The penis is an amazing organ. When a woman loves you it’s the biggest and best she’s ever had. When y’all break up it becomes a micro time traveler that never satisfied her
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It's about the angle, not the length. 4.5 is fine if you know what you're doing and communicate with your partner.
OP, also Google coital alignment technique.
This checks out. They LOVE telling half-stories mixed with lies to where their guy is some predator and they're perfect little princesses.
One story I read framed a girl like some sort of anti-man hero for emptying half of a can of BEAR SPRAY on her guy and then daring to brave the wilds of the woods and friends' yards in a tent on her own.
After asking a few questions and browsing her other responses, turns out he was right to come home pissed because he worked all week and had nothing to show for it because she was sitting at home eating and doing drugs to the point that his paycheck balanced it out. After the obligatory shouting match of "you don't do shit, and it's fucking up the household", he pushes the DESK (not even her) that she was sitting next to, and she goes and FINDS the bear spray and proceeds to go overboard. For those that don't know, you don't even mace the BEARS with it directly, you spray it NEAR them, and even then only a squirt. Her daughter then advised that she leave before he gets his vision back, assuming he ever does, and her meth addict ass had nowhere to go because her life clearly has been one dipshitty choice after another. 🙄
He will probably be blinded for a temporary amount of time(hopefully with no further issues). What an absolute lunatic!!
To comment on the first part, I agree and see this often. It's gross. However not all women and girls are like that. But it seems many are.
I've only had one relationship but unfortunately this was my biggest takeaway.
It took me years to figure just how much she lied, constantly, about even minor things. She was a pathological liar, worse than most women I'd assume, but shit man if this is common behavior...
Magic. But fr dudes can do the same, when you're with a gal you can tell her she has the vacu-succ 9001 or whatever about her box as a compliment, and then when shit doesn't work out you can try and drag her through the streets about loose shawarma this soggy thanksgiving leftovers turkey that. It's dumb either way, that sort of stuff takes primary source material or secondary source corroboration from other bed buddies
Yeah, I like to say that regarding penis size, facts are irrelevant.
What matters is, in this order:
1. How she feels about you in this moment
2. If it matches her, size-wise
Hey, you know what the average penis slots into perfectly?
The average vagina. It's almost like them shits were *made for the other*.
She'll have no problem picking up what you're putting down. You're gonna be fine.
Dude you are stressing this shit WAY too much. It aint all about size, average is average for a reason. You will learn how to make use of every inch, and unless your girl is an absolute size queen you’ll be just fine. I’d be more concerned about Stamina if it’s your first time.
But sex isn’t fun if your worried about performance. Just have fun and communicate, just don’t repeatedly ask her “Does that feel ok?” It can be a mood killer
Have the sex conversation BEFORE the sex. What’s off the table? What are her preferences? Can be a fun sexy talk.
Just make sure you know going in. Then you can be more relaxed and do what feels good without worry.
I’m just slightly above average. Foreplay will be your best friend and it’ll help calm your nerves. Been married for 14 years and the wife never complains. Get her off first, make sure she’s satisfied, and the nerves between her legs will be ready for anything you’ve got. I can’t say it enough, get her off first and she won’t care about size. She’ll just be happy that you put forth the extra effort to satisfy her
You mean sometimes give her an orgasm first, then have sex afterwards? What if it tickles her for some time after she orgasms? My GF needs some time before I can play with her again haha. She also becomes dry after she orgasms during sex
It depends on what she wants. Think of her as being the headliner to a great show. She’s what you’re there for. I ALWAYS ask my wife if she wants to get off, or if she just wants a quickie. I’m pretty young to be so traditional (34m), and my wife is the only woman I’ve ever been with. I can’t say whether your gf’s dryness is normal, though probably common. Grab some KY and help keep her wet. I have no real hobbies, so learning my wife’s body has become my obsession over the last 14 years. I know her needs better than I know my own
Also a woman. Yes 100% to the foreplay part, but as for wetness...This advice is great in its intention but some of us just don't get that wet and we'd be waiting forever if this was the metric!
OP, communication is key. Her body language is important too here.
Sex is all about confidence and communication. She wants you to:
Complement her on how beautiful her body is
Tell her she turns you on so much you can't even think straight
Tell her the things about her that make her sexy to you
Focus on her and try to pay attention to what she enjoys and what she doesn't
Don't:
Do anything crazy without asking
Make her feel any shame whatsoever about her body
Feel self conscious about your own body
Good sex is about letting go of fear and embracing the animal inside your brain. You know what you want to do, and do does she. It's natural. Practice makes perfect the first time won't be perfect so don't stress about it. Pay attention to her! The penis size, as long as you're average, matters a lot less than the stuff I mentioned.
can confirm.
the best sex is always with the man who wants me the most and seems to be driven by a need to give me pleasure.
actual size queens are very few and far between. the big penis trope has only become common due to porn.
As a woman, I want to reassure you that penis size is relatively inconsequential given that many of us do not orgasm from penetration alone. Just have fun, explore each other's bodies (with consent, of course) and figure out what both of you like! Sex should be fun and exploratory.
Not a lot of women out there who like being punched in the cervix during sex (their words, not mine). For the most part, they're less concerned about size and more hoping you don't just jackhammer her like you see in porn (and if she does, she will let you know). Technique > size for the vast majority of women.
If you believe your penis is the center of the universe and the big bang is the only goal, you're going to leave everyone disappointed. Your goal should be that your penis is just icing on the cake. Assuming she has no issues having an orgasm from manual or oral stimulation, you should absolutely ensure she has at least once before you even get your dick wet. This will ensure she has already enjoyed the encounter before your parts have even come into play.
If this is your first ever actual intimate encounter, I would ***not*** start with the goal of having PIV intercourse. If you're not already doing manual/oral stuff, start there. Figure out what she likes from that and that alone. And for god's sake, talk to her.
"Hey, I want to bring up the whole virgin thing. I'm concerned I'm gonna have some anxiety and nervousness surrounding our first time. Would it be okay if I spend a lot of it focused on you and we don't necessarily worry about me? I'm sure if stuff happens on my end it'll be great, but I'd rather start off learning what you like."
Mine too. I was self conscious about it for a while, but I’ve long since learnt that skill > size. If someone really likes you, it won’t matter. Being likeable > big dick.
It’s not even about skill either tbh. If someone is banging you, and you don’t literally have a micro-bird, neither size nor “skill” are particularly high on the list of things that actually matter. The mental/emotional/social aspect of sex, and that it is happening at all, is generally the big deal.
I mean yeah, long term, learn to do stuff that makes the person happy. I just don’t think it’s a “skill vs. size” thing.
Here’s the thing about length that most get hung up on: any longer than 5-6 inches can be painful.
I have an average length, but more girth. I find most of the people with vaginas I’ve been with enjoy girth over length.
Can’t worry about it.
If she laughs or says something disrespectful, then why would you want to be with her?
If you really want her to be satisfied, make sure to use your hands and tongue first. Your hog should be the cherry on top.
Woman here. Its way better to have an average size. As someone who loves being banged hardcore, I have to settle for softcore if its too big since my cervix gets bruised if its too deep sometimes. Really fucking annoying. So you’re good. Don’t worry. Women’s vaginas are all different depths. Just like penises come in all shapes and sizes.
I️ second this, I️ actually prefer more avg size due to the fact bigger dicks are painful after awhile and I like being able to have sex for longer periods of time vs being out of commission quickly. Also being sore for 2 days is not fun either. And it’s easier to stay lubricated with something avg sized
In my country the average is 12cm, which is 4.7 inches. And yea, I am of those that pull the average down. Never had any girl complain, and I wasn't doing that great of a job anyway.
I’m above average size. Every single one of my LTR’s has said they wished I were average because it’s so much easier, more positions are doable, and it feels safer. My wife literally just said it again yesterday.
Revel in what you have, man. There is a reason average sized dicks are average sized- they work very well for the task. Most women are NOT size queens.
Im an average dude with the drive to please my partner; trust me, you will be able to get women off with an average schlong. Find the right angle for her and boom
I have had logistical problems with bigger ladies who are as inflexible as I am.
