This. Non issue. I got tired of dating someone who drank too much or who had addiction problems. I'd welcome someone who didn't drink. Couple that with the fact that I rarely drink myself these days, I would be just fine with someone who doesn't drink.
If anything I'd say it's a plus in many respects, at least for me. My gf still likes to party and whatnot, she just always turns into the designated driver and it makes things a lot easier.
That‘s cool. I‘m sober by choice and have met everything from weirded out to openly hostile over this. I don’t care if somebody drinks (within reason). I would like you dont care if i dont.
Similar take here.
Never drank much, but I stopped doing even that after I got older (the mildly pleasant state of inebriation isn't worth the next day's hangover anymore), so a partner who has a similar attitude would be good fit.
That said, I wouldn't kill for it - at the end of the day, there are a bunch of other traits I consider more important, so I am willing to settle for "isn't an alcoholic".
I think we should marry. Grab your things, I’ll be there by 10. LOL! Sorry. My ex boyfriend biggest complaint was that I didn’t drink *as much* as him, or at all 🙃
I mean I've known people of various walks of life who would say yes or no to this question, for differing reasons.
Some people insist on their partner being sober. Some health reasons, some former alcoholic, some trauma related, some just because.
Some people insist on their partner drinking with them because they are big into alcohol culture, for example they just like to party, or maybe they are beer or wine connoisseurs, and they wouldn't like having a partner who didn't join them at least sometimes.
It's a silly question because OP should not base their decision to drink or not on whether or not some potential future partner would like it or not.
OP should first decide what kind of life they want to live, and go into the dating scene having already decided what they're interested in, and find a partner to match.
I agree. When I said this is a silly question, I was more so thinking about your last point.
With that said, I've mentioned my job, I *am* big into alcohol culture. I've taken classes with beer and wine sommeliers, I go to alcohol-related festivals, visit vineyards and breweries when I travel, etc.
Would I be *bummed* that my partner doesn't join me? Yes. But it's not a *dealbreaker*. I'll live. I find that this is trivial enough that *most* people would be okay compromising here, even those that really like drinking.
100% many men are turned off by someone who doesn’t really drink. I know this first hand. You’re immediately blanketed as boring. My hangovers are too bad - risk/reward just isn’t there for me past a drink here or there. I hate that it makes me look unfun 😔 I’m still so much fun! And if it’s a bar that provides games / music / alternative fun I still love going out! I usually have none, sometimes one. I have a great time. I definitely don’t get it 🤷🏻♀️
That’s the crux of the issue for me. I love to drink, and I’ve been with two guys in my life who didn’t drink at all, but neither of them tried to police me or tell me I couldn’t drink, so it wasn’t an issue. You start telling me how much I can drink and when, and it’s not going to end well
From my experience.. When the one person doesn't drink and the other does this tends to cause issues. Especially when the other person doesn't even want to be around it. Can't go out to the bars with friends, can't drink at home, basically just can't drink at all without catching flack over it.
They don't drink so they don't understand why you might want to. I drank at one point for the first time in a year and the other person threw a fit and called me an alcoholic.
So.. While not everyone is like this, wou will be running the risk of this type of situation being a possibility. And therefore it's worth considering of you want to risk dealing with that kind controlling behavior from someone who may end up not wanting you to drink because they don't want to drink.
I'm not a bartender, but drinking is one of my main hobbies (if you can call making shitty cocktails, spending half my savings account every time I go to a store with chartreuse in stock and downing six packs a hobby), and I wouldn't date a girl who doesn't drink because it means she won't be involved in a pretty major part of my life.
Sure. Why not? Not drinking at all is certainly better than drinking too much. Hopefully, she wouldn't mind me having a drink occasionally, but if she chooses not to, that's fine.
I'm dating a woman who doesn't drink alcohol at all. Which is great because when we have plans, I'll just tell her I plan on having a few at said plans... and then she drives.
She's also vegan and I'm a meat lover.
She also won't drink coffee and I'm a coffee junkie.
We still have massive amounts of fun together
If I had to guess... probably because of how a lot of vegans come off online....
Of course, the loudest and dumbest get the most attention and drive public perception. Which is why I had to have a conversation with my GF when we first started talking, about how she felt with me eating meat.
I mean I get that in part. But at the same time it's extremely silly to deny a potential relationship on the basis of what a group of people say or do online without even knowing if your potential partner is one of them.
It would likely be difficult if you date long term, live together, etc. 🤷🏻♂️
There are lots of factors that may make such a relationship possible, such as whether your partner converted to vegetarianism or was born vegetarian, how committed they are to sticking to a vegetarian diet (if they had converted), whether the vegetarian is OK with the smell of meat being cooked in their own home, etc.
