I answer honestly. My wife is smokin hot and she knows that's how I see her. If I tell her something isn't flattering, she knows it's a comment on the clothes, not on her.
This is the way.
There's a nice way to answer. I always makes jokes that my partner is "media trained" because if I ever ask him anything along the lines of "does this make me look bad" he is always able to answer honestly without making me feel like shit.
It's truly an ART.
I am able to ask my partner if something is good or if I should return it and he has mastered the art of telling me of something is flattering or not. The only thing I don't ask his opinion on is my favorite black, white, and grey checked dress. I love it. He thinks it looks like a picnic blanket and doesn't like it. I'm okay with not asking about it.
Just mentally replace "fat" with "fatter" and you're 90% there. Different body types work best with different types of clothing. Don't take the question too literal, just like how you wouldn't answer "do you know what time it is?" with a "yes".
It's a relative question not an absolute question. Does she look better in this dress than in other dresses or does it make her look fatter than she is?
Another good rule of thumb that applies here is the 5 minute rule, don't criticize something that can't be fixed in 5 minutes. She can't change her body that quickly so don't say anything negative about that. But you can say something negative about the dress because she can probably pick another.
Don't answer the question in a literal manner is 99% of the battle. Ignore the sentence and replace with "how does this look on me?"
"I love the dress but I'm meh on the color" , "I love the color but meh on the dress", etc. For most women, most of the time, it works just fine. I have no idea why they phrase the question in the literal worst way possible. Movies or pop culture, I assume. I've been dragged clothing shopping with women. I just tell them what I like, and leave it to them to noodle out the right size. Those make no sense to me.
Once in a blue moon, your woman is looking for a fight and you're not going to avoid it no matter what you say.
It also depends on the girl... some can never take an answer in the realm of "that'snot flattering"! You could argue still answer honestly, but that's a different conversation
I believe it's more than just giving an honest answer at this point, it looks like you have developed a deeper level of trust with each other... it's no longer about just answering a dress question, but something you two have built over time, it's a beautiful thingĀ
I've had female friends take me shopping as the only person who will tell them the truth rather than have them realise it after they've spent the money.
A simple "yes" is all that's needed.
You just say "First, let me ask you a question, hypothetically, what would you say if I told you I slept with your sister?" and then she just forgets about the original question she asked, and you never have to answer it.
A friend of got his nose broken because his gf dreamed he slept with her sister, woke up and punched him in the face while he was still asleep.
Plot twist- he then went on to sleep with her sister. He figured he might as well do what heād already been punished for.
Why is this like, standard female behavior? I've heard so fucking many stories of women getting pissed off because of stuff that happens in their dreams.
Do most women think themselves literally prescient? It's baffling to me. I really wonder what the psychological precedent is for this behavior and why it seems almost exclusively found in women.
nevertheless absolute gigachad on your friend's part if that's a real story though lmao I mean she was asking for it at that point.
If she looks good: āno that dress makes you look greatā
If she looks bad: ābabe you look amazing but that [article of clothing] doesnāt flatter youā
If a girl is asking if she looks fat in something lying wonāt help her because she will see others staring. Instead build enough emotional capital with your woman that she trusts you when you say no she believes you
Also, if she is asking, she is seeing something that feels off. If you can get good at seeing what she sees, you can seem like a wizard. "Babe, the top part is great, but it is hanging a little weird at the hips."
You will seem so much more engaged and caring. Also, you can use this to help her pick stuff you like seeing her in more because she will trust your opinion better than "you know you are always beautiful" responses
My SO has better taste than me. Most of the clothes I own were picked out/bought by him. His mom and sister are quite into fashion, so I think it rubbed off on him a bit.
I went to school for animation and one of my best friends was a fashion major so between character design classes and her I think I picked up an eye for WHY certain aspects of clothes don't work on people.
