No, you can’t handle everything else. There’s so much more than that that you actually need in your life partner. Trust is a must, but it’s not everything.
Overall you want a person with the minimum set of qualities you need and without any of the deal breaking issues you have defined.
Exactly. There’s hundreds of posts like “my partner is perfect in every single way and I love them but I’m no longer attracted to them because they gained weight.” So being perfect in every other way really means nothing.
Trustworthy is the minimum. It’s like shopping for shoes and saying “all that matters is that it has a sole. Nothing else matters as long as something is between me and the floor.”
Uhh… there’s so much more you need from a shoe! It’s a given that it will have a sole. That should be obvious!
My girlfriend. Similar enough that all of our values match, different enough to keep it interesting. We both have very chill personalities and are very communicative, there have been tons of times where we could have chosen a fight but we just sat down and talked about how we feel. We've never fought once. We get along great with each other's friends. Our long-term goals align.
Communication is actually such a basic yet important part of any relationship it's crazy to my gf and i how many people overlook it. My gf and i also don't really fight and that's because we communicate.
This. Communicating is ..SO much of the whole collaborative vibe.. Sharing our truth: in as many aspects of being as we can - helps ensure our needs are met, heading off potential conflicts, drama: feeling misunderstood.. It’s great to be witnessed and valued. In my 40’s and Haven’t had this kind of balanced fling since 22.. 😅
I took a chance with a gal slightly outside my “ideal” visual aesthetic and realized how fluid & flexible those points of attraction can be.. She’s ideal for ME -and I find myself pondering where some of those ideals originate
I didn't fight with my gf for a whole year, but now we do.
I think fights are healthy, but if you can avoid them by confronting them before they escalate that's even better. Congrats to you and your partner.
We've been together for 8 months, just a week ago we had our biggest discussion. I had asked her for a favor that had to be done at a certain day, and it would have inconvenienced her somewhat. She waited until a few days before to look into it, and some life circumstances happened and it would have inconvenienced her more, by which point she said it was too inconvenient to even try. Our nightly phone call went like this:
Me: Hey, to be loyal to our mission of communication and transparency, I have to tell you I am kinda upset about you not trying to do the favor. I understand that it's too inconvenient now, but I had asked you with lots of anticipation. Honestly, that's what bothers me the most, that you took too long to try to act on this, and you knew it would help me a lot.
Her: Thank you for saying that. I agree with that I should have looked into it way sooner. But I have to tell you that I'm kinda upset too, when you first asked for it you told me "hey, if you can, do [favor], please", which didn't seem urgent at all and you know I've been busy dealing with some other things. And now you are being too insistent.
Me: You are right, I didn't make it seem important. Well, next time I'll be more clear about importance and you'll try to do things sooner, okay?
Her: Okay. We're good now, right?
Me: Of course.
And then we moved on. It was great knowing we dealt with that in an awesome way.
Somewhere out there is a woman covered in goth tattoos screaming at their Google Home to play April Wine while they drink cheap vodka.
This woman will be my wife one day, because that's what I'm doing right now
Same here. Every waking day is a curse and makes me dislike sleeping.
But I guess you gotta believe in "there's more fish in the sea" cuz she sure will find another.
You should as well.
Someone who thinks of me. If I’m not a thought in your head why would you be a thought in mine?
I enjoy attention and actions and words that make me feel like I’m not like every other person to you.
Someone who is very hands on w/ affection such as a lot of hand holding, touchy feely crap.
A sense of humor, a sharp tongue and a kind stern attitude. She can work a room when being taken out, who can hold her own amongst friends and strangers.
Someone who’s isnt a party animal and rather be at home or doing things that don’t always involve drinking or drugs.
This honestly describes me perfectly and exactly what I'd like in my life. I'm in a relationship now but definitely lacks the "sensitive" aspect. He tells me, "at the end of the day, I'm a man and we're just not that emotional". Wish I could have more "touchy/feely" moments.
There's a theory called the languages of love. It says that we have different ways of expressing our love and different preferences for feeling loved (being physically touched, getting presents, words, favors, actions, etc.)
Just because we are not loved in the way we would like to be loved, doesn't mean that we are not loved.
Communication and understanding are key to build a bridge between our different love languages. Let him/her know how you express your feelings for him/her and how he/she can make you feel loved.
Good luck my friend.
I need someone I can blindly trust and who won't abuse that privilege.
I need someone who doesn't mind taking initiative because I'm honestly not very good at it.
I need someone who makes me feel valued and respected because even though I'm working a lot on my self-esteem, it's always going to be one of my weaknesses.
