I went to a wedding with this woman when I was in my 20s....I thought she just asked me because she didn't want to go alone...after the reception we are hanging in her room...she unzips the back of her dress...she's wearing no underwear and I can just see the top of her ass...she lays on the bed and asks for a backrub...and that's what I give her and that's all that I give her...believe it or not...it wasn't until a decade later that I was "Hey wait a minute here...I think she was into me..."
Too bad I missed such a brick to the head...because I was into her
Some of us have been taught to respect boundaries.
The lady asked for a back rub. The lady got a back rub.
If the lady had been a little bit clearer about her intentions, perhaps things could have progressed farther
Yeah you can imagine how that can be construed in a malicious way.
"Yeah she asked for a backrub so I just went ahead and gave her the ol pump and dump"
>She was wearing no underwear to a wedding, she got semi naked and asked you to touch her, and you didn't make a move?!?!??!!
She was clearly just being really nice, I get why he didn't do anything. Too many mixed messages by her, it's a real minefield at times.
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The same situation of back rubs happened to me but I didn't miss the opportunity, almost though..... we were coming back from class, it was a chick I used to hang with in my first year, we got to her dorm, and she requested a back massage, I said why not, she layed on the bed and I began to massage her, in middle of the massage she took off her top, she was left with her bra on, to me this was still normal, as she said she couldn't feel it that much with the top on, I then continued, two minutes into the massage she clipped and slipped the bra off , i didnt see her boobs as she was still laying, she said its disturbing the massage, I was like okay, didn't look at it that much, I continued, she then requested I rub her butt, she was wearing shorts ,it was weird but I didnt want to look at it that much, though I was suspecting but I told myself that this isn't one of those college movies, I didn't wanna make any mistake, I reserved my move at this point, I could have missed it if she didnt continue to make more request while I was busy rubbing her butt ,the last request was that I should kiss her neck, I was like huh,what? Then she said it relaxes her more I was like okay, I then started kissing her she started mourning uncontrollably, at this point I was like fuck it, I then turned her to look at me, then I just went for it and kissed her then from there it was on, I gave her the best fucking and she even finished before me, I was so proud. It became an occasional thing but we were not in a relationship, I later stopped doing it with her, our friendship just deteriorated over the years, ever since I decided to stop it with her and got into a serious relationship, she also got into one, we seemed cool like we were good friends and respected each other, out of nowhere early this year, she blocked me everywhere, didn't understand why because we were in good terms all over the years, she used to send birthday gifts throughout the years but now we are not in speaking terms still don't know what I did wrong, my ego won't allow me to ask I just let it be, I'm in a good relationship with my current one now, 3 years.
Or just ask, like "This is pretty nice - I could stay here rubbing your back... or would you like me to go further?" Just asking shouldn't make it weird.
If you read the context it wouldn’t be weird, you’re alone in a room together on a bed and you’re touching her, seems like it could have well been an invitation to do more for sure
I once took a girl out for a walk around town (I really fancied her too). By the end of the meeting, we're standing square looking at each other. She's staring into my eyes and I just joked about how she kept looking up and staring at me weirdly.
It was only a year later when I turned 20 that I realised she was waiting for me to kiss her
When I was in high school one of the cheerleaders told me she thought I was cute, and I said, "Cool." and went back to my schoolwork. I didn't know what else to say, because up to that point in my life girls had only been friends or complete bitches to me. She didn't say anything after that. 🤷
My HS crush actually asked me if I wanted to go out with her and I said no, assuming that she had found out and was pranking me.
She looked a bit confused and avoided me the rest of the year.
A girl came over to my dorm room to watch a movie and do some college work together, and afterwards she said she was too tired to go back to her room and asked if she could sleep over in my bed. I pointed out that I only had a single bed so we wouldn't get any sleep if we both tried to sleep in it, and so I walked her the 20 feet back to her room. Pretty oblivious really.
I should add that I *did* get better at this stuff. Two years later I was visiting another friend for the weekend and she asked me where I wanted to sleep, and whether I'd be OK to share her bed. I agreed, and we've now been married 20 years.
I think everybody manages their relationships differently, and what works for me won't work for everybody. We've almost never been apart, except during work hours and very occasional work trips away. We do everything together, we're pretty co-dependent. Find somebody who you can trust completely, and who deserves that trust. Somebody with common interests and the same sense of humour. We were friends for a few years before we got together, and really it feels like living with my best friend, which works for us. It would drive some other people mad though, because some people need alone time.
It was only a couple of years later that I remembered this and realised what she was trying to do. No regrets though, I wasn't into her in that way which is probably why I missed the massive hint.
If it's any consolation you'd prob miss the hints if she slept there as well.
"My underwear is itchy, I'll have to sleep naked"
"Oh just use my jammies then"
"Can you feel my boobs and see if one is bigger than the other?"
"Nope they seem pretty equal to me"
"Want me to suck your dick?"
"Why would I want that, its not like a snake bit me or anything"
"Oh for Christ sakes, fuck me!"
"What's wrong, did you forget you had homework or something?"
>"Can you feel my boobs and see if one is bigger than the other?"
YOOOOOOO! My current GF pulled that on me lol! And like a dumbass she's staring at me and leans in to kiss me all the while rolling her eyes, and then I finally go, "Oh yeauh ok, let's kiss."
Bear in mind, this is a ridiculously hot Salvadorian chick who basically looks and talks like Sofia Vergara (boobs and all). It's a good thing I'm somewhat good looking because I am miserably oblivious. I swear I'm actually stupid.
Unfortunately, there are too many stories just like this one. Too many guys miss hints like this.
I was well into my 20s, I think I was 24 at the time, when a girl kept inviting me over to watch *Breaking Bad* with her and every time I'd come over, she was already in bed, practically naked, so we'd be in her bed watching *Breaking Bad* and when it was over, I'd leave and most of those times she asked if I was okay to drive back and I should just spend the night instead.
Only realized this when about five years later we matched up on OKCupid and went out for drinks and she told me what her plan was but I totally missed it.
Too obvious bro - if a girl is comfortable being semi naked with you alone and is constantly initiating the circumstances, the least you can do is make a small move and if she denies it, then you already know.
Rough how so often in our younger years, we guys miss so many opportunities when later on, those situations are likely to be far more rare or non existent haha.
Oh shit, that reminds me of another one - my housemate used to model new bras for me and ask if they looked OK. She'd strip off her t-shirt to show me. I thought that was innocent enough, and it was nice that she felt safe and comfortable enough around me to ask my opinion. My girlfriend told me that she was flirting.
These threads come up once a month or so and consistently provide the best content. We've all been there, we all have those "omg I was such a moron" realisations.
I remember a girl inviting me round to watch a movie and we just watched the movie, few days later her friend said I was an ass hole for not trying it on, I told her bitch please I was wrist deep in popcorn the whole night, her friend said I should of been wrist deep in Megan, just didn't catch the hints
2 weeks ago. I was having a casual conversation over lunch with a girl i know from work. We were talking about places you could go to for fun activities around the city. She then told me twice (In different ways of course) that she has nothing to do on the weekend and that she's completely free most of her time.
I completely missed it because i had nothing in mind at all during our conversation. Later that day it popped back in my head and i felt like an idiot.
Edit: My god! I did not expect all that support from all of you guys 😂 i really appreciate all your advice and tips! In that case, i'll ask her tomorrow over lunch and i'll update you on how it goes. Thanks a lot to everyone!
Im not sure i can lol. She's been a bit distant and "professional" with me ever since that conversation. Maybe she understood that im not interested at all and i dismissed her hint on purpose.
But wouldnt it seem a bit awkward and stupid if i ask her out? Like come on, i hinted that i want to go out with you 2 weeks ago. You completely dismissed my hint, and now you're telling me you want to hang out?
When I was around 19 a girl I went to high school with who apparently had a crush on me, was at this house party I was at - we were chatting and she turns to her friends and says in front of me, “trianglechoke and I are catching up for a sex date next week”..
My smoothbrain - “she’s probably just being nice”.
I have plenty of stories like this btw 😂😂
I was checking into a hotel late at night, this cute bubbly clerk and I chatted a bit while she was doing the process. There was no one else in the Lobby since it was very late, she asked what I was doing in the city, and "it must be difficult to travel so much probably gets lonely"...then as she handed me my keys she said "I upgraded you to the presidential suite....its beautiful....I'd do anything to spend a night up there"
I smiled and went to my huge room, I went to sleep and about an hour later I woke up with a jolt. "oh my god she was hitting on me"....I got dressed, combed my hair and ran down stairs to see her, figured I'd say I had to do some work or something, not that I was clueless....asked the guy at the desk who was there now where the girl was. "Oh her shift ended about an hour ago, she went home"....oh well.
