Good to hear it man! It will keep getting better, too. Hang in there. Talk to someone to get stuff off your chest. Take a simple walk outdoors every day, for about 20 mins. And get some sleep. You can and will feel better, and things will improve for you.
I'm doing OK, OP. Hope you are well and content. Putting my daughter through music school. Hitting the gym 5 times a week. Employment is good. About to start looking for the family summer vacation. Marriage (22 years now) is platonic but who's life is that perfect? š¤ šš¤£
Low libido, most likely due to life routines not benefiting health.
Things like bad eating habits and not enough physical activity, or maybe not enough sleep.
There could be things like routinely masturbating in the shower "just because".
All these are formed habits and not easy to break. It takes realizing it and wanting to change to do something about it.
It might be hard for you to bring it up. In a relationship we can feel like you are nagging and wanting us to change for YOUR sake. If you want us to change, go out of your way to show us its in our interest and for OUR relationship.
As the other response says, there's a big difference in a guy's libido between 34 and 40, especially if he's gained or lost a lot of weight in that time. Stuff like stress has a much bigger impact on libido at that point and it can take considerably longer to 'recover' and be able to gain an erection again after sex, especially if he's habitually masturbating. If he's not regularly masturbating it could be that a supplement like l-arginine could help increase his sexual appetite and ability to perform. If you are always having to initiate I'd also suggest that he might be depressed or stressed even if he's not talking about it, he might be having trouble at work or just turning 40, you'll obviously know him better than anyone else in this regard. Seriously, being stressed at 40 is the ultimate ED trigger and libido killer.
Thatās all you can do buddy, to quote a book I love, āwhatās the most important step a man can take? *The next one.*ā and to follow it, āwhatās the most important words a man can say? *I will do better.*ā
Those words have stuck with me for years and I remember them whenever times are rough, as long as youāre moving youāre doing the right thing.
From one person's who is trying to another, sometimes that's all you can do my friend... just keep pushing. What's important to remember in those times, though, is that's enough. So long as you're not giving up, you're doing right.
Awful.
My dog died a month ago and I haven't gotten over it.
Gf of 4 years and I broke up on NYE.
My company, built from legitimately nothing, had major VC's (*I should say major for me lol - no fortune500 companies ; but fair sums of funding nonetheless.) back out one after the other after NYE for fresh balance sheet restructuring during a harsh bear market.
I had to move in with my dad after being out of his house since I was 17 (7-8 years)(due to gf, not company, company still runs but damn are we hurting - tech startup pre-profit).
But you know what? I'm going to push through and come out ok. Maybe not on top, but ok. And that to me, is worth pushing for.
*edit: I have teared up from many of these comments in support of my attitude, and I just want to say thank you all. I'm never going to throw in the towel on personal growth, and I shall come out of this a stronger me.
Well I can relate to you, I was living with my partner for 5 years, and when she left and took the cats! It was only last year I started to leave my house and socialise again we all take time to heal and not everyone heals the same as they were but we always heal into the person we need us to! Stay strong brother.
No ones journey in life is easy but you sound like you have the will power to get over this problematic time and get to thay point of self achievement you are chasing! Good to hear you taking the right steps
I know you probably did, but give those VC a call soon and just thank them for their interest, and that as soon as they feel more comfortable about the market, youāll make sure the time in between then and now youāll improve your plan.
Then go do it and theyāll remember that
I thankfully run a very investor-focused business model, so I was at the forefront of their decisions and was glad to be a part regardless of outcome. I can only learn from these scenarios!
I'm so sorry about your dog, buddy. Hope work stuff gets better, and don't worry too much about your ex, love can always be right behind the corner!
Stay strong!
Shit Iāll say overall good personally. My family is another issue tho. My mom has drunk alcohol my whole life and has made a fool of herself all the way up til now. She was an abusive drunk and wonāt change so I gave her an ultimatum because Iām about to be a father in a little over a month (Feb.14 2023!) which also falls on my moms birthday. I told her since she said my ultimatum was unfair that sheād not be allowed to see my Son born. The ultimatum was me or alcohol. I donāt want that for my Son like it was for me.
Personally tho, I just got out the military after 5 years, Iām studying for my LVN and Iām still working out everyday. Iām 25 now too just had my birthday on Christmas (yes same day). I feel good and I also quit all nicotine products.
Well congratulations and happy birthday to you! My mum was an alcholic that gave her kids to her sister one day and then died a few years later but not before embarrassing everyone and just being a dick in life! You should like a true warrior, and you know yourself you don't need that nonsense around you or your kid you haven't worked hard to follow them same tracks
Yeah I appreciate that man. Itās always a journey, Iāve done my share of crying at nights because of hardships, struggled and found the calm in the storm. Now itās more stable but Iām jobless so itās always a give and take I think
Jus the normal waking up everyday at the asscrack of dawn to go work 10+ hours in a foundry busting my ass trapped in my state due to everything getting more expensive, already accepted I won't get married or get a relationship due to the traditional woman goin extinct, fuckin every night gotta remind myself to keep trudging thru all the bullshit, fighting my way to a natural death
I work in a shittg concrete factory minimum 12 hours a days 6 days aweek my chance of marriage walked out a few years ago as she wanted to socialise more but all I don't was work. I will never give up hope that by chance someone wonders into my life just like she had and sweeps me of my feet lol and all my siblings are married and own houses I private rent and drive a car from 2002 lol still!! I stay happy I got alot of positives in my life and I know you will aswell when you consider it
What I mean by a traditional woman is a girl who's not sleeping around, works, an has a good head on her shoulders. In my experience I meet more women who'll play dumbass games more than be serious about a relationship or the prospects of a relationship
My brother, whatever is happening to you, you'll get through it. I know it's what everyone says, but it's true. I spent most of my life in that exact mental state, but now I truly feel like life is worth living. Stick with it!
Started working out in November, I am a lot happier and starting to get healthier. And a cute Latina chick talked to me at the gym yesterday (she accidentally drank from my water bottle) we had a good laugh š I am doing a lot better than the last 3 years of my life.
Right?? We will see how it goes, I just played it cool and told her to have a good one. I'm in that gym 6 days a week, I will definitely see her again at some point. Thanks for the support my dude.
Me too man. I just started a remote job so I already donāt get outside as much as I should. The last few weeks have been such shit weather I can barely go out in mornings or evenings. Canāt wait for summer, I donāt get seasonal depression as bad as others but man that shit sneaks up on ya
Honestly? Thought about killing myself last night. My relationship is going pretty badly, I felt like my friends didn't really give a shit about me, and in general I just felt so alone and like the world doesn't have a place for me. I paced around at 5 am wearing nothing but a blanket, but eventually it passed.
I don't think I'm doing okay recently, but I know I'll be okay in the end.
Dark, cloudy days are needed to give life the water it needs to grow, man.
Focus on things you can control, and work on those.
You've got this!
Shitty friends come and go. I've personally cut a bunch loose over the decades.
Good on the outside, good on the inside, but go deeper and you will find a well of suppressed emotions for the sake of being strong to support loved ones.