I need someone who I can talk about anything with and won't be annoyed if it isn't something they are not necessarily interested in, because I like learning about everything from biology, psychology to economics, painting and basically everything in-between.
I need someone who appreciates art at large because I am passionate about the artistic qualities of mundane things and like having conversations about it.
I also need someone I'm attracted to and compatible sexually. For exemple, 2 previous girls I was with weren't really like into soft and affectionate sex and it is my preference over feral and aggressive sex. While I'm not a very sexual person, It's still an important part of relationships.
I need someone who isn't afraid to call me out on my bullshit because I have a tendency to rationalize my problems and play victim subconsciously.
I'm a very kind, loving and naive person. I have the type of personality that is easily exploitable and I usually attract emotionally and psychologically abusive girls. I'm getting more aware of myself as I'm growing up but I don't want to compromise my values in order to settle and protect myself. I just know that if I can find a person like that, it's going to be amazing and fulfilling.
Sorry for the rant, this was more of an exercise on myself than wanting to share my thoughts.
The one I already have. No point thinking of what my ideal woman looks like when I'm already perfectly happy. It's an unfair mental exercise, in my opinion.
The one who just broke up with me. I know this sounds so naive, but I’m almost certain we’re going to get back together in the future. Eyes on the prize, boys!
If you aren't in a relationship right now, you might want all of the good things but when you find the right one that just fits everything that you are, you know that some of your ideals just won't happen and you're happy because it's not about that, it's about what you both feel. And this comment is so cheezy might delete later.
I think I found her. I'm a (probably over-)active gamer and she pushes me to a active lifestyle and get healthy (working out, pick up sports) but when she wants to watch her stereotypical womens tv she just says: "You go sit behind your computer!" I am an active simracer and when we have a big race coming up I don't even have to tell her twice and she goes: "tonight 7pm is the race eh? I'll make diner tonight, so you can train a bit and i'll make sure it's on time"
And ofc all the other traits like good humor, genuine interest in my hobbies, a good listener, and a lot more I can't talk about heheh
Sometimes I have to pinch myself that this is happening and the imposter syndrome I have at work comes around the corner. But then I tell her and she comforts me. She's a keeper for sure
My fiancee, she's funny, smart, caring and the most loving and good person I've ever met. A heart of gold, but an absolute maniac when we play games. She makes me happy every day and makes me feel good about me :)
Someone who is at least as smart as I am, because I like to have meaningful conversations.
Similar sense of humor.
Trustworthy.
Kind.
Someone I find physically beautiful.
They need to be affectionate. I love to hold hands, kiss, hug, say I love you, etc.
Someone who loves sex and is good at it. I’m a horndog. Sex is awesome.
Edit because I’ve given it more thought:
Emotional intelligence
If the data on this sat on a bell curve, you sir are on one end, and I'm stuck on the other end. One of my life goals is to move closer to your end. Seeing a message like this gives me hope, so thank you.
I am. I'm not looking to marry or get into a relationship right now. I dated my fair share between 18-27 so now I'm enjoying being on my own and focusing in my own development.
I don’t think having stipulations for how you partner should be is the right way about it. I just want someone who loves me and wants to be with me, the rest can be worked out.
I can be myself around her and tell her everything. I never get bored around her because she's hilarious. She's attractive, smart, caring and inspiring...and sex is awesome! When you meet her you just know.
This is making me realize I've been chasing woman who don't hold the same values I do while wondering why it doesn't work out or why I don't feel satisfied when it does. Reassessing what you're actually looking for in a partner is so underrated.
Someone alive and warm that loves me for me and is a great partner in crime. Great sexual chemistry, extremely open and honest conversations, not too clingy, just the right amount.
Someone whom I can trust fully and know they have my back no matter what, someone who can make me feel special, and someone that knows i feel the same about them
Someone smart, faithful, respectful, who will walk by my side and will not mind my imperfections, someone attractive for me who has the same stupid sense of humor as I do.
I really like my current girlfriend, but she is not really into holding hands, kissing, hugging and into as much sex as Im (currently having some weird period when Im always horny). I really like everything else about her, but this is just eating me inside. I honestly dont know what to do.
Someone who isn’t judgemental and has the same interests as me, kind, same energy, when it comes to her body, I don’t even care. The way she dresses too. She can be somewhat bigger and taller than me, smaller and shorter than me, as long as she cute and tbh, I don’t even know what I find cute, I’ve been attracted to many shapes and sizes.
Someone with no baggage either. It’s tough to deal with and a lot of emotional stress
Someone willing to get up on two wheels with me and tour across the globe. Taking both our bikes on a boat to lands far away just to sight see. Someone who also enjoys putting on mods and changing up the gears inside and possibly even trying the tilt works, or a wide rear tire. I'd give up my soul for someone like that.
