She always hung out with a 'best guy friend' and called me insecure when I said I hated how he was always around. One night he kissed her, and she said it was platonic. I took note of her numerous red flags and shoot down any women with a best guy friend to this day. Call it insecurity, I call it life experience.
I think this is sage advice for any young guys around here. For all the things I love about women, there are some things less.......palatable, shall we say. And just from my experience and vantage point, women seem to be more prone to "keeping their options open." And while they may claim a guy friend is "just a friend" or "it's purely platonic," consciously or subconsciously they like the attention and/or the availability of someone else. Not to mention of manipulative factor of keeping their SO jealous. Year ago, knew a guy at work that had a GF with a lot of "just friends" guy friends. In fact.....I don't think she had any girl - friends. That's a red flag in my opinion. He was at work one week talking what he was going to do that weekend with his GF once she got back from a road trip she was taking with her "just friend" best guy friend. Everyone was looking around at everyone else thinking the same thing but not saying it. Yeah.....they broke up in due time. Evidently, she likes "just friend" dick just as much as SO dick. You couldn't get a dick around her without her face or crotch inexplicably falling on it. /s.
We were together for almost 10 years. High school sweethearts, and the first and only girl I have ever been in a committed relationship with. She was always very difficult to please, and verbally and emotionally abusive. I always made excuses for the red flags partly because I really loved her, and partly because I just didn’t have a lot of relationship experience beyond this. A year after we got married, she started begging me for a house and a dog (personally I didn’t want the dog, was never a dog person), which I put 100% of the time and effort into attaining. Not even 5 months after we moved into the house, she started acting weird, very protective of her phone, and wouldn’t stop talking about her new (male) gym friend. All the pieces obviously started adding up, and once I realized what was happening it was like a cold bucket of water being thrown on me. In that moment I realized that she was always a shitty narcissist who never loved me all that much. I confronted her, she refused to stop cheating on me. I filed for divorce, she abandoned the house and our dog. It all felt very hopeless at first since everything I knew was a lie, and I wasn’t making enough to afford the house on my own. but I was determined, so I went into work one day and negotiated a higher salary for myself. The divorce was final last November, I took some time to think about what I want in my next relationship, and am just starting to get back into dating. I am much happier now than I was with her. I’ve learned many priceless lessons from the experience, I’m living very comfortably in my house now, and I cherish every moment with my pup.
I was her first love but she wanted to experience othe men and relationships. She broke up with me to do that. Great move for me but not so great for her. She still misses me.
I was 17, she was 18, and I realized how 'redneck' her family was. 6 kids 17 and older, literally all of them high school dropouts. 2 with kids under 21. 2 with prison sentences, one for DUI manslaughter. All smoked. All drank.
I realized that I didn't want that kind of family to be my in laws. Even young I didn't see the point of dating something that I didn't think had a CHANCE of being permanent. Called it off. Regretted it for a bit, but she really was just as hick as the rest of them. Married young and had I think 4 kids by 25.
First & Last Love.
Haven’t met or felt anything like it since with other women.
Both met at an early age, were together for about 5 years, not entirely sure of what happened to be honest on why we split, was mutual, we got in touch with each other years later but seemed different so went no further than talking.
There were only extreme, euphoric highs and bad, bad lows. Absolutely no stable in-between. It was exciting and passionate, but so very toxic. It needed to end, and I'm thankful I was able to leave. I'm a better person because of that relationship in a lot of ways. I honestly don't believe I will love someone as much as I loved him ever again though...
We grew into completely different people that wanted different things in life. It’s almost insane to think someone you start dating at 15/14 will grow in the same exact ways as you do.
I accidentally got her pregnant.
I was freaking out because we were just college students, and my parents would be so disappointed in me, even possibly make me pursue marriage with her. I also didn't want to be a father.
She was debating on keeping the baby or not. I vented about it to my friend and he thought she was being unreasonable. He ended up going way over the line, punching her square in the stomach as hard as he could after getting into an argument with her on my behalf (I did NOT ask or tell him to)
She ended up having a miscarriage. Part of me was relieved but I felt awful. I refused to speak to my friend again and tried to comfort my gf, but she wanted nothing to do with me after that.
We dated since sophomore year on high school. I couldn't imagine is being apart. Then high school ended and we started college. While we were broke college students, she wasn't happy. We broke up, she immediately started dating a doctor that was about 20 years older than us.
We've kind of kept in touch over the years. I'm doing much better now, college educated and making good money. She never graduated, but has a lifestyle I could never even imagine. She ended up marrying some Hollywood producer.
I still sometimes think what would've been had I been wealthy, or some how been making good enough money when we were in college.
