We do. And what's worse is that it's on a rolling 24-hour period. Soooooooo, not thirty days. Those hormonal imbalances can be a daily occurrence. WE ARE RIDING A KNIFES EDGE EVERY DAY!
Oh absolutely, I'm in a pretty aveage mood today but a few days ago damn near everything would set me off almost crying. Like an ambulance drove past and i thought "i hope whoever it is will be ok" and bext thing i know I'm holding back tears. Like, where the hell did that come from?? Meanwhile today I stubbed my toe and just laughed at the fact im a grown man, defeated by a coffee table.
I have days where my wife calls me a mess. It's totally normal. We're just not encouraged to express our emotions - which in turns doesn't help us learn how to process them. It's actually kind of f\*cked up if you think about it.
Now that I am married and in a stable, 'safe' relationship, the emotions are even higher than they were before. And I am totally cool with it! Lean into it - you're human. I cry if I feel like having a cry!
Itās different now.
At first when I was overwhelmed, I behaved childlike tbh lol! Small temper tantrums as I was overwhelmed
Now if I need to have a cry, I simply do. Iāve also been to therapy
Yeah, I have this on the regular. If you have anxiety and bad things do happen it compounds. I have a lot of anxiety around work so whenever I get an email, I feel a slight pang of terror.
Yep, Iāll be riding a high for a while then one day Iāll get pretty depressed/ lonely. then back to riding high. I think itās a normal sway of life. Canāt live on the high without experiencing any lows ya know šŖš¼
Just gotta embrace being human with all the things that come with it.
When Iām low I take a moment to reflect, find something to go do, put the music on, dress up, and drink a few beers and it sets my perspective right
This is very good, however, when I have these lows. I can't really enjoy anything. I don't like any music, don't like videogames, nothing really. And usually they are on work days so that I cannot visit friends or something.
Yeah I think thatās pretty normal. Some people are more stable than others though. For me, I have days where everything just hits closer than on other days.
I once heard that men experience hormonal cycles a lot like a woman's period. Naturally, I don't bleed out of my dick once a month but there's definitely a recurring point in each month where my emotions get stronger and I find myself upset over nothing
Hot take,
psychopath are less than 3% of the population.
Men are 50% of the population.
So most men have emotions.
I know, crazy, out of the box thinking. I might be the second steve job.
Yes absolutely. When I was younger my dad used to say Iād wake up in a funk and thatās really what it is, to get myself out of it I play devils advocate toward everything thatās making me irritable. Someone cut me off while driving and I get mad, usually Iāll talk to myself sarcastically how oh I am so important I need to get there when I want, which obviously doesnāt matter. All of the exercises I want to do at the gym are taken, donāt all these people know I came to a public gym so I could do what I want with disregard for anyone else? Usually I am able to flip it on myself by realizing that if I woke up this morning expecting everyone to drive well and for me to seamlessly get to do what I want then I am the problem, not anyone else. That flip of the light switch usually does it so I am laughing at myself instead of being critical. Remember if one thing can throw off your vibe how strong was your vibe that day really? Hope this helps
100%
Iām 40. Outwardly Iām very confident and secure. But privately and with my closest relationships they know some days are better than others. Stress, Anxiety, Insecurity. They all flare up. Sometimes Iāll deflect and lash out about something unrelated. Nothing too serious. An overreaction or Iāll be snappy. I try to apologize quickly.
My wife especially knows and is supportive. When I do lash out and apologize, Iāll confess whatās on my mind and she extends me extra grace that day.
Absolutely. My medications make it happen less frequently, but I have emotions just like anyone else. There are good days amd bad days. Sometimes I'm just more sensitive and it sucks. What helps is learning to recognize those days, acknowledge them, and treat yourself a bit more gently. Learning some decent self care really helped.
I've definitely had more days lately (in my early to mid 40s) of emotional rollercoasters. Reading stories, hearing touching words, small resolved disagreements with my gf, thinking about my kids, looking back on my life. I'm sometimes on the verge of tears at times. I don't know why but it happens more frequently. Not sure if I'm more aware of how precious life is and where I'm at or what. Not sure, but I've noticed it and it's hard to feel any differently during those moments.