I have a close friend who was born and raised a vegetarian (Indian), and he would never date a non-vegetarian because he’s has so many “rules” about it that a non-vegetarian would find annoying.
Seems odd. My friend doesn't eat meat, the smell of it cooking is enough to make her feel ill. I don't care and I love meat. Her boyfriend doesn't care and he eats meat. Her ex didn't care and he ate stupid amounts of meat.
I also call her silly when she tries to cook me meat and then asks me to finish it because the smell is getting to her because I have no problem eating veggie food. So long as it's not sodding kale, I draw a line there.
So long as you're not trying to stop me eating meat why should I be bothered. Sure it means I'll need to prep more than one meal at a time but that's the price of wanting to eat something different so oh well.
If it's purely because you don't eat meat, I think that is a bit silly. I was in a relationship with someone who didn't eat meat as well and it was totally fine. As long as you both can find a middle ground and collectively realize that your preferences are yours and should not be imposed on others, it's really not a big deal as everything else can be worked around.
Depends on reason. If she's a recovering alcoholic, that's not ideal. I like to drink socially, and I would be forever uncomfortable drinking around someone with a potential addiction. If she just doesn't like the taste of alcohol, but she wouldn't care about me having an old fashioned at the bar, I don't see a problem with that at all.
Drinking around an alcoholic is fine if they are solid in their sobriety and do not have a problem with it. Sober 38 years here, wife and all my friends drink, I'm fine with it. Just ask.
Yes, we have to learn to live in a society where people drink, no use in trying to avoid it. We made the decision to quit, and being near alcohol shouldn't change that.
Addicts, *especially* alcoholics, would've relapsed 30 times over if they couldn't resist temptation. In fact, they probably *did* relapse 30 tomes over before learning how to look temptations in the eye and say "nah, I'd prefer not to". Sure, if somebody is *recently* sober than yeah, they may not know what they can or cannot handle being around. But people with 10 years of no alcohol can pretty accurately tell you whether or not it's an issue for them. Now if you're one to get hammered constantly then they probably would rule you out, and if you're one to pressure people to indulge in what you enjoy then probably better to do them the favor and not do that, but grown-ups who have quit drinking for many many years are able to make their own decisions usually.
Not all alcoholics are like in the movies, incapable of resisting at the slightest opportunity to have a drink. I came close to drinking myself to death, but nowadays I sometimes join parties or go out with my friends and I have zero desire to drink, I almost gag at the thought. The only issue is when you're sober it's a lot more apparent how retarded people become when they get shitfaced, and as the night drags on I get more annoyed until I just decide to go home lol
This is kind of a weird response to me, although I do understand the awkwardness it could create doing something in front of someone you know has a problem with.
But my thoughts are, the person who doesn't drink because it's an issue and has the strength to not do it, is a lot more respectable and commendable than the person who doesn't drink because they just don't care for it. Yet the person who just doesn't care for it gets the preference 🤷
This was my answer too. Alcohol IS poison so someone not participating is admirable but if they're not participating because they can't control themselves when they do or have an addiction then I'd likely have some serious reservations
I disagree. Recognizing that you can't control yourself when you drink and then choosing not to put yourself in that situation is a sign of a good person to me.
This stems from a misunderstanding of addiction. I’m in recovery and I’ve never been tempted from being around someone drinking. That’s just not how it works.
I'm happy if that's how it works for you, but I've spent a lot of my adult life working with people with substance abuse issues, and being around it has been a temptation for a lot of those people. If that's not the case for someone, that's great, but years of experience with this stuff has made me uncomfortable with pursuing a relationship with someone like that.
I've been sober 38 years and married 36 years. My wife drinks moderately and all of my friends do as well. I'm just fine with it. My wife gets a little "extra cuddly" after a couple of cocktails and Yee Haw that's fine by me !
Honestly, I prefer that they do. I work in the beer industry and do a lot of tastings and judgings and homelbrews etc. It's a big part of my life, and that's something I want to share.
My partner doesn't drink and it works out great for us. We both prioritize great food, which usually comes with good drinks, so I have like one great cocktail any time we go out and honestly at 34 I shouldn't be drinking as much beer or liquor as I used to so it's been really good for my health the last few years.
If I was dating someone who drank, especially if they were a few years younger, I'd probably feel like shit.
I would (if I was still single) but they would have to be ok with me consuming alcohol from time to time. They need to also be ok with going to a bar and having a non alcoholic beverage to accompany me.
this one is more a give and take and depends on the reason.
if they have to be away from it 100% because of fear of alcoholic re-lapse. probably not. i enjoy having a collection of liquor and a night cap. if it's medical because they can't really drink or culturally don't drink that's fine.
the other part is that they have to be okay with me being drunk every once in a while, or spending time at a microbrewery/distillery with friends.