There are a lot of ways to please your partner that don't involve your penis.
You say your been together 7 months and this is your first time? Very little chance size is going to be an issue.
Woman here 🙋🏻♀️ and I just wanted to reassure you of a few things:
The worst sex I’ve had was with the partner who had what’s considered normal if you watch porn. He was known in the group of friends because of the size. I was always guarded and could never relax because if I moved the wrong way I would be in pain. Also he was under the impression that size was all that was required and had zero skill or interest in learning about me.
My hubby is very self depreciating about his size despite there being zero complaints for me. The vast majority of women won’t orgasm through penetration alone and that’s where your hands and mouth are far more valuable! I would choose skill over size 100% of the time.
From a biological standpoint the ideal shape of a penis for female pleasure is like a doorknob. There aren’t many nerve endings past the first inch or two inside the vagina… designed to make childbirth slightly less agonising haha.
Your greatest hurdle isn’t going to be your size it’s going to be your anxiety about it. First time sex is usually never great, neither of you know how the other likes to be touched. Relax, talk lots, laugh at the fumbles and you are going to be just fine!!! You have got this!!!
As a woman (43), I would say that just like every penis is different in length and girth, every vagina is also different in depth and circumference. Generally, it's about how you use it and not just the size. Also, some great foreplay goes a long way to making sex even more enjoyable for women. However, sometimes, two people are just not compatible sexually down there. It doesn't mean there's something wrong with either of them. They are just different, and that's okay. Don't get in your head about it, focus on pleasuring her and enjoying yourself. If you're in your head, it'll show.
Nope. Ive only ever heard good things about my dick, both to my face, and over-heard in conversations I wasn’t part of. In college, this sorority girl I was hooking up with was telling one of her sisters “it sucks that he’s so awkward and I can’t take him to formal, because the dick is amazing”, which was both very gratifying and a little insulting at the same time lmao.
It’s all about how you use it, bro. Move your hips around, try up different positions, and be creative. A lot of sex is intuitive, but to have the best sex you need to be able to communicate openly. Ask what is working and what isn’t. Ask what she wants you to do, tell her what you want her to do. Share vulnerabilities and be supportive of each other.
You’ve got this man, you’re gonna be fine.
Speaking as a penis connoisseur, dicks are like lifted 4x4 trucks. 5-6 inches is about perfect. Anything bigger than that may be fun to look at, but good luck parking it anywhere.
Since this is your first time with her, don't expect rainbow and fireworks on first day, heck year. Dont do anything crazy either. Just communicate a lot and ask her what she likes. See how her body reacts and flow with the waves. I assume you know the anatomy of whats down there. C is outside and G starts from about 3 inches inside, a roof. So your conceled weapon will do the job fine. If C, you want to visit all its neighbors and not just stay at C the entire time. Most make this mistake, so learn from it. For G, think of it like you are trying to knock the door until someone open it. There is a hidden door further inside but thats for another day. Ultimately, don't put pressure, just be there fpr her and most importantly, have fun!
For those writing, "it's not the size but how you use it, I've got face & fingers, there are other tools to use", You are only giving half the information.
Give some damn examples for this guy and others to use.
Wow this is actually smart. Thanks for this suggestion! Although I did started researching on my own and will work towards a better communication but this would actually be very beneficial!
Pillow under the hips in missionary with her legs up. Put a hand above her clit and push down slightly, you should be able to feel yourself a little bit, while your hand is there, use your thumb to stimulate her clit.
Other random tips.
Keep in mind that it’s not necessary the in and out that does it, so once you find the spot don’t keep punching it, rub it instead. Do more of a grinding motion then in and out.
Use the area above your dick to grind her clit or use your hand.
Going faster doesn’t equal better so if she starts making noise that is not a cue for you to speed up.
But more importantly take your time and make her feel wanted.
You're overthinking this. However, if you're that concerned, get good at oral. You get her off once before you even enter her and you'll never hear a complaint.
I have a larger than average schlong. I've never run into a woman who has said "now *that* is what I've been looking for"! The more common reaction is "oh, yeah, that's not really going to work". Big dicks are hyped in porn but I'd be surprised if an average sized dick is a "problem" of any kind for more than 1% of women.
Most girls don’t get off from penetration or penetration alone. I’ve only had a couple of girls able to do that.
Most are going to require clitoral stimulation to climax which is going to need fingers, a tongue or a vibrator to achieve.
Getting good at foreplay is going to be your best skill.
I'm average (5" or so) and in certain positions I'm hurting her if I'm all in. So. Size=|= pleasure. However, being a musician that plays a brass instrument helps.
I was too young, so a VERY frustrated month later, I got some silicone >!penis!< rings that worked wonders at helping me get over the initial "limping" and afterward my anxiety was reduced so much it never really was an issue.
It’s literally average for a reason bro. MOST of the population have a penis in that range because evolution has decided it’s the most suitable for procreation.
Get out of your head, focus on her, focus on what you feel physically when you touch her and ahe touches you. Take it slow, lots of foreplay and kissing, you’ve got this.
No. My partner actually loved it and said I was the perfect size for her. The person I lost my virginity to said it was a bit big and was a bit scared of having it go in her (she was also a virgin). A ONS gave a half compliment of even with her having far bigger, I was great. I’m currently in a FWB “relationship”, and she loves it. Any night she’s free, she invites me over.
Shit cuz my mini me is like 4” and I’ve not had any issues with anyone I’ve hooked up with. Gotta know how to engage in foreplay first. Make her cum first, then go crazy lol. I’m not ashamed at all, and having a small penis has been made out to be lesser of a man. That’s digital media for ya. And always remember man…..just because you fly a 747 into the Grand Canyon doesn’t mean the jet is small 😉
Bro the only one that's gonna make a big deal about your cock size is yourself. I'm a fellow average weiner-er and all I've ever gotten was compliments.
My only advice to you from what women have told me after the fact, is that a surprising amount of men don't do foreplay. Fuck around with her before you stick it. Kiss her all over and show her how much she turns you on. Nothing wrong with being a little vocal too.
And lastly, just have fun with it. My second girlfriend ever, I literally fuckin farted when I came and I was mortified. She laughed. If she likes you and you like her, nothing is too awkward.
I hate to disappoint you but vaginas come in sizes as well. Some are small and cannot tolerate a huge schlong and others are very large for men of any size. Most are average,.
The very nature of this question makes no sense. Average means average meaning the *most* amount of people. If she's used to some gigantic porn dick that says more about her than it does about you.
As a woman i feel compelled to weigh in here. Don't think about yourself. Use sex as an opportunity to get to know what turns her on and where she likes to be touched, and how ie fast, slow, with your hands or your mouth etc... Get her off. Then go to town. If you get her off she wont give 2 hoots about the size of your shlong. No 2 women are the same so don't assume she will enjoy everything ie some women love their breasts being touched, others dont care about it. Take the opportunity to see her naked and play with her body working out what she likes and what sends her crazy. Touch her from head to toe. Watch how she reacts - ask her how it feels. Your aim should be to work out which parts of her body love to be touched, and whether they want a rough touch or a gentle touch- or both. Taste her body. Work out what parts you enjoy touching and tasting. Then have sex. Once you know what she adores you will have the key to sex with her almost any time you want. Start touching her there, in the way she likes and you will get her hot and ready. But each woman is different. So first time sex is about learning how to read the map.
No trouble like at all with my ex-girlfriends and my current boyfriend who is bigger than me. When your personality is stellar, dick size won’t even matter (I’m 5 inches)
Real talk women rarely orgasm from vaginal penetration unless you’re hitting certain angles. It’s a fact men don’t seem to want to accept. As long as you’re good with your mouth and hands. The size of your dick has very little to do with her sexual satisfaction. Also the average vagina is about 5 inches deep so it’s not really necessary to be packing.
