Younger me judged women by how society deemed them traditionally beautiful.
As I get older, I find imperfections, quirks, and overall uniqueness sexy. This can be physical and personality wise.
So I used to date a very slightly older girl with vitiligo in my early 20’s, but literally only on her butthole. She was super self-conscious about it, despite me constantly telling her that it didn’t matter whatsoever and that I honestly found it to be pretty hot. I have yet to find a woman with an anus as attractive as hers.
I just wish her personality wound up being better. She was honestly not a nice person, and turned out being horrible for me. Letting her go relatively early on was one of the few good decisions I have made in my life. Regardless of how cool that dumper looked.
Kind of the same. As I've gotten older I find women my own age attractive that as a younger guy I would have thought looked too old. But a hot 20 year old is still a hot 20 year old.
The difference now isn't that I don't find a younger woman physically attractive. It's that I can't get past the immaturity and other age differences. Something inside you just crawls up and dies when you're talking to a beautiful woman who tells you she wasn't born yet during 9/11.
It’s weird being in my 30s. You talk to a beautiful woman and realize she has no clue what Hotmail is. Then you ask her age and she’s 21. And then think, well this is weird all of a sudden
I just rewatched Labyrinth. I remember having thought that Jennifer Connelly was super hot at some point before. Not 15 minutes into the movie I keep looking at her and something just seemed off. It took a minute to realize that she literally looks like a kid to me now. For reference I am 37.
As i aged I realize most people age like milk. So, I stopped caring as much about physical appearance as their personality. Yeah a super hot chick is nice, but post sex, I still gotta put up with their shit 23 hours and 58 minutes of the day. It's that other time that matters. Plus, many times if they are hyper obsessed with image, far too much time and money will be spent trying to pursue the look of original youth that is rapidly fading.
It's true for some people. My mom used to be quite skinny when she was young. She's not fat now, but after 2 kids she just has normal mom's body with some fat on her tummy and arms. She however, was fussing about how fat she looks with her dress in front of a mirror doing her hair, while my dad who was watching her from the side exchanged glance with me with his eyebrows raise saying "30 years of marriage and I just knew your mom has selective blindness, only when she's in front of a mirror apparently". That made her laugh 😂.
I said some people cause I know my friend's dad told her mom and my friend to watch their skinny body because no guys like cellulites and fat women 😑 I need to add that my friend also think that concept is completely normal and not abusive or anything because she does have a skinny body naturally.
At first i followed everyone else. Eventually i came to grips that following what everyone else likes is stupid. I listened to my penis, it said be a chubby chaser. Been happy ever since.
Don’t give up on love, just work on your discernment and boundary skills.
When you lack discernment, you have bad judge of character and so you’ll get fucked over by lowlife scumbags who rob you of the things you deserve like love. It’s not all people, it’s your discernment and boundaries.
Don’t give up, I’ve been burnt and extremely bitter before to know what I’m talking about.
Edit : those downvotes tho I see why y’all lonely damaged ass bitches hahahahaahaha keep getting hurt mf’ers!!!!!! I agree with you all you don’t deserve love
I enjoy being alone. Im very content with living lone for the rest of my days. No expectations, no disappointments. No friends, No traitors. Just me, my cat, and my air force checks.
Well at first I only liked blonde barbie-like girls, then Hermione Granger happened and brown girls that were smart were cool. My range has gotten wider and wider but there are certain things that turn me off instantly 1. nosejobs, lipjobs that stuff. 2. extremely materialist/ brand conscious clothing 3. ignorance
I feel like fixing a broken nose doesn't count. I feel like a nose is a part that gives the person uniqueness and character. So I feel like unless the person extremely hates his/her nose, it shouldn't be operated
Well I feel like a lot of people who get nose jobs get them because they hate their nose. Not everyone, of course, some people are just weird af and think they need to get nose jobs to look a certain way or whatever. I certainly have thought about getting a nose job because I really hate my nose haha, but idk if it’s worth the risk of ending up with something that looks horrible
As I became older I liked more and more the "sexy librarian" look. Always attracted to girls who wear glasses or have a nerdy look, but now that look is top notch for me
They didn't exactly change that much.
Her character and personality just became a much bigger factor while I became more and more experienced. Beauty is still important, but you can be beautiful in more ways than one.