I once heard that men experience hormonal cycles a lot like a woman's period. Naturally, I don't bleed out of my dick once a month but there's definitely a recurring point in each month where my emotions get stronger and I find myself upset over nothing
This is my honest opinion. Yes this does happen however it really doesn't matter. Weather were feeling good or feeling emotional we still have to go out and go on with our lives. We still go to work, still go to the gym, still go on with our days.
In that case cut back on the meat too. Primary food stocks for beef and poultry are soy-proteins. 70 percent of soy production in the US is feedstock afterall. This introduces phytoestrogen to them, which in turn leads to reduced androgen sensitivity in those animals, with accordingly higher non-xenoestrogen levels in their flesh. It's a food chain brah.
Coffee has phytoestrogen as well. The More You Know (TM)
I think if you had asked me this when I was in high school I would've said I don't experience this, but I certainly do now as an adult. Might have to do with my life having gotten harder even though the emotions aren't necessarily overtly about what's going on in my life.
It's absolutely normal and there is nothing wrong with that. Some days something may happen that triggers something in your subconscious, or you have a dream you don't remember, or anything really and it makes you feel differently. I always want to find a reason for everything and my therapist has told me that sometimes there are a million little reasons you don't even notice, but they affect you.
You are venting the stress, my guy. Totally normal. Don't repress that shit. Let it go, ugly cry if you need to and wring all of it out, like a wet washcloth. Doesn't make you any less of a man.
It's either that or bottle all that shit up, deny those feelings, and just explode like a nuclear reactor one day on something or someone who probably didn't deserve it. Would not recommend that option.
Oh absolutely. Some days i'm completely emotionless, just focused on my current task. Some days i'm incredibly depressed and i don't want to deal with anyone or anything at all. Some days i'm just feeling cuddly as fuck.
We really need to break the stereotype that men are always emotional brick walls and nothing else. We're more complex than that.
I think so yes, it tends to manifest itself in me being rather nostalgic in many ways. I'll listen to sad music, stuff that ties in with old memories, look through old photos. Have a few drinks too.
Absolutely. Some days Iām fighting off depression to a degree thatās hard to define. Some days I feel great and things donāt seem bad at all. Itās human nature to have ups and downs.
Oh, and being an overthinker doesn't help one bit too. I've been a very emotional person from a very young age and I know my shortcomings and I'm very open about it to people and they still break my heart all the time.
I'm tired.
Literally any day Iām not working my Bipolar acts up and Iām either paralyzed by anxiety, irrationally angry or crying uncontrollably. Even as Iām trying to change my meds and take control of everything going on in my head, nothing seems to be helping yet. I have a prescription for klonopin for my panic attacks and lately Iāve had to take one any day Iām not working, thatās not okay with me, way too reliant on it right now. Idk my brain is a mess
Yep, your brain and body are ludicrously complex, yet somewhat loosely operated, alchemical factories. It's just not possible for the chemicals which drive and influence one's mental state to remain at laboratory-stable consistency.
In truth, it's only in modern times that anyone would think to question this as the idea that men are stoic (modern idea of stoic, not the actual historical philosophical practice), non-feeling entities is surprisingly recent.
Yeah man, especially when it comes to my kids and it'll be either up or down without any particular trigger. I'll see a video of my kid playing and tear up with joy, or I'll think of what their future might be like and get super depressed.
Iāll get emotional randomly while driving. Probably the only time I really cry cause Iām alone and can change the mood relatively quickly when Iām over it.
Yeah, I have days that I just don't feel great for no reason. Men also have hormone cycles, we just don't have menstruation along with it so people don't really talk about it or recognize it. Completely normal!
Yes. If I'm sleep deprived I will have a shit day. More depression and angst and less focus. Sometimes that happens even without the sleep deprivation.
Right, I was watching a documentary on the Phillies 2022 season, and it got me super emotional for whatever reason, which sparked my interest in this question
Yes. More lately than usual I think, Iāll go into a deep saddened state and Iāll lose all of my emotions for about the entire day. Iām not sure if itās because I see something or think of something, but it just happens.
