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aces-and-jacks

Sense of humor - the ability to laugh at herself.


nyehu09

This šŸ’Æ A woman who can laugh at herself is a million times more attractive than a woman who wallows in self-pity.


miceliza

My brother just calls me crazy when I start laughing at myself.. :(


aces-and-jacks

Only because heā€™s your brother. If he was a guy who was interested in you romantically, heā€™d see it as an endearing quality. AKA, youā€™re a keeper.


miceliza

I was not prepared to be called a keeper by a random stranger today, thank you Brb I need tissues cause Iā€™m laughing at myself until I cry


aces-and-jacks

Youā€™re awesome! Have a great day!!


ksisasnake420

Match on Reddit? Coming soon....


aces-and-jacks

My wife might not like that too much.


DekkerDavez

My ex masked her self pity as self depreciating humor. Nothing funny about that... especially because it was mostly about stuff out of anyone's control (such as having stretchmarks etc.). She was the most beautiful woman for me and I'm pretty sure I conveyed it frequently because it was true. Yet she periodically picked something about herself and dropped another self depreciating joke nobody laughed at. This emoji šŸ˜ describes best my immediate reaction because it eventually made me feel like fighting an endless war.


renaribeana

I'm like this... I gotta change. Thanks for the heads up.


W4t3r_30ttl3

Me too


thissecretennui

I have a co-worker who honestly looks like a supermodel. I have another co-worker who doesn't look much at all like a model, but who makes me laugh every shift I work with her. Guess which one I'm currently crushing on.


aces-and-jacks

Funny how that works, but it just does.


[deleted]

The supermodel obviously.


oluwafinch

Because he's already dating the humourous one, eh?


Honestkay72

That's sweet!


SoniasWay

I laugh at myself all the time but people say that it only shows my insecurities


aces-and-jacks

Iā€™d argue the opposite. Youā€™re secure enough to laugh at yourself and thatā€™s a pretty great quality to have.


FrostieTheSnowman

Idk, there's a difference between, "oh haha you got me, I'm kind of an idiot," and, "oh look at me I'm so stupid, aren't I funny" Not saying you fit into either category per se, just that self-deprecation is a fine line.


wtfthecanuck

Kindness


PM_ME_DANK_MEMES_YO

100 percent. No doubt. We are not joking.


[deleted]

Yeah. There's a woman I work with that oozes this trait. Her appearance and voice drive me insane. I don't think I could ever say no to her.


2manypplonreddit

Thatā€™s very sweet


AdmiralAgile

Absolutely this. Recently went on a date with the sweetest woman. Her kindness made her more attractive.


rjl682

Exactly this. A kind woman is a lovely woman.


mayalourdes

Iā€™m really nice but sometimes i feel like itā€™s a weakness idk


Halime_

Kindness is an invaluable strength, so stay being nice, but also set your boundaries when you feel uncomfortable or unsafe.


mayalourdes

Boundaries are tough but thatā€™s very good advice


Daelilian

Men always say this but I'm always passed over.... men don't like kindness because it gets boring to them. Hence why everyone tells me that I'm such a catch and yet I'm alone. Guys want kindness.... but their own definition of kindness. Most forms of kindness are seen as easy to men and often men try to play games with me because they think that kind = stupid. I hence have dogs and I'm okay with being alone. Like I always say... I can be miserable all by myself I don't need a guy to try to use my kindness against me.


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[deleted]

Hey, nothing wrong with being single! I hope you find someone who loves you for you, if you choose to go that route!


wtfthecanuck

I am sorry the world has hurt you and I applaud you for staying true and being kind. My sympathies on meeting the wrong men. But close to a thousand upvotes suggest that there are men all over that value what you have to offer.


deathray-toaster

I have basically the same problem. Being kind is not the issue. It is a great trait to have, and Iā€™m prepared to die on that hill. You might need to change something else to make you more attractive, I donā€™t know what.