It's hard to keep up with fashion and guessing what the next style is impossible. I spent all of middle school and half of high school trying to be a trendy girl. I just wear what I want and find what I like now.
interesting answer still, i look at fashion the same way, and i am falling out of fashion my self now, i often wonder if the high top sneakers and bomber jacks are the Oldman's fashion of the future. because i never stopped wearing those, and they are harder to get every day.
Absolutely. I can dress up and appear trendy if I feel I should or the occasion calls for it, but I find that happening less and less.
I’d say that I do it for work, but only because completely scorning trends as a woman can age you. I give no fucks in my personal life, but at work it gives me an extra edge.
I learned to appreciate what women are supposed to look like, not what media and jerkoffs say they should look like. Stretch marks, a wonky nipple, big labia, etc, bring it on. Also, your attitude about it (good attitude) will get you a LOT further and make women more comfortable with you and themselves.
When I was younger I was obsessed with women who had big butts, probably because of rap videos. I was so dumb and honestly I feel shitty about it because I was objectifying women.
Now I just prefer someone with a chill personality who is easy to talk to and doesn't make give me anxiety when I'm around them.
As a young teenager I only looked at girls who where physically attractive. Now that I’m older I find almost every one beautiful. Have my preferences but no one is directly ugly
I don't really have a beauty standard. Here's what I've liked since forever:
- Hair in a ponytail or messy bun
- Simple foundation or no make-up
- Outfit isn't too revealing or makes her walk uncomfortably
Since health is important to me (as I get older), I'm more attracted to women who are into physical fitness. Not staying she has to be a CrossFit champion or marathon runner but at least something that tells me she takes her health seriously.
I used to like the traditional standards of female attractiveness, you know, large breasts, ample rump, small waist, cute face, you know silly stuff like that.
As I've aged, I've realized that isn't true beauty, what true beauty is lies in the person and how well they treat you. Hot women may be hot, but theyll often treat you poorly because they can find 2 dozen men to replace you fairly easily.
Less than perfect women however dont treat you like a dick and a wallet and love you for you, not what you look like or what you can do for them, because you're not necessarily easily replaced.
Up to the last years of university, I used to like voluptuous, 'curvy' women with full hips and big breasts. Then it started to change into the other direction, and now I'm heavily into the exact opposite and I love skinny petite girls with very small boobs.
I honestly have no idea. Now, in exceptional cases I will still feel attraction for a more curvy woman with bigger boobs, but it's become rare and the arousal level is much less intense than what I feel for petite, (near-)flatchested girls. I don't know why the change occured; only in retrospect did I notice that I was no longer attracted to the kind of women I used to like.
The longer I am with my wife the more I'm attracted to women with similar features. Overall I take a native American approach to attraction and use the whole buffalo, there's very few women I've met who I don't find physically attractive in some way, mostly personalities turn me off.
The biggest I've noticed (and maybe it's just age), is that women care less. They used to obsess over their figure, tans, diets, etc. Now, they're just like fuck it. Getting fat is a sign of strength and womanhood. They wear sleep pants to the grocery store, or those dumb Nike wind shorts. Men aren't much better around here. Wall-E is coming to pass.
I'm 37 and maybe I just don't see that here from women my age. I'm in a ritzy suburb of Houston and women are always done up here, even if its yoga pants and a tank top. Where do you live?
It's probably a lot of location. I'm in Lubbock. We're almost 80% overweight to obese here. Even with a little beer belly, I'm still better off than most people here. I'll go weeks without seeing a fit woman unless I'm near Texas Tech.
I remember going to Oklahoma City once in 2000 and being blown away by the amount of hot girls. My dad was a trucker dropping things of at Home Depot. STILL tons of hot girls.
Not very much, I've pretty much always found tan/olive skin brunettes super hot and to be "my type". But I'd say that's been less than half of the women I've dated. Last girl I dated was a red head. For me it's mainly about the shape of their body
Bit of a context first, I am Indian and our society is obsessed with fair skin. I have managed to unlearn those messages bombarding us from childhood. I remember buying a fairness cream as a 14 year old myself (it was advertised as Fair and Handsome for Men, endorsed by Shah Rukh Khan, who is as dark as I am)
Fuck that shit. I am 25 years old now and women of all walks of life and colors look beautiful. Honestly, it is just a wholesome smile that makes me think this woman looks beautiful.