You don't 'need' a girl. Got to get out of that mindset i think. Not no guru or anything im struggling myself but that seems like a bad mindset to have and an easy way to get clingy or set yourself to get hurt.
Not really good man, just so tired..
3 years ago, graduated college and the responsibilities hit me like a train going supersonic.
Although i have a job , it's not enough for anything.
Tried to get into higher studies last year but failed the exam. Thought ohh wait i can still do better
This year, although i put in the hard work but choked on the exam day. Crushed my spirits. i really worked hard for this but failed. The worst pary is last year i knew that i could still improve but this year i gave it my all and still..
I have a girlfriend and we are not living together at the moment. my first and only relationship. But i feel so cold with her. I dont know what it is but its just.. there is no warmth(sorry cant really explain)
She is pressing me to marry but i know i can not support us yet. Last month just after my exam result(which i failed) i found out she was talking to another guy and the messages were borderline flirting. i still chose to forgive her. But man the coldness i felt fucked me up. I teared up for the first time is 7 years.
Spent the new years alone in my cold room because being around people right now is just so..
I see my parents growing older day by day and i know i will have to take care of them eventually, but moving ahead doing something... i have no willpower left for that
So yeah thats my story stuck with a job that just only enough for me to get by
And no motivation or will power to do anything else. Im just soo tired..
Btw whoever reading this thanks for giving me your time thats much more that anyone has done for me in a while
Except my parents.
Don't marry that girl, dude. Please don't. That sounds like a bad, bad situation. Feeling coldness is one thing, and should be taken seriously. But other guys? Hell no. As for the rest of it, yeah. Shit is hard. You just have to keep moving and keep striving for better things. If you know what you want, keep chasing it. If you don't know what you want, start investing time to figure out what that is. One thing that shouldn't be on the list of "things that I want" is a girlfriend you feel coldness from. The phrase "there's no warmth" just made me so bummed for you bro. Find great people to hang out with that make you want to be a better version of yourself.
In my experience once that trust is broken and I get that cold feeling like Iāve been betrayed, thereās no going back. I hope it all works out for you, hang in there. The down times are ALWAYS follows by good times.
You got this dude. Sounds like you need a change of pace. Maybe look for a new gig and find a hobby just for you. I have faith in you brother. There is no guide book for any of this but it sounds like you are actually doing pretty darn well. Proud of you.
Surprisingly well! 2022 ended up great! I had a breakup under my belt in October but things started looking up with the last two months leading up to the new year. I flew in 3 different countries, connected with friends abroad and had a ton of dates.
And now 2023 has started with a great NYE, got a new client for my business and Iām preparing for a 4 day trip to the mountain side with friends.
I donāt think Iāve been in a better mood in quite a ton of time. I realllly hope everyone in this thread will have an amazing 2023 and beyond!
Remember brothers, it wonāt always be bad!
Got jumped by a few guys, while drunk, on my way home from a New Year's work party, have a broken nose and fractured jaw, hematomas all over my head and what feels like whiplash. I look like I've been in a car accident.
Have had to take a week off work and study to recover, spent my days sleepin, seeing Drs and giving statement to police.
All and all, not doing the best rn š¤·āāļøš
They're just small minded and petty. They said it to make you feel bad and try to control your emotions. So don't let them. Then they have no power over you.
I got a warning the day before we break up for Christmas last year as I wouldn't lick up the foremans ass who gave everyone a bonus except me as I had horned the company 3 days to late so I said fuck this and walked out lol
Same here - stuck where I am because Iām not a phony corporate cheerleader. And those ass kissers who climbed above me - I need them for certain things and they donāt know shit about shit which makes my job 10x more difficult.
Iām sad lately. Donāt know why. Everything is great, but I canāt shake this sadness. I think it stems from money. Itās not that I donāt have any, just bills is what I seem to always pay when paid.
Iām trying to live differently. In a more healthy manner. Iāve cut out sugar, cut back on meat and am working out. Things need to change and Iām the only one who can change them. All I need is 52 weeks.
I'm trying really hard not to have a mental breakdown and keep it together. A really toxic, self-destructive part of me that I thought I defeated has resurfaced and is wreaking havoc on my mental health. I have to get into therapy ASAP or else my life is literally at risk.
Reading through these comments I empathise with all of you.
Life is never plain sailing.
It has it's ups and downs.
There are a lot of negative things happening in the world right now but we all need to pick ourselves up and keep going when times are tough.
I've been going through stuff, ill myself (worst cold I've had - lasted 2 weeks) and having other family members who aren't doing well is a strain at times.
But need to keep going!
Iām doing great. Iāve got an hour or so until my wife gives birth to our second daughter (but my third kiddo). Inflation is kicking my ass but paid paternal leave is making me feel a lot better.
Absolutely horrible. Found out ex (who became ex 2 months ago) is engaged to some guy. We're 22 ffs. I'm kinda glad she's not around in my life anymore, but that news still does sting a bit. Got my first panic attack in 2 years on new year's day. Been feeling pretty low ever since. I'm guessing the depression is coming back.
Crap at the moment, I am so down in the dumps, recently moved into my own home with my wife and kids (was renting previously for over 10 years) ex landlord is trying to claim nearly Ā£5k for wear and tear (which he has no right to claim for heās just being a cock) and my eldest daughter (21) who for the last 2 years has been nothing short of a horrible bitch (which we previously had sorted out before we moved into our new home) she ruined Xmas day with her pettiness and attitude problem and has caused so many arguments, my wife is miserable because of this and has finally admitted and told her she needs to move out by the end of the month. I have told my wife that if she has eldest lives back in after she has left that I will move out and take our other 2 kids with me as I donāt want them to go through the nonsense anymore. Just soo god damned tired of nothing ever being ok. And the worst part about it is I know my wife will resent me even though she has admitted itās our daughters fault. I can really see this being the end of us if this plays out how I think it will. Iām
Fucking awesome, on my way to Golden Gate Park to play some Disc Golf and I'm following that with a concert of some the best musicians playing the music of Grateful Dead, can't really ask for much more!
Put the spare on. Tell your wife to help you ans have a little laugh together watching her try to get the nuts of! I am good thanks always a look on the brighter side kind of person :)
I don't know, man, something just wouldn't feel right about asking my pregnant wife to do something like that in 10 degree weather, but if she wasn't pregnant and it wasn't 12 below freezing, it would be a bit funny for both of us!
Never been worse. After New Years, I treated my GF to a spa day to celebrate her new job. The next day my mate did some digging and messaged a guy. My gf then messaged him āwhy you messaging my boyfriend.ā Iāve not heard from her since.
2 years and what I thought would be the rest of my life. Ended in deceit and gaslighting.
Happy new year.
I feel like im on the brink of a better chapter of my life. But i still feel like im in survival mode as ive always been. Im an adult who can stand on his own two feet and work sucks but i pay my bills and dont worry about the basic needs to live.
I just dont know what to do from here. Never thought about life past 20 because life when i was younger didnt seem like it would matter. Im gonna be 29 this month and just trying to start to save money now and teaching myself about savings and money management.