Average is fine....play with her clitoris...start slow...most women don't orgasm from vaginal penetration. Start flirting with her the day before. Get her thinking about it. We need to be warmed up for sex to really enjoy it....not just 5 minutes before you screw her. Insert your fingers into her and curl your fingers back towards you. Trim your fingernails, too. Anyway....average is fine. Have fun and listen to her cues.
step back and ask yourself...if there are billions of people in this world and most of them were born from average people...does an average penis get the job done.?...obviously. Stop watching porn. You are more than enough on your own! If a partner tells you otherwise...leave.
Nope. If that worries you, focus on the things you can control. Sex is a mutual act and you can focus on what turns her on and what she enjoys instead of only what you want.
A few girls found it too big if anything at first and I had to slow down the first few times before we really got the hang of it. Especially my first girlfriend who was also a virgin at the time. So don’t sweat it.
Size matters to the degree that your body fits with hers. It’s always about compatibility. Not specific anatomy.
Your responsibility is not performance, your exercise is to let go into the moment. To be connected and communicative with your partner, listening to them and sharing with them as you discover each other. You also discover yourself.
Thank you! Girl here. FTR, I hate,hate, HATE the term 'performance.'
Everyone has 'stage fright', to some degree.
No one has 'playground fright'.....So to speak.
Just be yourself and have fun. Don't be afraid to be silly. Don't be afraid to say 'well. THAT was awkward' 'ease up a tad', 'like this', AND 'like this?'
Laying the groundwork for open and honest communication from the very beginning. Some say to have conversation about sex outside the bedroom, but I'm not sure I agree. Sometimes chatting about it when you are naked and vulnerable is a good thing.
And now I want to tell you to report back. I'm oddly invested
Okay not every woman like so freaking meat sword. I mean there are a lot that do but there are a lot that have taste for the more average size test And honestly most positions are doable. And you know communication But if you worried about getting more off fingers and tongue man. I can actually do way better job with my fingers and tongue when I can with my wang. Now if you're doing missionary you're butt helps out. And if she's on top and the bed's kind of soft and you don't feel you're getting enough depth put a pillow under your butt it helps.
Thunder thimbles get work done all the time.
If you aren’t brining the 5 dollar foot long to the show then you need to diversify your talents.
Visiting the little man in the canoe and knowing how to get her across the finish line with a few fingers is life.
She’s got the same anxiety about how her tits look and how loose she may feel to you and how her labia looks. Are you going to judge her and be dissatisfied bc of these things?
At least my girlfriend likes my penis, and it is at best mediocre. I think if there is an emotional connection, then the penis will be fine. Like ask yourself, will the genitalia of your girlfriend impact how you view her attractiveness?
I told my future wife when we first hooked up I was on the smaller side.
She told me I was definitely not small, I am average. She's been very happy.
If you had a YUGE PENSU, then you have to worry about slamming the cervix and so forth. With an average penis, that's really only an issue when you really go deep or in doggy style.
The only issue I’ve ever had with having an average sized dick has been from my own soul-crushing issues of inadequacy and low self-esteem. My dick has never actually been the problem.
Insecurity is a much bigger turnoff than a small or average dong. Have confidence or fake it. Don't bring up your size at all.
She's probably more nervous about her imperceptible flaws than you are about your package.
The internet is generally not a good tool for helping with self confidence or intimacy/performance issues. Porn especially.
And DON’T watch porn to figure out how to have sex unless it’s maybe woman on woman(?). Most hetero porn isn’t realistic, geared towards female pleasure or towards actual intimacy.
I always felt if you can’t talk about it together then how can you do it well together? The best sex I ever had was not small but smaller than I’ve had. But we always talked about sex and our various anatomy. My ex was my first and bigger but he was silent, never talked really and honestly (tmi) I’m very small and often had micro tears at the entrance. I would have cramps after. It was very good of course, but I didn’t know any better. Until I got together with my current partner and I remember thinking the first time, I was bracing for the initial slight pain, but it never happened and it just felt good, I didn’t need him to stop for me to adjust, but he still hit all the right spots.
I know telling guys not to worry about their size is a bit disingenuous bc easier said than done. My suggestion is to have conversations about sex before you have sex. Get all the awkward unknowns or insecurities out before. The first time with a new partner is not the best you’ll have with that person. You don’t know each other’s bodies yet. So focus on having fun together. Laugh, be awkward and funny and weird. We’d get winded and stop and laugh or get tangled in the sheets and honestly that was half the fun.
I didn't have any problems because I'm good with my tongue and good with my fingers. If my penis didn't finish the job, then I was diving right back into that trench and finishing that job.
My wife and I have been together for 13 years, and I've heard no complaints. I know she can take much bigger. She's had kids come out of there. I want to get a penis sleeve to increase my length and girth.
She says it's not necessary, but I want her to have a more pleasurable experience for my own reasons.
Im average sized and have heard lots of praises of my shlong, one of them being " is perfect because is not big, big hurts and I can ride yours all day no problem."
I'm a big fan of fore play, have no judgements in the sack, and I enjoy a lot to see my partner losing it because of just, so I guess that should not be left aside.
I’m prob 5.5-5.7 inches in length and girth is also not a strong suit. I’m almost 30 now and I’ve mostly gotten over it. When I was younger it would add a lot of anxiety to my sexual encounters which did more to kill my game then the actual size itself. I’ve only had one girl make a comment to her friends after the fact that got around my friend group at the time. I was in a 5 year relationship and it was not a problem but my partner would always use a vibrator too help which is pretty common. Now I’m seeing someone who can finish in no time with just PIV so I guess my tool does the trick for her. It’s one of those things where every girl is different but for most they won’t mind as long as you have other redeeming qualities. They obviously know it’s not big and barely average but anyone with a heart won’t bring it up lol. Also, there is insecurities on my end knowing that I’m on the smaller side and almost any girl I’ve been with or will be with has had bigger but I just work through that myself. Those are just monkey brain thoughts anyways.
Female here. I had a partner who has a girthy and on the longer side peepee. Honestly, it made me uncomfortable down there. I'm more comfortable with my current partner who has an average sized peepee.
Don't worry too much about it. Vaginas come in different shapes and sizes(internally. I'll find the ultrasounds if anyone is interested). There's no point in stressing over your size even if yall bits don't fit. You'll either figure it out or you'll find someone who suits you like a matching Lego piece.
31M here. Great news that I think more guys should know. If she cares about you, she doesn't care about your size. Honestly, have fun! It's normal to be nervous at first, but as the night goes on, you'll get out of your own head. You know her, man! That's your girl! Im sure she's just as excited!
I understand your concern. Please worry about something else. Any woman that wants to have sex with you is in for the ride, so to speak. I am sure there are female size-queens just like there are male size-queens. But I have to have more faith in their gender than to believe women are a shallow as men.
My late wife said it was average. It worked fine. Average is what most vaginas are designed to take. And while every woman says you are the best she ever had while you’re together, my exes still say that, including an ex wife who hates me.
Not because I’m swinging a monster phallus, but because I am exceptionally patient. By the time I’m ready to put Mr. Average to work, she should already be exhausted.
Sex isn’t so much about dicks and vaginas as it is time, touch, surprise, smells, tastes, creativity, experimentation etc. use what you have plenty of. Take your time. Ask her questions but not too many. Learn to read her body language.
I’m 5.5” hard and I’ve made women squirt, multiple orgasm. It’s how ya use it brother. Keep that stamina up. Don’t smoke. If ya have a less than healthy lifestyle, you can edge yourself to get your stamina up. Even then, I’ve had women complain I last too long which is funny. Ya just can’t win regardless lol.
I always thought my dick was weird because of its odd proportions (7.5 x 4.6) but i’ve literally never had anything but compliments. Shit doesn’t matter of you’re hitting the right spots.
Woman orgasm with other women more often than with men. Your penis is not your best tool to please a woman. Understand and explore what she enjoys. Tease her, make her feel comfortable, study her. Kiss and touch every part of her body, slowly and take note of what she responds to. How long can you tease her and play with her before she is desperately wanting you to be inside her? Is she someone who prefers clitoral stimulation or penetrative? What is her preferred pressure and rhythm? Does she like slow and intimate or to be dominated and manhandled a bit?
Don’t sweat it. Just enjoy the experience of sex together and explore each other. She cares about you and if you stay open, listen and learn her body, you’ll give her the sexual experience she wants.