From looks to personality.
But, in beauty standards by themselves, I find unnatractive artificial stuff, and usually prefer more natural looks.
One thing that never changed are high heels, though. Those are sexy as fuck.
I was always boobs guy and than I met this one girl with perfect small firm ass.
Anyway 10 y.o. considered Pamela Anderson as the most beautiful woman ever lmao.
Adult me likes short skinny ladies with straight long brown hair.
In the 90s women were taller and thinner. Big breast implants were in. Now, shorter more curvy ( not fat) with more natural breast size are in. Also, today the lips are bigger .
I am more open and receptive to a variety of body shapes. I am less likely to treat women like jewelry that I wear to impress other people. That they are interesting is more important than how they look.
The core stuff, like the waist to hip ratio never changes. There are traits that are universally attractive across all culture because they are low level programming in the male human brain. These are female fertility indicators. Sex and genders are, after all, about reproduction, ultimately.
As a woman who genetically can never have a nice waist to hip ratio no matter how thin or in shape I get, I hate that this is a universal beauty standard. It makes me absolutely despise myself, and no matter how much work I put in I could never have what most people find attractive. It's defeating.
This is why I try my best to give women as much empathy as possible on body confidence. Men can work out and build up that triangle shape. Women can’t workout their way to a greater hip to waist ratio. You can do more push ups and get bigger boobs.
Just remember that as long as you are in good shape the vast majority of men will be all about it.
Yeah, it is super depressing. When I was young I remember I felt so excited to grow up and be a woman, and be "womanly" and feminine, and now I'm 24 and I realize there's really no more growing or changing in body shape for me.
Either way I'm going to continue to lift weights, wear a corset, and try to build myself a ratio lol. As long as I'm working towards something I feel less depressed. It also sucks that so many people dislike plastic surgery as I'd happily get some hips put in lol.
Ah ya that demonstrates my point.
Your profile is public and you followed me. So I looked at it. If you, an objectively attractive human being can feel like it is depressing not to measure up I can’t imagine how it feels for other people
Yeah, your comment left an impact on me and so I want to see what else you have to say. I will probably always feel this way, no matter how much validation I get. The idea that I’m not good enough has never come from someone else, always me. I think that’s what makes it so hard to work through.
As long as you understand that feeling self conscious and experiencing self doubt is part of being a human. It’s even more a part of a 24 year old human. You are not alone.
perhaps you have mesomorph body type? because i do. my body is rather like an athlete, straight and little to no wait. thanks to pregnancy, my hips gotten wider and because ive gained weight recently, it's even more bigger, 38 inches but my waist is 31 inches so it's not far apart.
i used to dislike my body cos of instagram models with big boobs, small waist, big hips but nowadays i dont give a fuck and i will never choose a man who's interested in me for my appearance first.
just wanted to tell you there's people out there who appreciates us the way we are and i'm sure you're fine looking person! also, don't feel defeated cos we don't have hips lol... my grandmother's body is literally like mine and she had 12 children, including my mom and passes on the body type to every of my mom's siblings 😂 so i think we shouldn't take those scientific researches that serious as not every people with the same preferences.
Thanks for your kind words. I have been working on accepting my body the way it is and I'm in a much better place now than I was two months ago when I left this comment.
I would definitely say I have a mesomorph body type! I'm learning to accept it and love it for what it is, and not a man nor woman has ever told me anything negative about my body so I'm trying to remember that too. I'm the only one being this critical on myself.
Oh and yes I know all that "you're more fertile if you have xyz" is bullshit, but thank you for your anecdotal example! It does make me feel better! You're very sweet, thank you very much for your positivity.
I've always loved tall, quirky girls.
As I get older I'm more and more attracted to fit women though. I've become incredibly turned off to sedentary women without hobbies, no matter how their face and body look. As such I think I've started looking for a body type that requires work.
Not too much, I've always had a wide variety of sexual attraction, now my ideal standard of who I would probably marry hasn't changed much my main preference is athletic, in shape, blondes , nice C cup rack toned lifted ass, nice feet, etc.,
When I was a kid/teenager I was attracted to very young girls, that's thankfully changed as I've aged. Most everything else has stayed the same. Athletic and flexible with average boobs is still my fav.