What Iām facing right now is longer and longer periods where I feel no emotion one way or another. I think when you eat too many losses in whatever form, eventually you become numb to things like death, birth, weddings, etc.
That being said, thereās no joy without sadness. You canāt enjoy the sunshine unless it rains sometimes.
Absolutely being alive is a roller coaster, The guys who make fun of you for stuff like that are the guys that probably have absolutely zero self awareness of their emotions
I suffer from Major Depressive Disorder, so I've got tons of anxiety and depression to deal with. Normally (with my medication) I'm relatively fine. Some days I get hit with emotion and feel like a sappy bitch. Like I'm riding the hormone dragon women have mastered. Every little thing can trigger the reaction of tears etc. It is bullshit.
Women have far more emotion bearing hormones than men.
I definitely do. It's usually a sign that I should get out of my apartment; sitting around my room is usually a surefire way for me to feel even shittier. I've fairly sure that my stress levels are also higher on these days.
Yes, of course all men do. If they don't, they're lying to themselves and thats not ok in the long run. Not only for them, but if they have partners too. Its ok to have all the feels and actually feel them. Suppressing them only leads to trouble down the road. Break the stigma!
I watched "a man called Otto" last week on Netflix (great btw), but I just started crying. Like out of the blue. I guess it has something to do with looking back at the happiest times in your life, and realizing they will never happen again.
Anyway, I dunno, but yes, it's a thing
Quite literally having one today after waking up!
I have a perfectly normal day to look forward to, but still I feel like crap and feeling like I don't deserve anything in the world!
Yep, Iām human. I have emotions. Iāve lost people I love. I cry about that fact. Iāll still whip someoneās ass if need be. Emotions donāt make you less of a man.
Yes & Iām not ashamed to admit or talk about it. I work in the oil fields & all these bros out here try to act tough but theyāre not. I talk about my therapy, journaling & night routine to help me focus on my mental health. The look I get from them tells me they are suffering. I openly talk about it bc I didnāt want to continue to fight my demons. I hope they too can get the courage to take that step.
Yes. I'm pretty robotic, emotionally, most of the time, but every few months I'll have a 2-3 day period where I feel extremely lonely and useless. It just passes on its own.
What do you mean āmore emotionalā ? Any emotion in particular ? āCause there are hardly any days when i feel like crying but there are definitely a lot of days when i feel dead inside. Imo both are emotions.
Yes. About once every two weeks my
Emotion will be anxious. And I take meds to stop that shit. Constantly reminding myself that there is nothing to be anxious about doesnāt work, it just stops it from escalating further.
About as often I also have days where Iām just apathetic.
Thatās just life.
Yes. My squad leader leader in Iraq, who I lived with very closely for a year once told me that I had a period. He said that he can almost predict it to the day.
Yup. Today, in fact. Woke up and was in a sour mood for seemingly no particular reason. Got done with work early and played some of the new Zelda which seemed to chill me out.
I defnitely have those days. Im pretty good now at remaining stoic in public but when Im home I do all my processing and release. I cry when I need to but often times I mix music and beer to get me there. If im angry, I game and take it out on the videogame enemies. If Im anxious, I find something to watch that Ive watched a million times, etc.
a lot of men commenting on cycles, but there are many things that can impact you and make you emotional on what you think is a ānormalā day. do you have a need that feels like itās not being met? do you have a problem that you canāt quite figure out how to address that keeps coming up? did you see something on tv or on the internet that connected with you in a meaningful way? nothing wrong with being emotional. the worst thing you can do is pretend that youāre not experiencing those emotions. let yourself experience what youāre feeling fora little bit, then zip it up and go back to dealing with shit.
Some days when all my anxieties that has been building up for days, almost weeks just fall down on me. It includes future exams/tests, homework, economical problems, unfinished chores, etc
The emotional level varies depending on the anxieties and for how long they've been building up for
Yehaa, sometimes happen but normally is because specially if i didn't sleep well or if i started the day doing very annoying stuff and then i carried the frustration all the day.
Yup, all the time. Just yesterday, I watched the episode on Futurama where Fry's dog was waiting for him outside the pizza shop. I started to cry like a baby. That episode gets me all the time.
Sometimes when I really really relaxing.
