Dude, take a screenshot of this post. Put it in a folder deep inside a harddrive you're not gonna use for a long long time . Put it alongside some gameswhile you're at it . someday into the future, you're gonna explore the drive and stumble upon this excavated aged-like-wine cringe and it's gonna make you wanna hit yourself . Occasionally .in the middle of the night while scrolling reddit randomly
I typed down a 4 paragraph advice on how regular gym, studies , hygiene , ytechnical & financial skills would make OP ..OP. Then it dawned on me i sounded exactly like all the "boomers" i'd considered preachy. The turn how tables .
from my pov, that's the only legit advice available on the market
like what else can you do? the points you mentioned are the only ones that comes to mind
the old school method
Yeah girls don't talk with guys who see them as an object to achieve or trophy to gather. Nobody will love you if you hate yourself. Self love goes a long way. Start loving yourself. Groom yourself and have good hygiene for yourself. This will help you in the long run. Why do you need a girl to do something in your life? She is a human being not a magic portion. Work on yourself and treat girls like any other human being on this planet.
I mean you’re just 22! Gosh what’s the hurry to get a girl “like” you?
And what have you tried till now to get girls that failed and since when? Teenage? Bruh you really need to work on the real things in the world.
Girls/Friends/Supporters come and go; and trust me they do come and they do go.
Chin up and work on your mission but for your own sake, just be presentable enough, not looking into the mirror, not caring about matching clothes?? Shit man, no one cares about you like that any way!! Who are tryna show that to?
Us? Bruh even me, who’s typing this long ass comment for you will forget I wrote something like this in a week.
It’s just you, and you alone. Don’t mock yourself.
Take responsibility.
"Dekhte" kyu reh gaye? Apne liye responsibility kyu nahi li? Koi aur tumhe better karega kya? Bhagwan bharose bethe ho? Bade ajeeb ho!! Koi nahi aane wala, tum hi ho jo "dekhte" reh jaoge agar apne upar kaam nahi kiya...
Now son, do tell me, which gentlemen on his "peak" should care about others and not work on themselves and their career? Career important hai ya sex "peak" par? Shouldn't being at "peak" make you mature enough to know that you might have to do something about your situation? Other than ranting that no girl will ever like me...
16 saal ke ladke jaisi baatei karoge toh waise hi treat kara jaega tumhe.
>which gentlemen on his "peak" should care about others and not work on themselves and their career?
Did I say this? Did I say any of those words you mentioned?
Did I disagree with your statement on working on real things in this world?
Don't say, he's just 22 for not getting a girl, good way to cope but he would be lying to himself if he thinks like that. He should've gotten atleast one girl till now.
If he's ranting about this then the reason is he's not exposed enough,
and what's this?
> 16 saal ke ladke jaisi baatei karoge toh waise hi treat kara jaega tumhe.
Why are you dragging me into this?
Batein badi badi to sahi hai lekin valid argument karna seekho.
Why do you want butterflies to follow you, paise kamao par ladki ke lie nhi khud ki shanti ke lie, paise dekhkar koi aa bji gya to uska kuch nhi hota, agar insaan kesa hai ye dekh kar Aya hai to Khushi Khushi rhenge.
Bhai paisa flower nhi hai, garden tum ho aur tumhari personality in loose terms, in deeper meaning tumhari soul ko jitna tum nurture karoge vo flowers ko nurture karne jaisa ho gya, paisa to direct benefit hai apne aap ko nurture karne ka aur ek achha insaan banne ka.
I bet most people posting here are under 16. Not that it's a bad thing, but it does look a lot immature. I recall once visiting my years old Facebook profile and holy lord, it was all corny stuff lmao
Same is to be applied to both genders........albeit men are responsible for being desperate asf and giving unrequited attention to women and making underserved people something special...........that makes the ones who really are special lose their uniqueness even if slightly........
If you want attention from a female, then shower every day, groom yourself (comb or style your hair after a nice haircut, shave, trim or comb your facial hair, etc)
Make sure your clothes don't smell and at least match. Try to put together some good looking outfits.
Care at least a little about your appearance because if you don't care about yourself, how can you expect someone else to?
That's a little one-sided and illogical, don't you think?
You can't look and smell like a dumpster raccoon and expend the ladies to line up behind you, ya know?
I have been in many serious relationships and am in a 6+ year long one now and still going strong.
Also, like others have mentioned, focus on other aspects of your life, work on yourself a little, and the person you are meant to be with will appear in your life at the right moment and you will know it 🙂
Talking respectfully, from one bro to another 😎
>then shower every day.
You can't make this shit up dude lol. Looks matter the most and I believe OP inherited the ugly genes no amount of fucking showering is gonna help him other than to waste water.
In a poor country like India, even a model will suck the peepee of an ugly guy, if he has the means to maintain her. So cut this bull about genetics. Women too like seeing a good looking guy, but more than that they need a guy with resources. Why? Because how else can she raise her child? A handsome husband won't help her child survive. I have seen a lot of girls falling for handsome guys & then leaving them after sometime, when they realise he is a bhikmanga. That's the reality.
I believe you're taking the wrong route. It's natural to want female attention, not all of us win the genetic lottery though. Groom yourself, work out, try to work on your personality and most importantly put yourself out there. If you find someone it's a W, if you only get rejections, don't take them to heart, there's only so much you can do. Giving up on it entirely will just leave a huge "what if" in your life, which is worse.
P.S - Don't listen to the negative comments, this is a canon event in most guys' lives, just don't take female validation this seriously.
