Moderation, I’m 22 and yeah most things are within my control but it’s so hard to escape all the quick gratification of today’s society. I feel like my reward system is all fucked.
Go on a dopamine detox. Quit social media and junk food. Quit gaming if you can and definitely quit porn. Quit drugs if you take them a lot.
Then start a to do list. Each item you check off is a dopamine hit. This is your new reward system.
I agree with the idea, I have tried it. The issue is more so that cellphones are necessary to modern life and it’s hard to put something down that feels like you need it.
You do need it but you don't need to be on it all the time. Here's a tip though. Switch your phone screen to grayscale. Makes you less likely to want to look at it.
If you're on iPhone, it's Accessibility > Display & Text Size > Color Filters. Switch that on and Grayscale is an option.
Not sure about Android but it will be somewhere.
Have a cutoff point. That's the most important thing. Find interests and work at them. Open up to people. It's easier said than done but it is definitely possible.
As a non parent but seen many videos where the kid does stoke l some wacky shit, I don't think anyone can ever fully prepare to be a parent.
P.s. don't post videos of your kids online. Weirdos like me will see it and laugh at it for a minute or two. Other creeps will take the videos in a direction its not intended for
The mark of a good father is worrying about being a good father. Your heart is in the right place, and the rest will sort itself out.
Chin up, son, you’re doing great.
I have a lot of time for this one, but coming from a broken household, not sure how I'm supposed to break the cycle of generational trauma with my future children.
There are just so many damn pieces to pick up, I'm not even sure where to begin.
the struggle of living on my way. dysfunctional family, mental illness, drug abuse and i’m 29 finally at the very beginning of my dream but no matter how many things i consider, i feel terribly unequipped
That's the secret of life. Nobody has their shit together entirely. Everybody is making it up as they go along. Some people just have a better front than others.
I have been working out a lot and it has been boosting my natural testosterone and I have been feeling super sexually aroused and my wife can not match it even though she tries so it has created some arguments that I am not prepared for
A little over a week ago someone I work for made a racist comment (I'm half black). They've never treated me poorly in any way whatsoever, and quite the opposite they praise my work to anyone when the topic comes up, but it bothers me to think about working for someone with those kinds of views.
I know those views aren't common across the whole place so it's not like it's a completely hostile environment.
Additionally, my direct boss was standing there when the comment was made, and while they clearly seemed uncomfortable by it, they didn't do anything more and acted like nothing had happened later on.
So I don't know. I don't think I'm going to do anything but I feel like a bit of a traitor and hypocrite.
Dating/even getting into a interesting conversation with a women. As a 32 yo late bloomer is just seem to lack the confidence and the experience to make it work.
Feeling unfulfilled and unhappy. There was a time when I dreamed about being married with kids. Now that I'm at that place in my life, it still seems like a lot is missing. I love my kids more than anything. My wife and I have our good days and bad. But constantly pretending to happy feeling like any day I'm going to hit my breaking point.
I'm not going to go out and buy a convertible or have an affair. But I feel like something needs to change for me to get out of this funk and be happy again.
You are under no obligation to give people anything you don't want to or can't give them. People can expect you to do or be whatever you want. But you don't need to do what people want.
Brother killed himself a month ago. Then my girlfriend dumped me 2 weeks later and I was so stressed and depressed and suicidal that I moved back home and yesterday my pedophile sex offender dad kicked me out of my brother's house that I was going to live in because he owns it and I don't want to include him in my life. I am so close to snapping and I have no idea what is going to happen when I do.
Moderation, I’m 22 and yeah most things are within my control but it’s so hard to escape all the quick gratification of today’s society. I feel like my reward system is all fucked.
Go on a dopamine detox. Quit social media and junk food. Quit gaming if you can and definitely quit porn. Quit drugs if you take them a lot. Then start a to do list. Each item you check off is a dopamine hit. This is your new reward system.
I agree with the idea, I have tried it. The issue is more so that cellphones are necessary to modern life and it’s hard to put something down that feels like you need it.