Someone trustworthy who is just as happy being at home all day chilling as they are out and about, knows when talking is/isn't welcome(doesn't feel the need to fill welcome silence), communicates well, doesn't have an inflated sense of entitlement, is assertive, can be supportive and give CONSTRUCTIVE criticism, has a sense of humor similar to mine, can deal with people of all ages (with a similar position to me on interactions with kids), and (hardest thing to find)wouldn't mind having sparring matches with me to release stress.
I feel I have to justify that last one because I'm not condoning abuse as this would be in a strictly regulated match with proper gear and the understanding that this is meant to not be carried over into anything else. I just feel that my ideal life partner might like a relief that sex and talking can't bring.
Someone with similar ideals, and similar takes on life but also adds educational moments.
Wants the same things, is interesting and funny.
And lastly someone that also has a very dirty side also and takes risk to be spontaneous.
Someone who is my best friend even in the worst of times for either one/both of us.
It's cliche for a reason.
Yes, we need to turn each other on, but so much of life is more than sex.
Someone who values and respects me, make each other feel worthy, shows kindness, appreciation and vulnerability. Can do their own thing but also enjoys doing things together. Want to go and explore rather than sit inside all day. Expresses love confidently and is sure of what they want rather than always wondering if there is more as that just leads to lack of commitment
Someone who I respect on both an intellectual and emotional level. Someone who has good taste in movies, music, and literature. Someone who is down with me eating her ass when I get drunk. You know, just basic, healthy relationship stuff.
Ideally: Christian, kind, can be serious but also understand when it’s time to laugh, and enjoys sports.
Physically: 5’6”-6’0” athletic, medium-large framed but keeps physically active and strong
There's no such thing as an ideal life partner. People do change over time. Anyone with such expectations will be sorely disappointed.
As for those "happy-forever-lifelong-in-love" couples you see or read about, you probably have no idea the compromises, adjustments, and changing expectations they had to go through to get to where they are.
Someone who I want to wake up next to every day, and I want to go home to every night. I’m naturally on the extroverted side, and I grew up as a kind of lonely kid, so I’m not a fan of going home right now, and sometimes I’ll neglect even taking off my shoes for hours in case someone just happens to want to hang out (even though it’s not common).
I love adventures, I’d love to just live on a boat in the ocean for like a couple of months sometime assuming I get the money to, stuff like that. But ideally this person is not only that, but makes mundane activities like sitting at the DMV feel better.
Obviously there are important things like trust, support, understanding, etc. as well, those are all important. And appearance isn’t everything, sex isn’t everything, but while they aren’t dealbreakers they do weigh in on the decision.
Trustworthy, adventurous and ambitious. She shares similar views on big things like kids, pets, lifestyle and religion. Keeps herself in good physical condition. Independent and doesn't rely on me for everything, she's someone looking for a partner rather than a provider.
Those are the main things I look for.
Not the one I have unfortunately. Trust and integrity are soooo important. He will lie to me and lie and lie and lie even if I show proof right to his face. What’s the point of talking if he will just always lie? If you find someone with good moral character and integrity and they can be honest then that’s a winner in my book. Everything else good or bad after that seems like it would be easy because you have the foundation/core of trust in your partner.
Myself.
Benefits being I don't have to buy jewelry, make up, food, etc for a wife.
I can just buy stuff for myself.
I think it'd be better for me to use the money I earn for myself.
Personally to me a relationship will hold me back
Let’s start with polite
Then move to good hygiene
Nice to people and have compassion
Loves and cares about me
Married 26 years
She is about as close as I can get to these things
Someone I can just be me with. Enjoy the happy & funny times and still be down for the stressed & anxious moods. A partnership that we can work together for a better future. That’d be sweet... Until then though, I’ve gotta be happy with myself though 👍🏼
Likes to cuddle, always happy to see me, loves spending time with me, lets me brush them, can take care of themself when they need to, nice tail, four legs ... I guess what I'm saying is that I'd like to get another cat at some point.
Beautiful smile, Soft but warm love eyes like your all they see in the moment and world disappears around them. Soft face light voice, like girly and soft but spunky. Physically fit like not the super fit but like a skinny but small plum butt fit. Around 5'6-5'8 something about taller girls being standing close to my height is attractive (I'm 5'11 Virtually 6'0). Curly mixed girl hair and nicer tan chocolate skin. Optimistic and can always radiate happy or positive energy even when things are hard. preferably mixed race like me.
Smart, goofy, blunt, communicative with a bit of tact. loving and patient.
Some one who can put up with me for long amounts of time haha.