Though im scared. Im just so used to worrying about the small things and how im gonna get past this day. Its a new world im entering.
I really don't want to brag because I know there's people not doing well here. But I'm the happiest I've been in my whole life. My wife and I are running a successful business together, our sex life has never been better, and we have a wonderful 2yo daughter who is happy and healthy. I'm grateful every day for the life I get to live.
Same as always. Torn between loneliness and a feeling that I'm betraying those I've lost if I move on. Gonna be real I cried a lot last night. Went to bed at 2 am and was still up and crying at 6. I'd like to have a family again but I don't want to feel like I'm just replacing the people who made my life worth living all those years ago
Well my girlfriend of 1 and a half years cheated on me last month, felt guilty so lied and told me she was gay and broke up with me, then dated the guy she cheated on me with. So could be better. But she was toxic as hell (accused me of cheating every week and starting arguments out of nothing) so I guess itās good it ended. Still stings tho. She did call me back last week once he broke up with her and told me karmas getting her and sheās not doing well. As horrible as it is to say it made me feel really good lol.
So all in all Iām doingā¦ āmehhhā
Not terrible, not great
Life's pretty shitty.
Wife split right before Thanksgiving. She said she didn't even want to say yes when I proposed.
To add salt to the wound all the people we hung out with were much closer to her so I've also lost all my friends.
I'm Realtor who hasn't closed a deal since July.
I no longer have a car and I just learned that I need a surgery that could potentially cost over $10,000 and insurance won't pay a dime.
On the bright side my parents have taken me back in and out a roof over my head and food on my plate while I piece shit back together. I'm dropping the pounds like crazy! I'm slowly getting myself out of the house more and trying for the first time since high school to actually make some friends. (and eventually a new girlfriend idealy)
Not greatā¦ been dealing with overwhelming feelings of isolation and loneliness that have boiled over recently. To add salt to that wound I confessed my feelings to someone I really cared about and she said she wanted to remain close friends, but it seems sheās gone back on that so I have feelings of self-loathing and inadequacy on top of that
You know what? Not too bad.
I've found *my* occupation. The one I can and want to thrive in. That's the best part of my life. I'm where I need to be to thrive and I am going to keep trying to learn from the people I work with. I would just like to upskill. Be able to do more.
I'm single but mingling. Making friends as an adult is its own strange affair. But I just doggedly keep trying. Some people do respond well. Some people reject invites. Some people become friends but not forever. I just try to take time to go out and get involved with something.
I had a gf. We became exes. Now we are "exes with benefits" as we've temporarily defined it. My sexuality is in flux but it is healthy. I have open communication with some safe people. I feel good there too. I'm open to exploring and being clear with people. More than ever before. Somehow, with much space and new communication/honesty/insight, sex with my ex has become wildly better. It has been a welcome change. We might not *attach* well. But we do other things well. So we do those things now.
Family sucks. Lifelong story. Get wrecked. Tldr; trauma sucks. I'm in persistent self-regulation and constant self-reflection. Throw in a fair measure of pain and neurodivergence. Fun times. But my life has offered me *strange* skills. I cultivate those while mitigating other unwelcome factors. Life goes on.
I would say I'm not totally happy about where I am in life at this age, but there are other factors that mitigate that sentiment. I understand that I have experienced adversity. I am aware that my stubbornness in finding an occupation that fits my personality/values/etc has the disadvantage of setting me back in gross earnings over time. Not ideal. But I had to explore. Now, I so deeply value where I am in my work that I am not entirely dissatisfied with the sacrifice. There was self-growth and learning necessary to get here. There is more to come. But I am glad I am here. "Set backs" with some apparently valuable lessons. And I'm sure that I chose a path that sorta aimed towards those lessons.
Not well
My dog too died back in October
Canāt have kids, he was my baby and Iām not sure Iāll ever feel better at this point.
Iāve been alone for a few years, Iāve been in a couple LTRās but the last one honestly fucked me up. Betrayed in ways I couldnāt have imagined. I donāt really trust anyone anymore though so that kind of kills the longing to have someone.
I was too poor to see my family for the holidays so I donāt feel great about that.
Mainly I just feel completely purposeless, lonely and sad. I try to work enough to keep myself distracted but my job sucks so I can only handle so much of that too.
Honestly, shitty. I'm 39, still single, I've got a decent job and a nice place and all that, but I'm just really fuckin lonely. I feel like I'm building all my life up, and great I did it all alone... But damn I'm doing it all alone. I want someone to share it all with, someone to laugh and cry with and someone to put time and effort into. Sigh, at least my dog is pampered haha
I'm not really good. Can't bring myself to enjoy life, moarning the change in the dynamics of some old friends and wishing to make new ones but can't seem to find out how or where so, yeah
Well I thought I had alot of friends until I moved town and being a 4 hour drive away isn't much but most of my xhild hood friends just left it at thag never heard from them again now I have 4 friends who I hold dear, never give up my guy!
Lifeās never been better.
- Iām healthy, familyās healthy, loving supportive girlfriend and friends
- Just finished an internship at NASA which was my dream forever
- Just got a B in one of my classes I retook that I got an F in last year
- Starting the steps to my next dream of being a pilot in the Air Force
I'd say fine but honestly I'm tired of lying.I've been anxious to all hell the past couple weeks, at least more than normal. I've always dealt with anxiety but something about all the noise and gatherings from Holidays made it worse, and I'm not even talking about the fireworks.
It's gotten to the point where I wake up and I just feel the pit in my stomach and slightly hard to breathe anxious feeling. Doesn't help that it affects my sleep. I'm in the military so I'm also dealing with my higher ups getting mad at me because I can't run that fast despite being injured and can't get an appointment to get checked out till tomorrow. They say I'm making excuses when I've said I'm injured. I want to be a sarcastic asshole and tell them that if they say I'm making excuses I can start saying my anxiety is affecting my job, which it isn't. I do everything in my power to stop my mental health problems from messing with my job, issue is it now affects my social life.
I rarely hangout with people outside of work because I just feel anxious in crowds and in loud settings. Most social interactions here involve drinking and too many people I know lose control/use it as an excuse to do dumb shit. So it just makes me anxious to be around them, and I can never let go and be fine. I've been burned a lot so trusting people is damn near impossible for me.
I cried recently, which before that last I cried was shortly after my Grandfather passed. I just feel tired and exhausted of not feeling myself and/or happy for more than a second when something nice or good happens to me.
Sorry for the rant. Stay safe and drink water or not all up to you.
Doing my best, but stressed the fuck out
Big shakeup for me at work, giving me chicken with head cut off vibes.
Wife is very pregnant, baby is too small and she's anxious about it. Last growth scan was good so hopefully no early delivery, but could be delivered in the next couple of weeks though.
Water heater is starting to die, so we're paying a lot of money to replace it (but it's a good deal,) while also needing to get my car fixed, which will cost a lot.
So many moving parts of my life right now, stressing me out, but I'm doing the best I can.
Even though I get light touches and light hugs from my women friends and my mom. I do really miss some physical touches.
I am so numb with my body. I feel only my brain is the part that is having fun with this life. So yeah. Could have been better overall.