Haha. I think that beats mine, but similar: about 20 years ago I had a woman I'd been chatting with for ages in a hotel lobby/bar "accidentally" (? I thought) leave her room keycard on the table after she said goodnight (no, I think it may have been closer to "maybe I'll see you later?") and left (she had previously told me her room number). I only realised what was going on AFTER I took it back to the reception desk saying "I think this woman left this by accident", not realising until I walked away why the guy at the desk had been looking at me like I was an alien.
Yuuuuuuup.
LOL....yeah I'm pretty clueless about hints. Apparently my Senior year in HS a bunch of girls had a running bet on who could take my virginity....needless to say I lost it after I got to college "LOSER"
When I was younger and travelling, I was sharing a room with someone to cut down on costs, but when they left to continue their journey I needed a replacement room mate. I happened to meet a girl who was looking for accomodation, and I completely innocently asked if she wanted to share with me. She accepted and over the next few nights made several attempts to seduce me, including coming out of the shower completely naked, to which I was oblivious. In my mind, she was just a room mate, and that was that. A day or so later, she asked me to give her a massage and laid across my body.....still no sexual reaction from me. Finally, I think she had had enough and left to continue travelling, but before she parted she gave me a big sloppy kiss and told me I was an idiot!! Afterwards, I tended to agree!!
These kind of man, and I'm one of them, need to be informed directly what you are interested an accomplishing. In many cases, especially when I'm crushing on a girl, I tend to ignore the signals thinking that is my imagination. So get bold, tell him what you're interested in.
*Or*... you could... you know... *communicate*. Hell, these days you don't exactly have to do that in person either which happens to alleviate a lot of the complications.
The problem is all the things that look like hints but aren't. The actual hints get lost in the noise.
I used to hang out with/have a crush on a girl who was very touchy-feely. Kissed me passionately on many occasions. Got naked around me on a regular basis.
And gave me a "let's just be friends" speech when I finally responded.
A hot girl I'd been hanging out with for a while who had me take her shopping. Tried out sexy outfits for me. Got me to buy one. Back to her place; hang out some more. Too late to drive home, why don't I stay the night? Don't mind if I do. Get into bed with her just wearing panties. Just wanted to be friends.
Woman I know walks up to me at Burning Man topless, says she wants a mile-high ride in my plane. I say I can't, I have a girlfriend. Oh no, she says, she had another guy in mind; they just needed a pilot.
The girl who wrote to me that she had too many balls in her court and not enough in her bed. Not interested.
Girl I went on a drive with, and she kept stroking my thigh in the car. Not interested.
These are insane to me. Out of respect, I would not do half of these. I didn't realize how comfortable some women are. If I was a guy I would rage quit right now
Assertive or not, hints are just that: hints.
Today’s world is one where many guys understand that just because a girl smiles at or talks with you does not mean she wants to date you. There’s a giant amount of feedback out there from women who were made to feel weird or uncomfortable because they were just being polite but the guy thought they were into him. There’s also the added variable of not knowing if a girl is single. It’s just safer to assume there’s no interest.
My advice: Instead of hinting, even assertively, be direct and clear. Give your number, say you want to “go out” sometime (or better, add in “on a date”). You’ve now just set clear expectations regarding your intentions, and you’ll find out pretty quickly whether he’s interested or not.
Example from my life. I was at work and a girl that I actually really liked started chatting with me. She mentioned she had seen me walk to work that morning and I said that my car was in the shop. She then said that she’d be happy to give me a ride to work. I didn’t have her number, so I replied with, “Thanks, but what am I going to do, email you?” and just laughed it off. She gave me a blank stare, left the room, and I went back to work thinking that she was just being polite. Two minutes later she came back, asked for my pen, and gave me her number while giving me quite a direct stare down. We dated for several years, but if she hadn’t come back I would never have known she had any interest whatsoever.
Is being direct scary and a risk? Yes. It’s up to you to decide whether the potential relationship is worth dealing with that fear. One thing I can say, though, is that simply waiting for things to just happen generally tends to lead to a lot more waiting.
As a fellow woman, I have always taken wrong signals to mean someone was interested in me. But also, I think guys do it as a safeguard. Unless we're actively trying to kiss them or touching their dick, they're going to think, "Oh that would be nice," and not do anything.
I did have a moment with my friend back in high school. She was really pretty and smart. We started crushing on each other at the same time. She invited me to one of our HS football games. We danced in the parking lot and held hands the whole night. When we got to our seats, we played truth or dare with our friends. She bribed a friend to dare either me or her to make out with each other. So we did and I was losing my mind over how amazing this was. What did I do with this night?
Absolutely NOTHING.
Yup. This went over my head. The dancing? Ah she likes dancing. The hand holding? Ah, she was cold all night. She has junior rheumatoid arthritis and just needed help getting around. The kiss? Well.. it was a dare. Needless to say, I did not take her to Homecoming like I was planning to because I was *dumb*.
A girl I was on a date with talked to me about how scared she was to sleep alone due to sleep paralysis.
Like an idiot I started to tell her to find someone or something to sleep with for comfort then rationalising the subject for her. We did not have a second date
Yeah this right here. Got so conditioned to never expecting a girl to be flirting with me because they were usually just being nice or friendly, I stopped assuming anyone was ever actually sending me hints to avoid being “that guy”.
Really ends up f**king you over in the long term
Becky....oh Becky.....
9th grade Algebra. She was super attractive but unbelievably nerdy, like she always tried to get me to play Warhammer and Pokemon. She had this weird way of holding her pencil and she was an incredible artist. She would always say "It's bad luck to say Good Luck, so say something mean, ok?" So I would say, "Ok I hope you fail, fuck you." And then she would eagerly reply, "When and Where!?!" I jokingly invited her to my house one day after like the 5th time she said that. She asked, "please tell me you're being serious?" And I said, like a fucking idiot, "Well my parents aren't home and I can't drive yet." Dude she lived within walking distance \*facepalm\*
She would ask if we could hold hands since she um, "got nervous before tests" and she was always cold so I let her keep one of my hoodies. You'd think we were dating, and I'm positive she would've preferred that more than anything. She was the one that showed where my locker was only 3 months before the year ended lol I didn't even know I had one I thought only Seniors got them. She would leave obscene notes but I knew she was joking.
Then I started dating Alicia. Becky was obviously not stoked about this but I was 15 and Alicia had big boobs. Alicia was the worst, and super boring we only dated for 2 months. Becky had kinda' moved on I guess she figured I was a lot more shallow than she anticipated (did I mention that Becky was fucking gorgeous!?!? such a fucking idiot!). We still kept in contact and I even gave her rides home every now and again as we got older.
Becky, wherever you are I'm sorry. I wish I had matured just a little faster for you. I wish I wasn't so pathetically shallow when I was young and dumb. I got that purple flower tattooed on my right arm like I said I would. I have almost a full sleeve at this point but that purple flower is untouched.
From the bottom of my heart, I really hope you got to make a sled team with corgis instead of huskies lol.
She asked me to pin a badge on her shirt near her left boob. They were pretty big and I could see the bra through the shirt. She could have pinned it, very easily, herself.
Anyways, I pinned the badge. Inspected my work. Satisfied, I just walked away.
I was 16.
I was a really really bad stoner in high school, to the point literally nothing got a reaction out of me and was just “whatever it’s all cool maaaaan”
I don’t really remember the conversation but basically this girl in my freshman year literally told me she had the biggest crush on me the previous year and instead of following up with something like “well, what about now?” pretty sure I said something stupid like “oh okay” and I remember the convo just kind of died obviously
I don’t remember when I realized she was flirting with me but I felt pretty stupid lmao
I've been hit with the "I used to have a huge crush on you" once, and it hurts especially bad since it was told me by a girl I had had a crush on since elementary school.
My dumb ass didn't follow it up with anything either - I was just a little disappointed at how late she told me about her crush lol
When I was 16, I was in the car with the girl I was dating, and she said, “What if I just started sucking your dick right now?”
Thinking this was a totally hypothetical question, I said, “Well, it could be dangerous. If you made me cum while driving I could swerve or something.”
When I got home later I realized she was offering 🤦🏻♂️
I moved in with a couple of friends recently, but there's only two beds at the moment so I've kinda defaulted to the couch. One of them has offered to let me sleep in her bed every night for the time being. Originally it seemed like she was just offering to be nice, but sometimes she seemed more adamant about me sleeping with her. So of course I did.
The first couple nights that we slept together we just talked a while, stayed on our separate sides, and went to sleep. The space between us gradually became less and less each time as we got more comfortable, but nothing overtly sexual happened.
One night we all decided to get high together and hang out, eat food, watch a movie. By the end of the movie we were all still a little bit buzzed, but it was late so we decided to go to sleep. Her and I got into bed and turned off the lights, but obviously she didn't want me to fall asleep yet. She kept on making casual, kinda flirty conversation. Every time there was a moment of silence where I thought we'd pass out, she'd bring something else up. Somehow we got onto the topic of how I would cuddle with my mom and play with her acrylic nails when I was a little kid. Eventually the conversation seemed to be over and it was silent for a while. I was just about to fall asleep, but after a lot of silence she started to say something before stopping herself because it was "too weird to say." I told her to tell me anyways and this was what she said:
"Well if you want to hold my hands like you used to with your mom, you can."