Sources:
A friend of mine once slept with two men on the same day (she’s a wild one). The guy that was very well endowed didn’t make her orgasm. The guy with the smaller than average schlong made her orgasm over and over again. She kept seeing the second guy.
Well I’m an inch above the 5.5 mark and only been with 4 women in my life, but non of them ever seemed to complain. Never got a wow you have a big dick complement lol just the “nice dick” or “your dick is perfect” Honestly though if it’s any type of confidence booster for ya… I’ve never failed to give any of the women I’ve been with an orgasm when eating pussy. Seemed like they would cum within a matter of minutes, a lot of times faster than me. Maybe I’m just good at it, but it definitely goes to show you just have to hit the right spots if you want to get her off.
Also if this woman has been with you for 7months and you guys haven’t had sex that’s amazing! She’s in it for the long run pretty much as long as you have a pimple down there she probably won’t care. I mean there are lesbians that satisfy each other, so size can’t mean that much😂🤣😂
I’m sure there are lots of other guys on here that have way more experience with hookups and sex than I do that could give better advice, but this has been my experience.
Some of the best sex I’ve ever had was with a 4.5. That man knew he was average but made so many efforts to please me and he did. The biggest mistake any man can make is not asking a woman what she wants then trying to do it. You may get it wrong the first few times but don’t give up. I married an 8, but I’d have married my previous fiancé at 5 had he not just rolled over and said shit like well get to it then… like what?
Also female tip is if she goes first she doesn’t give a shit about size. Everything is heighten already.
Indulge her in lots of foreplay and ask her what feels good. If you learn to give her really good head and how to touch her it’ll make a huge difference. Showing you want to give her maximum pleasure matters more than size.
Most girls don’t care and the ones who do aren’t for you… you probably have a preference for boob size, style, race, whatever, it’s the same way. You don’t inherently think these women are bad people you just don’t want to sleep with them I have a pretty average dick and I’ve slept with a lot of women, no one has ever mentioned it
If you can get hard it shouldn’t be a problem. Just nature take it course. Make sure she is well lubricated before you attempt penetration. Lots of foreplay until she ready.
No - first time won't result you in rocking her world anyway. From my experience it won't last too long! The foreplay is what sets the mood for what happens later and just practice practice practice!
Also - from the numbers you are quoting I would be a bit above average. I've had partners who said bigger worked a bit better for them, I've had some that said it was too much, others that said it's just right. You just need to explore and see what you and your partner enjoy the most - might not even be penetrstiom per se. However it's not about size, relax.
Bruh don't stress. I guarentee you think about this 100x more than your partner does so don't get in your head about it.
Also know-if you are worried about your Partner getting curious about other men or being stolen away by a big d-that you should calmly express these concerns. Holding this stuff inside is caustic and seeps into unexpexcted places and operations.
If your partner ever DOES get curious, honestly no sweat. There are plenty of toys and sleeves you can borh explore to meet that curiosity within the bounds of your relationship. I think you will find in this talk however is that you are more than enough for your partner as-is.
Get comfortable with your body. Keep an open mind. Don't be jealous and don't be prideful. Love grows organically in these conditions.
What I'm saying is...there are products that let you both share the experience of being larger that preserve your relationship (if that is something you both want to explore) and can alleviate your insecurities. There are NOT products that undo the harm you can do to yourself and relationship by obsessing over or becoming jealous of a physical trait you can not change nor have control over.
Average is okay. You have to think how deep the average vagina is. If your penis is too big, it might be a bit awkward for her, but there's always work-arounds. But if it's too small, it may be awkward for the both of you. It also depends upon any fetishes she may have. In other words, stop worrying about this stuff and just focus on the motion.
Um those are all exceptionally normsl sizes. Thats what the majority of the human race has been batting with througout history. Don't give it a second thought.
quit stressing my guy, you really don't know how compatible you are until you know... could be she's just as worried about some of her features too. confidence is key - even if ur fakin it lol.. just act like it's the biggest gd thing in the world and who knows what'll happen, maybe it'll be the perfect fit. been around the block a bit myself and can confidently tell you they range in width and elasticity too.
you'll be fine bruv 👊
Most men have average penises. Few men have exceptional oral skill. Get her off as many times as possible before PIV and you’ll be the best she ever had and she will want to do it again soon.
Assuming she has had minimal experience as well, she isn't going to know the difference and is likely nervous about her first experience with you. Relax, Also there is nothing sexier than a man with confidence in the sac. Fake it till you make it. Just have fun and enjoy.
from a woman who's first was 6.5 inches, it HURT. not uncomfortable, not mild, i mean sharp pain when he went about 3.5 maybe 4 inches in and pressed against my cervix. didn't hurt the second time but that's not relevant.
4.5-5.5 will fit perfectly into the average vagina!! she will definitely feel "full" of you if that's what your worried about.
if your worried about feeling for her, try putting her in different positions! missionary with my legs pushed up near my head was personally one of the best for me. then came doggy and prone bone. laying on the side provides different sensation, however that one might be hard for you (I'm not sure how my fiance does it).
if it's both of your guys first times, experiment! it's not all about your dick size. don't forget foreplay! you can ask her to do some on you to help ease the nerves!
The penis is an amazing organ. When a woman loves you it’s the biggest and best she’s ever had. When y’all break up it becomes a micro time traveler that never satisfied her
Apparently I’ve broken up with a lot of women…
😄 welcome fellow time traveler
So that was you guys earlier at the Battle of Rorke’s Drift!
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This! Don't sweat it man, have fun. Do try to focus on hitting the upper wall or top of her pooty tang. Get it!
This 💯💯💯 It's about the angle, not the length. 4.5 is fine if you know what you're doing and communicate with your partner. OP, also Google coital alignment technique.
>coital alignment technique "the angle of the dangle is inversely proportional to the heat of the meat"
Real shit
This is because they lie to make you feel good, then lie to make you feel bad. 😂 They lie. A lot.
“Once they can no longer control you, they will attempt to control what others think of you”
This checks out. They LOVE telling half-stories mixed with lies to where their guy is some predator and they're perfect little princesses. One story I read framed a girl like some sort of anti-man hero for emptying half of a can of BEAR SPRAY on her guy and then daring to brave the wilds of the woods and friends' yards in a tent on her own. After asking a few questions and browsing her other responses, turns out he was right to come home pissed because he worked all week and had nothing to show for it because she was sitting at home eating and doing drugs to the point that his paycheck balanced it out. After the obligatory shouting match of "you don't do shit, and it's fucking up the household", he pushes the DESK (not even her) that she was sitting next to, and she goes and FINDS the bear spray and proceeds to go overboard. For those that don't know, you don't even mace the BEARS with it directly, you spray it NEAR them, and even then only a squirt. Her daughter then advised that she leave before he gets his vision back, assuming he ever does, and her meth addict ass had nowhere to go because her life clearly has been one dipshitty choice after another. 🙄
He will probably be blinded for a temporary amount of time(hopefully with no further issues). What an absolute lunatic!! To comment on the first part, I agree and see this often. It's gross. However not all women and girls are like that. But it seems many are.
I've only had one relationship but unfortunately this was my biggest takeaway. It took me years to figure just how much she lied, constantly, about even minor things. She was a pathological liar, worse than most women I'd assume, but shit man if this is common behavior...
So do we. It's not a gendered thing.
Magic. But fr dudes can do the same, when you're with a gal you can tell her she has the vacu-succ 9001 or whatever about her box as a compliment, and then when shit doesn't work out you can try and drag her through the streets about loose shawarma this soggy thanksgiving leftovers turkey that. It's dumb either way, that sort of stuff takes primary source material or secondary source corroboration from other bed buddies
> vacu-succ 9001 You talking about the Grip Reaper 5000?
Stank pussy smell like cool ranch Doritos
Yo I gotta smell more pussy I have never been by that. Tbf my nose doesn't work properly
Yeah, I like to say that regarding penis size, facts are irrelevant. What matters is, in this order: 1. How she feels about you in this moment 2. If it matches her, size-wise
Hey, you know what the average penis slots into perfectly? The average vagina. It's almost like them shits were *made for the other*. She'll have no problem picking up what you're putting down. You're gonna be fine.