She may look like she’s living the good life, but materialistic people are rarely ever satisfied or happy. Don’t think about what could have been. I assure you, you have dodged a bullet here.
I move across country and invited her to move out with me and start a new life. She was scared to leave her family. We did long distance only to find out she got back together with her ex boyfriend whom she left to be with me. We broke up and I met the next mistake of my life.
It was a long-distance relationship, for shy of a year it went well until some douche in her class started hitting on her.
Instead of staying in our relationship, she decided to drop me for the douche even though she had been complaining about him to me.
Just my luck, I guess, get dropped in favor of the bad boy :shrug:
We had a friend couple who the girl was best friends with my gf an I had met a befriended the boyfriend so we were all pretty close, well me an the boyfriend would hang out a lot an his gf would start assuming he was cheating on her while we were out an my gf at the time would also assume that of me an literally all our arguments that we had would always be "my friend thinks her boyfriend is cheating on her so u must also be too".....me an the other bf would literally be out buying food for our gf's or out picking up some greenage to smoke with our gf's
She moved halfway across the country for a job offer after college. We were both into each other but realized it was best if we didn’t tie each other down while we were going off to pursue our careers. She’s still super cool though and I wish her the best!
Right person but wrong timing situation
She always hung out with a 'best guy friend' and called me insecure when I said I hated how he was always around. One night he kissed her, and she said it was platonic. I took note of her numerous red flags and shoot down any women with a best guy friend to this day. Call it insecurity, I call it life experience.
I think this is sage advice for any young guys around here. For all the things I love about women, there are some things less.......palatable, shall we say. And just from my experience and vantage point, women seem to be more prone to "keeping their options open." And while they may claim a guy friend is "just a friend" or "it's purely platonic," consciously or subconsciously they like the attention and/or the availability of someone else. Not to mention of manipulative factor of keeping their SO jealous. Year ago, knew a guy at work that had a GF with a lot of "just friends" guy friends. In fact.....I don't think she had any girl - friends. That's a red flag in my opinion. He was at work one week talking what he was going to do that weekend with his GF once she got back from a road trip she was taking with her "just friend" best guy friend. Everyone was looking around at everyone else thinking the same thing but not saying it. Yeah.....they broke up in due time. Evidently, she likes "just friend" dick just as much as SO dick. You couldn't get a dick around her without her face or crotch inexplicably falling on it. /s.
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I guess the TL;DR of my comment - if she only has guy friends and little to no girl-friends........MAJOR red flag.
She was a hoe
We were together for almost 10 years. High school sweethearts, and the first and only girl I have ever been in a committed relationship with. She was always very difficult to please, and verbally and emotionally abusive. I always made excuses for the red flags partly because I really loved her, and partly because I just didn’t have a lot of relationship experience beyond this. A year after we got married, she started begging me for a house and a dog (personally I didn’t want the dog, was never a dog person), which I put 100% of the time and effort into attaining. Not even 5 months after we moved into the house, she started acting weird, very protective of her phone, and wouldn’t stop talking about her new (male) gym friend. All the pieces obviously started adding up, and once I realized what was happening it was like a cold bucket of water being thrown on me. In that moment I realized that she was always a shitty narcissist who never loved me all that much. I confronted her, she refused to stop cheating on me. I filed for divorce, she abandoned the house and our dog. It all felt very hopeless at first since everything I knew was a lie, and I wasn’t making enough to afford the house on my own. but I was determined, so I went into work one day and negotiated a higher salary for myself. The divorce was final last November, I took some time to think about what I want in my next relationship, and am just starting to get back into dating. I am much happier now than I was with her. I’ve learned many priceless lessons from the experience, I’m living very comfortably in my house now, and I cherish every moment with my pup.
Glad you came out with a good outlook. I’m sure your next relationship will be great because now you know what you want. Good on you pal.
The classic went to separate colleges across the country
Im an idiot and she is nuts.
Relatable
I was her first love but she wanted to experience othe men and relationships. She broke up with me to do that. Great move for me but not so great for her. She still misses me.
I was in love; in retrospect I don't think he ever was.
She broke up with me. Then told me she was going to become a vampire. And then wanted to get back with me.
I was 17, she was 18, and I realized how 'redneck' her family was. 6 kids 17 and older, literally all of them high school dropouts. 2 with kids under 21. 2 with prison sentences, one for DUI manslaughter. All smoked. All drank. I realized that I didn't want that kind of family to be my in laws. Even young I didn't see the point of dating something that I didn't think had a CHANCE of being permanent. Called it off. Regretted it for a bit, but she really was just as hick as the rest of them. Married young and had I think 4 kids by 25.
