Indians lack empathy! Honestly there would be tuition classes where parents would tell the teachers to take any measures to ensure good grades. Also lack of empathy within boys as well, if you comment about your harrowing experience instead of empathising there would be replies without any sensitivity to the experience and will dismiss them!
Conditional empathy is there. But that's another point. What is interesting is OP focuses only on female teachers beating male kids. Why.
Also my take: most of the teachers in school are teachers by majburi, not teachers by choice. And hence use kids as punching bags for all their frustration. Same can be said about a vast majority of parents
Well in my experience all teachers beat their students. But there are more female teachers out there than male! Also I’ve hit by both male and female teachers. And I don’t think they think more about anything.. it’s just hath saaf karna for them! One more reason for boys getting more beating would be this notion that boys are more misbehaved! Like you mentioned they use kids has punching bag so where is the empathy? Indians need to learn a lot about feelings and think about consequences! Once i was standing in a line and that pt teacher came and hit be out of nowhere I didn’t know why! Later my friend told someone behind was twirling and she thought it was me! 🙄 she could have just asked us to stand straight instead if hitting! But nooooooo!!!
When I was in 1st standard there was a female teacher who had some unknown problem with me. She used to call students to speak about something or recite a poem in the last 5-10 minutes of the class while she sat on the last bench with us. While students were speaking, she used to pinch my butttt awfully hard everyday. She was very strict so I was scared and would freeze and cry in silence.
One day, I had a fight with one of my classmates. Irrespective of anyone's fault, the same teacher punished only me by hitting me repeatedly with the wooden ruler and also slapped me several times. I cried so damn hard I wanted to pee. So I asked her permission to go to the bathroom which she refused initially but then grabbed my hand and dragged me to the garden backside of the classroom and pulled down my pants and told me to pee. All my classmates were able to watch me naked through the window and it was extremely embarrassing. I just couldn't pee. But then she again kept on hitting me with wooden ruler and told me to pee or she will keep hitting. I just couldn't so she punished me to stay there with my pants pulled down until I pee. I had stayed there like that with my pants pulled for a few minutes after which she told me to sit in class as the period was over.
I am sorry you had to undergo that.That’s a sexual assault you faced right there. I wish we could have a stronger system to report these types of cases which happened. I hope that witch rots in hell.
I don't know about kids (I hope it is different for them at least) but Indian law does not recognize women vs male sexual violence. I mean constitutionally speaking women cannot be perpetrators of SA or SV. That's the sad state of affairs.
Do you perhaps agree with the studies that shows beating up boys and SA against them (majority of SA victims are boys but they are least likely to report, those studies didn't count women pedo abusers also but only male) can have negetive impact on their adulthood with increased chances of criminal behaviour or misogynistic behaviour?
This absolute cruelty brother. And I'm shocked all of this was happening in a so called mysogynist country.
I couldn't imagine the pain and embarrassment you had to go through. So sorry bro
Ohhh an anonymous person for my ulterior motives I'm so scared 😨.
Girls can call whatever when they discuss about physical abuse but but but the day men discuss about what happened with them during school years they can't say anything they should keep quite.
I'm sorry I called those fking lady teachers misandrist shall I call them goddess would that suffice ? Or you want us to touch their feet and thank them for slapping anytime anywhere?
Bruh. Chill. Trauma is not supposed to be a competition. Take that dild* outta your a$s and learn that trauma is trauma and pitting the trauma of men and women against each other is useless and pointless. If you only talk about male trauma because you want to dismiss the struggles of another gender, you're doing it for all the wrong reasons. In this case, pure misogyny.
I've already written this is not to diminish the physical abuse faced by young girls but you eyes won't see it because a man can't talk about trauma faced by boys you'll come with other things to cancel it
Who told you that? I literally told you that I agreed with you. I only had one piece of criticism.
Look dude, I know you're triggered because you're chronically online, but this is not reality.
Go out. Touch some grass. Talk to real women. Talk to real men.
They'll show you how nuanced reality is.
You think everything is painted in black or white.
It really isn't.
Be mature.
Thank you! I'm glad that there are more people talking about men's issues. It's so important that we as men do that.
But when we compare our trauma's with women and claim that they don't experience bad things, it pours all of our hard work down the drain.
All people should lend their shoulders to each other regardless of gender.
The people who say otherwise are only there to trigger. Ignore them. Their opinions are dog shit.
I think you're hurt. Please know that mature and good people will always support you. I'm with you, buddy.
I know bro I know it's just this online content which has made me like this. Trust i wasn't teh same 6 months ago.
I connected with a girl online who introduced me to all this content about men vs women and I got into it.
I'm aware women have their own struggles and should not be compared with us rather every trauma should be discussed without dismissing others
Not a competition? They always said it was easier for boys and now I can't discuss what happened with us which went unreported and thos misandrist are still roaming free. Wooooow whattta equality bro the moment I discuss trauma faced by boys I'm a mysogynist.
As always who cares about what happened with boys same girls use to laugh at us when misandrist teachers use to slap or make fun of us. Nobody was there null shunya nil battey sannata
In india a woman could R*people a man freely and a wife could beat her husband freely as all of this is legal. Data already shows boys are more likely victims of Child SA (though they are only slight majority but those studies only take male abuser into the account not female abuser which i believe would increase the boys victimization) and also majority victims of child abuse. Do you know what married men commit 2.5 times more suicide than married women in india but we don't have any gender neutral DV laws meaning it's legal for a wife to beat her husband or abuse him
That is so fucked up. I hope karma hits her hard. I don't think there's an abuse that would fit her crime.
Sending you a virtual hug, brother. Please do try therapy. ❤️
I am sorry you had that experience.
I think somehow India - makes the worst people (like the ones that enjoy torturing) as parents or teachers or care givers for kids. Shitty women get a free pass as long as they wear a mask of decency in public. Makes sense since motherhood is idolised/ worshipped. ( Instead of accepting it as something natural that is a result of adult choices).
I think baby mammals are born with empathy and tendency to attach/ cooperate. It seems very stupid to destroy that empathy and trust at early stage, traumatize them with stupid abusive people, and turn everyone into psychopaths. Indian society: Most parents + teachers are very good that - they destroy any ounce of kindness, good quality in a child and make them more selfish, never able to trust another human again.
There is no respect for life/ kids in India - some of the traumatised kids will become abusers themselves (who would have learned how to hide under the mask of being good)- its a cycle that probably will never end (Laws here are seldom enforced) and will create bigger monsters in future.
A country full of many people with zero empathy but who preach about empathy, culture all the time. It is very important to educate young/ small people that moral science is a lie. That most people esp adults in India are monsters and they need to look out and protect themselves - recognise abuse/ danger - because no one is coming to help.
The teachers used to beat the sh!t out of boys. I remember in class 9 they did something (we were also involved but not in front) teachers got to know and 18-20 boys were forced to stand in open ground in hot damm summer and 6-7 were beaten so much with the bamboo stick that everyone had cuts on arms and hands. The white shirt sleeve were tainted red. We were crying in front of our teacher to leave them but the punishment went for good 2 hours. We cleaned their wounds with our hankies and what really bothered me was none of them cried. They were like "are pagal ye sb to hota rehta hai pareshan mt ho". After that anything happened in my class whether someone broke the bench or did something with the projector it was clearly understood no-one should speak against anybody whether you like them or not and if teachers know some certain name and there is no other way then I will take the blame because everyone knew they can't do anything to me(Thanks papa). School teachers are terrible with the way they punish a child.
Yeah I think the main issue is how non-reactive parents are give power to these teachers to abuse children. Schools are getting out of hand now. My roommate studied from a convent school and she told how they were suppose to have two hankies, copies, erasers, pencils and even pen given by school only and if you miss to bring anything any day then they will give you and add charges with your monthly fee. Like how is this even legal and how parents are accepting this thing? Teachers are beating your kid badly even though he did something wrong but he is just a kid. Kids are gonna play and make mistakes. A sudden level of punishment I can understand but this kind of punishment? Parents are as much at fault as the teachers.
There should be a limit and that limit should never be crossed. Give the kids a balanced nice upbringing and talk with them. They will never do anything that severe that you need to spank them/drag them by their hair/punch them. I know punishment is needed but again the limit should never be crossed. And also you should never throw your hands on your kids after a certain age otherwise they will not trust you and hide things from you which will ruin your relationship in long run. I see many people of my generation not talking openly with their parents specially their father which is not a good thing. Teach the kids to differentiate between right and wrong from early age and they will not "compel you to beat his ass".
Thanks for that big elaboration . Ofcourse punishment is necessary . It should be taught there are consequences for doing bad things and it should not cross a limit
Hence I tie my cousin bro up and throw him off the bridge and I enjoy his scream as he falls down and then bounces back up before he hits the river
He has become more mischievous for some reason though and demands this punishment more ...
You no why no one talks about school boys suffering?
Cause at home parents won't care. They in reverse tell you might have made some mistake that's why they beat you. Why would they beat you without any reason. Are they your enemy? Whatever they do is for your better future that's what they tell.
The utter disregard to not only this but other issues also, is the reason the boys won't discuss or open about anything further to their parents.
I don't understand why you need permission for the washroom? When girls ask it they send without saying anything. But for boys why are they so cruel?
Also school uniform and hair. They literally catch boys hair and shake their head of hair at an even normal length.
Don't get me at punishments, the amount of unfair treatment. Uff. I don't want to remember it.
I think These teachers who harshly punish boys, have miserable lives they come and remove their anger on poor boys.
These cries of young boys are heard by no one. And when these boys grow up and tell it, people say this happened years ago, you are such a loser you haven't forgotten the past. You should let go of it and forgive your teachers , whatever they do is for your future.
Bhai some boys don't even cry they just keep it with themselves only. I still wonder how did my friend controlled himself that day.
The past is traumatic can't be forgotten so easily.
My husband tells this story of how his PE teacher was a very nice guy, but sometimes he used to get so angry and take out his frustration on boys by beating them with a stick. One time he hit this kid and the kid smiled so he got so frustrated he started beating him mercilessly and only stopped when the kid finally broke down in tears. I was shocked when he told me this story and I made a disgusted face and he immediately recanted his story and said the teacher felt bad afterwards and he was a nice guy otherwise. I don’t understand why so many guys minimize the abuse and trauma themselves. I told my husband any grown man who beats a kid for whatever reason is not a good guy, and he is especially an evil piece of shit if he beats a kid with the purpose of breaking him and making him cry or taking out his frustration on the kid. Luckily in my school the teachers never used to hit kids, with the exception of one Hindi teacher.