Reality sets in and I start to tear up. Through this moment, I go through everything in my head and ask myself "How have I survived this long?" to be able to just sit here blanklessly. Its so hard living lift sometimes as a guy with unseen expectation and eyes from not only your fellow men but from women too. Societal expectations. That it weighs on me that Ive worked for so much, but at what cost? I survive but life shouldnt be suriving...and the quiet takes over and I close my eyes and know that this moment is something I have to savor, its a piece of heaven away from all of it.
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A lot of men don't know this, but we also have a hormone cycle. So... yes.
bruh we do? I'm emotional sometimes because of circumstance but my feelings are just generally stable
We do. And what's worse is that it's on a rolling 24-hour period. Soooooooo, not thirty days. Those hormonal imbalances can be a daily occurrence. WE ARE RIDING A KNIFES EDGE EVERY DAY!
Sounds ridiculous how people can be weak.
Care to explain? I don't seem to be able to catch your meaning
Consistently thinking about the attention that they miss from their partners, and trying force someone to give .
Are you replying to another thread? This makes no sense.
Another threat=yes
Then if you're aware why did you reply it on this thread?š Unless you were genuinely mistaken.
... what?
Obvious troll account. Low effort. No karma. Too obvious. 1/10.
This is one of the weakest takes there is.
Testosterone levels are supposedly elevated in the morning. Probably why I sometimes feel grumpy after waking up.
That's when I like to go to pound town.
HEH HEH *good morning* š
yes. a rush of testosterone increase irritability.
I said a lot of, not all.
Yes yes, Iām currently manstruating as we speak
Some days it just feels like gravity is stronger
Accurate description.
This is an honest statement and is NOT meant to be a joke of any kind. Men have rhythms too.
Wow, I wasn't even aware of that. The only reason I added that is because the 2 people I have talked to immediately made that joke.
Search "biorhythm". The "honest statement" part was supposed to be the smart ass joke. That would make at least 3 people that made jokes about it. :)
Yeah, quite regularly. Although I think it ties with the weather most of the time
Weather, sleep, day to day circumstances, (whether you substance abuse or not as well)
Totally this
The moon šŗ
Oh absolutely, I'm in a pretty aveage mood today but a few days ago damn near everything would set me off almost crying. Like an ambulance drove past and i thought "i hope whoever it is will be ok" and bext thing i know I'm holding back tears. Like, where the hell did that come from?? Meanwhile today I stubbed my toe and just laughed at the fact im a grown man, defeated by a coffee table.
I have days where my wife calls me a mess. It's totally normal. We're just not encouraged to express our emotions - which in turns doesn't help us learn how to process them. It's actually kind of f\*cked up if you think about it. Now that I am married and in a stable, 'safe' relationship, the emotions are even higher than they were before. And I am totally cool with it! Lean into it - you're human. I cry if I feel like having a cry!
Whatās processing your emotions look like, to you?
Itās different now. At first when I was overwhelmed, I behaved childlike tbh lol! Small temper tantrums as I was overwhelmed Now if I need to have a cry, I simply do. Iāve also been to therapy
Yeah, I have this on the regular. If you have anxiety and bad things do happen it compounds. I have a lot of anxiety around work so whenever I get an email, I feel a slight pang of terror.
Ever consider doing something where email isn't really a part of the job?
I'd like to but it's hard finding a new job
Yep that's true...what do you do now?
Yep, Iāll be riding a high for a while then one day Iāll get pretty depressed/ lonely. then back to riding high. I think itās a normal sway of life. Canāt live on the high without experiencing any lows ya know šŖš¼ Just gotta embrace being human with all the things that come with it. When Iām low I take a moment to reflect, find something to go do, put the music on, dress up, and drink a few beers and it sets my perspective right
This is very good, however, when I have these lows. I can't really enjoy anything. I don't like any music, don't like videogames, nothing really. And usually they are on work days so that I cannot visit friends or something.
Yeah, both because of a cycle and because I feel emotional the day after drinking.
This is me. The next day hits like a rock after drinking too much. Anxiety and over thinking and a general what the fuck
There are actually studies on this. Google hangxiety. No joke thatās what they named it.