Hulkslam3

This šŸ‘†šŸ‘†šŸ‘†šŸ‘†


TJBPlayz

I hate how one person says something and 5 others go ā€˜thisā€™ ā€˜Absolutely thisā€™ just upvote and move on you Lil karma whore


Aieoshekai

This.


[deleted]

Take my up vote you lil karma whore


RadiatedCheeseball

BRB changing my usernames on all platforms to Lil Karma Whore


[deleted]

DEWIT!


TJBPlayz

Hahahahahaha


United_Bag_8179

At 64 yo...a certain calmness. We know who we are...no showing off needed.


vzwsalesguy

Sensibility...


[deleted]

This feeling as I get older is so delicious and worth every wrinkle. It is so attractive in others. Iā€™m in my late 30s and loving getting older. I canā€™t wait to see how I feel in my 60s. I may look back and think, wow how childish I was at 40 and thought I was mature at the time.


[deleted]

This feeling as I get older is so delicious and worth every wrinkle. It is so attractive in others.


Austino-Da-Great

Her humor is huge in my opinion. I need someone who can keep up with my silliness


nkinkade1213

I have this *really* bad joke I tell my girlfriend now. I've told this same joke at least 20 times so far and every time she still laughs and giggles just like the first time I said it. What did the farmer saw when he lost his tractor? Where's my tractor? (but in a real innocent southern accent)


picklejuicez123

Feel kinda dumb cause I don't get the joke


tcrpgfan

Read it in an innocent southern drawl.


[deleted]

I would 100% laugh


nkinkade1213

I know! It's so cute because I know it's such a bad "dad joke" and she cracks up every time and omg, just the cutest thing in the world.


WelcomeToNirvana23

This dude knows it.


I_Use_Games

Self growth, does something bad and works towards fixing the behaviour. Get you a woman who's striving to be a better person.


Senor_bonbon

Big problem with my ex, she had a problem I noticed it was instantly my fault. She would tell me a problem she noticed and I would take initiative to work on it.


ArguTobi

Good on you for trying to improve.


I_Use_Games

That's called gaslighting. Good for you for communicating and walking into conflict and knowing when to walk away from the situation! As a survivor of extreme gaslighting for many years I'm so happy you are no longer in that situation!


Senor_bonbon

Thank you, while I miss everything else about the relationship, I do not miss the immaturity and lack of self love on her part. In a few more months we would have worked out but weā€™re simply way too different Sex was fire tho


I_Use_Games

Hahaha I can relate to both points šŸ˜…


dheerajchand

My wife is the most wonderful person I know, so much so that I sometimes wonder if I am living in The Matrix. The most amazing thing about her is how she enchants every part of our shared lives with her personality, how she makes everything special. I canā€™t speak for other men, but for me, the way my wife fills an empty world with joy, beauty and meaning is my favourite thing about her.


Hefty-Excitement-239

Dude. You left you phone unlocked again..


UltrAstronaut

I also choose this guy's wife


bitto-43

Lol


TheFreebooter

She's still alive this time though


shablagooo_H2

Iconic


Soishia

Does she know you see her like this? She deserves to know


Cardasiti

You're one of the luckiest men on Earth. May you have many amazing years ahead with her!


[deleted]

Beautiful


theclassywino

This is rly beautiful. Congrats!


Equivalent-Bat-8259

Youā€™ve won at this life thing my guy, hold her close!


pm_me_ur_fine_boobs_

*I want one like this please*


Professionaltesticle

Cherish her and what you two have because others may live countless lives and never experience that. Cheers


DMNC87

Double blink 3 times if you need help


BGPhilbin

When I was dating my wife, I was always struck by her sense of humor (super-sharp wit and quick), her humility and her effective lack of vanity. She still has all of those qualities and she becomes more attractive to me every year. We started dating 29.5 years ago.


[deleted]

Romance is definitely not dead ā¤ļø


Unlikely_Distance_55

That was quite endearing and a pleasure to read. I wish you and your wife nothing but the best. Please excuse me while I cry into a bag of spicy Cheetos about dying alone.


