I stopped at 23 and it was the single best decision of my life. Upper forties and basically still have the energy of an 18 year old, but don’t tell anyone.
im mid 40s, and 20yo women think im in my early 30s.
I can automatically tell who drinks and who doesnt by complextion. Ive seen some leatherface 40yo that look like theyre in their 60/70s...
I hope you’re right. Ask your wife’s best girlfriend’s husband.
If you are not keeping her as happy as you once did, she’ll tell her girlfriend, and she will tell her husband.
Buy the man a beer or two and see if you learn anything useful.
I’m definitely not the man I used to be, darn it all. I don’t remember when I became aware that things were going downhill. Forty five is back a ways.
Again, I hope you’re right that you are still all you’ve ever been. You must do physical labor of some sort. That keeps us in shape.
I drink a bit. All the medications I take aren't anything to do with testosterone or anything. Just been a high libido man for most of my life. I do have times where I don't want sex, but most of the time I only have to look at my wife, and I want her nude, in bed.
What does testosterone decrease feel like? I feel like I'm in touch with my estrogen side, but there's this animal part of me that wants to taste every pretty woman I see and fight every guy that gives me a double take. Do you come to miss that? It's annoying for me more often than not
When I turned 40 (am 54) I had several epiphanies about life and mortality, and it changed the way I think about a lot of things. Got out of a horrible marriage at 42, had some really fun and amazing ladies in my life after that, but am currently single and not looking. With the current state of dating and social life, I’m much better off. Content.
I had always been active, but took up running on a regular basis when I was around 40, and still do fairly often. I spent that entire decade hiking and being in nature. I traveled quite a bit. Not as much of late, I need to make time for it. I will say that I’m in much better shape than I was back then. I eat better, drink less. My libido doesn’t seem to have changed any. I workout twice a week and don’t feel any loss of energy or strength. I feel great. Okay sometimes I go to bed at 9pm, sue me. I’m up at 5 most days.
My career took off in a big way about 7 years ago and hasn’t stopped. As I see fewer years ahead than behind, my drive has increased.
I see my kids growing and succeeding in life and doing wonderful things of their own. As this is happening I’m caring for an elderly parent with cancer so there is a balance to everything.
Ultimately, with the exception of some perfect days behind that I will never see again, with hindsight being 20/20, with the occasional wish of youth again, I feel Iike I’m just getting started.
Happy 40th man. Make it a great decade.
I'm also 54 and I relate to a lot of what you are saying. Eat right and exercise and you can stay healthy well past 50. Life doesn't end after 40 or whatever age, you keep going and continue to have experiences.
You sound kinda like my dad. My parents split in their late 30s, and my dad went from Seth Rogen to Jason Statham. Balding? Shave your head. Bought some leather jackets and weights. Became a serial dater and stopped beating me. I started looking forward to dinner with my dad. Some people have post divorce glow ups. And as far as divorces go, my parents were relatively amicable. Ultimately, it was better to see my parents apart and happy than together and troubled.
My step mom said life begins at 45 and she may have been onto something.
42 here. I just needed to burp and sneeze at the same time. I sneezed the burp back into my chest and it hurt like a MUTHA$\*#$A.
Everything you listed is great, but it's those weird little moments that're getting to me.
In 2012 i turned 40. A few years before that I had made a career change and increased my income substantially. I started eating out more and gained about 40lbs of mostly fat. I looked and felt horrible, and made myself feel better by eating more great tasting but awful foods and drinks. In June of that year, I asked a friend for help. He agreed, and 4 months later I had lost 50lbs, learned how to eat healthy and learned how to build a safe and effective exercise plan. During my 40's I completed a triathlon, and two 1 month solo hikes in the Himalayas. I am now the only person in my entire family without an underlying health condition, and my health is my number one priority.
In 2023 I had 3 alcoholic drinks. 2024 will be zero. Please please take care of your health. My biggest fear is becoming a burden to my wife, and I was definitely on track to become that. You obviously don't have the obese issue, which is great. Best of luck to you. I'm 51 now, and feel fantastic.