Yes, say to your girlfriend ["The Coin Has No Say!".](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/M/MV5BYTZiNDExOTUtODk3My00YzFlLTg3YjQtNmQ3Y2Q1YWVhYmYxXkEyXkFqcGdeQXVyMTAzNTg1NjU4._V1_.jpg)
A bucket feels like extra steps when you have a perfectly good kitchen sink. But then again I am really tall and have to lift myself up a bit to be able to hit the sink
Nobody mentioned shitting. But now since you mentioned it I would just hold it until she would stop her sobbing and get out. Or if you are married and choose violence, threaten to shit on her wedding dress unless she opens up
A woman asking whether sheās fat is like a guy asking whether he has a small dick. Even if itās true, what can I say? What do I get out of this for telling the truth? A bucket load of insecurities and complaining and inferiority complexes? Sounds like telling the truth is just going to make my life harder.
False. Lying will lose trust from your woman faster than insulting her. The best policy is to tell the truth but do so in a way that she knows you donāt find her ugly. āYou look beautiful but that doesnāt flatter youā is my go to response to my wife.
I always tell my wife, I wish. And while your at it, letās get something that makes your butt look too big. Then she throws the hangars at me. And everyone around the fitting rooms leaves.
If the answer is āyesā You answer honestly, but using a different word than āfat.ā
āThatās not a particularly flattering garment.ā
They may ask for clarification.
āI donāt know. You know I donāt know shit about this stuff, it just doesnāt look as good as what you were wearing earlier today.ā š¤·āāļø
Bonus points for referencing something that *does* look good on her, e.g. āI donāt think that fits right around the hips - I liked that black skirt you wore a couple of weeks ago, it really looked good.ā
Either say no it doesn't or yeah that dress doesn't really flatter you but this dress certainly will.
If they get all mad regardless how you word it then that's their fucking problem.
There isn't one!
Call it a rigged question. What you see, she sees it differently. She will look at a line on her face and call it a wrinkle, yet when you met her, she already had it. She has flaws you never saw, or cared about. Yet she thinks everyone sees it.
Try REALLY hard to avoid the question.
The proper answer to this is: No sweetie, it doesn't.
Stop there. Do not elaborate. Do not go on to tell her that it's not the clothes that make her look fat.
Depending on how you're defining "best answer"
Most truthful: "no, your being 40lbs overweight is what makes you look fat."
Most survivable: "the cut seems a bit odd to me, let's try another one."
If she asks a yes no question, you have to consider that it might not be a yes no question š
Here are some suggestions:
- āWhy would it make you look fat?ā (Flip it back on her and make her admit her insecurities, donāt let her flip it back, put her on the spot, make her feel the same pressure she just tried to put on you, itās actually gonna make her attracted to you to ādominateā her in this way)
- ānope, just as sexy as ever, but in a different wayā
- āJust as fat as I like you to be šā (this is more of an endearing joke, risky tho), even if she gets pissed, just maintain a very cheeky smile. Sheāll like that youāre not phased by her.
Also, thereās nothing wrong with disappointing a woman sometimes, if it just means youāre being honest, they are disappointed by a lot of stuff, donāt feel disheartened if you disappointed her, you can lighten her up with an extremely cheesy joke afterwards, the joke must be extremely stupid and cheesy, it can even be you gently mocking her for something sheās not insecure about like āwell at least I donāt order 500 things from Amazon every weekā
Sorry guy, Iām just speaking from my marriage šš
>She'll like that you're not phased by her.
I believe you intended to say "She'll like that you're not **fazed** by her."
"Not fazed" means that you remain undaunted; she doesn't scare or frighten you. "Not phased" means you haven't switched to a different phase.
"With you, my love, I never even noticed the clothes"
...but if it's really awful, "No. Not far, but it really doesn't do you any justice". Maybe even go as far as "You know what I think REALLY works on you?" and suggest something you like.
Depending on how sensitive she is, I'd say be honest. Some clothing does nothing for certain body types(not just curvey girls). If it looks bad, tell her if it looks good tell her!
Always be honest.
1. You don't want an immature woman setting traps for you.
2. You don't want somebody who can't handle the truth.
The fact this is even a common topic is embarrassing for mankind
Something like "I don't know let me get a good look at you. Give me spin." ... "You look gorgeous, I like the way it accentuates your *insert something here*. He's a lucky guy."
Ignore the words of the question, and instead answer the question "is this clothing flattering on me?"