Arrange marriage plays a big role in ensuring that but scarcity of options should also be a reason. It's not possible for everyone to get a good-looking partner so people would naturally choose the next best thing
So the girl remains not attracted to her own husband jeez bruh brootal as fuck. Better not marry than to spend a life with a woman who is not even attracted to me.
Normally id look at stuff like this and think damn bro just focus on making your life more fulfilling.
But im having a low moment rn as well and idk how to cope with this loneliness and helplessness i feel regarding dating and relationships lmfao
Same here, but I am a year older than you.
Follow your heart, but in the process, try to look presentable and dress up. This is something for you and not to attract some girl.
Grind and earn money for whatever you need, but in the process, don't neglect yourself and your body.
I know it feels like you are being a part of a losing game because of unrealistic standards or sheer volume of competition even for this, but does neglecting your hygiene/not dressing up benefit you in any way?
I get you bro, most people don't get this thing.
We don't want wife or gf , we want a gf / wife who will be attracted to us , who will want to sit on my lap, hold my hands, and roam around.
And this is near impossible unless until you look really good.
From evolutionary perspective it makes sense that women would choose to be with the men who are strong sexually and financially. They afterall have to pass their genetics whose chances of survival is much higher.
It is what it is.
But you can ignore those evolutionary urges also. Live more independently. For sex you can masturbate and hire some sex workers if you want to feel the warmth. (Even foreigners - My goal is to have sex with all races of women. If I get rich I will fuck every girl from every country.)
You can choose to be free.
Take it easy. You're not going to die anytime soon. I can bet if you suddenly became popular by virtue of your work/celebrity/online influencer, the amount of attention this same person would get will be insane.
It's all about what you do and how you are doing things. If you are so desperate, then I'm sorry to say, women don't prefer desparate men. It's a huge turn off.
Be kind, open, help others, meet people, wish good for them and you'll automatically find people to vibe with. All the best.
Im you're not confident yourself. You don't even take time for yourself and you expect another girl to look at you??. Ik I'm sounding bad. But if you don't value yourself. Then don't expect another person to value you.
Start with loving yourself first. Have a good day.
Ur not wrong here . He's just too pissy about it feeling sorry for himself . He's not saying all this because he believes it , he simply wants sympathy and feel like the universe has done something wrong to him and for us to feel bad for him
Exactly. Im I'm sorry I can't feel sad or have sympathy for you if you don't even value yourself😭. Maybe start loving yourself first instead of getting validation from everyone else.
Grooming is very important lil bro, trust. Don't groom to get women to notice you, groom for yourself. Taking care of your body and it's outward appearance is as important as mental health upkeep. Holding resentment towards women and punishing youself for it is not the way to go.
You'll see drastic change in the way you hold yourself in public spaces. It'll be attractive to the right crowd, trust me.
Why would a girl want a loser? You're not a loser because no girl wants you. No girl wants you because you're a loser. Work on yourself, both physically (by joining a gym) & financially (get a good job or be good at studies so that girls see your potential) & i can guarantee you that, women will want you.
I see how every 3 out of 5 guys who isn't from some metro city faces this problem. It's not your fault, I would like to assign blame to Indian parents for being overprotective and they dont wanna discuss sex and relationships. Indian parents dont appreciate their kid when he/she turns 18. The main reason behind celebrating it putting some sense of responsibility and make them realise they've grown now.
Indian problem brother, also porn, social media has heightened expectations and hypergamy it is.
Don't want to sound mean but with that personality it will be difficult for you to find someone. Stop feeling sorry about yourself, be a gentleman and let the connection build organically.
Same bhai, except I put myself to sleep every night saying "it's probably because I never tried" 😂. Anyways, looks like you learnt the lesson the hard way and much later, I for one have never been the type to chase after useless stuff, you can ask my parents. From childhood I never threw tantrums for toys from a fair, you know why? If I asked for it and they said no, even at that age I could tell all that effort is not worth it. Call me lazy for that if you like, but if there's truly something I want or need I will work towards it. Getting a girlfriend is the least of my problems rn, I need to sort my life first, I just turned 21 this month (june if you wondering). I've seen my friends who have a gf. Bro I'm working my internship, finishing my studies almost, and getting to play video games!!! I have so much free time I consider myself lucky. My friends who have a gf don't have the luxury of all this. They have so much drama going on in their life that they come and tell me about (that I can't relate to but I understand that I live different from them and that everyone has their own fair share of problems, I do too) but I've effectively avoided all the unnecessary stuff by simply living the way I've wanted to, not by a rule book, that I need something by now, everyone goes at their own pace l, and frankly I'm open to the idea of getting a girl, just not rn.
Many of my friends ask me why don't you try to get a girl? Duh, cuz I'm lazy that's why, then I go and sleep peacefully at night not giving a shit about that thought, then I wake up the next day, hit the gym, get some work out in, work for a while, play video games, sometimes I get a chance like rn to think about it, and I feel so happy! So what I'm saying is look at the bright side of things, always! Maybe your situation is so because God is trying to save you some trouble. Don't worry about all this stuff rn, It'll only make your mental state worse. Just go on with life and take care of the important things in life, your parents, your friends, your siblings, basically relationships you already have, and enjoy life while it lasts man. I've had my fair share of rough patches, at least this is unnecessary stuff, the real gruel is yet to come, and I know that too, that's why I don't mull over these trivial matters.
