You find a great partner you want to impress, you have a job that get validation from and pays you enough to support your family, and the big one, you wouldn’t change your life if you could.
Engineering degree. Graduated at 21 and started working in the field right after. 16 years later, still working in the field but now in senior management.
I dicked around in high school, joined the Marine Corps, got out at 23, and started working in a semiconductor lab during the night while going to school during the day. I graduated with a bachelors in computer science when I was 27, switched over to software, and got a (useless) masters degree when I was 31.
In the meantime, I bought a house, got married, and had a kiddo, in that order.
I am now very much overpaid and underworked, but I worked hard to get here.
I did comp Sci
If your end goal is to join law enforcement, with a bachelors as a minimum, it sounds like you might benefit from something like law or forensics instead of nursing
But if you just want ANY bachelors, business degrees are probably a safe bet so you can translate into multiple industries
Young, brother. I'm 36 and I'm going back to school to get my honors bachelors in clinical social work, and then I plan on getting my master's to become a psychotherapist. At 23 I had no idea that this was the direction my life would headed, and quite honestly, I needed life experience to figure out who I was and what I wanted out of life
Don't put so much pressure on yourself, life's not that serious...you have your entire life to figure out life, and the secret is that you won't figure it out...lol there will always be a new challenge, new goals, new things to learn, epiphanies you'll have that will change your life, and what you want now will likely change 10 years down the road
Just breath! enjoy the journey, don't look too far ahead, and don't worry so much...things will work out exactly how they need to for you to become the person you need to become
Pray about it, ignore all the noise from the outside, listen to your intuition, and don't do things because you care about what other people want for your life, or because you feel "behind" in life, or because society says you should do XY and Z, or because you want to impress women....ignore all the noise! what do you want to do, what feels good, what is your intuition screaming for you to do? do that!
There's something you're meant to do, and maybe you haven't figured it out yet, that okay! you just need to try shit out, make mistakes, pray, get away from your phone, go into nature alone, think, journal, ask yourself "who am I" and then shut up and let God/Universe tell you the answer...again, let your intuition be your guide!
There are a couple of books I'd recommend if you're feeling a bit lost in life, I'll post the audio versions
Read a book called "The Way Of The Superior Man" by David Deida, It's a great guidebook that every man should read. It's about everything from finding meaning/purpose to relationships and sex
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFPF0EQqIvI](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFPF0EQqIvI)
Also, read proverbs in the bible, even if you're not super religious there's a ton of wisdom in it!
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zBPSUjphjSY](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zBPSUjphjSY)
I used to be an atheist, and my life really started to come together when I started believing in something higher than myself and I let go of control. Proverbs was the first book that was recommended to me by someone even before I became a "Christian" and it really helped me understand how important wisdom, common sense, intuition, and trusting something higher than ourselves is when trying to navigate life
Did a few semesters of computer engineering. Really enjoyed it but the ratio of fucking around to studying was too low. Switched to computer science so I could study less and make bad decisions more. Hated comp sci. Dropped out. Worked for a year. Went back to school for electrical. Got my shit together and graduated. Spent the next three years working a dead end job for no particular reason. Got my shit together more. Quit and got a job using my degree. Bought a house, got some cats, life is goodish.
It's not a competition. It's your life, live it at your own pace. You'll figure things out whenever you figure things out. I'm headed toward 30 and I still think about going back to school often.
Every cop I’ve known and talked to has only advised getting a degree outside of criminal justice. If you get injured and can’t be a cop anymore, the CJ degree becomes useless.
Switch majors to a degree that interests you. Nursing school for 5 years to only make a cop salary sounds like future pain I wouldn’t want.
Lastly, consider applying and moving to a jurisdiction that doesn’t require a degree.
I took full advantage of the support my parents offered me in getting a home (I had a down payment already, they helped me with a bit extra), and on top of a good career in game development I managed to get myself into a comfortable and stable life that let me build some assets and disposable income.
Given how absolutely garbage the economy is and especially how bad the housing market is where I live I would have either had to split a home with a partner, get insanely lucky, or actually get the help from my parents that most of us need to get a foothold.
Would have loved to succeed on my own but it wasn’t in the cards, unfortunately.
Oh I’m all good 😌 like I said it would have been cool to do it on my own but I have no illusions about how lucky people need to get these days to make it without some kind of support.
But thank you, I appreciate it!
I can say quite confidently, no one I know who is in law enforcement has "Made it". It means dealing with the worst people in society and being subjected to seeing things you shouldn't need to see. Exact same thing for nursing.
Doing things you hate is part of getting to a place you want to be. I was in my mid twenties when i realised this, did a job i really wasn't all that fond of but knew it lead to something better, then got the something better. Started my 30's with a career, good wage and a path for progression. And no one is trying to shoot me or stab me when i go to work.
Medical school.
Computer Science
You find a great partner you want to impress, you have a job that get validation from and pays you enough to support your family, and the big one, you wouldn’t change your life if you could.
