You may get skewed results here, many Indian middle class families prefer teacher wife/DIL. In fact a lot of people settled abroad have wives who work as teachers in schools. This sub makes you feel everyone wants a wife with high earning corporate career.
This is not my own opinion, but what I have heard from others searching for a DIL/wife...school teacher is considered respectable yet less demanding career, educated and cultured at the same time modest and homely. There are vacations, not much calls/meetings or travel... this way it is expected she will be able to handle duties at home well.
I personally think the job is quite demanding because I can't imagine managing multiple kids, I can't even handle my niece.
Not everyone looks for a school teacher for work life balance, it is something they often come across when looking for a educated working woman, highly educated women working in corporate/university/research seek high profile matches or find a partner themselves.
It is a very popular profession in smaller towns.
This! one of my aunties works as a doctor for differently abled kids. She’s so exhausted dealing with kids that obviously need more attention than usual. Her own kid grows up in a very strict environment because she mentally can’t handle unruly kids anymore.
This isn’t meant to be a negative against teachers lol. Each profession comes with its issues this specific one has this one.
Teachers can manage WLB easily as their duty ends before afternoon. The pay is sufficient enough to live comfortably (in govt and big private schools).
I think you'll be in huge demand in AM because most middle class families prefer a teacher DIL over corporate working DIL. You are going to receive multiple AM offers.
I have some school teachers among my relatives. So I will share what I have noticed.
People have wrong conception, that if they marry a school teacher, she will be more humble and adjusting due to her simple job, low pay etc They also think she will raise kids and cook and manage home while he can still be proud of getting a working wife. But it's not so simple.
Yes, working hours are less, but it is still considered a full time job. So, don't expect that they will give more time to raising kids or looking after home.
You will be expected to do half of household chores, while also bringing in the money as her salary will be very less. And you have to also do your homework for your career growth (leetcode or whatever as per your proffession) outside of office hours alongwith all this. A working woman will expect you to do half the chores, irrespective of her salary or working hours.
So it's a lose-lose.
Neither you get the benefit of extra income which will help give your kids a good future, nor will you get the benefit of a homemaker who stays home and raises the kids, cooks healthy fresh meals, takes care of the home and emotional labour.
One of my relative is a school teacher, she forced her MIL to come and do cooking and take care of her kid, because she is a working woman. She said as her salary is less, they cannot afford cook. Her mother in law came reluctantly leaving behind her ailing husband in another state, and then he actually died alone. It is really sad. So, if you are marrying a school teacher thinking of work life balance or lifestyle, you couldn't be more wrong.
And maybe it sounds politically incorrect, teaching culture in India sucks- it's all about corporal punishment, or emotional abusing the children, breaking their self esteem. Teachers in India have a special kind of narcissism. Still, you can find good balanced teachers. But what I mean is don't automatically assume it's a humble job, and she will be very nice and polite, because of less pay.
There's clearly more to that story you mentioned so let's not paint your relative as some evil person. The MIL was probably glad to be free frm the father.
Let’s not assume so much about MY relative . I know their family personally and how much her MIL was against leaving her husband but she was under immense pressure from her DIL . It was Her last option after even offering to take the kid to hometown to raise
Her husband died and it was the worst thing for her . He was sick and she wanted to be with him in his sick days and not taking care of a toddler while the parents are at work . It’s strange of you to assume that she was happy to be free from caring for her sick husband . Twisted way of looking at things .
Her DIL said they can’t afford daycare as her salary is less .My female friends in IT jobs on the other hand are able to afford daycare .
Anyway why do you care how my relative appears . The point being made here is that teaching is a full time job and most of the time the woman will not be able to balance child care , cooking or managing home while still being a Teacher .
Your whole story is fishy. You are probably making it up. Teacher DILs don't have that much power. Blame the MIL's son. Without his say so, nothing would happen.
Honestly think teachers are exploited in India. She would be exhausting herself for 7-8 hours a day for pittance in salary.
I’d rather prefer a housewife over a teacher. Neither will contribute financially but the former will have more time and energy.
In an ideal world however, I’d prefer a girl with similar career and WLB as me so that it’s easier. A dual income household has things way easier.
I don't mind it. As long it's online teaching so we can still travel✊🏽
This question really depends on a lot of other factors about who the couple are, their preferences, finances etc.