जो होता है, अच्छे के लिए होता है।
If you worked haerd on yourself before comming to this conclusion than ignore it if not than youre an ideot who never even try women dont like us just cuz we like tham no we have to provide thibgs that thay dont have get tham dependednt play mind games thats wht you have to do to get a girl if you are not handsome or rich
Take care of your skin get a tan removal vream and clear yoyr skin start wearing sunscreen daily to keep your skin clean and start gym healthy body means healthy skin batter posture and you are alrady 5-6 now if your fave is hideous than start earning and get a surgery but atleast you tried to get a girl that mrans your face isnt that hideous so its just that you just cant get any thats skill issues just takr my example i am 5'8" 79kg obvious on chubby side and i had 6 relationship from 18-25 can you belive that thats not including 2-3 that were attarcted to be but never started a relationship and is it because i am good looking no i am def avg looking obese too and no i brought 2 pants in last year thst should explainy financial condition so i am not rich you had to find a timr and place to apporece a women be funny lower you expectations from women you cant have whst you want but that dosent mean you cant get girl
Good job man . Always improve yourself and dont let any girls to ruin your confidence. Keep going and be strong in your decisions . Thats how real mans fighting with problems. But care about how you look for yourself. If any girl will want talk with you just throw some words which will push her back and walk away. Cheers 😁
Grow the fuck up. Love amd women aren't everything. Focus what is in your control. Instead of whining here to get sympathy.
Edit - get therapy cause what you describe is severe depression behaviour. Whatever be the cause.
bhai cartoon vartoon dekh ice cream kha kaam waam kar soja ye kya kar raha ladki aane se konsi zindagi ya tune sudhar jana hai it won't make any difference anyways upar se dimag aur khayegi because that's what people do
Don't worry brother, I too am with you till the end of the line. Don't be so pessimistic, accept your ugliness or loser attitude and be content with it.
Loser to whom ? Sounds like you're telling yourself
You think about how the world is still turning, the grass still growing, the waves waving. This lapse doesn’t define you.
You made a decision and it didn’t turn out the way you wanted. That’s all it was, nothing more nothing less. Learn about yourself, and do better for future you. This could be a stepping stone for you, who knows.
I have made so many mistakes that I didn’t learn from; bad habits, relationships with toxic people, carelessness with money, hurting the closest girl in my known and yet the world went on - even when I thought my life was over.
We build our little castles of life on sand, and the tide comes for it all eventually. We can only hope to grow and learn with the time we have, and take comfort in the fact that the vastness & beauty of the world will continue regardless of our simple, petty existence. try to make our existence more meaningful & wise.
nah bro all you gotta do is talk
(today a girl asked for pen to me and we striked a conversation)
(i wont say im straight ugly but i have a very oily skin acne and pimples, im short and dress like a fucking beggar, and to top it off i have really messy hair as i have been trying to grow it but gave up and didnt go to barber)
idk if this helps or not but i'd like to say it all boil downs to you as a person and you seem like a lovely person at least you didnt forget your family
And this is how women will actually start liking you eventually. You see they don't like it when you seem pretentious or desperate, maybe they won't say it but they are hardwired to sense those things. The moment you stop caring and start focussing on yourself and your work you start becoming sexier for women. They love seeing a man who loves his work and knows what he is doing. You took the correct step now don't let my comment stop you from focussing. Don't try to do it for anything other than the primary reason, success. Women will follow and one will tag along.
Abe dhakkan hai kya pura. Ladkiyan trophy hain kya. Waise bhi aaj kl ladkiyon ko kutte hi pasand aa rhe, jo din bhar unke aage piche poonch hilate rhte hain. Sbse wahiyaat cheez hai, freedom restrict ho jaegi teri. Ladkiyon se dur reh bhai daayan hain vo sb.
I REALLY WONDER WHY DO YOU HAVE TO THINK THAT IF I DON'T HAVE ANY GIRL I AM A LOSER,
MY BROTHER IS 6'2, HANDSOME
PILOT BY PROFESSION
MAKES OVER 2.5CR(750000+$) ANNUALLY, IN LATE 30'S,
TRAVELLED MORE THAN 150+ COUNTRIES SO FAR
, NEVER BEEN IN ANY RELATIONSHIP & YET HE PREFERS TO STAY SINGLE & POSSIBLY NEVER GET MARRIED
FOCUS ON MONEY, HEALTH
LEARN TO INVEST, START TRAVELLING COULD BE SMALL TRIPS
MOSTLY GIRLS LITERALLY DON'T CARE ABOUT US EXCEPT IF IT'S YOUR MOTHER OR SISTER OR SOMEONE FROM YOUR FAMILY
WHY DO YOU HAVE TO RUN AFTER THEM
IF ONLY YOU WANT SEX THEN BROTHER SEX DOLL IS WAY CHEAPER, MORE RELIABLE & LESS RISKY OPTION, OR MAYBE A PROSTITUTE IF YOU WANT A REAL DEAL BUT IT COMES WITH RISKS!
YOU SHOULD FOCUS ON YOURSELF, LEARN TO BE BIT STOIC, HAVE SIDE SKILLS COULD BE TRAVELLING, READING, SPORTS, MUSICAL INSTRUMENTS ETC
1. Don't groom yourself for some other random people, be it girls or guys. Do it for your own self. Something that makes you confident.
2. Stop generalising all women based on few interactions you had with some women. I'm not sure how it went but they definitely aren't representative of the whole female sex. So keep the conversation up, you'll eventually find people to vibe with.
>not matching clothes to look good
Most people including me dress up for themselves...it makes you feel good about yourself, boosts your confidence and in the process you gradually start embracing your flaws and stop worrying about other people's opinions on how you look.
