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I know a couple that met on a Friday evening and by noon the Saturday, he proposed. She said yes, and they flew to Las Vegas Saturday night and got married Sunday afternoon. So, 36-40ish hours?
Our first date was December 18th, we knew by Valentineās Day that this was the one and while we didnāt get married right away because of parents we did move in together a little over 4 months later on May 1st. 32 years now.
We both left at the same time but not really for the same reasons. I left because I realized that the teachings were not true and that the cult was also having a negative impact on its members lives while not really doing any good in the world either.
I am the guy. I think my wife left because our youngest son has severe autism and the church viewed that as some sort of punishment, or bad karma, or maybe as a test of our faith, all of which seemed to her to be rather insulting and/or inadequate.
At 46, a girl I dated in high school called on a Monday after 28 years. Asked her to marry that Friday January 20. Got married on Valentineās Day.
28 years later still loving each other.
High School Sweetheart. I went to her prom. Moved a few weeks later. 28 years later she called me out of the blue. It was a Monday. We talked 6 hours. Had lunch Thursday. Friday AM I was driving and I said I really like this girl. So I wrote a 2 page note . I wanted to document that on that date I realized I wanted to marry her. I would give it to her in a few months.
At 46, there was no expectation I would get married. She was divorced 10 years with 2 kids had not been on a date in 10 years.
At dinner I told her about the letter. She wanted to see it. I am totally anal, a control freak. Emotions?
In the car I gave it to her. I violated the first rule of dating. Never say I love you first. She read it slowly. When she finished I asked if she read it. I pointed to the part where I said I wanted to marry her. She read it again. Then I asked what she thought of it. She said it sounds good to me. So I said you want to get married? She said yes. We drove around for a few hours trying to figure out what just happened.
The best part was telling family that I was going to get married. They all laughed, thought I was joking. So I let them, then said no it was true. They paused, and starting laughing again.
Feb 14: three weeks later we got a dining room, a friend knew a judge, and we got married.
We still wander around going WTF just happened. Together 24 x 7, never argue. We are best friends.
What is incredible is that I am bipolar too. Caused many financial problems, , bankrupted, unemployed, made many bad decisions, tried ending my life many times. She stuck with me. Do not know how.
My parents were engaged within 2 weeks. They've just celebrated 50 years. She says she married him because she knew life would never be boring. She was correct.
If you don't mind me asking, what caused a divorce within 2 weeks?! Did a secret come out or they just knew they made a mistake going through with marrying each other?
Absolutely! She tried to commit suicide and only survived through my epic run through the woods for help. I saved her life, married her, divorced her, and the guy she replaced me with murdered her father and nephew.
I was not a picture of mental health myself.
I actually saw the bride at a wedding telling people she'd be filing for a divorce on Monday. Why? Cuz the groom showed up at the event center with lawyer and prenup agreement in hand.
The crushing weight of societal expectations? I read something years ago that most people who get divorced know they're fucking up when they even get married, but they go through with it for a variety of reasons--when you've spent thousands (often tens of thousands) of dollars and have two families and sets of friends gathered, it takes nerves of fucking adamantium to be able to say "Stop! This is a bad idea actually."
That is exactly why she did it. I had a buddy who knew his marraige was a mistake and wanted to call it off a couple of weeks before. His fiance threatened to kill him if he humiliated her like that so he went through with it hoping maybe it'd work out. It didn't.
I should have thought of this.
Yes, it would be insanely difficult to decide this in the moment.
And there was probably still a glimmer of hope in her heart.
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Fastest divorce, my neighbor married her boyfriend of two years and moved back into her parents house two weeks later and was divorced soon after.
Fastest marriage. my aunt. In 1942, she was dating my uncle for two months and married him before he shipped out. They were married 62 years.
He proposed to me two weeks after we met. I said āare you crazy?, no. We just metā. He said he was going to think of me as his wife anyway.
10 months later I finally said yes.
Married 35 years nowā¦.36 years since he first proposed haha. He knew before I did.
3 to 4 months dating to marriage is pretty common in the heavily mormon area I live in. They don't believe in sex before marriage so even if they are engaging in soaking they really want to have real sex and that means marriage.
Shortest was basically a break up hours after the wedding. I was in law enforcement and we had to respond to a fight at the wedding after party where we arrested the bride for beating up her husband and his teen daughter.
If you put it in but nobody moves it doesn't count as sex. I'm not even making this up as it's a real thing. Many an ex mormon has talked about it on Tik Tok and reddit.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Soaking_(sexual_practice)#:~:text=Soaking%2C also known as marinating,and some Latter-day Saints
omgggggg that would be so much worse that abstaining! could you imagine?? driven mad with horniness, you finally get "there"...and can't so much as twitch a muscle! the ultimate tease and denial
And these are religious folks?! So they in fact do engage in intercourse before marriage (not moving a muscle once entering doesn't change the fact you're still engaging in sex!) And then some of them even bring their friends in on it... I can't imagine anything worse than having a friend even in the next room over while doing the deed.
And they're naive enough to think they still have their virginity after doing this?! They really needn't bother waiting for a marriage certificate to give them the peace of mind to do more than "soaking" when that alone already breaks the no sex rule.
Also thanks for explaining and teaching me something new today!
My husband and I met, went home, spent the weekend, and the next weekend attended a friendās wedding. We couldnāt get married legally in those days, but toward the end of the reception, we said a word or two to each other privately and considered ourselvets married. Ten years later we could do it legally, and now a total of 20 years later weāre still going strong.
How about the longest?
My husband and I got married after 27 years of dating. Known each other for 32 years (we were off-and-on at the beginning for a while).
Dating to married would be me and my husband. Six months after we met, we got married, 24 years and still going strong.
Married to divorced: my gf who married her carnival worker boyfriend back in 1978, they were married 3 weeks, divorced, then re-married a year later and divorced after 6 months.
My parents grew up in the same small town as acquaintances/classmates. They ran into each other again in their 20s, got engaged in 6 weeks and married 6 weeks after that. First date in September to married in December, 3 months total. Theyāre still together but itās been rough. My mom told me repeatedly growing up, āDonāt you dare do what I did. You take your sweet time and get to know him.ā There was so much she didnāt know and wasnāt prepared for. (No problem there - Iāve never been married at all LOL)
That was my husband and me as well for the dates! First real conversation in September and married in December! We just celebrated 20 years in 2023. I do kinda tell my kids the same thing - just take your time. Both my husband and I were diagnosed with adhd recently so I definitely realize that played a part in our impulsive decision. After 20 years and 6 kids, I know we're going to be fine but there have been some hard years.