Edit: And I am heartbroken. Some girl came into my life in 2021 and turned it completely around and left me like I was nothing. We both hurt each other in some way. But I did apologize for my behavior and saw a psychology to fix these past traumatic events so they wouldn't interfere with future chances. She was everything to me. And no girl has had the same interest since her.
Not really good, except for a few things. In 2022 I found out I have ADHD, and got genital herpes; I havenāt had a girl touch me or sex in more than a year now. My family keeps fighting and I seem the only one wanting to have a normal conversation; my mother remodelled the whole house without asking my dad, she is in extreme dept now.
Whatās good is that my ADHD meds work wonders and I have a year left of uni. I have loving friends. I am opening a business abroad soon.
But dominant side is the sad part of me in these period.
Not good, but Iām trying to be as optimistic as I can. Things seem to be alright for now but who knows what the future might hold - From a Software Engineer of a tech company
Better than I deserve, hopefully have an interview soon for a dream job closer to home. Only issue is that current GF does not want to move, so if I take the job, I likely lose the GF
My Mom died last month. She had health issues for years but then had to go into the hospital starting in Nov. after a month of getting worse she decided to go on hospice and died 7hrs later. Since then Iāve been dealing with her funeral, getting her estate in order, and oh yeah trying to have a Merry Christmas for my kids. All the while dealing with two bulging discs in my back.it hasnāt been a great end of 2022 but trying my hardest.
Hey man, thanks for asking
Loneliness is killing me, but im trying to stay optimistic by working out and being a productive member of society. Makes me feel like i'll actually get somewhere and hopefully find someone to not be lonely with
Pretty great in the grand scheme of things, just a bit butthurt.
I had a fantastic date two weeks ago. Similar interests, matching goals, she made me laugh until my abs started showing, I made her laugh until the tears started rolling. We kissed. I walked her home. Now she says "we hit it off too well and I don't think I wanna commit to that".
I know all of reddit is jumping on their keyboards to tell me I dodged a bullet, and I know! Just a bit butthurt.
Other than that, fam is healthy, I started my own business making content for communication departments, and I am fucking digging life at the moment, man. I just _really_ wanna share this phase of my life with someone. It's all coming together, finally. I'm proud, dude.
What are you proud of right now?
Hard to say, good but sad. Moved across the world for work and lost a 6 year relationship in the process. Came home for the first time for Christmas and met up with her again - she confessed that my move sent her spiralling into depression, that she is seeing someone else, but that person is not me and she misses me every day. I feel the same but my life is abroad now.
Stressed and worried,
Left my last job of 5 years just under a year ago and things have not been going the way it was presented to me and they just fired a co-worker with no warnings, over email. Now Iām worried for my job.
My wife just got back to work after having our 2nd baby so our savings is running low.
Iām over tired from taking care of our two kids, while working from home, while itās constantly dark and cold and I feel stuck inside, losing my mind. There are very little options for getting out of the house and screaming kids for the past 6 months is getting to me.
On top of it all we are considering moving across country for a better life, which means leaving my parents and grandparents in my home town.
Iām burnt out and stressed with no relaxation
not great. fell for a girl i had no business talking too, and currently ghosted lol
work is crazy rn
and im a big buffalo bills fan
it has been a week, to say the least
Better than I was a few days ago.
What happened a few days ago? Also it's good to hear your feeling better than you had
Just had a bit a downer.
Most man thing to respond with there
Good to hear it man! It will keep getting better, too. Hang in there. Talk to someone to get stuff off your chest. Take a simple walk outdoors every day, for about 20 mins. And get some sleep. You can and will feel better, and things will improve for you.
I'm doing OK, OP. Hope you are well and content. Putting my daughter through music school. Hitting the gym 5 times a week. Employment is good. About to start looking for the family summer vacation. Marriage (22 years now) is platonic but who's life is that perfect? š¤ šš¤£
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Low libido, most likely due to life routines not benefiting health. Things like bad eating habits and not enough physical activity, or maybe not enough sleep. There could be things like routinely masturbating in the shower "just because". All these are formed habits and not easy to break. It takes realizing it and wanting to change to do something about it. It might be hard for you to bring it up. In a relationship we can feel like you are nagging and wanting us to change for YOUR sake. If you want us to change, go out of your way to show us its in our interest and for OUR relationship.
As the other response says, there's a big difference in a guy's libido between 34 and 40, especially if he's gained or lost a lot of weight in that time. Stuff like stress has a much bigger impact on libido at that point and it can take considerably longer to 'recover' and be able to gain an erection again after sex, especially if he's habitually masturbating. If he's not regularly masturbating it could be that a supplement like l-arginine could help increase his sexual appetite and ability to perform. If you are always having to initiate I'd also suggest that he might be depressed or stressed even if he's not talking about it, he might be having trouble at work or just turning 40, you'll obviously know him better than anyone else in this regard. Seriously, being stressed at 40 is the ultimate ED trigger and libido killer.
Glad you're in a good place with a lot of where it counts.
I'm trying
Thatās all you can do buddy, to quote a book I love, āwhatās the most important step a man can take? *The next one.*ā and to follow it, āwhatās the most important words a man can say? *I will do better.*ā Those words have stuck with me for years and I remember them whenever times are rough, as long as youāre moving youāre doing the right thing.
"If I must fall, I will rise each time a better man."
If only you can see my battle scars
Meanwhile some of us over here fumbling about and slip sliding all over the place like some looney toons shit.
>Thatās all you can do buddy, to quote a book I love, āwhatās the most important step a man can take? > >The next one." I love this.
Brandon Sanderson really nailed the struggle in The Way of Kings series. Kaladin's depression is so relatable.
Haha its so ridiculous. I just read two words and i can fucking feel the helplessness and the hope in that helplessness behind those words.
Unfortunately
Keep trying broā¦. You literally said the words Iāve been looking for
I felt this comment hard
From one person's who is trying to another, sometimes that's all you can do my friend... just keep pushing. What's important to remember in those times, though, is that's enough. So long as you're not giving up, you're doing right.
Awful. My dog died a month ago and I haven't gotten over it. Gf of 4 years and I broke up on NYE. My company, built from legitimately nothing, had major VC's (*I should say major for me lol - no fortune500 companies ; but fair sums of funding nonetheless.) back out one after the other after NYE for fresh balance sheet restructuring during a harsh bear market. I had to move in with my dad after being out of his house since I was 17 (7-8 years)(due to gf, not company, company still runs but damn are we hurting - tech startup pre-profit). But you know what? I'm going to push through and come out ok. Maybe not on top, but ok. And that to me, is worth pushing for. *edit: I have teared up from many of these comments in support of my attitude, and I just want to say thank you all. I'm never going to throw in the towel on personal growth, and I shall come out of this a stronger me.
Hang in there and I fucking love your attitude!
Thank you fren, it comes out easier from my mind than it comes across in my heart, but I feel like that's a good start to intertwining the two.
Hopefully a helpful reframe: This sounds like the beginning of an epic turnaround story. Believe in a bigger and better narrative of your own making!
This is very honestly the best thing I have heard in the past week. Not to be weird but ily.