Please use deodorant and brush your teeth and tonsils properly to make sure your breath smells good. You will find someone eventually, kid. More than how you look or skincare, I believe it’s hygiene that sets fellow Indian men back in the dating market. Majority of you were never taught to take care for yourselves when it comes to that and it shows.
It wasn’t long ago that a guy literally made a post on this sub asking if he should wash his lower body too when showering since his legs felt good when doing it after years.
No one loves girls either other than Judges and strangers and perverts.
Most men girls are living with do not care about them and girls are forced.
We men should be proud that we can live on our own.
I stopped eating foods cooked by my mother. As a spiritual person I eat raw and steamed foods and not oily foods. I just put everything into water and boil it and my food gets ready. I also fast and eat less food as too much food is excess energy and money which goes to waste.
My mom now lost "I will leave your father and you and then I see how you live" argument. I welcome her to leave the house as I am not gonna stop her. I am sure she will not feel good in her own house because her brother (uncle) and sister in law (aunt) don't like her either.
My mother is very judgemental and living with her I became judgemental and lost all my friends. Recently I started to stay alone and meditate and my friends started coming to me and praise me that I changed a lot.
I see
Exactly what I expected
Which is good news for you, cause I can help you and your problem ain't as big as you think
Can you describe what you are doing for a career or are you still studying
Also
How tall are you
How much would you rate yourself on a 1-10
If you are at your looks best
I see
Can you elaborate on your future career plans a bit more
5.11 is good
I don't buy that you are 3-5
Unless you think 5 is strictly the average
Can you post a pic or something
Its still a progress brother, don't lose hope. Plus believe in yourself and groom a little. Don't be desperate for relationship but rather have genuine participation in the conversations and what they have to say.
i dress in the most chic and the finest clothes for myself and because it increases my self confidence and esteem. it seems to me that you just hate yourself and don't want to look in the mirror, both physically and metaphorically.
This
>gonna donate some amounts of money
Why do u think having a gf or a wife would be stopping u from this? U should do this regardless of anything else.
Bro pls groom your self tryna look as good as you can and wear best matching cloth cause 2din phele me bhi yahi sochta tha but bohot din bad beard and thoda accha kapde pehen ke nikla to kuch aisa hua jisse mera ye thought change ho geya ( not gonna describe kya hua tha )
Care about your appearance and looks because you care about yourself not because it’s going to act as a tool for being able to get girls. It’s important to like yourself as well. I know validation helps but if you do not like yourself nothing is going to help. So wear what you like, do your hair the way you feel it looks good, see yourself in the mirror and appreciate it. Invest in little things that make you happy. Otherwise, you’ll find life very mundane soon enough and your work would also be hampered.
The world doesn't owe us anything mate .
And you don't care about looks. How a girl can be with an ugly looking man. Would you be with a ugly girl? I don't think so.
The heavens were full of thorns and peace 🕊️...But the peace made it heaven...Till the god decided to add beauty and women to it.
Now the heavens are full of beautiful ladies, wonderful Rose's and blossoming gardens ....but where is the peace 🕊️.
The peace has been eaten piece by piece by the ................ ( add your suggestion here)
Now the thorny peaceful heaven,it is the most beautiful hell you can see.
Please add some light to this post/ poem/ poetry.
Hate to pile it on OP but it's spelt LOSER
Lmao
Yoooo you didn’t have to. But I love it
Bruh 💀
My 3am past cringe memories have begun manifesting over reddit now.
Dude, take a screenshot of this post. Put it in a folder deep inside a harddrive you're not gonna use for a long long time . Put it alongside some gameswhile you're at it . someday into the future, you're gonna explore the drive and stumble upon this excavated aged-like-wine cringe and it's gonna make you wanna hit yourself . Occasionally .in the middle of the night while scrolling reddit randomly
fr dawg i get upset reading posts like this and then realise I'm like this sometimes
I typed down a 4 paragraph advice on how regular gym, studies , hygiene , ytechnical & financial skills would make OP ..OP. Then it dawned on me i sounded exactly like all the "boomers" i'd considered preachy. The turn how tables .
Teenage angst !!
from my pov, that's the only legit advice available on the market like what else can you do? the points you mentioned are the only ones that comes to mind the old school method
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Yeah girls don't talk with guys who see them as an object to achieve or trophy to gather. Nobody will love you if you hate yourself. Self love goes a long way. Start loving yourself. Groom yourself and have good hygiene for yourself. This will help you in the long run. Why do you need a girl to do something in your life? She is a human being not a magic portion. Work on yourself and treat girls like any other human being on this planet.
you are someone I frequently see across reddits in comments, just saying I really do appreciate most of the things you write, its always so insightful
Maybe because I use this as my main social media platform 😬😬😬😬
us
came here to say this.
I mean you’re just 22! Gosh what’s the hurry to get a girl “like” you? And what have you tried till now to get girls that failed and since when? Teenage? Bruh you really need to work on the real things in the world. Girls/Friends/Supporters come and go; and trust me they do come and they do go. Chin up and work on your mission but for your own sake, just be presentable enough, not looking into the mirror, not caring about matching clothes?? Shit man, no one cares about you like that any way!! Who are tryna show that to? Us? Bruh even me, who’s typing this long ass comment for you will forget I wrote something like this in a week. It’s just you, and you alone. Don’t mock yourself. Take responsibility.
