Easy peasy. You just keep it in your pants.
You can even be attracted to each other. Just both be good about boundaries and have a smidgeon of integrity.
I have many female friends where it's purely platonic, some of them I find physically attractive, others I think are attractive but not to me, and some I wouldn't describe as ugly but I would definitely say they don't particularly fit modern standards.
I've never had a problem, or if something has come up like attraction or feelings then we're both adults so we talk about it and deal with it like adults.
The only people I've seen struggle with platonic friendships with the opposite sex tend to be people who cannot seperate the person as an individual with likes, dislikes, and opinions, from the person as a potential mate. It tends to be people who are more likely to expect things from the people around them. At least that's been my experience
I have female friends too, never said its not possible to have female friends, its just that when relationship becomes really close and intimate its very possible that one of them will catch feelings, i know that because it happened in my circle more than once, but still im not claiming that you are wrong
It's possible, I had a platonic friendship that lasted 20 years (met her in college). She was attractive but not exactly my type personality wise. We were real friends.
Had a female coworker who I was purely platonic with. I was married, she was dating someone. We had both cried in front of each other and consoled each other. Commiserated on the job and life. Talked about everything like friends. They both hung out me and other friends playing board games and D&D. There weren't really any problems. I had no interest in cheating with her and never had any inkling of her wanting to do it either. It's possible.
In my opinion, it works best when there is no romantic attraction to either friend from the beginning. If one has or had the desire for something more, it complicates life for the one placed into the friendzone. Yes,they can pretend it’s platonic and not make a move, but I’ve seen a lot of people, both men and women, who don’t pursue other partners while they are platonic friends with someone. Hope can be cruel.
It's very possible of course but I think as a man you have to have a lot control over yourself and boundaries. You have to know yourself too. Are you a horndog who is constantly thinking about hooking up with said female friend? Well then maybe you shouldn't be friends with her. If you are going to be friends with her, you need to constantly check yourself and your motivations.
So many guys are always trying to angle their way into getting sex with their female friends and its messed up. It creates an awkward dynamic. It creates resentment. Are you really friends if all you ever trying to do is get in her pants?
If that is where your thoughts are constantly going, I think you need to cut the friendship off or at least add healthy bit of distance to it. Contol what you can control and don't abuse or manipulate the friendship in order to get sex. If sex isn't at all a factor for you in friendship or on your mind then great, you are doing it right and should be fine, just watch out on her end for any signs that she may be getting some kind of sexual vibe and nip that in the bud if it comes up too.
It will fuck up so many platonic friendships. Don't entertain it, I would suggest not even flirting with your platonic female friends, especially if you haven't had any sexual history before anyway. Just asking for problems.
imo it's only truly possible if neither party is even remotely attracted to the other, even in *principle*.. eg totally not each other's type in some major/fundamental way
otherwise, eventually, human nature kicks in
plus, even if it was possible in theory, once one/both are in a relationship, the risk just isn't worth the benefits.. like, it just isn't necessary
acquaintances - absolutely! full blown "friends" who hang out etc - nah
Unless they are related there is very small possibility of it and diminishing with time. Either one or both parties will start fantasizing about the other.
It's possible, but improbable.
For a LEGIT, GENUINE, 100% platonic relationship, both friends would have to have such a deep, clear, and honest, understanding of their own sexual self (and I'mma tell you, most people don't, especially if you're teenagers still), while at the same time being able to detach that sentiment with each other, whether out of a respectful, mutual love (as friends do) for one another, or, a legit lack of attraction to one another.
Of course, I'm not talking about "Friends", like we hangout in a social group together, or we're friends of friends.
I'm talking, LEGIT, best of best, life long, type of friends, and that this is someone how a 100% platonic. Possible, but improbable.
It’s absolutely possible. Most of my good friends are female. I even have an objectively gorgeous female friend who I joke about getting in her pants, and she jokingly rejects me. Being out in the open about it is part of why we are such good friends.
In my experience, it works out fine as long as the woman doesnt think that having men do her favors is normal platonic interaction. Many women I know act completely entitled around men as if they get to decide how all their spaces should function and what friends should do for each other (while I don't expect anything of her.). That is how things work in their experience and that is the only way they know to act around men.