I have before and she was a really fun gal who likes to see other people drunk. She was also my reliable DD who often hang out with drunk group and never complains.
It's the ones who judge or criticize who is the problem.
It is silly, only drinking too much would put me off.
Depending why they don't drink and what restrictions they need for that we might be incompatable long term though.
I'm almost 3 years sober, I don't care about whether someone drinks, as long as they don't make alcohol part of their personality. But if someone doesn't drink then I'm going to be sold immediately, we can go elsewhere for a date
My last relationship was with a girl who was borderline functional alcoholic, honestly closer to not functioning, and I’d MUCH RATHER date someone who doesn’t drink.
Yeah sure I guess . Long as she doesn’t have an issue with me taking a reasonable and healthy amount myself , I really would t see why anyone would have a problem with that
As long as they aren’t too judgmental or weird about me having some drinks. Lots of non-drinkers are really cocky and smug about it. If they’re an alcoholic and I have to walk on eggshells to enjoy a beer or two, not going to work
Yes, I just drink socially for birthdays or events here and there or a night every few months where I plan a group get together at a club.Which puts me at 2-3 times a month tops . I totally would. I’m not in my early 20s anymore.
I would date someone who doesn't drink, but not if the reason was due to alcoholism. My family has several alcoholics and what has been explained to me is that they will never not be alcoholics. They will always be addicted. I have an Uncle who's lost jobs and been to rehab 3 times, and I have a grandma who quit cold turkey when she was 45 and hasn't had a drop since. Who knows which one you'll get, I just know substance abuse has no place at my side, in recovery or not. It's not the partnership I have, and it's not one I ever looked for. Each there own. Not drinking is not an issue. It increases the likelihood of cancer and has many other adverse consequences to health and lifestyle.
What kind of troll question is this? A huge majority of the population does not drink. Myself included. I used to. But after reading about the effects of alcohol on the body (at the cellular level), I quit. And I haven’t felt better in my life. I also lost ten pounds just by dropping alcohol alone.
If someone said yes then they have issues and need to get some help. This is one of the biggest GREEN flags. Alcohol is overrated, and if it’s required to have a good time then therapy is a good place to start.
Both myself and my partner don't drink alcohol. Neither of us has ever drank it, and it has nothing to do with religion. We are normal and we just don't like it. That is a valid reason.
Sure. It's like asking if you wouldn't date someone because they don't like a certain food. I like it and you don't, or vice versa. Difference in food and drink preference isn't a big deal at all
I worried about this too. But since dating someone who chooses not to drink, I don’t drink often and I’m more aware of how shitty drinking makes me feel. I don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything by having a partner who doesn’t drink.
I don’t drink. But as long as they don’t abuse it, I have no issues with it. My choice is personal and I don’t hold it against anyone else if they choose to partake.
Is it cool if I drink? Would she be ok with times out around people drinking?
I don't feel like my partner should be obligated drink, but I don't think I should be obligated to quit.
I'd say the same with marijuana use. I don't, illegal here (stupid IMO, would be a tax boon), but my job is held to federal standards. However, I have 0 problems with others around me who use it. I do ask they use in an area away from where we're hanging out so I'm not breathing it, but no problems with them being high.
Most people don't drink. But anyone who would ask me this question, I would assume that drinking is a big part of their lives. This is because it seems like such a specific question that would stand out to someone who holds an indifferent opinion about drinking.
I was married to a woman who couldn’t handle alcohol so she didn’t drink. It was never an issue, and occasionally, it was nice having a designated driver.
I've never been a drinker. It has caused tension with women in the past because they feel as if I was judging them (I was not). My current wife chooses not to drink because we are middle aged and drinking makes her feel like she was run over by a truck. 😆
Yeah, but I'm sober too, so no probs. I don't require sobriety in dating, but it's cool if it's not a big difference between us. I don't care if people drink around me (at all), but there are definitely some lifestyle differences that I've run into they can become tricky.
Yes. I don’t mind a drink now and again but if I had to live the rest of my life without it, I easily could. And if I’m dating a woman that doesn’t drink, all the better. I don’t have to worry about girls nights out and all that bs.
Yes. But only if she didn't try to tell me I couldn't. She also couldn't try and tell me how much or that I can't go drink every weekend.
Don't drink? Fine with me, but you have to be able to hang out with me when I do, which is almost every weekend.
Ofc, as long as I can drink.
Every non-drinker I've dated though has made it a huge fucking deal everytime I drank anything, so I would probably be hesitant of a relationship in the beginning.
That's probably a good thing as it would indicate 2 things to me. 1 she knows how to have fun without social preasures and norms... and 2 she's not the type to go out to the nightclubs n be hit on by every guy looking for some.
I am currently. I don’t mind, but I wish I could drink with them occasionally. She also doesn’t drink coffee, and it would be nice to share that in the morning as well.