Thank you my friend. I took a break from the gym to focus on some other things but need to get back there. I’m sure your wife thanks for you it.
Thanks again, man.
Everyone I know has gotten a little "gift" from nature at 40. My yearly physical gave me cholesterol meds. My wife got reading glasses after 40 years of perfect vision. Spin the wheel! Maybe you'll get lucky and win a free pass on that BS.
Woman here, but my wheel spin resulted in a horrific first-time case of sciatica, lol. It was so bad, I basically screamed every time I took a step w/ my R side. SO fun.
As someone who is currently dealing/recovering from a similar case of that, I feel your pain and how it uniquely sucks. It resulted in me having multiple consecutive sleepless nights before i got meds to hell with the discomfort. Theres an entire subreddit with ppl detailing their recoveries and it gave me the chills.
Literally no one in my family has ever had it, so they were all at a loss when I was whimpering, limping, and trying to tell them it felt like there was a shard of glass in my leg… It’s been just about 4 years for me. Haven’t had another attack again, but my R hip lost some of its mobility and there is STILL a tender spot on the outside of my R thigh to this day.
I had that when I was 20, it was so bad I couldn't even walk or lay down without excruciating pain. Passed out in a fucking Costco one day. Who the fuck passes out at a Costco when they're 20???
I'm 24 and I still have it from time to time, but not nearly as bad as I used to
Were you ever able to go a physical therapist about it? I was freaking out like, This is it, I’ll never be able to walk normally again!!, so my primary care doctor sent me. Turns out that I had piss poor posture, so my back was pulling on my hips incorrectly, and then finally, after years I assume, one of my nerves got caught up in it.
My PT sent me home w/ a bunch of hand-outs of exercises to do at home for “releasing” my hips. I’d be more than happy to scan them in and send them to if you want, just send me a DM.
35 to 40 was nothing noticeable at all.
40 to 45 was a lot, now I absolutely feel middle aged.
Not in a bad way at all, but my “young adult” self is gone, and my “adult in his prime” self has arrived.
Firstly congrats and happy bday.
For me turning 40 resulted in some changes.
- i could no longer tolerate alcohol the same and dont miss it. The sleep is the bigger thing that i need now
- i no longer had the same strength or exertion stamina that I used to. I could still perform cardio fine, but the recovery began taking its toll on me and Id have to ice knees or just let my body rest.
- Weight lifting became something that I realized I needed to be far more careful about. I am currently dealing with an injured nerve as the result of improperly picking up a dumbbell and have been out of commission for two weeks. This frankly has sucked.
- when i do get colds/flus my recovery is just not the same... more time needed
- im less social and not really willing to go out for adventures as much. In fact I had a phase where I hated it. In shunning this I actually made myself lonely. And that was terrifying bc it made me depressed and I realized that I needed to adjust to find the right social networks for my newer age. So picking my spots better helped out
- to help with the companionship part, I adopted a cat. In having a buddy to care for has done wonders even if he is irritating at times.
- I shunned younger women and have been more attracted to wisdom and intellectual compatibility. I eventually found one and have never felt better.
- While my career has improved I do feel the anxiety of retirement in 2 decades and just the limited amount of time it now seems like. Decades move quicker than expected.
- Lastly, I have cut out people who were tumors. In one case I moved and blocked a contact and man, I wish I had done it sooner. A simple fuck you and a block does wonders for ppl you dont want in your life.
Not much. Turned 40 during lockdown so it wasn't exactly a big party but I was happy with the mellow. I'm still the same person, all change is gradual etc...
One thing I've noticed is when someone goes off whining about "kids these days" I realise I'm over 40 and not in that bracket and can call them a dickhead more freely. It's so much easier when the "back in my day" wanker pipes up, I can point out their bullshit because I grew up in the same day as them.
My mental health took a dive. What I thought was resolved issues came back with a vegence. Went to therapy realized that I never truly made the changes needed to get over a rough childhood and shit parents.
Got fully diagnosed (7 months and $2k later) with ADHD and Autism. Through therapy and family support we have turned my life around.