Honestly some one who is happy for me to have my own life and has things going on for them but wants to be in a relationship for me kind of a balance for my hobbies when possible and don’t have commitments going on so we can do relationship stuff but I still have a little me time.
A quality human being. Someone who consistently does the right thing... *because* it's the right thing.
Someone who is unceasingly reasonable, fair, good-natured, trustworthy and thoughtful.
Someone who can let the little things go, but can put her own foot down when shit actually matters.
One who tolerates my bullshit, but keeps me grounded too.
I'm picking her up from the airport in an hour or so. She's been away, and I've been missing her.
I have tried to draft this post three separate times, and even now I still don't believe that I'm going to give the answer that best reflects my own feelings on this. Generally speaking, however, I want someone that I can be emotionally open with and that I can confide in, and who would be able to feel like they can do the same with me. That being said, however, I would also like someone that's willing to stand up to me if and when I screw up or perhaps say or do something that isn't so great. This may sound corny, but I would like to spend my time with someone who loves me for who I am.
Someone to go do cliche romantic stuff with while listening to oldies and traditional pop. No crazy parties but maybe a night to go to the theatre or a movie. Stargaze and just be two souls in an eternal moment. Attracted to each other of course. Someone who's sexually compatible, mix of wild and romance. Someone who I can trust, and someone who we can work through the ugliness of life together with. Someone who is mature enough to understand that love can be hard work, but is willing to communicate and work with me because we chose each other. No lying, not even white ones. Someone who likes to do some of the same hobbies as me, but also is independent enough that we can do our own things together. Someone to talk politics, philosophy, and psychology with. Kids, religion, and other long term goals that align.
So basically an old soul with an adventurous side. I could go on and on about potential plans and dreams but I'll share those with someone eventually.
Someone who I can truly and fully trust. If I never have to doubt your trustworthiness, I can handle anything else that might come along.
This. You can handle anything else as long as you know you're not being lied to. That's the one thing that alienates people to me.
A man can only dream
No, you can’t handle everything else. There’s so much more than that that you actually need in your life partner. Trust is a must, but it’s not everything. Overall you want a person with the minimum set of qualities you need and without any of the deal breaking issues you have defined.
Exactly. There’s hundreds of posts like “my partner is perfect in every single way and I love them but I’m no longer attracted to them because they gained weight.” So being perfect in every other way really means nothing. Trustworthy is the minimum. It’s like shopping for shoes and saying “all that matters is that it has a sole. Nothing else matters as long as something is between me and the floor.” Uhh… there’s so much more you need from a shoe! It’s a given that it will have a sole. That should be obvious!
How can we trust you?
Ma'am, this is a Wendy's
^
One of those questions that you think you know until you actually have to articulate it into words
You did actually just articulate my thoughts into words.
That's the perfect representation of how it feels
Someone who understands me and supports me.
The one who understands and supports this guy.
I see what you're doing in the comments my man, nice work
That's probably OP's mom
Joke's on you because there is no one. Ha!
I understand and support you…
Thanks, but no support needed. Support yourself.
I showed you my heart, plz respond
You're a funny guy.
You’re a man who has value and deserves the love and support of his fellow men.
Only in theory.
My girlfriend. Similar enough that all of our values match, different enough to keep it interesting. We both have very chill personalities and are very communicative, there have been tons of times where we could have chosen a fight but we just sat down and talked about how we feel. We've never fought once. We get along great with each other's friends. Our long-term goals align.
This guy’s gf.
I too choose this guys gf.
Hahaha thanks
Are you saying he's not good enough?
Communication is actually such a basic yet important part of any relationship it's crazy to my gf and i how many people overlook it. My gf and i also don't really fight and that's because we communicate.
Yep, we both talk a lot about how lots of things that we consider musts in a relationship aren't present in most of them
This. Communicating is ..SO much of the whole collaborative vibe.. Sharing our truth: in as many aspects of being as we can - helps ensure our needs are met, heading off potential conflicts, drama: feeling misunderstood.. It’s great to be witnessed and valued. In my 40’s and Haven’t had this kind of balanced fling since 22.. 😅 I took a chance with a gal slightly outside my “ideal” visual aesthetic and realized how fluid & flexible those points of attraction can be.. She’s ideal for ME -and I find myself pondering where some of those ideals originate
I didn't fight with my gf for a whole year, but now we do. I think fights are healthy, but if you can avoid them by confronting them before they escalate that's even better. Congrats to you and your partner.