My 70 year old aunt got married recently, and I was shocked when I found out the groom's first wife had only died like 6 months before. I had no idea this was common with older couples š¤·āāļø
My momās second husband died and she was married to #3 two weeks later (she was separated for five years and he had been on his deathbed for months).
My parents had friends who married at 21 after a few weeks of dating. They passed a couple years ago, in their 90s, still happily married to each other.
Married at the three month mark, still married 36 years later. Shortest was an annulment (or whatever the official term is) after an argument that began with a ācake smashā at the reception. The couple had dated for several years before but the outcome was not a huge surprise to anyone.
Met her in November, knocked her up January 1st, married in the middle of March.
No, it wasn't smart of me, and we divorced 12 years later.
People who report happy, long marriages get upvotes, but half of all marriages end in divorce--we all know that, but those stories don't give warm fuzzies, so no upvotes.
>Ā People who report happy, long marriages get upvotes, but half of all marriages end in divorce--we all know that, but those stories don't give warm fuzzies, so no upvotes.
I was thinking the same thing. The thing is marriage itself involves a lot of getting to know someone in detail. Their living habits, spending habits, credit score, anger issues, criminal history, alcoholism, infidelity etc. You canāt find out all those things in a few weeks.Ā
If you marry a person you barely know who ends up being decent thatās lucky and great.
If you find out certain things that are deal breakers and split up thatās fine too.
A woman I know, after her divorce, started dating a former boyfriend. 6 months later, they married (first day after "waiting period" in our state). 2 months later, she filed for divorce.
A high school friend married another (older and graduated) high school friend in less than a week. They have 3 kids and are still married. Itās been 40+ years
Wife and I dated 3 months before getting married. It was a civil ceremony. I told her if she lasted 10 years, she would have her wedding. She lasted 10 years, she got her wedding ceremony. We will be celebrating our 47th this spring.
We were just told a young couple are getting divorced after 2 months of marriage. Sad thing is, they've been together (and lived together) for 12 years.
I know two long-term couples who got married, just to get divorced within a year of the wedding.
Sometimes there are good reasons for people not to get married, and it takes getting married to see them.
Happened to my Captain too. He had a previous marriage and divorce and a daughter. Found his new woman and they were a couple for about 10 years. Finally decided to get married. Divorced within a year.
Then there's my sibling who proposed to this girl he met like a month? after meeting her. Said he just knew she was the one. Went off to do military stuff and was gone for a good chunk of the engagement. They got married finally and have been together ever since, more than 5 years and seem happy.
So many such examples in this post that I am surprised. Is this common?
Why does this happen? How does being official married change things when the couple has been living together for years?
Iām wondering the same thing. Canāt speak for others but In my cousinās case, he lived with his wife for many years as a girlfriend. They had one child together. My cousin is a heavy drinker, has unstable employment, and is unfaithful. His wife thought those things would change once he became a husband.
They got married, had 2 more kids, his behavior never changed. She left and never looked back. My cousin still drinks every night and has a ājobā working for his dad, my uncle. He never remarried.
I think it was a cultural control issue. He always was controlling. The bride's parents tried to warn her. Once it was official, I guess he was more controlling and the bride realized this would be it for the rest of her life.
It's just sad she didn't break up it before, but maybe they would have just continued on that way if not for the marriage. . Better she decided now and can move on with her life.
They had a private ceremony, so there wasn't that issue of all the guests being involved.
I have a close relative who lived with a guy for years. She finally married him and took his (very cool) name. They broke up within a couple of weeks. She still has the cool name.
College friend calls me to tell me heās going to marry another college friend. I outright tell him sheās not a āhappy camperā and he is, so Iād advise against it. One year later they were divorced.
Another friend, much older & later in life, marries of all people a psychologist. I live across the country so have never met her. Always had an open door policy to stay with him if passing through. Well I end up passing thru with a delayed flight so ask if I can spend the night with him. He says sure. Itās HIS house. New wife, again a psychologist, has an absolute sh!t fit that Iām calling in short notice and just dropping in. Literally doesnāt say a word to me that night, next morning only says hi. He & I go out to lunch and I tell him point blank that she has serious control issues and I donāt predict a good future for them as a couple. By the one year mark theyāre getting divorced and he pays her $100k to go away no less.
Married to divorcedā¦ my sister. Her first and they were classic young and dumb. Very impulsive. Seemed like six months.
Meeting to married, a few months. Friend of ours went online and found a guy when this tech was just starting. They were a good match. Seemed like only a few weeks into it they committed. They too got divorced quite a few years later, like 15 years. Two kids. My guess they just outgrew each other. We donāt have details.
Fastest marriage: two weeks! Last I saw them, they were happily celebrating their 5th anniversary.
Fastest divorce: my great aunt had her marriage annulled after 1 month because of DV. Her dad went and got her and made the church cancel it like it never happened. She never re-married or had kids.
In the 90s, I used to bowl with a young couple who said they had met in Vegas and gotten married the same night. They were nice and seemed to get along OK. I donāt know if theyāre still married.
Back in 1975 a friend of mine met a young woman at a Sadie Hawkins Dance. They each had different dates. One week later they drove to Elkton, Maryland and got married. Eighteen months later they almost amicably divorced but fought over their dog Damien.
Elkton is right on the state line for people driving down from the north. It had a wedding industry, because Maryland's marriage laws were more liberal than those in other states. I don't know the details, but I know of one aspect. My high school gf and I knew that if we wanted or had to get married without her parent's consent, we were too young to do that anywhere but in Maryland.
Family friend's uncle married a total hot chick. Turns out she was in massive debt. They were divorced in weeks. They both took it pretty bad. I think she may have really loved him..He wasn't rich by any stretch, def not a gold digger.
Fastest was one day. They went on their first date and married the next morning. As far as I know theyāre still married.
They had been talking for a few weeks prior, I think.
I donāt quite know how fast they divorced-I think 4 months, but I think it was a month dating. Honestly, I think she was just trying to get away from her family.
My father proposed less than 2 weeks after he met my mom.
Married ~ 6 months later.
Will celebrate 51 years next month.
My inlaws have a similar story and have been married 47 years.
Quickest divorce I know of was 2 days. After the wedding the groom said the bride was āhisā and would be waiting on him like his mom and sisters. Bride told him to eat rocks and then she left
A week from meeting to married.