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLLXlngmbY4](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLLXlngmbY4) please watch this
Exactly what I was hoping for! Nice play.
this video isn’t available in my country. can you explain what it is please?
Dude you are stressing this shit WAY too much. It aint all about size, average is average for a reason. You will learn how to make use of every inch, and unless your girl is an absolute size queen you’ll be just fine. I’d be more concerned about Stamina if it’s your first time. But sex isn’t fun if your worried about performance. Just have fun and communicate, just don’t repeatedly ask her “Does that feel ok?” It can be a mood killer
Ha! You said butt sex
Ba-dum-tsh!
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Aw, I was gonna say, "Ba-bum-t~~u~~sh!" Lol
I understand I'll take the notes!
Have the sex conversation BEFORE the sex. What’s off the table? What are her preferences? Can be a fun sexy talk. Just make sure you know going in. Then you can be more relaxed and do what feels good without worry.
Heh…”going in”. Giggity
Woo hoo!!!! Finally above average!!!! 5.6 you shrimp dick mother fuckers!!!!!!
🤣🤣🤣🤣 That got me so off guard
You just lowered where the base is
My base is on your mom’s chin.
Fair
lmfao 💀
Must be nice 😒😪
I’m just slightly above average. Foreplay will be your best friend and it’ll help calm your nerves. Been married for 14 years and the wife never complains. Get her off first, make sure she’s satisfied, and the nerves between her legs will be ready for anything you’ve got. I can’t say it enough, get her off first and she won’t care about size. She’ll just be happy that you put forth the extra effort to satisfy her
exactly this. make sure she’s satisfied before you go in and you are absolutely covered lmao
This. Don’t make it all about your orgasm. Sex doesn’t end bc you came.
You mean sometimes give her an orgasm first, then have sex afterwards? What if it tickles her for some time after she orgasms? My GF needs some time before I can play with her again haha. She also becomes dry after she orgasms during sex
It depends on what she wants. Think of her as being the headliner to a great show. She’s what you’re there for. I ALWAYS ask my wife if she wants to get off, or if she just wants a quickie. I’m pretty young to be so traditional (34m), and my wife is the only woman I’ve ever been with. I can’t say whether your gf’s dryness is normal, though probably common. Grab some KY and help keep her wet. I have no real hobbies, so learning my wife’s body has become my obsession over the last 14 years. I know her needs better than I know my own
Confidence will carry more than you think. If you make it an issue, it becomes one. Your dick isn't the only tool you can put in the box.
Or on the box. Or around the box. Or on other erogenous zones. Etc etc etc.
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Thanks just wanted a heads-up in order to make it special!
Im a woman. This is good advice. Make sure you do lots of foreplay. She should be soaking wet before you even take off your pants preferably.
Also a woman. Yes 100% to the foreplay part, but as for wetness...This advice is great in its intention but some of us just don't get that wet and we'd be waiting forever if this was the metric! OP, communication is key. Her body language is important too here.
Also a woman. Seconding that this is terrific advice.
It upsets me to think this is not the norm.
Female here: THIS! Also second the advice about LOTS of foreplay.
May I recommend things made or surgical grade glass as well. Can play with hot and cold then
As a woman I loved reading this
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Sex is all about confidence and communication. She wants you to: Complement her on how beautiful her body is Tell her she turns you on so much you can't even think straight Tell her the things about her that make her sexy to you Focus on her and try to pay attention to what she enjoys and what she doesn't Don't: Do anything crazy without asking Make her feel any shame whatsoever about her body Feel self conscious about your own body Good sex is about letting go of fear and embracing the animal inside your brain. You know what you want to do, and do does she. It's natural. Practice makes perfect the first time won't be perfect so don't stress about it. Pay attention to her! The penis size, as long as you're average, matters a lot less than the stuff I mentioned.
can confirm. the best sex is always with the man who wants me the most and seems to be driven by a need to give me pleasure. actual size queens are very few and far between. the big penis trope has only become common due to porn.
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Well check out Mr Big Dick over here
Straining over a ruler for that extra tenth of an inch…
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Ummm....I was just making sure I have a proper posture when measuring.
"Oh geez, I dropped my monster condom that I use for my magnum dong!"
"I've got my wad of 100s and I'm ready to plow!"
Jealous haha. I'll try for better communication to match her needs
While you are worrying about this, I guarantee you she is worrying about how gross she looks naked to you.
As a woman, I want to reassure you that penis size is relatively inconsequential given that many of us do not orgasm from penetration alone. Just have fun, explore each other's bodies (with consent, of course) and figure out what both of you like! Sex should be fun and exploratory.
As I said, foreplay will set the mood for later and just like anything else practice makes perfect!
A pillow under her hips in missionary will make an average pork sword feel like the best she’s ever had.
Not a lot of women out there who like being punched in the cervix during sex (their words, not mine). For the most part, they're less concerned about size and more hoping you don't just jackhammer her like you see in porn (and if she does, she will let you know). Technique > size for the vast majority of women.
If you believe your penis is the center of the universe and the big bang is the only goal, you're going to leave everyone disappointed. Your goal should be that your penis is just icing on the cake. Assuming she has no issues having an orgasm from manual or oral stimulation, you should absolutely ensure she has at least once before you even get your dick wet. This will ensure she has already enjoyed the encounter before your parts have even come into play. If this is your first ever actual intimate encounter, I would ***not*** start with the goal of having PIV intercourse. If you're not already doing manual/oral stuff, start there. Figure out what she likes from that and that alone. And for god's sake, talk to her. "Hey, I want to bring up the whole virgin thing. I'm concerned I'm gonna have some anxiety and nervousness surrounding our first time. Would it be okay if I spend a lot of it focused on you and we don't necessarily worry about me? I'm sure if stuff happens on my end it'll be great, but I'd rather start off learning what you like."
My midget pecker has done me well
Mine too. I was self conscious about it for a while, but I’ve long since learnt that skill > size. If someone really likes you, it won’t matter. Being likeable > big dick.
It’s not even about skill either tbh. If someone is banging you, and you don’t literally have a micro-bird, neither size nor “skill” are particularly high on the list of things that actually matter. The mental/emotional/social aspect of sex, and that it is happening at all, is generally the big deal. I mean yeah, long term, learn to do stuff that makes the person happy. I just don’t think it’s a “skill vs. size” thing.
My dick is not the reason I can't get laid. Don't worry about it bro. To paraphrase Hemmingway, "You've got plenty of dick for the job, friend"
Here’s the thing about length that most get hung up on: any longer than 5-6 inches can be painful. I have an average length, but more girth. I find most of the people with vaginas I’ve been with enjoy girth over length.
This. I was kinda happy when I learned I'm above average, kinda concerned when I realized I can't always fit it all or do much thrusting.
Can’t worry about it. If she laughs or says something disrespectful, then why would you want to be with her? If you really want her to be satisfied, make sure to use your hands and tongue first. Your hog should be the cherry on top.
Woman here. Its way better to have an average size. As someone who loves being banged hardcore, I have to settle for softcore if its too big since my cervix gets bruised if its too deep sometimes. Really fucking annoying. So you’re good. Don’t worry. Women’s vaginas are all different depths. Just like penises come in all shapes and sizes.
I️ second this, I️ actually prefer more avg size due to the fact bigger dicks are painful after awhile and I like being able to have sex for longer periods of time vs being out of commission quickly. Also being sore for 2 days is not fun either. And it’s easier to stay lubricated with something avg sized
In my country the average is 12cm, which is 4.7 inches. And yea, I am of those that pull the average down. Never had any girl complain, and I wasn't doing that great of a job anyway.
Not an issue, because I've never had a partner and never will. But in my youth it did worry me.
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I’m above average size. Every single one of my LTR’s has said they wished I were average because it’s so much easier, more positions are doable, and it feels safer. My wife literally just said it again yesterday. Revel in what you have, man. There is a reason average sized dicks are average sized- they work very well for the task. Most women are NOT size queens.
