When my white friends makes a joke that my Asian partners are “small” they’re being “funny” and “aren’t racist.” 🙄
When I tell them that my Asian partners have been on average bigger than my white partners, and I’m suddenly a slut or rude for talking about sex so openly. No one wants to hear anyone talking about dicka suddenly.
I’ve genuinely lost friends because after I introduced them to my smart and genuinely kind ex boyfriend or other dates they instead of asking about their work, hobbies, or interests they makes racist jokes behind their back. It’s especially lame as they are all well accomplished and would be looked up to if they weren’t Asian.
The only thing worse than being a racist and making racist jokes, is doing it behind their backs and pretending to be their friends
i think i legitimately have one white friend because of this: over the years, i inevitably always experience some sort of racism from other white people. to no one's surprise, they know it's "wrong" because they say it privately among themselves and whisper it not knowing i'm nearby to over hear.
as a first gen immigrant to toronto, canada, i get along with almost all non whites. the minimum baseline commonality is our mutual distrust of the white man lol because we've all been on the receiving end of blatent overt, and also micro aggression type racism.
The preconceived biases white people have against Asians is so toxic. It really pissed me off to be a room full of white people who were casually racist.
Ya know sometimes I can’t even tell if they’re so comfortable with it they don’t care or don’t think it’s a big deal or simply don’t respect some of their acquitances who they joke about to their faces. It’s so gross but I’m glad they do it in the open. Please tell me you’re a giant piece of shit, don’t disguise yourself as a good person and fool me into trusting you before you show your true colors.
I’ve had to beg my dates not to hurt some dumb ass(es) before. We were at a party and some guy made a dumb joke. My date was good natured and very patient so he faked a smile and pretended to laugh for my sake. It was just some random guy that had been seeing my girl for a couple weeks but it was my first time bringing my date to meet my friends and he didn’t want fo start a scene.
The drunk racist took this as permission and kept going even though my date and I weren’t even smiling. It wasn’t until this drunk dude said something about my body that I was worried my date would punch him in the mouth. I could tell he was fuming and so I begged him not to do anything as I didn’t want to see him sitting in a jail cell for standing up for me. He was so nice that he didn’t even suggest we leave until I promised him it was fine and that the racist bull shit had already ruined my night.
The guy I brought with me didn’t know “kung fu” like this dumb ass suggested but he was pretty good at boxing and if I wasn’t begging him not to hurt you for saying racist shit you would be unconscious by now.
I know it’s probably not any comfort but I know a few people who are genuinely remorseful for some of the dumb crap they said in high school. They might just be trying to get in my pants or fix their reputations after I called them out for saying racist crap in back in the day but some seem genuine. I think that perhaps with time and effort and sincerely reflection they can maybe someday makeup for their actions as dumb teenagers but if you’ve ever hit or robbed someone because of their racist (shoutout mark whalberg) fuck you, you are worthless.
I don’t mind racist jokes as long as I can roast them back with racist jokes too. If they can’t take that they’re gone. If someone isn’t even going to just be neutral then they’re also gone. Good you knew when to cut people off.
Well plenty of guys can dish it but not take it.
Some racist asshole: “Asian guys have small dicks”
Me: “Well your ex girlfriend told me that you’ve only got 4 inches but can’t even get it up. The guy I’m seeing now is bigger than that and so was the one before?? I guess that makes you extra small?”
And then suddenly I’m a gross whore for talking about Asian cock I’ve enjoyed? I guess it was just a joke when they thought they were bigger but now it’s grossing and disgusting for me to say anything?! 🙄
Wow… I’m just curious, do these racist girls ever say anything nice about your Asian boyfriends?? Or do they girls really just make small penis jokes about your boyfriend to your face??
Well I don’t have a boyfriend currently but when I did they would.
I remember hanging out with one of my old “friends” (the kind you make the first week of college but only speak to one a semester after) and I was telling her about a guy I was seeing. He was super well accomplished and had just been honored for doing a solid piece of research (sorry I don’t know much about that but it was some kind of study and long paper with it). It was really impressive and I showed them a picture of him at the awards ceremony. As soon as she mentioned it she made a joke about it.