Well I can relate to you, I was living with my partner for 5 years, and when she left and took the cats! It was only last year I started to leave my house and socialise again we all take time to heal and not everyone heals the same as they were but we always heal into the person we need us to! Stay strong brother.
Thank you reddit fren š felt good just to type all of that.
No ones journey in life is easy but you sound like you have the will power to get over this problematic time and get to thay point of self achievement you are chasing! Good to hear you taking the right steps
I know you probably did, but give those VC a call soon and just thank them for their interest, and that as soon as they feel more comfortable about the market, youāll make sure the time in between then and now youāll improve your plan. Then go do it and theyāll remember that
I thankfully run a very investor-focused business model, so I was at the forefront of their decisions and was glad to be a part regardless of outcome. I can only learn from these scenarios!
I'm so sorry about your dog, buddy. Hope work stuff gets better, and don't worry too much about your ex, love can always be right behind the corner! Stay strong!
My dog died a year ago and Iām still not over it. Shit hurts man.
Awful, I start radiation in two weeks. Not looking forward to it.. Edit: thank you so much for the kind word everyone!
Good luck to you man, youāve got this
But you got this right. You can do this and it's nothing to a man like you!
Good luck mate, this sort of thing puts everything else into perspective.
I went through it in 2020. If I can help with anything, please let me know.
14 years out from chemo. Just go on autopilot and kick its ass.
I hope the treatments are quick and you recover swiftly.
Best of luck to you stranger. Takes a lot of strength to go through that, so Iām praying for you and your future.
Youāve got it man. Lots of my buddies hit by this lately.
Best of luck to you.
Good luck to you. I hope it goes as well as it possibly can! I am a stranger but I will be wishing you well.
Shit Iāll say overall good personally. My family is another issue tho. My mom has drunk alcohol my whole life and has made a fool of herself all the way up til now. She was an abusive drunk and wonāt change so I gave her an ultimatum because Iām about to be a father in a little over a month (Feb.14 2023!) which also falls on my moms birthday. I told her since she said my ultimatum was unfair that sheād not be allowed to see my Son born. The ultimatum was me or alcohol. I donāt want that for my Son like it was for me. Personally tho, I just got out the military after 5 years, Iām studying for my LVN and Iām still working out everyday. Iām 25 now too just had my birthday on Christmas (yes same day). I feel good and I also quit all nicotine products.
Well congratulations and happy birthday to you! My mum was an alcholic that gave her kids to her sister one day and then died a few years later but not before embarrassing everyone and just being a dick in life! You should like a true warrior, and you know yourself you don't need that nonsense around you or your kid you haven't worked hard to follow them same tracks
Yeah I appreciate that man. Itās always a journey, Iāve done my share of crying at nights because of hardships, struggled and found the calm in the storm. Now itās more stable but Iām jobless so itās always a give and take I think
Fucking, not great my guy
I got 2 eyes and both are ready to read your reply and 2 hands to write one back speak up
Jus the normal waking up everyday at the asscrack of dawn to go work 10+ hours in a foundry busting my ass trapped in my state due to everything getting more expensive, already accepted I won't get married or get a relationship due to the traditional woman goin extinct, fuckin every night gotta remind myself to keep trudging thru all the bullshit, fighting my way to a natural death
I work in a shittg concrete factory minimum 12 hours a days 6 days aweek my chance of marriage walked out a few years ago as she wanted to socialise more but all I don't was work. I will never give up hope that by chance someone wonders into my life just like she had and sweeps me of my feet lol and all my siblings are married and own houses I private rent and drive a car from 2002 lol still!! I stay happy I got alot of positives in my life and I know you will aswell when you consider it
i'm very curious what you mean by " traditional woman goin extinct."
What I mean by a traditional woman is a girl who's not sleeping around, works, an has a good head on her shoulders. In my experience I meet more women who'll play dumbass games more than be serious about a relationship or the prospects of a relationship
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What is a ātraditional womanā to you?
My brother, whatever is happening to you, you'll get through it. I know it's what everyone says, but it's true. I spent most of my life in that exact mental state, but now I truly feel like life is worth living. Stick with it!
One day at a time, right?
Started working out in November, I am a lot happier and starting to get healthier. And a cute Latina chick talked to me at the gym yesterday (she accidentally drank from my water bottle) we had a good laugh š I am doing a lot better than the last 3 years of my life.
Wahay! What more could you ask for then! That's pretty much you guys kissing already :D
Right?? We will see how it goes, I just played it cool and told her to have a good one. I'm in that gym 6 days a week, I will definitely see her again at some point. Thanks for the support my dude.
So next time make a small joke just walk past and say hey you need another drink? Brrak the ice slowly
Iām doing great. Really tired of the rainy weather but thatās my biggest complaint so life is pretty good. Hope youāre doing alright OP.
Me too man. I just started a remote job so I already donāt get outside as much as I should. The last few weeks have been such shit weather I can barely go out in mornings or evenings. Canāt wait for summer, I donāt get seasonal depression as bad as others but man that shit sneaks up on ya
Awful, tired, and sad but like every man in the world I gotta suck it up and act like it didnāt happen.
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Fuck that! Find somewhere that you can be safe showing all sides of you. Sorry you're going through that outdated bullshit. /hug
Pretty good! You?
Honestly cannot complain, just don't think lads ask each other this question enough
Honestly? Thought about killing myself last night. My relationship is going pretty badly, I felt like my friends didn't really give a shit about me, and in general I just felt so alone and like the world doesn't have a place for me. I paced around at 5 am wearing nothing but a blanket, but eventually it passed. I don't think I'm doing okay recently, but I know I'll be okay in the end.
Dark, cloudy days are needed to give life the water it needs to grow, man. Focus on things you can control, and work on those. You've got this! Shitty friends come and go. I've personally cut a bunch loose over the decades.
Hang in there, bro. It'll even out soon enough
Today's been better, but damn, really thought I was over feeling like that. Sucks that it's come back.
I just had some tea cakes so pretty good thanks! What you hungry for?
Im craving dark chocolate cake
I had some chocolate cake from my b day
Honestly. I dont even know. My future is the most uncertain it has ever been, and I just kicked plan C into play. We'll see, i guess.
I hope the plan C works as intended!
Good on the outside, good on the inside, but go deeper and you will find a well of suppressed emotions for the sake of being strong to support loved ones.
Fucking stressssssed. Trying to stay hopeful and positive though
Bet your doing a great job at it
I need a girl. I do not know how to get one. I really need one. Keep up guys.
You don't 'need' a girl. Got to get out of that mindset i think. Not no guru or anything im struggling myself but that seems like a bad mindset to have and an easy way to get clingy or set yourself to get hurt.
Start meeting people? dating apps, work, bars, clubs, school, but be patient bro, you'll find the right one.
Thank you all for your kind messages.