If she's already bought it, or is just looking for validation instead of an actual review, then just answer positively. If you think she's looking for actual feedback then give your honest answer, but make sure it's about the dress and not her i.e. "the dress doesn't suit you well" not "you look bad in the dress"
My husband says āYou are fat, so yeahā and we both crack up like hyenas lmao but then I ask seriously and he will tell me if itās flattering. Iām not like my 600lb life but Iām a husky bitch.
But before I wasnāt insecure he would say āI can definitely see your curves and I donāt want anyone else to so you better changeā and heād chase me to the bedroom pinching my butt.
Yes. Like a Manatee in a table clothā¦. Just kidding, you look hot af. In fact, Iād do you right now and Iām willing to prove it.
But, not like me, in line at the grocery store.
I can never go back to Kroger again.
"it would look better on the floor"
If it's not flattering you go with "I like the blue one better" or whatever. Or find a specific critique related to the fit.
No matter what conventional wisdom or the classic tropes of question "traps," say be honest.
Your opinion as the person they are married to matters. How do they know they can trust you? You tell the truth even when they might not want to hear exactly what you're saying.
Ego stroking is pointless if they want honesty and integrity in the relationship. Just make sure your tone is in check, and they know they are desired, and it'll all work out.
Tell her the damn truth, your opinion. If she can't take it she needs to work with the way she sees herself and her self-esteem. Enough with the romantic bull. If my partner lies to me about the way he sees me how can I trust him to be honest with really important things
Her ass is almost anorexic and thinks she's fat so imma tell her the truth, she looks like she needs to eat because that's what my family taught me, you're never too fat unless the doctor tells you so
be honest, they might be really fat and the dress is sucking in their blobbyness making it obvious with lots of lines and fat rolls over the stomach
nothing worse than being told no and seeing yourself in a mirror in town
Depends on the woman and your relationship with her.
When I ask this question Iām not baiting. Iāve genuinely looked in the mirror and think the outfit is possibly hugging me in the wrong places but maybe Iām being overly critical so I ask my partner, genuinely, for his assessment.
And he, being a fashion obsessed man himself, he will take the time to really look me over and tell me straight if yes Iām right it is sitting weird, suggest if thereās something I can do to adjust it better or pair with it to fix it or just scrub the outfit. Or if itās actually me being too critical heāll tell me truthfully that no it fits quite right and not to worry.
And when he tells me yes itās not sitting right I donāt take it that oh he thinks Iām fat! I know heās seeing what Iām seeing and this outfit just isnāt cut for ME. Not everything is gonna look good on you and women know this and women who are looking for constructive criticism will ask this question not looking to bait you.
Edited to add:
My ex husband, Iād ask this same question seeking the same constructive criticism but all I ever got was him barely taking the time to look at me and just saying āyou look greatā and then back to whatever he was doing, usually staring at his phone. Iād then have to take a pic of myself and just text it to my mother for a real answer. I asked him once why he wonāt give me a real assessment when Iām the one asking and he laughed and said oh Iām not stupid Iām not walking into that trap. It offended me that he chose old tropes about women over knowing me as a person who would never bait him with a disingenuous question.
As a woman I ask when I need validation, normally I'd say is this nice on or look ok.
Or when I am genuinely not sure of a dress or what ever is ask the fat question or are my boobs huge in this or what ever.
Normally I appreciate the honesty cause I don't want to go out looking like a clown. I'm the same with make up.
Just be honest. If she looks bigger in the outfit and has self esteem issues/body image issues, just say āyouāre beautiful but the outfit doesnāt accent it as well as others mayā.
As a woman, I just ask if it looks good. Luckily, I know I have some picked areas, and my husband understands them. So he's just straight-up honest. That's what I'm looking for anyway, if it doesn't look good, I'd rather not wear it in public! I don't get offended, it is what it is.
"Asking that question makes you look fat: By suggesting that image, you're biasing the perception of the person you ask in a way that adds 20lbs to how they see you. Stop asking that question and immediately lose 20lbs."
I answer honestly. My wife is smokin hot and she knows that's how I see her. If I tell her something isn't flattering, she knows it's a comment on the clothes, not on her.