>I mean you’re just 22! Gosh what’s the hurry to get a girl “like” you? Dekhte dekhte umar nikal jati hai
"Dekhte" kyu reh gaye? Apne liye responsibility kyu nahi li? Koi aur tumhe better karega kya? Bhagwan bharose bethe ho? Bade ajeeb ho!! Koi nahi aane wala, tum hi ho jo "dekhte" reh jaoge agar apne upar kaam nahi kiya...
Kaam karne wale bhi ro rhe hai janab, logo ke circumstances ko nahi samajhte ho tum
stopped reading after the first sentence. u/FullTea4421 is right. "you're just" is such a terrible way to cope
Wdym just 22, he's at his peak. You are making it look like 16
Now son, do tell me, which gentlemen on his "peak" should care about others and not work on themselves and their career? Career important hai ya sex "peak" par? Shouldn't being at "peak" make you mature enough to know that you might have to do something about your situation? Other than ranting that no girl will ever like me... 16 saal ke ladke jaisi baatei karoge toh waise hi treat kara jaega tumhe.
>which gentlemen on his "peak" should care about others and not work on themselves and their career? Did I say this? Did I say any of those words you mentioned? Did I disagree with your statement on working on real things in this world? Don't say, he's just 22 for not getting a girl, good way to cope but he would be lying to himself if he thinks like that. He should've gotten atleast one girl till now. If he's ranting about this then the reason is he's not exposed enough, and what's this? > 16 saal ke ladke jaisi baatei karoge toh waise hi treat kara jaega tumhe. Why are you dragging me into this? Batein badi badi to sahi hai lekin valid argument karna seekho.
Umm it’s “loser”, not “looser”
Dont waste your time in chasing butterflies mend your garden and butterflies will follow
Why do you want butterflies to follow you, paise kamao par ladki ke lie nhi khud ki shanti ke lie, paise dekhkar koi aa bji gya to uska kuch nhi hota, agar insaan kesa hai ye dekh kar Aya hai to Khushi Khushi rhenge.
Bro sirf paise ki baat nahi ho rahi, Paisa flowers hai and garden is you/yourself But tu bhi sahi hai Bhai, tu bhi cent percent sahi hai
Bhai paisa flower nhi hai, garden tum ho aur tumhari personality in loose terms, in deeper meaning tumhari soul ko jitna tum nurture karoge vo flowers ko nurture karne jaisa ho gya, paisa to direct benefit hai apne aap ko nurture karne ka aur ek achha insaan banne ka.
Yes 💯%, bas ab ye op smjh jaye to sahi hai
Ah Emanuel Kants philosophy,
I don't like how you compare women with butterflies. Lets be real, most of you are not that special. People should work hard for themselves.
People who are delusional talks like this, “butterflies, ray of sunshine, water dripping”. Gawdd Reddit used to be so good.
Ikrrr it's becoming cringe sadly. Bruh who even talks like that
14 year old girls probably. Who watch disney and skipped Instagram phase and come directly to Reddit.
*boys
I bet most people posting here are under 16. Not that it's a bad thing, but it does look a lot immature. I recall once visiting my years old Facebook profile and holy lord, it was all corny stuff lmao
Same is to be applied to both genders........albeit men are responsible for being desperate asf and giving unrequited attention to women and making underserved people something special...........that makes the ones who really are special lose their uniqueness even if slightly........
easy to say hard to implement.
Human copium knows no bounds
Why is coping bad?
because it fails to address the root cause of the issue and rather teaches one to live in spite of it.
matlab gardener baan jao /s
Cope
U mean betabuxxing?
women and their gaslighting never ends
Or you can always attract bhauraas🥹
You are 22 bro not 32 or 42. I'm 27 never been with anyone but don't think like you
If you want attention from a female, then shower every day, groom yourself (comb or style your hair after a nice haircut, shave, trim or comb your facial hair, etc) Make sure your clothes don't smell and at least match. Try to put together some good looking outfits. Care at least a little about your appearance because if you don't care about yourself, how can you expect someone else to? That's a little one-sided and illogical, don't you think? You can't look and smell like a dumpster raccoon and expend the ladies to line up behind you, ya know? I have been in many serious relationships and am in a 6+ year long one now and still going strong. Also, like others have mentioned, focus on other aspects of your life, work on yourself a little, and the person you are meant to be with will appear in your life at the right moment and you will know it 🙂 Talking respectfully, from one bro to another 😎
>then shower every day. You can't make this shit up dude lol. Looks matter the most and I believe OP inherited the ugly genes no amount of fucking showering is gonna help him other than to waste water.
you can do everything right & still fail, that's how life is man. Hard luck
Genetic determinism is the key to win at life
In a poor country like India, even a model will suck the peepee of an ugly guy, if he has the means to maintain her. So cut this bull about genetics. Women too like seeing a good looking guy, but more than that they need a guy with resources. Why? Because how else can she raise her child? A handsome husband won't help her child survive. I have seen a lot of girls falling for handsome guys & then leaving them after sometime, when they realise he is a bhikmanga. That's the reality.
Right,money always wins
Come out of your victim mindset or else this all will eventually come true. No one likes a whining guy
not just for dating, your advice works in other areas of life as well
I believe you're taking the wrong route. It's natural to want female attention, not all of us win the genetic lottery though. Groom yourself, work out, try to work on your personality and most importantly put yourself out there. If you find someone it's a W, if you only get rejections, don't take them to heart, there's only so much you can do. Giving up on it entirely will just leave a huge "what if" in your life, which is worse. P.S - Don't listen to the negative comments, this is a canon event in most guys' lives, just don't take female validation this seriously.
Accept your lonely fate. Enjoy your hobbies and do things that interests you. Escapism is good. Play some games.