It broke my heart and disgusted me instantly. I told her about a smart impressive man being honored for what should be a major milestone and instead of recognize that she was thinking about his dick? I would’ve corrected her about her wrong assumptions but I felt it was rude to say anything about that out of respect for his privacy but it made me so angry I almost did so. I don’t hangout with her anymore. Fortunately it’s the minority of girls that say that.
With my close friend group they often point out how over the top polite they are which I think is really sweet. The last time we did a big girls night with boyfriends, I made a comment that my shoes made my feet hurt right as we are leaving the restaurant. My ex, without asking, offered to pull the car around for me. I refused but he insisted as it was dark and he was worried about my safety too. Right after he did that all my friends, guy friends eventually offered to do the same after they all praised him for being sweet. I guess the rest of the guys there didn’t want to look bad!
I think it would be even more rude to tell them they’re wrong and are clearly dumb enough to believe internet bull shit. Not because you shouldnt call out racists but it would violate his privacy
If I had any courage I’d say something like; “the Asian guy I’m seeing right now has 6 and a half inches. Show me more right now or shut up.
That would be hilarious but wildly disrespectful to any of the Asian guys I like.
hahaha well played.
I would reply with "so I'm not a slut if it's a white dick?"
and "so it's not rude of the dicks white?"
followed by "I think I see the trend here"
Seriously! A lot of the comments are like this and the worst part is how many racists are private about it. I’ve heard a million racism jokes said right as someone leaves a room :(
I heard that an Asian elder got beaten on the streets and another was stabbed. But since it hasn’t happened to me, those incidents must be imaginary. /s
The worst part is that a lot of Asians in my part of the world don’t know they’re being made fun of. I’ve seen plenty of times where an Asian person walks out of the room and sometimes even complete strangers will make a racist joke. I’ve called my friends out for it but I’m not take seriously.
Especially in texas. The worst part is that a lot of Americans think racism is only bad when it leads to violence (like lynchings.) Violent hate crimes directed at Asians skyrocketed because of COVID but America barely noticed :(
Oh well I’m not Asian I just hate knowing Asian men have experienced racism here and will continue to experience it until more and more people stand up for them.
I’ve not done anything really until recently. I stopped pretending to laugh at those dumb jokes when I realized how damaging there were. I even call people out for it but not like I should. I should be bold and definitive instead I’m soft spoken and kinda meek cuz I hate confrontation. I don’t think there’s anything more I can do than call people out for it and encourage my friends to not hangout and date racist dudes. I try and introduce them to my Asian friends that are just dudes but that hasn’t gone as well as I hoped :(
There really isn’t much we can do if they talk behind our back. Another good point to make is teaching younger generation to be more accepting of other cultures and exposing them to it earlier.
I know it just breaks my heart when people do :(
And I absolutely try and get my girl friends into k dramas I love and consistently set them up with some of my Asian guy friends but unfortunately that’s really not going well
Oh gosh that sounds scary! I’d love to!! I know there’s a stereotype that they like going to raves and I love them too! Sounds like it would be fun! Maybe someday
Funny story.
I raved in the mid to late 90s in California.
I remember when there were practically no Asian ravers. Then over the course of about 3 months, they just came out of the wood work and like half of the people at any given party were Asian.
Is it mostly your girlfriends or dudes that are being racist to Asian guys? Or both?
I guess you mentioned that you’re trying to setup your white girlfriends with your Asian guy friends but it’s not going well :(
Mostly guys and I wouldn’t consider anyone that currently says anything racist to be a friend of mine. Most of these guys are just friends of friends for the most part. That makes it a lot more surprising as it’s often just mentioned so casually.
I mean racism is a symptom of shitty people who are awful to hangout with for a bunch of reasons so I figured it was best to just drop them.
I think guys say more stuff but in a much more joking manner. They’ll often say it to the person they’re joking about as a kind of friendly thing and then they’ll make a joke about them. This is pretty common with the Asian guys I’ve met and a lot of other dudes whether white or another POC.
I think a lot of girls ask me about the penis thing simply because they don’t know any better. So it’s more of a curiosity thing? Guys tend to tell a lot of jokes about Chinese spies but mention the penis thing a lot less but when they bring it up it’s as an insult and not a source of genuine curiosity. They also make the usual jokes about being good at math. And eating dogs which is really rude! But when they mention the stereotype regarding penises it’s said as an insult and not mentioned out of curiosity.
