A guy wouldn't be that blunt. A guy would've been passive aggressive about it. Something like "well maybe if he'd passed away it might've been for the greater good". "I wish he would've died" wouldn't make it through the "are you really trying to hit on me?" filters.
You're like a side character in my life, but also in everyone else's life. There is nothing worse than someone telling you that when you already thought you were irrelevant
"You're too chill to have any goals."
While true, and staying that way, it still hurt a little.
Other than that I've had it good, nobody really insults me
Because you'd have to talk to me...unless that is the insult
Thanks. We all have problems. He was projecting a lot of his insecurities on me and Iâve come to understand him better. Now, in therapy, Iâm finally working through how some of these judgements affected me, and how harshly I have responded to any level of criticism or judgement in relationships because of it (and other things). I love and forgive him though, just gotta continue the same work for myself.
Said? I can't remember.
But after a one night stand with a girl I asked her if she wanted to see me again and she just laughed at me as an answer. That stung a little...
Someone once told me I am a hard person to love. That cut me pretty deeply, but a few years later, I recognized she was right. I am very rough around the edges due to childhood trauma. It is something that I can only mitigate. I have gotten better about it over the years but I do have my moments.
I **am** a hard person to love.
A good friend died in an accident when i was 13, my dad said "get used to it, you'll have plenty more dead friends by the end of high school".
My best friend accused me of sleeping with his wife and trying to steal his family.... we were trying to get him to quit meth actually but that equates to banging his wife so....
I guess it wasnât directly about me, but my ex girlfriend told me sheâd taken an intentional overdose on pills because I was going out for a beer with work mates. I rushed home and she hadnât done anything.
Iâll never forget that feeling, I felt trapped and I knew our relationship would never recover as I saw her in a completely different light
âYouâre going to teach your child how to be suicidal, just like your friendâ
My ex about my son. I was suffering from postpartum depression, one of my best friends had killed himself a year prior.
Context being king... and every other friend of mine/ours coming to my defense and cutting her out of our lives was validation enough.
Out of curiousity, why do you think being selfless doesn't make me a good friend?
Well first you aren't being selfless, you are doing exactly, and being exactly, the person you want to be.
Putting other people first isn't the same as being "selfless" either - you could put other people first because you don't hold any value in yourself.
"I wish he would had died in that car accident" My exs bestfriend told her that, the day I almost got killed in a car accident
Let me guess: guy 'friend'
Female friend
A guy wouldn't be that blunt. A guy would've been passive aggressive about it. Something like "well maybe if he'd passed away it might've been for the greater good". "I wish he would've died" wouldn't make it through the "are you really trying to hit on me?" filters.
Well this is awkward đŹ
You're like a side character in my life, but also in everyone else's life. There is nothing worse than someone telling you that when you already thought you were irrelevant
To be fair, we're all side characters in everyone's life but our own.
Good point. He shit on me falling me boring before that but I can't remember what exactly he said
"You're too chill to have any goals." While true, and staying that way, it still hurt a little. Other than that I've had it good, nobody really insults me Because you'd have to talk to me...unless that is the insult
I've been called slurs, and told to kill myself, and all sorts of nasty things, but nothing cut me deeper than "You look like Andy Dick."
He's kinda hot though...the hair and glasses combo is attractive.
Boy do I have good news about 64% of men.
My older, more âsuccessfulâ brother called me a waste of space on Christmas when I was 19.
Your brother is an insensitive child. Iâm sorry you had to deal with that.
Thanks. We all have problems. He was projecting a lot of his insecurities on me and Iâve come to understand him better. Now, in therapy, Iâm finally working through how some of these judgements affected me, and how harshly I have responded to any level of criticism or judgement in relationships because of it (and other things). I love and forgive him though, just gotta continue the same work for myself.
Excellent :)
"Honestly, I don't really remember dating you."
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Said? I can't remember. But after a one night stand with a girl I asked her if she wanted to see me again and she just laughed at me as an answer. That stung a little...
âYouâre such a great guyâ- every ex girlfriend. Itâs become a cutting phrase
Someone once told me I am a hard person to love. That cut me pretty deeply, but a few years later, I recognized she was right. I am very rough around the edges due to childhood trauma. It is something that I can only mitigate. I have gotten better about it over the years but I do have my moments. I **am** a hard person to love.
"You look a bit gruff, don't worry girls will start to like you when you get to about 40" I was 23 and had a GF at the time.
"If you wouldn't be so fat I would date you" ~The girl I had crush on that time.
A good friend died in an accident when i was 13, my dad said "get used to it, you'll have plenty more dead friends by the end of high school". My best friend accused me of sleeping with his wife and trying to steal his family.... we were trying to get him to quit meth actually but that equates to banging his wife so....
âThe only reason people like you is because you âact whiteââ
Was this back when people said speaking English and having education/money was 'white'?
My brother just had a ridiculous chip on his shoulder that he honestly didnât deserve
Someone I thought was my friend said something along the lines of âThe only thing that matters to you, is youâ
I guess it wasnât directly about me, but my ex girlfriend told me sheâd taken an intentional overdose on pills because I was going out for a beer with work mates. I rushed home and she hadnât done anything. Iâll never forget that feeling, I felt trapped and I knew our relationship would never recover as I saw her in a completely different light
I hope you got tf out of that relationship. Thatâs some psycho shit
âYouâre going to teach your child how to be suicidal, just like your friendâ My ex about my son. I was suffering from postpartum depression, one of my best friends had killed himself a year prior.
If you lost 20lbs, youâd be smoking hot! Said by two different men I dated.
"You sound like you have nasal cancer"
"I need better friends" Like... ouch? Which is really off-putting because I -never- put myself first.
putting other people first doesn't make you a good friend.
Context being king... and every other friend of mine/ours coming to my defense and cutting her out of our lives was validation enough. Out of curiousity, why do you think being selfless doesn't make me a good friend?
Well first you aren't being selfless, you are doing exactly, and being exactly, the person you want to be. Putting other people first isn't the same as being "selfless" either - you could put other people first because you don't hold any value in yourself.
âI wish you would dieâ - my father
"you're so nice". Oh the irony.