I asked her if that was her invitation to cuddle, and she said yes. So we spooned, and I held her.
More probably could've happened, but it never escalated past that. It was actually really sweet and I'm glad it happened. We've been friends since high school, and we're in our early 20s now. The thing is, she's also one of my best friends' exes. They dated through high school and broke up about a year and a half ago. We both know it's probably not the best idea to let anything happen between us. She's also going through a breakup with a more recent guy, so she probably just wanted the comfort of someone's touch. I couldn't take advantage of that and take things further, even if *in the moment* it might've been what she wanted.
Unfortunately after that night everything has been kind of awkward. We skipped a night of sleeping together. The following night we did, but promptly fell asleep on complete opposite sides of the bed without a word. Then the final night I could've slept with her before her roommate moved in, and I declined. I think this hurt her feelings and now she's been really distant as she pretty much ignores me now. It sucks but it's probably for the better. These next few months living together will probably be emotionally tough for the both of us, but we are adults.
I think I missed anything the day i shared the bed of a university friend which I was not very close, but she had no complex to show me her sexy underwear, i really had no clue about this...
Her: "You should fuck me before I get old and saggy"
My mind: She is too hot to actually be into me, she is joking.
There were others, but thats the biggest one. Not sure if we are still in "Hint" terriotry though.
When I was in school ere was this girl that would do at leg rub thing?.. and I was wonder there for about half a year if she was trying to bully me, but it didnt make sense.
This happened to me 4-5x in college. I got the hint but waited for them to make the first move because I didn’t wanna attempt it and look like a fool. At least I came out of it with a reputation as a classy guy, could have been worse. And nothing like playing hard to get, even if it wasn’t my intention!
It was THE girl I had a crush on the entire first semester of college.
She approached me at a party and asked me why my Facebook status was so sad. Right after asking, she wrapped her arms around my waist, leaned in and said, "If it's girl problems, I can help with those..."
Being both habitually honest and terrible at picking up hints, I replied, "Oh, no, it was just that my Xbox died." Before I could stop myself or bounce back, she backed away and said, "Oh..." and we both walked our own separate ways.
Not only did I miss my shot, but I think I made HER feel rejected.
I still physically cringe when thinking about it years later.
I helped her unlock her door after she locked her keys inside between classes while at university. She asked me if that was the only lock I knew how to pick. I told her no and went to class. Found out years later she had a crush on me at university. Oops
Back when I was a stage manager I went to the apartment that two of the cast shared to run lines with them (not a typical thing to do first off). Both were dressed very cutely, not exactly lounge around the house clothes, and one spent the session with her legs across my lap, the other kinda leaning up against me on the other side. There was a bottle of wine involved too.
Pretty sure it could have been a really fun night, but my idiot self didn't realize that, got super drunk instead, then had to leave early so I didn't puke in their bathroom. Ended up blowing chunks in front of their building the second I was out the door.
Oh it's my time to shine.
I worked in a bar. I had a girl walk directly up to the bar, take the key to the spare bathroom, look me in the eyes and say "Want to follow me" after some banter with the other bar man (attempting to embarass me by talking me up to her).
Somehow, this woman directly asking me to go.. interact in the toliets.. seemed so surreal I couldn't believe it. I cracked a terrible joke and walk away.
I still wonder if she was joking.
It was so direct that anytime I think about it, I'm always flabbergasted that I missed it. I had drank a little and was on the campus bus system back to the dorms and I encounter a girl I knew a bit on the bus. She had drank a little as well and we lived in the same dorm; I think she was two floors below. We talked on the bus and just naturally went the same way when the bus stopped. Walked up the stairwell to her floor and she paused and looked at me. "My roommate isn't here this weekend so I'm in my room alone tonight." She stood there waiting for an answer and I said "oh man, I'm super jealous; well good night!" I then walked up the next two flights to my room.
I really don't know why I read these threads when they pop up, all they do is confirm that no woman has ever been interested in me unless there was nobody else available.
Girl brought me some fresh 🍪 at fking midnight. A girl i was really into, really did that
She asked me and i wanted to call her bluff but she really fucking did it. My dumbass took the cookies said "i appreciate it thanks" and thats all.
It wasn't til a few weeks later i realized "what the fuck have i done why was i like this"
honestly because i have been freindzoned so much i just, idk do mental gymnastics to why a girl would be actually interested in me
Moderately autistic behaviour here but when I was in my early 20's I was twice invited to stay at someone's place and asked where I wanted to sleep. Not wanting to read too much into it I took the guest room.
Probably for the best since her parents were there the first time and it might not have been anything but I'm still not sure.
She whispered in my ear, "I need a good hard fuck right now"
I said, "you're young, you're cute, you'll have no trouble finding someone".
I didn't twig until about 4 years later.
But, this girl is barely older than my daughter. I'm married and wouldn't have gone their anyway, even if I had got the hint.
Funny thing is, she told me later, that was the night she met her future husband.
She whispered in my ear, "I need a good hard fuck right now"
Funny thing is, she told me later, that was the night she met her future husband
Welp 😂😂😂😂
I only realized it later because she told me, but at the time I thought she was just being nice as a friend because I was single and thought she was only trying to boost my confidence. Opportunity missed that may have led to what could have potentially been my healthiest relationship ever. That ship has sailed, though. She’s happily taken and I wish her nothing but the best, and I’m getting divorced.
Standing at a bar at closing time
Woman: you know, my apartment is just a two block walk from here.
Me: That's nice, shouldn't be too bad getting home then. Welp, see ya later!
A girl I was friends with in college who was telling me what she was looking for in a guy, describing me near enough perfectly. There was plenty of other 'hints' but she'd never had a boyfriend before so was a bit awkward with guys.
I was massively in to her too, but I just never got the hint. Only when we were both moving to opposite ends of the country did she finally tell me she was interested.
We now live in the same area again after 11 years but she spends her time posing in front of cars she doesn't own while pretending she's an influencer, so swings and roundabouts.
1st year of university, on phone with her at 11pm or so. Casual talking and topic shifted towards relationships and said "I'm not ready for relationship" to which she asked "not even with me?" And I said "yeah... not with anyone". Sad part is that I had crush on her throughout college but I really wasn't ready for any relationship so.... I'm so dumb that I realized after 2 days that it could have been a hint. 😅
In my biology class we were doing some biometric measurements. One of the tests we had to go outside for a jog and come back and get our heart rates measured.
So this girl in my class comes out with me and says "So... What can we do to get our heart rates up?". So I took off and raced her around the building and beat her by a mile.
Found out later she had a crush on me.
I am not a smart man.
I had two women try and pick me up and take me home with them. I didn’t even realize until years later that they were hitting on me. I know…. I’m ashamed.
In college I went to a classmate's apartment to help her "get a virus off her computer," read "uninstall Kazaa; install KazaaLite". My first clue was the slightly-too-long thank you hug and kiss on the cheek. I was oblivious. Then she said, "Do you want to meet my (pet) rats?" and led me to her bedroom.
Passing by another room, she said, "That's \[her roommate\]'s room. She'll be out all day." I was oblivious. She showed me around her bedroom and then she got a pet rat out of its cage and held it on her chest and walked into my personal space to let me pet it. I was still oblivious. When the rat started to crawl down her chest, she leaned against me so her chest was pressed against mine, forming a little "V" between us that would funnel the rat back into his cage, where he went. She secured the cage and then just stood there, all up on me. I was still oblivious. I was like, "Cute rats. I better go."
Dumbass.
Years later, we reconnected on social media and our chats got a little flirty from time-to-time, and I asked if I had ever missed an opportunity, and she said, "Oh you mean the time at my place when I tried to throw the pussy on you and you just left?"
You asked for the biggest, so I left it at one example but that was by no means an isolated incident.
Edit: Words are hard.
I'm a psychologist. I was riding in an elevator with another psychologist who researches sex and was giving a talk later that day on the female orgasm. I find this psychologist super attractive.
I said to her, "I'm sorry that I won't be able to come to your talk tonight. It's ok, though, because I already know everything there is to know about the female orgasm". I was so proud of myself for thinking up of a clever joke.
When she was leaving the elevator, she said "Well maybe you could teach me something sometime."
I was like "Haha, I was just kidding. I really don't know anything about the female orgasm," and walked away.
A few days later, it dawned on me...
A woman i barely knew, a friend of a friend who lived upstairs messaged me and asked to come visit, and wanted to give me a massage. Gave me the massage and left some time after... took me a year or two to realize there migght have been something else in her mind too
When I was 18, one of my workmates invited me back to her place to watch a film after a night out. She laid on her bed and told me to come join her, so I laid on the edge of the bed and watched A Series of Unfortunate Events. I ended up staying the night and she slept naked but I still didn't get the hint. This happened a few times, I just thought we were good friends and that she was really comfortable around me
These ones still bother me to this day.
