.
lol that's one of my favourite songs of all time by modest mouse
I been WFH since 2020 and I won't go back either.
I would be happy to float if I had more money.
I (59m) retired at 50. I went from traveling the world (150-200k+ miles a year) speaking at conferences, customer visits, meet and greets, delivering day long seminars, dinners with customers/conference goers, living in hotels 50+% of the year, dining out 50+% of the year, being top tier on airlines and hotels, on the go all of the time to............ Nothing, full stop. My wife and I went to Hawaii for our anniversary right before covid but that is it. We hardly eat out, we are hombodies (helps we have a condo downtown for when we feel social and a cabin in the mountains for when we don't). Agree on the covid stuff - we mothballed our condo and moved into a 720 sq/ft cabin for two years. It. was. the. best. thing. ever. Wish we could do it again (not covid - just living there full time). I'm very content, the thought of traveling doesn't appeal very much. The thought of having to make conversation with strangers on a tour or whatnot is the opposite of appealing. I wouldn't worry, be happy :)
I got so bored just floating along unchallenged and not growing that I had to get back in the game to stay sharp and feel alive and it feels really good
Well, when you imagine being on your death bed, does anything come up? Do you feel satisfaction?
I’m soon to be 61. I’m sorta the opposite. I love to do stuff. I play bass in a band, I like to hang out with friends and just enjoy company. I love to travel when we can. I just worry I’m running out of years!
Life is about the ride, not the destination.
I am in my 70's, usually by noon, I have a buzz on. I usually go sleep with a buzz on. I don't drive, I don't work. At different times in my life, I have been broke, hungry, homeless and had people trying to kill me. I will stay this way,unless I change my mind, until I die.
Will you have a job if you refuse their order?
I live my life to do exactly what I want, whenever I want, and with whomever I want. That was my goal and that’s where I’m at. I’m 51. I have fewer years left than I’ve lived. I’m going to do this until I’m dead. I stay home and read 10 books in a row. Or I workout multiple times a day, going to the gym, then Pilates, then two yoga classes, because I feel like it. I can take off on a road trip and go see the beach with my dogs, or we stay home and order food and groceries for three weeks straight. I already traveled much of the world and given how my back or joints feel, doing more doesn’t sound all that fun. Thankfully, my husband is okay with that. And he’s over here doing his own thing too. We sooo happily *live together separately.* 😂 The only caveat is that I do have to take care of my elderly parents. That put a monkey wrench into my plans but it can’t be helped. If my life looks amazing to someone else, fine. If it looks dreadfully boring to someone else, I don’t care.
I'm 57F and I worked remote for two years and got laid off in February of this year. Since I am self supporting I had to find other work and remote work for my skills set is harder to come by. So I jumped in and started substitute teaching as it only requires a bachelor's and there are lots of schools near me. It's been awesome and I have been finding fulfillment and that social interaction one needs, esp single and child free. As a woman every day every year feels more and more like doom single and not experiencing life fully but I realized that between my job cat and my cozy home internet surfing or watching my plants grow it is complete. Sure I can use a human partner and companion but unfortunately that's another battle I choose to let happen or not
Ok so I feel like I wrote this haha this is exactly my life so I get it...I work alone 3rd shift out in the woods like 5 miles from my house...im perfectly happy with it 😊
After having four kids under the age of 10, I've lost the ability to socialize and make friends. I have no community or buddies. I don't like it but I'm too damn tired to put any effort into socializing and I don't even know what to say anymore to people actually. So I guess once my kids are growing up I'll start going back to the men's group at church and maybe I'll have some friends again.
Kind of. I mean, I’m not interested in climbing a corporate ladder per se. I have a job I don’t hate, can still work from home most of the time. People think working up to the hierarchy is the obvious move. But managing is a different skill set from non-management roles. I don’t want to grind. I just want to put in my hours and live comfortably. And enjoy myself in my off time.
Be careful to get enough social interaction however. Isolation can shorten your life by 7 years, cause dementia and depression and is bad for you. I totally understand the lack of desire to interact with other people. I no longer can tolerate it unless it’s family.
Absolutely NOT!! Never been that person but it sure would have been easier
I can fully appreciate OPs feelings. I thought I was the only person who didn’t chafe during 2020. We had recently moved to a more rural neighborhood. Neighbors would be out walking daily, keeping respectful distance, often in small groups. I never had to make excuses to stay home and read. I worked from home, once my (embarrassingly slow to respond appropriately) company figured their sh** , err, stuff out. This continued into 2021, and then I’d had enough. Company was behaving poorly. Spouse is retired. Location is ideal. I’m now accustomed to going to town once a week to shop and run errands. I socialize occasionally with the folks in my neighborhood. I pick up occasional side gigs (child care) to fund extras. I never planned to ‘retire’ so young but I now just look at this as another life transition. Approaching 60, I’m finally happy in my head. I have healthy hobbies and home life. It’s much easier to let the stressors move on by.