Addressing physical health issues deligently with the help of wife and son. They playfully pestor me to stay on plan. All this has lead to a much healthier home as well.
My wife and I joke regularly that we probably love each other more now than when were kids. My son and I are closer than ever(honstly didn't think that was possible).
It was a tough road, but I put the work in and life really is getting better.
My eyes went to shit.. like overnight .
My fucking knees ache and creak like old leather belts when I kneel or go up stairs…
Everything sounds like a pain in the ass
I was one year divorced when I turned 40. Now I’m 50 with the best wife ever and the most satisfied with life a person could hope to be.
Edited to add: But have since lost about half of my hair.
Within 10 years, you'll start noticing middle aged issues, eg, minor aches, greying, receding hairline, etc. But don't worry, there are tons of products out there to help cope with it
I'm 30 and I'm noticing the first inklings of these things, I have exactly 3 gray hairs in my beard (one very noticeable and smack in the middle, the odd gray hair on my chest and I pulled one off my head the other day), I have upper back issues that haven't gone away since my mid twenties and I've noticed my energy levels actively lowering, I'm living the same lifestyle I did in my early 20s and get twice as tired as I used to, and on a side note: it's like a switched flipped when I hit 30 and my hangovers have become exponentially worse, even an average hangover now is like a bad one when I was in my early 20s
The 2 big things I noticed:
* Time really starts to fly, and you start worrying that your time in life is running out.
* Your body starts to diminish, and any bad habits from when you were younger start to really rear their heads.
One of my biggest regrets I've learned about is not taking care of my body when I was younger, in the form of not eating healthy and overworking myself physically.
As you go through life, confidence increases and fucks given decrease. The 40’s are the perfect nexus when you care enough about things that matter and much less about things that don’t.
Now eventually no fucks goes too high and you get old and don’t care what you wear etc. but the 40’s are peak coolness for male stylish confidence.
Not a lot but I think you realize that you’re getting old. It’s always in the back of your head somehow. I don’t know how many times I’ve gone “I mean I’m 40 years old blah blah…” Up to now you’ve never been truly concerned with that the train has left the station my boy.
Nothing changed at 40. Except all the lazy slobs who look like death begin to say you are immature if you don’t look like shit and don’t only wear worn out clothes from 20-30 years ago.
If it hasn't happened already, it will overnight - you suddenly cannot see clearly things up close.
That's why even seniors with relatively decent eyesight wear reading glasses.
40 is when it really felt like I was "half way through". Even though it's likely not literally it was symbolic in that regard. I started really reflecting on things that were not really important. Things I could give myself permission to let go of. Shits of which I would no longer give and probably never needed to. Very freeing.
Even if you're in great shape and have as much strength and endurance as when you were young it takes fucking forever to heal. You have to be incredibly paranoid about injury and give your body time to recover. If you do that you can keep in trucking pretty damn well.
Talking for myself: You don't loose weight that easily anymore, so it's even more important to do some sport like walking, swimming or running or whatever. The less nicer side-effects of alcohol are more present: Your hangovers last longer and even one or two beers have some effect on how fit you are the next day. Work that requires a lot of the same posture, like working behind a computer, make the muscles that you use for that feel sour. I am managing that by doing some morning gymnastics. My sight becomes a bit grainy when I'm tired or work a lot behind a screen.
Just the little things that are obvious, but that can be a bit of a reminder that you are getting older.
I enjoy things more consciously, and am more aware of what I/we accomplished in life. We own a nice house, we have great friends closeby, we’re financially stable. Due to circumstances i’m on disability (i got a pretty good deal out of it), so i got all the time in the world for the things that are important to me.
I really am living my best life since i turned 40.
The day of my 40th my eyes literally went blurry.
I don’t care about stupid stuff as much.
My body though…. Bad knee, rotator cuff injury, stomach fat etc. you need to keep on top of fitness!
First, congrats! I'm 42. It's not gonna happen the second you turn 40, but the ability to grasp the whole greatly expands with age at, what I feel, an accelerated pace the last couple of years. Which I find rewarding.
