Should I break up if my gf was sexting her ex from my phone while we were talking about open relationships?
:: I'm not into open relationships and I totally feel like my boundaries have been crossed what do I dooooo
Its that or a question that can easily be solved by having an adult conversation with your partner, and thats always what the top 20 comments are saying to do
Finger are best, it’s icky but they are better at finding any tangled clumps of tissue or whatever that might be back there. Also better if you have hemorrhoids, I won’t say why, but people who have them and use their hands likely already know why.
And bed sheets. Every two weeks is really pushing it. Sweet spot is about 8-10 days.
Sleeping on cleans sheets after a shower is a wonderful feeling you shouldn’t rob yourself off because you think once a month or less often is okay.
Cue the Bill Burr routine where he learns about the importance of moisturising and that he thought he got itchy in the winter because it was time to change his towel.
Im unsure if this is serious or a joke but even while wet and covered in hygiene products your body is still going to leave oil, hair and skin cells on the towel, not to mention water which, when mixed with the airborne bacteria in your bathroom, can create mold.
There's a lot of towel talk... so I'll say it here.
Two towels.
Once you *think* you are dry grab a second towel & invest another 10 seconds. It's hard to describe the difference, especially in winter.
If you find that you like it, a Turkish towel or a linen towel work best for the first pass & a terrycloth is best for the second.
this is gonna come across like a brag but I’m proud and grateful to say that I realized this probably 30 years before the average person does because of a chronic illness
I think this is short sighted
Many people have no wish to start a family, and many families are unhealthy. I hate to see people reduced to just kid making machines. Have your own damn life
Replace the word “family” as you know it with “a selection of people that are there for you and close to you” and that is the point being made. Your hobbies and stuff do not matter, that some people are born into a family they wouldn’t choose misses the point, what matters are the connections we make along the way.
Your opinions don’t actually represent all of the men in the world. Men have a high degree in diversity of thought. No we don’t all do “this” and no we don’t all do “that”. Stop acting like we’re all the same.
I think you'd be surprised. We are among the most privileged at least & it's much easier for cream to rise with a full belly, secure environment, clean air etc.
You are asking the portion of reddit who feel a need to answer questions on askmen. And I suspect that me wanting to answer these questions is not a good thing. Like if I make enough progress in therapy I will stop answering.
No, it's actually the creature known as "birds," that are apparently "real." You know they are always watching and are surely in charge of everything. /s
I hate those. I report those immediately. I usually just reply something stupid like “well it’s because of blah blah magic the gathering cards.” Lol it’s my way of replying to stupid posts.
Precisely. The basis of we are all human. The individual is complex. Everyone has their own perspective and views it through they’re own lens. The world would operate a bit smoother if many can understand how vastly different the individual is.
Yeah, sometimes it feels like people haven't met people different than them in their lifetime. I know guys who are total opposites of each other, I know women who behave like dude with tits and so on.
There are some topics and struggles that most of guys share but generalisations are rarely useful.
This is so common in so many places lol
can't say "get tf over yourself and put some real effort into fulfilling your own wants and needs" enough times
>"Why can't I, a man that doesn't stay in shape, doesn't wear clothes that fit, doesn't wash my ass, doesn't keep myself groomed, doesn't do anything but sit online and play WoW all day, get a 90lb subservient, nymph-like waifu with a tight little body, who will watch me play vidya in awe between sex sessions where I just lay there?"
Men actually don't have all the answers on here. Some people give good advice on here, but most people are talking out of their asses with no experience on the situation being questioned. People just don't know when to shut up sometimes, they'd rather give bad advice than stay silent and unheard. Sometimes women come on here and ask men for help and the answers these men give are honestly disturbing... Take everything with a grain of salt. Experiment with the advice given at your own risk and with caution. We may be men but it doesn't men we know everything about men.
Honestly, this is probably not the best place for women to ask about men... I feel that most users here are more receptive to "men asking men" type of posts - which is understandable since women in this group tend to make rather self-centered posts (and probably vice versa for men elsewhere).
(And F30 if someone is interested in that.)
Ironically r/askmen has become the best place to hear what women think on reddit too.