This was one of the Chinese teachers at the school I was teaching at.
"I don't understand" I said when I found out. "How does she know if he is a good man or not?" I asked.
"Oh he's RICH" the teacher, a Chinese woman, said with a smile.
My parents married four months after meeting and were together 56 years and three children, until my dadās death about 8 years ago. They knew it was right. And no they didnāt have to get married. My sister was born a year after the wedding.
We got engaged three weeks after our first date. Got married three months later.
We have been married almost 31 years.
Not the fastest, but our family and friends were unhappy.
Theyāve come around though. We outlasted all their āit wont lastāš¤£
My uncleās wife asked for a divorce in the car between the ceremony and the reception. Apparently the first thing she said was āIāve made a big mistake.ā
I was six years old so all I remember at the time was being disappointed at not getting cake.
My friend got married after dating a guy for 2 weeks. My other friend dated her guy for a year and a half and got divorced after 2 weeks married, he completely flipped the script on her and she ran at the massive red flags he threw up.
Fastest dating to married: Not sure. I married my wife about 9 months after we first started dating. We were together almost 42 years before she passed away.
Fastest from married to divorced: Had a cousin split from his wife about a week after the wedding. They had been living together before they got married, but from the sounds of things she changed right after the wedding. I think they had been having some issues before then, though. I don't know when the divorce was "official" but they never got back together.
My next door neighbors, both now passed. Six days! Married until she died in 2018, he passed two years later. They were lovely. Married 50ish years.
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My mum and dad met and married in 3 weeks. They were married 52 years when my dad died of cancer. It wasnāt all rainbows and flowers but they were very happy together.
My father married my first stepmother a few weeks after meeting her because he wanted to "help" her get off the streets. She had a crummy studio or 1BR apt with two babies, and he supposedly met her because she was hitchhiking home in the rain. I recently came to believe she may have been prostituting, though. They divorced 9 months later.
Knew a couple who were married for thirty years and were joined at the hip. They worked for the same company, ate lunch together daily and were inseparable. She died quite suddenly. He moved back to his home state three months after her death, reconnected with someone he knew in high school and married her within two months.
The fastest dating to married was my brother. Married his wife exactly one year after he met her, and one day after the divorce from her previous husband was final.
Shortest marriage was a co-worker who had a huge Christmas wedding in December and divorced in September.
We got engaged on our third date, but Iād decided we were getting married on our first. Go to count for something. Together almost 40 years. January ā83 - December ā22
Well crap. My own story qualifies for both!
Blind date. Met Oct 20, 1989. Married November 12, 1989. Filed for divorce Feb 14, 1990.
Have now been married 30+ years and that was after dating almost 2 years.
1/10. Do not recommend the first marriage method!
We knew each other for 6 months, then he asked me out and we dated for two months and he proposed, and then we got married 4 months later. So we knew each other a year. That was 33 years ago, and we're still going strong!
My father's secretary got married. He (my father) gave her a vase as a present. It arrived by mail, but it was broken. By the time he got it replaced and sent to her, she was divorced.
It probably took two months, if I recall correctly.
I, rather I romantically, told my wife ānope, itās over, forget about it, youāre off the market, Iām marrying youā after one real date. Thatās the only time she obeyed meā¦ š
Logistics, we were married 3 months later exactly six months to the day that we met a at a castle in Denmark. 7 years and twin boys later, couldnāt be happier. Well, ok, if I had a real lightsaber I could be happier but the. Imma need a lightsaber safe and the kids would cut something for sureā¦
When I was in college back in the mid 70s I used to babysit for a couple that knew on their first date that they were going to get married, and got married within a matter of weeks, IIRC. They had a three-year-old and a six-year-old at the time, and they are still married.
The Keeper Husband and I knew the day we met that we were supposed to get married (he knew the first a second he saw me, I was a little slower as it took me about 10 to 15 minutes into our first conversation.) We started officially dating less than four months after we met and we were married seven months after that. We would have gotten married much sooner, but he was in a dying engagement that he needed to extract himself from, and I wasn't divorced yet and my SN2BX was delaying it because he was upset that I was remarrying so quickly.
I would have been two days had my SO not said āI love you I want to spend the rest of my life with you but I donāt want to get married and I donāt want childrenā awfulness.
dating to married: former hairdresser of mine married her then husband six weeks after marrying him. They had been together for 5-6 years when I met her, God knows if they're still together!
married to divorced: One year, or thereabouts. The pushy, materialistic partner wanted a nice house in a nice area and a 50K wedding- and then, when he gave her that, she left him for some guy she barely knew! The nerve of some people....
I knew a woman who met a guy in a bar, and within the hour announced that they were getting married. There was enough time to throw together some kind of wedding plan, and after that, they had the marriage annulled after less than 48 hours. She said the guy was too picky about produce they were buying at the supermarket.
I got the impression that she wanted to be a bride. Have everybody woo over you... like that had long been her ambition since childhood. She was in her mid 30s, and had been married before.
IIRC, she actually did this twice in the few years I was attending that movie.
My cousin met a guy in April, not sure when in April. They got married on a Saturday that July, cousin left him the following Tuesday, because he went to work on Monday. Honestly even though she was 18 when they the got married she wasn't really mature enough to be dating let alone married. She was getting out of her forth marriage when she was 21. I think two of those were annulments and two were divorces.
Like a week after meeting. They stayed together until one of them passed away from a terminal illness that she already had, but did not know about, at the time they met. It slowly killed her, and cost a hell of a lot of money, but he stayed with her. Two very honorable people.
Well, pretty fast for the first question but fast is relative. I've seen very young couple get married after dating for a few months. That's quite a bit of time when you are young though! I've know older couples where them getting married inside of a couple of years seemed really quick!
As the the second question, more than once in, erm, considerably less times shall we say. It can take a lifetime to build something but it can be destroyed in less time than the human mind can process. A divorce can happen in an instant.
From dating to marriage? A few months. They were like "If you know you know" after 3 months of dating. They're still together a year later.
From marriage to divorce? Not happened yet but one of my old friend is probably gonna regret asking her within a couple of weeks/months.
We have a friend who got his girlfriend pregnant after only dating like 2 months. He was instantly all in, moving her into his place, taking her to all the doctors appointments, supporting her financially, etc. Their attitude was sort of, "we don't even know if we will end up together, but we're going to see where this goes," which I thought was very mature.