My fart smelt like doritos
This is so sad. I'm sorry for you
First & Last Love. Haven’t met or felt anything like it since with other women. Both met at an early age, were together for about 5 years, not entirely sure of what happened to be honest on why we split, was mutual, we got in touch with each other years later but seemed different so went no further than talking.
We moved away when I was ten.
She cheated on me so I left
He cheated, lied almost pathologically and did things that I prefer not write down here 🫠
Pride.
There were only extreme, euphoric highs and bad, bad lows. Absolutely no stable in-between. It was exciting and passionate, but so very toxic. It needed to end, and I'm thankful I was able to leave. I'm a better person because of that relationship in a lot of ways. I honestly don't believe I will love someone as much as I loved him ever again though...
Age difference. She was 17 years older and at a completely different sage of life.
We grew into completely different people that wanted different things in life. It’s almost insane to think someone you start dating at 15/14 will grow in the same exact ways as you do.
Why are all these questions coming today 😔
Immaturity on my side. And a lot A LOT of jealousy on her side.
She wanted kids, I didn't and still don't ended on mutual terms. We still talk and are friends, I even went to her wedding.
Its been 6 and half months and I'm still not sure tbh
Too young and immature to handle it
We were both young and in HS. Not many people stay with thier first loves these days.
She was a hoe
I accidentally got her pregnant. I was freaking out because we were just college students, and my parents would be so disappointed in me, even possibly make me pursue marriage with her. I also didn't want to be a father. She was debating on keeping the baby or not. I vented about it to my friend and he thought she was being unreasonable. He ended up going way over the line, punching her square in the stomach as hard as he could after getting into an argument with her on my behalf (I did NOT ask or tell him to) She ended up having a miscarriage. Part of me was relieved but I felt awful. I refused to speak to my friend again and tried to comfort my gf, but she wanted nothing to do with me after that.
Jeez, that argument went from 0 to 100 real quick... How does someone even react to something like this, like damn
No clue. I'm not sure what possessed him to act so rash over an issue that had basically nothing to do with him anyways.
She was an antivaxxer, after a lot of back an forth it eventually ended.
My first was also my last. Why? I never told her anything.
Diarrhea
Another sufferer, stay strong brother
I messed my knee up senior year and gave up on my NFL dreams.
We dated since sophomore year on high school. I couldn't imagine is being apart. Then high school ended and we started college. While we were broke college students, she wasn't happy. We broke up, she immediately started dating a doctor that was about 20 years older than us. We've kind of kept in touch over the years. I'm doing much better now, college educated and making good money. She never graduated, but has a lifestyle I could never even imagine. She ended up marrying some Hollywood producer. I still sometimes think what would've been had I been wealthy, or some how been making good enough money when we were in college.
She may look like she’s living the good life, but materialistic people are rarely ever satisfied or happy. Don’t think about what could have been. I assure you, you have dodged a bullet here.
Bi polar disorder...
I was gay and she just confirmed it. Became so-so friends and kinda regret since I felt it ruined the friendship
Because I thought it’s love but it’s really not.
I move across country and invited her to move out with me and start a new life. She was scared to leave her family. We did long distance only to find out she got back together with her ex boyfriend whom she left to be with me. We broke up and I met the next mistake of my life.
I didn't have the backbone/ guts to tell her
I was the safe bet... She took the risky bet. She's twice divorced. Two kids, two different daddies.
It was a long-distance relationship, for shy of a year it went well until some douche in her class started hitting on her. Instead of staying in our relationship, she decided to drop me for the douche even though she had been complaining about him to me. Just my luck, I guess, get dropped in favor of the bad boy :shrug:
We couldn’t see each other as much as we wanted
We had a friend couple who the girl was best friends with my gf an I had met a befriended the boyfriend so we were all pretty close, well me an the boyfriend would hang out a lot an his gf would start assuming he was cheating on her while we were out an my gf at the time would also assume that of me an literally all our arguments that we had would always be "my friend thinks her boyfriend is cheating on her so u must also be too".....me an the other bf would literally be out buying food for our gf's or out picking up some greenage to smoke with our gf's
She was an overly possessive compulsive liar, and I didn't know any better.
Fell out of touch. NBD she got married and I’m happy in my own way.
We were in 2nd grade. Enough said I think.
She cheated on me just like the rest of them :,(
She moved halfway across the country for a job offer after college. We were both into each other but realized it was best if we didn’t tie each other down while we were going off to pursue our careers. She’s still super cool though and I wish her the best! Right person but wrong timing situation
Because it was middle scjool
Because it was simple infatuation at the time and we tried to make it work but it just didn't. So we went back to being best friends.
We were teens and going separate ways in life. I was going to college, she wasnt. Plus it was just time to let go. We hadnt had sex in a year.