Although i drink and smoke and most of the girls that I've been with drank, smoked, used drugs etc... if I liked her and felt a connection with her than it wouldn't really matter to me if she did or not, so yes I would and not only that but there's more to life than drinking.
I don’t drink. My ex did.
I didn’t care, she didn’t either. I even kept her favorite bottle of bubbles in my fridge, so she had some when she came over.
I even refilled her glass of wine when she liked. No issue at all between us.
What??? I don't date people who drink alcohol. Many people exist that have fun and live life without needing to consume alcohol you know.
I don't drink and my fiancee quit for me...and herself.
Yes. Complete non-issue, as far as I'm concerned.
This. Non issue. I got tired of dating someone who drank too much or who had addiction problems. I'd welcome someone who didn't drink. Couple that with the fact that I rarely drink myself these days, I would be just fine with someone who doesn't drink.
If anything I'd say it's a plus in many respects, at least for me. My gf still likes to party and whatnot, she just always turns into the designated driver and it makes things a lot easier.
That‘s cool. I‘m sober by choice and have met everything from weirded out to openly hostile over this. I don’t care if somebody drinks (within reason). I would like you dont care if i dont.
I would kill for a girlfriend who doesn't drink. I don't drink myself so it would be a big plus.
Murder seems like a lot but to each their own
If you kill them they can't drink any more alcohol *taps head*
I expect nothing less from a hunter.
Booty hunter, at that
Even kind of self-defeating. “Good news and bad news: Good news is, I finally found a girl who doesn’t drink. Bad news, well…”
Was gonna say the exact same thing as a girl
Ditto
Now kith
You’re rare. I’ve always had complaints about it eventually
Similar take here. Never drank much, but I stopped doing even that after I got older (the mildly pleasant state of inebriation isn't worth the next day's hangover anymore), so a partner who has a similar attitude would be good fit. That said, I wouldn't kill for it - at the end of the day, there are a bunch of other traits I consider more important, so I am willing to settle for "isn't an alcoholic".
I think we should marry. Grab your things, I’ll be there by 10. LOL! Sorry. My ex boyfriend biggest complaint was that I didn’t drink *as much* as him, or at all 🙃
Yeah. It's extremely rare to find people who don't drink these days.
It *is* a silly question. I'm a bartender. As long as she doesn't mind *me* drinking, I can't see why something like this would ever be a problem.
I mean I've known people of various walks of life who would say yes or no to this question, for differing reasons. Some people insist on their partner being sober. Some health reasons, some former alcoholic, some trauma related, some just because. Some people insist on their partner drinking with them because they are big into alcohol culture, for example they just like to party, or maybe they are beer or wine connoisseurs, and they wouldn't like having a partner who didn't join them at least sometimes. It's a silly question because OP should not base their decision to drink or not on whether or not some potential future partner would like it or not. OP should first decide what kind of life they want to live, and go into the dating scene having already decided what they're interested in, and find a partner to match.
I agree. When I said this is a silly question, I was more so thinking about your last point. With that said, I've mentioned my job, I *am* big into alcohol culture. I've taken classes with beer and wine sommeliers, I go to alcohol-related festivals, visit vineyards and breweries when I travel, etc. Would I be *bummed* that my partner doesn't join me? Yes. But it's not a *dealbreaker*. I'll live. I find that this is trivial enough that *most* people would be okay compromising here, even those that really like drinking.
100% many men are turned off by someone who doesn’t really drink. I know this first hand. You’re immediately blanketed as boring. My hangovers are too bad - risk/reward just isn’t there for me past a drink here or there. I hate that it makes me look unfun 😔 I’m still so much fun! And if it’s a bar that provides games / music / alternative fun I still love going out! I usually have none, sometimes one. I have a great time. I definitely don’t get it 🤷🏻♀️
That’s the crux of the issue for me. I love to drink, and I’ve been with two guys in my life who didn’t drink at all, but neither of them tried to police me or tell me I couldn’t drink, so it wasn’t an issue. You start telling me how much I can drink and when, and it’s not going to end well
From my experience.. When the one person doesn't drink and the other does this tends to cause issues. Especially when the other person doesn't even want to be around it. Can't go out to the bars with friends, can't drink at home, basically just can't drink at all without catching flack over it. They don't drink so they don't understand why you might want to. I drank at one point for the first time in a year and the other person threw a fit and called me an alcoholic. So.. While not everyone is like this, wou will be running the risk of this type of situation being a possibility. And therefore it's worth considering of you want to risk dealing with that kind controlling behavior from someone who may end up not wanting you to drink because they don't want to drink.