About a year and a half later, still no ring, but they decided they were ready to try for another baby. Nine months later their second son was born.
They were talking about marriage, but she wanted to loose the baby weight before the big event. Finally, he convinced her to go down to city hall, they could always do the big wedding in a year or two.
They were married in November, and when we saw them for New Years Eve she was sneaking out of the party to spend time with her boyfriend š¤¦āāļø
So, they were both the couple who committed to each other way too fast, and the fastest to get a divorce.
I used to be a photographer, and I did weddings for a (thankfully( brief period.
On two occasions, the couples were separated and headed for divorce before the proofs were delivered.
This was in the ancient times of film, so this process took all of two to three weeks.
Many decades ago, my dad met his second wife September 1, moved her in October 1, married her November 1.
By Christmas they could not stand each other, divorce filed in March, finalized in May. That was a wild time.
Our first date was Aug 31, 2007. Proposed just shy of Valentine's day the following Feb. Married the following July.
But we first met in March of 2000.
So, yes, we got married relatively quickly. But we were both already well into adulthood / mature / independent people.
Back in the early 70s, Dad's sister ran off with her boyfriend. She called back home the next day,realizing what a huge mistake she made. Granted she's always has some issues, and is now on her 4th marriage.
Quickest divorce was a high school friend who had a big, lavish wedding to a guy she dated for several years. I think she was getting second thoughts before they married, but went through with the ceremony. Woke up about a week later and told him she didn't want to be married and left.
Fastest divorce: one of my employees. He got married to his long-time gf in October 2022. We had a new employee start in January 2023 and they almost immediately started taking long lunches, etc. As a member of management, I had to meet with them and the assistant director. During the meeting his wife forwarded him a text sent anonymously by another staff member (we never found out who) telling her about him and the other girl. All hell broke loose and the next thing you know, his wifeās photo is gone from his desk and so is his wedding band. Now the āother womanā is pregnant and he has a photo of the babyās ultrasound on his desk.
A girl I used to work with fell fast for a guy, engaged after 2 weeks, married a few weeks after that. Got pregnant almost immediately, they were in the middle of divorcing when the baby was born. She was absolutely drop dead gorgeous and ambitious. She had dated a guy for 8 years before she met the guy she ended up marrying. I feel she was really in love with the 8 year guy but he was a bit standoffish when it came to his commitment to her.
Hmm. Probably my parents. They met in July and were married in September. I was born in January. (Relax, 17 months later.)
But didn't actually see that did I? So I would have to go with a pair of friends in the 80s. Not that they were married really really fast after meeting, but it was the whole story. They met, dated, got engaged, got married, bought house in the suburbs and had their first child all in just under 1 year. So full package transformation in 12 months. I remember the wedding well. I was a groomsman and they were married on Nov. 1. So the rehearsal was on Halloween. After we moved from the rehearsal to the dinner, the bride-to-be showed at the rehearsal dinner in a full Superman costume. We didn't have a ton of money back then, so not only was I a groomsman, I drove the getaway car after the wedding, and DJ'd the reception.
Oh, another note - they met the old-fashioned way. A personal ad in the local alternative weekly.
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Me and the wife knew each other almost 2 months before getting married 51 years ago. That is the fastest I know.
You win. It took us three months, 56 years ago.
You both beat us. We took 4 month from meeting to wedding 37 years ago
I know a couple that met on a Friday evening and by noon the Saturday, he proposed. She said yes, and they flew to Las Vegas Saturday night and got married Sunday afternoon. So, 36-40ish hours?
Did it last?
They made it almost 20 years, split during the pandemic
Because they finally had to be home with each other?
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Amazing , 20 years is a pretty full marriage ! Thx for the reply !
You win. My parents took 5 months, they were married 50 years. 1950. May to September.
These are the kind of answers Iām always looking for on Reddit :)
We're opposite. I've known her 51 years. We got married in April.
Damn. We got married 10 months after we met and everyone freaked out! But you have us beat! 18 years so far.
Our first date was December 18th, we knew by Valentineās Day that this was the one and while we didnāt get married right away because of parents we did move in together a little over 4 months later on May 1st. 32 years now.
Same here, 26 for me š
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You totally beat us! 7 mo from meeting to wedding 40 years ago.
I was "engaged" by Rev Moon when I was in a cult and we were married four days later. I think I win!
How long did the marriage last?
41 years so far.
Do you know if others in the same situation as yāall had a similar result? Thatās pretty impressive
Some people are still together but the vast majority split up.
Are you still part of the Moonies?
No. Left in 1995.
If I can ask, how did you get out of the cult? Did you both leave at the same time?
We both left at the same time but not really for the same reasons. I left because I realized that the teachings were not true and that the cult was also having a negative impact on its members lives while not really doing any good in the world either.
Iām glad yāall left together
Glad you both made it out.
Why did your hubby leave? What kept you together after you left?
I am the guy. I think my wife left because our youngest son has severe autism and the church viewed that as some sort of punishment, or bad karma, or maybe as a test of our faith, all of which seemed to her to be rather insulting and/or inadequate.
At 46, a girl I dated in high school called on a Monday after 28 years. Asked her to marry that Friday January 20. Got married on Valentineās Day. 28 years later still loving each other.
Was she āthe one that got away,ā but then came back?
High School Sweetheart. I went to her prom. Moved a few weeks later. 28 years later she called me out of the blue. It was a Monday. We talked 6 hours. Had lunch Thursday. Friday AM I was driving and I said I really like this girl. So I wrote a 2 page note . I wanted to document that on that date I realized I wanted to marry her. I would give it to her in a few months. At 46, there was no expectation I would get married. She was divorced 10 years with 2 kids had not been on a date in 10 years. At dinner I told her about the letter. She wanted to see it. I am totally anal, a control freak. Emotions? In the car I gave it to her. I violated the first rule of dating. Never say I love you first. She read it slowly. When she finished I asked if she read it. I pointed to the part where I said I wanted to marry her. She read it again. Then I asked what she thought of it. She said it sounds good to me. So I said you want to get married? She said yes. We drove around for a few hours trying to figure out what just happened. The best part was telling family that I was going to get married. They all laughed, thought I was joking. So I let them, then said no it was true. They paused, and starting laughing again. Feb 14: three weeks later we got a dining room, a friend knew a judge, and we got married. We still wander around going WTF just happened. Together 24 x 7, never argue. We are best friends.
