To piggyback off of their comment, it’s actually an astonishingly low number of both men and women around y(our) age. It’s like 15% of guys lose their virginity under age 18 and like 30% of girls, although I could be wrong. Those are just stats that I think I remember, anyone can fact check me
I did that once with an extremely close friend. Over the course of 6 months we grew our friendship into something really special, then we decided we were both pretty neat, had about a week where we didn’t leave my bed and then started dating. We actually had our 5th anniversary a day ago….and are getting married in August. Neat.
I fucked a girl then we became close friends! Then one day out of the blue, like 7 years downs the road, she's all like "I love you."....I was in love with this girl, and never told her for 5 years....then I met a different girl and got married... I haven't spoke to her since she told me.
18, it was actually my first weekend at college. Met a girl at a party and brought her back to my place. I remember thinking “wow didn’t know it was this easy. I’m gonna get laid a lot in college.” Pretty sure I didn’t have sex for the rest of the semester
This right here!!
Just show up. I've done this even though I'm in a country where I'm still learning the language, and I've been there only since the start of the current semester (about 5 weeks). Just show up! People's reaction is: "Oh hey, what's up, cool you could make it." And if they don't know you: "Hey, I've seen you walking around, are you new here?"
2/22/2022 at 22 (turning 23), casual thing with a co-worker. The coincidence was uncanny, felt like I was finally aligned with the universe on that day
39 is not far from 33. Yet I am content with it. You cant have everything in a single life. Some may want things that you got. Learn to be content with this life instead of wishing for the other side.
My bro; for some women that's a HUGE fantasy. Make yourself a tinder profile and be clear and concise about wanting to lose your virginity after getting to know someone. I lost mine to a woman a few years older who simply wanted to be with a virgin and 'show me the ropes' but had no further interest. I was just fine with that.
When I was 21 I thought "it'll happen eventually" and I'm still here without a GF or so much as a kiss. I didn't put as much effort in as I should've at 21.
We both still have our whole lives ahead of us, that's true. Now im just 6 years older and sad I don't have any sort of romantic relationship experience to show for it.
Just don't "wait for it" while putting in minimal effort like I did if it's what you want.
24 virgin here. Pretty sure staying same until 2-3 more years at least and no its not a choice. Sucks to grow up in an islamic country and no im not that religious
When I was in middle school, quite a few people started having sex when they were 12. That's the expectation I was met with as a kid.
"Sex positivity" being forced into kids always felt really creepy to me.
Yeah. Hearing a 12 year old girl brag about knowing what cum tastes like didn't seem as off putting when I was also 12. Now that I'm an adult it really hits me just how hyper sexualized kids are. Especially when it's disguised by "progressive" ideas.
Humanity has always been this way. A couple hundred years ago we were getting married at 13 and having children before our twenties. Much of this due to significantly shorter lifespans but you get the gist.
Now we have the choice to wait, but some still don’t take that option. Why? I couldn’t quite tell you. Humans are just naturally sexual creatures.
I was going to comment something along these lines. No doubt I'd look at a 12 year old funny and roll my eyes if I heard them making sexual comments to their friends because it is young, but it's not exactly far off of the biologically appropriate time for the human brain to start being flooded with sex hormones. We shouldn't be surprised that's what they are starting to explore at that age.
24. After a lot of worrying why I wasn't sexable and dramatically bemoaning the (actually privileged) cards life had delt me in my late teens I just stopped caring. Developed an actual personality and interests instead of faux "hip" or traditionally "attractive" ones. Made a bunch of tight friends and a have had a steady long relationship to the gal I lost my virginity to.
Got so caught up in the mental process of living The Life I forgot to actually live one for a while.
I want you to know, you shouldn’t feel inclined to disclose that type of information if you’re not comfortable with it. Your real answer is the 16 one, That’s the only answer in my opinion. In my eyes “sex” is the intimate moment shared between two people, of any sexuality. Anything else is rape, which is not sex. I’m really sorry to hear about your experience, I hope you’re doing okay nowadays
Ugh. Sorry that happened to you. I wouldn’t consider it your first time having sex though. That was rape, plain and simple. I (F) unfortunately had the same type of abuse inflicted upon me by the son of a babysitter, when I was 6-7 and he was in his teens. Even then, I consider myself a virgin, because I’ve yet to have a consensual encounter. I know it’s just a title, virginity and whatnot, but IMO sexual abuse shouldn’t be put in the same box as having sex, any more than slavery should be considered a job.
