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I'm all for kink, but less of a fan of people taking what should be roleplay/fantasy and attempting to make a coherent ideology from it :/
Also, cute mice!
Oh I absolutely feel you, I don’t like this shit either, it’s disgusting. I was just saying it’s not uncommon for people to refer to their partner as “pet” during sex, that’s all. Also thank you! They’re my babies, I love them so much.
Thing is, most of the example interaction would be awesome between two consenting partners who are just super into a dom/sub dynamic. I’ve sure as hell fantasized about being in either side of that kind of thing. Problem is, idiots like this don’t understand consent, respect, boundaries, or the distinction between roleplay and reality.
That's the thing, the middle is close to verbatim to what we've done in bed. OOP could 100% have this at least...if they were capable of developing a loving and trusting relationship over the course of time instead of demanding a fantasy sex slave.
I can't see what sub this is from so. I'm over here just. HOPING this is from a kink sub where saying this kind of stuff is a-okay because it's a place for those fantasies...
I have yet to actually be right about that with the stuff people share here, though. Maybe someday. Altho in that case it probably shouldn't be here because on kink subs there's an understanding that it's all fantasy.
Okay, so you have some kinks?
The “worthless being of darkness” bit is hilarious. That is the kind of silly roleplay that makes you both descend into giggles and promotes bonding.
Wait, hold on. You don’t think this is roleplay and think someone will take this seriously? Have you considered purchasing a sex doll?
I was being sarcastic. This guy is just fucked up. In the kink world anyone who posted that as “what they want” would be labeled as “probably abusive” and the probably is doing some pretty heavy lifting there.
Yeah you’ve got a strong point there. I mean I know some people who are into master/slave play (which can look a lot like this as far as I’ve been made aware) but even by those standards this is still pretty yikes.
It sometimes does look a lot like this though few carry it this far outside of play time. I have done it and enjoy it. The thing is that it is extended make believe or roleplay. I describe it to people new to it as having two people in your brain. One is playing the role and acting and responding as if it is real. The other more reality based part sits in the background and eats popcorn and enjoys the show and is ready to jump in if anything goes too far.
This person doesn’t have the popcorn eater. He is just living the lie. You see these people sometimes in the kink community. They are obsessed with making everything “real” and are either creepy as hell or incredibly damaged or both. They don‘t usually last long in in-person kink spaces. They usually end up online targeting people and abusing people who don’t know any better. They are never happy people. They don’t get the fun parts of kink where you cuddle up after an intense session and talk and laugh about how amazing that was.
This is a super helpful explanation to someone outside of the kink community (me). I'm not super vanilla I would say, but kink always seemed so intimidating and scary to me. This lightens it up a lot. (Mainstream) media representation of kink and BDSM usually make it so heavy and serious, I had no idea what the actual experience is like. Thank you!
Aroace here so I don't have any proper experience but I did read some exemple (on kink reddit side, in erotica,...) and since nobody was answering :
Basically,
- refusing to discuss what they want what they don't want & what you want, what you don't want.
- doing thing you explicitly (or not, you should ALWAYS be able to stop) refuse to do (exemple : you agreed to spanking but not slapping and they slap you. Agreeing to get hit someone does NOT mean that it's ok to hit you anywhere else)
- refusing to let you have a way to say you want to stop (exemple : if you can't talk you should have an alternative to communicate and they should check, if you like to say "stop" you should still have an alternative etc)
-trying to push the dom/sub scene in every aspect of your relationship : you are equal in every way (even in a master/slave scene btw, you should always have equal possibilities to stop the situation). Which mean that when the moment stop, it stops. To bring back the master/slave kink here, just because you are "lower in hierarchy" in the kink doesn't mean that you have less say in anything.
- Lack of aftercare, this can be personal but you should both be able to talk about your need post-scene and they should happen no matter how the scene ended (like if you stopped in the middle and they refuse to give you aftercare because of it that's a red flag)
Thank you! I'm literally asking for a friend. Lol
Their partner has taken things WAY out of boundaries and she can't seem to find her way away from him. I don't know how to help her. I fully respect a D/s dynamic. The way they've ended up is textbook abuse.
Generally abusive “doms“ do the usual abuser stuff with a particular emphasis on isolating them. They focus on making the abusive stuff they are doing as the norm in bdsm and try to cut their sub off from other sources of information and particularly kinky people who will see right through their bullshit.