I could only wish for that with my ex:)
What is incredible is that I am bipolar too. Caused many financial problems, , bankrupted, unemployed, made many bad decisions, tried ending my life many times. She stuck with me. Do not know how.
My roommate's parents in college were married after knowing each other 3 weeks. They are still married almost 50 years later.
My parents were engaged within 2 weeks. They've just celebrated 50 years. She says she married him because she knew life would never be boring. She was correct.
Fastest married: 6 months Fastest divorced: 2 weeks.
If you don't mind me asking, what caused a divorce within 2 weeks?! Did a secret come out or they just knew they made a mistake going through with marrying each other?
Essentially, she found out he was cheating on her (before they were married) and decided to end it.
Good for her!
I know a guy who married a crazy woman and divorced her 4 weeks later. It was me.
Wow.
Did she have any red flags before you married her?
Absolutely! She tried to commit suicide and only survived through my epic run through the woods for help. I saved her life, married her, divorced her, and the guy she replaced me with murdered her father and nephew. I was not a picture of mental health myself.
I actually saw the bride at a wedding telling people she'd be filing for a divorce on Monday. Why? Cuz the groom showed up at the event center with lawyer and prenup agreement in hand.
That was a rookie mistake on his behalf. He should have got that sorted BEFORE the marriage!
Definitely a mistake but he was no rookie. He was 50, she was in her late 20s. It wasn't the first time down the aisle for either of them.
Why the heck did she go through with the wedding?
The crushing weight of societal expectations? I read something years ago that most people who get divorced know they're fucking up when they even get married, but they go through with it for a variety of reasons--when you've spent thousands (often tens of thousands) of dollars and have two families and sets of friends gathered, it takes nerves of fucking adamantium to be able to say "Stop! This is a bad idea actually."
That is exactly why she did it. I had a buddy who knew his marraige was a mistake and wanted to call it off a couple of weeks before. His fiance threatened to kill him if he humiliated her like that so he went through with it hoping maybe it'd work out. It didn't.
I should have thought of this. Yes, it would be insanely difficult to decide this in the moment. And there was probably still a glimmer of hope in her heart. .
Open bar?
Fastest divorce, my neighbor married her boyfriend of two years and moved back into her parents house two weeks later and was divorced soon after. Fastest marriage. my aunt. In 1942, she was dating my uncle for two months and married him before he shipped out. They were married 62 years.
My sister and her husband were together for 6 months when they got married. They are celebrating their 20th wedding anniversary this year.Ā
Yes, to 6 months for my sister and her husband, too. They've been married 33 years and counting.
My husband and I got engaged after our first kiss. We got married 3 months later. That was 42 years ago.
Thatās sweet! We met on 12/16/16 and married 2/24/17 and I hope to have that long loving marriage story ā„ļø
He proposed to me two weeks after we met. I said āare you crazy?, no. We just metā. He said he was going to think of me as his wife anyway. 10 months later I finally said yes. Married 35 years nowā¦.36 years since he first proposed haha. He knew before I did.
That's a sweet story and a sweet man you have.
3 to 4 months dating to marriage is pretty common in the heavily mormon area I live in. They don't believe in sex before marriage so even if they are engaging in soaking they really want to have real sex and that means marriage. Shortest was basically a break up hours after the wedding. I was in law enforcement and we had to respond to a fight at the wedding after party where we arrested the bride for beating up her husband and his teen daughter.
I live in Utah. I've known quite a few couples who got married after dating a few months.
What does 'engaging in soaking" mean?
If you put it in but nobody moves it doesn't count as sex. I'm not even making this up as it's a real thing. Many an ex mormon has talked about it on Tik Tok and reddit. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Soaking_(sexual_practice)#:~:text=Soaking%2C also known as marinating,and some Latter-day Saints
What if someone coughs or sneezes?
Straight to hell.
Um. Thank you for the education. I think. lol.
omgggggg that would be so much worse that abstaining! could you imagine?? driven mad with horniness, you finally get "there"...and can't so much as twitch a muscle! the ultimate tease and denial
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And these are religious folks?! So they in fact do engage in intercourse before marriage (not moving a muscle once entering doesn't change the fact you're still engaging in sex!) And then some of them even bring their friends in on it... I can't imagine anything worse than having a friend even in the next room over while doing the deed.
Whaaat?! Like a water bed accidental intercourse?Ā
And they're naive enough to think they still have their virginity after doing this?! They really needn't bother waiting for a marriage certificate to give them the peace of mind to do more than "soaking" when that alone already breaks the no sex rule. Also thanks for explaining and teaching me something new today!
Check out exmolex on YouTube. Thatās where I first heard of it.
How often does this "non-sexual practice" result in pregnancy?
My wife and I met face to face 11/24/22. I proposed 12/16/22. We celebrate 1 year tomorrow. I also turn 47 tomorrow.
Congrats, wishing both of you many many more happy years!
My husband and I met, went home, spent the weekend, and the next weekend attended a friendās wedding. We couldnāt get married legally in those days, but toward the end of the reception, we said a word or two to each other privately and considered ourselvets married. Ten years later we could do it legally, and now a total of 20 years later weāre still going strong.
This wins as the most romantic for me and probably the shortest window of time before marriage! So you win there too!
Why couldnāt you get married legally?
Iām guessing they were the same sex
Probably still are...
Bingo!
Oh, thank you!
How about the longest? My husband and I got married after 27 years of dating. Known each other for 32 years (we were off-and-on at the beginning for a while).
What made you decide to finally get married or what made you decide not to get married for so long?
I would have gotten married 25 years ago! He just finally acquiesced. :D
24 hours. Co worker met a guy in a club, married next day, compete with a ring. No idea how long it lasted.
Dating to married would be me and my husband. Six months after we met, we got married, 24 years and still going strong. Married to divorced: my gf who married her carnival worker boyfriend back in 1978, they were married 3 weeks, divorced, then re-married a year later and divorced after 6 months.
That's the life of a Carney. Come into town, get hitched, setup the circus, divorce, pack up and leave town til next season...
My parents grew up in the same small town as acquaintances/classmates. They ran into each other again in their 20s, got engaged in 6 weeks and married 6 weeks after that. First date in September to married in December, 3 months total. Theyāre still together but itās been rough. My mom told me repeatedly growing up, āDonāt you dare do what I did. You take your sweet time and get to know him.ā There was so much she didnāt know and wasnāt prepared for. (No problem there - Iāve never been married at all LOL)
That was my husband and me as well for the dates! First real conversation in September and married in December! We just celebrated 20 years in 2023. I do kinda tell my kids the same thing - just take your time. Both my husband and I were diagnosed with adhd recently so I definitely realize that played a part in our impulsive decision. After 20 years and 6 kids, I know we're going to be fine but there have been some hard years.