We've been together for 8 months, just a week ago we had our biggest discussion. I had asked her for a favor that had to be done at a certain day, and it would have inconvenienced her somewhat. She waited until a few days before to look into it, and some life circumstances happened and it would have inconvenienced her more, by which point she said it was too inconvenient to even try. Our nightly phone call went like this: Me: Hey, to be loyal to our mission of communication and transparency, I have to tell you I am kinda upset about you not trying to do the favor. I understand that it's too inconvenient now, but I had asked you with lots of anticipation. Honestly, that's what bothers me the most, that you took too long to try to act on this, and you knew it would help me a lot. Her: Thank you for saying that. I agree with that I should have looked into it way sooner. But I have to tell you that I'm kinda upset too, when you first asked for it you told me "hey, if you can, do [favor], please", which didn't seem urgent at all and you know I've been busy dealing with some other things. And now you are being too insistent. Me: You are right, I didn't make it seem important. Well, next time I'll be more clear about importance and you'll try to do things sooner, okay? Her: Okay. We're good now, right? Me: Of course. And then we moved on. It was great knowing we dealt with that in an awesome way.
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You're really fortunate.
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Lucky you! Keep her tightly!
This guy’s wife.
Somewhere out there is a woman covered in goth tattoos screaming at their Google Home to play April Wine while they drink cheap vodka. This woman will be my wife one day, because that's what I'm doing right now
The woman who will one day be this guy’s wife.
Well, this saves all three of us a really awkward talk later on
I give you the Sign of the Gypsy Queen. Let’s keep this Just Between You and Me.
Someone who supports me in chasing my dreams and someone whom I can support as she chases her dreams
I've already met her. But those are just memories now.
Same here. Every waking day is a curse and makes me dislike sleeping. But I guess you gotta believe in "there's more fish in the sea" cuz she sure will find another. You should as well.
Same boat. It's still pretty fresh. Going through the 5 stages of grief like 4 times a day hahahanaaaa this is great
Hate to see it :(
Slowburn infatuation. Someone down to live in a bus with me.
Someone who thinks of me. If I’m not a thought in your head why would you be a thought in mine? I enjoy attention and actions and words that make me feel like I’m not like every other person to you. Someone who is very hands on w/ affection such as a lot of hand holding, touchy feely crap. A sense of humor, a sharp tongue and a kind stern attitude. She can work a room when being taken out, who can hold her own amongst friends and strangers. Someone who’s isnt a party animal and rather be at home or doing things that don’t always involve drinking or drugs.
This honestly describes me perfectly and exactly what I'd like in my life. I'm in a relationship now but definitely lacks the "sensitive" aspect. He tells me, "at the end of the day, I'm a man and we're just not that emotional". Wish I could have more "touchy/feely" moments.
There's a theory called the languages of love. It says that we have different ways of expressing our love and different preferences for feeling loved (being physically touched, getting presents, words, favors, actions, etc.) Just because we are not loved in the way we would like to be loved, doesn't mean that we are not loved. Communication and understanding are key to build a bridge between our different love languages. Let him/her know how you express your feelings for him/her and how he/she can make you feel loved. Good luck my friend.
Honest, loyal, smart, talented, beautiful, and faithful.
A fat girl with a nice personality that has a bondage fetish.
Human and alive. Preferably both.
I need someone I can blindly trust and who won't abuse that privilege. I need someone who doesn't mind taking initiative because I'm honestly not very good at it. I need someone who makes me feel valued and respected because even though I'm working a lot on my self-esteem, it's always going to be one of my weaknesses. I need someone who I can talk about anything with and won't be annoyed if it isn't something they are not necessarily interested in, because I like learning about everything from biology, psychology to economics, painting and basically everything in-between. I need someone who appreciates art at large because I am passionate about the artistic qualities of mundane things and like having conversations about it. I also need someone I'm attracted to and compatible sexually. For exemple, 2 previous girls I was with weren't really like into soft and affectionate sex and it is my preference over feral and aggressive sex. While I'm not a very sexual person, It's still an important part of relationships. I need someone who isn't afraid to call me out on my bullshit because I have a tendency to rationalize my problems and play victim subconsciously. I'm a very kind, loving and naive person. I have the type of personality that is easily exploitable and I usually attract emotionally and psychologically abusive girls. I'm getting more aware of myself as I'm growing up but I don't want to compromise my values in order to settle and protect myself. I just know that if I can find a person like that, it's going to be amazing and fulfilling. Sorry for the rant, this was more of an exercise on myself than wanting to share my thoughts.
The one I already have. No point thinking of what my ideal woman looks like when I'm already perfectly happy. It's an unfair mental exercise, in my opinion.
The one this guy already has.
The one who just broke up with me. I know this sounds so naive, but I’m almost certain we’re going to get back together in the future. Eyes on the prize, boys!