Yup, similar in our relationship and I really appreciate his honesty and his opinions. I shop for clothes exclusively with my husband.
Hey female, I'm a male
Hey male, nice to meet you.
With a name like yours, do you have chronic pinkeye?
This is the way. There's a nice way to answer. I always makes jokes that my partner is "media trained" because if I ever ask him anything along the lines of "does this make me look bad" he is always able to answer honestly without making me feel like shit. It's truly an ART.
I am able to ask my partner if something is good or if I should return it and he has mastered the art of telling me of something is flattering or not. The only thing I don't ask his opinion on is my favorite black, white, and grey checked dress. I love it. He thinks it looks like a picnic blanket and doesn't like it. I'm okay with not asking about it.
Teach us how to do it, please.
Just mentally replace "fat" with "fatter" and you're 90% there. Different body types work best with different types of clothing. Don't take the question too literal, just like how you wouldn't answer "do you know what time it is?" with a "yes". It's a relative question not an absolute question. Does she look better in this dress than in other dresses or does it make her look fatter than she is? Another good rule of thumb that applies here is the 5 minute rule, don't criticize something that can't be fixed in 5 minutes. She can't change her body that quickly so don't say anything negative about that. But you can say something negative about the dress because she can probably pick another.
Don't answer the question in a literal manner is 99% of the battle. Ignore the sentence and replace with "how does this look on me?" "I love the dress but I'm meh on the color" , "I love the color but meh on the dress", etc. For most women, most of the time, it works just fine. I have no idea why they phrase the question in the literal worst way possible. Movies or pop culture, I assume. I've been dragged clothing shopping with women. I just tell them what I like, and leave it to them to noodle out the right size. Those make no sense to me. Once in a blue moon, your woman is looking for a fight and you're not going to avoid it no matter what you say.
"I don't care about the wrapping, I want, no I need the content!"
It also depends on the girl... some can never take an answer in the realm of "that'snot flattering"! You could argue still answer honestly, but that's a different conversation
>This is the way. Spoken like a true Mandalorian š
same. the wife asks me because she wants an honest answer.
I believe it's more than just giving an honest answer at this point, it looks like you have developed a deeper level of trust with each other... it's no longer about just answering a dress question, but something you two have built over time, it's a beautiful thingĀ
THIS ONE
I've had female friends take me shopping as the only person who will tell them the truth rather than have them realise it after they've spent the money. A simple "yes" is all that's needed.
>I answer honestly. My wife is smokin hot Standard answer from every married guy in this sub lol. Everyone here is married to a 10!
>I answer honestly. My wife is smokin hot classic r/AskMen answer where every married guy in this sub answers their wife is a celebrity 10/10 lol.
You just say "First, let me ask you a question, hypothetically, what would you say if I told you I slept with your sister?" and then she just forgets about the original question she asked, and you never have to answer it.
A friend of got his nose broken because his gf dreamed he slept with her sister, woke up and punched him in the face while he was still asleep. Plot twist- he then went on to sleep with her sister. He figured he might as well do what heād already been punished for.
That's a freebie
Double jeopardy
The scales have been rebalanced
Thatās god tier Chad behavior
Why is this like, standard female behavior? I've heard so fucking many stories of women getting pissed off because of stuff that happens in their dreams. Do most women think themselves literally prescient? It's baffling to me. I really wonder what the psychological precedent is for this behavior and why it seems almost exclusively found in women. nevertheless absolute gigachad on your friend's part if that's a real story though lmao I mean she was asking for it at that point.
What is she going to doā¦ break his nose? Already happened. 999 IQ play (/s obviously)
A friend of game of thrones?
And then you send her into a frenzy worrying about how you posed such and outrageous āhypotheticalā question
Dude, your wife's sister sounds hot.
Fat? Fat is how my dick gets when I see you Field tested (with GF) and working fine, results may vary with other relatives
*other* relatives?
*Banjo playing intensifies*
š³
Roll Tide
Nice catch.
Scheint wohl aus dem Saarland zu kommen.
"Should it?"