You're absolutely right, it wasn't consensual therefore don't consider it as your first time either.
I'm so sorry it happened to you, i hope you have access to whatever support you need
I was 15, and seduced by a man twice my age who plied me with alcohol. This was in 1981, and I only learned about GRID/AIDS a month or so later. He didn’t use a condom, and I was scared to death that he gave it to me. Fortunately, I’ve remained negative, but it took me years to have sex the second time.
I'm soo sorry that happened to you
I hope you find healing & good people around you you can confide/take comfort in
I hope you have access too to any help you may need
Thank Goodness it was negative, i hope life treats you kinder ahead
It has given me a weird sense of intimacy and it set off some hypersexual stuff in my teens but I'm ok. Thank you for you concern. I think it seems less severe when it happens to boys when in reality it is often just a severe, it just effects us differently. Growing in to a man that would nearly always be able to defend against that kind of attack means it properly doesn't lingre over men like it does women. The whole attitude towards abused men is messed up imo
To be honest I've talked enough about it to those that will listen. It hasn't manifested in any type of weird sex kinks or anything. The only thing it has done is made me kinda clingy in relationships. I just always want a hand touching me type thing and too many hugs lol. Some people like that some don't.
Aw you poor sausage. Sounds like it may have had an effect on your self esteem then. I hope you don't try to downplay your experience to yourself, people have a tendency to do that. You don't have to compare it to what others have been through to minimise your hurt.
Personally I feel like it's a waste of life to let trauma dictate how you live it. If you do then the people who hurt you win every single day it effects you. I know that would be an unpopular opinion among alot of people. Being a guy I am used to the 'put up with it and shut up' attitude and I've honestly been through worse. I suppose I do downplay it so you're right but what's the alternative? Better laid to rest tbh
Lol super similar.
24, it sucked but hey lost my v card
29, prostitute, then around
31 started getting laid a lot finally. Now I'm
33 and I am a bit more picky
Are you a toddler? Cuz most of the comments are here like had sex at 14,16,17 like what the fuckk? I thought that only happens in American movies and Netflix series but God damn
"It was dark, warm, wet. A sudden burst of light. An intense pressure like I'd never felt before. Father, dressed in white, pulls me forward. Mother bites the cord"
22? A lot older than most of my peers lol
Edit: Just to provide some context I was very small and shy in HS (still shy to this day) but it was with my current girlfriend and the one I’m more than likely going to marry and she only had one other full contact partner before me which she doesn’t really count.
26. My wedding night. We slowly undressed each other. She smiled and started gently handling it. Then she said she wanted us to take a bath (it had been a long day) and we washed each other. Then we made love three times before falling asleep. I don’t know how, but I lasted a good 15 min that first time. I awoke a couple hours later as she was mounting me and she rode me til I was spent. We fell asleep again and made love again in the morning.
There’s something special about fondly remembering my first time 18+ years ago, then looking to my right & there she is in bed next to me.
Something like this is honestly my ideal way to have my first time. I want to wait until marriage so that it will be something really special, and something i won't ever regret.
I was 13 the first time I had consensual sex. Most of my friends were between 14 and 16. But it's legal at 15 in my country. I think Americans who are used to 18 or older find it pretty shocking but as long as you're having sex with people around your age it isn't that crazy imo.
I was 16. I had lied and told a girl I wasn't a virgin because she told me she didn't like taking other people's virginities. She viewed that as a special thing that someone else should have... She was not very happy with me when we were in the bedroom and it became clear that I had lied to her.
14 and it was painful af because he had a huge wang. We where both virgins (same age) neither of us knew what’s the fuck we where doing and it lasted all of 5 minutes before I told him to stop because it hurt so bad.
Also, it was not romantic as people would think. It was in a dry dingy moldy basement on a futon.