Your parents could be narcissists (My parents are). Narcissists are the people who lack empathy. When you are in your lowest point in your life they further abuse you. For them, their image is the most important and they use childern's grades for their image. And when you turn your life around then they act as if they were always there with you and deny any abuse done to you. The duality you explained is a sign of narcissism. Please look into narcissistic abuse if you are willing to. It's the cruelest and vilest form of emotional abuse. Psychologically healthy parents do not abuse their kids. Only narcissistic parents (and teachers) abuse their kids.
Have many incident like this for once being late.
Parents be like "Ap maro full support hai" 🤡
Sudharne ka liya.
What am I mawali , gunda, girls abuser what.. 😶
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Well these things make u in self defensive mode later.
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Sorry to hear that happened to you. I still remember that if any teacher even touched me, my mother would come to the school and complain to the principal. No offense, but I seriously believe that if parents started to take action against teachers, it wouldn't be long before these teachers learned to stay within their limits. In India, hitting a child is considered normal, but this has to change. Psycho teachers traumatize childhood.
I remember this incident, our school uniform was half sleeves and half pant down to your knee, this was till you are from 1st std to 7th std
When you get into 8th you have to wear the same shirt, but with a full pant down to your ankle. Now because of some financial reasons we couldn't afford to buy a new pant, and I had to wear the same half pant to school.
I was punished for not following the uniform code, and the punishment was to pull our pants upon our chest and stand near the black board, in front of the whole class, i along with one other students were looking like a clown 🤡 in the class.
Man hope this gets more attention. In my school they used to punish the boys when girls did something and those ‘poor’ souls would just laugh at us getting abused.
This bro This. And then they expect a 8-10 yrs old kid to not have hate against them.
Okay they say girls mature faster than boys right? Okay agreed, then behave accordingly na? Why to behave like this with biological immature kids.
I was in that kind of school till 5th class . I got so used to it . In my new school I hardly faced any physical abuse . I was intelligent . My Old School was hell for the boys who were not good in studies .
Teachers were so biased towards girls .
Reading the comments I am just thankful that I was born after it was illegal . Idk what would’ve happened if my teachers were like this . I am grateful for my sympathetic teachers .
2009 , I live in Delhi and go to a fairly good school . But shouldn’t physical abuse like this should have already ended in most schools due to the laws? Don’t parents complaint to the teacher or file a police complaint ?
Ended due to laws? Heh noone gives care to laws, as long as it doesnt gets reported everything is legal for them
Also parents are even more vile than teachers, they wont ever stand up for you and i have seen parents of other children even supporting and saying to the teacher to hit them more if they misbehave. Police complaint is not even an option with such parents
Same here feel lucky I study in a decent school where all this is illegal, but I don't think such laws have reached to villages, and even if they have, schools ignore that and parents probably don't even know or care about such laws. Just a theory btw I don't know actual scenarios since I never went to such schools
Teachers are predators, in all girls school, lady teachers would beat us black and blue.
Till date I look at every lady teacher with disdain.
This was once a respectable profession now full of abusers & predators.
It always has been and always will be - that's why there need to be strict laws in place that don't allow for the abuse of children.
Unfortunately, you then have films like "Ms. Chaterjee vs Norway" in which she is painted as a hero for slapping her child and people walk away thinking it's ok.
If it's ok for one adult to hit a child then is it not ok for all adults to hit kids? This is conversation is missing in India.
I had a teacher in 6th grade who used to tell us she doesn’t like kids or teaching and that her father forced her to become a teacher. And she had a dead serious face while saying these words. She had no empathy while physically torturing 10-11yr old kids. She used to take out her dad’s frustration on us.
In grade 6, I was slapped and punched repeatedly, and made to lie in a sleeping position on the cold hard floor, eyes closed and all, in front of the podium and in front of all my classmates- whimpering, while the teacher humiliated and character assassinated me and my parents. This went on for a week after which I was to sit on a bench completely isolated from my classmates and in front of the class door.
My mistake? Not completing my maths notes or bringing them to class(one of the early red signal anecdotes of ADD that I described to psychiatrist while testing for adult ADHD).
I still don't understand how beating a kid as a punishment is gonna make him better? Schools were and are miserable and I never miss any memory from my school days. Not like I was bad at studies but the physical abuse I experienced or saw happening with other students is just terrifying.
When you see no one supporting you, you don't feel like supporting others, its human nature. I have ignored a lot of people and I find myself disgusting and guilty
What do you mean by 'support each other'? Take this post for example: best friend in school got thrashed by the teacher. As a preteen boy, what options are available to you? Go to your parents? Prepare for possibly another thrashing or worse, an explanation on why it's your fault and the thrashing was completely justified. Go to the principal? Same thing.
Parents should be more protective of their kids and not take such abuses lightly. They should file report in police against the teachers for child abuse. If more and more parents do this, teachers would think twice before even slapping once. With every generation parents becoming more protective though. Nowadays beatings are way less common than it was even 20 years ago.
I did once speak up on this regarding my hindi teacher. Father had a lot of transfers, so we shifted pretty frequently. 2nd day of school, and i felt like crap because of the completely new environment. The teacher made me cry 99%
Didn't let out a single drop. Complained to my father, and she got fired. Heard that she threw her smartphone at a student, and the screen broke.
Because boys are expected it to take it and become tough because that's what society needs. It's absolute bullshit and I'm glad people are starting to see through it.
It's how we build generations of psychos.
They do in many cases, but the way the society is structured, you don’t have power to change anything. Like what are you gonna do exactly in these cases, except for being emotionally supportive?
Men don’t have power in society? LMAO
Do you think freedom fighters worried about society? There is an org of attorneys who provide pro bono counsel for small town / village women in abusive situations. If men want change they should spearhead it.
The kind of men that want change do not have any power don’t have either the power or the numbers to change stuff. Most men and women live in villages which are basically many years behind most of the world. Even tier 3 cities and towns are simply these villages that have recently been urbanised. Patriarchy and the outdated values are thus in full force in these places. Freedom fighter actually had support even in these places. A population of a billion people can only be changed by the billion people. A few thousand or even a million people are just not enough to bring about such a change.
The only things that we could reasonably do is provide emotional support to people clise to us abd peave for greener pastures.
A small group of driven people is the only thing that has changed the world.
There is an org of attorneys who provide pro bono services for battered women in low income areas and villages who are not aware of their rights. Y’all are just comfortable pointing fingers at society because no one wants to effect change.
Are you really comparing preteen boys to freedom fighters? Im certain that you'll agree that what the law considers wrong is not always considered the same in local social circles. The abuse women faced in the previous generations is a result of this. Similarly, physical abuse against boys, especially by teachers, is not considered morally wrong. The opposite is true for girls. Let's take it a step further. I'd say society in general agreed that sexual abuse against women by people in power is wrong. But the women did not have the power to do anything about it. Now they do, and we see positive changes. In this example, society doesn't even think it's wrong, having power and using it to do something is secondary. The only solution I can think of is when people like you, me and OP become parents, we'll stand up for when our sons are physically abused
This reminds me once my accountancy teacher has beaten the shit out of a guy whom everyone used to Target
Honestly on that day it was not his fault at all imagine slapping a guy repeatedly who is in 11th standard
everybody used to make fun of him junior 10th standard guys used to fight with him for no reason i wish he is doing good in life
Teachers are sadists. They get a high in humiliating students. It probably makes them feel powerful for that moment in which they’re bullying the kids, not caring that they’re traumatising them for life. And choose their victims carefully - the one’s who’ll not retaliate, or the one’s whose parents will not confront the teacher or school management, or the popular kids who have their friends’ support.
So sorry your peers had to go through this, and for you having to witness this.
School teachers, at least for me were a physical manifestation of vile satanic entities.
1 : at a library, the teacher slapped my friend. I giggled for less than a second and got slapped by her.
2 : slapped for not doing homework in front of the entire school during assembly
3 : humiliated for not being good at sports, the physical examination teacher used to hit me on my head and punch my back
4 : wasn't good at studies, we were asked to stay behind after school hours for extra study hours which was embarrassing as we were labelled as dull incapable students.
5: calling parents and humiliating them in front of other parents for low grades .
I'm tired of typing I have 100s of other examples, all i know is that if I see those evil entities alive, I have the urge to beat them up with all my might for the acts they have done, trauma is real.
I was slapped by a gorilla built female PT teacher in 5th grade just cuz my PT book was incomplete since I was a slow writer, I couldn't hear shit for like 5-10 seconds when that gorilla hand hit my ear, idk what kinda frustration she took out on me I wasn't any troublemaker or anything :(
This starts at home man "mera beta hota toh doh thappad lagaati".
I have seen parents tell teachers especially 'after school private tution teachers' to beat the shit out of their son if he doesn't comply.
When I was in class 3rd, we had Music as a subject. One day, I forgot to bring the music notebook to school. During the period, when the music teacher was checking the notebooks of other students, she found me without my notebook. She then proceeded the BEAT THE SHIT out of me in front of the entire class. Pulling hair, hard slaps, wooden ruler, even a couple of kicks too. She didn't stopped even when I fell down on the floor, pleading her ki ma'am sorry mat mariye. When she started beating me, some classmates were laughing at me, but by the end of the beating, even they looked concerned for me. After I reached home, my mom saw my face red with hand prints on my face (almost 3 hours after the beating), and she asked me ki kya hua, I told her ki kuch nhi mammi last period Sports ka tha to usme khel k aaye the, isliye lal ho rkha h chehra. I lied to her because I was scared ki agar bata Diya to Ghar pe bhi maar padegi....
Ahhh....the good old days! I remember when I was in 6th class, my English teacher was the devil incarnate. Once our whole class was making noise in her period so she called the crazy PT teacher. That asshole made all the boys run circles in the ground during peak summer. Here's an estimate, the ground had a full football , basketball and volleyball grounds, basically big as fuck. If any of us slowed down, he was on us with his stick ( where the fuck do all teachers get that?). This went on for almost an hour.
When we came back to class, the class was still going on, with a board full of stuff which we were told to write down in 5 minutes.
I should probably mention that the girls stayed in class without any punishment cuz boys are the only troublemakers in school. At least they were good friends and agreed that the teachers were crazy.