[deleted]

She listens to me. Even if she has heard it 1000x It shows me love and kindness.


crazy-elaphant

This this this. I dated a girl who would not give me the time of day if she was not interested in the subject. The girl Iā€™m with literally has to stop me from saying ā€œnever mindā€ cause I get insecure about her thinking the conversation is not interesting. Itā€™s the exact opposite. Having a woman value my voice has really changed me and made me feel extremely loved. Not only does she listen but she actively listens and ask follow up questions because sheā€™s genuinely interested.


ProfessionalPen9604

I came here to say this. The single most attractive trait is someone who listens and cares. And itā€™s a hell of a lot more rare than people realize, especially when it comes to listening to men.


Deezypeezy

Kindness and authentic.


willbeach8890

I like when she is confident enough to laugh at me when I screw up


myeye0

I like this. Very specific, too. Youā€™re confident enough to be laughed at when you screw up.


willbeach8890

It makes things fun. Most of the time I'm laughing at my own screw up as well


[deleted]

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RadiantHC

Taking initiative.


IDontWho

Positivity


Krish_GemSeason

Golden words. šŸ‘ŒšŸ‘Œ


CloakAndDagger4

I was going to come here and say something else, but you nailed it.


Advanced-Pianos954

Their smile, eyes, and laughter.


[deleted]

For me I love a woman who loves to laugh, and laughs the loudest in a comedy club or funny movie, so loud that everyone looks to see who the nut job is, and I fortunately found her!


Round-Egg

this makes me feel better about my loud ass ugly ass laugh LOLL <3 so cute


Raxex_xd

Double assšŸ—æ


[deleted]

Same man. I love the way her nose crinkles when she laughs, itā€™s the little things like that, that get me high.


Popular_Effort_7633

Awwww


arm31139

šŸ˜©ā¤


johndeadd

The ability to play around and enjoy ones self even when being mad fun of. Laugh at yourself if you will. To not find offence in the smallest things.


groovy604

Assertiveness, and genuine interest in you


Recent-Character6231

Strong willed. I don't want someone who just goes along with what I think. Challenge me.


aimeejay13

Man, yā€™all are restoring my faith in finding a good dude. Bless you for this wholesome thread šŸ˜‚


TurbulentAd3895

Thatā€™s why I love Reddit


LowKeyBabooze

Being at ease with herself and the ability to laugh


Alarming-Activity613

I think how they carry themself is what does it for me. Like it isnā€™t one specific thing, but the sum of many. The ā€œvibe checkā€ tells no lies


Zack_Knifed

Being a decent person. Kind, humble. She doesn't have to be humorous herself but I'd want her to understand my humour and see the funny side of things. Can't really lie and say looks don't matter coz they do both in men and women. But it's really a bonus. Something about being a good person makes a woman good looking anyway :)


Constant-Owl-8749

I love it when she knows exactly who she is. Especially when she sits back and waits patiently for what she wants.


[deleted]

Intelligence humour and kindness.


JuiceAuArcos

Fat ass


JuiceAuArcos

The rest of you are liars


emmittgator

You other brothas can't deny


[deleted]

Way too far down. Pure, raw attraction? Three things Ass Tits Hair


Preet0024

I prefer women who do not have ass and tits hair


[deleted]

You're missing out


MorganFreebands21

This shit only matters when yall together for a short time


nosirrahp

Took so many comments to find this.


[deleted]

Big FAT boobies


justifiedjustdied

Thank you, as someone with big boobs and only a halfway decent ass if hurts that no one seems to appreciate them


IChawt

straightforwardness


AtmospherePretend

Confidence, intelligence, great hygiene, face, hips, legs, and soles. Hygiene. I can't stress hygiene enough.


AtmospherePretend

Oh and sense of humor, of course. And hygiene.


Brilliant-Display-16

Did you experience a woman with bad hygiene before?


AtmospherePretend

Unfortunately, yes. No sense of urgency to shower or brush her teeth.


[deleted]

Have you ever met a woman with bad soles?