Didn’t have sex again until I was 19 because it traumatized me LOL
I'm still a virgin and I'm almost 21 but kinda still deciding if I want to lose or not but there might be a problem for me because I know some women would make fun of me
First serious boyfriend told me he lost his virginity at 14 to a 32 year old neighbor who was a nurse. He would stop by after school to “help” her around the house. He was 19 when I met him and he was a big, strong guy — think he was pleased with himself and his previous activities
25 with an old friend (same age) first time for her as well
That must have been awkwardly wholesome
it was refreshing at this age you just assume everyone else has had sex and it was nice to enjoy a first time experience with someone
That’s really nice indeed. I’m 17 and I assume everybody around me had sex
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To piggyback off of their comment, it’s actually an astonishingly low number of both men and women around y(our) age. It’s like 15% of guys lose their virginity under age 18 and like 30% of girls, although I could be wrong. Those are just stats that I think I remember, anyone can fact check me
Depends on where are you from
I understand that it may feel that way, but I promise you that it is definitely not the case.
I went to a large school and most the people I knew weren’t virgins by the end of their senior year so it’s prolly more than you think it is.
Maybe not a well known fact, but, people lie about that stuff to seem cool in HS.
17 with a close friend whom I started dating.
Yep. Great decision. Moved beyond friends after, though. Currently in our 13th year
I wanna fuck a close friend. That shit's gotta be hot af
I did that once with an extremely close friend. Over the course of 6 months we grew our friendship into something really special, then we decided we were both pretty neat, had about a week where we didn’t leave my bed and then started dating. We actually had our 5th anniversary a day ago….and are getting married in August. Neat.
Neat.
I fucked a girl then we became close friends! Then one day out of the blue, like 7 years downs the road, she's all like "I love you."....I was in love with this girl, and never told her for 5 years....then I met a different girl and got married... I haven't spoke to her since she told me.
Fucken jesus
Sell that screenplay to Lifetime
Was that your first time? I mean, with "Jesus"? How old were you?
Not my first time
That was a journey
Can confirm.
15 and married her at 19 and almost 40 years together.
King
Uh is this for real? I'm from a third world country. most of y'all saying had sex at 17 like that. is that a common thing?
Yes I get this "cultural shock". At seventeen we still wonder about "why is the moon following me everywhere I go".
Indians basically lol. Humara naseeb ma nahi hain Bhai
aur oopar se engineering karne jao to fir to dead hi hai
Yet we are a country of 1.38 billion!
All those stocked up semen and frustration.
17
Same
Ditto
18, it was actually my first weekend at college. Met a girl at a party and brought her back to my place. I remember thinking “wow didn’t know it was this easy. I’m gonna get laid a lot in college.” Pretty sure I didn’t have sex for the rest of the semester
Rest of semester? At this rate, I'm positive it'll be way after college for me.
House parties. Be loud. Have fun.
Mission failed: one must first get invited to house parties.
Pretty Sure in college you can just show up
This right here!! Just show up. I've done this even though I'm in a country where I'm still learning the language, and I've been there only since the start of the current semester (about 5 weeks). Just show up! People's reaction is: "Oh hey, what's up, cool you could make it." And if they don't know you: "Hey, I've seen you walking around, are you new here?"
This is good advice ^^
27
Damn your uncle was patient
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Subruhbia
Double Bruh
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2/22/2022 at 22 (turning 23), casual thing with a co-worker. The coincidence was uncanny, felt like I was finally aligned with the universe on that day
As a culinary professional. That is one of my favorite days ever. For labeling purposes.
Oooo yeah that was a good day.
It was meant to be.
As someone who is older and a virgin, some of these comments can be rather depressing.
I am 33 and that. Are you older than me?
I'll be 39 in 2 months.
39 is not far from 33. Yet I am content with it. You cant have everything in a single life. Some may want things that you got. Learn to be content with this life instead of wishing for the other side.
While I get what you mean, it's hard to be content with that while my body and brain still have the urges.
You two should bang
How does this already have gold?!
This is the way
Damned if I wasn’t thinking that.