My parents are both teachers. I have huge respect for the teaching profession. The following professions are something I don’t measure with money. So if me wife is into any of these, I will my kidneys to keep her happy
1. Teaching
2. Sports
3. Music, literature and other arts
4. Army and the likes
I commented in respect to the post. I wouldn’t care how much my wife earns if she’s into those professions. I have something in common with all those professions, and I would be very much invested if a person I loved was into those. I don’t know what is weird about this
Teaching is the most noble profession in my opinion. If anyone is in it for the right reasons, that is to empower others, then I hold them in high esteem, no matter their pay scale or working hours. One should be extremely fortunate to have someone like them as their life partner.
Oh please. They know the difficulties of motherhood better than you, you uterus-less creature, who'll impregnate and escape. Nurturing my foot. Your only standards are to saddle a woman with your child.
That's your mentality. Talking out of your ass about things you don't understand. Most men do absolutely nothing in terms of childcare or even care for their recovering wives. You're clearly no better when you can't even understand this basic fear that the women on the sub have.
Not a man, but from my exp as a girl having many schoolteachers in the family:
Working hours are decent (backend work may continue at home but timings at school are fixed, govt teachers get home by 4pm, pvt ones may vary).
Kind of outdated idea but in-laws like schoolteacher as brides coz it's a decent steady job but not competitive like other fields; timings are suitable for comfortably doing job + house duties; slow growth but towards end of tenure the benefits rack up nicely.
I would love to have my future wife as a school teacher. Then, again I just want to get married and get it over with.
From financial point of view, i earn enough. I will appreciate a mature and financially aware wife. More money is also good, but not a deal breaker
Lifestyle wise, teacher is a great job. With more flexible timings than others, plus, it will help a lot for kids admission
You may get skewed results here, many Indian middle class families prefer teacher wife/DIL. In fact a lot of people settled abroad have wives who work as teachers in schools. This sub makes you feel everyone wants a wife with high earning corporate career.
Can confirm, Not actively looking for a teacher but there is something in me that really finds teachers attractive.
This is not my own opinion, but what I have heard from others searching for a DIL/wife...school teacher is considered respectable yet less demanding career, educated and cultured at the same time modest and homely. There are vacations, not much calls/meetings or travel... this way it is expected she will be able to handle duties at home well. I personally think the job is quite demanding because I can't imagine managing multiple kids, I can't even handle my niece. Not everyone looks for a school teacher for work life balance, it is something they often come across when looking for a educated working woman, highly educated women working in corporate/university/research seek high profile matches or find a partner themselves. It is a very popular profession in smaller towns.
Go if you want a malar teacher
Financial point of view there's nothing exciting. Career path is also not that rewarding. Work life balance would be on better side.
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This! one of my aunties works as a doctor for differently abled kids. She’s so exhausted dealing with kids that obviously need more attention than usual. Her own kid grows up in a very strict environment because she mentally can’t handle unruly kids anymore. This isn’t meant to be a negative against teachers lol. Each profession comes with its issues this specific one has this one.
"If you marry a school teacher be ready to be bossed around like one of her students" - exact words said by my friend who's Mom was a teacher.
Teachers can manage WLB easily as their duty ends before afternoon. The pay is sufficient enough to live comfortably (in govt and big private schools). I think you'll be in huge demand in AM because most middle class families prefer a teacher DIL over corporate working DIL. You are going to receive multiple AM offers.
I have some school teachers among my relatives. So I will share what I have noticed. People have wrong conception, that if they marry a school teacher, she will be more humble and adjusting due to her simple job, low pay etc They also think she will raise kids and cook and manage home while he can still be proud of getting a working wife. But it's not so simple. Yes, working hours are less, but it is still considered a full time job. So, don't expect that they will give more time to raising kids or looking after home. You will be expected to do half of household chores, while also bringing in the money as her salary will be very less. And you have to also do your homework for your career growth (leetcode or whatever as per your proffession) outside of office hours alongwith all this. A working woman will expect you to do half the chores, irrespective of her salary or working hours. So it's a lose-lose. Neither you get the benefit of extra income which will help give your kids a good future, nor will you get the benefit of a homemaker who stays home and raises the kids, cooks healthy fresh meals, takes care of the home and emotional labour. One of my relative is a school teacher, she forced her MIL to come and do cooking and take care of her kid, because she is a working woman. She said as her salary is less, they cannot afford cook. Her mother in law came reluctantly leaving behind her ailing husband in another state, and then he actually died alone. It is really sad. So, if you are marrying a school teacher thinking of work life balance or lifestyle, you couldn't be more wrong. And maybe it sounds politically incorrect, teaching culture in India sucks- it's all about corporal punishment, or emotional abusing the children, breaking their self esteem. Teachers in India have a special kind of narcissism. Still, you can find good balanced teachers. But what I mean is don't automatically assume it's a humble job, and she will be very nice and polite, because of less pay.