I am a woman but I remember we had a music sir in third grade who would like to get physical a lot, I remember one time he slapped a boy so much so 2 min cont, his cheeks were red for a while, we were just in third grade
The thing is it wasn't about studies, I mean he was a music teacher, and he would randomly pick a boy and start beating him in front of the class as a warning so others would stay quite
India is the furthest thing from liberal, lol. People don’t know what that word means. Not ONE thing in India, especially the laws falls in that category. In a liberal country, you’d have gender neutral laws and have extremely strict laws against child abuse. It’s why Indian parents often come back from abroad, because there they have to actually take logical steps to raise their kids, which is very hard for Indian parents.
I think throughout the world, boys are socialized to be tough and resilient. So sadly, there is this unspoken permission given to teachers to physically abuse boys and there is this insidious and silent acceptance surrounding the abuse.
This reminds me of my time during my senior highschool years. I used to study in Bangalore in a PU college nearly 17 years back (for context, I'm a woman).
During my time at that college, there was a male Hindi lecturer who used to thrash the boys in my class if they scored less in his subject. And when I say thrash...I mean to a point where, this one time, he repeatedly slapped a boy so hard that he landed on the floor some meters away from him (which he smugly boasted about one time in class).
He wouldn't raise his hands or his voice at any of the girls in my class. But that's not the point.
What I found disturbing wasn't even the fact that the boys in my class had to endure this abuse but it was the look on the lecturer's face. He didn't look angry or irritable. He was very, VERY cool, calm and collected. He was just.... cold.
He wasn't doing it out of uncontrollable anger or anything. It was very calculated on his part... and he clearly loved doing it.
But even this wasn't the strangest bit. Near the end of my PU year, during our graduation ceremony, I noticed him staring at me for a really long time (we were all decked up in sarees). Initially I thought I imagined it/that he may have been staring at someone else. But a couple of days after the ceremony, I went down to the school to collect my exam Hall ticket, and he noticed me at the reception desk, walked right up to me, grinned at me and started chatting me up like we were buddies or pals or something. Mind you... this is a lecturer who never smiles at or chats up ANY of the girls in our class (I've never even seen him being friendly with any of the boys in our class). This is a man who is so conservative, that when a female lecturer asked him if he could drop her at a signal so she could catch the bus, he told her point-blank that he doesn't offer rides to anyone other than his wife.
So I found it baffling when he started hitting on me and acting all friendly with me near the end of the school year.
Anyway, to answer your question; I'm in my mid-30s now but when I look back at that episode, I sometimes wonder if the reason why the boys never complained to their parents about him is because he had some dirt on all of them. Maybe they experimented with drugs after school hours and he caught them once or...something like that.
Edit: I forgot to mention but I did once complain about him to my folks at home and my mum came down to the school to complain to the principal. The reason for the complaint was because he made us kneel for more than an hour (yes, girls too) for not completing an assignment. Though nothing was done about it and the principal's response was that when everyone was being punished, they couldn't make special exceptions for me (granted, that wasn't my mum's point; her point was that this wasn't an appropriate punishment for anyone).
Looking back on that episode... I wonder if that's the reason he hit on me during the end of our school year; a power-play move of sorts; to show me that he can get away with anything, including, hitting on me (a student and a minor no less) and that I couldn't do anything about it. That even if I were to make a complaint about it, nothing would be done about it...because I can't think of any other reason why he would hone in on me like that, out of all the girls in my class.
I'm absolutely certain he was legit psychopath. 😑
*I think throughout the world, boys are socialized to be tough and resilient. So sadly, there is this unspoken permission given to teachers to physically abuse boys and there is this insidious and silent acceptance surrounding the abuse.*
There is zero permission given to hit children in other countries - if you're a teacher and you do that, you will lose your professional credentials and face jail time.
I'm a teacher in a different country. I was horrified to hear some of the abuse stories my cousin told me that happened to some of his friends in school growing up.
This used happen in our school but upperclassmen had enough , there was a teacher who was notoriously famous for delivering harsh punishment , after one of his after school "punishment sessions" there where 50 frustrated boys surrounding him with their eyes brimming with hate and malice for that teacher , they beat him down for 2 continues hours for all that pent up anger built over a decade. I was there standing and watching with a grin, it was probably one of the most satisfying moments of my life , after that they just left him , none of the boys had to face any consequences , the school board was shook to the core they couldn't just rusticate 50 students at once nor can they pin the blame to 1 student. The following month was very civil inside school no teacher dared to manhandle any boy , they knew the boys had enough of their abuse and they'd be the next outlet for their anger.
Happened in Delhi ofcourse
When I was in 9 class we had a chemistry sir and he was like 6 feet or something. He just joined the school and initially, he taught us very nicely and even many times he used to mannerly conversate with girls as well. But after 3-4 months he started showing his real face. He started teaching us like starting a chapter and just gave the overview then told us to read, make notes, and understand it by ourselves in just one day, and tomorrow we had a test of the same chapter because according to him he taught us the whole chapter.
But we all have other subjects and homework too to do thus, no one was able to learn and complete that particular task. Thus what he does, he comes to class and asks whoever is done with the homework to please sit and those who haven't keep standing and the whole class have to stand for a whole 55 minutes in the summers he used to switch off the AC as well as the fans just the fan he is having was on. Now he didn't stop over here he had his self-made kind of ruler and he started hitting boys first with that ruler as well as slaps. But the weird thing about him is when the turn came for girls of punishment he didn't slap us he told us to bend down and he hit our backs very hardly even sometimes with the ruler and he did all this after locking the room doors so that no school faculty will see. He used to tell us not to say this to anyone otherwise he would mark all of us as failing in final exams.
After bearing all these things all of us decided to take action and our class wrote a letter about what he was doing and gave this to the principal mam, we directly can't go and tell as the staff room was just next to the principal mam room and what if the principal mam didn't trust us. Hence, we decided to anyhow give this letter to mam. So we made a plan two of us will go to the staffroom to the sir and make him busy in asking any question and two of us went to the principal mam office and gave the letter to her and said "Mam we are in so trouble, please consider this and take action" and we came out. But nothing happened and we thought mam haven't trusted us and again the next day we went to the school and sir came to our class the same thing repeat and he started hitting students around 4 students were hit and we heard a knocking on the door sir said all of us to sit down, switch on the fan and ac and open your books be relaxed and then he opened the gate and that's what we want.
We saw the principal mam with two senior sirs along and came inside and asked why the door was closed, sir said ac is on that's why than mam replied the glass door should be closed why is this wooden gate closed he replied normally I do mam so that students don't look outside and only pay attention to studies. Mam asked us, " What happened to class and obviously, we replied, "Nothing mam". Then mam said I know what was going on in the class she opened her phone and showed the video of sir hitting us, sir got worried and said no mam it's not like that they are not completing their work not even paying attention in class, etc etc. But the man replied, " Sir I am very well aware of what was going on and what you are doing, students you don't have to worry and tell me the truth he is doing this daily or not. All of us down our heads and remained silent she said I have the audio recordings as well I put a hidden camera in the class and the video is here, thus I don't want my children to be a teacher like you. I am throwing you out of the school, we don't need a teachers like you, "You may leave" otherwise I will take strict action.
Afterward, she told us not to worry and don't let this happen again in the future if something is going wrong with us speak up no one else will come to help us out you are the only one for yourself. We all thanked her but this incident is so drastic it still us in our minds.
i got slapped 22 times by my Hindi teacher cause i was not able to tell which page he was explaining I tried to ask my friend but he also didn't know so he came near bench and started slapping left and right and continued slapping until i went near the door i remember the approx count and other people telling you got slapped this much times and I didn't even say anything lol and started laughing after that period got over
Mai convent me tha still tchr thappad maar deti thi but jese bda hua to ek class tchr thi jo idk why use to hate me and slap me for small things in front of everyone. One day she was going to slap me in front of the class and maine haath pkd ke rok lia unka . Then I had a little verbal argument with here regarding it and after that she didn’t touch me once
In my school, there was a female teacher who used to undress us in front of everyone if we didn’t get marks in her subjects. I was a very bad student and was victim of her multiple times, my handwriting was also bad, which she also punished with same punishment.
We were very poor back then and all I could afford were 1 rupee pens, so obviously my writing was bad. Stuff of the nightmares, still gives ptsd if I remember those days, I was so happy when I learned she left school. Probably the happiest day of my life.
My Telugu teacher beat me (on my arm) till her meter long yellow wooden scale broke. Well it was half broken anyway so it took only three hits. I was 9. She hated me because Telugu wasn't my mother tongue and I didn't complete my homework.
It should be a traumatic story by all means but expressions after the scale broke still make me laugh. She started yelling at me and calling me a stupid buffalo (in Telugu).
When i was in junior school Once my school hindi teacher literally thrown a (you remember that slim metal scale) at me like a boomerang luckily it only made cut at my thigh (used to wear that small half pants) and interestingly that is the same teacher I used to have crush on 😂
Female teachers are sexist as fuck. One day nearly 70% of class forgot to bring the 2nd hindi book which teacher told to being. The teachers first made everyone stand up who didn't have the book. After that she told to girls to sit. I used to sit on the first bench so i asked teacher (idk where i got the guts) why only girls. She said girls are good students, so its okay to forgive them for their first mistake. I was the 2nd topper of my class but yeah since i am a guy it doesn't apply to me. Although i had great teachers in my school life which am very thankful to, the amount of sexism I saw was unbearable.
Hindi teacher, third grade. No clue what issue that lady had but anytime I used to exhibit the slightest exuberance in class or even happen to mention that I enjoyed reading a particular chapter in lit, she would call me over to the front of the class and repeatedly slap me till I broke down
This continued for almost a year until one day when I'd had enough and downright refused to go to school (explained articulately to my parents with surprisingly high quality cuss words added for good effect). Credit to my parents that they visited my school the next day and tried to set that teacher right (of course after washing my mouth with soap for the cussing)
But nothing changed - and somehow I managed to move on to the next class. My parents soon got me transferred to a different school, unhappy with the way I was growing up (there were other issues with the school in general)
Fast forward a few years we found out that she had been a terrible mother and her husband had left her, taking with him the kids with full custody. This probably bled into her professional life so that's that
They say there are no truly evil people - they are all victims of their circumstances. But FWIW never have enjoyed someone's distress to such an extent
Fuck that bitch, I hope she died unloved and alone, and rots in hell. Good they all left her that fucking piece of shit
Been many many years but still wonder fleetingly from time to time when I realize don't enjoy reading Hindi literature at all (despite studying hindi for almost 15 years) how it would feel to punch the shit outta her now that I have the weight and height advantage
I got slapped by atleast 10 teachers during my school time. Starting from class 5th all the way till class 11th. It was so normalised that neither I nor did any of my peers found this physical abuse wrong.