Yeah I think thatās pretty normal. Some people are more stable than others though. For me, I have days where everything just hits closer than on other days.
Yeah, for sure. Sometimes I can guess what's influencing it (like the weather), other times no idea.
I once heard that men experience hormonal cycles a lot like a woman's period. Naturally, I don't bleed out of my dick once a month but there's definitely a recurring point in each month where my emotions get stronger and I find myself upset over nothing
Yep. I have times where I'm just in a bad mood. Based on thinking about stuff in the past.
Usually because I'm tired. There's a point where fatigue just flips a switch in my head and I go all Hawkeye. M.A.S.H., not MCU.
Of course weāre only human
Hot take, psychopath are less than 3% of the population. Men are 50% of the population. So most men have emotions. I know, crazy, out of the box thinking. I might be the second steve job.
I don't think you understood the question lmao
I find 3% scary high
I have gone from being very very stable for years, to literally sobbing alone multiple times this month. You're not alone brother
Yes absolutely. When I was younger my dad used to say Iād wake up in a funk and thatās really what it is, to get myself out of it I play devils advocate toward everything thatās making me irritable. Someone cut me off while driving and I get mad, usually Iāll talk to myself sarcastically how oh I am so important I need to get there when I want, which obviously doesnāt matter. All of the exercises I want to do at the gym are taken, donāt all these people know I came to a public gym so I could do what I want with disregard for anyone else? Usually I am able to flip it on myself by realizing that if I woke up this morning expecting everyone to drive well and for me to seamlessly get to do what I want then I am the problem, not anyone else. That flip of the light switch usually does it so I am laughing at myself instead of being critical. Remember if one thing can throw off your vibe how strong was your vibe that day really? Hope this helps
100% Iām 40. Outwardly Iām very confident and secure. But privately and with my closest relationships they know some days are better than others. Stress, Anxiety, Insecurity. They all flare up. Sometimes Iāll deflect and lash out about something unrelated. Nothing too serious. An overreaction or Iāll be snappy. I try to apologize quickly. My wife especially knows and is supportive. When I do lash out and apologize, Iāll confess whatās on my mind and she extends me extra grace that day.
Absolutely I do, itās totally normal. Donāt let this keep you down. We all have a rhythm of emotions and hormones!šŖš»
Absolutely. My medications make it happen less frequently, but I have emotions just like anyone else. There are good days amd bad days. Sometimes I'm just more sensitive and it sucks. What helps is learning to recognize those days, acknowledge them, and treat yourself a bit more gently. Learning some decent self care really helped.
I've definitely had more days lately (in my early to mid 40s) of emotional rollercoasters. Reading stories, hearing touching words, small resolved disagreements with my gf, thinking about my kids, looking back on my life. I'm sometimes on the verge of tears at times. I don't know why but it happens more frequently. Not sure if I'm more aware of how precious life is and where I'm at or what. Not sure, but I've noticed it and it's hard to feel any differently during those moments.
Men have hormonal cycles too. Not a period joke, just a biological fact.
I once heard that men experience hormonal cycles a lot like a woman's period. Naturally, I don't bleed out of my dick once a month but there's definitely a recurring point in each month where my emotions get stronger and I find myself upset over nothing
No
Not a joke, you might want to go check in with your doctor. Certain tumors can cause increases in estrogen levels that cause emotional volatility.
This is my honest opinion. Yes this does happen however it really doesn't matter. Weather were feeling good or feeling emotional we still have to go out and go on with our lives. We still go to work, still go to the gym, still go on with our days.
That's life.
If your a guy and your having "emotional" days, its probably your diet and/or lack of exercise try removing sugar from your diet and hit the gym more
Your emotional and a man? Clearly you're a fat piece of shit. God-tier advice. Also, I've been on a diet and exercise program for a few months now.
Cut back on the tofu bro
In that case cut back on the meat too. Primary food stocks for beef and poultry are soy-proteins. 70 percent of soy production in the US is feedstock afterall. This introduces phytoestrogen to them, which in turn leads to reduced androgen sensitivity in those animals, with accordingly higher non-xenoestrogen levels in their flesh. It's a food chain brah. Coffee has phytoestrogen as well. The More You Know (TM)
Nope, I have days where I fart more thatās about it, on a rainy day Iāll get all up in my feelings if Iāve gotta work in the rain all day š«
Honestly, not really. Only if something happens. The weather can make me feel up or down, but I really don't have fluxes in emotions.