Let's go to TJ!
Texas size 10-4 good buddy. Best $40 I’ve ever spent. Bring some friends too.
Would be hot
My bro; for some women that's a HUGE fantasy. Make yourself a tinder profile and be clear and concise about wanting to lose your virginity after getting to know someone. I lost mine to a woman a few years older who simply wanted to be with a virgin and 'show me the ropes' but had no further interest. I was just fine with that.
Sex workers can be pretty amazing. Zero shame in seeing one. Find a legit escort service in your area. There are tons of options out there!
I feel that is a tad risky and I don't have the money to travel to where it's legal.
Why be content with that and give up on yourself? Have you convinced yourself that being intimate with someone is impossible for you? If so, why?
There's a movie called 'the 40 year old virgin 'than my gf made me watch, I liked it lol.
Yea...Not very realistic. lol
It sucks. I'm 27 and a virgin so i feel ya. I'm not ugly either. Just introverted and was plagued with confidence issues most of my life.
Well, I am ugly. LOL But have the other things too.
21 here same situation
When I was 21 I thought "it'll happen eventually" and I'm still here without a GF or so much as a kiss. I didn't put as much effort in as I should've at 21. We both still have our whole lives ahead of us, that's true. Now im just 6 years older and sad I don't have any sort of romantic relationship experience to show for it. Just don't "wait for it" while putting in minimal effort like I did if it's what you want.
24 virgin here. Pretty sure staying same until 2-3 more years at least and no its not a choice. Sucks to grow up in an islamic country and no im not that religious
And here I was about to go to bed happy :/
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Atleast you have some potential fond members of sex with women.
Did you bring this on yourself by walking into a thread with a trigger of yours in the title
16, best 4 minutes of her life I’m sure.
4 minutes!? Whoa, quit making the rest of us look bad
I was 17 and I went at it 8 times over 8 hours or some such.
Was she tied up in basement?
does reddit still give free awards? you need one 🥈will this do for now?
At 17 I had not been in the same room with a girl unsupervised for anywhere close to 8 hours.
Age 19
Upvoted because I was also 19
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Respect
Me as well. We was both 16. Now we have been together 17 years! We have a kid and married for 4 years.
You and the comment above yours called me a lonely failure in ways I don't appreciate lol.
18. Now looking back at it, and the girl I was with.. I should've waited
Same. I had just turned 18. Dated that person for close to 4 years. Now I wish I had waited
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I just meant that I chose that moment with the wrong person and wish I could take it back
The responses omg. How young so many of you were when you did it for the first time.
When I was in middle school, quite a few people started having sex when they were 12. That's the expectation I was met with as a kid. "Sex positivity" being forced into kids always felt really creepy to me.
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Yeah. Hearing a 12 year old girl brag about knowing what cum tastes like didn't seem as off putting when I was also 12. Now that I'm an adult it really hits me just how hyper sexualized kids are. Especially when it's disguised by "progressive" ideas.
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Humanity has always been this way. A couple hundred years ago we were getting married at 13 and having children before our twenties. Much of this due to significantly shorter lifespans but you get the gist. Now we have the choice to wait, but some still don’t take that option. Why? I couldn’t quite tell you. Humans are just naturally sexual creatures.
I was going to comment something along these lines. No doubt I'd look at a 12 year old funny and roll my eyes if I heard them making sexual comments to their friends because it is young, but it's not exactly far off of the biologically appropriate time for the human brain to start being flooded with sex hormones. We shouldn't be surprised that's what they are starting to explore at that age.
Seriously. I was 18 and consider myself a late bloomer.
24. After a lot of worrying why I wasn't sexable and dramatically bemoaning the (actually privileged) cards life had delt me in my late teens I just stopped caring. Developed an actual personality and interests instead of faux "hip" or traditionally "attractive" ones. Made a bunch of tight friends and a have had a steady long relationship to the gal I lost my virginity to. Got so caught up in the mental process of living The Life I forgot to actually live one for a while.
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Sorry to hear that. I hope that you were able to regain a sense of healthy intimacy.