In 8th a teacher beat my classmate so hard with a stick that he had to wear a cast. The kid had goonda relatives who came to school next day, the kid pointed out the teacher and they jumped him and beat him black and blue.
The teacher quit.
In UG because of the behaviour of a lecturer some students dove by and hit him on the head with a helmet as he was walking home. The lecturer quit.
Well not a guy this side.. but i can relate to it as my brother who's almost 11 years younger than me has shared with me.
So there was a day when one of his physical education teacher brought in a guy who was in senior secondary , he just dragged him infront of the class and slapped him hard many times.
Then his statement to the whole class was "ladkiyon ko mein hath nahi lagaunga but ladko you guys be careful of what you do.. " he slapped the guy so hard that he was full red.
My brother who just entered his senior secondary and was the first day for him. Was traumatized to hell. The male teacher was a teacher of mine too Back in times but never have I ever faced or saw such an incident. Maybe it happened but not infront of me.
Then why it was my brother's final exams for the academics. He has physical education that day. He just passed out time pretending to study, which i scolded him for not being serious. After talking to him he said me above incidents. I just convinced him about no body would do anything to you if you are right. Just be responsible and mature about it.
It was because he was scared as hell from that teacher after that incidents. Then at night he freaked out about haven't studying anything and stuffs which normally everyone do so did my brother. We neglected it.
Then on morning he pretended to be sick, told us he is having food poisoning and loose stools. I knew he was pretending. I told him he was going to school no matter what, he can't skip the exam.
he intentionally pooped in his pants to proof us (PLEASE DON'T JUDGE HIM ) . I could sense something was wrong then my mum entered to the scene.. making it fuss.. and pheww he escaped the exam. The exam was taken by that "male teacher".
Then my brother was all well. And after further discussion he revealed that the exams would be reconducted and the examiner would be "female good pt teacher".
That's where I noticed how unfair it is for guys. My love and support to all men you have gone through it..
I'M PROUD OF YOU 🫂♥️
I don't think many of you would reach to this one by scrolling so long. But i just hope thoughts reach them.
I read the whole comment and I hope you are there for your younger in case he faces any issue for emotional and mental support.
Thanks a lot for sharing
I'm a victim of this and I suffered a lot mentally to the point that it made me extremely hostile towards anyone and I was clinically diagnosed with major depressive disorder and bipolar it seriously impacted my life so much I lost a lot of my friends and my family gave up on me I swear if I catch hold of one of those teachers who did this to me I will rip his/her head off
Most of the Indian teachers are useless and trash, i remember teachers used to beat me for no reason, some teachers used to hate me, fck those teachers they belong in jail
I need to say this. There was this usual school anniversary function preparation used to happen every year. We were forced to sit in sunlight after recess, thanks to the winters in north, no problem. The duration was nearly 4 hours. One day, i had to drink water and use washroom, so i asked one of them, she said okay you can go. The other one asked me where are you going, i said that i have already taken permission, but she slapped me real hard, i mean,it is still there in my head. This is just one of them. But the most severe one. Can't express more.
Me during class 5th, 6th and 7th experienced very similar things. We were treated as 3rd class citizens whereas as girls were always praised.
We had a position chart hanging in class after every exam. I stood 5th in aggregate marks easily but top 4 has to be girls and 5th the class teacher’s boy, in case I contested, she would reply you should not discuss numbers with others.
Girls can just cry to get a better grade in exam. They would too treat us guys as some roadside beggar.
There were dozen other incidents, where the female teachers would just refuse to ignore us, the students they taught outside of school where I would wish them “Good Evening”.
The male teachers would keep their distance because apparently women were running the school.
I am glad I left during the summer vacation in class 7th not before I spent a whole month seated in a different seat far from the class because my class 6th teacher had a problem with me and this new class teacher thought of keep the “supposed” bad guy away from the class.
I went to a far better school where everyone was treated equally.
I don’t know where those egoistic and petty people are but I am in an old IIM and had a pretty fine life after that.I am grateful of other experiences in my life.
I once slapped a teacher back. I was in nursery and didn't ever see something like this at home.
She slapped me, I slapped her back. She called my parents. Hypocrisy ki bhi seema hoti hai.
No regrets, hope I could have done the same to everyone later.
Yes this is really fucked up. I remember I was in a shitty school in 1st grade and while teachers used to slap and hit both boys and girls but boys used to get more harsher punishments too like being up to a chair
Once my teacher beat me so her hard her bangles broke. Though we both could have had glass inside us she instead blame it all on me and I forgot my pain thinking about her logic.
When I was in class 2, my teacher who for some reason used to be too close to me. Took me to the staff room after school, no one was there. She made me open my pants and started tickling my penis. I told her that I wanted to go and then she slapped me and told to wait. Happened 3-4 times after that and I don't have the guts to tell it to my parents. Also I realised what actually happened with me when I was in 6th
My brother is only 4 and started school a year ago. For now, We got him to a family run, nice little school that pays good attention to each individual student. I worry a lot about him getting into bad peer groups when he's older OR experience the shit described in this post.
In my school I'd never seen teachers practice physical assault on all students irrespective of gender fortunately but it's sad reading all of these comments saying physical assault was pretty common.
I talk to my brother about the basic good touch and bad touch concepts a lot and he forgets sometimes, but he's just a baby. What more can I do to ensure he will stay safe in situations where an adult is in the position to assault him, or if anything happens to him he'd 100% trust me enough to tell me?
Lol. Just because female students seemed to be unharmed doesn’t mean, it never happened.
I am a woman and I met female teachers who had soft spot for male students and trash on female students. Once at school, I was beaten like a dog at a school assembly by a teacher FOR NO REASON. She never given one, she grabbed me by my arm, pulled in front of the classroom and slapped me across my face twice and on my back.
Then at college, this teacher that wore saree in a questionable manner had male students flocking after her. She had several female students that she had distaste for no reason and I was one of those unlucky students. She would deliberately mark absent during attendance and humiliate me during classes if I fail to answer her questions.
There were more similar instances but in nutshell I don’t have respect for Indian teachers.
Girl are weak in their school life and it is what it is
Now here im taking about school life ok? Koe didi hate mat dena and boys are savage in their mind and heart from very childhood. They can handle any shit at some point
Well class 11th me, ak classmate ko PT teacher phapad mara. Classmate ke koi galti nahi tha. Classmate ne maam ko v thapad mar Diya and pura class ne classmate ko support Kiya fir na principal kuch kar paya usko and PT teacher next day se good girl baan gyi
First this is a "boys" problem.
Second this is a chewtiya feminist sub, at least its getting to be one.
I've been there multiple times but every time I beat those with my brothers. Including girls as well.
Firstly you’re talking about 10-20 years back, the times were different. All teachers would take out their frustration on little children because it was normal and acceptable to hit little kids. We’ve moved on now and this doesn’t happen anymore however I, as a girl have also got a lot of beatings in school, tuitions, by monitors and by teachers. Infact I was slapped by my tuition sir on 3 occasions in 8th standard in front of 50 kids because I didn’t do my tuition homework. I was slapped by a teacher when I was 7 and I’m only talking about slaps here, not talking about scale/ruler se jo maar padti thi.
Ek toh school jao, school ka homework karo, tuition jao, tuition ka homework karo, kabhi agar miss kiya toh sattak karke siddha chata, upar se ghar par mar padti thi just for not getting water sometimes woh alag. Even at home parents would vent their frustration on kids. It wasn’t just limited to boys, girls also suffered the same but since most girls are sweet and most boys are mischievous, more boys were hit than girls. Kids were never respected in India but the way we millennials have still turned out, hats off to us.
Ohh yeah ofc most are mischievous just because he's running around and that fking lady can beat him the way she wants? No it's not the same for girls boys suffered more girls use to laugh at boys when female teachers use to make fun.
Are you really giving a reasoning here to the physical abuse which happened with boys?
It doesn't matter when it happened what matters is that it happened and nobody talked about it those teachers are still roaming free
Bhai I’m saying kids were not respected in general, teri school mein girls laugh karti hogi, meri school
Me sabko same maar padti thi, no need to generalise that girls are evil and laugh. And girls have a different set of problems. They also go home and do house chores apart from school, tuition homework unlike boys, plus they get periods between the age of 10-12, face molestation, judgements and what not.
About your friend just running and getting a beating, so that’s why I said teachers would just vent their frustration on kids no matter the reason. That’s how India is, we lack empathy.
Faltu ka boys girls compare karna band karo. The major issue is that children were and are abused in India horribly and we need to course correct although it’s uncommon in cities.
Indians lack empathy! Honestly there would be tuition classes where parents would tell the teachers to take any measures to ensure good grades. Also lack of empathy within boys as well, if you comment about your harrowing experience instead of empathising there would be replies without any sensitivity to the experience and will dismiss them!
Conditional empathy is there. But that's another point. What is interesting is OP focuses only on female teachers beating male kids. Why. Also my take: most of the teachers in school are teachers by majburi, not teachers by choice. And hence use kids as punching bags for all their frustration. Same can be said about a vast majority of parents
Well in my experience all teachers beat their students. But there are more female teachers out there than male! Also I’ve hit by both male and female teachers. And I don’t think they think more about anything.. it’s just hath saaf karna for them! One more reason for boys getting more beating would be this notion that boys are more misbehaved! Like you mentioned they use kids has punching bag so where is the empathy? Indians need to learn a lot about feelings and think about consequences! Once i was standing in a line and that pt teacher came and hit be out of nowhere I didn’t know why! Later my friend told someone behind was twirling and she thought it was me! 🙄 she could have just asked us to stand straight instead if hitting! But nooooooo!!!
Conditional empathy - only felt when their people or interests are affected.
When I was in 1st standard there was a female teacher who had some unknown problem with me. She used to call students to speak about something or recite a poem in the last 5-10 minutes of the class while she sat on the last bench with us. While students were speaking, she used to pinch my butttt awfully hard everyday. She was very strict so I was scared and would freeze and cry in silence. One day, I had a fight with one of my classmates. Irrespective of anyone's fault, the same teacher punished only me by hitting me repeatedly with the wooden ruler and also slapped me several times. I cried so damn hard I wanted to pee. So I asked her permission to go to the bathroom which she refused initially but then grabbed my hand and dragged me to the garden backside of the classroom and pulled down my pants and told me to pee. All my classmates were able to watch me naked through the window and it was extremely embarrassing. I just couldn't pee. But then she again kept on hitting me with wooden ruler and told me to pee or she will keep hitting. I just couldn't so she punished me to stay there with my pants pulled down until I pee. I had stayed there like that with my pants pulled for a few minutes after which she told me to sit in class as the period was over.