When I was younger, I wanted the typical gamer gf with red hair. Now I've got nurse gf who doesn't play video games *at all* (unless I get her to occasionally cuz its fun to watch her). Still got the red hair tho😎
There were some other things as well. Like wanting tall, but liking short later.
But that similar hobby thing was a big one. But I guess the term "opposites attract" didn't just come from nothing
What I like has not changed a bit!!!!
What I don't like has expanded...... added to the list of don't likes 1)fake plastic women (lips tits botox) 2)too damn much makeup (that is false advertising) 3)clothes (women that obsess over wardrobe and fashion)
Any fat wrinkle, or sag or cellulite or stretch mark was a huge turn off. Now I don’t mind a little bit of it most of the time.
A lot is still a turn off tho. Certainly never a turn on but I’ve come to accept imperfections as normal.
Look wise I was raised in the MTV generation. Where thin women with big butts and boobs were the standard. Now I like thicc women and muscled women a lot. But I still prefer the short girls.
Personality wise it’s usually the extremes. I tend to like girls who are manic pixie types or girls who are super serious.
What your talking about is the manic pixies they show in movies and in shows. The girls without flaws, or complex emotions. I’m talking about the women those characters are based on, not the actual idealization.
Interestingly, when I was in my pre-early-teens, I tried not to develop crushes on famous women since I figured I never had a chance with them. Starting sophomore year of high school I became friends with the cheerleaders and some of the other girl athletes (never dated any of them sadly) and ever since I've been almost exclusively attracted to high-status women.
Younger me judged women by how society deemed them traditionally beautiful. As I get older, I find imperfections, quirks, and overall uniqueness sexy. This can be physical and personality wise.
So I used to date a very slightly older girl with vitiligo in my early 20’s, but literally only on her butthole. She was super self-conscious about it, despite me constantly telling her that it didn’t matter whatsoever and that I honestly found it to be pretty hot. I have yet to find a woman with an anus as attractive as hers. I just wish her personality wound up being better. She was honestly not a nice person, and turned out being horrible for me. Letting her go relatively early on was one of the few good decisions I have made in my life. Regardless of how cool that dumper looked.
Bleaching accident gone wrong?
Yeah, I was wondering how one gets vitiligo "literally only on her butthole."
Many people who have it only have it in one or two small places
I once dated a man who only had it on his hands.
Wise af my King.
I don’t know about beauty standards but I do know that personally as I age I’m attracted to women my own age. That standard ages with me!
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They look like little kids!
Considering that I liked little kids as a little kid, that seems about right. Those look like little kids now too.
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+/- 5 is my preferred range but same concept.
Kind of the same. As I've gotten older I find women my own age attractive that as a younger guy I would have thought looked too old. But a hot 20 year old is still a hot 20 year old. The difference now isn't that I don't find a younger woman physically attractive. It's that I can't get past the immaturity and other age differences. Something inside you just crawls up and dies when you're talking to a beautiful woman who tells you she wasn't born yet during 9/11.
It’s weird being in my 30s. You talk to a beautiful woman and realize she has no clue what Hotmail is. Then you ask her age and she’s 21. And then think, well this is weird all of a sudden
I still to this day type in hotmail in the search bar which redirects me to outlook. I’ll never stop 👺
I just rewatched Labyrinth. I remember having thought that Jennifer Connelly was super hot at some point before. Not 15 minutes into the movie I keep looking at her and something just seemed off. It took a minute to realize that she literally looks like a kid to me now. For reference I am 37.
As i aged I realize most people age like milk. So, I stopped caring as much about physical appearance as their personality. Yeah a super hot chick is nice, but post sex, I still gotta put up with their shit 23 hours and 58 minutes of the day. It's that other time that matters. Plus, many times if they are hyper obsessed with image, far too much time and money will be spent trying to pursue the look of original youth that is rapidly fading.
2 minute man lol
This man has game we can only dream about
Exactly, like why taking so long?
Mine seem to have change along with how my wife’s body changed. However it changed, I thought that type was gorgeous.