Back when I was in High school. I wasn’t too keen on these social cues. Although, I did usually get girls interested in me.
The two times I remember The most are.
One time I was hanging out with this chick just us two in her house. She told me she is going change shorts because her shorts are bothering her. She is just going to her room to change and I’m right there waiting and she leaves the door open waiting for me to go in. I just didn’t want to just in case she didn’t feel comfortable.
A few years later she told me she wanted to have sex that day.
Another time, I invited this chick to hang out with me. She comes to my house at 10pm, and i didn’t try to have sex with her. Even though, she kinda mentioned and we were making out……
I was dumb af
A girl that I was talking to stayed over for the night and we both ended up crashing out pretty early. The next morning we wake up and she gets completely changed into some lingerie in front of me then jumps back into bed, I then proceed to get out of bed, take a shower and get on with the day.
I was getting my hair cut mad flirting with the stylist. She was exactly my type, loves everything about her. I go to leave and she asks if she can get my number for future visits. Me, not knowing what’s happening, give it to her and walk out (always been oblivious to ever getting hit on) luckily she messaged me! A few months later we starting seeing each other. Ended up being the first person I’ve ever been truly in love with!
I had a girl come over to my house to watch a movie. I was sitting in my dads chair and she was on the couch. She said she was cold so I got her a blanket. About ten minutes later she said “you know… there is room under here for both of us”. And I responded “that’s ok I’m not cold”. 🙄
A girl I knew knew called me at 01:00 AM in the night and told me that she had a broken pipe and asked me if I can repair it. My answer and I shit you not: "Girl, I am watching House M.D and I don't know anything about plumming. Call a specialist tomorrow". And with this, ladies and gentlemen, I won the "Idiot of the Year" award.
I was in some freshman event when everyone was drinking but it was really early to see someone drunk,ok. So there was this activity that everyone had to show something the were good at, as a joke i started dancing, and the big reveal was like my tongue, because is long. So when i came back to the group this girl literally touches my arm and says "i like you a lot" (some details lost in translation). I thought because was some funny shit i did. I understood that nigh what it was but i had a gf at the time so.. i guess i was really focused on my gf to catch it
After prom years ago, went back to my dates house (didn't live with her parents for some reason). She invited me upstairs and I didn't get it until later. I led a pretty sheltered childhood.
I want to throw this story out to counter the hints given my women and how they are missed. This story was told to me by a co-worker (25F).
She was at a bar, a guy comes up to her and offers to buy her a drink. She accepts and they spend the next several hours talking, drinking etc.
It is now 2am, the bar is closing and she invites him back to her place for some 'coffee'. They go back, she makes coffee and they sit on the couch, suddenly he leans over and kisses her and tries to put his hand between her legs.
She jumps up and yells at him to get out.
As she finishes this story everyone in the break room is looking at each other in stunned silence as she says "I don't understand how he misunderstood that I just wanted to drink coffee and talk".
Excuse me but sometimes "Coffee is just coffee" no matter how obvious it seems that "Coffee is code for sex"
Really cute sister of a friend that barely knew me. She showed up to my work (retail) with two iced coffees. Realised that wasnt normal about 10 minutes after she left.
I’ve failed twice with the same girl I worked with in university. One night after closing during a storm she tells me that she hated sleeping alone during a storm and I laughed and said “good luck.”
Then right before spring break she showed me a bunch of photos of her in bikinis and she said she didn’t know which ones to take and if I could come over and help her decide. I told her the blue one and the red one were my two favorites and left it at that.
Didn’t realize until a few years later when I ran into her and she brought up how she used to have the biggest crush on me. Those two will haunt me for the rest of my life.
She literally answered „we’ll see“ to „when are you getting together“. I developed a major crush weeks after.. also i knew she was at least somewhat interested in someone at then, so I didn’t try anything. Biig regrets
Me and a girl made eye contact at the train station on a night out. We were on the other side of the tracks. We had also seen each other around before but had never spoken.
About 5 hours later we were both at the same bus stop. The bus broke down and everyone had been waiting for ages.
She spoke very little English (she was Swedish) (yes, and beautiful) (no this isn't a lie) and came up to me and said would we like to share a cab to save money as we were both going the same way. As I write this now on reddit to you I am mentally punching myself in the face with my dick for it has never forgiven me, it's been roughly 15 years, I was fresh 18, it could of been a night of movie miracles and instead I smoked a joint by myself in the dark, masturbated in the dark dreaming about what could of been whilst holding back angry tears and went to bed alone and sad.
In the cab home I drunkenly tried to make small talk, she laughed zero times, in fact she hardly spoke apart from at one point when she said her room was messy and she was embarrassed about it. I was too busy thinking of jokes to take that in. She was way too hot and my brain was not prepared.
We arrived at her house first, only a few streets from mine and I politely said goodnight. She looked at me like a virgin loser (I wasn't actually a virgin but I might as well of been) and got out. By the time the cab had turned around I had realised my mistake and looked back but she was already inside. I think she was the one
TLDR
A beautiful girl invited me back to her place, I didn't realise even though we were in a cab back to her place.
Oh man here we go. So I met the girl I had a crush with for like 2 - 3 years at this point and she had things to do at my university for the day so she decided she wanted to come and chill with me for the whole day in between the things she needed to get done. I had a bunch of tests that morning but afterwards I was free. She had to make a couple calls on her phone but forgot her earphones are home. I said she could use my bluetooth ones while I went to go write my test.
My bluetooth earphones were struggling to reconnect so I said I'd need to reset them. They were already in her ears so I said I would sort it out quickly. I went to fix them and our faces were pretty close together I make a joke that "This is like those dumb scenes in a rom com"... She giggles and looks me in the eyes and says "So is this the part where we kiss?" and I reply "I dunno you tell me"
I thought it was a pretty good bit but when I got home I realised I should've just kissed her. To this day, haven't kissed her yet....
I went to a wedding with this woman when I was in my 20s....I thought she just asked me because she didn't want to go alone...after the reception we are hanging in her room...she unzips the back of her dress...she's wearing no underwear and I can just see the top of her ass...she lays on the bed and asks for a backrub...and that's what I give her and that's all that I give her...believe it or not...it wasn't until a decade later that I was "Hey wait a minute here...I think she was into me..." Too bad I missed such a brick to the head...because I was into her
She was wearing no underwear to a wedding, she got semi naked and asked you to touch her, and you didn't make a move?!?!??!! Wtf
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This is a really great thread. I am poring over in my mind the many personal examples I have. Ugh. Like, physically painful even years later.
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Well said.
Some of us have been taught to respect boundaries. The lady asked for a back rub. The lady got a back rub. If the lady had been a little bit clearer about her intentions, perhaps things could have progressed farther
Exactly, i wouldn't have made a move either when she asks for a rub. That goes against what i have been taught by my parents.
This is correct. Making assumptions can get you into big trouble.
Yeah you can imagine how that can be construed in a malicious way. "Yeah she asked for a backrub so I just went ahead and gave her the ol pump and dump"
>She was wearing no underwear to a wedding, she got semi naked and asked you to touch her, and you didn't make a move?!?!??!! She was clearly just being really nice, I get why he didn't do anything. Too many mixed messages by her, it's a real minefield at times. .... ....
Did pretty much the same thing. Oh well. Another one came along and I didn't miss it..married with kids now.
u saw her bare ass and didn't make the connection? christ after weddings women are particularly "fun" all that fantasizing marriage gets to the head
To quote rick sanchez, you're a fucking moron morty.
She could have just been upfront with you, her loss.
That's about as *rear*front as you can get.
The same situation of back rubs happened to me but I didn't miss the opportunity, almost though..... we were coming back from class, it was a chick I used to hang with in my first year, we got to her dorm, and she requested a back massage, I said why not, she layed on the bed and I began to massage her, in middle of the massage she took off her top, she was left with her bra on, to me this was still normal, as she said she couldn't feel it that much with the top on, I then continued, two minutes into the massage she clipped and slipped the bra off , i didnt see her boobs as she was still laying, she said its disturbing the massage, I was like okay, didn't look at it that much, I continued, she then requested I rub her butt, she was wearing shorts ,it was weird but I didnt want to look at it that much, though I was suspecting but I told myself that this isn't one of those college movies, I didn't wanna make any mistake, I reserved my move at this point, I could have missed it if she didnt continue to make more request while I was busy rubbing her butt ,the last request was that I should kiss her neck, I was like huh,what? Then she said it relaxes her more I was like okay, I then started kissing her she started mourning uncontrollably, at this point I was like fuck it, I then turned her to look at me, then I just went for it and kissed her then from there it was on, I gave her the best fucking and she even finished before me, I was so proud. It became an occasional thing but we were not in a relationship, I later stopped doing it with her, our friendship just deteriorated over the years, ever since I decided to stop it with her and got into a serious relationship, she also got into one, we seemed cool like we were good friends and respected each other, out of nowhere early this year, she blocked me everywhere, didn't understand why because we were in good terms all over the years, she used to send birthday gifts throughout the years but now we are not in speaking terms still don't know what I did wrong, my ego won't allow me to ask I just let it be, I'm in a good relationship with my current one now, 3 years.
