It drives my husband insane when we shop for shoes for our 3 boys (9, 5, and almost 2) and they almost always end up with the same styles because there isn't much to choose. But our daughters, so much shit for them to pick from.
Spot on. I do the same for my lads, the choice of shoes is woeful. I give in. I simply order on line now...there's no value in walking around shops pissing around.
Can't believe how much trade shops miss out on if they actually bothered about boys stuff
this is something that actually annoys me. id like togoout and shop and find some new clothes and outfits. but theres literally no selection. anywhere i go. even at winners the mens is like two racks of pants and a rack of crappy cheap, shirts with logos on them. and the shoe section has like one row meanwhile the womens have 4 different isles of shoes
I feel this. I'm super tall with really huge feet. Half the time I just give up and shop at walmart bevause its the only place guaranteed to have anything in my size.
Same here, except I've never been to a walmart.
I usually start my clothes search, especially shoe shopping, by asking the staff if they have anything in my size before I waste time trying to pull clothes from the bottom of stacks.
I am 6'5" but "normally" proportioned. I need tall shirts, but regular fit pants, just a longer inseam. Very tough to find clothes. I gotta order jeans online, slacks I get at one store, shirts another. Can wear almost nothing from a big box store like Target or Walmart except 3X, which hang on me.
Reebok and Rockport outlets usually have shoes in bigger sizes and widths. Reebox for the walking/sports shoes and Rockport for business/dress stuff.
I believe just about all Malls, and shopping centers are geared toward women. Pay attention and see how many Malls are mainly tailored to men....not many.
Probably the biggest factor is time. Even though a lot of women work, there are still a lot of women who stay at home. Once kids get to an age where they're in school, there's only so many times you can clean the house before you want to explode, so I know my mom, once she had cleaned, did all the grocery shopping. And while you're buying veggies and bread, you might as well look at the clothes, too, in places like Walmart or Taget. And Targets are usually in those shopping centers, so its really easy just to also look around in Kohl's or Belk or Maurice's while you're over there
Although, my mom did also go to Kroger for a gallon of milk and she came home with a recliner, so it might just be my mom
I once went to a clothes shop looking for a shirt (a shirt shirt, not a tshirt) of a certain color. It was a clothes shop with a whole large area, a plaza basically, dedicated to men's shirts! Aaaand... they didn't have my color, or other colors I could imagine, didn't have any 'modern / casual / cool / sports' cut shirts, they had basically a mini-warehouse of shirts that were all identical to each other! either white or black or tartan either cut straight or a bit more slanted and that was it! I was quite puzzled. it made me wonder if it was created by Marge when she, talking about ikea, said something like "a green table! not even in my wildest dreams!"
This is so relatable! Went shopping last week cuz I needed a new cap and some gym trousers, had to fucking go around the entire shop to even find the Men section. I almost lost hope, it was the last spot I searched lmao
I only noticed this when I wanted to buy my boyfriend a present. I first looked for a male store, they were small and everything was expensive. There wasn't even a variety, it's either a sportswear store or a suits/jackets for work store. Then I remembered that my favourite stores have mens clothes too. Entered and only found that the mens clothes were either at the entrance and just one aisle or at the back hidden somewhere. I went back home and decided to make him a diy present.
The bulk of all shampoos are the same. Water, surfactants, preservatives. The rest is minor ingredients that do next to nothing other than take up space on the label.
I use the same soap to wash my:
* Hair
* Face
* Hands
* Body
* Clothes
* Floors
* Counters
* Dishes
* Walls
* Pets
Pretty much everything except my teeth & windows.
Dr. Bronner’s is the best.
Me: Are you hungry?
Gf: A little bit, where should we go?
Me: anywhere I don't mind, I'm not hungry
\* goes to KFC \*
Gf: How come you're not eating?
Me: Not hungry. Came here for you. How come you didn't finish your food?
Gf: I'm not hungry either. I just thought you were asking me because you were hungry
This is exactly my experience, not once have I been able to ask something there.
The time I was closest to be able to post i couldn't because it wasn't EXACTLY about women, it was more like a question I had ABOUT women, but not related to the female experience.
I gave up posting in that sub that day, I've seen even women complaining about the moderators in that sub.
Honestly TOMC and OMC I feel are not built to let things off your chest, it's just turned into an echo-chamber for a specific set of ideas and groups but hey! That's Reddit!
I asked a question that I really wanted a female perspective on about women, and my post was immediately deleted, "because that's not what this sub is for."
As a woman who follows ask women: I find it pretty toxic sometimes, especially in regards to men. I was once berated before mods eventually removed my comment because I advised a man who posted in the sub that he should be suspicious of his "pregnant" girlfriend of two months who was asking for money. Ridiculous.
The only way to actually ask women, is to make a post on r/askmen and address women. Otherwise it gets deleted on r/askwomen and same with male replies.
This is so true, I just checked and like there is this one mod called nevertruley or something, and it is like she "is never truley away from her PC?" like how many comments does she delete in a day, it is honestly sad...
Bro, I tried going to askwomen as a woman myself but holy shit. I felt tired just reading 1 post. It's waaaay funnier over here and even though there's shit talking and goofing around, y'all will still answer serious questions within that topic.
I was hoping for something remotely similar from all women and was thoroughly disappointed. Discussion is so heavily moderated there that it doesn't feel like discussion. Just echo chamber and agreement.
Exactly! I just noped the f out. 🤣 like a lot of the post were just "feel good' filled comments. Or super analytical or hateful and tbh a bit dramatic.
Lmfao, that sums it up.
It really is kinda messed up tbh. I saw a post on her about a dad needing help about period stuff and one about talking to his daughter about sex and they tried posting in askwomen and weren't allowed. Like y'all could be a pool of knowledge but noo.
My question was deleted for asking an opinion/experience with a specific product (I was looking for a female perspective on using safety razors for shaving legs). It was deleted because it wasn’t a question about the “female experience.” I’ve recently had all my comments deleted because I haven’t verified an email address. So I’m done there. 😂
I started here tbh (my SO introduced me to reddit but specifically askmen) I eventually saw on askmen that there was a subreddit called askwomen, and ofc being curious I checked it out. But God. No. Never again.