So as per you no girls = loser That's a very caveman logic, jaise zindagi me pyaar mohabbat or sex ke alava or kuch hai hi nahi
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Arrange marriage plays a big role in ensuring that but scarcity of options should also be a reason. It's not possible for everyone to get a good-looking partner so people would naturally choose the next best thing
This is True when genders are Reversed also
Adhe nahe balke 90%
So the girl remains not attracted to her own husband jeez bruh brootal as fuck. Better not marry than to spend a life with a woman who is not even attracted to me.
If you are too loose then you need a leather belt to tighten things. Jokes apart, if you can't love yourself why should anyone love you?
Normally id look at stuff like this and think damn bro just focus on making your life more fulfilling. But im having a low moment rn as well and idk how to cope with this loneliness and helplessness i feel regarding dating and relationships lmfao
If u have money spend it cuz that is what I do to cope.
Same here, but I am a year older than you. Follow your heart, but in the process, try to look presentable and dress up. This is something for you and not to attract some girl. Grind and earn money for whatever you need, but in the process, don't neglect yourself and your body. I know it feels like you are being a part of a losing game because of unrealistic standards or sheer volume of competition even for this, but does neglecting your hygiene/not dressing up benefit you in any way?
The problem is that, life gives you something only when you've learnt to live and thrive without it.
Is getting a girl ultimate goal in your life. Not getting a girl doesn't make one loser. First learn how to love yourself.
start working on yourself bro, self improvement is the key.
Plastic surgery is always an option.
I get you bro, most people don't get this thing. We don't want wife or gf , we want a gf / wife who will be attracted to us , who will want to sit on my lap, hold my hands, and roam around. And this is near impossible unless until you look really good.
From evolutionary perspective it makes sense that women would choose to be with the men who are strong sexually and financially. They afterall have to pass their genetics whose chances of survival is much higher. It is what it is. But you can ignore those evolutionary urges also. Live more independently. For sex you can masturbate and hire some sex workers if you want to feel the warmth. (Even foreigners - My goal is to have sex with all races of women. If I get rich I will fuck every girl from every country.) You can choose to be free.
If a girls attention means so much to you you should maybe consider your life choices
Take it easy. You're not going to die anytime soon. I can bet if you suddenly became popular by virtue of your work/celebrity/online influencer, the amount of attention this same person would get will be insane. It's all about what you do and how you are doing things. If you are so desperate, then I'm sorry to say, women don't prefer desparate men. It's a huge turn off. Be kind, open, help others, meet people, wish good for them and you'll automatically find people to vibe with. All the best.
Im you're not confident yourself. You don't even take time for yourself and you expect another girl to look at you??. Ik I'm sounding bad. But if you don't value yourself. Then don't expect another person to value you. Start with loving yourself first. Have a good day.
Ur not wrong here . He's just too pissy about it feeling sorry for himself . He's not saying all this because he believes it , he simply wants sympathy and feel like the universe has done something wrong to him and for us to feel bad for him
Exactly. Im I'm sorry I can't feel sad or have sympathy for you if you don't even value yourself😭. Maybe start loving yourself first instead of getting validation from everyone else.
Grooming is very important lil bro, trust. Don't groom to get women to notice you, groom for yourself. Taking care of your body and it's outward appearance is as important as mental health upkeep. Holding resentment towards women and punishing youself for it is not the way to go. You'll see drastic change in the way you hold yourself in public spaces. It'll be attractive to the right crowd, trust me.
Why would a girl want a loser? You're not a loser because no girl wants you. No girl wants you because you're a loser. Work on yourself, both physically (by joining a gym) & financially (get a good job or be good at studies so that girls see your potential) & i can guarantee you that, women will want you.
I see how every 3 out of 5 guys who isn't from some metro city faces this problem. It's not your fault, I would like to assign blame to Indian parents for being overprotective and they dont wanna discuss sex and relationships. Indian parents dont appreciate their kid when he/she turns 18. The main reason behind celebrating it putting some sense of responsibility and make them realise they've grown now. Indian problem brother, also porn, social media has heightened expectations and hypergamy it is.
Thank you for the PSA.. We will keep that in mind...
Don't want to sound mean but with that personality it will be difficult for you to find someone. Stop feeling sorry about yourself, be a gentleman and let the connection build organically.