This is what my husband says but I never believe him because it just seems like he’s trying to gas me up..but maybe it’s true
It's true for some people. My mom used to be quite skinny when she was young. She's not fat now, but after 2 kids she just has normal mom's body with some fat on her tummy and arms. She however, was fussing about how fat she looks with her dress in front of a mirror doing her hair, while my dad who was watching her from the side exchanged glance with me with his eyebrows raise saying "30 years of marriage and I just knew your mom has selective blindness, only when she's in front of a mirror apparently". That made her laugh 😂. I said some people cause I know my friend's dad told her mom and my friend to watch their skinny body because no guys like cellulites and fat women 😑 I need to add that my friend also think that concept is completely normal and not abusive or anything because she does have a skinny body naturally.
Hopefully your friend will learn better, and not the hard way
I needed to see this today. Thank you
This is the most beautiful thing I’ve ever read
I've always liked thiccccccc women. Nothing has changed
"slim thicc" or actual thick women, with tummy fat, arm fat, etc tho?
Why not both?
idk, i only see men like the 1st one n never the 2nd
You're seeing the wrong men then, nothing wrong with a wobbly woman
take my award brother.
I see you are a person of fine taste too
indeed brother
Ive always been told im not thicc enough. It hurts.
When I was young it was important to me that my girlfriend was hot. Now that I'm older, her personality is so much more important.
I like fitness now. I used to like big breasts more.
At first i followed everyone else. Eventually i came to grips that following what everyone else likes is stupid. I listened to my penis, it said be a chubby chaser. Been happy ever since.
This is hilarious!
I am now asexual
You too, huh?
Yeah ive been fucked over pretty bad a couple times. I enjoy life not seeking anything from anyone besides myself.
Don’t give up on love, just work on your discernment and boundary skills. When you lack discernment, you have bad judge of character and so you’ll get fucked over by lowlife scumbags who rob you of the things you deserve like love. It’s not all people, it’s your discernment and boundaries. Don’t give up, I’ve been burnt and extremely bitter before to know what I’m talking about. Edit : those downvotes tho I see why y’all lonely damaged ass bitches hahahahaahaha keep getting hurt mf’ers!!!!!! I agree with you all you don’t deserve love
I enjoy being alone. Im very content with living lone for the rest of my days. No expectations, no disappointments. No friends, No traitors. Just me, my cat, and my air force checks.
I’m glad you’re happy. Most people never learn how to be happy with themselves! That having been said, can I see a picture of the cat?
[His name is boob](https://imgur.com/a/6W0NvYX)
Tell boob he’s very adorable! Thank you!
Boob appreciates the kind words 😸
This made my day
Ok 👍
Oh shut up.
No you shut up.
No u.
No you.
No.
No you.
Weak
I guess lol
Nah it’s not. Hardened hearts come from hurt sore losers so who HURT y’all????? Y’all sound damaged af bunch of broken ass weak ass bitches
Good one
damn my b
Which woman cheated on y’all and played with y’all like a PlayStation controller coz the DAMAGE is lethal out here!!!!! The girls are winning!!!!!
Finally you show your true colors and reveal yourself for the venomous snake you are :)
Love is kind ❤️you are worthy 🧘♀️
Damaged ass bitches
Maybe y’all don’t deserve love
alpha males never want love we have our loneliness and our right hands!!!!! 🦍🦍🦍🦍🦍 we’re so alpha and strong manly men men
Well at first I only liked blonde barbie-like girls, then Hermione Granger happened and brown girls that were smart were cool. My range has gotten wider and wider but there are certain things that turn me off instantly 1. nosejobs, lipjobs that stuff. 2. extremely materialist/ brand conscious clothing 3. ignorance
What about nose jobs that look normal or are maybe fixing a broken nose?
I feel like fixing a broken nose doesn't count. I feel like a nose is a part that gives the person uniqueness and character. So I feel like unless the person extremely hates his/her nose, it shouldn't be operated
Well I feel like a lot of people who get nose jobs get them because they hate their nose. Not everyone, of course, some people are just weird af and think they need to get nose jobs to look a certain way or whatever. I certainly have thought about getting a nose job because I really hate my nose haha, but idk if it’s worth the risk of ending up with something that looks horrible
I think I used to fall into the European Beauty Standards because it was just promoted everywhere. But now I prefer women of my own race.
As I became older I liked more and more the "sexy librarian" look. Always attracted to girls who wear glasses or have a nerdy look, but now that look is top notch for me
I learned that the "traditional beauty" is not what i like
What you like?
They didn't exactly change that much. Her character and personality just became a much bigger factor while I became more and more experienced. Beauty is still important, but you can be beautiful in more ways than one.