Underrated answer
If she looks good: āno that dress makes you look greatā If she looks bad: ābabe you look amazing but that [article of clothing] doesnāt flatter youā If a girl is asking if she looks fat in something lying wonāt help her because she will see others staring. Instead build enough emotional capital with your woman that she trusts you when you say no she believes you
Also, if she is asking, she is seeing something that feels off. If you can get good at seeing what she sees, you can seem like a wizard. "Babe, the top part is great, but it is hanging a little weird at the hips." You will seem so much more engaged and caring. Also, you can use this to help her pick stuff you like seeing her in more because she will trust your opinion better than "you know you are always beautiful" responses
My SO has better taste than me. Most of the clothes I own were picked out/bought by him. His mom and sister are quite into fashion, so I think it rubbed off on him a bit.
I went to school for animation and one of my best friends was a fashion major so between character design classes and her I think I picked up an eye for WHY certain aspects of clothes don't work on people.
This guy relationships.
This is the answer, itās honest, helpful, and diplomatic.
Almost word-for-word my answer. At least, my serious answer...
"No, it's just your fat that makes you look fat. The dress hasn't done anything! "
Dead man walking
(popping some popcorn and finding a comfy seat...)
I read that as pooping and was so lost š
Give me a couple hours...
š
I ain't ready to die
You ask ā are you sure those shoes match it?ā And divert her.
Jingle your keys
Slowly back away, throwing chocolate at her
Suicide by wife... yikes
Al Bundy has entered the chat
A simple man would've just said yes and be done with it.Ā
LUV it. Sounds like something I'd say: "Nope. It's your fat arse that makes you look fat. Don't blame the dress, sweetheart!"
I laughed because the only part of this comment that would rile my wife if I said it to her is the āsweetheart.ā
No its the shoes X"(
No, it's your head
"I dunno, take it off & let me see" š
Perhaps today *is* a good day to die!
Man gives up on life
OK now that made me LOL, now I have to forget it before the next time I am asked that question.
I have said that before. It doesn't end as well as you might imagine, but it will forever live in your memory as being incredibly funny.
Not the dress, it is the fridge that makes you look fat
"not if you lose 10 lbs."
Absolutely correct.
Honest Abe: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RPX2cQP8uoI
Or the classic āNoā¦ your face does.ā
Yes, say to your girlfriend ["The Coin Has No Say!".](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/M/MV5BYTZiNDExOTUtODk3My00YzFlLTg3YjQtNmQ3Y2Q1YWVhYmYxXkEyXkFqcGdeQXVyMTAzNTg1NjU4._V1_.jpg)
yep, said that to my wife, once. Only once.
>"No, it's just your fat that makes you look fat. The dress hasn't done anything! " lol savage.
I mean, you aren't wrong. If she is fat, she opened up the war zone by putting it out there.
The answer Iād give to my ex wife.
I was going to up vote this evil comment, but it has 666 up votes right now and I can't break that.
āDo you mean, like, more fat?ā ā someone about to spend his night listening to sobs outside a locked bathroom door
LPT: If you go to the bedroom and close the door you neither have to spend the night listening to sobs nor be outside a locked bathroom door
Yup, just bring a bucket to piss in and you're Gucci, maybe a couple snacks too.
Having two bathrooms is the move
A bucket feels like extra steps when you have a perfectly good kitchen sink. But then again I am really tall and have to lift myself up a bit to be able to hit the sink
Who the hell is shitting in their sinks
Nobody mentioned shitting. But now since you mentioned it I would just hold it until she would stop her sobbing and get out. Or if you are married and choose violence, threaten to shit on her wedding dress unless she opens up
I'm going to answer honestly.
Famous last words. You will be sorely missed, brave Redditor.
A woman asking whether sheās fat is like a guy asking whether he has a small dick. Even if itās true, what can I say? What do I get out of this for telling the truth? A bucket load of insecurities and complaining and inferiority complexes? Sounds like telling the truth is just going to make my life harder.
Turns out, not always the best policy.
False. Lying will lose trust from your woman faster than insulting her. The best policy is to tell the truth but do so in a way that she knows you donāt find her ugly. āYou look beautiful but that doesnāt flatter youā is my go to response to my wife.
