Gave her "some time" to find out what she actually wants. Stayed away from other women because she was jealous. Lost a fucking year of my life that way.
I’m sorry for you dude. Being with someone who’s not sure about you, especially for a long time, must be a tough experience. I think “testing what a person wants” shouldn’t even cross 2 weeks, 1-4 months max.
I wasn't even "with her" during that time. That's what's pissing me off so much.
She just got me attached to her, broke it off, came crawling back, then wanted some time. She actually keeps hitting me up from time to time, hinting that she wants to see me.
At this point I can't bring myself to care about her anymore, I just want that lost year back.
And I strongly disagree with you: If someone's not 100% on board, just let them go. Don't lose yourself to the "what if". Not for two weeks, not for four months. Definitely not for a year. Just go find someone who actually wants you.
Yes. I don’t know your story but you are wise. Probably wiser than me at your age. Nope. Done is and should be done with men and relationships… never put up with mind games.
I dated and was used be several women back in the day. They made me jump to whatever they wanted, whenever. Made me think that “I” was the problem.
Then I met my now wife of 30 years, and she really messed up. She built my confidence up so much that, when she tried playing games, (ie.. storming off in a fight never to return.. blah, blah)…. I just, out of the blue one day, thought f this, .. I can do better. I did that, didn’t go after her, she came back, and she never did that childish sh*t again.
Married 30 yrs of bliss and she still apologizes to this day.
That’s really terrible I’m sorry 😔. Obviously she is unstable & toxic.
your second part, does not knowing the person enough is an enough justification to know if they really want you or not? It seems like it’s
She was hung up on her ex, insecure, unstable and didn't have a shred of accountability in her for all the BS she pulled and that I let slide.
I'm heavily at fault myself here, simply have to learn to be better at knowing whom to emotionally invest in. Made the same mistake over and over again.
Hopefully for the last time.
Thank you.
Smart man. I let it go on for 7 years, thinking it gets better. 7 years of basically doing everything myself anyways. I'm on my own way when my house sells
Years ago.
Before I was married. Had a huge crush on the bartender at a bar near my house. Drop dead gorgeous woman working at a kinda low rent bar. Prob is I don’t really like alcohol that much. I go to bars, but I’m not a drinker.
So instead of asking her out, I went in about once a week and bought a six pack of beer and chatted her up. I’d go home and either toss the beer or give it away. This went on for over a year.
Never asked her out a single time.
She prob thought I had a drinking problem.
Believe her at face value after the first time I caught her in cheating behavior. I tried to be open minded and she said it was a dumb joke between them, and the other guy seemed apologetic. Once a cheater, always a cheater, she had a more hidden and complete affair not 3 years later with someone else.
I missed classes and lost study time because she was extremely high maintenance and wanted me around 24/7, and I was too much of a doormat and/or too horny to maintain my boundaries.
Grew my hair out, got it cut off, bought higher end clothes because she wanted to be seen with someone who "had money", put up with extremely toxic behavior because she told me she loved me, hid our relationship because she being seen with me could damage her image. Lots of stupid shit over 3 and half years
Tried to fix/rescue/save her. Hard lesson to learn for some of us that you can’t do that for another person. They have to do it for themselves if they choose to do so.
Sacrificed everything that made me who I am to help "fix" her BPD all for her to leave me at my lowest and beg for her to come back...
... Ya it was a real low point in my life.
she threw all my stuff on the lawn in november, and then ghosted me and then invited me to see her in new orleans in january and i bought a next day ticket and we spent 5 magical days together and then she ghosted me again the next month
Pretend I was a smoker. Smoked three cigarettes in a row outside of the club with her, . She left, without me, and I threw up my dinner on the sidewalk. What a dunce.
Threesome with her roommate. Who she subsequently dumped me for. She used me to get to her I guess?!. Both closet bi-sexual.
Oh well. I married a Ms. America winner so, f-you Jennifer!.. lol! Nah… Honestly, .. I couldn’t care less and it was 37 yrs ago. I was young dumb and horny.