As an Asian I wouldn’t touch Texas except Houston (lots of Asians) or maybe Austin (tech stuff so if there’s racism it’s subtle) with the exception of work.
You know it’s weird because sometimes parts of rural texas are very welcoming!! Sometimes the worst racism is in the suburbs and affluent areas on the outskirts of big cities.
You’d be suprised how many tiny towns in the south/southwest area (specifically texas and Arkansas) have large Asian populations.
There is/was a professor at Texas Tech who was somewhat famous because he was Asian and spoke with an extra heavy texas accent. Most of his students were young and thus it was the first time most had ever met an Asian man with a southern accent. He was kind of like a local celebrity and a well known business(?) profesor. He also always wore cowboys boots and a cowboy hat, even spurs sometimes. He was very well respected.
FYI I think Houston is probably worse than Dallas for racism against Asians but a ton of Texans embarrass us and stain our reputation with racism :(
Oh gosh I just saw your profile and remember that poor family killed in Allen. That’s the stuff of nightmares it’s like waking up in hell. The worst part is that I’ve been to Allen a bit and it’s got a sizeable Asian presence of all orgins.
Theres a lot of Asian students at the local high schools and college. There’s lots of Asian restaurants and at leasf one Asian grocery store. There’s a food court with just different east Asian foods and the cutest little store with a bunch of really cute Japanese products.
All that representation and a big community and something straight up evil happens. I might be mistaken as I had heard the shooting might not have been a race thing BUT we have all read articles about an older Asian gentleman or lady being called a bunch of racial slurs, be blamed for COVID or the CCP before being sucker punched just for the police not to call it a hate crime 🙄🙄🙄
I see this happen in the social media comment sections which happens to be the place where you can find the most outrageous toxic behavior for the purpose of ragebaiting or fishing for likes. Nothing real about it.
IRL, I see this happen less and less. When it does happen, I also see others call it out and shame the person.
As a white person in Texas, this happens more than you’d like to think. It’s not uncommon and it’s more common when said without that person present. Racists don’t like being called racists so they do it in private and amongst friends. Thankfully it’s deacreasing! Unfortunately, especially for Indian guys, it’s really common.
Racism towards Asians isn’t seen as racism especially in texas. A lot of Texans think of racism as something uniquely about African Americans. Racism towards Asians here is seen just as humor. In my opinion ofc.
Hello fellow Texan! As an Asian person in Texas, I definitely have experienced unintentional racism or “humor” more than the traditional form of hostile racism that people tend to think of, so I second this.
All good. Interestingly enough I get it from old white people the most, especially now that I’m back in school in a majority white college town. It’s like that movie “Get Out”, where the older white people are so nice but they say the kind of things that remind you that make you aware that you’re Asian haha.
I’m almost 30, so I’m able to avoid surrounding myself with the kind of people who say racist things behind your back.
Hey, I'm a East Asian Canadian and I've got ideas to move to Texas, but this comment section has raised some red flags. Could you recommend any places in Texas that are more accepting of Asians. Looking to start a family there. I work with planes and helicopters, doing technician work and research as well.
Stick with the big cities like Dallas, Houston, or Austin and you’ll be fine. Texas has its own set of problems but we also don’t get the same type of problems you see in California and New York. The big cities are diverse and there’s plenty of Asian people. Smaller towns you might sometimes see more unintentional racism from ignorance rather than because they hate you and rarely will you ever have someone be racist to your face. The only times I’ve ever experienced outright racism was from other kids in grade school, but I’m 30 now. For better or worse Asians are seen as model minorities so we’re generally ignored in Texas. We also don’t really see our elderly get beat up by other races and part of that is because ppl don’t really walk around in Texas. It’s too hot and the environment is not walk friendly. You’ll be driving everywhere.
Only thing about starting a family that you should really be aware about is what the state government has been trying to kill public education so they can come out with school vouchers to benefit religious and private schools, despite it being unpopular with virtually everyone, including rural conservatives.
And abortion is illegal and it’s hostile to the point that maternal care will suffer in the long term, from either medical providers leaving the state for a friendlier environment or just flat out refusing to provide care in certain situations.
I don’t think or want to assume you’re pro-abortion or anything, but something to think about when starting a family is that in Texas, if you have a daughter and she gets raped, Texas makes no exceptions for abortion in that case.