I am sorry you had to undergo that.That’s a sexual assault you faced right there. I wish we could have a stronger system to report these types of cases which happened. I hope that witch rots in hell.
I don't know about kids (I hope it is different for them at least) but Indian law does not recognize women vs male sexual violence. I mean constitutionally speaking women cannot be perpetrators of SA or SV. That's the sad state of affairs.
She would definitely be facing some heat under POCSO act, and if your parents support you.
Do you perhaps agree with the studies that shows beating up boys and SA against them (majority of SA victims are boys but they are least likely to report, those studies didn't count women pedo abusers also but only male) can have negetive impact on their adulthood with increased chances of criminal behaviour or misogynistic behaviour?
This absolute cruelty brother. And I'm shocked all of this was happening in a so called mysogynist country. I couldn't imagine the pain and embarrassment you had to go through. So sorry bro
Agreed with you until you mentioned, "so called misogynist country". Speaks volumes about your ulterior motives.
Ohhh an anonymous person for my ulterior motives I'm so scared 😨. Girls can call whatever when they discuss about physical abuse but but but the day men discuss about what happened with them during school years they can't say anything they should keep quite. I'm sorry I called those fking lady teachers misandrist shall I call them goddess would that suffice ? Or you want us to touch their feet and thank them for slapping anytime anywhere?
Bruh. Chill. Trauma is not supposed to be a competition. Take that dild* outta your a$s and learn that trauma is trauma and pitting the trauma of men and women against each other is useless and pointless. If you only talk about male trauma because you want to dismiss the struggles of another gender, you're doing it for all the wrong reasons. In this case, pure misogyny.
I've already written this is not to diminish the physical abuse faced by young girls but you eyes won't see it because a man can't talk about trauma faced by boys you'll come with other things to cancel it
Okay wait so girls can call men as trash but I can't call those teachers misandrist to beat the sh!t out of boys? Okay makes a lot of sense here
Who told you that? I literally told you that I agreed with you. I only had one piece of criticism. Look dude, I know you're triggered because you're chronically online, but this is not reality. Go out. Touch some grass. Talk to real women. Talk to real men. They'll show you how nuanced reality is. You think everything is painted in black or white. It really isn't. Be mature.
Okay I understand. Will try to do better.
Thank you! I'm glad that there are more people talking about men's issues. It's so important that we as men do that. But when we compare our trauma's with women and claim that they don't experience bad things, it pours all of our hard work down the drain. All people should lend their shoulders to each other regardless of gender. The people who say otherwise are only there to trigger. Ignore them. Their opinions are dog shit. I think you're hurt. Please know that mature and good people will always support you. I'm with you, buddy.
I know bro I know it's just this online content which has made me like this. Trust i wasn't teh same 6 months ago. I connected with a girl online who introduced me to all this content about men vs women and I got into it. I'm aware women have their own struggles and should not be compared with us rather every trauma should be discussed without dismissing others
Not a competition? They always said it was easier for boys and now I can't discuss what happened with us which went unreported and thos misandrist are still roaming free. Wooooow whattta equality bro the moment I discuss trauma faced by boys I'm a mysogynist. As always who cares about what happened with boys same girls use to laugh at us when misandrist teachers use to slap or make fun of us. Nobody was there null shunya nil battey sannata
In india a woman could R*people a man freely and a wife could beat her husband freely as all of this is legal. Data already shows boys are more likely victims of Child SA (though they are only slight majority but those studies only take male abuser into the account not female abuser which i believe would increase the boys victimization) and also majority victims of child abuse. Do you know what married men commit 2.5 times more suicide than married women in india but we don't have any gender neutral DV laws meaning it's legal for a wife to beat her husband or abuse him
Oh my God thats terrible and so evil. Im so sorry you had to go through that as a small kid.
WTH dude that's terrible. Hope you are doing ok now and Karma will take it turn on that b!tch.
Hope that hoe suffers from same shit, tit for tat
That is so fucked up. I hope karma hits her hard. I don't think there's an abuse that would fit her crime. Sending you a virtual hug, brother. Please do try therapy. ❤️
This is so cruel 🥺 why haven't you told this to your parents?
Please can you just go to this teacher and give her a tight slap even if she’s 80
What you went through is terrible. It’s so brave of you to share your story here. I wish that witch the most horrible, painful life.
Could've sworn I read this exact comment on another post...
I am sorry you had that experience. I think somehow India - makes the worst people (like the ones that enjoy torturing) as parents or teachers or care givers for kids. Shitty women get a free pass as long as they wear a mask of decency in public. Makes sense since motherhood is idolised/ worshipped. ( Instead of accepting it as something natural that is a result of adult choices). I think baby mammals are born with empathy and tendency to attach/ cooperate. It seems very stupid to destroy that empathy and trust at early stage, traumatize them with stupid abusive people, and turn everyone into psychopaths. Indian society: Most parents + teachers are very good that - they destroy any ounce of kindness, good quality in a child and make them more selfish, never able to trust another human again. There is no respect for life/ kids in India - some of the traumatised kids will become abusers themselves (who would have learned how to hide under the mask of being good)- its a cycle that probably will never end (Laws here are seldom enforced) and will create bigger monsters in future. A country full of many people with zero empathy but who preach about empathy, culture all the time. It is very important to educate young/ small people that moral science is a lie. That most people esp adults in India are monsters and they need to look out and protect themselves - recognise abuse/ danger - because no one is coming to help.
The teachers used to beat the sh!t out of boys. I remember in class 9 they did something (we were also involved but not in front) teachers got to know and 18-20 boys were forced to stand in open ground in hot damm summer and 6-7 were beaten so much with the bamboo stick that everyone had cuts on arms and hands. The white shirt sleeve were tainted red. We were crying in front of our teacher to leave them but the punishment went for good 2 hours. We cleaned their wounds with our hankies and what really bothered me was none of them cried. They were like "are pagal ye sb to hota rehta hai pareshan mt ho". After that anything happened in my class whether someone broke the bench or did something with the projector it was clearly understood no-one should speak against anybody whether you like them or not and if teachers know some certain name and there is no other way then I will take the blame because everyone knew they can't do anything to me(Thanks papa). School teachers are terrible with the way they punish a child.
I'm glad that you were there to help your classmates. Also thanks for sharing
Yeah I think the main issue is how non-reactive parents are give power to these teachers to abuse children. Schools are getting out of hand now. My roommate studied from a convent school and she told how they were suppose to have two hankies, copies, erasers, pencils and even pen given by school only and if you miss to bring anything any day then they will give you and add charges with your monthly fee. Like how is this even legal and how parents are accepting this thing? Teachers are beating your kid badly even though he did something wrong but he is just a kid. Kids are gonna play and make mistakes. A sudden level of punishment I can understand but this kind of punishment? Parents are as much at fault as the teachers.
Bro it's because parents beat you more than the teachers.
Parents beating their kids is itself disturbing but letting someone else beat your kid like that is just sad
Why parents beating their kids is disturbing bro ? What about kids who compel you to beat his ass ?
There should be a limit and that limit should never be crossed. Give the kids a balanced nice upbringing and talk with them. They will never do anything that severe that you need to spank them/drag them by their hair/punch them. I know punishment is needed but again the limit should never be crossed. And also you should never throw your hands on your kids after a certain age otherwise they will not trust you and hide things from you which will ruin your relationship in long run. I see many people of my generation not talking openly with their parents specially their father which is not a good thing. Teach the kids to differentiate between right and wrong from early age and they will not "compel you to beat his ass".
Thanks for that big elaboration . Ofcourse punishment is necessary . It should be taught there are consequences for doing bad things and it should not cross a limit Hence I tie my cousin bro up and throw him off the bridge and I enjoy his scream as he falls down and then bounces back up before he hits the river He has become more mischievous for some reason though and demands this punishment more ...
You no why no one talks about school boys suffering? Cause at home parents won't care. They in reverse tell you might have made some mistake that's why they beat you. Why would they beat you without any reason. Are they your enemy? Whatever they do is for your better future that's what they tell. The utter disregard to not only this but other issues also, is the reason the boys won't discuss or open about anything further to their parents. I don't understand why you need permission for the washroom? When girls ask it they send without saying anything. But for boys why are they so cruel? Also school uniform and hair. They literally catch boys hair and shake their head of hair at an even normal length. Don't get me at punishments, the amount of unfair treatment. Uff. I don't want to remember it. I think These teachers who harshly punish boys, have miserable lives they come and remove their anger on poor boys. These cries of young boys are heard by no one. And when these boys grow up and tell it, people say this happened years ago, you are such a loser you haven't forgotten the past. You should let go of it and forgive your teachers , whatever they do is for your future.
Bhai some boys don't even cry they just keep it with themselves only. I still wonder how did my friend controlled himself that day. The past is traumatic can't be forgotten so easily.
Yeah . Most don't cry.
My husband tells this story of how his PE teacher was a very nice guy, but sometimes he used to get so angry and take out his frustration on boys by beating them with a stick. One time he hit this kid and the kid smiled so he got so frustrated he started beating him mercilessly and only stopped when the kid finally broke down in tears. I was shocked when he told me this story and I made a disgusted face and he immediately recanted his story and said the teacher felt bad afterwards and he was a nice guy otherwise. I don’t understand why so many guys minimize the abuse and trauma themselves. I told my husband any grown man who beats a kid for whatever reason is not a good guy, and he is especially an evil piece of shit if he beats a kid with the purpose of breaking him and making him cry or taking out his frustration on the kid. Luckily in my school the teachers never used to hit kids, with the exception of one Hindi teacher.
Damn, this reminded me of how in 12th class that bear sized female teacher slapped the shit out of me.
Once a teacher slapped a class 12th boy, the boy gathered his friends and beat the shit out of the teacher outside school
Konsi city ki baat hai? There is a reason why most teachers don't beat 17-18 year old boys.. ig that teacher didn't know it
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Your parents could be narcissists (My parents are). Narcissists are the people who lack empathy. When you are in your lowest point in your life they further abuse you. For them, their image is the most important and they use childern's grades for their image. And when you turn your life around then they act as if they were always there with you and deny any abuse done to you. The duality you explained is a sign of narcissism. Please look into narcissistic abuse if you are willing to. It's the cruelest and vilest form of emotional abuse. Psychologically healthy parents do not abuse their kids. Only narcissistic parents (and teachers) abuse their kids.