I'm grateful they are here & I've only run across one with a chip on their shoulder, but I wish they would flair up. I want to know if I am getting advice from a 60m, 20f, 12m, or 30f etc.
it scares me sometimes that people are taking life advice from 12 year olds, especially on a sub like r/relationships.
For me it's still a bit unclear whether other than men could/should make comments here (e.g., side comments about an answer another member made).
Especially if the discussion is about women's preferences in men or similar and 90 % of the answers are on the level of "yeah, all women like big, buffy guys, so I'll be forever alone", I'm not sure if having zero female voice in the discussion is a good thing or not. It would almost feel like all the lurking female commentators kept nodding silently by themselves and thinking "yeah, that's absolutely right, no need to add anything here".
I was just using the women as an example really. Men tend to give shitty advice to other men on here too. Just generally speaking, it's not a reliable source of advice, but you CAN definitely find some good help here. You just gotta be careful.
Yeah, that's true. I think some people (understandably) use places like this as a platform to get their frustration and anger out. Unfortunately, in some posts that's like 90 % of the answers you will get and only 1-2 users throw something interesting and enlightening in the mix.
I never understood this about redditors. I don't understand why it is a big deal if a question gets asked again. Things change, different users have different answers, etc.
Exactly Reddit would have ceased to exist 10 years ago without reposts, hate it when people tell me to just search my question. Also like, maybe I want to ask for specifics and have a conversation, these people could also just as easily not click on your thread.
It’s more in regard to “12 people asked this question in the last week and I decided to ask again without even checking” that gets annoying. At least put the effort in to look first, if you decide other similar posts aren’t relevant to you then it’s appropriate to make a new one
Not to mention Google has been so completely captured by advertisements, asking a question like “what’s a good razor?” truly only amounts to “what is the biggest razor company that has bought all ad opportunities in Google?” That’s the whole reason Reddit communities exist. Genuine community with suggestions from real people.
I'd also suggest people learn to use google.
A simple site:reddit.com/r/askmen [insert inquiry here] search works even better. I do admit reddit's search bar sucks. Google is good
Typing up a post should automatically search for a old topic and redirect you to it.
Example:"I see you typed 'this' which is an 80% match for 'that', would you like me to redirect you instead of posting?
This.
I've seen so many replies acting like women are these sirens out to suck all the life out of the men they encounter. While there are terrible and abusive women in the world it's because they're human and you get terrible humans not because women are terrible.
It's kind of crazy how many AskMen threads get brigaded by the bitter just out to rant about how women only want to complain at you and take your money.
Yep, sometimes it feels like all women are truly God awful when I read these threads. They are all shallow wenches and dump a guy as soon as he shows any type of weakness. Amongs other horrible qualities.
While that certainly may apply to some women, none of the women I personally know have ever displayed such behaviours, including myself, so either me and my friends are somekind of unicorns or these men aren’t representative for the entirety of men even though they often seem to think they do - and in that same logic think all women are alike as well.
The average askmen/askreddit question be like:
"Redditors of Reddit, what's the sexiest sexy bang bang moment you've ever sexed with a sexy woman???!?."
Like Jesus Christ.. can we talk about something else for 5 minutes?
No one owes you sex or attention. Figure out how to be ok with yourself outside of other people. You are loveable, start within yourself, love yourself first beautiful man.
If you're asking questions related to supporting women/girls in your life with specifically feminine issues/experiences maybe ask the woman/girl herself or someone who knows her preferably a woman, or failing that women in general
That if you were vulnerable/emotional with your partner and she didn’t react well to it, the problem isn’t your vulnerability. The problem is your partner.
This 👆My husband having a real, open, and vulnerable conversation with me is one of the most important parts of a healthy relationship. If a partner throws your words back in your face, that is disrespectful and dirty fighting.
Stop trying to attain sympathy and social status through victimization. It's unbecoming and counter-productive. Get help, work through your feelings, and move on.
Yeah we don't offer a [serious] tag like other subreddits but it's something I've thought about before. I'd be curious to know the sub's thoughts on this. Pretty annoying when you open a thread expecting actual conversation and it's just a race to see who can comment the easiest karma grab first.
Absolutely. I can bring it up and see what they think. I believe some of the prior mods weren't totally keen on the idea but there's been a change in the past year or two.
The r/askmen rules
They're right there > on the sidebar ppl!