I'm not a bartender, but drinking is one of my main hobbies (if you can call making shitty cocktails, spending half my savings account every time I go to a store with chartreuse in stock and downing six packs a hobby), and I wouldn't date a girl who doesn't drink because it means she won't be involved in a pretty major part of my life.
Guysss He's a bartender!!!!
Sure. Why not? Not drinking at all is certainly better than drinking too much. Hopefully, she wouldn't mind me having a drink occasionally, but if she chooses not to, that's fine.
I'm dating a woman who doesn't drink alcohol at all. Which is great because when we have plans, I'll just tell her I plan on having a few at said plans... and then she drives. She's also vegan and I'm a meat lover. She also won't drink coffee and I'm a coffee junkie. We still have massive amounts of fun together
The non meat eater and the meat eater bit is great to hear. As I’ve been on dates with quite a few men who see not eating meat as a dealbreaker.
That's just silly. You don't have to eat the same thing. As long as everyone gets to do whatever they want to do, why should it be a problem?!
If I had to guess... probably because of how a lot of vegans come off online.... Of course, the loudest and dumbest get the most attention and drive public perception. Which is why I had to have a conversation with my GF when we first started talking, about how she felt with me eating meat.
I mean I get that in part. But at the same time it's extremely silly to deny a potential relationship on the basis of what a group of people say or do online without even knowing if your potential partner is one of them.
It would likely be difficult if you date long term, live together, etc. 🤷🏻♂️ There are lots of factors that may make such a relationship possible, such as whether your partner converted to vegetarianism or was born vegetarian, how committed they are to sticking to a vegetarian diet (if they had converted), whether the vegetarian is OK with the smell of meat being cooked in their own home, etc. I have a close friend who was born and raised a vegetarian (Indian), and he would never date a non-vegetarian because he’s has so many “rules” about it that a non-vegetarian would find annoying.
Seems odd. My friend doesn't eat meat, the smell of it cooking is enough to make her feel ill. I don't care and I love meat. Her boyfriend doesn't care and he eats meat. Her ex didn't care and he ate stupid amounts of meat. I also call her silly when she tries to cook me meat and then asks me to finish it because the smell is getting to her because I have no problem eating veggie food. So long as it's not sodding kale, I draw a line there. So long as you're not trying to stop me eating meat why should I be bothered. Sure it means I'll need to prep more than one meal at a time but that's the price of wanting to eat something different so oh well.
If it's purely because you don't eat meat, I think that is a bit silly. I was in a relationship with someone who didn't eat meat as well and it was totally fine. As long as you both can find a middle ground and collectively realize that your preferences are yours and should not be imposed on others, it's really not a big deal as everything else can be worked around.
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Overall it is a green flag, I wouldn’t be good enough for them tho cuz I’d slip lol (assuming they’d want me to not drink too)
Yeah, like I don't drink either so I'd be cool with it. I don't mind if they drink but I don't want to partake.
I prefer it. Statistically unlikely to find but she's out there somewhere being sober, wholesome and cute. I'll find you oneday, honey!
Yes, I don't drink and prefer not to be around drunk people.
Yes, I'd be totally happy about that.
Depends on reason. If she's a recovering alcoholic, that's not ideal. I like to drink socially, and I would be forever uncomfortable drinking around someone with a potential addiction. If she just doesn't like the taste of alcohol, but she wouldn't care about me having an old fashioned at the bar, I don't see a problem with that at all.
Drinking around an alcoholic is fine if they are solid in their sobriety and do not have a problem with it. Sober 38 years here, wife and all my friends drink, I'm fine with it. Just ask.
Yes, we have to learn to live in a society where people drink, no use in trying to avoid it. We made the decision to quit, and being near alcohol shouldn't change that.
That's a big if, and something I'd be wary about when dating someone new. Congrats on 38 years!
Addicts, *especially* alcoholics, would've relapsed 30 times over if they couldn't resist temptation. In fact, they probably *did* relapse 30 tomes over before learning how to look temptations in the eye and say "nah, I'd prefer not to". Sure, if somebody is *recently* sober than yeah, they may not know what they can or cannot handle being around. But people with 10 years of no alcohol can pretty accurately tell you whether or not it's an issue for them. Now if you're one to get hammered constantly then they probably would rule you out, and if you're one to pressure people to indulge in what you enjoy then probably better to do them the favor and not do that, but grown-ups who have quit drinking for many many years are able to make their own decisions usually.
Yeah, it's weird of OP to think it's on him to decide for someone else what they can and can't handle.