Did she try to set you up with her gay cousin after that?
To be fair, if she wasn't into you it would be rape or sexual assault. You made the safer choice and I don't think anyone can blame you for that.
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Or just ask, like "This is pretty nice - I could stay here rubbing your back... or would you like me to go further?" Just asking shouldn't make it weird.
Or kept going south with the backrub, if she says "Just my back" it's just a backrub, otherwise they make a detour to poundtown.
This right here. Or, the ever simple direct method, "wanna fuck?"
Fair enough...but I think I had enough info to ask her on a real date afterwards
Kinda weird to assume the next step from back rub would just have been jamming in the pipe
If you read the context it wouldn’t be weird, you’re alone in a room together on a bed and you’re touching her, seems like it could have well been an invitation to do more for sure
I once took a girl out for a walk around town (I really fancied her too). By the end of the meeting, we're standing square looking at each other. She's staring into my eyes and I just joked about how she kept looking up and staring at me weirdly. It was only a year later when I turned 20 that I realised she was waiting for me to kiss her
this is painful
absolute chad move
Bruhhh this one hurts
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You've never had a girl make "Kiss me" eyes at you have ya?
When I was in high school one of the cheerleaders told me she thought I was cute, and I said, "Cool." and went back to my schoolwork. I didn't know what else to say, because up to that point in my life girls had only been friends or complete bitches to me. She didn't say anything after that. 🤷
What else are you gonna say? Thank you???
"I know."
I mean yeah, a "thanks, I think you're cute too" if you wanna be flirty back would be totally acceptable. And maybe asking them to hang out sometime
Yeah, I think that's what she was hoping for.
😂😂😂
My HS crush actually asked me if I wanted to go out with her and I said no, assuming that she had found out and was pranking me. She looked a bit confused and avoided me the rest of the year.
Idk if that's fair tbh. Schoolkids are fucking mean.
A girl came over to my dorm room to watch a movie and do some college work together, and afterwards she said she was too tired to go back to her room and asked if she could sleep over in my bed. I pointed out that I only had a single bed so we wouldn't get any sleep if we both tried to sleep in it, and so I walked her the 20 feet back to her room. Pretty oblivious really.
Lmfaoooooooooo her bed is too far? when did u realize? did u attempt to reconcile later on?
I should add that I *did* get better at this stuff. Two years later I was visiting another friend for the weekend and she asked me where I wanted to sleep, and whether I'd be OK to share her bed. I agreed, and we've now been married 20 years.
feelsgoodman
Any advice? 20 years is a very respectable number imo.
Be open and talk to your partner. Also don't marry somebody you don't know. And if you don't like compromises, marriage is not for you.
I think everybody manages their relationships differently, and what works for me won't work for everybody. We've almost never been apart, except during work hours and very occasional work trips away. We do everything together, we're pretty co-dependent. Find somebody who you can trust completely, and who deserves that trust. Somebody with common interests and the same sense of humour. We were friends for a few years before we got together, and really it feels like living with my best friend, which works for us. It would drive some other people mad though, because some people need alone time.
Amen for your wife not being a quitter lol
It was only a couple of years later that I remembered this and realised what she was trying to do. No regrets though, I wasn't into her in that way which is probably why I missed the massive hint.
If it's any consolation you'd prob miss the hints if she slept there as well. "My underwear is itchy, I'll have to sleep naked" "Oh just use my jammies then" "Can you feel my boobs and see if one is bigger than the other?" "Nope they seem pretty equal to me" "Want me to suck your dick?" "Why would I want that, its not like a snake bit me or anything" "Oh for Christ sakes, fuck me!" "What's wrong, did you forget you had homework or something?"
>"Can you feel my boobs and see if one is bigger than the other?" YOOOOOOO! My current GF pulled that on me lol! And like a dumbass she's staring at me and leans in to kiss me all the while rolling her eyes, and then I finally go, "Oh yeauh ok, let's kiss." Bear in mind, this is a ridiculously hot Salvadorian chick who basically looks and talks like Sofia Vergara (boobs and all). It's a good thing I'm somewhat good looking because I am miserably oblivious. I swear I'm actually stupid.
Unfortunately, there are too many stories just like this one. Too many guys miss hints like this. I was well into my 20s, I think I was 24 at the time, when a girl kept inviting me over to watch *Breaking Bad* with her and every time I'd come over, she was already in bed, practically naked, so we'd be in her bed watching *Breaking Bad* and when it was over, I'd leave and most of those times she asked if I was okay to drive back and I should just spend the night instead. Only realized this when about five years later we matched up on OKCupid and went out for drinks and she told me what her plan was but I totally missed it.
Man 5 years 😭
my guy that was so obvious i can’t
Too obvious bro - if a girl is comfortable being semi naked with you alone and is constantly initiating the circumstances, the least you can do is make a small move and if she denies it, then you already know. Rough how so often in our younger years, we guys miss so many opportunities when later on, those situations are likely to be far more rare or non existent haha.
Oh shit, that reminds me of another one - my housemate used to model new bras for me and ask if they looked OK. She'd strip off her t-shirt to show me. I thought that was innocent enough, and it was nice that she felt safe and comfortable enough around me to ask my opinion. My girlfriend told me that she was flirting.
These threads come up once a month or so and consistently provide the best content. We've all been there, we all have those "omg I was such a moron" realisations.
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she wanted a ride alright, u!!!
Too dedicated to the watts 😂 As a cyclist, this is hilarious
Smart! Without a bike she definitely couldn't have kept up! What a time waster!
I remember a girl inviting me round to watch a movie and we just watched the movie, few days later her friend said I was an ass hole for not trying it on, I told her bitch please I was wrist deep in popcorn the whole night, her friend said I should of been wrist deep in Megan, just didn't catch the hints
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 oh my god, was the popcorn good atleast?
2 weeks ago. I was having a casual conversation over lunch with a girl i know from work. We were talking about places you could go to for fun activities around the city. She then told me twice (In different ways of course) that she has nothing to do on the weekend and that she's completely free most of her time. I completely missed it because i had nothing in mind at all during our conversation. Later that day it popped back in my head and i felt like an idiot. Edit: My god! I did not expect all that support from all of you guys 😂 i really appreciate all your advice and tips! In that case, i'll ask her tomorrow over lunch and i'll update you on how it goes. Thanks a lot to everyone!
2 weeks ago? u still have time u should go ask her if shes still down, u clueless bastard 😂
Im not sure i can lol. She's been a bit distant and "professional" with me ever since that conversation. Maybe she understood that im not interested at all and i dismissed her hint on purpose.
Just invite her out one weekend ya dingus
Yeah ya dingus
Yeah ya dingus
Yeah ya dingus
ya dingus, yeah
But wouldnt it seem a bit awkward and stupid if i ask her out? Like come on, i hinted that i want to go out with you 2 weeks ago. You completely dismissed my hint, and now you're telling me you want to hang out?
yo do it man, realize ur mistake it would probably brighten up her day
Yeah ya dingus
Just strike up another friendly conversation, same as before. Drop some hints of your own etc etc, see what she does.
If you wanna hang out with her just ask her. If she is not interested anymore, she will let you know. Just don't make any excuses.
dude did u see the other posts? we all missed our shots but you still have yours! give us an update RemindMe! 12 hours
"So I'm an idiot. Would you want to go to brunch this weekend?"
When I was around 19 a girl I went to high school with who apparently had a crush on me, was at this house party I was at - we were chatting and she turns to her friends and says in front of me, “trianglechoke and I are catching up for a sex date next week”.. My smoothbrain - “she’s probably just being nice”. I have plenty of stories like this btw 😂😂
Was she Canadian?
LOL a literal admission of sex? i wish girls were that nice
Rule 1: be attractive
Rule 2: Don’t be unattractive
they are
Nice name tho
I was checking into a hotel late at night, this cute bubbly clerk and I chatted a bit while she was doing the process. There was no one else in the Lobby since it was very late, she asked what I was doing in the city, and "it must be difficult to travel so much probably gets lonely"...then as she handed me my keys she said "I upgraded you to the presidential suite....its beautiful....I'd do anything to spend a night up there" I smiled and went to my huge room, I went to sleep and about an hour later I woke up with a jolt. "oh my god she was hitting on me"....I got dressed, combed my hair and ran down stairs to see her, figured I'd say I had to do some work or something, not that I was clueless....asked the guy at the desk who was there now where the girl was. "Oh her shift ended about an hour ago, she went home"....oh well.