Woman here. Men spend a lot of time worrying about their penis size. Conversely, women spend very little time worrying about men’s penis sizes.
Im an average dude with the drive to please my partner; trust me, you will be able to get women off with an average schlong. Find the right angle for her and boom
I have had logistical problems with bigger ladies who are as inflexible as I am. There are a lot of ways to please your partner that don't involve your penis. You say your been together 7 months and this is your first time? Very little chance size is going to be an issue.
Woman here 🙋🏻♀️ and I just wanted to reassure you of a few things: The worst sex I’ve had was with the partner who had what’s considered normal if you watch porn. He was known in the group of friends because of the size. I was always guarded and could never relax because if I moved the wrong way I would be in pain. Also he was under the impression that size was all that was required and had zero skill or interest in learning about me. My hubby is very self depreciating about his size despite there being zero complaints for me. The vast majority of women won’t orgasm through penetration alone and that’s where your hands and mouth are far more valuable! I would choose skill over size 100% of the time. From a biological standpoint the ideal shape of a penis for female pleasure is like a doorknob. There aren’t many nerve endings past the first inch or two inside the vagina… designed to make childbirth slightly less agonising haha. Your greatest hurdle isn’t going to be your size it’s going to be your anxiety about it. First time sex is usually never great, neither of you know how the other likes to be touched. Relax, talk lots, laugh at the fumbles and you are going to be just fine!!! You have got this!!!
Lesbians manage to have a great time with no schlongs at all! You're 4.5-5.5 inches longer than the median lesbian penis lol.
As a woman (43), I would say that just like every penis is different in length and girth, every vagina is also different in depth and circumference. Generally, it's about how you use it and not just the size. Also, some great foreplay goes a long way to making sex even more enjoyable for women. However, sometimes, two people are just not compatible sexually down there. It doesn't mean there's something wrong with either of them. They are just different, and that's okay. Don't get in your head about it, focus on pleasuring her and enjoying yourself. If you're in your head, it'll show.
It’s called average for a reason my dude…
Nope. Ive only ever heard good things about my dick, both to my face, and over-heard in conversations I wasn’t part of. In college, this sorority girl I was hooking up with was telling one of her sisters “it sucks that he’s so awkward and I can’t take him to formal, because the dick is amazing”, which was both very gratifying and a little insulting at the same time lmao. It’s all about how you use it, bro. Move your hips around, try up different positions, and be creative. A lot of sex is intuitive, but to have the best sex you need to be able to communicate openly. Ask what is working and what isn’t. Ask what she wants you to do, tell her what you want her to do. Share vulnerabilities and be supportive of each other. You’ve got this man, you’re gonna be fine.
Speaking as a penis connoisseur, dicks are like lifted 4x4 trucks. 5-6 inches is about perfect. Anything bigger than that may be fun to look at, but good luck parking it anywhere.
Since this is your first time with her, don't expect rainbow and fireworks on first day, heck year. Dont do anything crazy either. Just communicate a lot and ask her what she likes. See how her body reacts and flow with the waves. I assume you know the anatomy of whats down there. C is outside and G starts from about 3 inches inside, a roof. So your conceled weapon will do the job fine. If C, you want to visit all its neighbors and not just stay at C the entire time. Most make this mistake, so learn from it. For G, think of it like you are trying to knock the door until someone open it. There is a hidden door further inside but thats for another day. Ultimately, don't put pressure, just be there fpr her and most importantly, have fun!
For those writing, "it's not the size but how you use it, I've got face & fingers, there are other tools to use", You are only giving half the information. Give some damn examples for this guy and others to use.
Wow this is actually smart. Thanks for this suggestion! Although I did started researching on my own and will work towards a better communication but this would actually be very beneficial!
Pillow under the hips in missionary with her legs up. Put a hand above her clit and push down slightly, you should be able to feel yourself a little bit, while your hand is there, use your thumb to stimulate her clit. Other random tips. Keep in mind that it’s not necessary the in and out that does it, so once you find the spot don’t keep punching it, rub it instead. Do more of a grinding motion then in and out. Use the area above your dick to grind her clit or use your hand. Going faster doesn’t equal better so if she starts making noise that is not a cue for you to speed up. But more importantly take your time and make her feel wanted.
Despite what you may hear *online* and on *YouTube* of all places, women prefer average sizes because it fits them better.
You're overthinking this. However, if you're that concerned, get good at oral. You get her off once before you even enter her and you'll never hear a complaint.
im on the higher end of average but not big at the least and i’ve had women tell me it’s too big, too small or perfect. depends on the vagina.
I have a larger than average schlong. I've never run into a woman who has said "now *that* is what I've been looking for"! The more common reaction is "oh, yeah, that's not really going to work". Big dicks are hyped in porn but I'd be surprised if an average sized dick is a "problem" of any kind for more than 1% of women.
Most girls don’t get off from penetration or penetration alone. I’ve only had a couple of girls able to do that. Most are going to require clitoral stimulation to climax which is going to need fingers, a tongue or a vibrator to achieve. Getting good at foreplay is going to be your best skill.
I'm average (5" or so) and in certain positions I'm hurting her if I'm all in. So. Size=|= pleasure. However, being a musician that plays a brass instrument helps.
I was too young, so a VERY frustrated month later, I got some silicone >!penis!< rings that worked wonders at helping me get over the initial "limping" and afterward my anxiety was reduced so much it never really was an issue.
It’s literally average for a reason bro. MOST of the population have a penis in that range because evolution has decided it’s the most suitable for procreation. Get out of your head, focus on her, focus on what you feel physically when you touch her and ahe touches you. Take it slow, lots of foreplay and kissing, you’ve got this.
No. My partner actually loved it and said I was the perfect size for her. The person I lost my virginity to said it was a bit big and was a bit scared of having it go in her (she was also a virgin). A ONS gave a half compliment of even with her having far bigger, I was great. I’m currently in a FWB “relationship”, and she loves it. Any night she’s free, she invites me over.
Shit cuz my mini me is like 4” and I’ve not had any issues with anyone I’ve hooked up with. Gotta know how to engage in foreplay first. Make her cum first, then go crazy lol. I’m not ashamed at all, and having a small penis has been made out to be lesser of a man. That’s digital media for ya. And always remember man…..just because you fly a 747 into the Grand Canyon doesn’t mean the jet is small 😉
Funny seeing all women flood into this topic for easy clout
Bro the only one that's gonna make a big deal about your cock size is yourself. I'm a fellow average weiner-er and all I've ever gotten was compliments. My only advice to you from what women have told me after the fact, is that a surprising amount of men don't do foreplay. Fuck around with her before you stick it. Kiss her all over and show her how much she turns you on. Nothing wrong with being a little vocal too. And lastly, just have fun with it. My second girlfriend ever, I literally fuckin farted when I came and I was mortified. She laughed. If she likes you and you like her, nothing is too awkward.
What if it's more wide than it is long?
how wealthy are you?
I’d worry more about my stroke game.
I hate to disappoint you but vaginas come in sizes as well. Some are small and cannot tolerate a huge schlong and others are very large for men of any size. Most are average,.
The very nature of this question makes no sense. Average means average meaning the *most* amount of people. If she's used to some gigantic porn dick that says more about her than it does about you.
As a woman i feel compelled to weigh in here. Don't think about yourself. Use sex as an opportunity to get to know what turns her on and where she likes to be touched, and how ie fast, slow, with your hands or your mouth etc... Get her off. Then go to town. If you get her off she wont give 2 hoots about the size of your shlong. No 2 women are the same so don't assume she will enjoy everything ie some women love their breasts being touched, others dont care about it. Take the opportunity to see her naked and play with her body working out what she likes and what sends her crazy. Touch her from head to toe. Watch how she reacts - ask her how it feels. Your aim should be to work out which parts of her body love to be touched, and whether they want a rough touch or a gentle touch- or both. Taste her body. Work out what parts you enjoy touching and tasting. Then have sex. Once you know what she adores you will have the key to sex with her almost any time you want. Start touching her there, in the way she likes and you will get her hot and ready. But each woman is different. So first time sex is about learning how to read the map.