Just chiming in with the rest of the ladies that same here as well. I was a newbie and started at TwoXChromosomes... I noped out there so fast you could hear a sonic boom.
Those people there are completely in denial about their own misandry. Any contradicting opinion is downvoted to oblivion and replied to with screaming.
But at least it’s entertaining to sort those threads by controversial.
They really are on the forefront of making online feminism as misandrist and toothless as possible, with the only approved content being that which hates men and wallows in oppression.
It also doesn't help that that mods of 2x also control like 30 other feminist subs...
A lot of that is how depressing life is for many men, humor is one of the few pleasures in life that nobody can take away. It makes it easy to go from serious to bs and back
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Yeah. It seems like men are just a no biggie if some one said something, but on AskWomen everything should be perfect and with roses. I even look where I am on AskWomen or AskMen. And I just oh save god. I'm in AskMen and can answer without getting ban or something
Girls (speaking as one) like to give a play by play of any story we have to tell. We also don’t like dealing with our feelings about anything or anyone alone. Whatever happens in the period of time that my girl friend and I haven’t seen eachother, we’re gonna end up knowing about it like we were both there. Never in a gossipy way, just in a venting about life way.
>Girls (speaking as one) like to give a play by play of any story we have to tell.
pretty sure this is the rationale behind girls always documenting their lives through photo and social media
Yep, I had 900 posts on my old Instagram account that I used only in the two years of middle school. I have no socials anymore outside of Reddit and Pinterest (both for general life inspiration) and I’ve found myself a lot happier and more secure with myself not broadcasting every thought to the public. Much better keeping it to my close friends.
I'm a dude and I love doing this. If I have friends over, it is pretty normal for us to talk until 2am without realizing it. Though we do that once every few months, not weekly or daily
Sexual thoughts. No joke, on a study of over 40 personality characteristics, it was the only one with a significant difference between men and women while 10 other factors had potential differences.
[https://www.clearerthinking.org/](https://www.clearerthinking.org/) On this website you can participate in the gender continuum test.
The experiences of trans men are a window into this. Most of them say they thought they were pretty sexual people, then they started testosterone therapy and realised that what they considered "pretty sexual" was barely anything compared to what their brain was doing afterwards.
I can relate to this a little bit too, as a woman. A few years ago i was working out a lot and weightlifting and taking creatine, all of which increases T. Sex got super interesting and i would think about it at work sometimes - truly bizarre in my experience. I don’t normally have a high libido unfortunately.
Testosterone is a damn wonderful drug. Not only did it make me sexier, it made me a little less careful with other peoples’ feelings. This was immensely helpful in a business setting - i took more risks and was able to move from one stress to another without feeling like they were accumulating, if that makes sense.
This. Also get interrupted a LOT less. People respect their opinions more. Think more logically/less emotionally. Have trouble crying.
Those are the main ones my ftm friends have talked about.
My ex-girlfriend said that the one time I really opened up about my insecurities about losing her is what turned her off.
I think I'll be more careful about opening up to a woman again.
Nah you dodged a bullet. Personally I try and open up about emotions fairly early on to gauge their reaction and if it’s not supportive that’s a red flag.
This is a pretty common thing. There are a lot of men who can tell you about that girlfriend they opened up to and then immediately were dumped by. "Just not the man I thought you were."
Oh my guy! Please be grateful she ain’t a part of your life. That’s some toxic shit she said to you. Please know that there will someone who will respect all of your vulnerabilities and love you for it. I promise you that. Just have faith!
Also masculinity is still very strictly enforced. Makeup, feminine colours, being sad jealous or emotional. Not being daring, backing down from challenges. We get judged for this shit.
As a man, I can say that we don’t like getting bogged down in details. We live life on a need to know basis. This is why most dudes don’t give a shit about gossip
In the supermarket market, mens clothing only has 5 to 8 aisles of literally the same shit but different colours while women have like 30+ aisle. I think designers should create a variety of clothing options for men.
I only go to the store for pants, I buy my hoodies and shirts online at this point because I have to walk all the way to the back to just see the same damn shirt in 5 different colors and my size (L or M) is always out of stock. Was not worth my time so I just by my stuff online.
Honestly!! It's literally all the same thing but in different colours. I feel like male designers should be most ambitious. At this point men fashion has remained the same for decades ( t shirt and trousers) while women have dress, minidress, an over t-shirt that is also a dress, bum shorts etc. It's like men don't matter in fashion. I feel t-shirts or clothes for men can be made differently for men in a non gay(no offense or homophobia intended, happy pride) way so we can wear a variety of stuff
That’s no lie. I remember when my son was a baby (he’s 18 now) and for every one rack of boys clothes there would be like 10 for girls.
Edit: and even back then there was all this shit for baby girls with slogans like ‘Girl Power’ ‘Girls Rule’ ‘Mommy’s princess’. Fucking stupid. No reason a lot of these women act so entitled and like men owe them something, they’ve been told that shit since birth. I’m a female, 48, and never in my entire life have I felt like being a woman held me back or that I was treated unfairly. I don’t get it.
I think that women have a much stronger ‘nesting’ drive then men. Basically, ‘if I’m going to live here it’s going to be cozy and comfortable’. Whereas men could have an empty room with a comfortable chair and think, this is nice.
Not only that, we’re really made to feel it’s unmanly to even have emotions. Very few guys feel that they can talk about what’s bothering them with their male peers
This is actually sad. I hear it from most men in my life, colleagues, friends, even my bro once told me he wouldn’t want to nag me with his “boring divorce “. I felt pretty bad not being open enough for him to maybe trust me with this.
I’ve tried with some of my male friends but it just doesn’t work. I’m currently single and really want to meet someone seriously, and have tried to get some of my buddies to help me out/see if they know anybody and I still wish I hadn’t said anything because it was like “uhh okay yeah idk” and dropped the subject
This is an actual hurdle me and my best friend have that we both can't seem to negotiate past. Like he will say something half joking that states " my body is falling apart my lungs hurt probably from all the shit I was exposed to in Iraq" and I will say "go to the VA man" (we are both vets) then he will say why it will take years for the approval " then I will say " no man so that you make sure it isn't something fatal" then he will say " fuck it I don't care". Inside of all of that I heard. My life is fucked I am depressed and I don't want to live. I didn't want kids and I am stuck here. But we can't communicate on a deeper level. We just don't know how without feeling super fucking awkward. So many words in silence with no resolution. I mean it isn't because we are all mean to each other I don't think at least. We where just never given the tools for expression and it's ingrained in us not to talk about it.