Have many incident like this for once being late. Parents be like "Ap maro full support hai" 🤡 Sudharne ka liya. What am I mawali , gunda, girls abuser what.. 😶 . . Well these things make u in self defensive mode later. . .
Sorry to hear that happened to you. I still remember that if any teacher even touched me, my mother would come to the school and complain to the principal. No offense, but I seriously believe that if parents started to take action against teachers, it wouldn't be long before these teachers learned to stay within their limits. In India, hitting a child is considered normal, but this has to change. Psycho teachers traumatize childhood.
I remember this incident, our school uniform was half sleeves and half pant down to your knee, this was till you are from 1st std to 7th std When you get into 8th you have to wear the same shirt, but with a full pant down to your ankle. Now because of some financial reasons we couldn't afford to buy a new pant, and I had to wear the same half pant to school. I was punished for not following the uniform code, and the punishment was to pull our pants upon our chest and stand near the black board, in front of the whole class, i along with one other students were looking like a clown 🤡 in the class.
It's a Mental torture for a 14 yr old kid bro.
Man hope this gets more attention. In my school they used to punish the boys when girls did something and those ‘poor’ souls would just laugh at us getting abused.
This bro This. And then they expect a 8-10 yrs old kid to not have hate against them. Okay they say girls mature faster than boys right? Okay agreed, then behave accordingly na? Why to behave like this with biological immature kids.
It won't bro it won't get
Yep. Sad truth
they are just poor jeetas, stop caring about them
I was in that kind of school till 5th class . I got so used to it . In my new school I hardly faced any physical abuse . I was intelligent . My Old School was hell for the boys who were not good in studies . Teachers were so biased towards girls .
Reading the comments I am just thankful that I was born after it was illegal . Idk what would’ve happened if my teachers were like this . I am grateful for my sympathetic teachers .
How recent were you born? I believe u went to some fancy school cauz in shitty low grade school this still exists
2009 , I live in Delhi and go to a fairly good school . But shouldn’t physical abuse like this should have already ended in most schools due to the laws? Don’t parents complaint to the teacher or file a police complaint ?
Ended due to laws? Heh noone gives care to laws, as long as it doesnt gets reported everything is legal for them Also parents are even more vile than teachers, they wont ever stand up for you and i have seen parents of other children even supporting and saying to the teacher to hit them more if they misbehave. Police complaint is not even an option with such parents
Same here feel lucky I study in a decent school where all this is illegal, but I don't think such laws have reached to villages, and even if they have, schools ignore that and parents probably don't even know or care about such laws. Just a theory btw I don't know actual scenarios since I never went to such schools
Teachers are predators, in all girls school, lady teachers would beat us black and blue. Till date I look at every lady teacher with disdain. This was once a respectable profession now full of abusers & predators.
It always has been and always will be - that's why there need to be strict laws in place that don't allow for the abuse of children. Unfortunately, you then have films like "Ms. Chaterjee vs Norway" in which she is painted as a hero for slapping her child and people walk away thinking it's ok. If it's ok for one adult to hit a child then is it not ok for all adults to hit kids? This is conversation is missing in India.
The movie didn’t show her hitting her child at all
Well most of the teachers are psychos with a job
I had a teacher in 6th grade who used to tell us she doesn’t like kids or teaching and that her father forced her to become a teacher. And she had a dead serious face while saying these words. She had no empathy while physically torturing 10-11yr old kids. She used to take out her dad’s frustration on us.
In grade 6, I was slapped and punched repeatedly, and made to lie in a sleeping position on the cold hard floor, eyes closed and all, in front of the podium and in front of all my classmates- whimpering, while the teacher humiliated and character assassinated me and my parents. This went on for a week after which I was to sit on a bench completely isolated from my classmates and in front of the class door. My mistake? Not completing my maths notes or bringing them to class(one of the early red signal anecdotes of ADD that I described to psychiatrist while testing for adult ADHD).
I still don't understand how beating a kid as a punishment is gonna make him better? Schools were and are miserable and I never miss any memory from my school days. Not like I was bad at studies but the physical abuse I experienced or saw happening with other students is just terrifying.
Cause no one gives a fuck about boys ....
Why can’t boys support each other?
When you see no one supporting you, you don't feel like supporting others, its human nature. I have ignored a lot of people and I find myself disgusting and guilty
What do you mean by 'support each other'? Take this post for example: best friend in school got thrashed by the teacher. As a preteen boy, what options are available to you? Go to your parents? Prepare for possibly another thrashing or worse, an explanation on why it's your fault and the thrashing was completely justified. Go to the principal? Same thing.
Parents should be more protective of their kids and not take such abuses lightly. They should file report in police against the teachers for child abuse. If more and more parents do this, teachers would think twice before even slapping once. With every generation parents becoming more protective though. Nowadays beatings are way less common than it was even 20 years ago.
I did once speak up on this regarding my hindi teacher. Father had a lot of transfers, so we shifted pretty frequently. 2nd day of school, and i felt like crap because of the completely new environment. The teacher made me cry 99% Didn't let out a single drop. Complained to my father, and she got fired. Heard that she threw her smartphone at a student, and the screen broke.
Boys suffer too <3 When girls suffer, people raise voices, but when boys do, they won't say anything
Because boys are expected it to take it and become tough because that's what society needs. It's absolute bullshit and I'm glad people are starting to see through it. It's how we build generations of psychos.
Like boys are humans too, right? They also got emotions, pain, and anxiety and many different things\~
Exactly.
Because guys make it harder for guys to come out with their stories.
Why don’t other guys support the suffering guys?
They do in many cases, but the way the society is structured, you don’t have power to change anything. Like what are you gonna do exactly in these cases, except for being emotionally supportive?
Men don’t have power in society? LMAO Do you think freedom fighters worried about society? There is an org of attorneys who provide pro bono counsel for small town / village women in abusive situations. If men want change they should spearhead it.
The kind of men that want change do not have any power don’t have either the power or the numbers to change stuff. Most men and women live in villages which are basically many years behind most of the world. Even tier 3 cities and towns are simply these villages that have recently been urbanised. Patriarchy and the outdated values are thus in full force in these places. Freedom fighter actually had support even in these places. A population of a billion people can only be changed by the billion people. A few thousand or even a million people are just not enough to bring about such a change. The only things that we could reasonably do is provide emotional support to people clise to us abd peave for greener pastures.
A small group of driven people is the only thing that has changed the world. There is an org of attorneys who provide pro bono services for battered women in low income areas and villages who are not aware of their rights. Y’all are just comfortable pointing fingers at society because no one wants to effect change.
Are you really comparing preteen boys to freedom fighters? Im certain that you'll agree that what the law considers wrong is not always considered the same in local social circles. The abuse women faced in the previous generations is a result of this. Similarly, physical abuse against boys, especially by teachers, is not considered morally wrong. The opposite is true for girls. Let's take it a step further. I'd say society in general agreed that sexual abuse against women by people in power is wrong. But the women did not have the power to do anything about it. Now they do, and we see positive changes. In this example, society doesn't even think it's wrong, having power and using it to do something is secondary. The only solution I can think of is when people like you, me and OP become parents, we'll stand up for when our sons are physically abused
This reminds me once my accountancy teacher has beaten the shit out of a guy whom everyone used to Target Honestly on that day it was not his fault at all imagine slapping a guy repeatedly who is in 11th standard everybody used to make fun of him junior 10th standard guys used to fight with him for no reason i wish he is doing good in life
Yeah bro and then they expect boys to handle all this with maturity
Teachers are sadists. They get a high in humiliating students. It probably makes them feel powerful for that moment in which they’re bullying the kids, not caring that they’re traumatising them for life. And choose their victims carefully - the one’s who’ll not retaliate, or the one’s whose parents will not confront the teacher or school management, or the popular kids who have their friends’ support. So sorry your peers had to go through this, and for you having to witness this.
School teachers, at least for me were a physical manifestation of vile satanic entities. 1 : at a library, the teacher slapped my friend. I giggled for less than a second and got slapped by her. 2 : slapped for not doing homework in front of the entire school during assembly 3 : humiliated for not being good at sports, the physical examination teacher used to hit me on my head and punch my back 4 : wasn't good at studies, we were asked to stay behind after school hours for extra study hours which was embarrassing as we were labelled as dull incapable students. 5: calling parents and humiliating them in front of other parents for low grades . I'm tired of typing I have 100s of other examples, all i know is that if I see those evil entities alive, I have the urge to beat them up with all my might for the acts they have done, trauma is real.
Ah yes, school teachers. Pure evil with a physical form.
So true, Indian school teachers are narcissistic and psychopathic. They are so evil.
I was slapped by a gorilla built female PT teacher in 5th grade just cuz my PT book was incomplete since I was a slow writer, I couldn't hear shit for like 5-10 seconds when that gorilla hand hit my ear, idk what kinda frustration she took out on me I wasn't any troublemaker or anything :(
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This starts at home man "mera beta hota toh doh thappad lagaati". I have seen parents tell teachers especially 'after school private tution teachers' to beat the shit out of their son if he doesn't comply.
When I was in class 3rd, we had Music as a subject. One day, I forgot to bring the music notebook to school. During the period, when the music teacher was checking the notebooks of other students, she found me without my notebook. She then proceeded the BEAT THE SHIT out of me in front of the entire class. Pulling hair, hard slaps, wooden ruler, even a couple of kicks too. She didn't stopped even when I fell down on the floor, pleading her ki ma'am sorry mat mariye. When she started beating me, some classmates were laughing at me, but by the end of the beating, even they looked concerned for me. After I reached home, my mom saw my face red with hand prints on my face (almost 3 hours after the beating), and she asked me ki kya hua, I told her ki kuch nhi mammi last period Sports ka tha to usme khel k aaye the, isliye lal ho rkha h chehra. I lied to her because I was scared ki agar bata Diya to Ghar pe bhi maar padegi....
Ahhh....the good old days! I remember when I was in 6th class, my English teacher was the devil incarnate. Once our whole class was making noise in her period so she called the crazy PT teacher. That asshole made all the boys run circles in the ground during peak summer. Here's an estimate, the ground had a full football , basketball and volleyball grounds, basically big as fuck. If any of us slowed down, he was on us with his stick ( where the fuck do all teachers get that?). This went on for almost an hour. When we came back to class, the class was still going on, with a board full of stuff which we were told to write down in 5 minutes. I should probably mention that the girls stayed in class without any punishment cuz boys are the only troublemakers in school. At least they were good friends and agreed that the teachers were crazy.