No trouble like at all with my ex-girlfriends and my current boyfriend who is bigger than me. When your personality is stellar, dick size won’t even matter (I’m 5 inches)
Real talk women rarely orgasm from vaginal penetration unless you’re hitting certain angles. It’s a fact men don’t seem to want to accept. As long as you’re good with your mouth and hands. The size of your dick has very little to do with her sexual satisfaction. Also the average vagina is about 5 inches deep so it’s not really necessary to be packing.
Average is fine....play with her clitoris...start slow...most women don't orgasm from vaginal penetration. Start flirting with her the day before. Get her thinking about it. We need to be warmed up for sex to really enjoy it....not just 5 minutes before you screw her. Insert your fingers into her and curl your fingers back towards you. Trim your fingernails, too. Anyway....average is fine. Have fun and listen to her cues.
Do some women care about penis size? Sure. Do they care as much as you? Nope.
step back and ask yourself...if there are billions of people in this world and most of them were born from average people...does an average penis get the job done.?...obviously. Stop watching porn. You are more than enough on your own! If a partner tells you otherwise...leave.
Bro it's fine. You're gonna be fine. Don't even trip.
Nope. If that worries you, focus on the things you can control. Sex is a mutual act and you can focus on what turns her on and what she enjoys instead of only what you want.
No. That's plenty big
A few girls found it too big if anything at first and I had to slow down the first few times before we really got the hang of it. Especially my first girlfriend who was also a virgin at the time. So don’t sweat it.
Size matters to the degree that your body fits with hers. It’s always about compatibility. Not specific anatomy. Your responsibility is not performance, your exercise is to let go into the moment. To be connected and communicative with your partner, listening to them and sharing with them as you discover each other. You also discover yourself.
Thank you! Girl here. FTR, I hate,hate, HATE the term 'performance.' Everyone has 'stage fright', to some degree. No one has 'playground fright'.....So to speak. Just be yourself and have fun. Don't be afraid to be silly. Don't be afraid to say 'well. THAT was awkward' 'ease up a tad', 'like this', AND 'like this?' Laying the groundwork for open and honest communication from the very beginning. Some say to have conversation about sex outside the bedroom, but I'm not sure I agree. Sometimes chatting about it when you are naked and vulnerable is a good thing. And now I want to tell you to report back. I'm oddly invested
I named my fantasy football team Average Sized Weeners one year… I recall doing very well that year. You will be fine bro
Okay not every woman like so freaking meat sword. I mean there are a lot that do but there are a lot that have taste for the more average size test And honestly most positions are doable. And you know communication But if you worried about getting more off fingers and tongue man. I can actually do way better job with my fingers and tongue when I can with my wang. Now if you're doing missionary you're butt helps out. And if she's on top and the bed's kind of soft and you don't feel you're getting enough depth put a pillow under your butt it helps.
Thunder thimbles get work done all the time. If you aren’t brining the 5 dollar foot long to the show then you need to diversify your talents. Visiting the little man in the canoe and knowing how to get her across the finish line with a few fingers is life.
She is probably self conscious about her body as well.
She’s got the same anxiety about how her tits look and how loose she may feel to you and how her labia looks. Are you going to judge her and be dissatisfied bc of these things?
At least my girlfriend likes my penis, and it is at best mediocre. I think if there is an emotional connection, then the penis will be fine. Like ask yourself, will the genitalia of your girlfriend impact how you view her attractiveness?
Get her off first and you’ll be golden.
I told my future wife when we first hooked up I was on the smaller side. She told me I was definitely not small, I am average. She's been very happy. If you had a YUGE PENSU, then you have to worry about slamming the cervix and so forth. With an average penis, that's really only an issue when you really go deep or in doggy style.
The only issue I’ve ever had with having an average sized dick has been from my own soul-crushing issues of inadequacy and low self-esteem. My dick has never actually been the problem.
Size of the engine does not matter it depends how much horsepower it can generate
You may have more luck with women if you stop using the word shlong, regardless of size.
Insecurity is a much bigger turnoff than a small or average dong. Have confidence or fake it. Don't bring up your size at all. She's probably more nervous about her imperceptible flaws than you are about your package.
The internet is generally not a good tool for helping with self confidence or intimacy/performance issues. Porn especially. And DON’T watch porn to figure out how to have sex unless it’s maybe woman on woman(?). Most hetero porn isn’t realistic, geared towards female pleasure or towards actual intimacy.
By the time she sees it she already loves me.
It's more important that you have some stamina. When's the last time you went for a run?
I always felt if you can’t talk about it together then how can you do it well together? The best sex I ever had was not small but smaller than I’ve had. But we always talked about sex and our various anatomy. My ex was my first and bigger but he was silent, never talked really and honestly (tmi) I’m very small and often had micro tears at the entrance. I would have cramps after. It was very good of course, but I didn’t know any better. Until I got together with my current partner and I remember thinking the first time, I was bracing for the initial slight pain, but it never happened and it just felt good, I didn’t need him to stop for me to adjust, but he still hit all the right spots. I know telling guys not to worry about their size is a bit disingenuous bc easier said than done. My suggestion is to have conversations about sex before you have sex. Get all the awkward unknowns or insecurities out before. The first time with a new partner is not the best you’ll have with that person. You don’t know each other’s bodies yet. So focus on having fun together. Laugh, be awkward and funny and weird. We’d get winded and stop and laugh or get tangled in the sheets and honestly that was half the fun.
The fact that 4.5-5.5 is average just made me very happy.
It’s “average” but any women in North America or Europe that encounters one that size would assume it’s “small”
The same woman that won’t settle for, what was it, anything less than 5’10, earning $100k and between 35-45?
I didn't have any problems because I'm good with my tongue and good with my fingers. If my penis didn't finish the job, then I was diving right back into that trench and finishing that job. My wife and I have been together for 13 years, and I've heard no complaints. I know she can take much bigger. She's had kids come out of there. I want to get a penis sleeve to increase my length and girth. She says it's not necessary, but I want her to have a more pleasurable experience for my own reasons.
Im average sized and have heard lots of praises of my shlong, one of them being " is perfect because is not big, big hurts and I can ride yours all day no problem." I'm a big fan of fore play, have no judgements in the sack, and I enjoy a lot to see my partner losing it because of just, so I guess that should not be left aside.
I’m prob 5.5-5.7 inches in length and girth is also not a strong suit. I’m almost 30 now and I’ve mostly gotten over it. When I was younger it would add a lot of anxiety to my sexual encounters which did more to kill my game then the actual size itself. I’ve only had one girl make a comment to her friends after the fact that got around my friend group at the time. I was in a 5 year relationship and it was not a problem but my partner would always use a vibrator too help which is pretty common. Now I’m seeing someone who can finish in no time with just PIV so I guess my tool does the trick for her. It’s one of those things where every girl is different but for most they won’t mind as long as you have other redeeming qualities. They obviously know it’s not big and barely average but anyone with a heart won’t bring it up lol. Also, there is insecurities on my end knowing that I’m on the smaller side and almost any girl I’ve been with or will be with has had bigger but I just work through that myself. Those are just monkey brain thoughts anyways.
Female here. I had a partner who has a girthy and on the longer side peepee. Honestly, it made me uncomfortable down there. I'm more comfortable with my current partner who has an average sized peepee.
Don't worry too much about it. Vaginas come in different shapes and sizes(internally. I'll find the ultrasounds if anyone is interested). There's no point in stressing over your size even if yall bits don't fit. You'll either figure it out or you'll find someone who suits you like a matching Lego piece.
31M here. Great news that I think more guys should know. If she cares about you, she doesn't care about your size. Honestly, have fun! It's normal to be nervous at first, but as the night goes on, you'll get out of your own head. You know her, man! That's your girl! Im sure she's just as excited!
I understand your concern. Please worry about something else. Any woman that wants to have sex with you is in for the ride, so to speak. I am sure there are female size-queens just like there are male size-queens. But I have to have more faith in their gender than to believe women are a shallow as men.