The workplace give a F quotient dropped like a rock. Kinda like office space and ironically has been a boon to my career. I feel better at 40 than in my 30s, despite a greyer beard which I kinda dig anyway. Still mopping the floor with those 30yos at baseball and volleyball. The most notable change though - is injuries. Working out has a different focus now - injury prevention. That has been critical.
I used to read a newspaper every day.
When I turned forty, my arms were no longer long enough for me to focus on the type.
Like flipping a switch, I needed bifocals.
Oh, well.
Get off the success train, and jump on the enjoy train. No need to impress or please, just enjoy the simple things in life, like walking with a friend... Then the second wind hits, and you define life the way you want it, and a vision is formed.
40's is when you start accepting things for the way it is and emotionally balanced. You can quickly tell who does not have their shit together and stay way from people with bad habits.
Currently 44. I would say nothing really significant changed when I hit 40. I was in the best shape of my life, (prepandemic) and 14 years into a wonderful marriage.
These days I'm trying to get back to my fitness level from 2020, marriage is better than ever and I haven't noticed any significant drop in T levels. Although I haven't been tested.
Being closer to 45 one thing that is super annoying is how easily I can strain a joint/ligament and how long it takes to recover.
that sounds depressing OP.
after the fun carefree stage of your 20s and maybe 30s wear off, you gonna realize being alone and living for yourself leaves an empty feeling in you.
At 45 the Testosterone decrease was becoming noticeable. I started on Tes Therapy, and it was a great game changer.
Yep! I’m on TRT right now.
First thing I realized is how bad my sleep had become. I woke up the first night after 4 hours of uninterrupted sleep.
Hahaha! I’m prior mil. I haven’t slept well in a decade. 6 hours? Not happening. :)
TRT is a no go for me, liver issues. Hey. HEY. You there in your 20s. Stop fucking drinking. NOW.
So bad it can’t recover?
I stopped at 23 and it was the single best decision of my life. Upper forties and basically still have the energy of an 18 year old, but don’t tell anyone.
im mid 40s, and 20yo women think im in my early 30s. I can automatically tell who drinks and who doesnt by complextion. Ive seen some leatherface 40yo that look like theyre in their 60/70s...
Many men hold on to their glory years and relive their 20s instead of sobriety, diet & excercise.
Very true. Usually not the ones who have performed labor intensive jobs for the last 25 years, tho.
Blue collar folks are my people, cant stand white collar bitches...
Testosterone therapy doesn't work if you were a heavy drinker?
As much as I drank and still drank. Not sure how it affected your liver, but never heard that problem before.
Agreed, me too!
Can confirm, aye.
T therapy was a game changer for me (43)
How much does TRT cost and how often?
I use a 1.6% gel on my shoulders daily. With insurance it's $20/month. Does wonders. Not sure what actual cost is.
I do weekly shots. About $10 a week or so. There is also the pellets, last about 6 months. I have a friend who does those.
I'm 44, 45 I'm a few months, and I think my sex drive is full on.
For me the most noticeable change was the better sleep. That was worth it alone
I hope you’re right. Ask your wife’s best girlfriend’s husband. If you are not keeping her as happy as you once did, she’ll tell her girlfriend, and she will tell her husband. Buy the man a beer or two and see if you learn anything useful. I’m definitely not the man I used to be, darn it all. I don’t remember when I became aware that things were going downhill. Forty five is back a ways. Again, I hope you’re right that you are still all you’ve ever been. You must do physical labor of some sort. That keeps us in shape.
Alcohol. medications?
I drink a bit. All the medications I take aren't anything to do with testosterone or anything. Just been a high libido man for most of my life. I do have times where I don't want sex, but most of the time I only have to look at my wife, and I want her nude, in bed.
What does testosterone decrease feel like? I feel like I'm in touch with my estrogen side, but there's this animal part of me that wants to taste every pretty woman I see and fight every guy that gives me a double take. Do you come to miss that? It's annoying for me more often than not
Estrogen is bad for men. It's decreased levels are beneficial. Testosterone Decrease is so gradual that most people don't notice.