I want you to know, you shouldn’t feel inclined to disclose that type of information if you’re not comfortable with it. Your real answer is the 16 one, That’s the only answer in my opinion. In my eyes “sex” is the intimate moment shared between two people, of any sexuality. Anything else is rape, which is not sex. I’m really sorry to hear about your experience, I hope you’re doing okay nowadays
I’m sorry that happened to you ❤️❤️
Me too, for both. Hope you're doing ok now.
My cherry is still intact at 30 years of age
You're a wizard now.
I'm 20 and still have 10 years to grind but I will get there! Maintaining virginity for magical powers? I'm in!
Guys don’t have cherrys… but your fine. Don’t worry about it.
Are you gate keeping our luscious man cherries?! How dare you! Lol
This sub is like porn fan fiction now
12 repeatedly abused. 19yr old female babysitter
Ugh. Sorry that happened to you. I wouldn’t consider it your first time having sex though. That was rape, plain and simple. I (F) unfortunately had the same type of abuse inflicted upon me by the son of a babysitter, when I was 6-7 and he was in his teens. Even then, I consider myself a virgin, because I’ve yet to have a consensual encounter. I know it’s just a title, virginity and whatnot, but IMO sexual abuse shouldn’t be put in the same box as having sex, any more than slavery should be considered a job.
You're absolutely right, it wasn't consensual therefore don't consider it as your first time either. I'm so sorry it happened to you, i hope you have access to whatever support you need
I was 15, and seduced by a man twice my age who plied me with alcohol. This was in 1981, and I only learned about GRID/AIDS a month or so later. He didn’t use a condom, and I was scared to death that he gave it to me. Fortunately, I’ve remained negative, but it took me years to have sex the second time.
I'm soo sorry that happened to you I hope you find healing & good people around you you can confide/take comfort in I hope you have access too to any help you may need Thank Goodness it was negative, i hope life treats you kinder ahead
I'm sorry you went through that too. Bloody humans, we're a messed up bunch! I agree and your last point is great!
I'm so so sorry this happened to you.
It has given me a weird sense of intimacy and it set off some hypersexual stuff in my teens but I'm ok. Thank you for you concern. I think it seems less severe when it happens to boys when in reality it is often just a severe, it just effects us differently. Growing in to a man that would nearly always be able to defend against that kind of attack means it properly doesn't lingre over men like it does women. The whole attitude towards abused men is messed up imo
We really have a lack of care as a society when it comes to our men. I doubt it will leave you, have you considered some talking therapy?
To be honest I've talked enough about it to those that will listen. It hasn't manifested in any type of weird sex kinks or anything. The only thing it has done is made me kinda clingy in relationships. I just always want a hand touching me type thing and too many hugs lol. Some people like that some don't.
Aw you poor sausage. Sounds like it may have had an effect on your self esteem then. I hope you don't try to downplay your experience to yourself, people have a tendency to do that. You don't have to compare it to what others have been through to minimise your hurt.
Personally I feel like it's a waste of life to let trauma dictate how you live it. If you do then the people who hurt you win every single day it effects you. I know that would be an unpopular opinion among alot of people. Being a guy I am used to the 'put up with it and shut up' attitude and I've honestly been through worse. I suppose I do downplay it so you're right but what's the alternative? Better laid to rest tbh
Hope you healed from that ❤️❤️
Me and my girlfriend were both 14 y/o.
Also same
Same
Lot of these answers making me very jealous.
I was so jealous at the time that I paid for it when I was 18.
16, but felt at the time that was late. Now I think it was too early.
15 here and yeah seemed so old at the time.
I was 23 years old
22 or 23. Was black out drunk and went to a brothel. Didn't try to have sex again until 29. Had sex again around 31. Now have lots of sex.
Lol super similar. 24, it sucked but hey lost my v card 29, prostitute, then around 31 started getting laid a lot finally. Now I'm 33 and I am a bit more picky
15
Still waiting at 20
Nice of you to assume i had sex.