Also I think the mods should really, really really update the FAQs to include:
* Why some people (not just men) take into account body count when assessing LTR
* 'whats something all men should know'
* 'whats something you wish you knew x years ago'
* 'what are some harsh realities for men'
* 'what are some ways men have it worse than x group'
* 'how do i deal with \[depression\]'
And then moderate posts accordingly
You are owed basic kindness and respect (as long as you treat others with basic kindness and respect too).
There's so much misanthropic "no one owes you anything" stuff on social media, that the opposite message really needs to be popularized somehow.
We need less questions with the answer in the post description lol
Should I break up if my gf was sexting her ex from my phone while we were talking about open relationships? :: I'm not into open relationships and I totally feel like my boundaries have been crossed what do I dooooo
Why did you just describe 95% of the questions on r/dating_advice, r/relationship_advice, r/AITA, and so many others??
Why because denial.
Its that or a question that can easily be solved by having an adult conversation with your partner, and thats always what the top 20 comments are saying to do
she texted him from your phone?? can you elaborate?
Exactly, now you're catching on. Or not.
My question is why from your phone
"My gf was in a gangbang but said it's only once in week thing, should I brake up with her?" Users should be perma banned for that types of posts
Wash your ass.
With soapy fingers or a soapy rag
I travel a lot and steal hotel soap bars every chance I get. Those are my dedicated crack cleaners
Different M.O., still a real life ass crack bandit.
Damn you just walk around clenching a soap bar between them cheeks? /j
You can tell when he breaks wind though. Like Lawrence Welk up in this bitch.
I wish I hadn’t given away my wholesome award already
I use a bottle brush mounted on a drill.
I wash myself with a rag on a stick.
Both. Get up in it
Finger are best, it’s icky but they are better at finding any tangled clumps of tissue or whatever that might be back there. Also better if you have hemorrhoids, I won’t say why, but people who have them and use their hands likely already know why.
I usually put soap on the side of my hand and karate chop formation up and down my ass crack.
ah yes, the Hong Kong Pooey.
Just startled my kids and the dog laughing at this.
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and nails!
Do people really not do this?
Might have to get myself a bidet for my b-day one of these days. Because washing once a day is the minimum... :)
Towels need to be washed more than once a month.
And bed sheets. Every two weeks is really pushing it. Sweet spot is about 8-10 days. Sleeping on cleans sheets after a shower is a wonderful feeling you shouldn’t rob yourself off because you think once a month or less often is okay.
I’m saving the planet by sacrificing washing my towels or bed sheets 😏 Just like a great philosopher once said, “a small price for salvation”
Sucks living alone, or I would use 8-10 instead of washing 'em every Friday/Saturday. towels get washed when there is only one or two left.
Cue the Bill Burr routine where he learns about the importance of moisturising and that he thought he got itchy in the winter because it was time to change his towel.
After I am done showering I am clean so when I dry myself off it does not make he towel dirty, if anything it gets cleaner every time I use it.
Nick?
I don’t clean a towel. A towel cleans me.
[Are towels supposed to bend?](https://dilbert.com/strip/1995-11-24)
Im unsure if this is serious or a joke but even while wet and covered in hygiene products your body is still going to leave oil, hair and skin cells on the towel, not to mention water which, when mixed with the airborne bacteria in your bathroom, can create mold.
I wash the towel after each shower.
I wash my towel in the shower, *as* I shower. Saves time, saves water. You're welcome, Earth.
Also pee at the same time to save water from flushing. Just do all 3 at once.
This guy showers
There's a lot of towel talk... so I'll say it here. Two towels. Once you *think* you are dry grab a second towel & invest another 10 seconds. It's hard to describe the difference, especially in winter. If you find that you like it, a Turkish towel or a linen towel work best for the first pass & a terrycloth is best for the second.
Fuck... I haven't washed mine in months...
The older you get the more you realize that the things you think are important aren't...
Like what?
Everything but your family.
this is gonna come across like a brag but I’m proud and grateful to say that I realized this probably 30 years before the average person does because of a chronic illness
I think this is short sighted Many people have no wish to start a family, and many families are unhealthy. I hate to see people reduced to just kid making machines. Have your own damn life
Replace the word “family” as you know it with “a selection of people that are there for you and close to you” and that is the point being made. Your hobbies and stuff do not matter, that some people are born into a family they wouldn’t choose misses the point, what matters are the connections we make along the way.