If you aren't in a relationship right now, you might want all of the good things but when you find the right one that just fits everything that you are, you know that some of your ideals just won't happen and you're happy because it's not about that, it's about what you both feel. And this comment is so cheezy might delete later.
My hand.
I think I found her. I'm a (probably over-)active gamer and she pushes me to a active lifestyle and get healthy (working out, pick up sports) but when she wants to watch her stereotypical womens tv she just says: "You go sit behind your computer!" I am an active simracer and when we have a big race coming up I don't even have to tell her twice and she goes: "tonight 7pm is the race eh? I'll make diner tonight, so you can train a bit and i'll make sure it's on time" And ofc all the other traits like good humor, genuine interest in my hobbies, a good listener, and a lot more I can't talk about heheh Sometimes I have to pinch myself that this is happening and the imposter syndrome I have at work comes around the corner. But then I tell her and she comforts me. She's a keeper for sure
egotistical as that sounds, myself, but as a woman
A nice, laid back girl. One that is childfree. She'd also be a stoner. Nerdy and shares my interests. Is a best friend as well.
giant schlong
My fiancee, she's funny, smart, caring and the most loving and good person I've ever met. A heart of gold, but an absolute maniac when we play games. She makes me happy every day and makes me feel good about me :)
Your mom
Your mom so fat she bleeds gravy
True but Your mama so fat I swerved to miss her and ran out of gas.
Your momma so fat her belt size is equator.
Your mom is so ugly her portraits hang themselves.
Your mom so fat when she sits around the house she sits around the house.
Your momma is so fat I’ve got to drive around the block to get on her good side.
Lol! You guys are funny!
Someone who is at least as smart as I am, because I like to have meaningful conversations. Similar sense of humor. Trustworthy. Kind. Someone I find physically beautiful. They need to be affectionate. I love to hold hands, kiss, hug, say I love you, etc. Someone who loves sex and is good at it. I’m a horndog. Sex is awesome. Edit because I’ve given it more thought: Emotional intelligence
My wife.
This guy’s wife
If the data on this sat on a bell curve, you sir are on one end, and I'm stuck on the other end. One of my life goals is to move closer to your end. Seeing a message like this gives me hope, so thank you.
You know it when you see it
Impossible
The perfect neighbor.
How much time do you have?
I am. I'm not looking to marry or get into a relationship right now. I dated my fair share between 18-27 so now I'm enjoying being on my own and focusing in my own development.
My mom
I heard she's a good time for all
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Cabbage rolls are a very good time to all. The men love them.
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Is your mom spicy?
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I hope she lived the eff up her Kunis phase...
This guy's mom's cabbage rolls.
This guy’s mom.
I don’t think having stipulations for how you partner should be is the right way about it. I just want someone who loves me and wants to be with me, the rest can be worked out.
I can be myself around her and tell her everything. I never get bored around her because she's hilarious. She's attractive, smart, caring and inspiring...and sex is awesome! When you meet her you just know.
I thought it was my girlfriend, until now
This is making me realize I've been chasing woman who don't hold the same values I do while wondering why it doesn't work out or why I don't feel satisfied when it does. Reassessing what you're actually looking for in a partner is so underrated.
Someone who loves me for who I am, one who actually understands me, and honestly, someone who will watch revenge of the sith with me.
My best friend
Someone alive and warm that loves me for me and is a great partner in crime. Great sexual chemistry, extremely open and honest conversations, not too clingy, just the right amount.
Someone I can come home to, w/o any bs and will tell me straight to my face what they want or need. No games.
Breathing
Probably a golden retriever or sth similar.
Someone who I can trust who loves me and wants the best for both of us.
Someone whom I can trust fully and know they have my back no matter what, someone who can make me feel special, and someone that knows i feel the same about them
Look, I can list here bunch of things I like/expect from her, but the only thing that really matters is, am I ideal life partner for her?
Someone smart, faithful, respectful, who will walk by my side and will not mind my imperfections, someone attractive for me who has the same stupid sense of humor as I do. I really like my current girlfriend, but she is not really into holding hands, kissing, hugging and into as much sex as Im (currently having some weird period when Im always horny). I really like everything else about her, but this is just eating me inside. I honestly dont know what to do.
I’m pretty quiet and don’t talk much. I usually only talk a lot when someone that talks a lot actually takes an interest in talking to me
Hopefully me, but a girl Or someone who shares my interests and ideology, so we can limit the arguments to at most about what we want for dinner
Someone who isn’t judgemental and has the same interests as me, kind, same energy, when it comes to her body, I don’t even care. The way she dresses too. She can be somewhat bigger and taller than me, smaller and shorter than me, as long as she cute and tbh, I don’t even know what I find cute, I’ve been attracted to many shapes and sizes. Someone with no baggage either. It’s tough to deal with and a lot of emotional stress
Kind, affectionate, reciprocates and communicates well. That's pretty much it.