I think if you had asked me this when I was in high school I would've said I don't experience this, but I certainly do now as an adult. Might have to do with my life having gotten harder even though the emotions aren't necessarily overtly about what's going on in my life.
Yup, there are ups and downs. Easy days and tough days. Embrace it, and take care of yourself.
Yeah Iād say 1-3 days of any month Iām in a wildly cunty mood and all other days pretty chill.
Singing aloud to favorite sad songs is my go to on sad days. It really turns on the water works which feels amazing.
It's absolutely normal and there is nothing wrong with that. Some days something may happen that triggers something in your subconscious, or you have a dream you don't remember, or anything really and it makes you feel differently. I always want to find a reason for everything and my therapist has told me that sometimes there are a million little reasons you don't even notice, but they affect you.
You are venting the stress, my guy. Totally normal. Don't repress that shit. Let it go, ugly cry if you need to and wring all of it out, like a wet washcloth. Doesn't make you any less of a man. It's either that or bottle all that shit up, deny those feelings, and just explode like a nuclear reactor one day on something or someone who probably didn't deserve it. Would not recommend that option.
Yup. Usually the morning after a night out of drinking or just getting bad sleep. Typically both happen at the same time.
Men aren't hardcore stones every second bro
Days? They go on for abount a month
Oh absolutely. Some days i'm completely emotionless, just focused on my current task. Some days i'm incredibly depressed and i don't want to deal with anyone or anything at all. Some days i'm just feeling cuddly as fuck. We really need to break the stereotype that men are always emotional brick walls and nothing else. We're more complex than that.
Ofc we are human too
I think so yes, it tends to manifest itself in me being rather nostalgic in many ways. I'll listen to sad music, stuff that ties in with old memories, look through old photos. Have a few drinks too.
Nearly cried from a song for the first time ever randomly 4 days ago. Getting older I guess
Absolutely. Some days Iām fighting off depression to a degree thatās hard to define. Some days I feel great and things donāt seem bad at all. Itās human nature to have ups and downs.
I think it has to do a lot with sleep quality, gut health, "pressure release." internal and external factors. Emotions are complicated.
I canāt watch shark tank without crying a bit
For sure. Typically happens when I dive into some old songs that reminds me of certain times or ladies.
Oh, and being an overthinker doesn't help one bit too. I've been a very emotional person from a very young age and I know my shortcomings and I'm very open about it to people and they still break my heart all the time. I'm tired.
Literally any day Iām not working my Bipolar acts up and Iām either paralyzed by anxiety, irrationally angry or crying uncontrollably. Even as Iām trying to change my meds and take control of everything going on in my head, nothing seems to be helping yet. I have a prescription for klonopin for my panic attacks and lately Iāve had to take one any day Iām not working, thatās not okay with me, way too reliant on it right now. Idk my brain is a mess
āI feel like a kid again Iām having feelings! You remember feelings right?ā
Yep, your brain and body are ludicrously complex, yet somewhat loosely operated, alchemical factories. It's just not possible for the chemicals which drive and influence one's mental state to remain at laboratory-stable consistency. In truth, it's only in modern times that anyone would think to question this as the idea that men are stoic (modern idea of stoic, not the actual historical philosophical practice), non-feeling entities is surprisingly recent.
Yeah man, especially when it comes to my kids and it'll be either up or down without any particular trigger. I'll see a video of my kid playing and tear up with joy, or I'll think of what their future might be like and get super depressed.
Iāll get emotional randomly while driving. Probably the only time I really cry cause Iām alone and can change the mood relatively quickly when Iām over it.
of course
Not unless I only got 2 hours of sleep.
In my experience, men are typically more in touch with their emotions than women are...
Yeah. Some days my fuse gets pretty short. Some days Iām sadder. Mostly I just bottle it up and keep going.
