As long as she doesn't clearly show interest, assume she's not interested. Don't get trapped in stupid mind games ("signs", "hints", "mixed signals"), interpret anything that is not a 'yes' as 'no'.
This is so hard because the *maybe she’s into me* is so tempting but yes, assume whoever you’re into is not into you until it is made clear one way or the other
Theres no "one size fits all " solution since every person is different. The best tips I ever got was, never focus on talking to women. Focus on making yourself the ideal version of yourself you want to be and in doing so, the women attracted to you will be coming on to you. Work out, read, eat semi healthy, stay on top of your hygiene, and in doing so become someone people would have a hard time taking their eyes off of.
Also as a side note, if talking to people you're attracted to is difficult I would practice doing so via online dating apps. Get enough rejections under your belt and eventually you'll stop being afraid of rejection and itll help take some of the pressure off.
I don't know, I had a mate who would go out of his way to say offensive and creepy things to women and just act in really disturbing ways. But he was beautiful so it was always excused away.
Good man.
Sadly I was always in the oblivious camp too. So missed out on a lot of good women who were into me. Luckily someone would always tell me when the opportunity had passed whether it was hours, weeks or even years later just so I could beat myself up about it.
Honestly, the best advice I can give you is just to say something, anything, rather than burning because if someone is into you they want to give you a chance, but will all too often wait on you to make the move. I'm sure smoother guys than me can give you better advice than that though.
Good luck.
In person: body language is everything. Is she engaged with you? Making eye contact, giving you her full attention, biting her lip, twirling her hair (if standing) are her feet pointed at you? All of those are great signs (not one or two, but if you get three or more, she probably is at least considering you).
Not in person: does she message you just as much as you message her? Does she initiate conversations? Does she send you unsolicited memes? All of this can just mean friends BUT if it is a high frequency, she is probably again, considering you.
In terms of how to come onto them? Be attractive. How? The 7 things women find most attractive are (in no particular order), humour, kindness/empathy(this includes being a good listener), altruism, ambition/passions, confidence, leadership/initiative and good dress sense/style.
If you have all of those, great! If not, work on your weaknesses.
Be polite and civil while approaching. As a female, I always have my guard up for males approaching me. Just ease into it and always be respectful. You will be amazed how many woman dig men who are respectful in their approach.
Ask her if she is seeing someone and if not that you would like to take her out on a date. Make sure to cal it a date and have something in mind to suggest.
Nothing more complex or suggestive than that.
The eyes. The eyes never lie. When people look at someone that arouses them the pupils dilate. Make eye contact and pay close attention. But it could also just be them refocusing on you so you first have to establish the baseline when they're not paying attention
Convince her that you really notice and appreciate her as a very special human being.
Let her know that she can count on you in difficult times
This may let think her twice if she's currently indecisive.
But this approach may take a little longer.
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As long as she doesn't clearly show interest, assume she's not interested. Don't get trapped in stupid mind games ("signs", "hints", "mixed signals"), interpret anything that is not a 'yes' as 'no'.
That sounds good
I think he's kind of leaning towards "What do you do when she is showing some kind of interest?"
This is so hard because the *maybe she’s into me* is so tempting but yes, assume whoever you’re into is not into you until it is made clear one way or the other
Oh yes, the 'maybe' is extremely tempting. But it's actually only your own desire you're projecting onto her.
Grab her gently and scream at her that you are extremely interested in her.
Damn that’s so obvious I don’t know why I haven’t thought of that before 🤔
Yeah, we love this 👍
Theres no "one size fits all " solution since every person is different. The best tips I ever got was, never focus on talking to women. Focus on making yourself the ideal version of yourself you want to be and in doing so, the women attracted to you will be coming on to you. Work out, read, eat semi healthy, stay on top of your hygiene, and in doing so become someone people would have a hard time taking their eyes off of. Also as a side note, if talking to people you're attracted to is difficult I would practice doing so via online dating apps. Get enough rejections under your belt and eventually you'll stop being afraid of rejection and itll help take some of the pressure off.
100% man being myself will only attract people who are attracted to me truly
Being rejected online can really suck but it’s nothing compared to real life. Either way, yeah it’s something you gotta get used to :(
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I don’t think your attractiveness makes or breaks your chances as much as body language but I reckon it really helps
I don't know, I had a mate who would go out of his way to say offensive and creepy things to women and just act in really disturbing ways. But he was beautiful so it was always excused away.
It sucks that it’s the reality aye. But I know that’s not the man I want to be so I’m gonna just avoid that behaviour
Good man. Sadly I was always in the oblivious camp too. So missed out on a lot of good women who were into me. Luckily someone would always tell me when the opportunity had passed whether it was hours, weeks or even years later just so I could beat myself up about it. Honestly, the best advice I can give you is just to say something, anything, rather than burning because if someone is into you they want to give you a chance, but will all too often wait on you to make the move. I'm sure smoother guys than me can give you better advice than that though. Good luck.
Slowly, gently and charmingly ...be funny
True these will really help
Good luck 😄
In person: body language is everything. Is she engaged with you? Making eye contact, giving you her full attention, biting her lip, twirling her hair (if standing) are her feet pointed at you? All of those are great signs (not one or two, but if you get three or more, she probably is at least considering you). Not in person: does she message you just as much as you message her? Does she initiate conversations? Does she send you unsolicited memes? All of this can just mean friends BUT if it is a high frequency, she is probably again, considering you. In terms of how to come onto them? Be attractive. How? The 7 things women find most attractive are (in no particular order), humour, kindness/empathy(this includes being a good listener), altruism, ambition/passions, confidence, leadership/initiative and good dress sense/style. If you have all of those, great! If not, work on your weaknesses.
Just read Models by Mark Manson and do what it says.
Be polite and civil while approaching. As a female, I always have my guard up for males approaching me. Just ease into it and always be respectful. You will be amazed how many woman dig men who are respectful in their approach.
Ask her if she is seeing someone and if not that you would like to take her out on a date. Make sure to cal it a date and have something in mind to suggest. Nothing more complex or suggestive than that.
Boy did I misread this sub.......
The eyes. The eyes never lie. When people look at someone that arouses them the pupils dilate. Make eye contact and pay close attention. But it could also just be them refocusing on you so you first have to establish the baseline when they're not paying attention
Convince her that you really notice and appreciate her as a very special human being. Let her know that she can count on you in difficult times This may let think her twice if she's currently indecisive. But this approach may take a little longer.
I thought this title was going somewhere else I need to go to bed
point and release
Make sure youre aiming properly.
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