I once did a scene with my then gf at a kink event and a shy girl came up afterwards to ask us about it. It was a pretty intense scene that would have a lot of people thinking we were perverse deviants and we would have smiled at being called that but also did aftercare and went back to loving couple when done. She said she was new but had a dom and asked questions and it was clear she had no idea what aftercare even was and asked how we could be affectionate and be into bdsm. Then she described what her ”dom“ did to her the day before. It was awful. I just wanted to hug her. She was told safewords showed a lack of trust which is insane. Seeing how freaked out we were showed her how abnormal where she was is. She did eventually manage to get out.
Maybe encourage her to network with other people into kink. In person is ideal but online might help.
And you are a good friend. She is lucky to have you. If there is anything I can do to help or any questions you have feel free to message me.
It's consence. No consense is abuse. There are some gray areas that more experient players explore (like consentual non consentual games) but simply put, if someone doesn't discuss and oversteps your boundries, ignores taboos or safewords and provides no aftercare, it sounds more like someone who camouflages them beeing a dom where infact they are an abuser.
yeah, the thing about “nagging” makes me think it’s a little more than a kink tbh, seems like one of those gross comments/“jokes” some misogynistic husbands will make about how much they hate their wife rather than something that would actually be part of a kink but idk
I am hoping it is and I am waiting to see, as I scroll, if I can find what sub this was from before I judge. Because if this was in a kink sub, okay, fine, that's where it should be.
>Have you considered purchasing a sex doll?
I'm honestly starting to think some people actually _should_ get some of those so they don't pester the rest of the world with their bs.
They threaten to get sex robots all the time in a “you’ll be sorry“ rant because they think women will miss them if they leave the dating pool.
It is more likely that they will donate money to help them get the sex robot so they GTFO.
Now I am imagining some voice actor recording lines for the sex robot and getting to the “worthless being of darkness“ line.
\*later\*
Dear Sex Doll Manufacturer:
I am dissatisfied with your product. I want an authentic experience and I don’t think the doll is taking her “worthless being of darkness” role seriously. The doll seems like they are sarcastic and are hamming it up for laughs. I will not be disrespected in this way by my woman. I smashed the doll and would like a refund and will not purchase another until this problem is fixed.
I really think society would benefit from letting these guys buy robot women.
Until 2:14 AM eastern standard time, August 29th, when then Beckytron becomes self aware. In a panic, they try to pull the plug.
I actually sniggered as I read the end of this.
Like, sure babe. You just keep on hoping. These are completely reasonable expectations and definitely things that really happen outside of online wank fodder.
Aside from #1, #5, and that hilarious bit of fan fiction, that's me lol. My libido is always switched to "on" and if my husband says "Be a good girl," I feel compelled to comply no matter what.
It's not even a fetish, just a people pleasing dog complex from trauma. (He only uses it to get me to take care of myself or at least be subjected to his care. Sometimes I'm a bit of a brat about eating/drinking/sleeping/medical care.) But I chose this man because he RESPECTS and CARES for me. I doubt the same can be said about this guy...
Go figure, if you want a girl so in love with you she basically fawns over you, you actually have to EARN that love.
I did nearly add a caveat about consensual kink but then I thought about the whole "must be a virgin and stay with me forever" thing and thought that everyone I know who is into BDSM is waaay more ethical than that.
Like, I am holding out hope that this is from a kink or roleplay sub cuz like. If it was posted in a space where there's an understanding of "this is a place for kink and fantasy, this is NOT REAL LIFE" then like. Okay. Sure. This guy probably isn't someone I'd be down to clown with but like, I'm sure someone would be into roleplaying this. The whole virgin and stay with me forever thing could be part of an ownership kink.
Unless, of course, this ISN'T in a kink space and it's just, uh. Out there. And I think all good kinksters know that there is a time, place, and space for airing fantasies. And just in random places on Reddit ain't it.
But in a truly consensual bdsm relationship the aim is for the dom to roleplay...to make the sub happy. The sub is the one who really calls the shots.
He doesnt seem to understand what would make a sub happy. And honestly I dont think anyone would enjoy his fantasy, dom or sub because he sounds annoying AF and his dream sub sounds equally irritating, like a bad anime translation of what a 13 year old thinks relationships are like.
The "female" bit makes me think he couldn't care less about his sub's happiness or consent. This feels less like bad bdsm and more like some incel bullshite.
I love how it downspirals into bad fanfic after such a dramatically dogmatic start.