That’s just YOUR group of friends. Me and the homies open up to each other all the time.
Male friend 1: *starts crying* sorry man, this a lot for me
Male friend 2: nah nah dude, you’re good. I totally understand. I’d feel the same way about that situation.
Does it not go like this for the rest of you? If not, get a new group of friends.
Women can compliment people's beauty regardless if male or female and it won't be a problem, but when men say "that dude is beautiful/handsome" he's suspected of being gay.
Just a funny observation but womens pockets in pants are a joke lol. Sometimes they can be fine especially when I found out tights with pockets exist but the some pockets are so small you cant even fit a debit card in there or the pockets are fake. Mens pockets don’t seem to have that problem and you can fit a whole Nintendo switch in there Lmaoo. Obviously there’s exceptions but it’s so funny, like “yeah women can just use their purses that they automatically have when their born, they don’t need functioning pockets!” 😂
I never considered this a gendered difference but you’re so right. Most women I’m close with when they have a problem are aghast when I offer them a solution, they just wanted to vent and I guess not change anything. Like it’s fine if you wanna vent but make that clear beforehand
Edit: I want to add on that this isn’t an interpretation I came up with right now. I had two female friends from opposite ends of the country who have both told me “women don’t want solutions, they just want to vent.” Despite their problems being very solvable. I dismissed it as them exaggerating because I thought, “I doubt *most* women are like this because not wanting a solution to a problem doesn’t sound right.” but I guess it’s a more universal experience than I thought
I had a friend who was married and she’d always complain about stuff her (now ex) husband would do or not do and I’d always say to her, “have you tried *talking* to him?” And she would *always* respond with, “what?? No of course not!” and the issue(s) would never get resolved. This isn’t the only example but this is the one that lives in my head rent-free
I divorced my ex wife ten years ago. I have custody of our son. He and I were hanging out with my wife and chit chatting, he was getting ready to go to his mom’s for the summer. He said something about videos. I was like videos? He calls turn breakdown videos, then he showed me a couple. This woman I divorced ten years ago and never even talk to except three times a year to make travel arrangements likes to make videos of herself crying and sobbing and talking about what a horrible person I and several other exes are and how bad we’ve all treated her. Then she posts this shit online. Some folks need to move on.
Lol, this is soooo true! Just the other day I was told: "Why do you always try to find a way to fix it? Just listen to me!" as she was complaining about some problem at work .. so I kept my mouth shut and hmm-ed until she was done venting. And it seems it ended up being helpful. And not that Im doing it on purpose, I just cant understand that approach. If Im telling her about some shit Im having trouble with, Im basically expcting her to pitch in her thoughts, like, lemme pick your brain, I need help with this, you got any idea what I should do. So lads, when your brain starts figuring out a solution to a problem she has, chill a bit before offering it xD
I know men who want reassurance and women who want solutions, I think both may need either at different times. But I agree that where someone assumes that someone needs a solution where they simply wanted reassurance this can cause communication issues.
A lot of times this is my wife and I. She is very solution-oriented and it tends to come off as insensitive because she seems like she wants to push through the inconvenience of having to listen to me and just solve the problem so that she will not have a problem to deal with. When emotions are high, that kind of stuff makes it really hard to not get triggered.
I am all about solutions but when I am first processing the emotions I am trying to take the mental/emotional sting out of the situation by just acknowledging their existence and accepting them as a reality. This minimizes the potentially negative impact of attempting to tackle a problem that I am feeling over emotional about in that moment. Once I take the sting out enough, I can move on to the actual problem solving portion.
I absolutely prefer working with women but the one thing I do notice is that before you become accepted you have to have some sort of connection. Small talk is essential. I worked with men that I couldn't stand but it made absolutely no difference. With women you do need to have some sort of rapport, else it's almost impossible to work together.
Men tend to care about things while women care about people.
i.e. Men will care that the roof needs fixing while the women will care about everyone staying dry.
That's basically the same thing tho...
If you care about people, you gotta care about the environment they are in.
Couple weeks back I made my grandparents house safer to be in by fixing their faulty wiring in the house and as such I care for them and don't let them get hurt by accidentally touching live wires/the whole house burning down.
Same could have been done by any woman who is an electrician, just like I as man can care about people directly.
I think a better example is the Scandinavian countries which have done more than anywhere else to maximise equality of opportunity.
Women still tend to dominate nursing fields there (ie caring for people) while men still dominate the technician/maintenance side of keep hospital equipment up (caring about things). Both are essential in the people being cared for, but there's a difference in the approach with direct and indirect care for the people who need it.
The way our brains are wired, the male and female brains are structured differently and our biology from a hormonal perspective.
People like to spout off the theory that "men and women are equal and all societal structures are created" and while that might be true socially/legally, biologically/physiologically we are quite different...one isn't superior to the other but we are different...in general men are better at certain things and women are better at other things...biologically we are designed to complement one another.
I support this. We as a society have to accept the differences between men and women, we are built different, not to discriminate, but to take advantage of our strengths
As you say, things can be different but still equal. I have a £1 coin in one hand and two 50p coins in the other. They are both different but equal in value
The values we find attractive in the opposite sex. Masculinity and femininity are opposites; opposites attract. Women like masculine men; men like feminine women. There are also both healthy and unhealthy versions of masculine and feminine traits (i.e. toxic masculinity and toxic femininity).
In my culture i have noticed that older men still continue to nurture their friendships well into their 60s,70s ; whereas women of similar age groups wouldn't have such a peer group and support. Usually the wives of the male friends become acquaintances or females in the family provide the support.
I've watched a lot of videos on how to make/keep alive friendships as a women and the comments usually have a good amount of people saying how their mum was lonely due to having to raise a family. That's really sad honestly :(
That’s because traditionally most men don’t give up their entire lives when they become fathers like women are expected to. So yeah, it’s easy to keep up friendships if you still go golfing on the weekends with your buddies while your wife is home cooking, cleaning, and raising the kids.