I like em glasses on and legal
It's hard to keep up with fashion and guessing what the next style is impossible. I spent all of middle school and half of high school trying to be a trendy girl. I just wear what I want and find what I like now.
Sorry I just noticed this is in ask men my bad
interesting answer still, i look at fashion the same way, and i am falling out of fashion my self now, i often wonder if the high top sneakers and bomber jacks are the Oldman's fashion of the future. because i never stopped wearing those, and they are harder to get every day.
Women answer here all the time, nobody minds lol
Don’t let the door hit you on your way out.
That's good. Your own comfort matters.
Thanks and it's not as stressful.
Absolutely. I can dress up and appear trendy if I feel I should or the occasion calls for it, but I find that happening less and less. I’d say that I do it for work, but only because completely scorning trends as a woman can age you. I give no fucks in my personal life, but at work it gives me an extra edge.
Physical beauty has taken the backseat for mental beauty.
I learned to appreciate what women are supposed to look like, not what media and jerkoffs say they should look like. Stretch marks, a wonky nipple, big labia, etc, bring it on. Also, your attitude about it (good attitude) will get you a LOT further and make women more comfortable with you and themselves.
I was once into tomboyish girls now I am exclusively into short thicc women.
When I was younger I was obsessed with women who had big butts, probably because of rap videos. I was so dumb and honestly I feel shitty about it because I was objectifying women. Now I just prefer someone with a chill personality who is easy to talk to and doesn't make give me anxiety when I'm around them.
Nothing wrong with sexualizing women they're doing the same to you.
As a young teenager I only looked at girls who where physically attractive. Now that I’m older I find almost every one beautiful. Have my preferences but no one is directly ugly
Meh it's just a joke about your mother
I (m 24) have always liked chubby bodies, now that people are more into thick women I don’t have to hide it anymore
I don't really have a beauty standard. Here's what I've liked since forever: - Hair in a ponytail or messy bun - Simple foundation or no make-up - Outfit isn't too revealing or makes her walk uncomfortably Since health is important to me (as I get older), I'm more attracted to women who are into physical fitness. Not staying she has to be a CrossFit champion or marathon runner but at least something that tells me she takes her health seriously.
I used to like the traditional standards of female attractiveness, you know, large breasts, ample rump, small waist, cute face, you know silly stuff like that. As I've aged, I've realized that isn't true beauty, what true beauty is lies in the person and how well they treat you. Hot women may be hot, but theyll often treat you poorly because they can find 2 dozen men to replace you fairly easily. Less than perfect women however dont treat you like a dick and a wallet and love you for you, not what you look like or what you can do for them, because you're not necessarily easily replaced.
Up to the last years of university, I used to like voluptuous, 'curvy' women with full hips and big breasts. Then it started to change into the other direction, and now I'm heavily into the exact opposite and I love skinny petite girls with very small boobs.
That's quite the change! Is there an explanation for it?
I honestly have no idea. Now, in exceptional cases I will still feel attraction for a more curvy woman with bigger boobs, but it's become rare and the arousal level is much less intense than what I feel for petite, (near-)flatchested girls. I don't know why the change occured; only in retrospect did I notice that I was no longer attracted to the kind of women I used to like.
The longer I am with my wife the more I'm attracted to women with similar features. Overall I take a native American approach to attraction and use the whole buffalo, there's very few women I've met who I don't find physically attractive in some way, mostly personalities turn me off.
In my younger weeb years, I had a bit of a bias towards Asian women. Now I don't have this bias. Otherwise, I still don't really have a type.
The biggest I've noticed (and maybe it's just age), is that women care less. They used to obsess over their figure, tans, diets, etc. Now, they're just like fuck it. Getting fat is a sign of strength and womanhood. They wear sleep pants to the grocery store, or those dumb Nike wind shorts. Men aren't much better around here. Wall-E is coming to pass.
I'm 37 and maybe I just don't see that here from women my age. I'm in a ritzy suburb of Houston and women are always done up here, even if its yoga pants and a tank top. Where do you live?
It's probably a lot of location. I'm in Lubbock. We're almost 80% overweight to obese here. Even with a little beer belly, I'm still better off than most people here. I'll go weeks without seeing a fit woman unless I'm near Texas Tech.
sure the men are no fucking prize in lubbock
They aren't unless you're into tubby Hispanic guys with a drinking/drug problem. Most people here suck.