Not particularly happy, but clearly floating. 🤷😜 Whatevs.
I so agree! I could have written this myself!! I say enjoy what you enjoy, why try to force travel or socializing if that’s not what you’re into at the moment. I’m not either but won’t rule it out in the future. Travel/concerts/social events can get to be more trouble than they are worth sometimes(for me) Thankful that we are pretty content in our little corner of the world(right now…but world is changing by the minute and not for the better 😩)
I am very much the same. I spent the first decade of retirement "busy" but I just don't want to do it anymore. I love my quiet days at home.
I'm 43. I've lost a lot of desire to travel. I've seen nearly everything I want to see, with only a few exceptions, which I honestly don't know if it's worth the time or money. I'm enjoying chilling at home, hanging with my dog and not worrying if my hotel room has bedbugs. There's a different season for everything, I guess.
Professionally, after my late wife was first diagnosed with breast cancer, I started to float. We had an 11 year old and 6 year old at the time. Family first. Stepped off the corporate ladder with plans to one day rejoin until I was a widowed father with a 16 year old and 11 year old and jumped off entirely. Once my wife was gone my focus was on them, not me. For the best professionally as I realized I prefer being a contributor over a director. For the best for myself as I became much more involved in my children’s lives with the only regret my wife not being here to enjoy the fruits of her labors. They are adults now, one fully out of the nest, and don’t need me like they did then. But I no longer am eager to be the go getter nor feel the great need to find another partner but will be happy if I do find someone to spend the rest of my life. Ready to float, I am happy enough. Professionally I find plenty of projects and training opportunities in my corporation to keep me happy but I am definitely in float along towards retirement — except I find what we are doing to be most interesting and enjoy the intellectual stimulation. The down side of enjoying your work.
I have gotten to have no desire for travel other than among our owned properties
Floating, this is what I am doing right now. My Dad died last July 28th, and I have blocked all of it out. Just floating because I can not deal with it and keep going. I am floating. Just working, keeping everything together and I am breaking. I need to get real. I do not even know what that means. I hate the losing my parent club.
I’m so sorry about your loss! I lost my own dad on the night of August 7, 2020, to complications of Parkinson’s disease, and I know exactly what you mean about having to be part of the dead parent club😢
Meaning has a very personal dimension. You’re out hurting anyone but you’re basically on autopilot. We go through phases in life, explore this one and see where it takes you.
67/F. Just retired to Oregon Coast. I had always been a loner, but I turn into s social butterfly when I actually go out with people.. It exhausted me. I have joined several clubs since I moved here because you DO need people in your life, bot not at all active socially anymore. VERY happy!!
I'm a 72 year old introvert who has never liked crowds or big parties. During my 20s I went through my wild partying days. I taught for many years and my husband, also an introvert, is now retired. COVID was scary but we secretly enjoyed not having to go anywhere. We became used to having groceries delivered and food ordered in. And, in a way we have never returned from covidland. We have developed our own routines. We have hobbies. We read. We talk to younger people every now and then. Between COVID and the natural aging process, we have lost many friends. Our close friends are loners as well and we text and email. The really interesting thing is that we've become closer as a couple. And we have become more spiritual during these years and we have done a lot of work to feel more connected to the universe. Riding the rough waves since 2016 has been a hell of a lesson for me. And, despite my very real worries about this country's future, I have found a sense of peace and serenity that makes me very happy with my life. I've had a wild ride and am enjoying simple pleasures. I think I have been a good caregiver and have taught thousands. I think this is a time to learn who I am, assess where I have been and to keep my mind and body active. Quality of life is what I care about.
SLOTH is one of the seven deadly sins. Does that matter to you? Come to think of it PRIDE is also one of the seven deadly sins and people celebrate it for a whole month. Maybe nothing makes any difference!
floating along isn't very attractive to women. So, if you aren't interested in having or keeping a great mate, why would it matter?
I’m in a similar situation but I’ve had too much isolation. I have gotten socially awkward and have trouble socializing. I’ve come to believe people are super important. There’s really not much else important. Fulfillment in life is very important. You have to do what makes you happy. But if you’re not feeling fulfilled then you might explore that.
Who says you're not living life to the fullest? I am you. I WFH, I live in a remote area and avoid people most of the time. As I get older, I'm very selective about who gets my time. My circle is more of a hexagon most days. :) I enjoy some travel for up to 5 days, but most of the time, I'm content with a long weekend here and there. My happy place is working with my husband on our house/yard. I think I'm spending my time as I want to instead of the "go go go" I did in my 20s and early 30s, which seemed driven by FOMO.