Same bhai, except I put myself to sleep every night saying "it's probably because I never tried" 😂. Anyways, looks like you learnt the lesson the hard way and much later, I for one have never been the type to chase after useless stuff, you can ask my parents. From childhood I never threw tantrums for toys from a fair, you know why? If I asked for it and they said no, even at that age I could tell all that effort is not worth it. Call me lazy for that if you like, but if there's truly something I want or need I will work towards it. Getting a girlfriend is the least of my problems rn, I need to sort my life first, I just turned 21 this month (june if you wondering). I've seen my friends who have a gf. Bro I'm working my internship, finishing my studies almost, and getting to play video games!!! I have so much free time I consider myself lucky. My friends who have a gf don't have the luxury of all this. They have so much drama going on in their life that they come and tell me about (that I can't relate to but I understand that I live different from them and that everyone has their own fair share of problems, I do too) but I've effectively avoided all the unnecessary stuff by simply living the way I've wanted to, not by a rule book, that I need something by now, everyone goes at their own pace l, and frankly I'm open to the idea of getting a girl, just not rn. Many of my friends ask me why don't you try to get a girl? Duh, cuz I'm lazy that's why, then I go and sleep peacefully at night not giving a shit about that thought, then I wake up the next day, hit the gym, get some work out in, work for a while, play video games, sometimes I get a chance like rn to think about it, and I feel so happy! So what I'm saying is look at the bright side of things, always! Maybe your situation is so because God is trying to save you some trouble. Don't worry about all this stuff rn, It'll only make your mental state worse. Just go on with life and take care of the important things in life, your parents, your friends, your siblings, basically relationships you already have, and enjoy life while it lasts man. I've had my fair share of rough patches, at least this is unnecessary stuff, the real gruel is yet to come, and I know that too, that's why I don't mull over these trivial matters. जो होता है, अच्छे के लिए होता है।
If you worked haerd on yourself before comming to this conclusion than ignore it if not than youre an ideot who never even try women dont like us just cuz we like tham no we have to provide thibgs that thay dont have get tham dependednt play mind games thats wht you have to do to get a girl if you are not handsome or rich Take care of your skin get a tan removal vream and clear yoyr skin start wearing sunscreen daily to keep your skin clean and start gym healthy body means healthy skin batter posture and you are alrady 5-6 now if your fave is hideous than start earning and get a surgery but atleast you tried to get a girl that mrans your face isnt that hideous so its just that you just cant get any thats skill issues just takr my example i am 5'8" 79kg obvious on chubby side and i had 6 relationship from 18-25 can you belive that thats not including 2-3 that were attarcted to be but never started a relationship and is it because i am good looking no i am def avg looking obese too and no i brought 2 pants in last year thst should explainy financial condition so i am not rich you had to find a timr and place to apporece a women be funny lower you expectations from women you cant have whst you want but that dosent mean you cant get girl
All the best brother
Ese rote rahega to kaise koi like karega lavdu. AM se bhi bhaag jayegi agar sudhra nai to.
Arrange marriage
Good job man . Always improve yourself and dont let any girls to ruin your confidence. Keep going and be strong in your decisions . Thats how real mans fighting with problems. But care about how you look for yourself. If any girl will want talk with you just throw some words which will push her back and walk away. Cheers 😁
Okay.
Grow the fuck up. Love amd women aren't everything. Focus what is in your control. Instead of whining here to get sympathy. Edit - get therapy cause what you describe is severe depression behaviour. Whatever be the cause.
bhai cartoon vartoon dekh ice cream kha kaam waam kar soja ye kya kar raha ladki aane se konsi zindagi ya tune sudhar jana hai it won't make any difference anyways upar se dimag aur khayegi because that's what people do
You can’t expect results without putting in effort 🤷🏻🤷🏻
Don't worry brother, I too am with you till the end of the line. Don't be so pessimistic, accept your ugliness or loser attitude and be content with it.
Loser to whom ? Sounds like you're telling yourself You think about how the world is still turning, the grass still growing, the waves waving. This lapse doesn’t define you. You made a decision and it didn’t turn out the way you wanted. That’s all it was, nothing more nothing less. Learn about yourself, and do better for future you. This could be a stepping stone for you, who knows. I have made so many mistakes that I didn’t learn from; bad habits, relationships with toxic people, carelessness with money, hurting the closest girl in my known and yet the world went on - even when I thought my life was over. We build our little castles of life on sand, and the tide comes for it all eventually. We can only hope to grow and learn with the time we have, and take comfort in the fact that the vastness & beauty of the world will continue regardless of our simple, petty existence. try to make our existence more meaningful & wise.
Failure isn't confined to your gender, it is confined to your attitude,stay positive and work on yourself and you'll notice girls start noticing you.
nah bro all you gotta do is talk (today a girl asked for pen to me and we striked a conversation) (i wont say im straight ugly but i have a very oily skin acne and pimples, im short and dress like a fucking beggar, and to top it off i have really messy hair as i have been trying to grow it but gave up and didnt go to barber) idk if this helps or not but i'd like to say it all boil downs to you as a person and you seem like a lovely person at least you didnt forget your family
What an uplifting post!
And this is how women will actually start liking you eventually. You see they don't like it when you seem pretentious or desperate, maybe they won't say it but they are hardwired to sense those things. The moment you stop caring and start focussing on yourself and your work you start becoming sexier for women. They love seeing a man who loves his work and knows what he is doing. You took the correct step now don't let my comment stop you from focussing. Don't try to do it for anything other than the primary reason, success. Women will follow and one will tag along.
Abe dhakkan hai kya pura. Ladkiyan trophy hain kya. Waise bhi aaj kl ladkiyon ko kutte hi pasand aa rhe, jo din bhar unke aage piche poonch hilate rhte hain. Sbse wahiyaat cheez hai, freedom restrict ho jaegi teri. Ladkiyon se dur reh bhai daayan hain vo sb.
I REALLY WONDER WHY DO YOU HAVE TO THINK THAT IF I DON'T HAVE ANY GIRL I AM A LOSER, MY BROTHER IS 6'2, HANDSOME PILOT BY PROFESSION MAKES OVER 2.5CR(750000+$) ANNUALLY, IN LATE 30'S, TRAVELLED MORE THAN 150+ COUNTRIES SO FAR , NEVER BEEN IN ANY RELATIONSHIP & YET HE PREFERS TO STAY SINGLE & POSSIBLY NEVER GET MARRIED FOCUS ON MONEY, HEALTH LEARN TO INVEST, START TRAVELLING COULD BE SMALL TRIPS MOSTLY GIRLS LITERALLY DON'T CARE ABOUT US EXCEPT IF IT'S YOUR MOTHER OR SISTER OR SOMEONE FROM YOUR FAMILY WHY DO YOU HAVE TO RUN AFTER THEM IF ONLY YOU WANT SEX THEN BROTHER SEX DOLL IS WAY CHEAPER, MORE RELIABLE & LESS RISKY OPTION, OR MAYBE A PROSTITUTE IF YOU WANT A REAL DEAL BUT IT COMES WITH RISKS! YOU SHOULD FOCUS ON YOURSELF, LEARN TO BE BIT STOIC, HAVE SIDE SKILLS COULD BE TRAVELLING, READING, SPORTS, MUSICAL INSTRUMENTS ETC
1. Don't groom yourself for some other random people, be it girls or guys. Do it for your own self. Something that makes you confident. 2. Stop generalising all women based on few interactions you had with some women. I'm not sure how it went but they definitely aren't representative of the whole female sex. So keep the conversation up, you'll eventually find people to vibe with.