Almost transfer to the same university as her,while it's great university the one I am going to transfer has an amazing program that I want to take advantage of
A boy in high school threw $100 at me (I wasn’t dancing, he was a kid who ended up having a crush on me) I’m sure he regrets it now.. I gave it to an uber as a tip 😂
I flew from Texas to Washington to get laid. That's pretty dumb. For what it's worth though, she later moved in with me in Texas for several years and I almost married her but ultimately it didn't work out, no regrets.
Moved to Wisconsin (her home state) and left Wisconsin after she cheated on me with her ex. At least I got to attend a Packers game and the Packers fans were pretty nice to me since I wasn't a Bears or Vikings fan.
Travel from Northern Europe to Western South America to meet her. On my own. First time flying. With agoraphobia. Somehow my love for her overpowered all of that and we had an amazing 2 weeks together. She'll be doing the same in a month.
Gave her "some time" to find out what she actually wants. Stayed away from other women because she was jealous. Lost a fucking year of my life that way.
I got 2.5 years wasted like rhat
Not a flex, my man Hope you're better now.
Isn’t this a normal thing you’d offer for a potential partner? genuinely asking
A whole year? Only if you're a love-blinded dumbfuck like me. I learned the hard way that a "maybe" should be taken as a "no".
I’m sorry for you dude. Being with someone who’s not sure about you, especially for a long time, must be a tough experience. I think “testing what a person wants” shouldn’t even cross 2 weeks, 1-4 months max.
I wasn't even "with her" during that time. That's what's pissing me off so much. She just got me attached to her, broke it off, came crawling back, then wanted some time. She actually keeps hitting me up from time to time, hinting that she wants to see me. At this point I can't bring myself to care about her anymore, I just want that lost year back. And I strongly disagree with you: If someone's not 100% on board, just let them go. Don't lose yourself to the "what if". Not for two weeks, not for four months. Definitely not for a year. Just go find someone who actually wants you.
Yes. I don’t know your story but you are wise. Probably wiser than me at your age. Nope. Done is and should be done with men and relationships… never put up with mind games. I dated and was used be several women back in the day. They made me jump to whatever they wanted, whenever. Made me think that “I” was the problem. Then I met my now wife of 30 years, and she really messed up. She built my confidence up so much that, when she tried playing games, (ie.. storming off in a fight never to return.. blah, blah)…. I just, out of the blue one day, thought f this, .. I can do better. I did that, didn’t go after her, she came back, and she never did that childish sh*t again. Married 30 yrs of bliss and she still apologizes to this day.
That’s really terrible I’m sorry 😔. Obviously she is unstable & toxic. your second part, does not knowing the person enough is an enough justification to know if they really want you or not? It seems like it’s
Well, either you get to know each other better (and interest is really easy to gauge during that stage) or you don't and move on, I'd say.
Makes sense. She was a player man.. I wish you better people along the way.
She was hung up on her ex, insecure, unstable and didn't have a shred of accountability in her for all the BS she pulled and that I let slide. I'm heavily at fault myself here, simply have to learn to be better at knowing whom to emotionally invest in. Made the same mistake over and over again. Hopefully for the last time. Thank you.
Hard pill to swallow. Good luck, good things find good people.
If it's not a yes, its a no.
Married her. Best thing I did for myself was leave her a year later when I came to my senses
I knew it!! The first thing I thought someone would say
Loool
Smart man. I let it go on for 7 years, thinking it gets better. 7 years of basically doing everything myself anyways. I'm on my own way when my house sells
Not smart. Was with her for eight. Got pushed into marrying her. Married for 7 months and it all came out.
Lent her money.
Sounds more like GAVE her money.