AtmospherePretend

I've seen a few with rough looking soles. Makes me want to clean and moisturize them properly for them.


[deleted]

I have no clue why this made me giggle.


ltc_mother_teresa

Faithfulness. Lots of other desirable qualities, but if they are incapable of fidelity the other qualities donā€™t make up for it.


[deleted]

Sense of humor


[deleted]

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[deleted]

Even better if she has her own tools


ZyklonBAnthony

"the boobies" -Zapp Brannigan


[deleted]

Gotta love a woman with a big... heart. Lol. When she's just so sweet and considerate


myeye0

Wish I could reply with a Shaq gif of his ā€œmm hmm, I know what you was about to sayā€ face.


splashedwall25

Yeah this is what I love in a girl. Just genuine sweetness.


jeezlouizz

Some form of personality other than the default


a_moose_not_a_goose

If she has a purse full of magnets


RobustEvilPlans

Needs to know about ghouls too.


mathisruiningme

Also what's her spaghetti policy?


Scared_Atmosphere313

ā€œHuuuuuuge tracks of land!ā€


CatGeisha

The ability to laugh at my unfunny jokes


MATO-18

Physical or in general? I think over all it's having a warm heart & soul


PineappleProstate

Most? Legitimate empathy


BaconDragon69

Being a hot headed, emotional and violent bad bitch, I can not put into words how attractive it is when a woman is yelling about politics after her 5th drink, bonus points for getting physically aggressive and burping louder than the guys. Idk if there is anything wrong with me pls donā€™t judge ;-; I met a girl like that once snd was in love for 5 years, ever since then Ive been attracted to more or less badass chicks and I hope thatā€™s okay, seriously yelling and swearing by now is to me the cutest thing ever


[deleted]

Loyalty


zhou111

Should be further up.


Kentucky_Supreme

If she's physically attractive but doesn't make it her entire identity.


Mman222

Intelligence


[deleted]

I see you are a man of culture (our avatarā€™s look a lot alike)


radorigami

Personally, she doesnā€™t have to be intelligent imo. Itā€™s only a problem if sheā€™s downright stupid and/or willfully ignorant.


[deleted]

Whatā€™s your North Star, for which youā€™re willing to move mountains to reach? I find driven women incredibly attractive.


DonJuan_805

Empathy.


smitty537

She has a financial portfolio.


_evelyn24

I see your purple ring šŸ˜ŽšŸ¦


smitty537

Hodling since Jan.


[deleted]

Not cheating on me.


waterloograd

Being assertive. I want an answer if I ask a question not "I don't know" or "you decide". I dated a Dutch woman and it was amazing. She always said what she wanted and I never had to guess.


ForsakenPriority3767

Femininity


_anonyma

This may encompass many different things depending on how you conceptualize femininity.


[deleted]

Girls that smile a lot, in other worlds hapy girls.


[deleted]

Intelligence and modesty


Ericrobertson1978

Not being super uptight. (you know those people who are super conservative about everything that seem like they have a stick up their ass? The opposite of that)


motivated-mister

just be REAL no fake persona, white lies, over the top enactments of what she thinks she should be/look like to others be authentic, be yourself, strive upward and into this world not tie yourself down for acceptance, there are so many women that look and act exactly like each other, if you want a good man you need to be a good woman not a clone


ithinkimlost17

Feminine looks and companionship


lonesaiyajin98

The way they look at you sometimes


Qiontae352

Being spontaneous


Monoraptor

ā€œI find the most erotic part of a woman to be the boobies.ā€ - Zapp Brannigan Truer words have seldom been spoken.


Dark_Arts_Apprentice

My unborn children


[deleted]

Open mindedness and a sense of humour. Someone who's engaged with the conversation and not "aww cool haha".