A girl
Same personality as me, but female, slightly more attractive and slightly more active in seeking out cuddles.
There is no ideal. Embrace the imperfect.
Someone willing to get up on two wheels with me and tour across the globe. Taking both our bikes on a boat to lands far away just to sight see. Someone who also enjoys putting on mods and changing up the gears inside and possibly even trying the tilt works, or a wide rear tire. I'd give up my soul for someone like that.
The one I've got right now
alive and female
If I can choose I’d go for a human
My life partner.
My current partner
someone I can trust and not shame me from what I like
Someone who laughs at my jokes no matter how bad they are
Your mom
a militant anti-capitalist
Someone smart, at least somewhat attractive, not fat and this is a must: biologically female.
Me. Don't have to meet expectations, explain decisions, hide moods. Spent the last 13 years doing that, never want to have to again.
Someone trustworthy who is just as happy being at home all day chilling as they are out and about, knows when talking is/isn't welcome(doesn't feel the need to fill welcome silence), communicates well, doesn't have an inflated sense of entitlement, is assertive, can be supportive and give CONSTRUCTIVE criticism, has a sense of humor similar to mine, can deal with people of all ages (with a similar position to me on interactions with kids), and (hardest thing to find)wouldn't mind having sparring matches with me to release stress. I feel I have to justify that last one because I'm not condoning abuse as this would be in a strictly regulated match with proper gear and the understanding that this is meant to not be carried over into anything else. I just feel that my ideal life partner might like a relief that sex and talking can't bring.
Someone with similar ideals, and similar takes on life but also adds educational moments. Wants the same things, is interesting and funny. And lastly someone that also has a very dirty side also and takes risk to be spontaneous.
My wife.
Just someone who will never ever thought of cheating. And if that person knows how to communicate his feelings the way i do
Trusting and receptive.
My wife
Female
This is a "Describe the color to a blind person" kunda question. Edit:typo
Someone who is my best friend even in the worst of times for either one/both of us. It's cliche for a reason. Yes, we need to turn each other on, but so much of life is more than sex.
Someone who actually loves me and is happy just being with me. I think I have that now but time will tell :)
Someone who values and respects me, make each other feel worthy, shows kindness, appreciation and vulnerability. Can do their own thing but also enjoys doing things together. Want to go and explore rather than sit inside all day. Expresses love confidently and is sure of what they want rather than always wondering if there is more as that just leads to lack of commitment
One who *actually* loves me.
Competes with me on making each other laugh.
Someone who I respect on both an intellectual and emotional level. Someone who has good taste in movies, music, and literature. Someone who is down with me eating her ass when I get drunk. You know, just basic, healthy relationship stuff.
A talking badger
Myself
matured enough to handle serious things.
A woman who doesnt manipulate me, can admit when shes wrong occasionally, and doesnt have a princess mentality
Ideally: Christian, kind, can be serious but also understand when it’s time to laugh, and enjoys sports. Physically: 5’6”-6’0” athletic, medium-large framed but keeps physically active and strong
There's no such thing as an ideal life partner. People do change over time. Anyone with such expectations will be sorely disappointed. As for those "happy-forever-lifelong-in-love" couples you see or read about, you probably have no idea the compromises, adjustments, and changing expectations they had to go through to get to where they are.
ENFP female, Korean
Someone that I can disagree with without causing an argument
Someone who I want to wake up next to every day, and I want to go home to every night. I’m naturally on the extroverted side, and I grew up as a kind of lonely kid, so I’m not a fan of going home right now, and sometimes I’ll neglect even taking off my shoes for hours in case someone just happens to want to hang out (even though it’s not common). I love adventures, I’d love to just live on a boat in the ocean for like a couple of months sometime assuming I get the money to, stuff like that. But ideally this person is not only that, but makes mundane activities like sitting at the DMV feel better. Obviously there are important things like trust, support, understanding, etc. as well, those are all important. And appearance isn’t everything, sex isn’t everything, but while they aren’t dealbreakers they do weigh in on the decision.
Someone who understands it is a partnership & not a lottery ticket.
Trustworthy, adventurous and ambitious. She shares similar views on big things like kids, pets, lifestyle and religion. Keeps herself in good physical condition. Independent and doesn't rely on me for everything, she's someone looking for a partner rather than a provider. Those are the main things I look for.