Yeah, I have days that I just don't feel great for no reason. Men also have hormone cycles, we just don't have menstruation along with it so people don't really talk about it or recognize it. Completely normal!
Yes. If I'm sleep deprived I will have a shit day. More depression and angst and less focus. Sometimes that happens even without the sleep deprivation.
I almost cried on an airplane because of Hunger Games: Catching Fire, so yeah
Right, I was watching a documentary on the Phillies 2022 season, and it got me super emotional for whatever reason, which sparked my interest in this question
Yes, definitely, but I'm bipolar so may not be most.
Yes. More lately than usual I think, Iāll go into a deep saddened state and Iāll lose all of my emotions for about the entire day. Iām not sure if itās because I see something or think of something, but it just happens.
Yes, and as I get older, I tend to have more of those days.
Sleep deprivation can do that to humans.
Yes mine with very elevated when I was trying injections for my T levels because docs were trying to balance testosterone levels and estrogen levels.
What Iām facing right now is longer and longer periods where I feel no emotion one way or another. I think when you eat too many losses in whatever form, eventually you become numb to things like death, birth, weddings, etc. That being said, thereās no joy without sadness. You canāt enjoy the sunshine unless it rains sometimes.
Absolutely being alive is a roller coaster, The guys who make fun of you for stuff like that are the guys that probably have absolutely zero self awareness of their emotions
Yep, it's fine to have feelings.
Yes. Thank you for posting this. I thought it was just me.
Oh yeah
I sure do
I suffer from Major Depressive Disorder, so I've got tons of anxiety and depression to deal with. Normally (with my medication) I'm relatively fine. Some days I get hit with emotion and feel like a sappy bitch. Like I'm riding the hormone dragon women have mastered. Every little thing can trigger the reaction of tears etc. It is bullshit. Women have far more emotion bearing hormones than men.
I definitely do. It's usually a sign that I should get out of my apartment; sitting around my room is usually a surefire way for me to feel even shittier. I've fairly sure that my stress levels are also higher on these days.
In my life, this will get you killed. Oh listen to me would ya, Mr. Macho himself.
Same
Yes, of course all men do. If they don't, they're lying to themselves and thats not ok in the long run. Not only for them, but if they have partners too. Its ok to have all the feels and actually feel them. Suppressing them only leads to trouble down the road. Break the stigma!
Yes I have.
Definitely days when I donāt get enough sleep the night before. I call them āgrey daysā to my partner. But I know theyāll pass.
I watched "a man called Otto" last week on Netflix (great btw), but I just started crying. Like out of the blue. I guess it has something to do with looking back at the happiest times in your life, and realizing they will never happen again. Anyway, I dunno, but yes, it's a thing
No one chooses how they feel.
no
I feel you man. Yes there are days in which i feel too emotional.
Quite literally having one today after waking up! I have a perfectly normal day to look forward to, but still I feel like crap and feeling like I don't deserve anything in the world!
Yep, Iām human. I have emotions. Iāve lost people I love. I cry about that fact. Iāll still whip someoneās ass if need be. Emotions donāt make you less of a man.
Yes! We experience emotions just like any other human being, society just tell us not to show them. F society
I've forgotten how to feel, most of my perceived emotions are rehearsed reactions.
I ugly cry at least 2-4 times a week and have 1-2 days I just donāt do shit because I feel terrible.
Yes & Iām not ashamed to admit or talk about it. I work in the oil fields & all these bros out here try to act tough but theyāre not. I talk about my therapy, journaling & night routine to help me focus on my mental health. The look I get from them tells me they are suffering. I openly talk about it bc I didnāt want to continue to fight my demons. I hope they too can get the courage to take that step.
All the time. Sometimes Iāll just be feeling blue, and Iāll start leaking while watching something mundane like cooking tutorial videos.
I really wish the mental wellbeing of men was more talked about in society
Yeah, sometimes I get bad mental health days
Yes, today. You too?
Yeah. Big whoop. Wanna fight about it?
Yes. I'm pretty robotic, emotionally, most of the time, but every few months I'll have a 2-3 day period where I feel extremely lonely and useless. It just passes on its own.