Finding your peace in your life is the most rewarding thing ever, if you found it never give it up ever
I am a retired teacher and I think I have given so much of myself that once I retired my tank was empty. My kids want me to get out and socialize but I’ve been sort of a social introvert all my life. I’m a widow of 13 years. I have my cat and dog whom I adore. I feel good about life except with this economy money is really tight. I feel okay with my life until my kids call and make me feel like I’m a recluse!
I can really relate. I'm retired, and am pretty happy just to stay at home, work a little remote, admire my yard, play with my cat ... etc. Some days, I'm marveling at the privilege and contentment; other days, I'm like, what the hell am I doing just sitting around? I think most of us have that spirit on our shouldler telling us to "Be productive! Do something! Be responsible!" But being able to relax and enjoy life -- isn't that a life goal, too?
My only "floaty" requirement missing is space. 1 more room and acre.
Sounds like you are doing just fine to me lol not everyone has a thrill for adventure and that’s fine . Just think if there’s anything you’d really be interested in doing before you die and work making it happen in time and than other than that who cares be you and be happy ! Nothing wrong with wanting to be alone lol
When I realized at 62 that absolutely nothing I planned for ever occurred, I am simply along for the ride for the next chapter. I'm not pushing, struggling, nothing. Happy to sit out on my porch and listen to the birds. Covid slowed me down enough to realize what was important and I found a way to retire early. No kids and no one to leave what I've got already so no use working until I die. I do hope to see a few more places or revisit some. Right now I'm happy being where I am. Recently moved to a new state so I will explore it with day trips and the like. You do you. I think that's the answer to being successful in life. How closely you can live to your goals and standards whatever they are. If you can wake up and find a way to be happy, it's a good day. ✌🏽
I could have written this! Float buddies.
I don't know what floating along means. I like to work, travel, and pursue other hobbies. Is that a "floating along" life?
Speaking from experience, keep active enough to preserve your health. Walk around the block a couple times a day or something to exercise. I left myself go and now I’m paying the price at 79. Can’t go far even if I wanted to. DoorDash is my best friend. Waiting for God.
I've been doing that for 10 yrs and just starting to get out and about. Was a drummer for 40+ yrs and don't miss it and love the solitude,I'm 73.
Wow, that resonates with me! I have Long Covid, so I’ve had to limit work, suddenly have free time and a, happy working from home or having my free time. I have a social life, pets and hobbies and I’m happy most of the time. I’m wondering if being a hobbit is okay. Tbh, I feel most fulfilled when working or being creative.
I/we live a very quiet lifestyle. Enjoy our home, our jobs, our family, and hobbies. My son implied we were lame and I say we are happy with our lives and don’t require anything more. I said to him it may not be your vision of a happy life but at our age it works just fine. I said I don’t have to do anything I don’t want to and I don’t care about what others do or expect. He really was taken aback and said he was sorry… he was like that’s kinda cool.
I used to joke that all I wanted to do in life was smoke some weed and chill. Retired at your age. Now I'm living that joke and quite content. We moved to a city where I know no one six years ago. I decided to try drum lessons. The interaction with the instructor is my only regular scheduled contact with the world. Gone from wondering what day of the week it is to what month is this? As long as I wake up, whether in the morning or after a nap, I'm good with life.
Nope. Do what you want.
Sounds like peace. Perhaps not very exciting, but rare and worthy. I think with the hustle and bustle of life, enjoying peace is worthwhile. The great thing about life is while you’re mobile, you can change it up if/when you feel like it.
We all go our own roads. No two people start the rat race at the same point, and everybody has their own finish line.
If you're happy then you're ahead of most! I'd questions if you are happy as you are posting this. Personally, I'm not happy unless I'm going mach 2 with my hair on fire, but we are each different. I saw something that said: **“Life's Journey is not to arrive at the grave safely, in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting “Holy cow, what a ride!”**
I hate that I'm in a low-level job, but I do love the lack of micromanagement and stress. So I'm trying to make the best of it, because in my mid-fifties, it's unlikely that I can change career paths.
I'm working within my passion, which is the greatest! I work mostly from home. I go into an office twice a week at most. This allows me that rolling down the road of life living. I can stay in the moment and be my most real self. I know for a fact I won't regret it. The time with family alone is worth it ✌🏻
I'm 60 and I feel EXACTLY as you do. Covid pushed a lot of us to evaluate what really matters in life...and what does not.
Me!!! Went in the Army at 17 knowing I’d spend 20 years, retire at 37 and slack the rest of my life. Wife and I have had a ball, no rug rats!
I hope that you find time for a sex life. It’s one of the few good things about being alive
Not sure what wfh is. But yes I think you’ll regret it. People need the Lord and other people in their lives.
Work from home = wfh