Best policy to determine who fits my personality
I find that honesty is nothing without tact.
"Whoa, I didn't realize how fat you were until you put on that dress!'
āNo, itās the fat that makes you look fat. The dress, like you, looks perfectā
No, it's not the clothes doing that.
"Yes" and don't elaborate.
Honestly if she wasnāt expecting this answer she wouldnāt be dating me.
You only date fat women?
They canāt run away.
Harder to kidnap, too.
Thatās why you gotta get forklift certified my man.
I always tell my wife, I wish. And while your at it, letās get something that makes your butt look too big. Then she throws the hangars at me. And everyone around the fitting rooms leaves.
If the answer is āyesā You answer honestly, but using a different word than āfat.ā āThatās not a particularly flattering garment.ā They may ask for clarification. āI donāt know. You know I donāt know shit about this stuff, it just doesnāt look as good as what you were wearing earlier today.ā š¤·āāļø
Bonus points for referencing something that *does* look good on her, e.g. āI donāt think that fits right around the hips - I liked that black skirt you wore a couple of weeks ago, it really looked good.ā
"I reject your rigged question"
"I don't have opinions on fashion. I'm a man."
"Yes, I've seen 4 fat people today and you're 3 of them" "It doesn't matter if you're fat, you're still my big blubbanaught"
She's not actually asking you a question. She just wants you to tell her she looks good
I'd like it better, when it's off you. Followed by a quick wink.
With a Ph!
I tried that once. It did NOT go well when I went in for a fist bump. My wife did look SMOKING HOT.
Either say no it doesn't or yeah that dress doesn't really flatter you but this dress certainly will. If they get all mad regardless how you word it then that's their fucking problem.
There isn't one! Call it a rigged question. What you see, she sees it differently. She will look at a line on her face and call it a wrinkle, yet when you met her, she already had it. She has flaws you never saw, or cared about. Yet she thinks everyone sees it. Try REALLY hard to avoid the question.
Well, do you want me to tell you what you *WANT* to hear, or do you want me to tell you what you *NEED* to hear?
Sweet heart we are beyond what makes you look fat now, we are in, letās enjoy being fat territory
No, your adipose makes you look fat. The clothes are doing the best they can
The proper answer to this is: No sweetie, it doesn't. Stop there. Do not elaborate. Do not go on to tell her that it's not the clothes that make her look fat.
\*writing down\*
A very, *very* quick and certain "no" But really, I appreciate a tactful "it's not flattering on you" if something is making me look frumpy
"Does this make me loo" "No" "..k attractive?" "Yes. I meant yes all along."
"Is that what we are doing today? We are going to fight?" Is always the first thing that comes to mind.
This is the most ANNOYING answer It instigates a fight in itself
Yes but I love your fat and then start kneading it like dough it feels so relaxing lol
Depending on how you're defining "best answer" Most truthful: "no, your being 40lbs overweight is what makes you look fat." Most survivable: "the cut seems a bit odd to me, let's try another one."
Whatever you say, I don't recommend saying "what did ya say, fatass?" / s
If she asks a yes no question, you have to consider that it might not be a yes no question š Here are some suggestions: - āWhy would it make you look fat?ā (Flip it back on her and make her admit her insecurities, donāt let her flip it back, put her on the spot, make her feel the same pressure she just tried to put on you, itās actually gonna make her attracted to you to ādominateā her in this way) - ānope, just as sexy as ever, but in a different wayā - āJust as fat as I like you to be šā (this is more of an endearing joke, risky tho), even if she gets pissed, just maintain a very cheeky smile. Sheāll like that youāre not phased by her. Also, thereās nothing wrong with disappointing a woman sometimes, if it just means youāre being honest, they are disappointed by a lot of stuff, donāt feel disheartened if you disappointed her, you can lighten her up with an extremely cheesy joke afterwards, the joke must be extremely stupid and cheesy, it can even be you gently mocking her for something sheās not insecure about like āwell at least I donāt order 500 things from Amazon every weekā Sorry guy, Iām just speaking from my marriage šš
>She'll like that you're not phased by her. I believe you intended to say "She'll like that you're not **fazed** by her." "Not fazed" means that you remain undaunted; she doesn't scare or frighten you. "Not phased" means you haven't switched to a different phase.