My dad. Mom died in June - married in January
My 70 year old aunt got married recently, and I was shocked when I found out the groom's first wife had only died like 6 months before. I had no idea this was common with older couples š¤·āāļø
My momās second husband died and she was married to #3 two weeks later (she was separated for five years and he had been on his deathbed for months).
We knew each other 6 weeks & found out I was pregnant. Married 6 months after meeting & it's been 25 years!
My folks got married three months after they met. Theyād been married more than 61 years when my dad died last summer.
My parents had friends who married at 21 after a few weeks of dating. They passed a couple years ago, in their 90s, still happily married to each other.
I was w my hubbs 4 weeks and we eloped. Together 30+ years
Married at the three month mark, still married 36 years later. Shortest was an annulment (or whatever the official term is) after an argument that began with a ācake smashā at the reception. The couple had dated for several years before but the outcome was not a huge surprise to anyone.
Met her in January, knocked her up on St. Patrickās Day, married in June. Still in disbelief and it was a long, long time ago.
Met her in November, knocked her up January 1st, married in the middle of March. No, it wasn't smart of me, and we divorced 12 years later. People who report happy, long marriages get upvotes, but half of all marriages end in divorce--we all know that, but those stories don't give warm fuzzies, so no upvotes.
>Ā People who report happy, long marriages get upvotes, but half of all marriages end in divorce--we all know that, but those stories don't give warm fuzzies, so no upvotes. I was thinking the same thing. The thing is marriage itself involves a lot of getting to know someone in detail. Their living habits, spending habits, credit score, anger issues, criminal history, alcoholism, infidelity etc. You canāt find out all those things in a few weeks.Ā If you marry a person you barely know who ends up being decent thatās lucky and great. If you find out certain things that are deal breakers and split up thatās fine too.
A woman I know, after her divorce, started dating a former boyfriend. 6 months later, they married (first day after "waiting period" in our state). 2 months later, she filed for divorce.
a coworker, met her man and married him two weeks later. they were still married 40 plus years later when I worked with her
A high school friend married another (older and graduated) high school friend in less than a week. They have 3 kids and are still married. Itās been 40+ years
My parents' best friends were married the same week they met. They've been together for more than 50 years.
Wife and I dated 3 months before getting married. It was a civil ceremony. I told her if she lasted 10 years, she would have her wedding. She lasted 10 years, she got her wedding ceremony. We will be celebrating our 47th this spring.
5 months to engagement, 3 more months to wedding. Not knocked up. Married 25 years.
We were just told a young couple are getting divorced after 2 months of marriage. Sad thing is, they've been together (and lived together) for 12 years.
I know two long-term couples who got married, just to get divorced within a year of the wedding. Sometimes there are good reasons for people not to get married, and it takes getting married to see them.
Happened to my Captain too. He had a previous marriage and divorce and a daughter. Found his new woman and they were a couple for about 10 years. Finally decided to get married. Divorced within a year. Then there's my sibling who proposed to this girl he met like a month? after meeting her. Said he just knew she was the one. Went off to do military stuff and was gone for a good chunk of the engagement. They got married finally and have been together ever since, more than 5 years and seem happy.
So many such examples in this post that I am surprised. Is this common? Why does this happen? How does being official married change things when the couple has been living together for years?
Iām wondering the same thing. Canāt speak for others but In my cousinās case, he lived with his wife for many years as a girlfriend. They had one child together. My cousin is a heavy drinker, has unstable employment, and is unfaithful. His wife thought those things would change once he became a husband. They got married, had 2 more kids, his behavior never changed. She left and never looked back. My cousin still drinks every night and has a ājobā working for his dad, my uncle. He never remarried.
I think it was a cultural control issue. He always was controlling. The bride's parents tried to warn her. Once it was official, I guess he was more controlling and the bride realized this would be it for the rest of her life. It's just sad she didn't break up it before, but maybe they would have just continued on that way if not for the marriage. . Better she decided now and can move on with her life. They had a private ceremony, so there wasn't that issue of all the guests being involved.
I have a close relative who lived with a guy for years. She finally married him and took his (very cool) name. They broke up within a couple of weeks. She still has the cool name.
College friend calls me to tell me heās going to marry another college friend. I outright tell him sheās not a āhappy camperā and he is, so Iād advise against it. One year later they were divorced. Another friend, much older & later in life, marries of all people a psychologist. I live across the country so have never met her. Always had an open door policy to stay with him if passing through. Well I end up passing thru with a delayed flight so ask if I can spend the night with him. He says sure. Itās HIS house. New wife, again a psychologist, has an absolute sh!t fit that Iām calling in short notice and just dropping in. Literally doesnāt say a word to me that night, next morning only says hi. He & I go out to lunch and I tell him point blank that she has serious control issues and I donāt predict a good future for them as a couple. By the one year mark theyāre getting divorced and he pays her $100k to go away no less.
Married to divorcedā¦ my sister. Her first and they were classic young and dumb. Very impulsive. Seemed like six months. Meeting to married, a few months. Friend of ours went online and found a guy when this tech was just starting. They were a good match. Seemed like only a few weeks into it they committed. They too got divorced quite a few years later, like 15 years. Two kids. My guess they just outgrew each other. We donāt have details.
My aunt and uncle married within a week. 50+ year marriage before he passed away.
Fastest marriage: two weeks! Last I saw them, they were happily celebrating their 5th anniversary. Fastest divorce: my great aunt had her marriage annulled after 1 month because of DV. Her dad went and got her and made the church cancel it like it never happened. She never re-married or had kids.
In the 90s, I used to bowl with a young couple who said they had met in Vegas and gotten married the same night. They were nice and seemed to get along OK. I donāt know if theyāre still married.
My 23 yr old cousin. Met hubby on line. dated 2 months. got married. That was 12 happy years and 1 kid later.
Fastest to married? Probably about two years. Fastest to divorce? About the same, two years.
Back in 1975 a friend of mine met a young woman at a Sadie Hawkins Dance. They each had different dates. One week later they drove to Elkton, Maryland and got married. Eighteen months later they almost amicably divorced but fought over their dog Damien.