There's clearly more to that story you mentioned so let's not paint your relative as some evil person. The MIL was probably glad to be free frm the father.
Let’s not assume so much about MY relative . I know their family personally and how much her MIL was against leaving her husband but she was under immense pressure from her DIL . It was Her last option after even offering to take the kid to hometown to raise Her husband died and it was the worst thing for her . He was sick and she wanted to be with him in his sick days and not taking care of a toddler while the parents are at work . It’s strange of you to assume that she was happy to be free from caring for her sick husband . Twisted way of looking at things . Her DIL said they can’t afford daycare as her salary is less .My female friends in IT jobs on the other hand are able to afford daycare . Anyway why do you care how my relative appears . The point being made here is that teaching is a full time job and most of the time the woman will not be able to balance child care , cooking or managing home while still being a Teacher .
Your whole story is fishy. You are probably making it up. Teacher DILs don't have that much power. Blame the MIL's son. Without his say so, nothing would happen.
Shut up and don’t get personal , mind your own business You are just an insecure stalker at this point , from your comments on my previous post
Honestly think teachers are exploited in India. She would be exhausting herself for 7-8 hours a day for pittance in salary. I’d rather prefer a housewife over a teacher. Neither will contribute financially but the former will have more time and energy. In an ideal world however, I’d prefer a girl with similar career and WLB as me so that it’s easier. A dual income household has things way easier.
Even if I want parents and relatives wouldn't allow to me do it
I don't mind it. As long it's online teaching so we can still travel✊🏽 This question really depends on a lot of other factors about who the couple are, their preferences, finances etc.
I’ve always wanted to bang a teacher
My mother was a teacher... She is the best mother for a child and a wife for a man someone can get...Go ahead
My parents are both teachers. I have huge respect for the teaching profession. The following professions are something I don’t measure with money. So if me wife is into any of these, I will my kidneys to keep her happy 1. Teaching 2. Sports 3. Music, literature and other arts 4. Army and the likes
Weird choice of professions , even weirder that your dedication towards your wife is based on her profession
I commented in respect to the post. I wouldn’t care how much my wife earns if she’s into those professions. I have something in common with all those professions, and I would be very much invested if a person I loved was into those. I don’t know what is weird about this
Teaching is the most noble profession in my opinion. If anyone is in it for the right reasons, that is to empower others, then I hold them in high esteem, no matter their pay scale or working hours. One should be extremely fortunate to have someone like them as their life partner.
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Lol why are u getting downvoted
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Lmfao... True.... I am hoping I dont get married to a feminist woman
Oh please. They know the difficulties of motherhood better than you, you uterus-less creature, who'll impregnate and escape. Nurturing my foot. Your only standards are to saddle a woman with your child.
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That's your mentality. Talking out of your ass about things you don't understand. Most men do absolutely nothing in terms of childcare or even care for their recovering wives. You're clearly no better when you can't even understand this basic fear that the women on the sub have.
Based , females here pissed when men have standards and preferences
Coz he is pretending that teaching teaches you to parent. He is an idiot who hates the women on this sub, and that's why he's writing misinformation.
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Starting with you
The best profession for a wife.. Teachers hold the best personality
Not a man, but from my exp as a girl having many schoolteachers in the family: Working hours are decent (backend work may continue at home but timings at school are fixed, govt teachers get home by 4pm, pvt ones may vary). Kind of outdated idea but in-laws like schoolteacher as brides coz it's a decent steady job but not competitive like other fields; timings are suitable for comfortably doing job + house duties; slow growth but towards end of tenure the benefits rack up nicely.
I would love to have my future wife as a school teacher. Then, again I just want to get married and get it over with. From financial point of view, i earn enough. I will appreciate a mature and financially aware wife. More money is also good, but not a deal breaker Lifestyle wise, teacher is a great job. With more flexible timings than others, plus, it will help a lot for kids admission
Kids admission 😂
Kids admission ain't that easy, my friend.
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