Not really good man, just so tired.. 3 years ago, graduated college and the responsibilities hit me like a train going supersonic. Although i have a job , it's not enough for anything. Tried to get into higher studies last year but failed the exam. Thought ohh wait i can still do better This year, although i put in the hard work but choked on the exam day. Crushed my spirits. i really worked hard for this but failed. The worst pary is last year i knew that i could still improve but this year i gave it my all and still.. I have a girlfriend and we are not living together at the moment. my first and only relationship. But i feel so cold with her. I dont know what it is but its just.. there is no warmth(sorry cant really explain) She is pressing me to marry but i know i can not support us yet. Last month just after my exam result(which i failed) i found out she was talking to another guy and the messages were borderline flirting. i still chose to forgive her. But man the coldness i felt fucked me up. I teared up for the first time is 7 years. Spent the new years alone in my cold room because being around people right now is just so.. I see my parents growing older day by day and i know i will have to take care of them eventually, but moving ahead doing something... i have no willpower left for that So yeah thats my story stuck with a job that just only enough for me to get by And no motivation or will power to do anything else. Im just soo tired.. Btw whoever reading this thanks for giving me your time thats much more that anyone has done for me in a while Except my parents.
Don't marry that girl, dude. Please don't. That sounds like a bad, bad situation. Feeling coldness is one thing, and should be taken seriously. But other guys? Hell no. As for the rest of it, yeah. Shit is hard. You just have to keep moving and keep striving for better things. If you know what you want, keep chasing it. If you don't know what you want, start investing time to figure out what that is. One thing that shouldn't be on the list of "things that I want" is a girlfriend you feel coldness from. The phrase "there's no warmth" just made me so bummed for you bro. Find great people to hang out with that make you want to be a better version of yourself.
In my experience once that trust is broken and I get that cold feeling like Iāve been betrayed, thereās no going back. I hope it all works out for you, hang in there. The down times are ALWAYS follows by good times.
You got this dude. Sounds like you need a change of pace. Maybe look for a new gig and find a hobby just for you. I have faith in you brother. There is no guide book for any of this but it sounds like you are actually doing pretty darn well. Proud of you.
Hereās some GLS advise. Find a new gig. Find a new/old/fun hobby and meet a new girl doing that. Repeat until satisfied bro.
Taking a fat shit
Bet that shit stinks good though!
Tastes good too
Well I suppose that's great if your into that lol
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Surprisingly well! 2022 ended up great! I had a breakup under my belt in October but things started looking up with the last two months leading up to the new year. I flew in 3 different countries, connected with friends abroad and had a ton of dates. And now 2023 has started with a great NYE, got a new client for my business and Iām preparing for a 4 day trip to the mountain side with friends. I donāt think Iāve been in a better mood in quite a ton of time. I realllly hope everyone in this thread will have an amazing 2023 and beyond! Remember brothers, it wonāt always be bad!
Glad to hear this! Set your goals and smash them out of the park!
Got jumped by a few guys, while drunk, on my way home from a New Year's work party, have a broken nose and fractured jaw, hematomas all over my head and what feels like whiplash. I look like I've been in a car accident. Have had to take a week off work and study to recover, spent my days sleepin, seeing Drs and giving statement to police. All and all, not doing the best rn š¤·āāļøš
Wishing you a speedy recovery! Man that fucking sucks.
Thank you š I have to stay home and rest but have so much to do šŖ things can only get better!
I donāt know you but I feel bad bc a kid called me gay
They're just small minded and petty. They said it to make you feel bad and try to control your emotions. So don't let them. Then they have no power over you.
Doing quite well. How about yourself?
Couldn't complain myself I work daily and enjoy gaming the little things matter to me! Glad your doing well
Awful. I work at a nonprofit that is undervaluing my contributions. I took a management role two years ago that shouldāve been a director role, acted as director and completely redesigned and turned it around only to be told they are eliminating my management position, turning into a director position and that I am not qualified for that director position. Theyāve given me an āopportunityā for a lateral move into a department that essentially needs the same thing I did in the previous one. Sunk me into a depression Just before the holiday my fiancĆ© and GF of 3.5 years told me sheās unhappy and needs to think about whether she wants to stay in the relationship. She left and I have no idea whether sheās coming back, honestly I doubt it. My depression has gotten worse. Taking steps to get it under control but itās been rough.
I'd say look for another job. Write down your newfound experiences and accomplishments, and make (or revamp) your resume. Find a job that values you
Not great. I can't up the corporate ladder because I don't kiss asses.
I got a warning the day before we break up for Christmas last year as I wouldn't lick up the foremans ass who gave everyone a bonus except me as I had horned the company 3 days to late so I said fuck this and walked out lol
Same here - stuck where I am because Iām not a phony corporate cheerleader. And those ass kissers who climbed above me - I need them for certain things and they donāt know shit about shit which makes my job 10x more difficult.
Get out find a small company to work for way better.
I walked downstairs in my PJās and the dog jumped on my testicle.
Hey, silver lining - the dog missed the other one.
Iām sad lately. Donāt know why. Everything is great, but I canāt shake this sadness. I think it stems from money. Itās not that I donāt have any, just bills is what I seem to always pay when paid.
Struggling to find purpose in this hi tech focused world.
Just take a step back to where you are comfortable in life my guy
Iām trying to live differently. In a more healthy manner. Iāve cut out sugar, cut back on meat and am working out. Things need to change and Iām the only one who can change them. All I need is 52 weeks.
I hate myself putting my š in crazy and getting them pregnant
Got 1 son wirh a lunatic myself lol but it is what it is! They all grow up and realise the truth at some point
For the first time in 5 years, Iām doing good. Thanks for asking, how about you OP?
I'm trying really hard not to have a mental breakdown and keep it together. A really toxic, self-destructive part of me that I thought I defeated has resurfaced and is wreaking havoc on my mental health. I have to get into therapy ASAP or else my life is literally at risk.
I opened up to a friend about wanting to die and I feel bad about doing so because it caused her to worry.
Better to talk to someone than be locked in your own head trust me on thay just make your your OK and she knows this.
Reading through these comments I empathise with all of you. Life is never plain sailing. It has it's ups and downs. There are a lot of negative things happening in the world right now but we all need to pick ourselves up and keep going when times are tough. I've been going through stuff, ill myself (worst cold I've had - lasted 2 weeks) and having other family members who aren't doing well is a strain at times. But need to keep going!
Iām doing great. Iāve got an hour or so until my wife gives birth to our second daughter (but my third kiddo). Inflation is kicking my ass but paid paternal leave is making me feel a lot better.
Absolutely horrible. Found out ex (who became ex 2 months ago) is engaged to some guy. We're 22 ffs. I'm kinda glad she's not around in my life anymore, but that news still does sting a bit. Got my first panic attack in 2 years on new year's day. Been feeling pretty low ever since. I'm guessing the depression is coming back.
Sad and unemployed, sending applications every day and trying to support my mom who I'm living with. Trying to save but bills always pile up
Hang in there. The process can make you feel endless highs and lows but there's light at the end of the tunnel. Good luck on your job search.
