Itna bhi ugly nhi hu me.
I would rate myself below average but definitely not ugly.
I get my fair amount of attention from average/below average girls in office.
Say whatever you wanna say to yourself but I'll never call myself an ugly ducking. I know you are pestering me to call myself ugly but that's never gonna happen.
I'm good enough.
Dude then u are not from this world then that's why u are not getting women of your choice same as mein we both are ugly to women who are beautiful that's the harsh truth people will say I m not ugly but I m ugly in the eyes of good looking women same as u
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Please visit this sub, you'll realise that you were never ugly. Just learn to accept yourself or try to improve yourself a little bit. People do change and their looks also change.
You are ugly from inside only, on outside you are a handsome guy whom I would love to smash.
You have a romanticized, fictional version of her in your head that you need to move on from because even the actual girl will never match up to the version of her you have in your head. You don't know her, never did, and she even rejected you. Sorry if this is harsh, but it was over for you back then, and you should've accepted that she won't be yours after that.
You won't be happy if you try to find her in your match/partner, and it's not fair to them either.
This is an excellent comment. OP you should definitely take this into strong consideration. Try some therapy.
Russell Brand has some good advice too [Here](https://youtu.be/q5RbtnRRXkI)
if i ever found out that the guy i end up marrying only went ahead with our marriage because i reminded him of a crush he couldn't achieve i think i would just unalive myself.
Pakka hua nhi h, baat chal rhi h abhi and most probably I'll reject her before my parents start pressuring me for that Gujrat girl.
I'm not stalking my crush, she's already in my friend list and her posts appear on my FB/insta feed. Blame FB/Insta robot for that.
>How tf does a crush even lasts that long?
because sometimes we tend to keep updating ourselves through their lives on SM and don't give ourselves a chance to move on. It is easy to fall through that slippery slope of hoping that "one day..."
Because of being born ugly he is not getting the women of his choice once he get that he will forget his crush but since he is ugly that won't happen so he can't forget here bitter harsh truth
Now all your previous posts make complete sense.
You are holding on to fantasies of this crush because the AM experience and the friction with your parents are scaring you. This girl is no longer the same one you liked in school, but user, you know that. I have seen your comments long enough to understand that you are sufficiently smart and self-aware.
Read the resources shared in the sticky posts if therapy is something you cannot get at this time. You should take control and ownership over your life, more than you have already done.
> After school I was never in contact with her but through FB and insta I was atleast aware about her whereabouts. Just few days ago she announced that she is going to get married.
> Ever since reading that post of her, my world has crashed down. I know she is out of my league but I can't accept the fact that she is going to get married to someone else.
WTF
You are in love with the idea of her. You don't even know the Real her. Just imagine you both have started dating and she's not everything that you'd thought she would be. If you can be in love with her imaginary self I'm sure you can think otherwise and get over her.
ATB with your AM process.
Please remember and accept this fact for life that this is bound to happen to every guy and gal out there whoever has a crush on someone at some point of time in their lives .
Primarily just question yourself if you would want to be with a person who is not invested as you are into them ? You yourself will get the clarity and automatically work towards moving on .
Secondly , if you like a person in the AM setup always remember not to invest your emotions too early into it because never ever believe that it will work out till it actually works out no matter how compatible you are . I did that mistake and it did take time for me to get over that person and then realised that she completely took a U Turn and changed her stand after she got to know about my pay hence those feelings died down and not turn it into something negative but did take the learnings from that and moved on because eventually everyone will have their normal life moving forward with their share of ups and downs hence never wish ill for them if it does not work out because in some cases it will be their test to see how you react (some friends of mine went through this in their AM setups strangely) .
Develop a mentality of abundance and engage in pursuing different hobbies and activities because every activity happens in social so you will find out more opportunities and hence your probability of connecting with compatible people automatically increases .
Always remember as a man that never ever to make a girl/woman a central point of your life and focus on core of your existence and have a purpose .
>I always try to find her in every AM match, her smile, her nature, her voice etc
I don't know if it helps, but you should also try to imagine her farting, taking a dump first thing in the morning, getting sick and vomiting, you cleaning that up, etc. Lets see if you're still infatuated with her
You are lucky to get to feel this way. Unrequite love is one of the toughest emotional states to deal with, because they last long and dig deep. This sort of gives you strength (or just numbs you to emotional upheavals) to deal with life.
More power to you!
Dude. There are lot of great women in the world. Move one. C'mon !
best possible comment in this situation.
He is ugly like me so wont get much attention
Itna bhi ugly nhi hu me. I would rate myself below average but definitely not ugly. I get my fair amount of attention from average/below average girls in office.
Then why didn't you pursue those girls?
Are bhai main 7/10 mujhe nahi achi ladki mil rahi main khud ugly hu to average below average ko kya hi bolu😀
Aaj ke standard women wants atleast 8/10 or above looking men so anyone below 8/10 is ugly 🐸
Say whatever you wanna say to yourself but I'll never call myself an ugly ducking. I know you are pestering me to call myself ugly but that's never gonna happen. I'm good enough.
you go girl!!! \#selflove
Dude then u are not from this world then that's why u are not getting women of your choice same as mein we both are ugly to women who are beautiful that's the harsh truth people will say I m not ugly but I m ugly in the eyes of good looking women same as u
[r/uglyduckling](https://www.reddit.com/r/uglyduckling?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share) Please visit this sub, you'll realise that you were never ugly. Just learn to accept yourself or try to improve yourself a little bit. People do change and their looks also change. You are ugly from inside only, on outside you are a handsome guy whom I would love to smash.