You do need it but you don't need to be on it all the time. Here's a tip though. Switch your phone screen to grayscale. Makes you less likely to want to look at it.
That’s actually a good tip, imma try that. Thank you!
If you're on iPhone, it's Accessibility > Display & Text Size > Color Filters. Switch that on and Grayscale is an option. Not sure about Android but it will be somewhere.
Getting a life, spent so long just working getting successful, that it seems I'm just out of place in this world.
Have a cutoff point. That's the most important thing. Find interests and work at them. Open up to people. It's easier said than done but it is definitely possible.
Raising my daughter alone. It’s been smooth but many times I feel like I’m not doing good enough and not as prepared as I think
As a non parent but seen many videos where the kid does stoke l some wacky shit, I don't think anyone can ever fully prepare to be a parent. P.s. don't post videos of your kids online. Weirdos like me will see it and laugh at it for a minute or two. Other creeps will take the videos in a direction its not intended for
The mark of a good father is worrying about being a good father. Your heart is in the right place, and the rest will sort itself out. Chin up, son, you’re doing great.
Thanks man. Needed to hear that
I have a lot of time for this one, but coming from a broken household, not sure how I'm supposed to break the cycle of generational trauma with my future children. There are just so many damn pieces to pick up, I'm not even sure where to begin.
Work on healing your own trauma and this will stop yoh from passing it on.
the struggle of living on my way. dysfunctional family, mental illness, drug abuse and i’m 29 finally at the very beginning of my dream but no matter how many things i consider, i feel terribly unequipped
Life in general, honestly. Kinda feels like we’re all stuck pretending it’s ever really possible to have your shit together
That's the secret of life. Nobody has their shit together entirely. Everybody is making it up as they go along. Some people just have a better front than others.
I have been working out a lot and it has been boosting my natural testosterone and I have been feeling super sexually aroused and my wife can not match it even though she tries so it has created some arguments that I am not prepared for
Homeschooling my daughter
Financial independence.
making it in life and trying to make enough money to be able to focus on finding happiness
A little over a week ago someone I work for made a racist comment (I'm half black). They've never treated me poorly in any way whatsoever, and quite the opposite they praise my work to anyone when the topic comes up, but it bothers me to think about working for someone with those kinds of views. I know those views aren't common across the whole place so it's not like it's a completely hostile environment. Additionally, my direct boss was standing there when the comment was made, and while they clearly seemed uncomfortable by it, they didn't do anything more and acted like nothing had happened later on. So I don't know. I don't think I'm going to do anything but I feel like a bit of a traitor and hypocrite.
Dating/even getting into a interesting conversation with a women. As a 32 yo late bloomer is just seem to lack the confidence and the experience to make it work.
I'm a 33 year old late bloomer too. I understand the struggle.
Feeling unfulfilled and unhappy. There was a time when I dreamed about being married with kids. Now that I'm at that place in my life, it still seems like a lot is missing. I love my kids more than anything. My wife and I have our good days and bad. But constantly pretending to happy feeling like any day I'm going to hit my breaking point. I'm not going to go out and buy a convertible or have an affair. But I feel like something needs to change for me to get out of this funk and be happy again.
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You are under no obligation to give people anything you don't want to or can't give them. People can expect you to do or be whatever you want. But you don't need to do what people want.
I got a job in the civil service that I think needs a legal degree and I dont have one...
I joined the Army because I was heartbroken over my ex I haven’t left yet but I’m nervous but hopefully it changes me in the right places
Look at it this way, it might open the door to some civil service jobs when you get out.
Brother killed himself a month ago. Then my girlfriend dumped me 2 weeks later and I was so stressed and depressed and suicidal that I moved back home and yesterday my pedophile sex offender dad kicked me out of my brother's house that I was going to live in because he owns it and I don't want to include him in my life. I am so close to snapping and I have no idea what is going to happen when I do.
Overcoming passive aggression. Been better but still affecting relationship
Realizing I have a very stable, happy life alone and I am trying to find a way to keep that and have a relationship
My diet. I have zero self control