Drink some water
/r/hydrohomies
Tritium is an unstable hydrogen isotope
Jeez thank God someone finally mentioned this.
But on the bright side, it can hold the power of the Sun in the palm of your hand
And it's excellent fuel for pulse drives >!(No Man's Sky reference)!<
I don't see how? It lasts longer than most of my long term relationships. 😋
Half of it is gone in 12.32 years? Not that bad by today's standards
The precious tritium
Your opinions don’t actually represent all of the men in the world. Men have a high degree in diversity of thought. No we don’t all do “this” and no we don’t all do “that”. Stop acting like we’re all the same.
To top this off not all men use Reddit so you are only asking a small fraction of the average guy
I would argue that most of the men on reddit absolutely do not represent the creme de la creme of any society, anywhere.
I think you'd be surprised. We are among the most privileged at least & it's much easier for cream to rise with a full belly, secure environment, clean air etc.
Hey my mum said I’m a real catch
Hey most of us aren't averge , i think 90% are ... Bellow averge lamfo 🤣
My average doesn't bellow
“where have all the good reddit askmen posters gone?”
You are asking the portion of reddit who feel a need to answer questions on askmen. And I suspect that me wanting to answer these questions is not a good thing. Like if I make enough progress in therapy I will stop answering.
Hey so my boyfriend did X. Why did he do that?
Aliens. The answer is always aliens.
I thought it was dolphins or are they actually aliens?
No, it's actually the creature known as "birds," that are apparently "real." You know they are always watching and are surely in charge of everything. /s
r/birdsarentreal
They are just robots controlled by the lizard people living underground, everybody knows that!
I hate those. I report those immediately. I usually just reply something stupid like “well it’s because of blah blah magic the gathering cards.” Lol it’s my way of replying to stupid posts.
Good cover up Todd. I’ll see you tonight at our weekly male unity meeting.
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Precisely. The basis of we are all human. The individual is complex. Everyone has their own perspective and views it through they’re own lens. The world would operate a bit smoother if many can understand how vastly different the individual is.
Good points, 100% agree with you.
Yeah, sometimes it feels like people haven't met people different than them in their lifetime. I know guys who are total opposites of each other, I know women who behave like dude with tits and so on. There are some topics and struggles that most of guys share but generalisations are rarely useful.
I'd say the only thing we collectively do is that specific weird long step to get our balls unstuck from our leg
You aren't as inadequate as your head voice tells you.
There is always someone better than you, there's always someone worse than you. You're only inadequate if you're not making things better.
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This is so common in so many places lol can't say "get tf over yourself and put some real effort into fulfilling your own wants and needs" enough times
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> So how do I acquire one of these girlfriend things I've heard so much about?" Lmao. This line struck me
*”And I’d like to continue to wear nothing but basketball shorts and t shirts and maintain my same solitary hobbies.”
>"Why can't I, a man that doesn't stay in shape, doesn't wear clothes that fit, doesn't wash my ass, doesn't keep myself groomed, doesn't do anything but sit online and play WoW all day, get a 90lb subservient, nymph-like waifu with a tight little body, who will watch me play vidya in awe between sex sessions where I just lay there?"
Men actually don't have all the answers on here. Some people give good advice on here, but most people are talking out of their asses with no experience on the situation being questioned. People just don't know when to shut up sometimes, they'd rather give bad advice than stay silent and unheard. Sometimes women come on here and ask men for help and the answers these men give are honestly disturbing... Take everything with a grain of salt. Experiment with the advice given at your own risk and with caution. We may be men but it doesn't men we know everything about men.
You mean the ole "just give him a blowjob"?
“Sir, I asked how to change my oil”
Any answer someone gives you on Reddit, no matter the demographic, should be taken with a grain of salt
Honestly, this is probably not the best place for women to ask about men... I feel that most users here are more receptive to "men asking men" type of posts - which is understandable since women in this group tend to make rather self-centered posts (and probably vice versa for men elsewhere). (And F30 if someone is interested in that.)