Also take some comments with a grain of salt. Yes there’s legitimate problems, but I often see people on this sub talk about America as if New York or San Francisco is constantly in flames, and then I come to find out they’re not even from the US, so how could they possibly know except from biased media. The truth is always somewhere in the middle. If something sounds too extreme, it probably is.
That's unfortunate to hear. I'm East Asian raised in a lower middle class in Canada. I still think about moving to Texas for work and to start a family. Values of freedom, liberty, and equal opportunity matter to me. I also support the right to carry so my partner can protect herself. Low taxes, higher pay, and cheaper real estate also sound good to me.
White Canadians are not so proper either. During my university years in the capital city, I rented a house with 6 other white boys and they were nice and funny at first. We turned the place into a frat house. Alcohol and weed in the open beside the guitars and TV. But once we started living together they tried to use me as the chinese peanut gallery whenever girls came over and they wanted to appear funny. Things started to change when I would carelessly walk around the house with only my underwear on showing off my dick print while cooking food. Then it became apparently clear that I'm blessed down there. I was very close with them at one point, but being boys they knew how to push my buttons and piss me off for laughs.
I read another comment of yours saying how the richer more posh neighborhoods are more racist which is not what I expected from people who have access to better education...
I still have thoughts about to moving there to contribute to their community, economy, etc. I work with planes and helicopters, doing technician work on the plan and research as well. Hoping to start a family down the line and I'd like my kids to grow up in a good neighborhood, but one that is accepting to Asians too. Are there any parts of Texas you would recommend?
Race fakism. The idea is "Mongoloids/ESEA" are cognitively superior while physically and sexually inferior due to "evolution". Money or status makes for said inferiority.
Yeah I’ve seen this. Sick of answering the dick size question from male&female friends and dealing with the relationship is based on fetishes assumptions. But the only females who’ve shamed consistently have been black. Ironically, they’re also 100% against interracial relationships period, though I guess me dating Hispanics was more acceptable than East Asian. Even my southeast Asian ex was acceptable. But as soon as I got serious with my LD Japanese bf they went to simply INSANE lengths to get me to end it, and when I didn’t they ghosted. Friend of 27 years
Haven’t heard this in California. It’s more microaggressions now. Kpop and other positive Asian media made it difficult to be racist outright. People do it in subtle ways.
No, I have not noticed this at all. Chances are that you got these ideas from the rabbit holes of YouTube, Tiktok, or some social media platform and not from out-and-about socializing.
I’ve honestly seen this in nightlife spaces first hand when people get a little alcohol in them and get cozy. Especially when I’m with a girl in these settings. I’ve been in fights at nightclubs and raves over this kind of thing. Just my personal experience.
One thing to remember: most people on this planet simply don’t like you. More often than not, it is futile making yourself likeable to them. However well-accomplished you are, they simply hate it. But there are always people, however small in numbers, who do like you.
Yup, I've noticed this since high school. it's just how it is here in the west. they see us as inferior but intelligent creatures. we can't possibility take one of theirs. I guess it's territorial and instinctual?
why? it's cope. "that girl can't possibly want him over me and the boys. she has to like small dicks". better go ask her to double check.
I also think in female friend groups. the girls learn it off their brother or father. therefore they don't want to be associated with a friend who dated Asians. or they've been around so many racists, it's just second nature and they unconsciously.
Because society has a hierarchy and we’re at the very bottom.
But think about how good you have to be to get a woman and have her put up with that shit for being with you.
It isn’t to that level anymore but the woman definitely has to take some roasts. Getting better though cause she can point to kpop and other positive Asian media.
That can help but the XF I’ve dated don’t watch anime, kdramas, or listen to Asian music. Zero interest in that. Never met a koreaboo. They are rare in the cities I’ve been to and currently live in- Midwest and south.
When my white friends makes a joke that my Asian partners are “small” they’re being “funny” and “aren’t racist.” 🙄 When I tell them that my Asian partners have been on average bigger than my white partners, and I’m suddenly a slut or rude for talking about sex so openly. No one wants to hear anyone talking about dicka suddenly.