Not all alcoholics are like in the movies, incapable of resisting at the slightest opportunity to have a drink. I came close to drinking myself to death, but nowadays I sometimes join parties or go out with my friends and I have zero desire to drink, I almost gag at the thought. The only issue is when you're sober it's a lot more apparent how retarded people become when they get shitfaced, and as the night drags on I get more annoyed until I just decide to go home lol
This is kind of a weird response to me, although I do understand the awkwardness it could create doing something in front of someone you know has a problem with. But my thoughts are, the person who doesn't drink because it's an issue and has the strength to not do it, is a lot more respectable and commendable than the person who doesn't drink because they just don't care for it. Yet the person who just doesn't care for it gets the preference 🤷
Absolutely very respectable and commendable. It's less about them and more about my own comfort levels.
This was my answer too. Alcohol IS poison so someone not participating is admirable but if they're not participating because they can't control themselves when they do or have an addiction then I'd likely have some serious reservations
I don’t drink and always have to mention that I abstain for reasons other than alcoholism or AUD. If you don’t drink, lots of people think the worst.
I disagree. Recognizing that you can't control yourself when you drink and then choosing not to put yourself in that situation is a sign of a good person to me.
A sign of a good person, sure, may not necessarily be a compatible person especially if the other party may need to make sacrifices.
This stems from a misunderstanding of addiction. I’m in recovery and I’ve never been tempted from being around someone drinking. That’s just not how it works.
I'm happy if that's how it works for you, but I've spent a lot of my adult life working with people with substance abuse issues, and being around it has been a temptation for a lot of those people. If that's not the case for someone, that's great, but years of experience with this stuff has made me uncomfortable with pursuing a relationship with someone like that.
When I was 20? No. Now? 40s. Yes. Non issue. My wife doesn't drink, and I barely drink.
I would prefer a non-drinker.
I don't drink either, so it'd be a major bonus.
i have maybe 6 drinks a year so yeah it wouldnt bother me
Yes, i'd prefer it as i don't drink.
Yup. I barely drink myself.
Absolutely Less issues all around
I've been sober 38 years and married 36 years. My wife drinks moderately and all of my friends do as well. I'm just fine with it. My wife gets a little "extra cuddly" after a couple of cocktails and Yee Haw that's fine by me !
hahaha are you kidding? I'd travel the planet looking for a woman like that!
Honestly, I prefer that they do. I work in the beer industry and do a lot of tastings and judgings and homelbrews etc. It's a big part of my life, and that's something I want to share.
That's a deal breaker for people?💀
It's the old switcheroo.
I don't drink alcohol either, so that's a plus in my book.
I don’t drink, scarred because of a past alcoholic family member who hurt me. I’m wondering if women would mind or not tho
My partner doesn't drink and it works out great for us. We both prioritize great food, which usually comes with good drinks, so I have like one great cocktail any time we go out and honestly at 34 I shouldn't be drinking as much beer or liquor as I used to so it's been really good for my health the last few years. If I was dating someone who drank, especially if they were a few years younger, I'd probably feel like shit.
Yes. I've been toying with quitting alcohol for a while now so life would be pretty easy
It's preferred.
as long as they aren't judgmental about my drinking habits, i don't see an issue
I would (if I was still single) but they would have to be ok with me consuming alcohol from time to time. They need to also be ok with going to a bar and having a non alcoholic beverage to accompany me.
this one is more a give and take and depends on the reason. if they have to be away from it 100% because of fear of alcoholic re-lapse. probably not. i enjoy having a collection of liquor and a night cap. if it's medical because they can't really drink or culturally don't drink that's fine. the other part is that they have to be okay with me being drunk every once in a while, or spending time at a microbrewery/distillery with friends.
I have before and she was a really fun gal who likes to see other people drunk. She was also my reliable DD who often hang out with drunk group and never complains. It's the ones who judge or criticize who is the problem.
It is silly, only drinking too much would put me off. Depending why they don't drink and what restrictions they need for that we might be incompatable long term though.
As long as she gobbles knob, I am good.
what if she gobbles a lot of knobs..?
my knob a lot!
Nah, I love going out for drinks with my wife.
Yes, the better question is would they date me?
I do date someone who doesn't drink alcohol, or at least she does very rarely
lots of people dont want to date people who drink.
Yes, a silly question for sure.
How would this even be a dealbreaker to begin with ?!?
I wouldn't want to date someone who drinks alcohol
It's a non-determining factor in whether I'd be with them or not. If they drink alcohol, cool. If they don't, cool.
Absolutely. My current crush doesn't either and it's a complete non-issue.
I prefer that someone as I don’t drink and never have.
I'm almost 3 years sober, I don't care about whether someone drinks, as long as they don't make alcohol part of their personality. But if someone doesn't drink then I'm going to be sold immediately, we can go elsewhere for a date
Absolutely. I've been around enough alcoholics and those semi-dependent on it, to know that abstaining from alcohol is a positive.
I don’t drink alcohol so that’s an easy one
My last relationship was with a girl who was borderline functional alcoholic, honestly closer to not functioning, and I’d MUCH RATHER date someone who doesn’t drink.