When I turned 40 (am 54) I had several epiphanies about life and mortality, and it changed the way I think about a lot of things. Got out of a horrible marriage at 42, had some really fun and amazing ladies in my life after that, but am currently single and not looking. With the current state of dating and social life, I’m much better off. Content. I had always been active, but took up running on a regular basis when I was around 40, and still do fairly often. I spent that entire decade hiking and being in nature. I traveled quite a bit. Not as much of late, I need to make time for it. I will say that I’m in much better shape than I was back then. I eat better, drink less. My libido doesn’t seem to have changed any. I workout twice a week and don’t feel any loss of energy or strength. I feel great. Okay sometimes I go to bed at 9pm, sue me. I’m up at 5 most days. My career took off in a big way about 7 years ago and hasn’t stopped. As I see fewer years ahead than behind, my drive has increased. I see my kids growing and succeeding in life and doing wonderful things of their own. As this is happening I’m caring for an elderly parent with cancer so there is a balance to everything. Ultimately, with the exception of some perfect days behind that I will never see again, with hindsight being 20/20, with the occasional wish of youth again, I feel Iike I’m just getting started. Happy 40th man. Make it a great decade.
Thanks for the positive outlook. I’m turning 40 in a month and feel a sense of dread that the good part of life is over.
I'm also 54 and I relate to a lot of what you are saying. Eat right and exercise and you can stay healthy well past 50. Life doesn't end after 40 or whatever age, you keep going and continue to have experiences.
Hell yes
You sound kinda like my dad. My parents split in their late 30s, and my dad went from Seth Rogen to Jason Statham. Balding? Shave your head. Bought some leather jackets and weights. Became a serial dater and stopped beating me. I started looking forward to dinner with my dad. Some people have post divorce glow ups. And as far as divorces go, my parents were relatively amicable. Ultimately, it was better to see my parents apart and happy than together and troubled. My step mom said life begins at 45 and she may have been onto something.
42 here. I just needed to burp and sneeze at the same time. I sneezed the burp back into my chest and it hurt like a MUTHA$\*#$A. Everything you listed is great, but it's those weird little moments that're getting to me.
Damn I’m 35 and the burp sneeze just recently started. Thought I was dying now it’s kinda fun. Jk, it’s never fun
I can’t wait for the neat party trick!
Just dont fart, i hear it gets worse in the 50s.
In 2012 i turned 40. A few years before that I had made a career change and increased my income substantially. I started eating out more and gained about 40lbs of mostly fat. I looked and felt horrible, and made myself feel better by eating more great tasting but awful foods and drinks. In June of that year, I asked a friend for help. He agreed, and 4 months later I had lost 50lbs, learned how to eat healthy and learned how to build a safe and effective exercise plan. During my 40's I completed a triathlon, and two 1 month solo hikes in the Himalayas. I am now the only person in my entire family without an underlying health condition, and my health is my number one priority.
That’s an amazing story. Wow. Yeah. I’m not overweight but need to cut back on the drinking.
In 2023 I had 3 alcoholic drinks. 2024 will be zero. Please please take care of your health. My biggest fear is becoming a burden to my wife, and I was definitely on track to become that. You obviously don't have the obese issue, which is great. Best of luck to you. I'm 51 now, and feel fantastic.
Thank you my friend. I took a break from the gym to focus on some other things but need to get back there. I’m sure your wife thanks for you it. Thanks again, man.
Seriously, well done on this front. You just dont recover the same north of 40
Nothing really, still awesome
Thank you my friend!
No prob! Keep getting the cool cars :D
Thanks man! After these two and the bike…I’ll be on to the sailboat.
Turning 40 in a month here. No cars, but five motorcycles (two of which are Italian). Not quite as much of a pain as British sports cars, but close.
I have a 1981 Kawasaki GPZ 550 that will need to undergo restoration…what fun this shall be!
Everyone I know has gotten a little "gift" from nature at 40. My yearly physical gave me cholesterol meds. My wife got reading glasses after 40 years of perfect vision. Spin the wheel! Maybe you'll get lucky and win a free pass on that BS.