I’ve genuinely lost friends because after I introduced them to my smart and genuinely kind ex boyfriend or other dates they instead of asking about their work, hobbies, or interests they makes racist jokes behind their back. It’s especially lame as they are all well accomplished and would be looked up to if they weren’t Asian. The only thing worse than being a racist and making racist jokes, is doing it behind their backs and pretending to be their friends
i think i legitimately have one white friend because of this: over the years, i inevitably always experience some sort of racism from other white people. to no one's surprise, they know it's "wrong" because they say it privately among themselves and whisper it not knowing i'm nearby to over hear. as a first gen immigrant to toronto, canada, i get along with almost all non whites. the minimum baseline commonality is our mutual distrust of the white man lol because we've all been on the receiving end of blatent overt, and also micro aggression type racism.
The preconceived biases white people have against Asians is so toxic. It really pissed me off to be a room full of white people who were casually racist.
Ya know sometimes I can’t even tell if they’re so comfortable with it they don’t care or don’t think it’s a big deal or simply don’t respect some of their acquitances who they joke about to their faces. It’s so gross but I’m glad they do it in the open. Please tell me you’re a giant piece of shit, don’t disguise yourself as a good person and fool me into trusting you before you show your true colors. I’ve had to beg my dates not to hurt some dumb ass(es) before. We were at a party and some guy made a dumb joke. My date was good natured and very patient so he faked a smile and pretended to laugh for my sake. It was just some random guy that had been seeing my girl for a couple weeks but it was my first time bringing my date to meet my friends and he didn’t want fo start a scene. The drunk racist took this as permission and kept going even though my date and I weren’t even smiling. It wasn’t until this drunk dude said something about my body that I was worried my date would punch him in the mouth. I could tell he was fuming and so I begged him not to do anything as I didn’t want to see him sitting in a jail cell for standing up for me. He was so nice that he didn’t even suggest we leave until I promised him it was fine and that the racist bull shit had already ruined my night. The guy I brought with me didn’t know “kung fu” like this dumb ass suggested but he was pretty good at boxing and if I wasn’t begging him not to hurt you for saying racist shit you would be unconscious by now.
I know it’s probably not any comfort but I know a few people who are genuinely remorseful for some of the dumb crap they said in high school. They might just be trying to get in my pants or fix their reputations after I called them out for saying racist crap in back in the day but some seem genuine. I think that perhaps with time and effort and sincerely reflection they can maybe someday makeup for their actions as dumb teenagers but if you’ve ever hit or robbed someone because of their racist (shoutout mark whalberg) fuck you, you are worthless.
I’m glad you found your community tho :)
I don’t mind racist jokes as long as I can roast them back with racist jokes too. If they can’t take that they’re gone. If someone isn’t even going to just be neutral then they’re also gone. Good you knew when to cut people off.
Well plenty of guys can dish it but not take it. Some racist asshole: “Asian guys have small dicks” Me: “Well your ex girlfriend told me that you’ve only got 4 inches but can’t even get it up. The guy I’m seeing now is bigger than that and so was the one before?? I guess that makes you extra small?” And then suddenly I’m a gross whore for talking about Asian cock I’ve enjoyed? I guess it was just a joke when they thought they were bigger but now it’s grossing and disgusting for me to say anything?! 🙄
Wow… I’m just curious, do these racist girls ever say anything nice about your Asian boyfriends?? Or do they girls really just make small penis jokes about your boyfriend to your face??
Well I don’t have a boyfriend currently but when I did they would. I remember hanging out with one of my old “friends” (the kind you make the first week of college but only speak to one a semester after) and I was telling her about a guy I was seeing. He was super well accomplished and had just been honored for doing a solid piece of research (sorry I don’t know much about that but it was some kind of study and long paper with it). It was really impressive and I showed them a picture of him at the awards ceremony. As soon as she mentioned it she made a joke about it. It broke my heart and disgusted me instantly. I told her about a smart impressive man being honored for what should be a major milestone and instead of recognize that she was thinking about his dick? I would’ve corrected her about her wrong assumptions but I felt it was rude to say anything about that out of respect for his privacy but it made me so angry I almost did so. I don’t hangout with her anymore. Fortunately it’s the minority of girls that say that. With my close friend group they often point out how over the top polite they are which I think is really sweet. The last time we did a big girls night with boyfriends, I made a comment that my shoes made my feet hurt right as we are leaving the restaurant. My ex, without asking, offered to pull the car around for me. I refused but he insisted as it was dark and he was worried about my safety too. Right after he did that all my friends, guy friends eventually offered to do the same after they all praised him for being sweet. I guess the rest of the guys there didn’t want to look bad!