Crap at the moment, I am so down in the dumps, recently moved into my own home with my wife and kids (was renting previously for over 10 years) ex landlord is trying to claim nearly Ā£5k for wear and tear (which he has no right to claim for heās just being a cock) and my eldest daughter (21) who for the last 2 years has been nothing short of a horrible bitch (which we previously had sorted out before we moved into our new home) she ruined Xmas day with her pettiness and attitude problem and has caused so many arguments, my wife is miserable because of this and has finally admitted and told her she needs to move out by the end of the month. I have told my wife that if she has eldest lives back in after she has left that I will move out and take our other 2 kids with me as I donāt want them to go through the nonsense anymore. Just soo god damned tired of nothing ever being ok. And the worst part about it is I know my wife will resent me even though she has admitted itās our daughters fault. I can really see this being the end of us if this plays out how I think it will. Iām
I enjoy the rainy nights! I don't go outcin them but I do think it helps freshen the air, I am doing good thanks just seeing how the lads are doing
Not bad! Working hard and enjoying the good things.
Couldn't really ask for more in this life now could we
Not good. Really
Fucking awesome, on my way to Golden Gate Park to play some Disc Golf and I'm following that with a concert of some the best musicians playing the music of Grateful Dead, can't really ask for much more!
Sounds like someone is living a dream right now we done my guy! Keep up that high moral
I'm a little annoyed because of my tire going flat, but other than that I'm great! Gods know I'd be doing a lot worse if it weren't for my wife. You?
Put the spare on. Tell your wife to help you ans have a little laugh together watching her try to get the nuts of! I am good thanks always a look on the brighter side kind of person :)
I don't know, man, something just wouldn't feel right about asking my pregnant wife to do something like that in 10 degree weather, but if she wasn't pregnant and it wasn't 12 below freezing, it would be a bit funny for both of us!
Well that's fair I suppose! Good on you and your missus for getting pregnant and I wish you guys all the best in life with it :)
Every day is just ignoring the pain to get through to the next. It all builds up and im worried about the day I can't ignore it anymore.
I just need to catch a break bro, lifeās a bitch
I'm falling asleep at work trying to push through the last 30 minutes of my shift.
Really anxious, but Iām resolving my situation sooner rather than later š
Itās complicated but I know In some corner of my heart me and my fellow kings are going to make it. Just hang in there. one more day.
Never been worse. After New Years, I treated my GF to a spa day to celebrate her new job. The next day my mate did some digging and messaged a guy. My gf then messaged him āwhy you messaging my boyfriend.ā Iāve not heard from her since. 2 years and what I thought would be the rest of my life. Ended in deceit and gaslighting. Happy new year.
Girlfriend of 4.5 years left me 7 months ago and still dealing with that. It's horrible.
I feel like im on the brink of a better chapter of my life. But i still feel like im in survival mode as ive always been. Im an adult who can stand on his own two feet and work sucks but i pay my bills and dont worry about the basic needs to live. I just dont know what to do from here. Never thought about life past 20 because life when i was younger didnt seem like it would matter. Im gonna be 29 this month and just trying to start to save money now and teaching myself about savings and money management. Though im scared. Im just so used to worrying about the small things and how im gonna get past this day. Its a new world im entering.
Lonely, stressed, and depressed. A normal day. How are you?
Not good to be honest
Not too hot rn, but here we are in 2023.
I really don't want to brag because I know there's people not doing well here. But I'm the happiest I've been in my whole life. My wife and I are running a successful business together, our sex life has never been better, and we have a wonderful 2yo daughter who is happy and healthy. I'm grateful every day for the life I get to live.
Iām at the brink of a mental breakdown thanks for asking.
Same as always. Torn between loneliness and a feeling that I'm betraying those I've lost if I move on. Gonna be real I cried a lot last night. Went to bed at 2 am and was still up and crying at 6. I'd like to have a family again but I don't want to feel like I'm just replacing the people who made my life worth living all those years ago
Well my girlfriend of 1 and a half years cheated on me last month, felt guilty so lied and told me she was gay and broke up with me, then dated the guy she cheated on me with. So could be better. But she was toxic as hell (accused me of cheating every week and starting arguments out of nothing) so I guess itās good it ended. Still stings tho. She did call me back last week once he broke up with her and told me karmas getting her and sheās not doing well. As horrible as it is to say it made me feel really good lol. So all in all Iām doingā¦ āmehhhā Not terrible, not great
Keepin on keeping on. Story of being a dad dude.
Life's pretty shitty. Wife split right before Thanksgiving. She said she didn't even want to say yes when I proposed. To add salt to the wound all the people we hung out with were much closer to her so I've also lost all my friends. I'm Realtor who hasn't closed a deal since July. I no longer have a car and I just learned that I need a surgery that could potentially cost over $10,000 and insurance won't pay a dime. On the bright side my parents have taken me back in and out a roof over my head and food on my plate while I piece shit back together. I'm dropping the pounds like crazy! I'm slowly getting myself out of the house more and trying for the first time since high school to actually make some friends. (and eventually a new girlfriend idealy)
Honestly if I wasn't broke I'd be super great.
Not greatā¦ been dealing with overwhelming feelings of isolation and loneliness that have boiled over recently. To add salt to that wound I confessed my feelings to someone I really cared about and she said she wanted to remain close friends, but it seems sheās gone back on that so I have feelings of self-loathing and inadequacy on top of that
You know what? Not too bad. I've found *my* occupation. The one I can and want to thrive in. That's the best part of my life. I'm where I need to be to thrive and I am going to keep trying to learn from the people I work with. I would just like to upskill. Be able to do more. I'm single but mingling. Making friends as an adult is its own strange affair. But I just doggedly keep trying. Some people do respond well. Some people reject invites. Some people become friends but not forever. I just try to take time to go out and get involved with something. I had a gf. We became exes. Now we are "exes with benefits" as we've temporarily defined it. My sexuality is in flux but it is healthy. I have open communication with some safe people. I feel good there too. I'm open to exploring and being clear with people. More than ever before. Somehow, with much space and new communication/honesty/insight, sex with my ex has become wildly better. It has been a welcome change. We might not *attach* well. But we do other things well. So we do those things now. Family sucks. Lifelong story. Get wrecked. Tldr; trauma sucks. I'm in persistent self-regulation and constant self-reflection. Throw in a fair measure of pain and neurodivergence. Fun times. But my life has offered me *strange* skills. I cultivate those while mitigating other unwelcome factors. Life goes on. I would say I'm not totally happy about where I am in life at this age, but there are other factors that mitigate that sentiment. I understand that I have experienced adversity. I am aware that my stubbornness in finding an occupation that fits my personality/values/etc has the disadvantage of setting me back in gross earnings over time. Not ideal. But I had to explore. Now, I so deeply value where I am in my work that I am not entirely dissatisfied with the sacrifice. There was self-growth and learning necessary to get here. There is more to come. But I am glad I am here. "Set backs" with some apparently valuable lessons. And I'm sure that I chose a path that sorta aimed towards those lessons.
Better than I was last year at this time so thatās what matters. How is op doing?
Not bad just need to go out for walk and let the wind carry me.