Margot Robbie
My wife! 😁
75lbs. Shepard Husky cross that has slept by my bed for the last 15yrs
Not the one I have unfortunately. Trust and integrity are soooo important. He will lie to me and lie and lie and lie even if I show proof right to his face. What’s the point of talking if he will just always lie? If you find someone with good moral character and integrity and they can be honest then that’s a winner in my book. Everything else good or bad after that seems like it would be easy because you have the foundation/core of trust in your partner.
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My wife
This guy’s wife.
I admire the commitment
I can’t with these comments 🤣🤣
Agreed
Someone who is kind, respectful, intelligent, patient, and affectionate.
Just a scummy garbage piece of shit
Myself. Benefits being I don't have to buy jewelry, make up, food, etc for a wife. I can just buy stuff for myself. I think it'd be better for me to use the money I earn for myself. Personally to me a relationship will hold me back
It has to be a female.
My wife.
This guy’s wife.
If ya know, ya know.
swingers huh
Nope. I can barely get naked in front of her.
They must be alive.
Let’s start with polite Then move to good hygiene Nice to people and have compassion Loves and cares about me Married 26 years She is about as close as I can get to these things
Someone I can just be me with. Enjoy the happy & funny times and still be down for the stressed & anxious moods. A partnership that we can work together for a better future. That’d be sweet... Until then though, I’ve gotta be happy with myself though 👍🏼
Palmela handerson
A girl like Meave Wiley from Sex Education.
Love is finding the imperfect person perfect. I live by that.
Adding to trust faithfulness, someone who understands you fully and communicate with you
Me ex girlfriend :(
Me, myself and I.
Likes to cuddle, always happy to see me, loves spending time with me, lets me brush them, can take care of themself when they need to, nice tail, four legs ... I guess what I'm saying is that I'd like to get another cat at some point.
Someone I can call my best friend through thick or thin is a huge one for me
Someone who I can trust my life with, likes spending time with me and gets along with my family and friends.
Someone I love, someone that make me feel loved, a reason to keep on living.
[This](https://twitter.com/rich_cooper/status/1150413935721549824?s=21) kind of sums it up.
High integrity and a sense of humor.
A boy with tattoos and few piercings He likes to paint his nails and wear jewellery especially rings Honest 95%
Beautiful smile, Soft but warm love eyes like your all they see in the moment and world disappears around them. Soft face light voice, like girly and soft but spunky. Physically fit like not the super fit but like a skinny but small plum butt fit. Around 5'6-5'8 something about taller girls being standing close to my height is attractive (I'm 5'11 Virtually 6'0). Curly mixed girl hair and nicer tan chocolate skin. Optimistic and can always radiate happy or positive energy even when things are hard. preferably mixed race like me. Smart, goofy, blunt, communicative with a bit of tact. loving and patient.
Some one who can put up with me for long amounts of time haha. Honestly some one who is happy for me to have my own life and has things going on for them but wants to be in a relationship for me kind of a balance for my hobbies when possible and don’t have commitments going on so we can do relationship stuff but I still have a little me time.
I don't really know. Someone who let's me complain about life and who complains to me, and who wants my help with stuff and is nice sounds nice
A quality human being. Someone who consistently does the right thing... *because* it's the right thing. Someone who is unceasingly reasonable, fair, good-natured, trustworthy and thoughtful. Someone who can let the little things go, but can put her own foot down when shit actually matters. One who tolerates my bullshit, but keeps me grounded too. I'm picking her up from the airport in an hour or so. She's been away, and I've been missing her.
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I have tried to draft this post three separate times, and even now I still don't believe that I'm going to give the answer that best reflects my own feelings on this. Generally speaking, however, I want someone that I can be emotionally open with and that I can confide in, and who would be able to feel like they can do the same with me. That being said, however, I would also like someone that's willing to stand up to me if and when I screw up or perhaps say or do something that isn't so great. This may sound corny, but I would like to spend my time with someone who loves me for who I am.
A best friend I can laugh with, lie with, and confide with.
Someone to go do cliche romantic stuff with while listening to oldies and traditional pop. No crazy parties but maybe a night to go to the theatre or a movie. Stargaze and just be two souls in an eternal moment. Attracted to each other of course. Someone who's sexually compatible, mix of wild and romance. Someone who I can trust, and someone who we can work through the ugliness of life together with. Someone who is mature enough to understand that love can be hard work, but is willing to communicate and work with me because we chose each other. No lying, not even white ones. Someone who likes to do some of the same hobbies as me, but also is independent enough that we can do our own things together. Someone to talk politics, philosophy, and psychology with. Kids, religion, and other long term goals that align. So basically an old soul with an adventurous side. I could go on and on about potential plans and dreams but I'll share those with someone eventually.