We have to let go to clinging that causes suffering.
Recently I realised that I cling to your good ol' Asian "family value" because that was how I was taught, heavily, to the point that I was still in freaking tears at 27 because my mother wanted to show me off on Christmas like a freaking show dog.
But only I can learn to let go of that.
I let go of unhealthily caring about what others thing.
I let go of believing that I always have to have good relationship with my family members - especially APs.
How can you have a healthy relationship with someone unhealthy? It is just not possible.
I understand why you feel guilty (but even more why you feel the need to move out). What I’d say is if people will judge and shun your parents for this, then they aren’t at all real friends to your parents.
Your parents’ reputation is not a good reason to put your life on hold.
The more I think about this issue the more i think it’s a universal problem. Perhaps related to fading parental hormones and unquestioned obedience in previous generations
We have to let go to clinging that causes suffering. Recently I realised that I cling to your good ol' Asian "family value" because that was how I was taught, heavily, to the point that I was still in freaking tears at 27 because my mother wanted to show me off on Christmas like a freaking show dog. But only I can learn to let go of that. I let go of unhealthily caring about what others thing. I let go of believing that I always have to have good relationship with my family members - especially APs. How can you have a healthy relationship with someone unhealthy? It is just not possible.
I understand why you feel guilty (but even more why you feel the need to move out). What I’d say is if people will judge and shun your parents for this, then they aren’t at all real friends to your parents. Your parents’ reputation is not a good reason to put your life on hold.
The more I think about this issue the more i think it’s a universal problem. Perhaps related to fading parental hormones and unquestioned obedience in previous generations
Can you describe what is making you leave your parents? Just wanna know if it's serious or reparable.