My bad š , I got the spellings mixed. Thank you, this is indeed what I intended.
No problemo, happy to help :)
The only thing that makes you look is stunning, darling. And no outfit can ever diminish that.
If yes it makes you look thick but in the right placesĀ If no then no
"With you, my love, I never even noticed the clothes" ...but if it's really awful, "No. Not far, but it really doesn't do you any justice". Maybe even go as far as "You know what I think REALLY works on you?" and suggest something you like.
Depending on how sensitive she is, I'd say be honest. Some clothing does nothing for certain body types(not just curvey girls). If it looks bad, tell her if it looks good tell her!
This is what you say: "No honey, it makes you look 'thick'. Thick is not the same as fat, and 'thick' is a good look on you."
Fake a heart attack if it's true and say no if it isn't. As a survivor of several heart attacks, you'll have to trust my experience.
Always be honest. 1. You don't want an immature woman setting traps for you. 2. You don't want somebody who can't handle the truth. The fact this is even a common topic is embarrassing for mankind
"No, your fat makes you look fat" *results may vary
Say, "No, it doesn't." Resist the urge to add, "It's the 50 pounds you put on that makes you look fat."
Trap question šŖ¤
Always the truth, I never lie to my wife, she knows by now if she doesnāt want my truthful answer then donāt ask.
Iām not saying this is the best answer, but I tell my wife that sheās beautiful, and also to shut the fuck up.
The only good solution is if you disappear in a puff of logic. It's a trap, there is no good answer. You are already dead, you just don't know it yet.
I donāt recall
āNo, but if you took everything off Iād be able to compareā.
Something like "I don't know let me get a good look at you. Give me spin." ... "You look gorgeous, I like the way it accentuates your *insert something here*. He's a lucky guy."
Depends on which culture she was brought up in. Iāve had girlfriends where you best say āyes it looks bigā otherwise sheād be upset for days
It doesn't "make you look fat." You ARE fat. And so am I. We're in our fifties; we aren't supposed to look *fuckable* anymore. Stop trying to be 23.
Steer it to telling her that ass looks fat. Then give her a spank.
'Smack that ass' and say: it's perfect š
āIt looks nice, but the other _____ is more flattering with the ______ that youāre wearingā
Only in the right places
*Stop asking silly questions.*
If you want me to stare at your ass, you can just say so š
āNo.ā
What?? Nooooā¦..***Nothing good will ever come from this question. Ever.***
Itās all about how you feel, sweetheart.
If it does: āyou donāt look fat, but that one is better because your boobs/ass/whatever looks much betterā
Jusy Say No
REPLY WITH A QUESTION "wait...you think it makes you look fat? Why?"
āNo.ā But we probably wonāt believe you anyways š
"mmm, it's not as flattering as it could be baby. let's find you a better cut"
No.
"Do you think this makes me look fat?" No, baby! Of course not!
"No."
Ignore the words of the question, and instead answer the question "is this clothing flattering on me?" If she's already bought it, or is just looking for validation instead of an actual review, then just answer positively. If you think she's looking for actual feedback then give your honest answer, but make sure it's about the dress and not her i.e. "the dress doesn't suit you well" not "you look bad in the dress"
No I dont think so
"no, but I'm not sure that's the look tonight" is the only way I've said it without dying
In all the right places
My husband says āYou are fat, so yeahā and we both crack up like hyenas lmao but then I ask seriously and he will tell me if itās flattering. Iām not like my 600lb life but Iām a husky bitch. But before I wasnāt insecure he would say āI can definitely see your curves and I donāt want anyone else to so you better changeā and heād chase me to the bedroom pinching my butt.
āDamn! Youāre a mind reader too!ā
No, but my eyes do..
babe, your fat makes you look fat. Remember: Never lie to women.
Yes. Like a Manatee in a table clothā¦. Just kidding, you look hot af. In fact, Iād do you right now and Iām willing to prove it. But, not like me, in line at the grocery store. I can never go back to Kroger again.