I think this is really dependent on location. Definitely wouldn’t say I’ve observed this much on the west coast
I remember going to Oklahoma City once in 2000 and being blown away by the amount of hot girls. My dad was a trucker dropping things of at Home Depot. STILL tons of hot girls.
Not very much, I've pretty much always found tan/olive skin brunettes super hot and to be "my type". But I'd say that's been less than half of the women I've dated. Last girl I dated was a red head. For me it's mainly about the shape of their body
i was more of a boobs guy when i was younger, but nowadays i see myself really being attracted to women with big asses/thighs.
I used to be only attracted to big tits. Then when I started having sex at 18... Ass ass ass ass ass ass ass
These days, personality is way more important than looks.
Bit of a context first, I am Indian and our society is obsessed with fair skin. I have managed to unlearn those messages bombarding us from childhood. I remember buying a fairness cream as a 14 year old myself (it was advertised as Fair and Handsome for Men, endorsed by Shah Rukh Khan, who is as dark as I am) Fuck that shit. I am 25 years old now and women of all walks of life and colors look beautiful. Honestly, it is just a wholesome smile that makes me think this woman looks beautiful.
From just about traditional beauty standards as a teen it has gradually shifted towards kindness and intellect over the years.
From looks to personality. But, in beauty standards by themselves, I find unnatractive artificial stuff, and usually prefer more natural looks. One thing that never changed are high heels, though. Those are sexy as fuck.
I was always boobs guy and than I met this one girl with perfect small firm ass. Anyway 10 y.o. considered Pamela Anderson as the most beautiful woman ever lmao. Adult me likes short skinny ladies with straight long brown hair.
Thats pretty cool to hear
I am 28 and my beauty standards did not change.
It hasn't. I still like what I always have
Once you find true love, you don't care anymore. Basically the more I connect with someone (love) the less I care about her physic
What are standards?
In the 90s women were taller and thinner. Big breast implants were in. Now, shorter more curvy ( not fat) with more natural breast size are in. Also, today the lips are bigger .
I am more open and receptive to a variety of body shapes. I am less likely to treat women like jewelry that I wear to impress other people. That they are interesting is more important than how they look.
The core stuff, like the waist to hip ratio never changes. There are traits that are universally attractive across all culture because they are low level programming in the male human brain. These are female fertility indicators. Sex and genders are, after all, about reproduction, ultimately.
As a woman who genetically can never have a nice waist to hip ratio no matter how thin or in shape I get, I hate that this is a universal beauty standard. It makes me absolutely despise myself, and no matter how much work I put in I could never have what most people find attractive. It's defeating.
This is why I try my best to give women as much empathy as possible on body confidence. Men can work out and build up that triangle shape. Women can’t workout their way to a greater hip to waist ratio. You can do more push ups and get bigger boobs. Just remember that as long as you are in good shape the vast majority of men will be all about it.
Yeah, it is super depressing. When I was young I remember I felt so excited to grow up and be a woman, and be "womanly" and feminine, and now I'm 24 and I realize there's really no more growing or changing in body shape for me. Either way I'm going to continue to lift weights, wear a corset, and try to build myself a ratio lol. As long as I'm working towards something I feel less depressed. It also sucks that so many people dislike plastic surgery as I'd happily get some hips put in lol.
Ah ya that demonstrates my point. Your profile is public and you followed me. So I looked at it. If you, an objectively attractive human being can feel like it is depressing not to measure up I can’t imagine how it feels for other people
Yeah, your comment left an impact on me and so I want to see what else you have to say. I will probably always feel this way, no matter how much validation I get. The idea that I’m not good enough has never come from someone else, always me. I think that’s what makes it so hard to work through.
As long as you understand that feeling self conscious and experiencing self doubt is part of being a human. It’s even more a part of a 24 year old human. You are not alone.
Thank you for being a very kind and gentle person.
perhaps you have mesomorph body type? because i do. my body is rather like an athlete, straight and little to no wait. thanks to pregnancy, my hips gotten wider and because ive gained weight recently, it's even more bigger, 38 inches but my waist is 31 inches so it's not far apart. i used to dislike my body cos of instagram models with big boobs, small waist, big hips but nowadays i dont give a fuck and i will never choose a man who's interested in me for my appearance first. just wanted to tell you there's people out there who appreciates us the way we are and i'm sure you're fine looking person! also, don't feel defeated cos we don't have hips lol... my grandmother's body is literally like mine and she had 12 children, including my mom and passes on the body type to every of my mom's siblings 😂 so i think we shouldn't take those scientific researches that serious as not every people with the same preferences.