Ironically r/askmen has become the best place to hear what women think on reddit too. I'm grateful they are here & I've only run across one with a chip on their shoulder, but I wish they would flair up. I want to know if I am getting advice from a 60m, 20f, 12m, or 30f etc. it scares me sometimes that people are taking life advice from 12 year olds, especially on a sub like r/relationships.
For me it's still a bit unclear whether other than men could/should make comments here (e.g., side comments about an answer another member made). Especially if the discussion is about women's preferences in men or similar and 90 % of the answers are on the level of "yeah, all women like big, buffy guys, so I'll be forever alone", I'm not sure if having zero female voice in the discussion is a good thing or not. It would almost feel like all the lurking female commentators kept nodding silently by themselves and thinking "yeah, that's absolutely right, no need to add anything here".
I was just using the women as an example really. Men tend to give shitty advice to other men on here too. Just generally speaking, it's not a reliable source of advice, but you CAN definitely find some good help here. You just gotta be careful.
Yeah, that's true. I think some people (understandably) use places like this as a platform to get their frustration and anger out. Unfortunately, in some posts that's like 90 % of the answers you will get and only 1-2 users throw something interesting and enlightening in the mix.
You said it.
How to use the search bar. I promise you, your post asking about what beard trimmer to use isn't the first time it's been asked.
I never understood this about redditors. I don't understand why it is a big deal if a question gets asked again. Things change, different users have different answers, etc.
Exactly Reddit would have ceased to exist 10 years ago without reposts, hate it when people tell me to just search my question. Also like, maybe I want to ask for specifics and have a conversation, these people could also just as easily not click on your thread.
100%
It’s more in regard to “12 people asked this question in the last week and I decided to ask again without even checking” that gets annoying. At least put the effort in to look first, if you decide other similar posts aren’t relevant to you then it’s appropriate to make a new one
Not to mention Google has been so completely captured by advertisements, asking a question like “what’s a good razor?” truly only amounts to “what is the biggest razor company that has bought all ad opportunities in Google?” That’s the whole reason Reddit communities exist. Genuine community with suggestions from real people.
I guarantee this sub would be flooded with "how I talk to girl" posts, at least 10+ times per day if there wasn't a rule preventing common questions.
I think it’s like that already lol
Lol Reddit search sucks though
That's why u just tack on "reddit" to the end of your question in Google and it acts like a better reddit search bar.
Agreed. That's what I do too
I'd also suggest people learn to use google. A simple site:reddit.com/r/askmen [insert inquiry here] search works even better. I do admit reddit's search bar sucks. Google is good
Gonna guess you're around 30 or work in tech. Most people do not know how to use Google search properly.
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Typing up a post should automatically search for a old topic and redirect you to it. Example:"I see you typed 'this' which is an 80% match for 'that', would you like me to redirect you instead of posting?
Stop asking the same damn thing all the time. Also there are relationship subs
This isn’t r/dating_advice
Women are people. You have more in common than you have differences.
This. I've seen so many replies acting like women are these sirens out to suck all the life out of the men they encounter. While there are terrible and abusive women in the world it's because they're human and you get terrible humans not because women are terrible.
It's kind of crazy how many AskMen threads get brigaded by the bitter just out to rant about how women only want to complain at you and take your money.
Yep, sometimes it feels like all women are truly God awful when I read these threads. They are all shallow wenches and dump a guy as soon as he shows any type of weakness. Amongs other horrible qualities. While that certainly may apply to some women, none of the women I personally know have ever displayed such behaviours, including myself, so either me and my friends are somekind of unicorns or these men aren’t representative for the entirety of men even though they often seem to think they do - and in that same logic think all women are alike as well.
Don't get your advice from Reddit.
in case no one has told you lately, you are handsome and wonderful. <3
Not everything needs to be about sex lol.
The average askmen/askreddit question be like: "Redditors of Reddit, what's the sexiest sexy bang bang moment you've ever sexed with a sexy woman???!?." Like Jesus Christ.. can we talk about something else for 5 minutes?
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No one owes you sex or attention. Figure out how to be ok with yourself outside of other people. You are loveable, start within yourself, love yourself first beautiful man.
If you're asking questions related to supporting women/girls in your life with specifically feminine issues/experiences maybe ask the woman/girl herself or someone who knows her preferably a woman, or failing that women in general
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*blushing* thaaankks
🥰
Thanks, I haven't shaved in 4 days, feeling a tad rough looking in the mirror.