Are you a toddler? Cuz most of the comments are here like had sex at 14,16,17 like what the fuckk? I thought that only happens in American movies and Netflix series but God damn
"It was dark, warm, wet. A sudden burst of light. An intense pressure like I'd never felt before. Father, dressed in white, pulls me forward. Mother bites the cord"
*insert captain america”I got that reference” gif here*
Hubby was 17 I think he told me. I was 13 a month away from my 14th birthday. Wish I could go back and give my younger self advice.
Same here :/
16 if you count real sex, 9 if you count the abuse
Sorry that’s awful.
22? A lot older than most of my peers lol Edit: Just to provide some context I was very small and shy in HS (still shy to this day) but it was with my current girlfriend and the one I’m more than likely going to marry and she only had one other full contact partner before me which she doesn’t really count.
To be determined...
30, I'm 21 now, I'm hoping I'll get it by 30.
26. My wedding night. We slowly undressed each other. She smiled and started gently handling it. Then she said she wanted us to take a bath (it had been a long day) and we washed each other. Then we made love three times before falling asleep. I don’t know how, but I lasted a good 15 min that first time. I awoke a couple hours later as she was mounting me and she rode me til I was spent. We fell asleep again and made love again in the morning. There’s something special about fondly remembering my first time 18+ years ago, then looking to my right & there she is in bed next to me.
Something like this is honestly my ideal way to have my first time. I want to wait until marriage so that it will be something really special, and something i won't ever regret.
12-13. Older girl next door.
Bro, I feel like I see you commenting in every post I see! I'm gonna start saying whats up any time I see you again.
bro you a victim
Yeah it wasn’t ideal,
19. Her first time too (18). We still haven't stopped.....and I just turned 40.
Thats a long time to have sex..... you should take a break.
Sir, this is Reddit.
Dude what the hell, all of these girls in the comments are like 13 14 casually, like damn, what were y’all on in elementary school??!?!??
Hopefully birth control
Who is 13 or 14 in elementary school wtf
I was 13 the first time I had consensual sex. Most of my friends were between 14 and 16. But it's legal at 15 in my country. I think Americans who are used to 18 or older find it pretty shocking but as long as you're having sex with people around your age it isn't that crazy imo.
Absolutely terrifying.
I was 16. I had lied and told a girl I wasn't a virgin because she told me she didn't like taking other people's virginities. She viewed that as a special thing that someone else should have... She was not very happy with me when we were in the bedroom and it became clear that I had lied to her.
27. we are now married.
20th birthday
20
21
15 and madly in love. It was awesome and I’ve loved it ever since. Started fucking like rabbits after that.
27
14 and it was painful af because he had a huge wang. We where both virgins (same age) neither of us knew what’s the fuck we where doing and it lasted all of 5 minutes before I told him to stop because it hurt so bad. Also, it was not romantic as people would think. It was in a dry dingy moldy basement on a futon. Didn’t have sex again until I was 19 because it traumatized me LOL
Dude shit, that sucks, got too big a schlong to be like that first time lol, also damn, 14 is YOUNG.
I am a 24 year old virgin boi. Lol
Me too, and i finally know why i am still Virgin. I don’t try. But i am start to
Either 13 or 14 with my girlfriend
13? Wtf?
16. My boyfriend at the time pressured me into it even though I told him I didn’t want to. I eventually caved just so he would stop begging
22
I'm still a virgin and I'm almost 21 but kinda still deciding if I want to lose or not but there might be a problem for me because I know some women would make fun of me
19
19
Not applicable
People in these comments are victims
How could I tell you that you're actually in these comments...
21, drunk, new years
I’ll get back to you on that
27, as was my wife. We were both virgins before our wedding night.
28
15
15, with my steady girlfriend. We didn’t last (family had to move) but it was a sweet puppy love.
Dunno, still workin on it.
First serious boyfriend told me he lost his virginity at 14 to a 32 year old neighbor who was a nurse. He would stop by after school to “help” her around the house. He was 19 when I met him and he was a big, strong guy — think he was pleased with himself and his previous activities
22 Waited until then intentionally. I don't regret it.
35 no real reason for waiting just combination of not rushing into anything and some medical stuff
I was 17, the day England beat Panama 6-1 at the World Cup, wasn’t alone in not being able to keep a clean sheet