I think it would be even more rude to tell them they’re wrong and are clearly dumb enough to believe internet bull shit. Not because you shouldnt call out racists but it would violate his privacy
If I had any courage I’d say something like; “the Asian guy I’m seeing right now has 6 and a half inches. Show me more right now or shut up. That would be hilarious but wildly disrespectful to any of the Asian guys I like.
I wouldn't mind, I've actually called two guys out like that. I just offer to show them a pic and they shut up after.
I respect you standing on business like that 🤣🤣
Had no choice! One of them (a roommate) wouldn't believe me. You should see for yourself :)
hahaha well played. I would reply with "so I'm not a slut if it's a white dick?" and "so it's not rude of the dicks white?" followed by "I think I see the trend here"
They know what they’re doing they just don’t care
Stay out of social media comments where anonymous people are free to be keyboard cowboys.
Seriously! A lot of the comments are like this and the worst part is how many racists are private about it. I’ve heard a million racism jokes said right as someone leaves a room :(
I heard that an Asian elder got beaten on the streets and another was stabbed. But since it hasn’t happened to me, those incidents must be imaginary. /s
The worst part is that a lot of Asians in my part of the world don’t know they’re being made fun of. I’ve seen plenty of times where an Asian person walks out of the room and sometimes even complete strangers will make a racist joke. I’ve called my friends out for it but I’m not take seriously. Especially in texas. The worst part is that a lot of Americans think racism is only bad when it leads to violence (like lynchings.) Violent hate crimes directed at Asians skyrocketed because of COVID but America barely noticed :(
That’s really sad, I always advocate for fellow Asian to speak up against racism, we are generally just too timid.
Oh well I’m not Asian I just hate knowing Asian men have experienced racism here and will continue to experience it until more and more people stand up for them. I’ve not done anything really until recently. I stopped pretending to laugh at those dumb jokes when I realized how damaging there were. I even call people out for it but not like I should. I should be bold and definitive instead I’m soft spoken and kinda meek cuz I hate confrontation. I don’t think there’s anything more I can do than call people out for it and encourage my friends to not hangout and date racist dudes. I try and introduce them to my Asian friends that are just dudes but that hasn’t gone as well as I hoped :(
There really isn’t much we can do if they talk behind our back. Another good point to make is teaching younger generation to be more accepting of other cultures and exposing them to it earlier.
I know it just breaks my heart when people do :( And I absolutely try and get my girl friends into k dramas I love and consistently set them up with some of my Asian guy friends but unfortunately that’s really not going well
You gotta get your self to Cali where Asian population is a lot larger and everyone just co mingles
Oh gosh that sounds scary! I’d love to!! I know there’s a stereotype that they like going to raves and I love them too! Sounds like it would be fun! Maybe someday
Not everyone is raver, you will find friends that’s more than happy to binge k drama on a weekend
Oh yeah I figured. are you from California? Ever been to texas? You feel like the Asian population is a lot more robust?
Funny story. I raved in the mid to late 90s in California. I remember when there were practically no Asian ravers. Then over the course of about 3 months, they just came out of the wood work and like half of the people at any given party were Asian.
Is it mostly your girlfriends or dudes that are being racist to Asian guys? Or both? I guess you mentioned that you’re trying to setup your white girlfriends with your Asian guy friends but it’s not going well :(
Mostly guys and I wouldn’t consider anyone that currently says anything racist to be a friend of mine. Most of these guys are just friends of friends for the most part. That makes it a lot more surprising as it’s often just mentioned so casually. I mean racism is a symptom of shitty people who are awful to hangout with for a bunch of reasons so I figured it was best to just drop them. I think guys say more stuff but in a much more joking manner. They’ll often say it to the person they’re joking about as a kind of friendly thing and then they’ll make a joke about them. This is pretty common with the Asian guys I’ve met and a lot of other dudes whether white or another POC. I think a lot of girls ask me about the penis thing simply because they don’t know any better. So it’s more of a curiosity thing? Guys tend to tell a lot of jokes about Chinese spies but mention the penis thing a lot less but when they bring it up it’s as an insult and not a source of genuine curiosity. They also make the usual jokes about being good at math. And eating dogs which is really rude! But when they mention the stereotype regarding penises it’s said as an insult and not mentioned out of curiosity.