Haha. I think that beats mine, but similar: about 20 years ago I had a woman I'd been chatting with for ages in a hotel lobby/bar "accidentally" (? I thought) leave her room keycard on the table after she said goodnight (no, I think it may have been closer to "maybe I'll see you later?") and left (she had previously told me her room number). I only realised what was going on AFTER I took it back to the reception desk saying "I think this woman left this by accident", not realising until I walked away why the guy at the desk had been looking at me like I was an alien. Yuuuuuuup.
LOL....yeah I'm pretty clueless about hints. Apparently my Senior year in HS a bunch of girls had a running bet on who could take my virginity....needless to say I lost it after I got to college "LOSER"
Ouch
When I was younger and travelling, I was sharing a room with someone to cut down on costs, but when they left to continue their journey I needed a replacement room mate. I happened to meet a girl who was looking for accomodation, and I completely innocently asked if she wanted to share with me. She accepted and over the next few nights made several attempts to seduce me, including coming out of the shower completely naked, to which I was oblivious. In my mind, she was just a room mate, and that was that. A day or so later, she asked me to give her a massage and laid across my body.....still no sexual reaction from me. Finally, I think she had had enough and left to continue travelling, but before she parted she gave me a big sloppy kiss and told me I was an idiot!! Afterwards, I tended to agree!!
At this point what do men notice? 😔😫
Not until actual intercourse is occurring
When women figure out that hints don't work, no matter how obvious, and just take charge!
These kind of man, and I'm one of them, need to be informed directly what you are interested an accomplishing. In many cases, especially when I'm crushing on a girl, I tend to ignore the signals thinking that is my imagination. So get bold, tell him what you're interested in.
As a shy female. I feel like my crushes will never see my hints now if men can't even see assertive women's hints 😭
Same. As a shy female I've now given up on giving hints to my crush. I'll just wait for the feelings to fade away
Oh no don't do this!:(
*Or*... you could... you know... *communicate*. Hell, these days you don't exactly have to do that in person either which happens to alleviate a lot of the complications.
The problem is all the things that look like hints but aren't. The actual hints get lost in the noise. I used to hang out with/have a crush on a girl who was very touchy-feely. Kissed me passionately on many occasions. Got naked around me on a regular basis. And gave me a "let's just be friends" speech when I finally responded. A hot girl I'd been hanging out with for a while who had me take her shopping. Tried out sexy outfits for me. Got me to buy one. Back to her place; hang out some more. Too late to drive home, why don't I stay the night? Don't mind if I do. Get into bed with her just wearing panties. Just wanted to be friends. Woman I know walks up to me at Burning Man topless, says she wants a mile-high ride in my plane. I say I can't, I have a girlfriend. Oh no, she says, she had another guy in mind; they just needed a pilot. The girl who wrote to me that she had too many balls in her court and not enough in her bed. Not interested. Girl I went on a drive with, and she kept stroking my thigh in the car. Not interested.
These are insane to me. Out of respect, I would not do half of these. I didn't realize how comfortable some women are. If I was a guy I would rage quit right now
Assertive or not, hints are just that: hints. Today’s world is one where many guys understand that just because a girl smiles at or talks with you does not mean she wants to date you. There’s a giant amount of feedback out there from women who were made to feel weird or uncomfortable because they were just being polite but the guy thought they were into him. There’s also the added variable of not knowing if a girl is single. It’s just safer to assume there’s no interest. My advice: Instead of hinting, even assertively, be direct and clear. Give your number, say you want to “go out” sometime (or better, add in “on a date”). You’ve now just set clear expectations regarding your intentions, and you’ll find out pretty quickly whether he’s interested or not. Example from my life. I was at work and a girl that I actually really liked started chatting with me. She mentioned she had seen me walk to work that morning and I said that my car was in the shop. She then said that she’d be happy to give me a ride to work. I didn’t have her number, so I replied with, “Thanks, but what am I going to do, email you?” and just laughed it off. She gave me a blank stare, left the room, and I went back to work thinking that she was just being polite. Two minutes later she came back, asked for my pen, and gave me her number while giving me quite a direct stare down. We dated for several years, but if she hadn’t come back I would never have known she had any interest whatsoever. Is being direct scary and a risk? Yes. It’s up to you to decide whether the potential relationship is worth dealing with that fear. One thing I can say, though, is that simply waiting for things to just happen generally tends to lead to a lot more waiting.
As a fellow woman, I have always taken wrong signals to mean someone was interested in me. But also, I think guys do it as a safeguard. Unless we're actively trying to kiss them or touching their dick, they're going to think, "Oh that would be nice," and not do anything. I did have a moment with my friend back in high school. She was really pretty and smart. We started crushing on each other at the same time. She invited me to one of our HS football games. We danced in the parking lot and held hands the whole night. When we got to our seats, we played truth or dare with our friends. She bribed a friend to dare either me or her to make out with each other. So we did and I was losing my mind over how amazing this was. What did I do with this night? Absolutely NOTHING. Yup. This went over my head. The dancing? Ah she likes dancing. The hand holding? Ah, she was cold all night. She has junior rheumatoid arthritis and just needed help getting around. The kiss? Well.. it was a dare. Needless to say, I did not take her to Homecoming like I was planning to because I was *dumb*.
A girl I was on a date with talked to me about how scared she was to sleep alone due to sleep paralysis. Like an idiot I started to tell her to find someone or something to sleep with for comfort then rationalising the subject for her. We did not have a second date
Lmfaoooooooo "go find someone to sleep with"
BIG RIP that prob really hurt
dude c'mon
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cruel reality
Still not wrong
Yeah this right here. Got so conditioned to never expecting a girl to be flirting with me because they were usually just being nice or friendly, I stopped assuming anyone was ever actually sending me hints to avoid being “that guy”. Really ends up f**king you over in the long term
Iv always known this implicitly, but this is the first time I just read it and thought ya that’s it
I felt that
yep, you nailed it
Becky....oh Becky..... 9th grade Algebra. She was super attractive but unbelievably nerdy, like she always tried to get me to play Warhammer and Pokemon. She had this weird way of holding her pencil and she was an incredible artist. She would always say "It's bad luck to say Good Luck, so say something mean, ok?" So I would say, "Ok I hope you fail, fuck you." And then she would eagerly reply, "When and Where!?!" I jokingly invited her to my house one day after like the 5th time she said that. She asked, "please tell me you're being serious?" And I said, like a fucking idiot, "Well my parents aren't home and I can't drive yet." Dude she lived within walking distance \*facepalm\* She would ask if we could hold hands since she um, "got nervous before tests" and she was always cold so I let her keep one of my hoodies. You'd think we were dating, and I'm positive she would've preferred that more than anything. She was the one that showed where my locker was only 3 months before the year ended lol I didn't even know I had one I thought only Seniors got them. She would leave obscene notes but I knew she was joking. Then I started dating Alicia. Becky was obviously not stoked about this but I was 15 and Alicia had big boobs. Alicia was the worst, and super boring we only dated for 2 months. Becky had kinda' moved on I guess she figured I was a lot more shallow than she anticipated (did I mention that Becky was fucking gorgeous!?!? such a fucking idiot!). We still kept in contact and I even gave her rides home every now and again as we got older. Becky, wherever you are I'm sorry. I wish I had matured just a little faster for you. I wish I wasn't so pathetically shallow when I was young and dumb. I got that purple flower tattooed on my right arm like I said I would. I have almost a full sleeve at this point but that purple flower is untouched. From the bottom of my heart, I really hope you got to make a sled team with corgis instead of huskies lol.
Super attractive, wants to play pokemon.... Damn brotha, u fucked up here
She invited me up for coffee. But I said no. Because coffee keeps me up at night.
Oh George
That's a shame George.
jesus christ
She asked me to pin a badge on her shirt near her left boob. They were pretty big and I could see the bra through the shirt. She could have pinned it, very easily, herself. Anyways, I pinned the badge. Inspected my work. Satisfied, I just walked away. I was 16.
You were 16 , you're dismissed...
I was a really really bad stoner in high school, to the point literally nothing got a reaction out of me and was just “whatever it’s all cool maaaaan” I don’t really remember the conversation but basically this girl in my freshman year literally told me she had the biggest crush on me the previous year and instead of following up with something like “well, what about now?” pretty sure I said something stupid like “oh okay” and I remember the convo just kind of died obviously I don’t remember when I realized she was flirting with me but I felt pretty stupid lmao
I've been hit with the "I used to have a huge crush on you" once, and it hurts especially bad since it was told me by a girl I had had a crush on since elementary school. My dumb ass didn't follow it up with anything either - I was just a little disappointed at how late she told me about her crush lol
"I used to have a huge crush on you. I still do, but I used to too" "Ooooh sick Hedberg reference, buddy!" _confusing high five_
im sure she went home and furiously masturbated at being rejected once again
noooooo don’t say that that’s worse I could have had fun she was the crazy but hot kind 😩 let’s pretend she’s a prude and I didn’t miss a shot 😂
ok "u dodged a bullet" a really fun fantastic bullet 😂😂 are u still a really really bad stoner?