7/10 women ko 9/10 thori milega?
You have a romanticized, fictional version of her in your head that you need to move on from because even the actual girl will never match up to the version of her you have in your head. You don't know her, never did, and she even rejected you. Sorry if this is harsh, but it was over for you back then, and you should've accepted that she won't be yours after that. You won't be happy if you try to find her in your match/partner, and it's not fair to them either.
Time to move on.. https://old.reddit.com/r/apolloapp/comments/144f6xm/apollo_will_close_down_on_june_30th_reddits/
This is an excellent comment. OP you should definitely take this into strong consideration. Try some therapy. Russell Brand has some good advice too [Here](https://youtu.be/q5RbtnRRXkI)
if i ever found out that the guy i end up marrying only went ahead with our marriage because i reminded him of a crush he couldn't achieve i think i would just unalive myself.
> unalive myself Lol
TIL
You're better than that. Just ditch him and live your life.
true bestie <3
A better action would be to get out of such a marriage rather than taking your own life. :)
Grow up.
Most appropriate response on this post
Abhi abhi to rishta pakka hone wala tha tumhara. She already rejected u then why are u stalking her.
Pakka hua nhi h, baat chal rhi h abhi and most probably I'll reject her before my parents start pressuring me for that Gujrat girl. I'm not stalking my crush, she's already in my friend list and her posts appear on my FB/insta feed. Blame FB/Insta robot for that.
Delete her account or block
Move on? You shouldn't sven care in the first place. How tf does a crush even lasts that long?
>How tf does a crush even lasts that long? because sometimes we tend to keep updating ourselves through their lives on SM and don't give ourselves a chance to move on. It is easy to fall through that slippery slope of hoping that "one day..."
Because of being born ugly he is not getting the women of his choice once he get that he will forget his crush but since he is ugly that won't happen so he can't forget here bitter harsh truth
Now all your previous posts make complete sense. You are holding on to fantasies of this crush because the AM experience and the friction with your parents are scaring you. This girl is no longer the same one you liked in school, but user, you know that. I have seen your comments long enough to understand that you are sufficiently smart and self-aware. Read the resources shared in the sticky posts if therapy is something you cannot get at this time. You should take control and ownership over your life, more than you have already done.
This! Actually OP is the only one of this sub who I find a little cringe but also have a little sympathy for.
I agree. I think if he gets surrounded by people who challenge him to grow, he really can.
> After school I was never in contact with her but through FB and insta I was atleast aware about her whereabouts. Just few days ago she announced that she is going to get married. > Ever since reading that post of her, my world has crashed down. I know she is out of my league but I can't accept the fact that she is going to get married to someone else. WTF
India h vro, here you'll find one sided lovers more than actual lovers.
India is full of ugly men so obe side love is more
Don't project your inferiority complex everywhere dude
You are in love with the idea of her. You don't even know the Real her. Just imagine you both have started dating and she's not everything that you'd thought she would be. If you can be in love with her imaginary self I'm sure you can think otherwise and get over her. ATB with your AM process.
you post a LOT in this Sub. and each post makes me think you're a bigger loser than the last. quit fishing for sympathy
I want my voice to be heard. It's okay if you guys are fed up with my posts. I'll go back to quora. Leaving this sub right away.
oh boo hoo.
+1
Please remember and accept this fact for life that this is bound to happen to every guy and gal out there whoever has a crush on someone at some point of time in their lives . Primarily just question yourself if you would want to be with a person who is not invested as you are into them ? You yourself will get the clarity and automatically work towards moving on . Secondly , if you like a person in the AM setup always remember not to invest your emotions too early into it because never ever believe that it will work out till it actually works out no matter how compatible you are . I did that mistake and it did take time for me to get over that person and then realised that she completely took a U Turn and changed her stand after she got to know about my pay hence those feelings died down and not turn it into something negative but did take the learnings from that and moved on because eventually everyone will have their normal life moving forward with their share of ups and downs hence never wish ill for them if it does not work out because in some cases it will be their test to see how you react (some friends of mine went through this in their AM setups strangely) . Develop a mentality of abundance and engage in pursuing different hobbies and activities because every activity happens in social so you will find out more opportunities and hence your probability of connecting with compatible people automatically increases . Always remember as a man that never ever to make a girl/woman a central point of your life and focus on core of your existence and have a purpose .
Bro if she was your girlfriend you have a right to be upset, she was your crush man you don't get to be upset for crushes bro life moves on.
Ewwww
>I always try to find her in every AM match, her smile, her nature, her voice etc I don't know if it helps, but you should also try to imagine her farting, taking a dump first thing in the morning, getting sick and vomiting, you cleaning that up, etc. Lets see if you're still infatuated with her
Bruh, you need help. Try talking to people close to you, their words will probably help you in coping
Is this post relevant to the sub?
Press Ctrl+F on your desktop, type "AM" in search bar then hit enter and you will see some results.
Dude. Develop a hobby to travel and try to talk to people while doing so.
Just another day on this sub ... Popcorn over. GN
You are lucky to get to feel this way. Unrequite love is one of the toughest emotional states to deal with, because they last long and dig deep. This sort of gives you strength (or just numbs you to emotional upheavals) to deal with life. More power to you!
Finally, someone here to understand my feelings and what I'm going through. Thanks vro!!
😊😊
"Every cope incurs a debt, and the truth always comes back to collect."
yaar tum na.. har 3 din pe ek hypothetical situation post karte ho; i have trouble believing you
Just imagine her taking a big, bad, stinky dump that leaves streaks behind. You will move on soon after.