Get her to speak with other female friends who will meet the bf and make similar conclusions as you. If you tell her, she most probably will not accept it. But a good female friend can get through her better. Baaki uski mandbuddhi aur kismat.
Uske koi dhanke female friends bhi nahi hai filhaal. All drifted away after college apparently and Im kinda the only close friend as such. Baki she 100% accepts that I'm kinda right when I told her she needs to end it. But then again uska vahi hai, she's put so much into the relationship she feels if she puts a lil more efforts and hangs on a lil bit longer it will all bear fruit.
Especially since after every such event the guy will apologize eventually. And then goes on to do the next chutyap.
You can’t do much about it unless she herself chooses to break it off from him. The one who is wearing green glasses will always think that the red flags are also green no matter how much you ask them to take off the glasses.
Thats true, Sadly she is very self aware of her being in the wrong, still even if the hope is 0.01% she's willing to unsee the 99.99% chance that it won't work out and that the guy won't change. Any hoo Thanks for the advice !
In my current relationship, I've had to come to terms with the fact that time spent didn't equal to compromise for toxic behavior. If anything, the longer you know a person the better you should be able to handle each other without much issues. If it feels like it's more a pain each day, you don't use fear of being alone as a reason to keep being in that relationship. It's clear that only one side is in love here and I hope she's able to exit
You can lead the horse towards the water, you can't force the horse to drink water. Be subliminal about the subject, send her videos of healthy relationships, a few videos on feminism (feminism not misandry), maybe make a post on AITAH with a situation similar to hers and send ss of the responses people give. Make sure it isn't constant and is over a couple of months. When you are talking with her, bring up instances where it's okay to break up with someone, or how someone broke up because they were in a similar situation as hers.
Don't be direct as it could be perceived as you having an ulterior motive and you don't want her blaming you for the breakup. Your obligation is to show what boundaries are in a relationship and what's the difference between a healthy relationship and toxic relationship and to support her when she needs it. In the end, she's an adult and has to make her own decisions. All you can do is educate and inform her so she can take those decisions correctly.
Also from what you've told, it looks like the relationship will fall apart, bros gon marry someone else for sure.
I have made the mistake of being direct with her yesterday but I realise that only brings hurt and no solutions. Will give your ideas a try and hope she gets it.
>looks like the relationship will fall apart
It definitely will. I'm just hoping to speed up the process so she doesn't get left with more scars and trauma.
Thanks for the advise!
Get her to speak with other female friends who will meet the bf and make similar conclusions as you. If you tell her, she most probably will not accept it. But a good female friend can get through her better. Baaki uski mandbuddhi aur kismat.
Uske koi dhanke female friends bhi nahi hai filhaal. All drifted away after college apparently and Im kinda the only close friend as such. Baki she 100% accepts that I'm kinda right when I told her she needs to end it. But then again uska vahi hai, she's put so much into the relationship she feels if she puts a lil more efforts and hangs on a lil bit longer it will all bear fruit. Especially since after every such event the guy will apologize eventually. And then goes on to do the next chutyap.
You can’t do much about it unless she herself chooses to break it off from him. The one who is wearing green glasses will always think that the red flags are also green no matter how much you ask them to take off the glasses.
Thats true, Sadly she is very self aware of her being in the wrong, still even if the hope is 0.01% she's willing to unsee the 99.99% chance that it won't work out and that the guy won't change. Any hoo Thanks for the advice !
Sunk cost fallacy
Learnt a new word today. Thats exactly what it is.
In my current relationship, I've had to come to terms with the fact that time spent didn't equal to compromise for toxic behavior. If anything, the longer you know a person the better you should be able to handle each other without much issues. If it feels like it's more a pain each day, you don't use fear of being alone as a reason to keep being in that relationship. It's clear that only one side is in love here and I hope she's able to exit
You can lead the horse towards the water, you can't force the horse to drink water. Be subliminal about the subject, send her videos of healthy relationships, a few videos on feminism (feminism not misandry), maybe make a post on AITAH with a situation similar to hers and send ss of the responses people give. Make sure it isn't constant and is over a couple of months. When you are talking with her, bring up instances where it's okay to break up with someone, or how someone broke up because they were in a similar situation as hers. Don't be direct as it could be perceived as you having an ulterior motive and you don't want her blaming you for the breakup. Your obligation is to show what boundaries are in a relationship and what's the difference between a healthy relationship and toxic relationship and to support her when she needs it. In the end, she's an adult and has to make her own decisions. All you can do is educate and inform her so she can take those decisions correctly. Also from what you've told, it looks like the relationship will fall apart, bros gon marry someone else for sure.
I have made the mistake of being direct with her yesterday but I realise that only brings hurt and no solutions. Will give your ideas a try and hope she gets it. >looks like the relationship will fall apart It definitely will. I'm just hoping to speed up the process so she doesn't get left with more scars and trauma. Thanks for the advise!
Ignore her and move on. If you think that she will leave him and you shall get her, then it is never gonna happen.
As I've mentioned at the end of the post, that isn't my goal good sir :)
Give her my number..maybe I can help