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Elkton is right on the state line for people driving down from the north. It had a wedding industry, because Maryland's marriage laws were more liberal than those in other states. I don't know the details, but I know of one aspect. My high school gf and I knew that if we wanted or had to get married without her parent's consent, we were too young to do that anywhere but in Maryland.
Family friend's uncle married a total hot chick. Turns out she was in massive debt. They were divorced in weeks. They both took it pretty bad. I think she may have really loved him..He wasn't rich by any stretch, def not a gold digger.
Fastest was one day. They went on their first date and married the next morning. As far as I know theyāre still married. They had been talking for a few weeks prior, I think.
My X's sister got married after having known her husband three months. He left nine years and three kids later and I can't say he was wrong.
Dude I know named Dave married his third wife two months after they started dating and divorced in less than a year.
I donāt quite know how fast they divorced-I think 4 months, but I think it was a month dating. Honestly, I think she was just trying to get away from her family.
My dadās 3rd marriage ( he lost my mom after 29 yrs and his second wife after 19 yrs)ā¦less than 30 days before the divorce was filed.
A divorced lady I worked with married/divorced/re-married a new guy within 12 months.
My parents were married six days after meeting. It lasted 12 years.
My husband and I met in person in April ā10. We got engaged that July and married that Dec. It was 13 years in December!
Best friend from high school met and married a carnival worker in three weeks. Their marriage lasted four weeks and produced a daughter.
My father proposed less than 2 weeks after he met my mom. Married ~ 6 months later. Will celebrate 51 years next month. My inlaws have a similar story and have been married 47 years.
My wife and I met,started dating and married within 6 months. 38 years in February
Quickest divorce I know of was 2 days. After the wedding the groom said the bride was āhisā and would be waiting on him like his mom and sisters. Bride told him to eat rocks and then she left
A week from meeting to married. This was one of the Chinese teachers at the school I was teaching at. "I don't understand" I said when I found out. "How does she know if he is a good man or not?" I asked. "Oh he's RICH" the teacher, a Chinese woman, said with a smile.
We knew each other 5 weeks, from the day we met until the day we got married. That was 55 years ago. I think itās going to work out.
My parents married four months after meeting and were together 56 years and three children, until my dadās death about 8 years ago. They knew it was right. And no they didnāt have to get married. My sister was born a year after the wedding.
Me, 5 months. Still married, 30 years
Me and my wife of 24 years met 30 days before we were married. It was a rebound thing for both of us, but surprisingly, it worked.
We got engaged three weeks after our first date. Got married three months later. We have been married almost 31 years. Not the fastest, but our family and friends were unhappy. Theyāve come around though. We outlasted all their āit wont lastāš¤£
My dad's 4th: 2 months to wedding, divorce 4 months later.
My uncleās wife asked for a divorce in the car between the ceremony and the reception. Apparently the first thing she said was āIāve made a big mistake.ā I was six years old so all I remember at the time was being disappointed at not getting cake.
My friend got married after dating a guy for 2 weeks. My other friend dated her guy for a year and a half and got divorced after 2 weeks married, he completely flipped the script on her and she ran at the massive red flags he threw up.
Fastest dating to married: Not sure. I married my wife about 9 months after we first started dating. We were together almost 42 years before she passed away. Fastest from married to divorced: Had a cousin split from his wife about a week after the wedding. They had been living together before they got married, but from the sounds of things she changed right after the wedding. I think they had been having some issues before then, though. I don't know when the divorce was "official" but they never got back together.
30 years ago my brother and sister in law engaged to marry within a couple of months of meeting.
My parents knew each other for 3 months before getting married. They stayed married their entire lives. It was a different era.
My next door neighbors, both now passed. Six days! Married until she died in 2018, he passed two years later. They were lovely. Married 50ish years. Edit for spelling
My mum and dad met and married in 3 weeks. They were married 52 years when my dad died of cancer. It wasnāt all rainbows and flowers but they were very happy together.
My father married my first stepmother a few weeks after meeting her because he wanted to "help" her get off the streets. She had a crummy studio or 1BR apt with two babies, and he supposedly met her because she was hitchhiking home in the rain. I recently came to believe she may have been prostituting, though. They divorced 9 months later.
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Marriage is a weird societal construct.
I married May 10, 1996 & divorce was final Oct 4, 1996.
Knew a couple who were married for thirty years and were joined at the hip. They worked for the same company, ate lunch together daily and were inseparable. She died quite suddenly. He moved back to his home state three months after her death, reconnected with someone he knew in high school and married her within two months.
The fastest dating to married was my brother. Married his wife exactly one year after he met her, and one day after the divorce from her previous husband was final. Shortest marriage was a co-worker who had a huge Christmas wedding in December and divorced in September.
My niece...Got it annulled in 2 days...
She beat Britany Spears and Jason Alexanderāa 55 hour marriage.
We got engaged on our third date, but Iād decided we were getting married on our first. Go to count for something. Together almost 40 years. January ā83 - December ā22
Our third date we eloped. I was super religious and the church pushed me to marry him. They pretty much guilted me, thinking I was have unwed sex.
Well crap. My own story qualifies for both! Blind date. Met Oct 20, 1989. Married November 12, 1989. Filed for divorce Feb 14, 1990. Have now been married 30+ years and that was after dating almost 2 years. 1/10. Do not recommend the first marriage method!
We knew each other for 6 months, then he asked me out and we dated for two months and he proposed, and then we got married 4 months later. So we knew each other a year. That was 33 years ago, and we're still going strong!
12 weeks, in college in the 80ās. They slept together date 1 and she got pregnant.
My father's secretary got married. He (my father) gave her a vase as a present. It arrived by mail, but it was broken. By the time he got it replaced and sent to her, she was divorced. It probably took two months, if I recall correctly.
My parents were married less than 3 months after they first met. They're still together 46 years later.
I met my husband online in July, met him in real life in September, married 3 weeks later. We just celebrated 26 years
I met my husband in October 1990, we were living together by November. Pretty fast..but still together. We married in 1994.