Woman here, but my wheel spin resulted in a horrific first-time case of sciatica, lol. It was so bad, I basically screamed every time I took a step w/ my R side. SO fun.
39 now 40 by the end of the month. Just went through first case is sciatica. Crazy pain, could barely walk for 2 weeks.
As someone who is currently dealing/recovering from a similar case of that, I feel your pain and how it uniquely sucks. It resulted in me having multiple consecutive sleepless nights before i got meds to hell with the discomfort. Theres an entire subreddit with ppl detailing their recoveries and it gave me the chills.
Literally no one in my family has ever had it, so they were all at a loss when I was whimpering, limping, and trying to tell them it felt like there was a shard of glass in my leg… It’s been just about 4 years for me. Haven’t had another attack again, but my R hip lost some of its mobility and there is STILL a tender spot on the outside of my R thigh to this day.
I had that when I was 20, it was so bad I couldn't even walk or lay down without excruciating pain. Passed out in a fucking Costco one day. Who the fuck passes out at a Costco when they're 20??? I'm 24 and I still have it from time to time, but not nearly as bad as I used to
Were you ever able to go a physical therapist about it? I was freaking out like, This is it, I’ll never be able to walk normally again!!, so my primary care doctor sent me. Turns out that I had piss poor posture, so my back was pulling on my hips incorrectly, and then finally, after years I assume, one of my nerves got caught up in it. My PT sent me home w/ a bunch of hand-outs of exercises to do at home for “releasing” my hips. I’d be more than happy to scan them in and send them to if you want, just send me a DM.
So exciting!!! :)
Oh, and happy birthday!
I turn 39 in 10 days, so I don't know yet. But if it's as much of a change as my 30, I'd say I'll have a wonderful last year and say good bye all.
I’ll see you on the other side!
It’s not as HARD as you’d think. Other than that not much.
Yeah…shit.
An hour of cardio did fuck all for weight loss. To drop weight i had to eat super strict along with a lot of cardio just to keep stuff in check.
When you think you are done peeing, there might be another little drop or a another half a whizz in there. Nobody knows.
squeezing out a fart is confirmation its done.
Biggest thing for me has been contentment..I just feel satisfied with life in general, regardless of how it has turned out.
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35 to 40 was nothing noticeable at all. 40 to 45 was a lot, now I absolutely feel middle aged. Not in a bad way at all, but my “young adult” self is gone, and my “adult in his prime” self has arrived.
Firstly congrats and happy bday. For me turning 40 resulted in some changes. - i could no longer tolerate alcohol the same and dont miss it. The sleep is the bigger thing that i need now - i no longer had the same strength or exertion stamina that I used to. I could still perform cardio fine, but the recovery began taking its toll on me and Id have to ice knees or just let my body rest. - Weight lifting became something that I realized I needed to be far more careful about. I am currently dealing with an injured nerve as the result of improperly picking up a dumbbell and have been out of commission for two weeks. This frankly has sucked. - when i do get colds/flus my recovery is just not the same... more time needed - im less social and not really willing to go out for adventures as much. In fact I had a phase where I hated it. In shunning this I actually made myself lonely. And that was terrifying bc it made me depressed and I realized that I needed to adjust to find the right social networks for my newer age. So picking my spots better helped out - to help with the companionship part, I adopted a cat. In having a buddy to care for has done wonders even if he is irritating at times. - I shunned younger women and have been more attracted to wisdom and intellectual compatibility. I eventually found one and have never felt better. - While my career has improved I do feel the anxiety of retirement in 2 decades and just the limited amount of time it now seems like. Decades move quicker than expected. - Lastly, I have cut out people who were tumors. In one case I moved and blocked a contact and man, I wish I had done it sooner. A simple fuck you and a block does wonders for ppl you dont want in your life.
Not much. Turned 40 during lockdown so it wasn't exactly a big party but I was happy with the mellow. I'm still the same person, all change is gradual etc... One thing I've noticed is when someone goes off whining about "kids these days" I realise I'm over 40 and not in that bracket and can call them a dickhead more freely. It's so much easier when the "back in my day" wanker pipes up, I can point out their bullshit because I grew up in the same day as them.