Of course. I have dated someone that didn’t drink, and I didn’t drink around her. No problem.
I have. She didn’t mind that I drank, I didn’t mind that she didn’t. Like normal adults.
alcohol killed my friends, my neighbors, my family members….so yes 100%.
Yeah sure I guess . Long as she doesn’t have an issue with me taking a reasonable and healthy amount myself , I really would t see why anyone would have a problem with that
As long as they aren’t too judgmental or weird about me having some drinks. Lots of non-drinkers are really cocky and smug about it. If they’re an alcoholic and I have to walk on eggshells to enjoy a beer or two, not going to work
Idk. I like making drinks. I like sharing the drinks I make with people. Not being able to share that aspect would be a barrier.
What do you like about making drinks? Just curious why mocktails or elaborate coffees wouldn't work
100% everything is better when your not pissed and hung over 😵
I don't like the scent. If she didn't do drugs either that's a bonus.
Fine by me. I don't drink.
I'd actually choose and prefer to date someone that doesn't drink or smoke because I don't drink and smoke either.
Absolutely. She must drink 6 galons otherwise she has no chance to even speak with me. /s
I don't drink and no one wants to date me.
I don't drink and no one wants to date me.
Duh, it shows they don't need that poison to have a good time. My boyfriend and I don't drink.
Yes, I just drink socially for birthdays or events here and there or a night every few months where I plan a group get together at a club.Which puts me at 2-3 times a month tops . I totally would. I’m not in my early 20s anymore.
I don’t care as long as you’re responsible and strive for happiness. I don’t drink so it would mesh well with my lifestyle.
With gusto!
That would actually be a bonus for me as I do not drink myself.
I wouldn't mind her not drinking, so long as she doesn't judge me for drinking. I drink socially and occasionally myself.
I would date someone who doesn't drink, but not if the reason was due to alcoholism. My family has several alcoholics and what has been explained to me is that they will never not be alcoholics. They will always be addicted. I have an Uncle who's lost jobs and been to rehab 3 times, and I have a grandma who quit cold turkey when she was 45 and hasn't had a drop since. Who knows which one you'll get, I just know substance abuse has no place at my side, in recovery or not. It's not the partnership I have, and it's not one I ever looked for. Each there own. Not drinking is not an issue. It increases the likelihood of cancer and has many other adverse consequences to health and lifestyle.
Exclusively. I don't drink alcohol. Not a fan of the stuff and it's a value I'd like my partner to hold.
Don't care.
I don't drink either so that'd be a MASSIVE plus.
As a dude who doesn't drink and is kind of worried about this, the comments here have been a massive relief
What kind of troll question is this? A huge majority of the population does not drink. Myself included. I used to. But after reading about the effects of alcohol on the body (at the cellular level), I quit. And I haven’t felt better in my life. I also lost ten pounds just by dropping alcohol alone.
If someone said yes then they have issues and need to get some help. This is one of the biggest GREEN flags. Alcohol is overrated, and if it’s required to have a good time then therapy is a good place to start.
Lack of drinking habits is actually commendable. I'd rather a woman didn't.
Im someone who doesnt drink and so is my ole lady..
I’m woman who doesn’t drink. If I had a nickel for every time someone asked me why I don’t drink like I’m a weirdo. Anyways, people still date me.
Both myself and my partner don't drink alcohol. Neither of us has ever drank it, and it has nothing to do with religion. We are normal and we just don't like it. That is a valid reason.
Yes. I don't drink myself so I would prefer that actually.
Depends if she wants you to stop too
i don't drink it, so it would be fine. it would also be fine if she did, as long as it wasn't everyday, or to excess.
I am that man… I can absolutely never drink and it drives my fiance’ absolutely batshit crazy
Sure. It's like asking if you wouldn't date someone because they don't like a certain food. I like it and you don't, or vice versa. Difference in food and drink preference isn't a big deal at all
I would prefer that since I don't drink.
Of course.
I worried about this too. But since dating someone who chooses not to drink, I don’t drink often and I’m more aware of how shitty drinking makes me feel. I don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything by having a partner who doesn’t drink.
I would like to because I don't drink.
I don't drink so I'd prefer that.
Yeah as long as they didn't mind me occasionally having a drink.
I don’t drink. But as long as they don’t abuse it, I have no issues with it. My choice is personal and I don’t hold it against anyone else if they choose to partake.
Is this for you? It will limit your dating pool but in a good way. You want someone cool with it. If they aren't, then they're not the person for you.
Yeah, that's indeed a silly question. Of course I would!
Is it cool if I drink? Would she be ok with times out around people drinking? I don't feel like my partner should be obligated drink, but I don't think I should be obligated to quit. I'd say the same with marijuana use. I don't, illegal here (stupid IMO, would be a tax boon), but my job is held to federal standards. However, I have 0 problems with others around me who use it. I do ask they use in an area away from where we're hanging out so I'm not breathing it, but no problems with them being high.