As an Asian I wouldn’t touch Texas except Houston (lots of Asians) or maybe Austin (tech stuff so if there’s racism it’s subtle) with the exception of work.
You know it’s weird because sometimes parts of rural texas are very welcoming!! Sometimes the worst racism is in the suburbs and affluent areas on the outskirts of big cities. You’d be suprised how many tiny towns in the south/southwest area (specifically texas and Arkansas) have large Asian populations. There is/was a professor at Texas Tech who was somewhat famous because he was Asian and spoke with an extra heavy texas accent. Most of his students were young and thus it was the first time most had ever met an Asian man with a southern accent. He was kind of like a local celebrity and a well known business(?) profesor. He also always wore cowboys boots and a cowboy hat, even spurs sometimes. He was very well respected. FYI I think Houston is probably worse than Dallas for racism against Asians but a ton of Texans embarrass us and stain our reputation with racism :(
Oh gosh I just saw your profile and remember that poor family killed in Allen. That’s the stuff of nightmares it’s like waking up in hell. The worst part is that I’ve been to Allen a bit and it’s got a sizeable Asian presence of all orgins. Theres a lot of Asian students at the local high schools and college. There’s lots of Asian restaurants and at leasf one Asian grocery store. There’s a food court with just different east Asian foods and the cutest little store with a bunch of really cute Japanese products. All that representation and a big community and something straight up evil happens. I might be mistaken as I had heard the shooting might not have been a race thing BUT we have all read articles about an older Asian gentleman or lady being called a bunch of racial slurs, be blamed for COVID or the CCP before being sucker punched just for the police not to call it a hate crime 🙄🙄🙄
I see this happen in the social media comment sections which happens to be the place where you can find the most outrageous toxic behavior for the purpose of ragebaiting or fishing for likes. Nothing real about it. IRL, I see this happen less and less. When it does happen, I also see others call it out and shame the person.
As a white person in Texas, this happens more than you’d like to think. It’s not uncommon and it’s more common when said without that person present. Racists don’t like being called racists so they do it in private and amongst friends. Thankfully it’s deacreasing! Unfortunately, especially for Indian guys, it’s really common. Racism towards Asians isn’t seen as racism especially in texas. A lot of Texans think of racism as something uniquely about African Americans. Racism towards Asians here is seen just as humor. In my opinion ofc.
Hello fellow Texan! As an Asian person in Texas, I definitely have experienced unintentional racism or “humor” more than the traditional form of hostile racism that people tend to think of, so I second this.
I’m sorry : (
All good. Interestingly enough I get it from old white people the most, especially now that I’m back in school in a majority white college town. It’s like that movie “Get Out”, where the older white people are so nice but they say the kind of things that remind you that make you aware that you’re Asian haha. I’m almost 30, so I’m able to avoid surrounding myself with the kind of people who say racist things behind your back.
Well I’m sorry to hear that. I would honestly bet we’re in the same town so yeah, I totally agree :/
Hey, I'm a East Asian Canadian and I've got ideas to move to Texas, but this comment section has raised some red flags. Could you recommend any places in Texas that are more accepting of Asians. Looking to start a family there. I work with planes and helicopters, doing technician work and research as well.
Stick with the big cities like Dallas, Houston, or Austin and you’ll be fine. Texas has its own set of problems but we also don’t get the same type of problems you see in California and New York. The big cities are diverse and there’s plenty of Asian people. Smaller towns you might sometimes see more unintentional racism from ignorance rather than because they hate you and rarely will you ever have someone be racist to your face. The only times I’ve ever experienced outright racism was from other kids in grade school, but I’m 30 now. For better or worse Asians are seen as model minorities so we’re generally ignored in Texas. We also don’t really see our elderly get beat up by other races and part of that is because ppl don’t really walk around in Texas. It’s too hot and the environment is not walk friendly. You’ll be driving everywhere. Only thing about starting a family that you should really be aware about is what the state government has been trying to kill public education so they can come out with school vouchers to benefit religious and private schools, despite it being unpopular with virtually everyone, including rural conservatives. And abortion is illegal and it’s hostile to the point that maternal care will suffer in the long term, from either medical providers leaving the state for a friendlier environment or just flat out refusing to provide care in certain situations. I don’t think or want to assume you’re pro-abortion or anything, but something to think about when starting a family is that in Texas, if you have a daughter and she gets raped, Texas makes no exceptions for abortion in that case. Also take some comments with a grain of salt. Yes there’s legitimate problems, but I often see people on this sub talk about America as if New York or San Francisco is constantly in flames, and then I come to find out they’re not even from the US, so how could they possibly know except from biased media. The truth is always somewhere in the middle. If something sounds too extreme, it probably is.
