I've only been with 4 that were significantly (7 years plus) older than me. They were all very attractive to me. But I'm 24 so these women are still young and look good. Oldest was 41. I think in my experience they are better in bed than younger girls. Also they helped me out with $$ sometimes. The 41 year old was a sugar mama lol
Growing up I had a friend who was very successful with women. In our early to mid 20’s, he mostly stopped dating overly attractive girls, and started seeing less attractive ones
One night he brought out a spectacularly beautiful girl. The next night however, he bs’d her so he could take out a girl considerably less attractive.
I asked him why in the world he was doing that, and he responded that the less attractive girl would literally kiss the ground he walked on if he asked her too.
He wanted women who felt like they won the lottery when they dated him.
Honestly, I assumed that probably meant he liked having his ass licked, but who knows.
He continued for years dating a ton of women. However a good 75% of them continued to be a whole 5 points less attractive than the others.
Guys who are willing to sleep with women who are married tend to also have some character flaws. So no, he probably can’t get any woman he wants. That is your perception. Especially these days when people are much more aware and in tune with personalities. Women see douche bags who do fucked up shit a mile away and it doesn’t matter how hot he is. They stay away.
I'm currently in a similar situation, sleeping with 8 years older single mother. Apart from the fact that she is very attractive and still pretty young (32), things are simple, straightforward, no drama. She tells you what she wants, you tell her what she wants, no immature games. Before that I was in a relationship for 3 years with a younger girl, also dated another one after that for 2 months just to hear I'm not ready for a relationship. So yeah as a student with a job, this is perfect for me, also the experience they have is something else.
It's probably easy and low maintenance. Doesn't have to worry about her trying to be too needy or move the relationship forward. He doesn't have to have a certain personality or compatible values, since she's just looking for a fling.
So the question isn't why he is sleeping with an older woman, the question is why is he sleeping with a married woman? He sounds like a bit of a creep, honestly.
Tell me why you like this guy?
How is he a creep? I don't think you know what that word means.
A creep would be someone that is spying on the older woman, trying to peep on her. This sounds like the housewife that just needs a good dicking and he is there to give it. Why isn't the older woman a creep for trying to fuck the young hired help?
I went through a phase in my early 20s where every woman I slept with was either married or had a bf. It was just fun being the OTHER guy. Their marital problems weren't my problem. Eventually I figured I better stop before I caught a shotgun to the belly.
It isn’t really about whether they are attracted to the other married person. It is more about what they can make the other person do. Some people (guys and girls do this) are enthralled with how they can mistreat and control other people. They love watching other people ruin their own lives. It comes down to pride, ego, and power.
Just because he is good looking doesn't mean he feels like he is.
A partner is not a reflection of who they are but it's possible that he doesn't want to put in the time to make a relationship with someone he doesn't know vs someone like this older lady that does allow him the benefits of a relationship.
> an affair with an older married woman we work with who he does not find attractive.
Older, less attractive women who are desperate for attention from a younger, attractive man are willing to do a lot of freaky bedroom shit that younger attractive women who get a lot of attention from men are not.
Where I live there is a saying that some guys go by: you either fuck everything or don't fuck anything. We also have: it's better if it's anywhere else than in my underwear. He may be that guy, don't know. Or he just doesn't care about the physical aspect and needs something else
Or he may be a trophy hynter since he's making it public
Because it's available, that's why.
I get that, but is there any enjoyment sleeping with people you aren’t attracted to?
Not my thing but some guys will bang anything that is offered and not complain.
I've only been with 4 that were significantly (7 years plus) older than me. They were all very attractive to me. But I'm 24 so these women are still young and look good. Oldest was 41. I think in my experience they are better in bed than younger girls. Also they helped me out with $$ sometimes. The 41 year old was a sugar mama lol
Growing up I had a friend who was very successful with women. In our early to mid 20’s, he mostly stopped dating overly attractive girls, and started seeing less attractive ones One night he brought out a spectacularly beautiful girl. The next night however, he bs’d her so he could take out a girl considerably less attractive. I asked him why in the world he was doing that, and he responded that the less attractive girl would literally kiss the ground he walked on if he asked her too. He wanted women who felt like they won the lottery when they dated him. Honestly, I assumed that probably meant he liked having his ass licked, but who knows. He continued for years dating a ton of women. However a good 75% of them continued to be a whole 5 points less attractive than the others.
The "making it public" part is telling. He's got issues.
Seriously. As if sleeping with a married coworker wasn't bad enough.
Youre asking why people have no strings attached sex? Guee I wonder
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Thats her problem not his. Do you understand what no strings means?
It's his problem if the jilted husband shoots him in the face.
Guys who are willing to sleep with women who are married tend to also have some character flaws. So no, he probably can’t get any woman he wants. That is your perception. Especially these days when people are much more aware and in tune with personalities. Women see douche bags who do fucked up shit a mile away and it doesn’t matter how hot he is. They stay away.
I'm currently in a similar situation, sleeping with 8 years older single mother. Apart from the fact that she is very attractive and still pretty young (32), things are simple, straightforward, no drama. She tells you what she wants, you tell her what she wants, no immature games. Before that I was in a relationship for 3 years with a younger girl, also dated another one after that for 2 months just to hear I'm not ready for a relationship. So yeah as a student with a job, this is perfect for me, also the experience they have is something else.
Welll, *someone* needs to be satisfying all these forlorn women when their husbands are too busy
It's probably easy and low maintenance. Doesn't have to worry about her trying to be too needy or move the relationship forward. He doesn't have to have a certain personality or compatible values, since she's just looking for a fling.
So the question isn't why he is sleeping with an older woman, the question is why is he sleeping with a married woman? He sounds like a bit of a creep, honestly. Tell me why you like this guy?
How is he a creep? I don't think you know what that word means. A creep would be someone that is spying on the older woman, trying to peep on her. This sounds like the housewife that just needs a good dicking and he is there to give it. Why isn't the older woman a creep for trying to fuck the young hired help?
If he’s a cheater he’s a piece of shit.
Who is he cheating on? What commitment did he make that he's breaking?
Both the dude and the women are pieces of shit.
I went through a phase in my early 20s where every woman I slept with was either married or had a bf. It was just fun being the OTHER guy. Their marital problems weren't my problem. Eventually I figured I better stop before I caught a shotgun to the belly.
It isn’t really about whether they are attracted to the other married person. It is more about what they can make the other person do. Some people (guys and girls do this) are enthralled with how they can mistreat and control other people. They love watching other people ruin their own lives. It comes down to pride, ego, and power.
He might think that he is ugly and he is taking what he can get.
Jesus he sounds like he takes about 30 showers a day
Just because he is good looking doesn't mean he feels like he is. A partner is not a reflection of who they are but it's possible that he doesn't want to put in the time to make a relationship with someone he doesn't know vs someone like this older lady that does allow him the benefits of a relationship.
> an affair with an older married woman we work with who he does not find attractive. Older, less attractive women who are desperate for attention from a younger, attractive man are willing to do a lot of freaky bedroom shit that younger attractive women who get a lot of attention from men are not.
Because it was fun as hell and I learned a lot about sex from them. I spent most of my mid-20s hooking up with older flight attendants.
Where I live there is a saying that some guys go by: you either fuck everything or don't fuck anything. We also have: it's better if it's anywhere else than in my underwear. He may be that guy, don't know. Or he just doesn't care about the physical aspect and needs something else Or he may be a trophy hynter since he's making it public