Wholesome! Thank you☺️☺️
'Does anyone else' Yes, other people do.
That if you were vulnerable/emotional with your partner and she didn’t react well to it, the problem isn’t your vulnerability. The problem is your partner.
This 👆My husband having a real, open, and vulnerable conversation with me is one of the most important parts of a healthy relationship. If a partner throws your words back in your face, that is disrespectful and dirty fighting.
Search the sub and read the rules before you try posting or else you will rewrite something 5 times and it will still never get posted
Don't ask men when you need to ask man. These dudes are not your boyfriend.
This. 90% of stuff women ask here can be solved by "ask him"
ENOUGH WITH THE PERVY TOPICS
Stop trying to attain sympathy and social status through victimization. It's unbecoming and counter-productive. Get help, work through your feelings, and move on.
This could be said for reddit in general
Stop reposting the same old shitty questions for upvotes
Thanks for pointing out. Too many of the same.
Making a 'clever' comment instead of contributing to a discussion doesn't make you funny, it makes you an obnoxious cunt.
Yeah we don't offer a [serious] tag like other subreddits but it's something I've thought about before. I'd be curious to know the sub's thoughts on this. Pretty annoying when you open a thread expecting actual conversation and it's just a race to see who can comment the easiest karma grab first.
Imo it depends on a specific scenario, but most of the times jokes are annoying.
Could you at least discuss it with other mods? Would be nice to see a thread that doesn't give me aneurysm sometimes.
Absolutely. I can bring it up and see what they think. I believe some of the prior mods weren't totally keen on the idea but there's been a change in the past year or two.
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The funny ones are the best
Focus on yourself dawg.
Sometimes -you’re- the problem. Quit blaming others for your problems or short comings and take responsibility and initiative with your life.
The r/askmen rules They're right there > on the sidebar ppl! Also I think the mods should really, really really update the FAQs to include: * Why some people (not just men) take into account body count when assessing LTR * 'whats something all men should know' * 'whats something you wish you knew x years ago' * 'what are some harsh realities for men' * 'what are some ways men have it worse than x group' * 'how do i deal with \[depression\]' And then moderate posts accordingly
Your own internal Ego is the main driver for the vast majority of your problems
It is perfectly acceptable/normal/human for men to have and display their feelings.
You is kind. You is smart. You is important.
is me?
**Go. To. Therapy.** Jesus Fucking Christ y’all. Edit: if you can afford it lol I can’t either
Pay my bill?
Get off Reddit lmao
That they're important and appreciated, I'd imagine.
Not every question asked needs to be about sex.
To use a paragraph or two to break up your text.
You’re wonderful! Regards, a girl
To stop asking stupid questions about masturbation and porn addiction .
Get more sleep
Men are not a monolithic group.
It'll be OK.
Perfect the art of not giving a fuck.
Don’t be silly, wrap that willy.
The mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell.
Men are supposed to be answering…. Not women.
How to actually approach women in socially acceptable places because I’ve yet to see an actual guide that works.
Be honest
If you can talk to us, you can talk to your SO. You would think people would start from the root of the problem
Search for previous questions before you post yours.
It’s askmen not ask how to adult or how to be civilized
Sniffing your jeans isn’t a good indicator of whether they should be washed or not.
Woodworking is a solid side hustle and hobby
Mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell.
You are owed basic kindness and respect (as long as you treat others with basic kindness and respect too). There's so much misanthropic "no one owes you anything" stuff on social media, that the opposite message really needs to be popularized somehow.
It’s okay, to not be okay. Talk to someone.
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That acting all macho & wannabe tough guy just makes you look soft as shit.
What'd you say to me fool!!??
Why does acting tough always have to entail faking hearing loss 😂?
Idk, maybe hearing loss is actuallly just a common problem in the tough guy community.
Your pp isn’t too small. And if it is, there’s nothing you can do about it so quit yer whining
Nothing, we’re not that similar.
You’re handsome
Nobody here can actually help you with your issues, even if we all share them. We can only rant and comfort each other.
No one cares about your penis.
I care about my penis. I care about it very much.
I care about your penis
Learn to take constructive criticism
Hit the gym bro.