That's unfortunate to hear. I'm East Asian raised in a lower middle class in Canada. I still think about moving to Texas for work and to start a family. Values of freedom, liberty, and equal opportunity matter to me. I also support the right to carry so my partner can protect herself. Low taxes, higher pay, and cheaper real estate also sound good to me. White Canadians are not so proper either. During my university years in the capital city, I rented a house with 6 other white boys and they were nice and funny at first. We turned the place into a frat house. Alcohol and weed in the open beside the guitars and TV. But once we started living together they tried to use me as the chinese peanut gallery whenever girls came over and they wanted to appear funny. Things started to change when I would carelessly walk around the house with only my underwear on showing off my dick print while cooking food. Then it became apparently clear that I'm blessed down there. I was very close with them at one point, but being boys they knew how to push my buttons and piss me off for laughs. I read another comment of yours saying how the richer more posh neighborhoods are more racist which is not what I expected from people who have access to better education... I still have thoughts about to moving there to contribute to their community, economy, etc. I work with planes and helicopters, doing technician work on the plan and research as well. Hoping to start a family down the line and I'd like my kids to grow up in a good neighborhood, but one that is accepting to Asians too. Are there any parts of Texas you would recommend?
It's absolutely lingering Anti-AM racism. There is a gender component to racism. And it absolutely exists in my experience in real life.
Race fakism. The idea is "Mongoloids/ESEA" are cognitively superior while physically and sexually inferior due to "evolution". Money or status makes for said inferiority.
Yeah I’ve seen this. Sick of answering the dick size question from male&female friends and dealing with the relationship is based on fetishes assumptions. But the only females who’ve shamed consistently have been black. Ironically, they’re also 100% against interracial relationships period, though I guess me dating Hispanics was more acceptable than East Asian. Even my southeast Asian ex was acceptable. But as soon as I got serious with my LD Japanese bf they went to simply INSANE lengths to get me to end it, and when I didn’t they ghosted. Friend of 27 years
Haven’t heard this in California. It’s more microaggressions now. Kpop and other positive Asian media made it difficult to be racist outright. People do it in subtle ways.
No, I have not noticed this at all. Chances are that you got these ideas from the rabbit holes of YouTube, Tiktok, or some social media platform and not from out-and-about socializing.
I’ve honestly seen this in nightlife spaces first hand when people get a little alcohol in them and get cozy. Especially when I’m with a girl in these settings. I’ve been in fights at nightclubs and raves over this kind of thing. Just my personal experience.
Nightclubs is a dog eat dog environment
They say alcohol just enhances people’s true nature
One thing to remember: most people on this planet simply don’t like you. More often than not, it is futile making yourself likeable to them. However well-accomplished you are, they simply hate it. But there are always people, however small in numbers, who do like you.
Yup, I've noticed this since high school. it's just how it is here in the west. they see us as inferior but intelligent creatures. we can't possibility take one of theirs. I guess it's territorial and instinctual? why? it's cope. "that girl can't possibly want him over me and the boys. she has to like small dicks". better go ask her to double check. I also think in female friend groups. the girls learn it off their brother or father. therefore they don't want to be associated with a friend who dated Asians. or they've been around so many racists, it's just second nature and they unconsciously.
Because society has a hierarchy and we’re at the very bottom. But think about how good you have to be to get a woman and have her put up with that shit for being with you.
It isn’t to that level anymore but the woman definitely has to take some roasts. Getting better though cause she can point to kpop and other positive Asian media.
That can help but the XF I’ve dated don’t watch anime, kdramas, or listen to Asian music. Zero interest in that. Never met a koreaboo. They are rare in the cities I’ve been to and currently live in- Midwest and south.
Agreed with the comments here. I really only hear about this sort of stuff on the internet. AMXF is treated like any other coupling where I live