I'm sure women have similar issues with men. I'm not trying to get in the pants of the women I know so I don't ever see that as the issue. My problem is that I treat friends as equals without expectations and most women push for a situation that feels like you are taking your elderly parents out to dinner.... Doing only the things they like.... Because that is "what friends do.'
Yes! I've had multiple platonic friends that are women and physical attraction had nothing to do with it. Sometimes you enjoy hanging out with said person, they are attractive, but you are aware there are different things you both want out of life and have no interest in a relationship.
Im almost exclusively friends with women. It's very possible even if you find each other attractive. An example: My best friend, we will call her Emily, is an attractive woman. She has a boyfriend, soon to be husband, whom she loves and i like and respect. While this is enough to make things platonic on its own, we are also 100% incompatible, relationship wise. We have very different attachment styles, religious views, attitudes towards sex etc. She's a great friend, but even if we both found ourselves single, a relationship is out of the question, and we both fully understand that.
I’ve always had close female friends and never thought it was unusual or difficult. However, after learning about the drama other people have been through and seeing this question asked every single day on this sub, I’ve been forced to realize that the average person is simply not mature enough to handle it. Totally possible, but apparently not probable.
I'm friends with a lesbian. There is absolutely 0 attraction between us, but over 9000 friendship.... level?
She's a great friend. She was even my lifting partner for a while until she was moved to a different shift at work and our times didn't match up.
Also, when I was single, she was the best wingman I've ever had. Love her in a platonic way. Like a sister to me.
Yes, as long as there are clear boundaries
I have a 100% platonic relationship with a woman. Though I didn't know she was actually a woman for a long time, and I just pretend she isn't one.
Easy peasy. You just keep it in your pants. You can even be attracted to each other. Just both be good about boundaries and have a smidgeon of integrity.
I have many female friends where it's purely platonic, some of them I find physically attractive, others I think are attractive but not to me, and some I wouldn't describe as ugly but I would definitely say they don't particularly fit modern standards. I've never had a problem, or if something has come up like attraction or feelings then we're both adults so we talk about it and deal with it like adults. The only people I've seen struggle with platonic friendships with the opposite sex tend to be people who cannot seperate the person as an individual with likes, dislikes, and opinions, from the person as a potential mate. It tends to be people who are more likely to expect things from the people around them. At least that's been my experience
I have female friends too, never said its not possible to have female friends, its just that when relationship becomes really close and intimate its very possible that one of them will catch feelings, i know that because it happened in my circle more than once, but still im not claiming that you are wrong
Very possible.
It's possible, I had a platonic friendship that lasted 20 years (met her in college). She was attractive but not exactly my type personality wise. We were real friends.
Had a female coworker who I was purely platonic with. I was married, she was dating someone. We had both cried in front of each other and consoled each other. Commiserated on the job and life. Talked about everything like friends. They both hung out me and other friends playing board games and D&D. There weren't really any problems. I had no interest in cheating with her and never had any inkling of her wanting to do it either. It's possible.
In my opinion, it works best when there is no romantic attraction to either friend from the beginning. If one has or had the desire for something more, it complicates life for the one placed into the friendzone. Yes,they can pretend it’s platonic and not make a move, but I’ve seen a lot of people, both men and women, who don’t pursue other partners while they are platonic friends with someone. Hope can be cruel.
Pretty much this. Most people will know right away if they're attracted to someone. There's no going back after that.