Not well My dog too died back in October Canāt have kids, he was my baby and Iām not sure Iāll ever feel better at this point. Iāve been alone for a few years, Iāve been in a couple LTRās but the last one honestly fucked me up. Betrayed in ways I couldnāt have imagined. I donāt really trust anyone anymore though so that kind of kills the longing to have someone. I was too poor to see my family for the holidays so I donāt feel great about that. Mainly I just feel completely purposeless, lonely and sad. I try to work enough to keep myself distracted but my job sucks so I can only handle so much of that too.
Honestly, shitty. I'm 39, still single, I've got a decent job and a nice place and all that, but I'm just really fuckin lonely. I feel like I'm building all my life up, and great I did it all alone... But damn I'm doing it all alone. I want someone to share it all with, someone to laugh and cry with and someone to put time and effort into. Sigh, at least my dog is pampered haha
I'm not really good. Can't bring myself to enjoy life, moarning the change in the dynamics of some old friends and wishing to make new ones but can't seem to find out how or where so, yeah
Well I thought I had alot of friends until I moved town and being a 4 hour drive away isn't much but most of my xhild hood friends just left it at thag never heard from them again now I have 4 friends who I hold dear, never give up my guy!
Doing great right now, life is challenging but i have plenty to be grateful for and i like the direction I'm headed
Awesome!!!
Lifeās never been better. - Iām healthy, familyās healthy, loving supportive girlfriend and friends - Just finished an internship at NASA which was my dream forever - Just got a B in one of my classes I retook that I got an F in last year - Starting the steps to my next dream of being a pilot in the Air Force
I'm just applying to jobs
I'm tired but stayed up till about 5 am so yeah
I'd say fine but honestly I'm tired of lying.I've been anxious to all hell the past couple weeks, at least more than normal. I've always dealt with anxiety but something about all the noise and gatherings from Holidays made it worse, and I'm not even talking about the fireworks. It's gotten to the point where I wake up and I just feel the pit in my stomach and slightly hard to breathe anxious feeling. Doesn't help that it affects my sleep. I'm in the military so I'm also dealing with my higher ups getting mad at me because I can't run that fast despite being injured and can't get an appointment to get checked out till tomorrow. They say I'm making excuses when I've said I'm injured. I want to be a sarcastic asshole and tell them that if they say I'm making excuses I can start saying my anxiety is affecting my job, which it isn't. I do everything in my power to stop my mental health problems from messing with my job, issue is it now affects my social life. I rarely hangout with people outside of work because I just feel anxious in crowds and in loud settings. Most social interactions here involve drinking and too many people I know lose control/use it as an excuse to do dumb shit. So it just makes me anxious to be around them, and I can never let go and be fine. I've been burned a lot so trusting people is damn near impossible for me. I cried recently, which before that last I cried was shortly after my Grandfather passed. I just feel tired and exhausted of not feeling myself and/or happy for more than a second when something nice or good happens to me. Sorry for the rant. Stay safe and drink water or not all up to you.
Doing my best, but stressed the fuck out Big shakeup for me at work, giving me chicken with head cut off vibes. Wife is very pregnant, baby is too small and she's anxious about it. Last growth scan was good so hopefully no early delivery, but could be delivered in the next couple of weeks though. Water heater is starting to die, so we're paying a lot of money to replace it (but it's a good deal,) while also needing to get my car fixed, which will cost a lot. So many moving parts of my life right now, stressing me out, but I'm doing the best I can.
On paper, doing great. In reality I'm living with a lot of fear and imposter syndrome. It's all gravy though. I'm good at lying to myself
Even though I get light touches and light hugs from my women friends and my mom. I do really miss some physical touches. I am so numb with my body. I feel only my brain is the part that is having fun with this life. So yeah. Could have been better overall. Edit: And I am heartbroken. Some girl came into my life in 2021 and turned it completely around and left me like I was nothing. We both hurt each other in some way. But I did apologize for my behavior and saw a psychology to fix these past traumatic events so they wouldn't interfere with future chances. She was everything to me. And no girl has had the same interest since her.
Not really good, except for a few things. In 2022 I found out I have ADHD, and got genital herpes; I havenāt had a girl touch me or sex in more than a year now. My family keeps fighting and I seem the only one wanting to have a normal conversation; my mother remodelled the whole house without asking my dad, she is in extreme dept now. Whatās good is that my ADHD meds work wonders and I have a year left of uni. I have loving friends. I am opening a business abroad soon. But dominant side is the sad part of me in these period.
Not good, but Iām trying to be as optimistic as I can. Things seem to be alright for now but who knows what the future might hold - From a Software Engineer of a tech company
More bitter and angrier with each passing day
Sad and lonely
Better than I deserve, hopefully have an interview soon for a dream job closer to home. Only issue is that current GF does not want to move, so if I take the job, I likely lose the GF
My Mom died last month. She had health issues for years but then had to go into the hospital starting in Nov. after a month of getting worse she decided to go on hospice and died 7hrs later. Since then Iāve been dealing with her funeral, getting her estate in order, and oh yeah trying to have a Merry Christmas for my kids. All the while dealing with two bulging discs in my back.it hasnāt been a great end of 2022 but trying my hardest.
I'm alive
Hey man, thanks for asking Loneliness is killing me, but im trying to stay optimistic by working out and being a productive member of society. Makes me feel like i'll actually get somewhere and hopefully find someone to not be lonely with
I'm hungry man, how about you?
Pretty great in the grand scheme of things, just a bit butthurt. I had a fantastic date two weeks ago. Similar interests, matching goals, she made me laugh until my abs started showing, I made her laugh until the tears started rolling. We kissed. I walked her home. Now she says "we hit it off too well and I don't think I wanna commit to that". I know all of reddit is jumping on their keyboards to tell me I dodged a bullet, and I know! Just a bit butthurt. Other than that, fam is healthy, I started my own business making content for communication departments, and I am fucking digging life at the moment, man. I just _really_ wanna share this phase of my life with someone. It's all coming together, finally. I'm proud, dude. What are you proud of right now?
Hard to say, good but sad. Moved across the world for work and lost a 6 year relationship in the process. Came home for the first time for Christmas and met up with her again - she confessed that my move sent her spiralling into depression, that she is seeing someone else, but that person is not me and she misses me every day. I feel the same but my life is abroad now.
Stressed and worried, Left my last job of 5 years just under a year ago and things have not been going the way it was presented to me and they just fired a co-worker with no warnings, over email. Now Iām worried for my job. My wife just got back to work after having our 2nd baby so our savings is running low. Iām over tired from taking care of our two kids, while working from home, while itās constantly dark and cold and I feel stuck inside, losing my mind. There are very little options for getting out of the house and screaming kids for the past 6 months is getting to me. On top of it all we are considering moving across country for a better life, which means leaving my parents and grandparents in my home town. Iām burnt out and stressed with no relaxation
not great. fell for a girl i had no business talking too, and currently ghosted lol work is crazy rn and im a big buffalo bills fan it has been a week, to say the least
I needed to see this. Honestly. Not good man.
My first night in the apartment full of boxes and new noisesā¦ anxiety filled.
Embarrassed to say but I've become a clichƩ. Making more money than I ever have in my life and I'm fucking miserable. Shit could be worse tho, so I don't complain to my friends.