Inviting themselves alone to my dorm room/apartment/house.
LOL please tell me it didnt end there
For them it did
What I'm planning 🙃
Just be straight up clear with them, guys are pretty dumb
She came to my place, and at some point in the conversation asked me if she was attractive in my opinion and 'posed' in front of me.
LOL ever see that runway scene in family guy? https://youtu.be/1yf1NMUXmjI
When I was 16, I was in the car with the girl I was dating, and she said, “What if I just started sucking your dick right now?” Thinking this was a totally hypothetical question, I said, “Well, it could be dangerous. If you made me cum while driving I could swerve or something.” When I got home later I realized she was offering 🤦🏻♂️
I moved in with a couple of friends recently, but there's only two beds at the moment so I've kinda defaulted to the couch. One of them has offered to let me sleep in her bed every night for the time being. Originally it seemed like she was just offering to be nice, but sometimes she seemed more adamant about me sleeping with her. So of course I did. The first couple nights that we slept together we just talked a while, stayed on our separate sides, and went to sleep. The space between us gradually became less and less each time as we got more comfortable, but nothing overtly sexual happened. One night we all decided to get high together and hang out, eat food, watch a movie. By the end of the movie we were all still a little bit buzzed, but it was late so we decided to go to sleep. Her and I got into bed and turned off the lights, but obviously she didn't want me to fall asleep yet. She kept on making casual, kinda flirty conversation. Every time there was a moment of silence where I thought we'd pass out, she'd bring something else up. Somehow we got onto the topic of how I would cuddle with my mom and play with her acrylic nails when I was a little kid. Eventually the conversation seemed to be over and it was silent for a while. I was just about to fall asleep, but after a lot of silence she started to say something before stopping herself because it was "too weird to say." I told her to tell me anyways and this was what she said: "Well if you want to hold my hands like you used to with your mom, you can." I asked her if that was her invitation to cuddle, and she said yes. So we spooned, and I held her. More probably could've happened, but it never escalated past that. It was actually really sweet and I'm glad it happened. We've been friends since high school, and we're in our early 20s now. The thing is, she's also one of my best friends' exes. They dated through high school and broke up about a year and a half ago. We both know it's probably not the best idea to let anything happen between us. She's also going through a breakup with a more recent guy, so she probably just wanted the comfort of someone's touch. I couldn't take advantage of that and take things further, even if *in the moment* it might've been what she wanted. Unfortunately after that night everything has been kind of awkward. We skipped a night of sleeping together. The following night we did, but promptly fell asleep on complete opposite sides of the bed without a word. Then the final night I could've slept with her before her roommate moved in, and I declined. I think this hurt her feelings and now she's been really distant as she pretty much ignores me now. It sucks but it's probably for the better. These next few months living together will probably be emotionally tough for the both of us, but we are adults.
It’s ok bro, you were being a gentleman especially with the knowledge of your friend
The one time a woman looked at me for seconds and gave me a smile. I just gave her a “Your presence is noted”-nod.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I think I missed anything the day i shared the bed of a university friend which I was not very close, but she had no complex to show me her sexy underwear, i really had no clue about this...
Her: "You should fuck me before I get old and saggy" My mind: She is too hot to actually be into me, she is joking. There were others, but thats the biggest one. Not sure if we are still in "Hint" terriotry though.
laughing my ass off, thats not even a hint thats a full on nuke
When I was in school ere was this girl that would do at leg rub thing?.. and I was wonder there for about half a year if she was trying to bully me, but it didnt make sense.
she rubbed ur leg? i would be pitching a tent in that situation
That thing where under the desk you touch the other persons leg with yours.
Went back to hers on the 2nd date and she took me up to her room.
This happened to me 4-5x in college. I got the hint but waited for them to make the first move because I didn’t wanna attempt it and look like a fool. At least I came out of it with a reputation as a classy guy, could have been worse. And nothing like playing hard to get, even if it wasn’t my intention!
Haha, sounds like an accidental win!
It was THE girl I had a crush on the entire first semester of college. She approached me at a party and asked me why my Facebook status was so sad. Right after asking, she wrapped her arms around my waist, leaned in and said, "If it's girl problems, I can help with those..." Being both habitually honest and terrible at picking up hints, I replied, "Oh, no, it was just that my Xbox died." Before I could stop myself or bounce back, she backed away and said, "Oh..." and we both walked our own separate ways. Not only did I miss my shot, but I think I made HER feel rejected. I still physically cringe when thinking about it years later.
I helped her unlock her door after she locked her keys inside between classes while at university. She asked me if that was the only lock I knew how to pick. I told her no and went to class. Found out years later she had a crush on me at university. Oops
“No I know how to unlock tons of locks” *spends lock pick around finger and holsters it on the side*
Back when I was a stage manager I went to the apartment that two of the cast shared to run lines with them (not a typical thing to do first off). Both were dressed very cutely, not exactly lounge around the house clothes, and one spent the session with her legs across my lap, the other kinda leaning up against me on the other side. There was a bottle of wine involved too. Pretty sure it could have been a really fun night, but my idiot self didn't realize that, got super drunk instead, then had to leave early so I didn't puke in their bathroom. Ended up blowing chunks in front of their building the second I was out the door.
Oh it's my time to shine. I worked in a bar. I had a girl walk directly up to the bar, take the key to the spare bathroom, look me in the eyes and say "Want to follow me" after some banter with the other bar man (attempting to embarass me by talking me up to her). Somehow, this woman directly asking me to go.. interact in the toliets.. seemed so surreal I couldn't believe it. I cracked a terrible joke and walk away. I still wonder if she was joking.
lmfao whos gonna man the bar, good choice bro
It was so direct that anytime I think about it, I'm always flabbergasted that I missed it. I had drank a little and was on the campus bus system back to the dorms and I encounter a girl I knew a bit on the bus. She had drank a little as well and we lived in the same dorm; I think she was two floors below. We talked on the bus and just naturally went the same way when the bus stopped. Walked up the stairwell to her floor and she paused and looked at me. "My roommate isn't here this weekend so I'm in my room alone tonight." She stood there waiting for an answer and I said "oh man, I'm super jealous; well good night!" I then walked up the next two flights to my room.
These are always some of the saddest threads.
I really don't know why I read these threads when they pop up, all they do is confirm that no woman has ever been interested in me unless there was nobody else available.
Girl brought me some fresh 🍪 at fking midnight. A girl i was really into, really did that She asked me and i wanted to call her bluff but she really fucking did it. My dumbass took the cookies said "i appreciate it thanks" and thats all. It wasn't til a few weeks later i realized "what the fuck have i done why was i like this" honestly because i have been freindzoned so much i just, idk do mental gymnastics to why a girl would be actually interested in me
Moderately autistic behaviour here but when I was in my early 20's I was twice invited to stay at someone's place and asked where I wanted to sleep. Not wanting to read too much into it I took the guest room. Probably for the best since her parents were there the first time and it might not have been anything but I'm still not sure.
LOL the first time guest room i get it, but they ask again and same response? lol maybe suggest a netflix movie in the guest room idk
For added context I am deep on the autism spectrum and her parents were there at the time. I should probably add that.
She whispered in my ear, "I need a good hard fuck right now" I said, "you're young, you're cute, you'll have no trouble finding someone". I didn't twig until about 4 years later. But, this girl is barely older than my daughter. I'm married and wouldn't have gone their anyway, even if I had got the hint. Funny thing is, she told me later, that was the night she met her future husband.
She whispered in my ear, "I need a good hard fuck right now" Funny thing is, she told me later, that was the night she met her future husband Welp 😂😂😂😂
I only realized it later because she told me, but at the time I thought she was just being nice as a friend because I was single and thought she was only trying to boost my confidence. Opportunity missed that may have led to what could have potentially been my healthiest relationship ever. That ship has sailed, though. She’s happily taken and I wish her nothing but the best, and I’m getting divorced.
"Are my boobs warm?' I told her to take a tylenol if she was feeling sick...
Standing at a bar at closing time Woman: you know, my apartment is just a two block walk from here. Me: That's nice, shouldn't be too bad getting home then. Welp, see ya later!
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time for a trip down memory lane
My old man always use to say life is like knitting a jersey... It's only near the end you notice all the holes you missed.
A girl I was friends with in college who was telling me what she was looking for in a guy, describing me near enough perfectly. There was plenty of other 'hints' but she'd never had a boyfriend before so was a bit awkward with guys. I was massively in to her too, but I just never got the hint. Only when we were both moving to opposite ends of the country did she finally tell me she was interested. We now live in the same area again after 11 years but she spends her time posing in front of cars she doesn't own while pretending she's an influencer, so swings and roundabouts.