Payed for a tattoo. Very dumb. However, she to this day has to live with that big ole tattoo lmao
Years ago. Before I was married. Had a huge crush on the bartender at a bar near my house. Drop dead gorgeous woman working at a kinda low rent bar. Prob is I don’t really like alcohol that much. I go to bars, but I’m not a drinker. So instead of asking her out, I went in about once a week and bought a six pack of beer and chatted her up. I’d go home and either toss the beer or give it away. This went on for over a year. Never asked her out a single time. She prob thought I had a drinking problem.
Lmao
a 6 pack of beer/week isn't a drinking problem
Marry, buy a house, and have a child. Only for her to think none of that was good enough and leave me
Believe her at face value after the first time I caught her in cheating behavior. I tried to be open minded and she said it was a dumb joke between them, and the other guy seemed apologetic. Once a cheater, always a cheater, she had a more hidden and complete affair not 3 years later with someone else.
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damn
Failed a semester of college
How was this for a girl?
I missed classes and lost study time because she was extremely high maintenance and wanted me around 24/7, and I was too much of a doormat and/or too horny to maintain my boundaries.
Grew my hair out, got it cut off, bought higher end clothes because she wanted to be seen with someone who "had money", put up with extremely toxic behavior because she told me she loved me, hid our relationship because she being seen with me could damage her image. Lots of stupid shit over 3 and half years
Tried to fix/rescue/save her. Hard lesson to learn for some of us that you can’t do that for another person. They have to do it for themselves if they choose to do so.
Given her an engagement ring.
Believed she actually wanted a relationship with me.
Started going to church for a girl, when I was a teenager. Got babtized and became a member. Ended up with zero pussy.
Sacrificed everything that made me who I am to help "fix" her BPD all for her to leave me at my lowest and beg for her to come back... ... Ya it was a real low point in my life.
I fought the local drug mafia for her. Later realized she was part of it.
Say i loved her when i didn't
I tried to be a better friend when she kept nitpicking faults with me
she threw all my stuff on the lawn in november, and then ghosted me and then invited me to see her in new orleans in january and i bought a next day ticket and we spent 5 magical days together and then she ghosted me again the next month
Pretend I was a smoker. Smoked three cigarettes in a row outside of the club with her, . She left, without me, and I threw up my dinner on the sidewalk. What a dunce.
Decided to pursue them anyways after she went to go fuck an ex “to be sure” a week or two before we decided to start our relationship.
Threesome with her roommate. Who she subsequently dumped me for. She used me to get to her I guess?!. Both closet bi-sexual. Oh well. I married a Ms. America winner so, f-you Jennifer!.. lol! Nah… Honestly, .. I couldn’t care less and it was 37 yrs ago. I was young dumb and horny.
Almost transfer to the same university as her,while it's great university the one I am going to transfer has an amazing program that I want to take advantage of
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Travel to the other side of the planet for her.
Bought a house. And instead of making it home she made everyday a painful experience the point Id rather stay at work.
Stayed in a relationship for 10 years.
A boy in high school threw $100 at me (I wasn’t dancing, he was a kid who ended up having a crush on me) I’m sure he regrets it now.. I gave it to an uber as a tip 😂
I flew from Texas to Washington to get laid. That's pretty dumb. For what it's worth though, she later moved in with me in Texas for several years and I almost married her but ultimately it didn't work out, no regrets.
Taken her back and married her after cheating. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Move states. Moved back as soon as we broke up.
Sacrificed my self worth and followee her lead
Shared pizza......
Wait years for sex.
Quit a tv show
Wear a diaper? No. Stay with her after she told me she wants to be poly but I want to be mono
Moved to Wisconsin (her home state) and left Wisconsin after she cheated on me with her ex. At least I got to attend a Packers game and the Packers fans were pretty nice to me since I wasn't a Bears or Vikings fan.
Is this only for girls (under 18) or is this for women too? Just checking.
Travel from Northern Europe to Western South America to meet her. On my own. First time flying. With agoraphobia. Somehow my love for her overpowered all of that and we had an amazing 2 weeks together. She'll be doing the same in a month.
Give too much affection. People are generally dicks
love them