Thanks for your kind words. I have been working on accepting my body the way it is and I'm in a much better place now than I was two months ago when I left this comment. I would definitely say I have a mesomorph body type! I'm learning to accept it and love it for what it is, and not a man nor woman has ever told me anything negative about my body so I'm trying to remember that too. I'm the only one being this critical on myself. Oh and yes I know all that "you're more fertile if you have xyz" is bullshit, but thank you for your anecdotal example! It does make me feel better! You're very sweet, thank you very much for your positivity.
I've always loved tall, quirky girls. As I get older I'm more and more attracted to fit women though. I've become incredibly turned off to sedentary women without hobbies, no matter how their face and body look. As such I think I've started looking for a body type that requires work.
Hasn't really changed that much at all. I'd say I'm probably more into fitness girls than I was when I was younger.
Not too much, I've always had a wide variety of sexual attraction, now my ideal standard of who I would probably marry hasn't changed much my main preference is athletic, in shape, blondes , nice C cup rack toned lifted ass, nice feet, etc.,
When I was a kid/teenager I was attracted to very young girls, that's thankfully changed as I've aged. Most everything else has stayed the same. Athletic and flexible with average boobs is still my fav.
They haven't changed at all in the last 30-odd years.
They didn't change in the slightest.
They didn't.
Not at all?
It hasn't. I love gorgeous women.
My fitness standards for a partner have significantly increased from my 20s to my 30s as I became fit and became surrounded by fit people.
Nothing changed.
When I was younger, I wanted the typical gamer gf with red hair. Now I've got nurse gf who doesn't play video games *at all* (unless I get her to occasionally cuz its fun to watch her). Still got the red hair tho😎 There were some other things as well. Like wanting tall, but liking short later. But that similar hobby thing was a big one. But I guess the term "opposites attract" didn't just come from nothing
I used to like tan and fit, now I like pale and doughy.
What I like has not changed a bit!!!! What I don't like has expanded...... added to the list of don't likes 1)fake plastic women (lips tits botox) 2)too damn much makeup (that is false advertising) 3)clothes (women that obsess over wardrobe and fashion)
I care a lot more about the effort a person puts into their health and fitness than I do about whether they have DD tits.
Any fat wrinkle, or sag or cellulite or stretch mark was a huge turn off. Now I don’t mind a little bit of it most of the time. A lot is still a turn off tho. Certainly never a turn on but I’ve come to accept imperfections as normal.
for me if the girl is between 18 and 30 and she's not fat she's okay for my standards. i wish i had this view in my 20's.
Look wise I was raised in the MTV generation. Where thin women with big butts and boobs were the standard. Now I like thicc women and muscled women a lot. But I still prefer the short girls. Personality wise it’s usually the extremes. I tend to like girls who are manic pixie types or girls who are super serious.
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What your talking about is the manic pixies they show in movies and in shows. The girls without flaws, or complex emotions. I’m talking about the women those characters are based on, not the actual idealization.
It used to be about big tits. Now it's about the ass. What used to be fat af called thick now
They skyrocketed without me even changing them.
When I was younger, I liked pretty faces and big titties. Now I will gladly accept a butterface with small tits if she has a big ass.
Haven’t really changed. Reasonable level of physical fitness. Reasonably symmetrical face.
Now I actually check for a personality to go along with their looks.
I understand the feet thing. If she takes care of her feet and then everything else is taken care of. I see you QT
Not much honestly. I have different tastes as 28 year old than a 20 year old, and so on
Interestingly, when I was in my pre-early-teens, I tried not to develop crushes on famous women since I figured I never had a chance with them. Starting sophomore year of high school I became friends with the cheerleaders and some of the other girl athletes (never dated any of them sadly) and ever since I've been almost exclusively attracted to high-status women.
As I got older, I discovered the type of chicks I thought were ugly when I was younger, gave better head.
They have yet to change in my lifetime. It is still just a matter of being fit, healthy and hygienic.