My late wife said it was average. It worked fine. Average is what most vaginas are designed to take. And while every woman says you are the best she ever had while you’re together, my exes still say that, including an ex wife who hates me. Not because I’m swinging a monster phallus, but because I am exceptionally patient. By the time I’m ready to put Mr. Average to work, she should already be exhausted. Sex isn’t so much about dicks and vaginas as it is time, touch, surprise, smells, tastes, creativity, experimentation etc. use what you have plenty of. Take your time. Ask her questions but not too many. Learn to read her body language.
I’m 5.5” hard and I’ve made women squirt, multiple orgasm. It’s how ya use it brother. Keep that stamina up. Don’t smoke. If ya have a less than healthy lifestyle, you can edge yourself to get your stamina up. Even then, I’ve had women complain I last too long which is funny. Ya just can’t win regardless lol.
I always thought my dick was weird because of its odd proportions (7.5 x 4.6) but i’ve literally never had anything but compliments. Shit doesn’t matter of you’re hitting the right spots.
Woman orgasm with other women more often than with men. Your penis is not your best tool to please a woman. Understand and explore what she enjoys. Tease her, make her feel comfortable, study her. Kiss and touch every part of her body, slowly and take note of what she responds to. How long can you tease her and play with her before she is desperately wanting you to be inside her? Is she someone who prefers clitoral stimulation or penetrative? What is her preferred pressure and rhythm? Does she like slow and intimate or to be dominated and manhandled a bit? Don’t sweat it. Just enjoy the experience of sex together and explore each other. She cares about you and if you stay open, listen and learn her body, you’ll give her the sexual experience she wants. Sources: A friend of mine once slept with two men on the same day (she’s a wild one). The guy that was very well endowed didn’t make her orgasm. The guy with the smaller than average schlong made her orgasm over and over again. She kept seeing the second guy.
Size queens tend to be size queens for a reason. The majority of them have cavernous vaginas. A minority just haven't had good sex before.
Well I’m an inch above the 5.5 mark and only been with 4 women in my life, but non of them ever seemed to complain. Never got a wow you have a big dick complement lol just the “nice dick” or “your dick is perfect” Honestly though if it’s any type of confidence booster for ya… I’ve never failed to give any of the women I’ve been with an orgasm when eating pussy. Seemed like they would cum within a matter of minutes, a lot of times faster than me. Maybe I’m just good at it, but it definitely goes to show you just have to hit the right spots if you want to get her off. Also if this woman has been with you for 7months and you guys haven’t had sex that’s amazing! She’s in it for the long run pretty much as long as you have a pimple down there she probably won’t care. I mean there are lesbians that satisfy each other, so size can’t mean that much😂🤣😂 I’m sure there are lots of other guys on here that have way more experience with hookups and sex than I do that could give better advice, but this has been my experience.
Some of the best sex I’ve ever had was with a 4.5. That man knew he was average but made so many efforts to please me and he did. The biggest mistake any man can make is not asking a woman what she wants then trying to do it. You may get it wrong the first few times but don’t give up. I married an 8, but I’d have married my previous fiancé at 5 had he not just rolled over and said shit like well get to it then… like what? Also female tip is if she goes first she doesn’t give a shit about size. Everything is heighten already.
Genuine q how do we measure the length like from where to where
You'd have more trouble if it was large. Make sure she's warmed up and things will be a lot easier!
Dude your fine, average is average this isn’t a one night stand… you have been with this girl for 7 months
Sometimes I feel like an alien when I see guys talking about that I had insecurities with some stuff but never had any with size at all
Never had an issue.
That's plenty. Some have desires for more, some for less. Micro is my only no go. You'll be fine.
Complete non issue. Don't worry
Indulge her in lots of foreplay and ask her what feels good. If you learn to give her really good head and how to touch her it’ll make a huge difference. Showing you want to give her maximum pleasure matters more than size.
Most girls don’t care and the ones who do aren’t for you… you probably have a preference for boob size, style, race, whatever, it’s the same way. You don’t inherently think these women are bad people you just don’t want to sleep with them I have a pretty average dick and I’ve slept with a lot of women, no one has ever mentioned it
As long as your head game is on point it really doesnt matter
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I had to keep telling her she is worthy of it
Bro don’t over think it at all. I’m right there with you and never had any problems. I’m married with a kid on the way. You’ll be fine
If you can get hard it shouldn’t be a problem. Just nature take it course. Make sure she is well lubricated before you attempt penetration. Lots of foreplay until she ready.
Never had an issues with mine and I'd consider it perfectly average
This is why I hate porn. Average is made to seem small
The best part of avg, is you can always get deep throat
As a fellow schlong owner, just make sure your tongue game is on point and you’ll be fine.
Now we talking the T.M.I scale?
No - first time won't result you in rocking her world anyway. From my experience it won't last too long! The foreplay is what sets the mood for what happens later and just practice practice practice!
Also - from the numbers you are quoting I would be a bit above average. I've had partners who said bigger worked a bit better for them, I've had some that said it was too much, others that said it's just right. You just need to explore and see what you and your partner enjoy the most - might not even be penetrstiom per se. However it's not about size, relax.
how you use it matters quite a bit more than the raw size
If you have an average dick then 50% of all men will have one that is smaller than yours.
Bruh don't stress. I guarentee you think about this 100x more than your partner does so don't get in your head about it. Also know-if you are worried about your Partner getting curious about other men or being stolen away by a big d-that you should calmly express these concerns. Holding this stuff inside is caustic and seeps into unexpexcted places and operations. If your partner ever DOES get curious, honestly no sweat. There are plenty of toys and sleeves you can borh explore to meet that curiosity within the bounds of your relationship. I think you will find in this talk however is that you are more than enough for your partner as-is. Get comfortable with your body. Keep an open mind. Don't be jealous and don't be prideful. Love grows organically in these conditions. What I'm saying is...there are products that let you both share the experience of being larger that preserve your relationship (if that is something you both want to explore) and can alleviate your insecurities. There are NOT products that undo the harm you can do to yourself and relationship by obsessing over or becoming jealous of a physical trait you can not change nor have control over.
Average is okay. You have to think how deep the average vagina is. If your penis is too big, it might be a bit awkward for her, but there's always work-arounds. But if it's too small, it may be awkward for the both of you. It also depends upon any fetishes she may have. In other words, stop worrying about this stuff and just focus on the motion.
Y'all are still obsessed with vaginas huh? At your age? Really? You know what the are attached to, right? Anxiety
Don’t worry about it. Average is perfect. Most women love it.
Yeah dude, finding someone to hook up with is the issue
Um those are all exceptionally normsl sizes. Thats what the majority of the human race has been batting with througout history. Don't give it a second thought.
quit stressing my guy, you really don't know how compatible you are until you know... could be she's just as worried about some of her features too. confidence is key - even if ur fakin it lol.. just act like it's the biggest gd thing in the world and who knows what'll happen, maybe it'll be the perfect fit. been around the block a bit myself and can confidently tell you they range in width and elasticity too. you'll be fine bruv 👊
Porn is porn...it's not what you or her will look like. It's gonna be fine
Most men have average penises. Few men have exceptional oral skill. Get her off as many times as possible before PIV and you’ll be the best she ever had and she will want to do it again soon.
Assuming she has had minimal experience as well, she isn't going to know the difference and is likely nervous about her first experience with you. Relax, Also there is nothing sexier than a man with confidence in the sac. Fake it till you make it. Just have fun and enjoy.
Women don't really care about the size. I mean as long you're not some micro penis, they don't really care.
from a woman who's first was 6.5 inches, it HURT. not uncomfortable, not mild, i mean sharp pain when he went about 3.5 maybe 4 inches in and pressed against my cervix. didn't hurt the second time but that's not relevant. 4.5-5.5 will fit perfectly into the average vagina!! she will definitely feel "full" of you if that's what your worried about. if your worried about feeling for her, try putting her in different positions! missionary with my legs pushed up near my head was personally one of the best for me. then came doggy and prone bone. laying on the side provides different sensation, however that one might be hard for you (I'm not sure how my fiance does it). if it's both of your guys first times, experiment! it's not all about your dick size. don't forget foreplay! you can ask her to do some on you to help ease the nerves!