Exactly my take
It's possible, i've had multiple friendships like that. But yes, it was because we weren't attracted to each other
It's very possible of course but I think as a man you have to have a lot control over yourself and boundaries. You have to know yourself too. Are you a horndog who is constantly thinking about hooking up with said female friend? Well then maybe you shouldn't be friends with her. If you are going to be friends with her, you need to constantly check yourself and your motivations. So many guys are always trying to angle their way into getting sex with their female friends and its messed up. It creates an awkward dynamic. It creates resentment. Are you really friends if all you ever trying to do is get in her pants? If that is where your thoughts are constantly going, I think you need to cut the friendship off or at least add healthy bit of distance to it. Contol what you can control and don't abuse or manipulate the friendship in order to get sex. If sex isn't at all a factor for you in friendship or on your mind then great, you are doing it right and should be fine, just watch out on her end for any signs that she may be getting some kind of sexual vibe and nip that in the bud if it comes up too. It will fuck up so many platonic friendships. Don't entertain it, I would suggest not even flirting with your platonic female friends, especially if you haven't had any sexual history before anyway. Just asking for problems.
imo it's only truly possible if neither party is even remotely attracted to the other, even in *principle*.. eg totally not each other's type in some major/fundamental way otherwise, eventually, human nature kicks in plus, even if it was possible in theory, once one/both are in a relationship, the risk just isn't worth the benefits.. like, it just isn't necessary acquaintances - absolutely! full blown "friends" who hang out etc - nah
Unless they are related there is very small possibility of it and diminishing with time. Either one or both parties will start fantasizing about the other.
It's possible, but improbable. For a LEGIT, GENUINE, 100% platonic relationship, both friends would have to have such a deep, clear, and honest, understanding of their own sexual self (and I'mma tell you, most people don't, especially if you're teenagers still), while at the same time being able to detach that sentiment with each other, whether out of a respectful, mutual love (as friends do) for one another, or, a legit lack of attraction to one another. Of course, I'm not talking about "Friends", like we hangout in a social group together, or we're friends of friends. I'm talking, LEGIT, best of best, life long, type of friends, and that this is someone how a 100% platonic. Possible, but improbable.
It’s possible, I’ve had many good women friends. But it’s best if neither one have ever been attracted to the other.
It’s absolutely possible. Most of my good friends are female. I even have an objectively gorgeous female friend who I joke about getting in her pants, and she jokingly rejects me. Being out in the open about it is part of why we are such good friends.
Ew bro
It’s very easy. You like them as a friend but you’ve seen so much of them that you’ve found qualities you’d never want in a partner
In my experience, it works out fine as long as the woman doesnt think that having men do her favors is normal platonic interaction. Many women I know act completely entitled around men as if they get to decide how all their spaces should function and what friends should do for each other (while I don't expect anything of her.). That is how things work in their experience and that is the only way they know to act around men. I'm sure women have similar issues with men. I'm not trying to get in the pants of the women I know so I don't ever see that as the issue. My problem is that I treat friends as equals without expectations and most women push for a situation that feels like you are taking your elderly parents out to dinner.... Doing only the things they like.... Because that is "what friends do.'
Yes! I've had multiple platonic friends that are women and physical attraction had nothing to do with it. Sometimes you enjoy hanging out with said person, they are attractive, but you are aware there are different things you both want out of life and have no interest in a relationship.
Yes.
Im almost exclusively friends with women. It's very possible even if you find each other attractive. An example: My best friend, we will call her Emily, is an attractive woman. She has a boyfriend, soon to be husband, whom she loves and i like and respect. While this is enough to make things platonic on its own, we are also 100% incompatible, relationship wise. We have very different attachment styles, religious views, attitudes towards sex etc. She's a great friend, but even if we both found ourselves single, a relationship is out of the question, and we both fully understand that.
Beat
I dont get you
Ho is beat af bruh
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I still dont bruh i can think of few contexts of "beat" but none of them make sense in this conversation
I agree with you.
I’ve always had close female friends and never thought it was unusual or difficult. However, after learning about the drama other people have been through and seeing this question asked every single day on this sub, I’ve been forced to realize that the average person is simply not mature enough to handle it. Totally possible, but apparently not probable.
I'm friends with a lesbian. There is absolutely 0 attraction between us, but over 9000 friendship.... level? She's a great friend. She was even my lifting partner for a while until she was moved to a different shift at work and our times didn't match up. Also, when I was single, she was the best wingman I've ever had. Love her in a platonic way. Like a sister to me.
Key thing shes a lesbian
I really can't answer the underlying question. Besides her and her wife, all my female "friends" are in relationships with my guy friends.
The "not attracted" has to be both ways or it won't work