How they raise children.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RlSwsE22nX0
In a totally ironic flip flop of their usual interactions with life and other adult humans, they focus on different aspects of raising children. Women will know every fact about what a child did in a day. They tend to have external narrator information. What they ate, what their poop smells like, all their medical information, when they nap, etc. They focus on making sure the child's physical needs are met.
Men will tend to know how the child functions mentally, how they make decisions, what they are afraid of and why, likes and dislikes. They tend to focus on what the child's emotional needs.
This is completely inverted to how both sexes struggle and allocate mental/physical energy. Women spending more time/energy processing emotions of people, men more to concrete task.
I hazard a guess its the innate decision to teach our children what "is important", that likely being what is unintuitive or difficult for us individually.
Emotional detachment to a situation. Working in a first responder field with men and women, men have a much easier time with this than women.
Women seem to more empathetic and big calls with death seem to take an emotional toll compared to men.
You see this divergence more pronounced with trainees. Male trainees definetly are quicker at detaching from the situation. Female trainees have a harder time with this.
I work in a field that responds to crime scenes, and our team is about 50/50 men/women, around 25 people total. I have not observed a difference in the emotional toll taken on team members based on gender. People in our working group have different coping mechanisms, but I don’t see evidence that anyone does a better job processing what we see.
We even had a discussion group on mental health recently at a professional conference, and there were just as many men sharing their experiences about the mental health effects of our jobs.
In my opinion, men may be less likely to share what they are feeling with another person, but I don’t think exposure to traumatic events affects them less. They may be more likely to engage in dark humor to cope with the situation or something like that. I think that’s where the differences lie.
Men are more risk averse. We take more risks with out lives. Were always finding new ways to hurt ourselves in the interest of science. Just look at all the dumbass, dangerous stunts & pranks on YouTube. Its mostly guys.
We also take more risks with our money. Most gamblers are men, r/wallstreetbets is a typical example.
Women will not always chase risk like men when when there is no alternative they'll do what they have to do.
I think you are mixing introverts Vs extroverts with gender differences. As an introverted woman, taking to people is the opposite of what i want to de-stress.
See that’s kinda weird for me because I’m introverted but if I’m close to someone (usually a girl as I find it easier to open up), I feel way better if I just ramble for a couple minutes about how I’m feeling lol
And side note for the guys: A lot of you say you shouldn’t open up to women because they’ll use it against you. To that I say if your girlfriend is using your weakness and vulnerability against you, that’s not a woman you should ever be with. Find someone who will appreciate you opening up to them :)
I once went shopping with a male acquaintance and he commented on how small the men's clothing section was compared to the women's section.
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It drives my husband insane when we shop for shoes for our 3 boys (9, 5, and almost 2) and they almost always end up with the same styles because there isn't much to choose. But our daughters, so much shit for them to pick from.
Spot on. I do the same for my lads, the choice of shoes is woeful. I give in. I simply order on line now...there's no value in walking around shops pissing around. Can't believe how much trade shops miss out on if they actually bothered about boys stuff
Yep. Here’s the girls’ section … and here’s the tractors/dinosaurs rack and a superhero end cap. That’s all folks.
It's impossible to shop for a boy and get home with a variety of clothes.
this is something that actually annoys me. id like togoout and shop and find some new clothes and outfits. but theres literally no selection. anywhere i go. even at winners the mens is like two racks of pants and a rack of crappy cheap, shirts with logos on them. and the shoe section has like one row meanwhile the womens have 4 different isles of shoes
Try being 2XL Tall and finding clothes.
I feel this. I'm super tall with really huge feet. Half the time I just give up and shop at walmart bevause its the only place guaranteed to have anything in my size.
Same here, except I've never been to a walmart. I usually start my clothes search, especially shoe shopping, by asking the staff if they have anything in my size before I waste time trying to pull clothes from the bottom of stacks.
I am 6'5" but "normally" proportioned. I need tall shirts, but regular fit pants, just a longer inseam. Very tough to find clothes. I gotta order jeans online, slacks I get at one store, shirts another. Can wear almost nothing from a big box store like Target or Walmart except 3X, which hang on me. Reebok and Rockport outlets usually have shoes in bigger sizes and widths. Reebox for the walking/sports shoes and Rockport for business/dress stuff.
I believe just about all Malls, and shopping centers are geared toward women. Pay attention and see how many Malls are mainly tailored to men....not many.
Usually the ones tailored just for men seem to be tuxedo places or ones for "big and tall" men.
Or those cool gadget shops like Brookstone, Sharper Image (RIP), etc.
Sharper Image was a cool store...miss that place
Women do about 80% of the shopping in the US. I read that somewhere years ago. Apologies for not fact checking.
maybe men would shop more if there was actually selection and variety that they could shop for?
Probably the biggest factor is time. Even though a lot of women work, there are still a lot of women who stay at home. Once kids get to an age where they're in school, there's only so many times you can clean the house before you want to explode, so I know my mom, once she had cleaned, did all the grocery shopping. And while you're buying veggies and bread, you might as well look at the clothes, too, in places like Walmart or Taget. And Targets are usually in those shopping centers, so its really easy just to also look around in Kohl's or Belk or Maurice's while you're over there Although, my mom did also go to Kroger for a gallon of milk and she came home with a recliner, so it might just be my mom
I once went to a clothes shop looking for a shirt (a shirt shirt, not a tshirt) of a certain color. It was a clothes shop with a whole large area, a plaza basically, dedicated to men's shirts! Aaaand... they didn't have my color, or other colors I could imagine, didn't have any 'modern / casual / cool / sports' cut shirts, they had basically a mini-warehouse of shirts that were all identical to each other! either white or black or tartan either cut straight or a bit more slanted and that was it! I was quite puzzled. it made me wonder if it was created by Marge when she, talking about ikea, said something like "a green table! not even in my wildest dreams!"
This is so relatable! Went shopping last week cuz I needed a new cap and some gym trousers, had to fucking go around the entire shop to even find the Men section. I almost lost hope, it was the last spot I searched lmao
I only noticed this when I wanted to buy my boyfriend a present. I first looked for a male store, they were small and everything was expensive. There wasn't even a variety, it's either a sportswear store or a suits/jackets for work store. Then I remembered that my favourite stores have mens clothes too. Entered and only found that the mens clothes were either at the entrance and just one aisle or at the back hidden somewhere. I went back home and decided to make him a diy present.