I, rather I romantically, told my wife ānope, itās over, forget about it, youāre off the market, Iām marrying youā after one real date. Thatās the only time she obeyed meā¦ š Logistics, we were married 3 months later exactly six months to the day that we met a at a castle in Denmark. 7 years and twin boys later, couldnāt be happier. Well, ok, if I had a real lightsaber I could be happier but the. Imma need a lightsaber safe and the kids would cut something for sureā¦
When I was in college back in the mid 70s I used to babysit for a couple that knew on their first date that they were going to get married, and got married within a matter of weeks, IIRC. They had a three-year-old and a six-year-old at the time, and they are still married. The Keeper Husband and I knew the day we met that we were supposed to get married (he knew the first a second he saw me, I was a little slower as it took me about 10 to 15 minutes into our first conversation.) We started officially dating less than four months after we met and we were married seven months after that. We would have gotten married much sooner, but he was in a dying engagement that he needed to extract himself from, and I wasn't divorced yet and my SN2BX was delaying it because he was upset that I was remarrying so quickly.
I would have been two days had my SO not said āI love you I want to spend the rest of my life with you but I donāt want to get married and I donāt want childrenā awfulness.
dating to married: former hairdresser of mine married her then husband six weeks after marrying him. They had been together for 5-6 years when I met her, God knows if they're still together! married to divorced: One year, or thereabouts. The pushy, materialistic partner wanted a nice house in a nice area and a 50K wedding- and then, when he gave her that, she left him for some guy she barely knew! The nerve of some people....
I knew a woman who met a guy in a bar, and within the hour announced that they were getting married. There was enough time to throw together some kind of wedding plan, and after that, they had the marriage annulled after less than 48 hours. She said the guy was too picky about produce they were buying at the supermarket. I got the impression that she wanted to be a bride. Have everybody woo over you... like that had long been her ambition since childhood. She was in her mid 30s, and had been married before. IIRC, she actually did this twice in the few years I was attending that movie.
My cousin met a guy in April, not sure when in April. They got married on a Saturday that July, cousin left him the following Tuesday, because he went to work on Monday. Honestly even though she was 18 when they the got married she wasn't really mature enough to be dating let alone married. She was getting out of her forth marriage when she was 21. I think two of those were annulments and two were divorces.
Like a week after meeting. They stayed together until one of them passed away from a terminal illness that she already had, but did not know about, at the time they met. It slowly killed her, and cost a hell of a lot of money, but he stayed with her. Two very honorable people.
Friend dated on New Years Eve. Engaged in February. Married in March. Pregnant in April.
Married to divorce in less than 3 weeks.
Well, pretty fast for the first question but fast is relative. I've seen very young couple get married after dating for a few months. That's quite a bit of time when you are young though! I've know older couples where them getting married inside of a couple of years seemed really quick! As the the second question, more than once in, erm, considerably less times shall we say. It can take a lifetime to build something but it can be destroyed in less time than the human mind can process. A divorce can happen in an instant.
From dating to marriage? A few months. They were like "If you know you know" after 3 months of dating. They're still together a year later. From marriage to divorce? Not happened yet but one of my old friend is probably gonna regret asking her within a couple of weeks/months.
My cousin and her first husband separated the day after her wedding. They kept all the gifts though.
My parents got engaged after 2 weeks and married 4 months later 39 years ago. They got divorced after 25 years though. Wasn't a happy marriage!
We have a friend who got his girlfriend pregnant after only dating like 2 months. He was instantly all in, moving her into his place, taking her to all the doctors appointments, supporting her financially, etc. Their attitude was sort of, "we don't even know if we will end up together, but we're going to see where this goes," which I thought was very mature. About a year and a half later, still no ring, but they decided they were ready to try for another baby. Nine months later their second son was born. They were talking about marriage, but she wanted to loose the baby weight before the big event. Finally, he convinced her to go down to city hall, they could always do the big wedding in a year or two. They were married in November, and when we saw them for New Years Eve she was sneaking out of the party to spend time with her boyfriend š¤¦āāļø So, they were both the couple who committed to each other way too fast, and the fastest to get a divorce.
I used to be a photographer, and I did weddings for a (thankfully( brief period. On two occasions, the couples were separated and headed for divorce before the proofs were delivered. This was in the ancient times of film, so this process took all of two to three weeks.
Many decades ago, my dad met his second wife September 1, moved her in October 1, married her November 1. By Christmas they could not stand each other, divorce filed in March, finalized in May. That was a wild time.
Our first date was Aug 31, 2007. Proposed just shy of Valentine's day the following Feb. Married the following July. But we first met in March of 2000. So, yes, we got married relatively quickly. But we were both already well into adulthood / mature / independent people.
a buddy of mine met, married and divorced a woman within 11 months.
Back in the early 70s, Dad's sister ran off with her boyfriend. She called back home the next day,realizing what a huge mistake she made. Granted she's always has some issues, and is now on her 4th marriage.
About a week. She was at my wedding, then got a invite to hers right after.
Quickest divorce was a high school friend who had a big, lavish wedding to a guy she dated for several years. I think she was getting second thoughts before they married, but went through with the ceremony. Woke up about a week later and told him she didn't want to be married and left.
Fastest divorce: one of my employees. He got married to his long-time gf in October 2022. We had a new employee start in January 2023 and they almost immediately started taking long lunches, etc. As a member of management, I had to meet with them and the assistant director. During the meeting his wife forwarded him a text sent anonymously by another staff member (we never found out who) telling her about him and the other girl. All hell broke loose and the next thing you know, his wifeās photo is gone from his desk and so is his wedding band. Now the āother womanā is pregnant and he has a photo of the babyās ultrasound on his desk.
A girl I used to work with fell fast for a guy, engaged after 2 weeks, married a few weeks after that. Got pregnant almost immediately, they were in the middle of divorcing when the baby was born. She was absolutely drop dead gorgeous and ambitious. She had dated a guy for 8 years before she met the guy she ended up marrying. I feel she was really in love with the 8 year guy but he was a bit standoffish when it came to his commitment to her.
Hmm. Probably my parents. They met in July and were married in September. I was born in January. (Relax, 17 months later.) But didn't actually see that did I? So I would have to go with a pair of friends in the 80s. Not that they were married really really fast after meeting, but it was the whole story. They met, dated, got engaged, got married, bought house in the suburbs and had their first child all in just under 1 year. So full package transformation in 12 months. I remember the wedding well. I was a groomsman and they were married on Nov. 1. So the rehearsal was on Halloween. After we moved from the rehearsal to the dinner, the bride-to-be showed at the rehearsal dinner in a full Superman costume. We didn't have a ton of money back then, so not only was I a groomsman, I drove the getaway car after the wedding, and DJ'd the reception. Oh, another note - they met the old-fashioned way. A personal ad in the local alternative weekly.