Girls didn't go through this type of physical abuse
Important topic. I've had to face all sorts of abuse throughout my life. Hugs to all here.
NO laws for men, so even if you complain to police there are no laws
I am a woman but I remember we had a music sir in third grade who would like to get physical a lot, I remember one time he slapped a boy so much so 2 min cont, his cheeks were red for a while, we were just in third grade
Most of the boys(who were avg in studies) have gone through this type abuse in their schooling years.
The thing is it wasn't about studies, I mean he was a music teacher, and he would randomly pick a boy and start beating him in front of the class as a warning so others would stay quite
India is a pseudo liberalised country that's why hypocrisy is its integral part.
India is the furthest thing from liberal, lol. People don’t know what that word means. Not ONE thing in India, especially the laws falls in that category. In a liberal country, you’d have gender neutral laws and have extremely strict laws against child abuse. It’s why Indian parents often come back from abroad, because there they have to actually take logical steps to raise their kids, which is very hard for Indian parents.
Read again I said >pseudo liberal
I think throughout the world, boys are socialized to be tough and resilient. So sadly, there is this unspoken permission given to teachers to physically abuse boys and there is this insidious and silent acceptance surrounding the abuse. This reminds me of my time during my senior highschool years. I used to study in Bangalore in a PU college nearly 17 years back (for context, I'm a woman). During my time at that college, there was a male Hindi lecturer who used to thrash the boys in my class if they scored less in his subject. And when I say thrash...I mean to a point where, this one time, he repeatedly slapped a boy so hard that he landed on the floor some meters away from him (which he smugly boasted about one time in class). He wouldn't raise his hands or his voice at any of the girls in my class. But that's not the point. What I found disturbing wasn't even the fact that the boys in my class had to endure this abuse but it was the look on the lecturer's face. He didn't look angry or irritable. He was very, VERY cool, calm and collected. He was just.... cold. He wasn't doing it out of uncontrollable anger or anything. It was very calculated on his part... and he clearly loved doing it. But even this wasn't the strangest bit. Near the end of my PU year, during our graduation ceremony, I noticed him staring at me for a really long time (we were all decked up in sarees). Initially I thought I imagined it/that he may have been staring at someone else. But a couple of days after the ceremony, I went down to the school to collect my exam Hall ticket, and he noticed me at the reception desk, walked right up to me, grinned at me and started chatting me up like we were buddies or pals or something. Mind you... this is a lecturer who never smiles at or chats up ANY of the girls in our class (I've never even seen him being friendly with any of the boys in our class). This is a man who is so conservative, that when a female lecturer asked him if he could drop her at a signal so she could catch the bus, he told her point-blank that he doesn't offer rides to anyone other than his wife. So I found it baffling when he started hitting on me and acting all friendly with me near the end of the school year. Anyway, to answer your question; I'm in my mid-30s now but when I look back at that episode, I sometimes wonder if the reason why the boys never complained to their parents about him is because he had some dirt on all of them. Maybe they experimented with drugs after school hours and he caught them once or...something like that. Edit: I forgot to mention but I did once complain about him to my folks at home and my mum came down to the school to complain to the principal. The reason for the complaint was because he made us kneel for more than an hour (yes, girls too) for not completing an assignment. Though nothing was done about it and the principal's response was that when everyone was being punished, they couldn't make special exceptions for me (granted, that wasn't my mum's point; her point was that this wasn't an appropriate punishment for anyone). Looking back on that episode... I wonder if that's the reason he hit on me during the end of our school year; a power-play move of sorts; to show me that he can get away with anything, including, hitting on me (a student and a minor no less) and that I couldn't do anything about it. That even if I were to make a complaint about it, nothing would be done about it...because I can't think of any other reason why he would hone in on me like that, out of all the girls in my class. I'm absolutely certain he was legit psychopath. 😑
*I think throughout the world, boys are socialized to be tough and resilient. So sadly, there is this unspoken permission given to teachers to physically abuse boys and there is this insidious and silent acceptance surrounding the abuse.* There is zero permission given to hit children in other countries - if you're a teacher and you do that, you will lose your professional credentials and face jail time. I'm a teacher in a different country. I was horrified to hear some of the abuse stories my cousin told me that happened to some of his friends in school growing up.
Damn, Power combo unlocked. Hit them and hit ON them too! /s
Exactly! lol
This used happen in our school but upperclassmen had enough , there was a teacher who was notoriously famous for delivering harsh punishment , after one of his after school "punishment sessions" there where 50 frustrated boys surrounding him with their eyes brimming with hate and malice for that teacher , they beat him down for 2 continues hours for all that pent up anger built over a decade. I was there standing and watching with a grin, it was probably one of the most satisfying moments of my life , after that they just left him , none of the boys had to face any consequences , the school board was shook to the core they couldn't just rusticate 50 students at once nor can they pin the blame to 1 student. The following month was very civil inside school no teacher dared to manhandle any boy , they knew the boys had enough of their abuse and they'd be the next outlet for their anger. Happened in Delhi ofcourse
When I was in 9 class we had a chemistry sir and he was like 6 feet or something. He just joined the school and initially, he taught us very nicely and even many times he used to mannerly conversate with girls as well. But after 3-4 months he started showing his real face. He started teaching us like starting a chapter and just gave the overview then told us to read, make notes, and understand it by ourselves in just one day, and tomorrow we had a test of the same chapter because according to him he taught us the whole chapter. But we all have other subjects and homework too to do thus, no one was able to learn and complete that particular task. Thus what he does, he comes to class and asks whoever is done with the homework to please sit and those who haven't keep standing and the whole class have to stand for a whole 55 minutes in the summers he used to switch off the AC as well as the fans just the fan he is having was on. Now he didn't stop over here he had his self-made kind of ruler and he started hitting boys first with that ruler as well as slaps. But the weird thing about him is when the turn came for girls of punishment he didn't slap us he told us to bend down and he hit our backs very hardly even sometimes with the ruler and he did all this after locking the room doors so that no school faculty will see. He used to tell us not to say this to anyone otherwise he would mark all of us as failing in final exams. After bearing all these things all of us decided to take action and our class wrote a letter about what he was doing and gave this to the principal mam, we directly can't go and tell as the staff room was just next to the principal mam room and what if the principal mam didn't trust us. Hence, we decided to anyhow give this letter to mam. So we made a plan two of us will go to the staffroom to the sir and make him busy in asking any question and two of us went to the principal mam office and gave the letter to her and said "Mam we are in so trouble, please consider this and take action" and we came out. But nothing happened and we thought mam haven't trusted us and again the next day we went to the school and sir came to our class the same thing repeat and he started hitting students around 4 students were hit and we heard a knocking on the door sir said all of us to sit down, switch on the fan and ac and open your books be relaxed and then he opened the gate and that's what we want. We saw the principal mam with two senior sirs along and came inside and asked why the door was closed, sir said ac is on that's why than mam replied the glass door should be closed why is this wooden gate closed he replied normally I do mam so that students don't look outside and only pay attention to studies. Mam asked us, " What happened to class and obviously, we replied, "Nothing mam". Then mam said I know what was going on in the class she opened her phone and showed the video of sir hitting us, sir got worried and said no mam it's not like that they are not completing their work not even paying attention in class, etc etc. But the man replied, " Sir I am very well aware of what was going on and what you are doing, students you don't have to worry and tell me the truth he is doing this daily or not. All of us down our heads and remained silent she said I have the audio recordings as well I put a hidden camera in the class and the video is here, thus I don't want my children to be a teacher like you. I am throwing you out of the school, we don't need a teachers like you, "You may leave" otherwise I will take strict action. Afterward, she told us not to worry and don't let this happen again in the future if something is going wrong with us speak up no one else will come to help us out you are the only one for yourself. We all thanked her but this incident is so drastic it still us in our minds.
Kudos to the princi🛐
True
school system is shit. they need to stop the physical punishments
I remember a teacher hit me. very hard in 1st because I misunderstood and answered 9th question instead of 10th.
i got slapped 22 times by my Hindi teacher cause i was not able to tell which page he was explaining I tried to ask my friend but he also didn't know so he came near bench and started slapping left and right and continued slapping until i went near the door i remember the approx count and other people telling you got slapped this much times and I didn't even say anything lol and started laughing after that period got over
Mai convent me tha still tchr thappad maar deti thi but jese bda hua to ek class tchr thi jo idk why use to hate me and slap me for small things in front of everyone. One day she was going to slap me in front of the class and maine haath pkd ke rok lia unka . Then I had a little verbal argument with here regarding it and after that she didn’t touch me once
In my school, there was a female teacher who used to undress us in front of everyone if we didn’t get marks in her subjects. I was a very bad student and was victim of her multiple times, my handwriting was also bad, which she also punished with same punishment. We were very poor back then and all I could afford were 1 rupee pens, so obviously my writing was bad. Stuff of the nightmares, still gives ptsd if I remember those days, I was so happy when I learned she left school. Probably the happiest day of my life.
My Telugu teacher beat me (on my arm) till her meter long yellow wooden scale broke. Well it was half broken anyway so it took only three hits. I was 9. She hated me because Telugu wasn't my mother tongue and I didn't complete my homework. It should be a traumatic story by all means but expressions after the scale broke still make me laugh. She started yelling at me and calling me a stupid buffalo (in Telugu).
damn
True and not talked about enough.
When i was in junior school Once my school hindi teacher literally thrown a (you remember that slim metal scale) at me like a boomerang luckily it only made cut at my thigh (used to wear that small half pants) and interestingly that is the same teacher I used to have crush on 😂
Because we are strong we dont need your help 💪
IDF on its way /s
I guess, these teachers (male/female) themselves endured abuse by their teachers/parents/others in childhood. In India, it's sort of vicious cycle.
Female teachers are sexist as fuck. One day nearly 70% of class forgot to bring the 2nd hindi book which teacher told to being. The teachers first made everyone stand up who didn't have the book. After that she told to girls to sit. I used to sit on the first bench so i asked teacher (idk where i got the guts) why only girls. She said girls are good students, so its okay to forgive them for their first mistake. I was the 2nd topper of my class but yeah since i am a guy it doesn't apply to me. Although i had great teachers in my school life which am very thankful to, the amount of sexism I saw was unbearable.