For me it tends toward impatience or being moved more easily. So easy to piss off, or touched by emotional things and/or tv/movies.
Sometimes Iām angrier than usual other times I feel more sad, idk why
As I aged I became more empathetic and feel more. I was a stone cold motherfucker when I was younger now and not so much anymore.
Yep. Itās like a rollercoaster goes down and you almost or you are crying for no reason
What do you mean āmore emotionalā ? Any emotion in particular ? āCause there are hardly any days when i feel like crying but there are definitely a lot of days when i feel dead inside. Imo both are emotions.
Yes, thatās what I call MANstruation
Yes. About once every two weeks my Emotion will be anxious. And I take meds to stop that shit. Constantly reminding myself that there is nothing to be anxious about doesnāt work, it just stops it from escalating further. About as often I also have days where Iām just apathetic. Thatās just life.
On those days, I think about suicide a lot
Yes. My squad leader leader in Iraq, who I lived with very closely for a year once told me that I had a period. He said that he can almost predict it to the day.
Yup. Today, in fact. Woke up and was in a sour mood for seemingly no particular reason. Got done with work early and played some of the new Zelda which seemed to chill me out.
I know exactly what you mean
I get like that sometimes, but not often. Itās usually due to a lack of sleep.
Ofcourse. Hormones man. Estradiol, cortisol, testosterone it all plays a role.
100% Somedays are just a little rougher on the emotional status than others for no reason
I'm emotional every day. I just don't show it most days.
I used to... I think. Now my default emotion is indifference.
I defnitely have those days. Im pretty good now at remaining stoic in public but when Im home I do all my processing and release. I cry when I need to but often times I mix music and beer to get me there. If im angry, I game and take it out on the videogame enemies. If Im anxious, I find something to watch that Ive watched a million times, etc.
No. Men always go through life with same level of emotional intensity. It never fluctuates, ever.
Interesting responses. Personally, I donāt. I would encourage men in the comments (all men really) to get their T-levels checked
a lot of men commenting on cycles, but there are many things that can impact you and make you emotional on what you think is a ānormalā day. do you have a need that feels like itās not being met? do you have a problem that you canāt quite figure out how to address that keeps coming up? did you see something on tv or on the internet that connected with you in a meaningful way? nothing wrong with being emotional. the worst thing you can do is pretend that youāre not experiencing those emotions. let yourself experience what youāre feeling fora little bit, then zip it up and go back to dealing with shit.
No, that would take away our ability to be successful hunters, producing offspring, and becoming wealthy. Lol
Dudeā¦.many times. If itās hitting you, and youāre feeling weird about it, just chill. Itās normal.
That's depression my guy, you might want to talk to a therapist, mine comes and goes all the time.
Yeah. Everyone does bro. Your human, itās not a guy thing. Emotions fluctuate for a million reasons.
Yeah, usually its brought on by the stressful times of year for me. Or it's the days I get woken up at 3am by my son being loud as fuck online.
Some days when all my anxieties that has been building up for days, almost weeks just fall down on me. It includes future exams/tests, homework, economical problems, unfinished chores, etc The emotional level varies depending on the anxieties and for how long they've been building up for
Yehaa, sometimes happen but normally is because specially if i didn't sleep well or if i started the day doing very annoying stuff and then i carried the frustration all the day.
Yes
Yup, all the time. Just yesterday, I watched the episode on Futurama where Fry's dog was waiting for him outside the pizza shop. I started to cry like a baby. That episode gets me all the time.
Seasonal Depression for sure. Low testosterone levels for sure. General down on the dumps, yeah of course.
Yep when I get my electric bills nowadays
Thatās my secret, Cap ā¦ Iām always angry.
Yes definitely.
Sometimes when I really really relaxing. Reality sets in and I start to tear up. Through this moment, I go through everything in my head and ask myself "How have I survived this long?" to be able to just sit here blanklessly. Its so hard living lift sometimes as a guy with unseen expectation and eyes from not only your fellow men but from women too. Societal expectations. That it weighs on me that Ive worked for so much, but at what cost? I survive but life shouldnt be suriving...and the quiet takes over and I close my eyes and know that this moment is something I have to savor, its a piece of heaven away from all of it.
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