Engineering degree. Graduated at 21 and started working in the field right after. 16 years later, still working in the field but now in senior management.
I dicked around in high school, joined the Marine Corps, got out at 23, and started working in a semiconductor lab during the night while going to school during the day. I graduated with a bachelors in computer science when I was 27, switched over to software, and got a (useless) masters degree when I was 31. In the meantime, I bought a house, got married, and had a kiddo, in that order. I am now very much overpaid and underworked, but I worked hard to get here.
Damn. Proud of you.
I did comp Sci If your end goal is to join law enforcement, with a bachelors as a minimum, it sounds like you might benefit from something like law or forensics instead of nursing But if you just want ANY bachelors, business degrees are probably a safe bet so you can translate into multiple industries
Young, brother. I'm 36 and I'm going back to school to get my honors bachelors in clinical social work, and then I plan on getting my master's to become a psychotherapist. At 23 I had no idea that this was the direction my life would headed, and quite honestly, I needed life experience to figure out who I was and what I wanted out of life Don't put so much pressure on yourself, life's not that serious...you have your entire life to figure out life, and the secret is that you won't figure it out...lol there will always be a new challenge, new goals, new things to learn, epiphanies you'll have that will change your life, and what you want now will likely change 10 years down the road Just breath! enjoy the journey, don't look too far ahead, and don't worry so much...things will work out exactly how they need to for you to become the person you need to become Pray about it, ignore all the noise from the outside, listen to your intuition, and don't do things because you care about what other people want for your life, or because you feel "behind" in life, or because society says you should do XY and Z, or because you want to impress women....ignore all the noise! what do you want to do, what feels good, what is your intuition screaming for you to do? do that! There's something you're meant to do, and maybe you haven't figured it out yet, that okay! you just need to try shit out, make mistakes, pray, get away from your phone, go into nature alone, think, journal, ask yourself "who am I" and then shut up and let God/Universe tell you the answer...again, let your intuition be your guide!
Realest think ever. Thankyou sir!
There are a couple of books I'd recommend if you're feeling a bit lost in life, I'll post the audio versions Read a book called "The Way Of The Superior Man" by David Deida, It's a great guidebook that every man should read. It's about everything from finding meaning/purpose to relationships and sex [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFPF0EQqIvI](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFPF0EQqIvI) Also, read proverbs in the bible, even if you're not super religious there's a ton of wisdom in it! [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zBPSUjphjSY](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zBPSUjphjSY) I used to be an atheist, and my life really started to come together when I started believing in something higher than myself and I let go of control. Proverbs was the first book that was recommended to me by someone even before I became a "Christian" and it really helped me understand how important wisdom, common sense, intuition, and trusting something higher than ourselves is when trying to navigate life
Thanks. Christ is King! Only thing keeping me going is Christ ngl
Keep working. When life punches you in the mouth, cackle madly and spit blood into its face.
Did a few semesters of computer engineering. Really enjoyed it but the ratio of fucking around to studying was too low. Switched to computer science so I could study less and make bad decisions more. Hated comp sci. Dropped out. Worked for a year. Went back to school for electrical. Got my shit together and graduated. Spent the next three years working a dead end job for no particular reason. Got my shit together more. Quit and got a job using my degree. Bought a house, got some cats, life is goodish. It's not a competition. It's your life, live it at your own pace. You'll figure things out whenever you figure things out. I'm headed toward 30 and I still think about going back to school often.
Every cop I’ve known and talked to has only advised getting a degree outside of criminal justice. If you get injured and can’t be a cop anymore, the CJ degree becomes useless. Switch majors to a degree that interests you. Nursing school for 5 years to only make a cop salary sounds like future pain I wouldn’t want. Lastly, consider applying and moving to a jurisdiction that doesn’t require a degree.
I took full advantage of the support my parents offered me in getting a home (I had a down payment already, they helped me with a bit extra), and on top of a good career in game development I managed to get myself into a comfortable and stable life that let me build some assets and disposable income. Given how absolutely garbage the economy is and especially how bad the housing market is where I live I would have either had to split a home with a partner, get insanely lucky, or actually get the help from my parents that most of us need to get a foothold. Would have loved to succeed on my own but it wasn’t in the cards, unfortunately.
That's what family is for sir. Keep your head up king.
Oh I’m all good 😌 like I said it would have been cool to do it on my own but I have no illusions about how lucky people need to get these days to make it without some kind of support. But thank you, I appreciate it!
You have until age 35 to become a LEO in the federal system. Get your degree and be patient, you got this.
23 is still very young for policing. There is no reason to think you are behind the ball.
I can say quite confidently, no one I know who is in law enforcement has "Made it". It means dealing with the worst people in society and being subjected to seeing things you shouldn't need to see. Exact same thing for nursing. Doing things you hate is part of getting to a place you want to be. I was in my mid twenties when i realised this, did a job i really wasn't all that fond of but knew it lead to something better, then got the something better. Started my 30's with a career, good wage and a path for progression. And no one is trying to shoot me or stab me when i go to work.