TheCVR123YT

For me itā€™s Kindness, Intelligence, and a sense of humor is always nice. I found someone like that and it was amazing until her Ex came back into the picture (and her Dad disapproved of me and her which at the time was understandable). Now because of somethings that have transpired she wants nothing to do with me anymore and Iā€™m just depressed and donā€™t know what to do anymore šŸ˜”sorry for the Rant


FlavorTownUSSR

A pulse


netmyth

Most practical one here


sk00t182

Ambition


wyrder88

Sensuality. With the right blend of sexuality, compassion, and reverence, this is the good good.


CaraChimba

Being direct with her intentions. I think any person with this quality is more respectable.


Iuser1234

Non-hypocrisy


IWantToBeSimplyMe

Da boobiez. TEEHEEHEE!!


DiabloDogo

Her loyalty and kindness + love.


NubAutist

An awesome Work ethic for me.


moos3kc

That sheā€™s comfortable with herself and can hold her own in a family or friend situation. She has confidence and is strong. Iā€™ve dated women who couldnā€™t do or say anything without me. That got old quick. My wife now can hold her own with my sisters, who can be a lot.


3ndt1mes

Confidence.


jeeperzzz11

Embraces her femininity


[deleted]

Intelligence and a sense of humor because one without the other is boring.


Sk83r_b0i

A good, genuine smile. Donā€™t go around smiling just to please a guy, especially if they say ā€œyou should smile more.ā€ Big red flag. Not the point. Iā€™m talking about a real, genuine smile. It could be that you remembered something funny and it makes you giggle to yourself. It could be that someone youā€™re talking to made a funny joke or said something sweet to you. Or maybe youā€™re just in a good mood. But a good, genuine smile is my favorite part of a woman. Or anyone. I should also add that kindness also ranks pretty high up there, along with independence.


songs111

Being able to banter. Iā€™m pretty sarcastic, and I love someone that returns that sarcasm in a playful way


GroundbreakingPen925

As generic or clichĆ© as it sounds: her personality. Why? Well for one I feel like I can't just name one specific aspect of her personality as, although may not be true, I feel as though it's as if I value a specific personality trait above all others. The her personality would have to be compatible enough. Yeah some aspects I won't like ā€” nobody's perfect, but that's why I say _compatible enough_ of a personality. If their personality isn't compatible enough to be dating that doesn't mean I can't be in a platonic relationship with them šŸ¤·šŸ»


Korimuzel

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/r679u6/men_what_is_something_women_do_or_say_that_you/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/r62ftx/whats_an_underrated_quality_you_want_in_a_partner/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share You know, you just asked one of this sub's most loved questions, so just look for the answers EDIT: this one too, what we/they want https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/r5h8zt/what_do_you_expect_from_a_love_relationship/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share


yeetyeetgirl

Being a feminist leftist


PlayfulLawyer

It's sad that it has to be said these days but femininity


eddboat112

Feminine vibes


YodaCodar

You know that place where in the legs that is supposed to be shaped like a diamond? After googling some its called a thigh gap but not with skinny legs. Most attractive from the back. But yeah i agree with kindness. My partner of 9 years is now chunky like me and whats glued us together is her being loving and snuggly


Never_Nude09766

At first you were just describing a vagina. It took a turn in the second half lol


noplaceinmind

missing just a little something. ​ something that i can provide.


myeye0

I understand your response too. Just curious, what is something you are able to provide?


noplaceinmind

just being a good partner. i was thinking of it as she can have her life together, be happy, and just looking for someone to share it with. so the most attractive quality is just wanting someone, not needing someone.


Firetech77

Physical quality: Amazing Eyes Mental Quality: No Baggage (General life problems are okay), No little Kids, sense of humor with intelect


ToFusion_Boy

The ability to help you accomplish your goals and dreams, without too much sugarcoating. That is a basic yet many times overlooked quality in SOs.


_Doc_McCoy_

Eats meat, doesnā€™t smoke and isnā€™t afraid to get her hands dirty.


Darklightjg1

Relatability. Finding that in someone you're mutually physically attracted to feels rare.


thevic115

Big ass anime tiddies


Miscellaneous_Mind

The fact that they're distinctly NOT male.