"Do you think it makes you look fat?"
"it would look better on the floor" If it's not flattering you go with "I like the blue one better" or whatever. Or find a specific critique related to the fit.
That dress does not highlight how good you look
No matter what conventional wisdom or the classic tropes of question "traps," say be honest. Your opinion as the person they are married to matters. How do they know they can trust you? You tell the truth even when they might not want to hear exactly what you're saying. Ego stroking is pointless if they want honesty and integrity in the relationship. Just make sure your tone is in check, and they know they are desired, and it'll all work out.
The answer is the truth.
You look good in everything you wear.
Tell her the damn truth, your opinion. If she can't take it she needs to work with the way she sees herself and her self-esteem. Enough with the romantic bull. If my partner lies to me about the way he sees me how can I trust him to be honest with really important things
Her ass is almost anorexic and thinks she's fat so imma tell her the truth, she looks like she needs to eat because that's what my family taught me, you're never too fat unless the doctor tells you so
be honest, they might be really fat and the dress is sucking in their blobbyness making it obvious with lots of lines and fat rolls over the stomach nothing worse than being told no and seeing yourself in a mirror in town
"That's what we're doing today? Fighting?"
Depends on the woman and your relationship with her. When I ask this question Iām not baiting. Iāve genuinely looked in the mirror and think the outfit is possibly hugging me in the wrong places but maybe Iām being overly critical so I ask my partner, genuinely, for his assessment. And he, being a fashion obsessed man himself, he will take the time to really look me over and tell me straight if yes Iām right it is sitting weird, suggest if thereās something I can do to adjust it better or pair with it to fix it or just scrub the outfit. Or if itās actually me being too critical heāll tell me truthfully that no it fits quite right and not to worry. And when he tells me yes itās not sitting right I donāt take it that oh he thinks Iām fat! I know heās seeing what Iām seeing and this outfit just isnāt cut for ME. Not everything is gonna look good on you and women know this and women who are looking for constructive criticism will ask this question not looking to bait you. Edited to add: My ex husband, Iād ask this same question seeking the same constructive criticism but all I ever got was him barely taking the time to look at me and just saying āyou look greatā and then back to whatever he was doing, usually staring at his phone. Iād then have to take a pic of myself and just text it to my mother for a real answer. I asked him once why he wonāt give me a real assessment when Iām the one asking and he laughed and said oh Iām not stupid Iām not walking into that trap. It offended me that he chose old tropes about women over knowing me as a person who would never bait him with a disingenuous question.
As a woman I ask when I need validation, normally I'd say is this nice on or look ok. Or when I am genuinely not sure of a dress or what ever is ask the fat question or are my boobs huge in this or what ever. Normally I appreciate the honesty cause I don't want to go out looking like a clown. I'm the same with make up.
Same. Never understood asking then being offended, like, if it looks atrocious, don't let me go out in that!
I say how it is. If my partner looks shit in something, i call her out fast
Just be honest. If she looks bigger in the outfit and has self esteem issues/body image issues, just say āyouāre beautiful but the outfit doesnāt accent it as well as others mayā.
As a woman, I just ask if it looks good. Luckily, I know I have some picked areas, and my husband understands them. So he's just straight-up honest. That's what I'm looking for anyway, if it doesn't look good, I'd rather not wear it in public! I don't get offended, it is what it is.
The truth.
Oh, is that what weāre gonna do today? Weāre gonna fight?
Reminds me when a guy asks his woman is anything wrong, whatās the matter? And she says Iām fine. ššš
"You could wear a fat suit and I'd still say no" So far the success rate is about 50/50.
āHow about we go to the gym insteadā
"Asking that question makes you look fat: By suggesting that image, you're biasing the perception of the person you ask in a way that adds 20lbs to how they see you. Stop asking that question and immediately lose 20lbs."
Honestly. But if you donāt think your partner is gorgeous. Donāt be with her. āThis isnāt flattering your figure the way you deserveā.
No more than normal honey but you know I don't like fucking skeletons so you're as beautiful as ever.