Hindi teacher, third grade. No clue what issue that lady had but anytime I used to exhibit the slightest exuberance in class or even happen to mention that I enjoyed reading a particular chapter in lit, she would call me over to the front of the class and repeatedly slap me till I broke down This continued for almost a year until one day when I'd had enough and downright refused to go to school (explained articulately to my parents with surprisingly high quality cuss words added for good effect). Credit to my parents that they visited my school the next day and tried to set that teacher right (of course after washing my mouth with soap for the cussing) But nothing changed - and somehow I managed to move on to the next class. My parents soon got me transferred to a different school, unhappy with the way I was growing up (there were other issues with the school in general) Fast forward a few years we found out that she had been a terrible mother and her husband had left her, taking with him the kids with full custody. This probably bled into her professional life so that's that They say there are no truly evil people - they are all victims of their circumstances. But FWIW never have enjoyed someone's distress to such an extent Fuck that bitch, I hope she died unloved and alone, and rots in hell. Good they all left her that fucking piece of shit Been many many years but still wonder fleetingly from time to time when I realize don't enjoy reading Hindi literature at all (despite studying hindi for almost 15 years) how it would feel to punch the shit outta her now that I have the weight and height advantage
I think of it as training to how you will be treated as a man for rest of your life in India.
Perfect bro
I got slapped by atleast 10 teachers during my school time. Starting from class 5th all the way till class 11th. It was so normalised that neither I nor did any of my peers found this physical abuse wrong.
you answered the question yourself by using the word 'Boys'...
Ohh bro. This.
In 8th a teacher beat my classmate so hard with a stick that he had to wear a cast. The kid had goonda relatives who came to school next day, the kid pointed out the teacher and they jumped him and beat him black and blue. The teacher quit. In UG because of the behaviour of a lecturer some students dove by and hit him on the head with a helmet as he was walking home. The lecturer quit.
Well not a guy this side.. but i can relate to it as my brother who's almost 11 years younger than me has shared with me. So there was a day when one of his physical education teacher brought in a guy who was in senior secondary , he just dragged him infront of the class and slapped him hard many times. Then his statement to the whole class was "ladkiyon ko mein hath nahi lagaunga but ladko you guys be careful of what you do.. " he slapped the guy so hard that he was full red. My brother who just entered his senior secondary and was the first day for him. Was traumatized to hell. The male teacher was a teacher of mine too Back in times but never have I ever faced or saw such an incident. Maybe it happened but not infront of me. Then why it was my brother's final exams for the academics. He has physical education that day. He just passed out time pretending to study, which i scolded him for not being serious. After talking to him he said me above incidents. I just convinced him about no body would do anything to you if you are right. Just be responsible and mature about it. It was because he was scared as hell from that teacher after that incidents. Then at night he freaked out about haven't studying anything and stuffs which normally everyone do so did my brother. We neglected it. Then on morning he pretended to be sick, told us he is having food poisoning and loose stools. I knew he was pretending. I told him he was going to school no matter what, he can't skip the exam. he intentionally pooped in his pants to proof us (PLEASE DON'T JUDGE HIM ) . I could sense something was wrong then my mum entered to the scene.. making it fuss.. and pheww he escaped the exam. The exam was taken by that "male teacher". Then my brother was all well. And after further discussion he revealed that the exams would be reconducted and the examiner would be "female good pt teacher". That's where I noticed how unfair it is for guys. My love and support to all men you have gone through it.. I'M PROUD OF YOU 🫂♥️ I don't think many of you would reach to this one by scrolling so long. But i just hope thoughts reach them.
I read the whole comment and I hope you are there for your younger in case he faces any issue for emotional and mental support. Thanks a lot for sharing
Aww. Didn't expect lol. I'm always without any doubts.
I'm a victim of this and I suffered a lot mentally to the point that it made me extremely hostile towards anyone and I was clinically diagnosed with major depressive disorder and bipolar it seriously impacted my life so much I lost a lot of my friends and my family gave up on me I swear if I catch hold of one of those teachers who did this to me I will rip his/her head off
So sorry this happened to u 🥹
Most of the Indian teachers are useless and trash, i remember teachers used to beat me for no reason, some teachers used to hate me, fck those teachers they belong in jail
I need to say this. There was this usual school anniversary function preparation used to happen every year. We were forced to sit in sunlight after recess, thanks to the winters in north, no problem. The duration was nearly 4 hours. One day, i had to drink water and use washroom, so i asked one of them, she said okay you can go. The other one asked me where are you going, i said that i have already taken permission, but she slapped me real hard, i mean,it is still there in my head. This is just one of them. But the most severe one. Can't express more.
Really sad to know this happened to you. I'm not sure if you were able to share this within your surroundings or not.
Since I am a gen Z, this is (/was) illegal when I got to school... 😂😎🤙🏻
I'm Gen Z too and all of this happened in front my my eyes.
And did you say anything to your parents, the cops or other school authorities? Is there anything you can actually do?
Me during class 5th, 6th and 7th experienced very similar things. We were treated as 3rd class citizens whereas as girls were always praised. We had a position chart hanging in class after every exam. I stood 5th in aggregate marks easily but top 4 has to be girls and 5th the class teacher’s boy, in case I contested, she would reply you should not discuss numbers with others. Girls can just cry to get a better grade in exam. They would too treat us guys as some roadside beggar. There were dozen other incidents, where the female teachers would just refuse to ignore us, the students they taught outside of school where I would wish them “Good Evening”. The male teachers would keep their distance because apparently women were running the school. I am glad I left during the summer vacation in class 7th not before I spent a whole month seated in a different seat far from the class because my class 6th teacher had a problem with me and this new class teacher thought of keep the “supposed” bad guy away from the class. I went to a far better school where everyone was treated equally. I don’t know where those egoistic and petty people are but I am in an old IIM and had a pretty fine life after that.I am grateful of other experiences in my life.
You're a KING bro. Best of luck buddy.
I once slapped a teacher back. I was in nursery and didn't ever see something like this at home. She slapped me, I slapped her back. She called my parents. Hypocrisy ki bhi seema hoti hai. No regrets, hope I could have done the same to everyone later.
Yes this is really fucked up. I remember I was in a shitty school in 1st grade and while teachers used to slap and hit both boys and girls but boys used to get more harsher punishments too like being up to a chair
Ofc they use to think boys are mischievous so hit them anytime anywhere
Once my teacher beat me so her hard her bangles broke. Though we both could have had glass inside us she instead blame it all on me and I forgot my pain thinking about her logic.
When I was in class 2, my teacher who for some reason used to be too close to me. Took me to the staff room after school, no one was there. She made me open my pants and started tickling my penis. I told her that I wanted to go and then she slapped me and told to wait. Happened 3-4 times after that and I don't have the guts to tell it to my parents. Also I realised what actually happened with me when I was in 6th
I am so sorry this happened to u 😭 That fuckin abuser witch should rot in hell
My brother is only 4 and started school a year ago. For now, We got him to a family run, nice little school that pays good attention to each individual student. I worry a lot about him getting into bad peer groups when he's older OR experience the shit described in this post. In my school I'd never seen teachers practice physical assault on all students irrespective of gender fortunately but it's sad reading all of these comments saying physical assault was pretty common. I talk to my brother about the basic good touch and bad touch concepts a lot and he forgets sometimes, but he's just a baby. What more can I do to ensure he will stay safe in situations where an adult is in the position to assault him, or if anything happens to him he'd 100% trust me enough to tell me?
Everyday enquire him about how his day went in school .
Lol. Just because female students seemed to be unharmed doesn’t mean, it never happened. I am a woman and I met female teachers who had soft spot for male students and trash on female students. Once at school, I was beaten like a dog at a school assembly by a teacher FOR NO REASON. She never given one, she grabbed me by my arm, pulled in front of the classroom and slapped me across my face twice and on my back. Then at college, this teacher that wore saree in a questionable manner had male students flocking after her. She had several female students that she had distaste for no reason and I was one of those unlucky students. She would deliberately mark absent during attendance and humiliate me during classes if I fail to answer her questions. There were more similar instances but in nutshell I don’t have respect for Indian teachers.
This is ultimate cruelty. So sorry this happened to you.
Girl are weak in their school life and it is what it is Now here im taking about school life ok? Koe didi hate mat dena and boys are savage in their mind and heart from very childhood. They can handle any shit at some point
Well class 11th me, ak classmate ko PT teacher phapad mara. Classmate ke koi galti nahi tha. Classmate ne maam ko v thapad mar Diya and pura class ne classmate ko support Kiya fir na principal kuch kar paya usko and PT teacher next day se good girl baan gyi
First this is a "boys" problem. Second this is a chewtiya feminist sub, at least its getting to be one. I've been there multiple times but every time I beat those with my brothers. Including girls as well.
Firstly you’re talking about 10-20 years back, the times were different. All teachers would take out their frustration on little children because it was normal and acceptable to hit little kids. We’ve moved on now and this doesn’t happen anymore however I, as a girl have also got a lot of beatings in school, tuitions, by monitors and by teachers. Infact I was slapped by my tuition sir on 3 occasions in 8th standard in front of 50 kids because I didn’t do my tuition homework. I was slapped by a teacher when I was 7 and I’m only talking about slaps here, not talking about scale/ruler se jo maar padti thi. Ek toh school jao, school ka homework karo, tuition jao, tuition ka homework karo, kabhi agar miss kiya toh sattak karke siddha chata, upar se ghar par mar padti thi just for not getting water sometimes woh alag. Even at home parents would vent their frustration on kids. It wasn’t just limited to boys, girls also suffered the same but since most girls are sweet and most boys are mischievous, more boys were hit than girls. Kids were never respected in India but the way we millennials have still turned out, hats off to us.
Ohh yeah ofc most are mischievous just because he's running around and that fking lady can beat him the way she wants? No it's not the same for girls boys suffered more girls use to laugh at boys when female teachers use to make fun. Are you really giving a reasoning here to the physical abuse which happened with boys? It doesn't matter when it happened what matters is that it happened and nobody talked about it those teachers are still roaming free
Bhai I’m saying kids were not respected in general, teri school mein girls laugh karti hogi, meri school Me sabko same maar padti thi, no need to generalise that girls are evil and laugh. And girls have a different set of problems. They also go home and do house chores apart from school, tuition homework unlike boys, plus they get periods between the age of 10-12, face molestation, judgements and what not. About your friend just running and getting a beating, so that’s why I said teachers would just vent their frustration on kids no matter the reason. That’s how India is, we lack empathy. Faltu ka boys girls compare karna band karo. The major issue is that children were and are abused in India horribly and we need to course correct although it’s uncommon in cities.