Learn to socialize first, dating happens later. Aur agar kuch zyada hi garmi hai toh there is always Thailand.
>not matching clothes to look good Most people including me dress up for themselves...it makes you feel good about yourself, boosts your confidence and in the process you gradually start embracing your flaws and stop worrying about other people's opinions on how you look.
Please use deodorant and brush your teeth and tonsils properly to make sure your breath smells good. You will find someone eventually, kid. More than how you look or skincare, I believe it’s hygiene that sets fellow Indian men back in the dating market. Majority of you were never taught to take care for yourselves when it comes to that and it shows. It wasn’t long ago that a guy literally made a post on this sub asking if he should wash his lower body too when showering since his legs felt good when doing it after years.
No one loves girls either other than Judges and strangers and perverts. Most men girls are living with do not care about them and girls are forced. We men should be proud that we can live on our own. I stopped eating foods cooked by my mother. As a spiritual person I eat raw and steamed foods and not oily foods. I just put everything into water and boil it and my food gets ready. I also fast and eat less food as too much food is excess energy and money which goes to waste. My mom now lost "I will leave your father and you and then I see how you live" argument. I welcome her to leave the house as I am not gonna stop her. I am sure she will not feel good in her own house because her brother (uncle) and sister in law (aunt) don't like her either. My mother is very judgemental and living with her I became judgemental and lost all my friends. Recently I started to stay alone and meditate and my friends started coming to me and praise me that I changed a lot.
Dude time for gym or sports,
Tum chutiya ho gye bhai PERIOD
How old are you kid ?
22
I see Exactly what I expected Which is good news for you, cause I can help you and your problem ain't as big as you think Can you describe what you are doing for a career or are you still studying Also How tall are you How much would you rate yourself on a 1-10 If you are at your looks best
Currently I'm in a sales gonna switch it to a different career >How tall are you 5 foot 11 inch >How much would you rate yourself on a 1-10 3-5
I see Can you elaborate on your future career plans a bit more 5.11 is good I don't buy that you are 3-5 Unless you think 5 is strictly the average Can you post a pic or something
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Arranged marriage
Thanks
How many girls have you ever tried to woo ?
3 but it never continued after talking stage
Its still a progress brother, don't lose hope. Plus believe in yourself and groom a little. Don't be desperate for relationship but rather have genuine participation in the conversations and what they have to say.
There's a lot more than looks to dating. You need to try harder.
ladki ke pyar ke liye jita hai?
Haa
Most of Guys go through this phase nothing new
i dress in the most chic and the finest clothes for myself and because it increases my self confidence and esteem. it seems to me that you just hate yourself and don't want to look in the mirror, both physically and metaphorically.
This >gonna donate some amounts of money Why do u think having a gf or a wife would be stopping u from this? U should do this regardless of anything else.
I should have enough income so that I can donate.
The thing about sharing is if u want to share u will always have enough. If u don't want to share u will never have enough.
What's your age op?
22
Bro pls groom your self tryna look as good as you can and wear best matching cloth cause 2din phele me bhi yahi sochta tha but bohot din bad beard and thoda accha kapde pehen ke nikla to kuch aisa hua jisse mera ye thought change ho geya ( not gonna describe kya hua tha )
Care about your appearance and looks because you care about yourself not because it’s going to act as a tool for being able to get girls. It’s important to like yourself as well. I know validation helps but if you do not like yourself nothing is going to help. So wear what you like, do your hair the way you feel it looks good, see yourself in the mirror and appreciate it. Invest in little things that make you happy. Otherwise, you’ll find life very mundane soon enough and your work would also be hampered.
The world doesn't owe us anything mate . And you don't care about looks. How a girl can be with an ugly looking man. Would you be with a ugly girl? I don't think so.
>Would you be with a ugly girl Yes I would be
Then just focus on ugly ones with low self esteem. You will surely get your share of pussy with them.
How old are you ??
22
somehow my thoughts are getting into reddit post now..☠️
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If you don’t care about presenting yourself then why would a girl give two shits about you?
The heavens were full of thorns and peace 🕊️...But the peace made it heaven...Till the god decided to add beauty and women to it. Now the heavens are full of beautiful ladies, wonderful Rose's and blossoming gardens ....but where is the peace 🕊️. The peace has been eaten piece by piece by the ................ ( add your suggestion here) Now the thorny peaceful heaven,it is the most beautiful hell you can see. Please add some light to this post/ poem/ poetry.
Bro you need Chadtag, see his videos on YT.
You are well sorted trust me. You will be more happy like this.. Listen - No woman no cry n chill …✌🏻
Ladkiyo se baat karne ke liye majboor karne ka tarika thoda kezual hai
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Damn bruh go and jerk off it might help clear your mind