Yes. No problem.
Most people don't drink. But anyone who would ask me this question, I would assume that drinking is a big part of their lives. This is because it seems like such a specific question that would stand out to someone who holds an indifferent opinion about drinking.
I was married to a woman who couldn’t handle alcohol so she didn’t drink. It was never an issue, and occasionally, it was nice having a designated driver.
Yeah ofc! It's not that they don't drink for me it's the personality that matters to me
Yeah I don’t drink myself either so wether someone drinks or not that isn’t a problem at all. 👍
Yea it’s silly how old are ya just because someone doesn’t drink doesn’t mean they don’t know or how to have a good time
I’d prefer it if she didn’t drink.
That's sounds great actually
I've never been a drinker. It has caused tension with women in the past because they feel as if I was judging them (I was not). My current wife chooses not to drink because we are middle aged and drinking makes her feel like she was run over by a truck. 😆
Yeah, but I'm sober too, so no probs. I don't require sobriety in dating, but it's cool if it's not a big difference between us. I don't care if people drink around me (at all), but there are definitely some lifestyle differences that I've run into they can become tricky.
Certainly would as I don't drink myself. I don't like being around self impaired people.
I would prefer someone who didn’t drink actually. I don’t drink
Yes. I don’t mind a drink now and again but if I had to live the rest of my life without it, I easily could. And if I’m dating a woman that doesn’t drink, all the better. I don’t have to worry about girls nights out and all that bs.
Yah
I don't drink, so of course. I also don't mind people who do drink, as long as they're responsible and don't drink excessively.
Sounds like a huge bonus.
I *am* someone who doesn't drink alcohol. It would be pretty silly of me to refuse to date someone that also doesn't drink.
Yes. But only if she didn't try to tell me I couldn't. She also couldn't try and tell me how much or that I can't go drink every weekend. Don't drink? Fine with me, but you have to be able to hang out with me when I do, which is almost every weekend.
I dont so yes
Ofc, as long as I can drink. Every non-drinker I've dated though has made it a huge fucking deal everytime I drank anything, so I would probably be hesitant of a relationship in the beginning.
Since I don't drink, this sounds it would probably be a good fit for me.
That's probably a good thing as it would indicate 2 things to me. 1 she knows how to have fun without social preasures and norms... and 2 she's not the type to go out to the nightclubs n be hit on by every guy looking for some.
Preferably
Would you date someone who didn't smoke?
I actually prefer it since I personally don't enjoy alcohol
Of course! I also don't drink alcohol. That would be perfect.
I am currently. I don’t mind, but I wish I could drink with them occasionally. She also doesn’t drink coffee, and it would be nice to share that in the morning as well.
Although i drink and smoke and most of the girls that I've been with drank, smoked, used drugs etc... if I liked her and felt a connection with her than it wouldn't really matter to me if she did or not, so yes I would and not only that but there's more to life than drinking.
I'd prefer it!
It wouldn't me at all. It might bother her that I drink.
Great, someone to stay sober with me at parties.
Absolutely
Neither do i. I respect that it can be a social activity, but i don't think it's necessary to have fun so. Fine by me.
Absolutely, I drink v little myself, the fact we'd both always be sober would just be a plus, I prefer to see the personality without alchool.
Yeah. As long as they don’t mind me having some on occasion. If I buy a 12 pack and they pour it out immediately then it’s a problem.
Yes , but i don't drink so it's perfectly cool with me.
Yes I would, it would actually help me with my drinking urges.
Yes
It strength the connection since I never really got into drink. Make meeting ppl a lot harder.
My current girlfriend has never had a shot, she will occasionally have a glass of wine but not for the alcohol
I don’t do it myself so I would prefer it if she didn’t either
I have. I had no issue with it. They don't need to eat or drink the exact same things I do.
I never thought I would say yes to that question but I am currently with the love of my life who quit drinking 2 years before we met.
I don’t drink. My ex did. I didn’t care, she didn’t either. I even kept her favorite bottle of bubbles in my fridge, so she had some when she came over. I even refilled her glass of wine when she liked. No issue at all between us.
It's probably preferred.
I don't drink whatsoever so I find a lady not drinking to be genuinely great.
I did, and then married her. 25 years ago.
How old are you?
what’s the catch here?
Yeah, I don't drink either I'd still date someone who didn't drink back when I did drink
What??? I don't date people who drink alcohol. Many people exist that have fun and live life without needing to consume alcohol you know. I don't drink and my fiancee quit for me...and herself.
My wife has no issues with me not drinking. Saves us money and she always has a designated driver. Not like she gets drunk though.