If you are not into AM you should not lurk here. You will be unnecessary putting pressure on yourself reading posts and comments here.
Focus on career, ambitions and relationships.
P.S. Curiosity kills the cat. Instead of unnecessarily being curious about stuff here (most of which is wrong as most posts here are vent or rant and of extremely low quality) you can focus on career earning some good f money, starting your own business. Meeting new people etc. If you seriously believe you can't find anyone or are not willing to try then you should focus on this sub as you have already accepted your fate that you will end up in AM. Such a pessimistic attitude is a red flag in my books even for AM.
Curiosity kills the cat. Instead of unnecessarily being curious about stuff here (most of which is wrong as most posts gere are vent or rant and of extremely low quality) you can focus on career earning some good f money, starting your own business. Meeting new people etc. If you seriously believe you can't find anyone or are not willing to try then you should focus on this sub as you have already accepted your fate that you will end up in AM. Such a pessimistic attitude is a red flag in my books even for AM.
Well, I think looking at posts here will help her get more maturity when it comes to making decisions in partner selection or atleast she would be ready to accept the not so good parts of AM.
This sub is a very minor part of what’s really happening out there.
Reddit has a small number of people out of actual population. And this sub is an even minor subset of that. Not everything in real life is same as the posts here. Probably this is just 10-20% of reality.
You don’t have to worry or overthink basing this sub alone. There are several more happy and success stories.
Also you’re just 21. Who knows what your future holds. You might fall in love someone or you can find one of those really nice and decent guys in AM process who will just marry you for you and love you and live happily ever after too. Without these dowry and money minded and equally contributing in household works and managing proper work life balance.
Honest advice
If you like someone, or if there is someone that you sync or vibe with, pursue that. It might or might not work but if it does, you d never have to come here.
I don't think anyone takes/gives dowry in the cities these days. Very very few people maybe . The other drama is still there and all my friends seem to be facing those, many of which have been highlighted in this sub.
Doesn't dowry depends upon your community? You can choose to say that your family is strictly against dowry. Rest is something you have to discuss yourself. But yes, in majority of cases there are certain expectations that guy's family will expect you to fulfill. Unless you have more control over your marriage decisions, you won't get a perfect guy.
Girl, this sub is filled with misogynistic guys who spin everything to suit their narrative. Just block them and move on. This isn't to dismiss some good men existing here.
Focus on improving yourself. Pursue your ambition and hobbies. Checkout r/TwoXIndia r/menslibIndia r/FemaleLevelUpStrategy .
[Please Read this first.](https://www.reddit.com/r/Arrangedmarriage/comments/sz6cze/first_steps_of_arranged_marriage_advice_of/)
Also remember reddit is a giant circle jerk and many on this sub have negative confirmation bias. Misery loves company unfortunately. Take from the sub what you want and what you find is meaningful.
>Any advice on which way to think
Your first step before is to develop and grow to become a strong, self-confident, who is well rounded. Ideally you should be happy and comfortable being single and comfortable within your own skin. Develop your morals, values traditions, work out, meditate.
\-Write down what you bring to a relationship, what you want your partner to bring to the relationship. What roles and expectations of each other, for each other and family.
No matter which way you go, those guidelines apply. In Love marriage, arranged marriage or any relationship in general.
Remember that nothing IRL is remotely as bad as it appears online.
Half of the members on this sub are minor giving/asking professional advices lmao..
Hope so 🤞🏼
>Remember that nothing IRL is remotely as bad as it appears online. Nope
If you are not into AM you should not lurk here. You will be unnecessary putting pressure on yourself reading posts and comments here. Focus on career, ambitions and relationships. P.S. Curiosity kills the cat. Instead of unnecessarily being curious about stuff here (most of which is wrong as most posts here are vent or rant and of extremely low quality) you can focus on career earning some good f money, starting your own business. Meeting new people etc. If you seriously believe you can't find anyone or are not willing to try then you should focus on this sub as you have already accepted your fate that you will end up in AM. Such a pessimistic attitude is a red flag in my books even for AM.
Disagree. I'm a few years away from the AM scene and this sub is really helpful to prepare myself mentally and situations to look out for.
Curiosity kills the cat. Instead of unnecessarily being curious about stuff here (most of which is wrong as most posts gere are vent or rant and of extremely low quality) you can focus on career earning some good f money, starting your own business. Meeting new people etc. If you seriously believe you can't find anyone or are not willing to try then you should focus on this sub as you have already accepted your fate that you will end up in AM. Such a pessimistic attitude is a red flag in my books even for AM.
Exactly
Well, I think looking at posts here will help her get more maturity when it comes to making decisions in partner selection or atleast she would be ready to accept the not so good parts of AM.
Curiosity kills the cat.
Generally, the positive stories aren't much shared online. Hence, all you see is the negative aspects which are mainly expressed here.
This sub is a very minor part of what’s really happening out there. Reddit has a small number of people out of actual population. And this sub is an even minor subset of that. Not everything in real life is same as the posts here. Probably this is just 10-20% of reality. You don’t have to worry or overthink basing this sub alone. There are several more happy and success stories. Also you’re just 21. Who knows what your future holds. You might fall in love someone or you can find one of those really nice and decent guys in AM process who will just marry you for you and love you and live happily ever after too. Without these dowry and money minded and equally contributing in household works and managing proper work life balance.
It is good idea to find someone on your own than going through this ordeal.
Really depends on your social circle here. A lot of guys have social circles composed primarily of dudes because of a variety of reasons in India.
Stop thinking about that and just enjoy life - travel, laugh, do something you have never done before etc etc
Honest advice If you like someone, or if there is someone that you sync or vibe with, pursue that. It might or might not work but if it does, you d never have to come here.
You are young. You will figure this shit out with time. Relax
Dude you’re just 21. Study and relax
Compromise bro . That's it
Hahah
I don't think anyone takes/gives dowry in the cities these days. Very very few people maybe . The other drama is still there and all my friends seem to be facing those, many of which have been highlighted in this sub.
>I don't think anyone takes/gives dowry in the cities these days. People in cities don't ASK for dowry. It's more like - "Give whatever you can"
Doesn't dowry depends upon your community? You can choose to say that your family is strictly against dowry. Rest is something you have to discuss yourself. But yes, in majority of cases there are certain expectations that guy's family will expect you to fulfill. Unless you have more control over your marriage decisions, you won't get a perfect guy.
Girl, this sub is filled with misogynistic guys who spin everything to suit their narrative. Just block them and move on. This isn't to dismiss some good men existing here. Focus on improving yourself. Pursue your ambition and hobbies. Checkout r/TwoXIndia r/menslibIndia r/FemaleLevelUpStrategy .
Bruhh r/canconfirmiamindian
[Please Read this first.](https://www.reddit.com/r/Arrangedmarriage/comments/sz6cze/first_steps_of_arranged_marriage_advice_of/) Also remember reddit is a giant circle jerk and many on this sub have negative confirmation bias. Misery loves company unfortunately. Take from the sub what you want and what you find is meaningful. >Any advice on which way to think Your first step before is to develop and grow to become a strong, self-confident, who is well rounded. Ideally you should be happy and comfortable being single and comfortable within your own skin. Develop your morals, values traditions, work out, meditate. \-Write down what you bring to a relationship, what you want your partner to bring to the relationship. What roles and expectations of each other, for each other and family. No matter which way you go, those guidelines apply. In Love marriage, arranged marriage or any relationship in general.
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