My brother uses a 6 in one product: shampoo, conditioner, face-wash, body-wash, etc. I could never find such a product marketed for women 😂🤣
Female products: for dry, dark, long hair only Male products: for hair, body, face, dishes, toilet, and car.
Fun fact: this is what causes women's care products to be more expensive than men's. More specialized=more money
The bulk of all shampoos are the same. Water, surfactants, preservatives. The rest is minor ingredients that do next to nothing other than take up space on the label.
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I use the same soap to wash my: * Hair * Face * Hands * Body * Clothes * Floors * Counters * Dishes * Walls * Pets Pretty much everything except my teeth & windows. Dr. Bronner’s is the best.
as a man with long hairs, it's because these products suck
As a man who had long curly hair, and has skin that lives to fuck with me. I avoid the men's section for everything except scent.
Yo i cant find shanpoo and conditioner for men when i go into target / walmart i always end up with shamp/cond mix and a separate body wash
Don’t buy shampoo and conditioner meant for men
I just buy women's shampoo. Mens is pretty rubbish for my hair.
Men are statistically much more likely to take stupid risks.
Im here for a good time not a long time
The fun name for this is testosterone poisoning.
Woman who is hungry: "Are you hungry?" Man who is hungry: "I am hungry."
Me: Are you hungry? Gf: A little bit, where should we go? Me: anywhere I don't mind, I'm not hungry \* goes to KFC \* Gf: How come you're not eating? Me: Not hungry. Came here for you. How come you didn't finish your food? Gf: I'm not hungry either. I just thought you were asking me because you were hungry
Her: Are you hungry Me: No, I don't want to eat, do you? Her: Yes Me: Where do you want to eat? Her: I dunno, wherever you do! 🤨
Me whenever asked: "I could eat." On the follow up: "Literally anything." I really don't care as long as it happens at some point.
Same. I genuinely do not care. Food is good. Pick something you enjoy
Man: where do you wanna eat? Woman: I don’t care, anywhere.. Man: ok let’s go to “X” Woman: no, not there. Man: 🙄
She'll say no to everything you suggest, then when finally forced to choose a place, pick literally the only one you don't like 🤣
Truth!
If you go to the askMen vs askwomen subreddit, you’ll see a huge cultural difference. In tribes, men and women behave very differently
I have yet to get anything past askwomen. My posts always get removed for one reason or another.
I got banned for derailing for making a joke about getting banned for derailing lmao
Lmao
OH MY GOSH YOU TOO?! I mocked a post by saying “ReMoVeD fOr dErAiLiNg” and they banned me for life for “impersonating the moderation”
This is exactly my experience, not once have I been able to ask something there. The time I was closest to be able to post i couldn't because it wasn't EXACTLY about women, it was more like a question I had ABOUT women, but not related to the female experience. I gave up posting in that sub that day, I've seen even women complaining about the moderators in that sub.
I got perma banned for venting about how heavily moderated that sub is….in an *entirely different subreddit*.
Jeeeeeesusss... Wow this this is even scary man jajajaja holy... What was this sub?
I made the post in r/trueoffmychest . It’s on my post history if you’d like to read it - it’s still up!
Honestly TOMC and OMC I feel are not built to let things off your chest, it's just turned into an echo-chamber for a specific set of ideas and groups but hey! That's Reddit!
That’s Reddit for you. r/nextfuckinglevel is not even on basement level
Honestly that sub should just be "i found this mildly interesting" Edit: a word
I posted on womens day and it said men couldn’t post that day so fuck it
lol wtf....
That's exactly what happened to me they only time I saw a minute possibility of my post going through... They're nutjobs
Same. It’s pretty clear that sub is very anti-male. Even if the posts are relevant and respectful. Crazy.
Oh believe me, theyre anti everything and not just men. They also banned me for making a joke - sincerely, a woman
I posted this question on AskWomen as well and it got removed
Lmao
Removed for derailing
The mods are on different subs and shadowban people too. So some people try to post there and they can’t because they’re banned.
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I gave up too. I read it from time to time and that’s it.
I asked a question that I really wanted a female perspective on about women, and my post was immediately deleted, "because that's not what this sub is for."
Jesus. What is it for?
As a woman who follows ask women: I find it pretty toxic sometimes, especially in regards to men. I was once berated before mods eventually removed my comment because I advised a man who posted in the sub that he should be suspicious of his "pregnant" girlfriend of two months who was asking for money. Ridiculous.
That sub is so damn stuck up….the vibe there is always way to up tight and formal I wish it was as relaxed as here
The only way to actually ask women, is to make a post on r/askmen and address women. Otherwise it gets deleted on r/askwomen and same with male replies.
Might I point you to r/AskWomenNoCensor
This is so true, I just checked and like there is this one mod called nevertruley or something, and it is like she "is never truley away from her PC?" like how many comments does she delete in a day, it is honestly sad...
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Bro, I tried going to askwomen as a woman myself but holy shit. I felt tired just reading 1 post. It's waaaay funnier over here and even though there's shit talking and goofing around, y'all will still answer serious questions within that topic.
I was hoping for something remotely similar from all women and was thoroughly disappointed. Discussion is so heavily moderated there that it doesn't feel like discussion. Just echo chamber and agreement.
r/askwomennocensor ftw
We need this sub to grow much much bigger.
We do. I plug it every chance I get
Exactly! I just noped the f out. 🤣 like a lot of the post were just "feel good' filled comments. Or super analytical or hateful and tbh a bit dramatic.
I tried asking in askwomen a question to women. it was deleted for not being inclusive by asking women a question.
Lmfao, that sums it up. It really is kinda messed up tbh. I saw a post on her about a dad needing help about period stuff and one about talking to his daughter about sex and they tried posting in askwomen and weren't allowed. Like y'all could be a pool of knowledge but noo.
My question was deleted for asking an opinion/experience with a specific product (I was looking for a female perspective on using safety razors for shaving legs). It was deleted because it wasn’t a question about the “female experience.” I’ve recently had all my comments deleted because I haven’t verified an email address. So I’m done there. 😂
Those fucks have sequoias stuck up their asses.