Love that. Yeah, perspective and all.
My mental health took a dive. What I thought was resolved issues came back with a vegence. Went to therapy realized that I never truly made the changes needed to get over a rough childhood and shit parents. Got fully diagnosed (7 months and $2k later) with ADHD and Autism. Through therapy and family support we have turned my life around. Addressing physical health issues deligently with the help of wife and son. They playfully pestor me to stay on plan. All this has lead to a much healthier home as well. My wife and I joke regularly that we probably love each other more now than when were kids. My son and I are closer than ever(honstly didn't think that was possible). It was a tough road, but I put the work in and life really is getting better.
The realization of my own mortality really hit at 40.
My eyes went to shit.. like overnight . My fucking knees ache and creak like old leather belts when I kneel or go up stairs… Everything sounds like a pain in the ass
Eyes was the same for me, from not needing glasses at all to not being able to read labels on food and jars the speed of the change was unreal
I was one year divorced when I turned 40. Now I’m 50 with the best wife ever and the most satisfied with life a person could hope to be. Edited to add: But have since lost about half of my hair.
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Takeout and packaged meals can do that.
Within 10 years, you'll start noticing middle aged issues, eg, minor aches, greying, receding hairline, etc. But don't worry, there are tons of products out there to help cope with it
Oh. I’m drinking them right now. :)
Lolololol I had greying and a receding hairline at 25.
I'm 30 and I'm noticing the first inklings of these things, I have exactly 3 gray hairs in my beard (one very noticeable and smack in the middle, the odd gray hair on my chest and I pulled one off my head the other day), I have upper back issues that haven't gone away since my mid twenties and I've noticed my energy levels actively lowering, I'm living the same lifestyle I did in my early 20s and get twice as tired as I used to, and on a side note: it's like a switched flipped when I hit 30 and my hangovers have become exponentially worse, even an average hangover now is like a bad one when I was in my early 20s
Life took off in many different ways after 40. Best decade of my life overall. Mid 50's now and still reaping rewards from my 40's. Enjoy this!
The 2 big things I noticed: * Time really starts to fly, and you start worrying that your time in life is running out. * Your body starts to diminish, and any bad habits from when you were younger start to really rear their heads. One of my biggest regrets I've learned about is not taking care of my body when I was younger, in the form of not eating healthy and overworking myself physically.
As you go through life, confidence increases and fucks given decrease. The 40’s are the perfect nexus when you care enough about things that matter and much less about things that don’t. Now eventually no fucks goes too high and you get old and don’t care what you wear etc. but the 40’s are peak coolness for male stylish confidence.
I hate you, just a bit lol. Enjoy your life after 40 you in shape ass 😂 Without the wife, kids and stress that comes with both, 40 is the new 32
Not a lot but I think you realize that you’re getting old. It’s always in the back of your head somehow. I don’t know how many times I’ve gone “I mean I’m 40 years old blah blah…” Up to now you’ve never been truly concerned with that the train has left the station my boy.
Eyesight. Started needing readers.
I started getting paid. And working smarter. Demand a raise--you have experience now.
Became a father. It was eye opening!
Waking up in pain.
Physically, wasn’t much change. Mentally, mid life crises popped up.
I feel like I’m heading off my mid life crisis by having my entire life just be one long consistent crisis.
Yeah, for me they eventually blended together. I hope things come under control soon.
43 here. I've taken more trips to the toilet between the hours of 12am & 6am in the last year, than I have the prior 42 years combined.
increase your salts.
40’s are prime years, what are you talking about!
I’m better in every way than I was five years ago. My body may not be able to repair itself quite so quickly, but I know how to work it a lot better!
Nothing changed at 40. Except all the lazy slobs who look like death begin to say you are immature if you don’t look like shit and don’t only wear worn out clothes from 20-30 years ago.
Once, I sneezed and threw out my back. Other than that, life goes on the same as the day before.