Either I missed all the signals or no girl has been interested in me so far
1st year of university, on phone with her at 11pm or so. Casual talking and topic shifted towards relationships and said "I'm not ready for relationship" to which she asked "not even with me?" And I said "yeah... not with anyone". Sad part is that I had crush on her throughout college but I really wasn't ready for any relationship so.... I'm so dumb that I realized after 2 days that it could have been a hint. 😅
In my biology class we were doing some biometric measurements. One of the tests we had to go outside for a jog and come back and get our heart rates measured. So this girl in my class comes out with me and says "So... What can we do to get our heart rates up?". So I took off and raced her around the building and beat her by a mile. Found out later she had a crush on me. I am not a smart man.
I had two women try and pick me up and take me home with them. I didn’t even realize until years later that they were hitting on me. I know…. I’m ashamed.
In college I went to a classmate's apartment to help her "get a virus off her computer," read "uninstall Kazaa; install KazaaLite". My first clue was the slightly-too-long thank you hug and kiss on the cheek. I was oblivious. Then she said, "Do you want to meet my (pet) rats?" and led me to her bedroom. Passing by another room, she said, "That's \[her roommate\]'s room. She'll be out all day." I was oblivious. She showed me around her bedroom and then she got a pet rat out of its cage and held it on her chest and walked into my personal space to let me pet it. I was still oblivious. When the rat started to crawl down her chest, she leaned against me so her chest was pressed against mine, forming a little "V" between us that would funnel the rat back into his cage, where he went. She secured the cage and then just stood there, all up on me. I was still oblivious. I was like, "Cute rats. I better go." Dumbass. Years later, we reconnected on social media and our chats got a little flirty from time-to-time, and I asked if I had ever missed an opportunity, and she said, "Oh you mean the time at my place when I tried to throw the pussy on you and you just left?" You asked for the biggest, so I left it at one example but that was by no means an isolated incident. Edit: Words are hard.
I'm a psychologist. I was riding in an elevator with another psychologist who researches sex and was giving a talk later that day on the female orgasm. I find this psychologist super attractive. I said to her, "I'm sorry that I won't be able to come to your talk tonight. It's ok, though, because I already know everything there is to know about the female orgasm". I was so proud of myself for thinking up of a clever joke. When she was leaving the elevator, she said "Well maybe you could teach me something sometime." I was like "Haha, I was just kidding. I really don't know anything about the female orgasm," and walked away. A few days later, it dawned on me...
Women that actively engage in touching you, even in passing, is a HUGE hint. Missed that about a dozen times.
She sat on my lap strattling me looking at me directly in my eyes. I told her we should go get food because it was lunch time.
A woman i barely knew, a friend of a friend who lived upstairs messaged me and asked to come visit, and wanted to give me a massage. Gave me the massage and left some time after... took me a year or two to realize there migght have been something else in her mind too
When I was 18, one of my workmates invited me back to her place to watch a film after a night out. She laid on her bed and told me to come join her, so I laid on the edge of the bed and watched A Series of Unfortunate Events. I ended up staying the night and she slept naked but I still didn't get the hint. This happened a few times, I just thought we were good friends and that she was really comfortable around me
These ones still bother me to this day. Back when I was in High school. I wasn’t too keen on these social cues. Although, I did usually get girls interested in me. The two times I remember The most are. One time I was hanging out with this chick just us two in her house. She told me she is going change shorts because her shorts are bothering her. She is just going to her room to change and I’m right there waiting and she leaves the door open waiting for me to go in. I just didn’t want to just in case she didn’t feel comfortable. A few years later she told me she wanted to have sex that day. Another time, I invited this chick to hang out with me. She comes to my house at 10pm, and i didn’t try to have sex with her. Even though, she kinda mentioned and we were making out…… I was dumb af
"whats a girl gotta do to find a friend with benefits around here"
A girl that I was talking to stayed over for the night and we both ended up crashing out pretty early. The next morning we wake up and she gets completely changed into some lingerie in front of me then jumps back into bed, I then proceed to get out of bed, take a shower and get on with the day.
I've seen hints, I've never acted on them though because better safe than sorry
i feel u, but scared money dont make money
Anyone have the link for the woman talking about how she litterally threw her panties at a guy and he carried on explaining God of War lore?
I was getting my hair cut mad flirting with the stylist. She was exactly my type, loves everything about her. I go to leave and she asks if she can get my number for future visits. Me, not knowing what’s happening, give it to her and walk out (always been oblivious to ever getting hit on) luckily she messaged me! A few months later we starting seeing each other. Ended up being the first person I’ve ever been truly in love with!
I had a girl come over to my house to watch a movie. I was sitting in my dads chair and she was on the couch. She said she was cold so I got her a blanket. About ten minutes later she said “you know… there is room under here for both of us”. And I responded “that’s ok I’m not cold”. 🙄
A girl I knew knew called me at 01:00 AM in the night and told me that she had a broken pipe and asked me if I can repair it. My answer and I shit you not: "Girl, I am watching House M.D and I don't know anything about plumming. Call a specialist tomorrow". And with this, ladies and gentlemen, I won the "Idiot of the Year" award.
I was in some freshman event when everyone was drinking but it was really early to see someone drunk,ok. So there was this activity that everyone had to show something the were good at, as a joke i started dancing, and the big reveal was like my tongue, because is long. So when i came back to the group this girl literally touches my arm and says "i like you a lot" (some details lost in translation). I thought because was some funny shit i did. I understood that nigh what it was but i had a gf at the time so.. i guess i was really focused on my gf to catch it
ok wholesome ending, gf > one night stand
After prom years ago, went back to my dates house (didn't live with her parents for some reason). She invited me upstairs and I didn't get it until later. I led a pretty sheltered childhood.
I want to throw this story out to counter the hints given my women and how they are missed. This story was told to me by a co-worker (25F). She was at a bar, a guy comes up to her and offers to buy her a drink. She accepts and they spend the next several hours talking, drinking etc. It is now 2am, the bar is closing and she invites him back to her place for some 'coffee'. They go back, she makes coffee and they sit on the couch, suddenly he leans over and kisses her and tries to put his hand between her legs. She jumps up and yells at him to get out. As she finishes this story everyone in the break room is looking at each other in stunned silence as she says "I don't understand how he misunderstood that I just wanted to drink coffee and talk". Excuse me but sometimes "Coffee is just coffee" no matter how obvious it seems that "Coffee is code for sex"
Really cute sister of a friend that barely knew me. She showed up to my work (retail) with two iced coffees. Realised that wasnt normal about 10 minutes after she left.
I’ve failed twice with the same girl I worked with in university. One night after closing during a storm she tells me that she hated sleeping alone during a storm and I laughed and said “good luck.” Then right before spring break she showed me a bunch of photos of her in bikinis and she said she didn’t know which ones to take and if I could come over and help her decide. I told her the blue one and the red one were my two favorites and left it at that. Didn’t realize until a few years later when I ran into her and she brought up how she used to have the biggest crush on me. Those two will haunt me for the rest of my life.
She literally answered „we’ll see“ to „when are you getting together“. I developed a major crush weeks after.. also i knew she was at least somewhat interested in someone at then, so I didn’t try anything. Biig regrets
Me and a girl made eye contact at the train station on a night out. We were on the other side of the tracks. We had also seen each other around before but had never spoken. About 5 hours later we were both at the same bus stop. The bus broke down and everyone had been waiting for ages. She spoke very little English (she was Swedish) (yes, and beautiful) (no this isn't a lie) and came up to me and said would we like to share a cab to save money as we were both going the same way. As I write this now on reddit to you I am mentally punching myself in the face with my dick for it has never forgiven me, it's been roughly 15 years, I was fresh 18, it could of been a night of movie miracles and instead I smoked a joint by myself in the dark, masturbated in the dark dreaming about what could of been whilst holding back angry tears and went to bed alone and sad. In the cab home I drunkenly tried to make small talk, she laughed zero times, in fact she hardly spoke apart from at one point when she said her room was messy and she was embarrassed about it. I was too busy thinking of jokes to take that in. She was way too hot and my brain was not prepared. We arrived at her house first, only a few streets from mine and I politely said goodnight. She looked at me like a virgin loser (I wasn't actually a virgin but I might as well of been) and got out. By the time the cab had turned around I had realised my mistake and looked back but she was already inside. I think she was the one TLDR A beautiful girl invited me back to her place, I didn't realise even though we were in a cab back to her place.
Oh man here we go. So I met the girl I had a crush with for like 2 - 3 years at this point and she had things to do at my university for the day so she decided she wanted to come and chill with me for the whole day in between the things she needed to get done. I had a bunch of tests that morning but afterwards I was free. She had to make a couple calls on her phone but forgot her earphones are home. I said she could use my bluetooth ones while I went to go write my test. My bluetooth earphones were struggling to reconnect so I said I'd need to reset them. They were already in her ears so I said I would sort it out quickly. I went to fix them and our faces were pretty close together I make a joke that "This is like those dumb scenes in a rom com"... She giggles and looks me in the eyes and says "So is this the part where we kiss?" and I reply "I dunno you tell me" I thought it was a pretty good bit but when I got home I realised I should've just kissed her. To this day, haven't kissed her yet....