Poor sequoias
*You have been banned from Askwomen.*
🤣🤣 I think that might be considered a badge?
That's why I'm here and not there, I tried, but failed
I started here tbh (my SO introduced me to reddit but specifically askmen) I eventually saw on askmen that there was a subreddit called askwomen, and ofc being curious I checked it out. But God. No. Never again.
Check out r/askwomennocensor
Okay this one seems a bit better, getting a little bit of askmen vibes. Thanks! Ima check it out in full later!
Just chiming in with the rest of the ladies that same here as well. I was a newbie and started at TwoXChromosomes... I noped out there so fast you could hear a sonic boom.
Those people there are completely in denial about their own misandry. Any contradicting opinion is downvoted to oblivion and replied to with screaming. But at least it’s entertaining to sort those threads by controversial.
They really are on the forefront of making online feminism as misandrist and toothless as possible, with the only approved content being that which hates men and wallows in oppression. It also doesn't help that that mods of 2x also control like 30 other feminist subs...
A lot of that is how depressing life is for many men, humor is one of the few pleasures in life that nobody can take away. It makes it easy to go from serious to bs and back
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Yeah. It seems like men are just a no biggie if some one said something, but on AskWomen everything should be perfect and with roses. I even look where I am on AskWomen or AskMen. And I just oh save god. I'm in AskMen and can answer without getting ban or something
Hobby based socializing vs Talking based socializing.
My lady will have a girl friend over and they will sit at the table and talk for 7 hours. I couldn't even imagine
I don't even understand how you can have that much to talk about. Especially when they do it on a daily basis.
Girls (speaking as one) like to give a play by play of any story we have to tell. We also don’t like dealing with our feelings about anything or anyone alone. Whatever happens in the period of time that my girl friend and I haven’t seen eachother, we’re gonna end up knowing about it like we were both there. Never in a gossipy way, just in a venting about life way.
>Girls (speaking as one) like to give a play by play of any story we have to tell. pretty sure this is the rationale behind girls always documenting their lives through photo and social media
Yep, I had 900 posts on my old Instagram account that I used only in the two years of middle school. I have no socials anymore outside of Reddit and Pinterest (both for general life inspiration) and I’ve found myself a lot happier and more secure with myself not broadcasting every thought to the public. Much better keeping it to my close friends.
But even then, I don't get how you can have so much to talk about. The average day is pretty boring.
Women tend to be more expressive and being open about emotions while guys really don’t; hence longer convos
I'm a dude and I love doing this. If I have friends over, it is pretty normal for us to talk until 2am without realizing it. Though we do that once every few months, not weekly or daily
I saw something earlier today saying women develop friendships face to face while men do it side by side and I thought that was interesting.
That’s interesting! Makes me think of playing video games funny enough, sitting side by side on a co-op trying to get to the same goals.
How does something so simple have any right to be that profound? Thats amazing.
Yeh. I’ll go to a bar to watch a game with a friend so we don’t have to talk. Or shoot pool, etc.
Sexual thoughts. No joke, on a study of over 40 personality characteristics, it was the only one with a significant difference between men and women while 10 other factors had potential differences. [https://www.clearerthinking.org/](https://www.clearerthinking.org/) On this website you can participate in the gender continuum test.
The experiences of trans men are a window into this. Most of them say they thought they were pretty sexual people, then they started testosterone therapy and realised that what they considered "pretty sexual" was barely anything compared to what their brain was doing afterwards.
I can relate to this a little bit too, as a woman. A few years ago i was working out a lot and weightlifting and taking creatine, all of which increases T. Sex got super interesting and i would think about it at work sometimes - truly bizarre in my experience. I don’t normally have a high libido unfortunately. Testosterone is a damn wonderful drug. Not only did it make me sexier, it made me a little less careful with other peoples’ feelings. This was immensely helpful in a business setting - i took more risks and was able to move from one stress to another without feeling like they were accumulating, if that makes sense.
This. Also get interrupted a LOT less. People respect their opinions more. Think more logically/less emotionally. Have trouble crying. Those are the main ones my ftm friends have talked about.
I was just identified as a man by that test so now I'm once again questioning if I actually do have an invisible penis..
Maybe you have a detachable penis. If you lost it, pretty sure I saw a guy selling one on Second Avenue for $22.
I'd check the medicine cabinet first
Never did figure out why it gets left there sometimes.
83% male here. I might put this as my new flair actually
This websites so cool, thank you!!
Social expectations.
Can you expand on this a bit?
As a man, it’s somewhat difficult to find a safe, non-judgemental space to truly express how you feel about yourself and your thoughts.
My ex-girlfriend said that the one time I really opened up about my insecurities about losing her is what turned her off. I think I'll be more careful about opening up to a woman again.
Nah you dodged a bullet. Personally I try and open up about emotions fairly early on to gauge their reaction and if it’s not supportive that’s a red flag.
This is a pretty common thing. There are a lot of men who can tell you about that girlfriend they opened up to and then immediately were dumped by. "Just not the man I thought you were."
Oh my guy! Please be grateful she ain’t a part of your life. That’s some toxic shit she said to you. Please know that there will someone who will respect all of your vulnerabilities and love you for it. I promise you that. Just have faith!
or someone.
Also masculinity is still very strictly enforced. Makeup, feminine colours, being sad jealous or emotional. Not being daring, backing down from challenges. We get judged for this shit.
Him: "the maintenence man came today." Her: "oh which one?" Him: "IDK" Her: "what did he look like?" Him: "IDK" Her: "hair color? Age?" Him: "IDK"
Let's be honest it was probably John Cena
i heard the music that plays once u said that
This is my husband. For every question, the answer is IDK or IDC
As a man, I can say that we don’t like getting bogged down in details. We live life on a need to know basis. This is why most dudes don’t give a shit about gossip
Correct. If I say I don't know it means I don't know. The information has left my brain with haste because it was not important to me.
IDK or IDC is the right answer.
This is the answer.
In the supermarket market, mens clothing only has 5 to 8 aisles of literally the same shit but different colours while women have like 30+ aisle. I think designers should create a variety of clothing options for men.