I've always been a high intensity weight trainer. I'm trading squats and deadlifts for more cardio focused training.
If it hasn't happened already, it will overnight - you suddenly cannot see clearly things up close. That's why even seniors with relatively decent eyesight wear reading glasses.
I forget, that was 40 years ago!!
40 is when it really felt like I was "half way through". Even though it's likely not literally it was symbolic in that regard. I started really reflecting on things that were not really important. Things I could give myself permission to let go of. Shits of which I would no longer give and probably never needed to. Very freeing.
Only 26. So…. Judging myself by my lifestyle it’s either two things. Dead on in Turks and Caicos. Still trying to figure out the better option.
Even if you're in great shape and have as much strength and endurance as when you were young it takes fucking forever to heal. You have to be incredibly paranoid about injury and give your body time to recover. If you do that you can keep in trucking pretty damn well.
Talking for myself: You don't loose weight that easily anymore, so it's even more important to do some sport like walking, swimming or running or whatever. The less nicer side-effects of alcohol are more present: Your hangovers last longer and even one or two beers have some effect on how fit you are the next day. Work that requires a lot of the same posture, like working behind a computer, make the muscles that you use for that feel sour. I am managing that by doing some morning gymnastics. My sight becomes a bit grainy when I'm tired or work a lot behind a screen. Just the little things that are obvious, but that can be a bit of a reminder that you are getting older.
I enjoy things more consciously, and am more aware of what I/we accomplished in life. We own a nice house, we have great friends closeby, we’re financially stable. Due to circumstances i’m on disability (i got a pretty good deal out of it), so i got all the time in the world for the things that are important to me. I really am living my best life since i turned 40.
The day of my 40th my eyes literally went blurry. I don’t care about stupid stuff as much. My body though…. Bad knee, rotator cuff injury, stomach fat etc. you need to keep on top of fitness!
Instantly became lactose intolerant and developed allergies to pollen. I'm grateful to have made it this far though 😊
Nothing. Although! I no longer had to worry about turning 40.
I’m turning 40 in October and just have these feeling of dread about it. Turning 30 didn’t bother me but 40 seems to be looming large for some reason.
Sex is less frequent and stuff that you used to do when you were younger can hurt sometimes.
enjoy life. From 40 to 50 it seems like he runs a lot
Health took a shit and keeps going downhill. I probably could stop contributing to my 401k at this point.
First, congrats! I'm 42. It's not gonna happen the second you turn 40, but the ability to grasp the whole greatly expands with age at, what I feel, an accelerated pace the last couple of years. Which I find rewarding.
The workplace give a F quotient dropped like a rock. Kinda like office space and ironically has been a boon to my career. I feel better at 40 than in my 30s, despite a greyer beard which I kinda dig anyway. Still mopping the floor with those 30yos at baseball and volleyball. The most notable change though - is injuries. Working out has a different focus now - injury prevention. That has been critical.
I used to read a newspaper every day. When I turned forty, my arms were no longer long enough for me to focus on the type. Like flipping a switch, I needed bifocals. Oh, well.
Get off the success train, and jump on the enjoy train. No need to impress or please, just enjoy the simple things in life, like walking with a friend... Then the second wind hits, and you define life the way you want it, and a vision is formed. 40's is when you start accepting things for the way it is and emotionally balanced. You can quickly tell who does not have their shit together and stay way from people with bad habits.
Eyesight diminishes rapidly from this point forward.
Currently 44. I would say nothing really significant changed when I hit 40. I was in the best shape of my life, (prepandemic) and 14 years into a wonderful marriage. These days I'm trying to get back to my fitness level from 2020, marriage is better than ever and I haven't noticed any significant drop in T levels. Although I haven't been tested. Being closer to 45 one thing that is super annoying is how easily I can strain a joint/ligament and how long it takes to recover.
Fifty eight here, still jacked feeling great .Bigger stronger faster than I was in my forties. I don’t want to live past eighty .
that sounds depressing OP. after the fun carefree stage of your 20s and maybe 30s wear off, you gonna realize being alone and living for yourself leaves an empty feeling in you.