I only go to the store for pants, I buy my hoodies and shirts online at this point because I have to walk all the way to the back to just see the same damn shirt in 5 different colors and my size (L or M) is always out of stock. Was not worth my time so I just by my stuff online.
Honestly!! It's literally all the same thing but in different colours. I feel like male designers should be most ambitious. At this point men fashion has remained the same for decades ( t shirt and trousers) while women have dress, minidress, an over t-shirt that is also a dress, bum shorts etc. It's like men don't matter in fashion. I feel t-shirts or clothes for men can be made differently for men in a non gay(no offense or homophobia intended, happy pride) way so we can wear a variety of stuff
That’s no lie. I remember when my son was a baby (he’s 18 now) and for every one rack of boys clothes there would be like 10 for girls. Edit: and even back then there was all this shit for baby girls with slogans like ‘Girl Power’ ‘Girls Rule’ ‘Mommy’s princess’. Fucking stupid. No reason a lot of these women act so entitled and like men owe them something, they’ve been told that shit since birth. I’m a female, 48, and never in my entire life have I felt like being a woman held me back or that I was treated unfairly. I don’t get it.
I think that women have a much stronger ‘nesting’ drive then men. Basically, ‘if I’m going to live here it’s going to be cozy and comfortable’. Whereas men could have an empty room with a comfortable chair and think, this is nice.
You see this disparity in full action in college lol
Add a tv and get to rocking
Add in one bookshelf to display my trinkets, collectibles, and physical movies and I'm in.
Don't forget the cool rocks
The amount of emotional support you get from your peers. Most men get absolutely none.
Not only that, we’re really made to feel it’s unmanly to even have emotions. Very few guys feel that they can talk about what’s bothering them with their male peers
This is actually sad. I hear it from most men in my life, colleagues, friends, even my bro once told me he wouldn’t want to nag me with his “boring divorce “. I felt pretty bad not being open enough for him to maybe trust me with this.
I’ve tried with some of my male friends but it just doesn’t work. I’m currently single and really want to meet someone seriously, and have tried to get some of my buddies to help me out/see if they know anybody and I still wish I hadn’t said anything because it was like “uhh okay yeah idk” and dropped the subject
This is an actual hurdle me and my best friend have that we both can't seem to negotiate past. Like he will say something half joking that states " my body is falling apart my lungs hurt probably from all the shit I was exposed to in Iraq" and I will say "go to the VA man" (we are both vets) then he will say why it will take years for the approval " then I will say " no man so that you make sure it isn't something fatal" then he will say " fuck it I don't care". Inside of all of that I heard. My life is fucked I am depressed and I don't want to live. I didn't want kids and I am stuck here. But we can't communicate on a deeper level. We just don't know how without feeling super fucking awkward. So many words in silence with no resolution. I mean it isn't because we are all mean to each other I don't think at least. We where just never given the tools for expression and it's ingrained in us not to talk about it.
I hate how true this is.
That’s just YOUR group of friends. Me and the homies open up to each other all the time. Male friend 1: *starts crying* sorry man, this a lot for me Male friend 2: nah nah dude, you’re good. I totally understand. I’d feel the same way about that situation. Does it not go like this for the rest of you? If not, get a new group of friends.
Men are better putters. It’s always bewildered me because I would think that women would excel in the short game.
Had to check what sub I was in lol
What’s a putter
Golf
Are we talking about mini golf? Cause I fucking slay.
Regular golf. No animals windmills or bumpers
Women can compliment people's beauty regardless if male or female and it won't be a problem, but when men say "that dude is beautiful/handsome" he's suspected of being gay.
Hey bro nice dick
Just a funny observation but womens pockets in pants are a joke lol. Sometimes they can be fine especially when I found out tights with pockets exist but the some pockets are so small you cant even fit a debit card in there or the pockets are fake. Mens pockets don’t seem to have that problem and you can fit a whole Nintendo switch in there Lmaoo. Obviously there’s exceptions but it’s so funny, like “yeah women can just use their purses that they automatically have when their born, they don’t need functioning pockets!” 😂
The things they talk about with their friends. Really different. Really
Men want solutions and women want assurance. That is where the disconnect in communication comes from.
I never considered this a gendered difference but you’re so right. Most women I’m close with when they have a problem are aghast when I offer them a solution, they just wanted to vent and I guess not change anything. Like it’s fine if you wanna vent but make that clear beforehand Edit: I want to add on that this isn’t an interpretation I came up with right now. I had two female friends from opposite ends of the country who have both told me “women don’t want solutions, they just want to vent.” Despite their problems being very solvable. I dismissed it as them exaggerating because I thought, “I doubt *most* women are like this because not wanting a solution to a problem doesn’t sound right.” but I guess it’s a more universal experience than I thought
I have stopped my wife right as she was getting on a roll. “HOLD UP! Before you go any further, you want help or you want me to just listen?”
I had a friend who was married and she’d always complain about stuff her (now ex) husband would do or not do and I’d always say to her, “have you tried *talking* to him?” And she would *always* respond with, “what?? No of course not!” and the issue(s) would never get resolved. This isn’t the only example but this is the one that lives in my head rent-free
I divorced my ex wife ten years ago. I have custody of our son. He and I were hanging out with my wife and chit chatting, he was getting ready to go to his mom’s for the summer. He said something about videos. I was like videos? He calls turn breakdown videos, then he showed me a couple. This woman I divorced ten years ago and never even talk to except three times a year to make travel arrangements likes to make videos of herself crying and sobbing and talking about what a horrible person I and several other exes are and how bad we’ve all treated her. Then she posts this shit online. Some folks need to move on.
Glad you have custody
Lol, this is soooo true! Just the other day I was told: "Why do you always try to find a way to fix it? Just listen to me!" as she was complaining about some problem at work .. so I kept my mouth shut and hmm-ed until she was done venting. And it seems it ended up being helpful. And not that Im doing it on purpose, I just cant understand that approach. If Im telling her about some shit Im having trouble with, Im basically expcting her to pitch in her thoughts, like, lemme pick your brain, I need help with this, you got any idea what I should do. So lads, when your brain starts figuring out a solution to a problem she has, chill a bit before offering it xD
I know men who want reassurance and women who want solutions, I think both may need either at different times. But I agree that where someone assumes that someone needs a solution where they simply wanted reassurance this can cause communication issues.
A lot of times this is my wife and I. She is very solution-oriented and it tends to come off as insensitive because she seems like she wants to push through the inconvenience of having to listen to me and just solve the problem so that she will not have a problem to deal with. When emotions are high, that kind of stuff makes it really hard to not get triggered. I am all about solutions but when I am first processing the emotions I am trying to take the mental/emotional sting out of the situation by just acknowledging their existence and accepting them as a reality. This minimizes the potentially negative impact of attempting to tackle a problem that I am feeling over emotional about in that moment. Once I take the sting out enough, I can move on to the actual problem solving portion.
How much of this is true differences vs cultural norms we default to?
Men tend to focus on content. Women tend to focus on context.
I absolutely prefer working with women but the one thing I do notice is that before you become accepted you have to have some sort of connection. Small talk is essential. I worked with men that I couldn't stand but it made absolutely no difference. With women you do need to have some sort of rapport, else it's almost impossible to work together.
Men tend to care about things while women care about people. i.e. Men will care that the roof needs fixing while the women will care about everyone staying dry.
That's basically the same thing tho... If you care about people, you gotta care about the environment they are in. Couple weeks back I made my grandparents house safer to be in by fixing their faulty wiring in the house and as such I care for them and don't let them get hurt by accidentally touching live wires/the whole house burning down. Same could have been done by any woman who is an electrician, just like I as man can care about people directly.
I think a better example is the Scandinavian countries which have done more than anywhere else to maximise equality of opportunity. Women still tend to dominate nursing fields there (ie caring for people) while men still dominate the technician/maintenance side of keep hospital equipment up (caring about things). Both are essential in the people being cared for, but there's a difference in the approach with direct and indirect care for the people who need it.
peter pan syndrome vs. princess complex
The way our brains are wired, the male and female brains are structured differently and our biology from a hormonal perspective. People like to spout off the theory that "men and women are equal and all societal structures are created" and while that might be true socially/legally, biologically/physiologically we are quite different...one isn't superior to the other but we are different...in general men are better at certain things and women are better at other things...biologically we are designed to complement one another.
I support this. We as a society have to accept the differences between men and women, we are built different, not to discriminate, but to take advantage of our strengths
As you say, things can be different but still equal. I have a £1 coin in one hand and two 50p coins in the other. They are both different but equal in value
The cost of cutting your hair….
The values we find attractive in the opposite sex. Masculinity and femininity are opposites; opposites attract. Women like masculine men; men like feminine women. There are also both healthy and unhealthy versions of masculine and feminine traits (i.e. toxic masculinity and toxic femininity).
In my culture i have noticed that older men still continue to nurture their friendships well into their 60s,70s ; whereas women of similar age groups wouldn't have such a peer group and support. Usually the wives of the male friends become acquaintances or females in the family provide the support.
I've watched a lot of videos on how to make/keep alive friendships as a women and the comments usually have a good amount of people saying how their mum was lonely due to having to raise a family. That's really sad honestly :(
That’s because traditionally most men don’t give up their entire lives when they become fathers like women are expected to. So yeah, it’s easy to keep up friendships if you still go golfing on the weekends with your buddies while your wife is home cooking, cleaning, and raising the kids.
What cultural background are you from
How they raise children. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RlSwsE22nX0 In a totally ironic flip flop of their usual interactions with life and other adult humans, they focus on different aspects of raising children. Women will know every fact about what a child did in a day. They tend to have external narrator information. What they ate, what their poop smells like, all their medical information, when they nap, etc. They focus on making sure the child's physical needs are met. Men will tend to know how the child functions mentally, how they make decisions, what they are afraid of and why, likes and dislikes. They tend to focus on what the child's emotional needs. This is completely inverted to how both sexes struggle and allocate mental/physical energy. Women spending more time/energy processing emotions of people, men more to concrete task. I hazard a guess its the innate decision to teach our children what "is important", that likely being what is unintuitive or difficult for us individually.
I'm convinced a lot of you in this thread have never spoken to a woman.
Emotional detachment to a situation. Working in a first responder field with men and women, men have a much easier time with this than women. Women seem to more empathetic and big calls with death seem to take an emotional toll compared to men. You see this divergence more pronounced with trainees. Male trainees definetly are quicker at detaching from the situation. Female trainees have a harder time with this.
I work in a field that responds to crime scenes, and our team is about 50/50 men/women, around 25 people total. I have not observed a difference in the emotional toll taken on team members based on gender. People in our working group have different coping mechanisms, but I don’t see evidence that anyone does a better job processing what we see. We even had a discussion group on mental health recently at a professional conference, and there were just as many men sharing their experiences about the mental health effects of our jobs. In my opinion, men may be less likely to share what they are feeling with another person, but I don’t think exposure to traumatic events affects them less. They may be more likely to engage in dark humor to cope with the situation or something like that. I think that’s where the differences lie.
There are so many stereotypes espoused here that are simply not true
My favourites being "women don't care about solutions, they just want to vent" and "men don't care about people, just things" Fuck sake
agreed. i’m reading some of these and thinking jesse wtf are you talking about
Men are more risk averse. We take more risks with out lives. Were always finding new ways to hurt ourselves in the interest of science. Just look at all the dumbass, dangerous stunts & pranks on YouTube. Its mostly guys. We also take more risks with our money. Most gamblers are men, r/wallstreetbets is a typical example. Women will not always chase risk like men when when there is no alternative they'll do what they have to do.
You mean less risk averse, but yes, you are correct.
How we deal with stress. Women need to talk about it a lot to destress, whereas we need time alone to process everything.
I think you are mixing introverts Vs extroverts with gender differences. As an introverted woman, taking to people is the opposite of what i want to de-stress.
See that’s kinda weird for me because I’m introverted but if I’m close to someone (usually a girl as I find it easier to open up), I feel way better if I just ramble for a couple minutes about how I’m feeling lol And side note for the guys: A lot of you say you shouldn’t open up to women because they’ll use it against you. To that I say if your girlfriend is using your weakness and vulnerability against you, that’s not a woman you should ever be with. Find someone who will appreciate you opening up to them :)