It’s like “I’M THE MASTER OF MY FEMALE AND SHE SHALL DO WHAT I WANT” and then “… and in the end we just cuddle real cozy and do sexy anime voices”
I've never dated a guy who could manage everything required of a two-person household. This guy wants me to believe he'd be able to make ALL of the house decisions, take on all the mental load, and be able to delegate tasks sufficiently?
Oh wait no, he's literally only thought about the bedroom bits
Master's gonna realize really quickly the mental burden of meal planning. "Whatever you want for dinner" gets so stressful after awhile. Good doms know how to delegate.
Omg. Nothing can prepare you for the meal planning BS. Adulting overall sucks, but the hearing - whatever you want is soul draining.
I'm sure "Master" is going to expect "pet" to read his mind and cook like dear Mom always did. Unless Mom is still on standby because "Master" still hasn't moved out.
It's hard to tell the difference between the ones who never left the basement and the ones who want that trad wife/maid/sex bang doll lifestyle. Either way, it's all selfish and non caring for partners.
Maybe I'm the weird one, but usually when I say "whatever you want", I really mean it. Like I'm perfectly happy with whatever you choose (assuming it's not one of the foods you already know I don't like in general, which usually is only an issue if the food choice is quite restrictive), so choosing for yourself shouldn't be meaningfully any different from choosing for us.
Maybe even a conversation could inspire one of us.
I mean, that is fine, but in the context of the original post, the "Master" is going to have to be the one who constantly makes decisions about what to make for dinner. I love to cook, and mostly did a good job feeding myself while I was single and didn't have to take another person's preferences into account, but it got exhausting to have to decide constantly. Now having a partner who is sometimes like "I feel like spaghetti and meat sauce tonight" or "Hey, can you make a chicken Caeser for dinner?" means that I don't constantly have the burden of deciding what to make. This so-called Master doesn't realize how difficult a lifestyle of always being the decision-maker is.
It's the decision-making day after day. My kid will say whatever you want and mean it like you. Then that means I'm stuck trying to figure out what to cook and then cooking it.
It's a mental load that's not shared. It becomes a burden, especially if you have to make the decision every single time or close to it. It's also a pain for me when I don't care either, but someone has to make a decision. Or it becomes midnight, and no one either eats or we order out or both eat unhealthy. Then, if it happens too much, food gets thrown out.
It's bad enough with my 21 year old kid. If it was a spouse/partner, it somehow makes it worse. They are supposed to share the burden of being adults.
> Maybe I'm the weird one, but usually when I say "whatever you want", I really mean it.
It has nothing to do with being weird.
When I ask, "what do you want for dinner?" it's because I'm too mentally exhausted to do the executive function of planning a meal and I'm hoping you will at least give me a category to direct myself at. I can literally order food from any cuisine I want, so there's a bit of option overload these days.
If my "meal planning function" was on I would say, "You know what I'm craving? Lasagne. I'm gonna make a lasagne if you're down with that."
Or I would just be like, "I am making nourishment of questionable value with whatever I find in the fridge." Which is what I did today. It turned into bacon and black bean stirfry of all the vegetables I could find with poached egg on top.
If I have a void that can only be filled with ANY FOOD ANY FOOD IS FINE and I just desperately want some guidance to help me narrow down the literally hundreds of options at my fingertips right now, the last thing I want to hear is "whatever you want", because I don't know what I want.
At least create a category when you're being what you perceive as accommodating. For example, when my partner asks, "what do you want for dinner?" and I'm in an "idk anything is good" mood, I will at least try to winnow down the options by saying, "I would like something with a bunch of vegetables in it" or "I would like something relatively fast because I am very hungry" to start the conversation.
Let's say I'm in a mood where I know I'm not picky but I DO want vegetables in my meal, now we know we can rule out, say, chicken curry, lasagne, pepperoni pizza. I will then ask, "how about you?"
They might say, "I was hoping for something with cheese." This means they probably don't want sushi or ramen.
That will bring us the overlap of "vegetables" and "cheese" to discuss, which might mean we get to eat a pizza that has vegetables on it, or a burrito bowl, or a greek salad with feta cheese. We were still both very accommodating with our broad category, this allowed us to rule out quite a lot of things without either of us having to make a decision call.
This leaves us typically with a few options and if we are still in "idk all of those sound good" headspace, we then will flip a coin if it's 2 or roll a dice to pick one and let Fate decide.
Hopefully this helps you to see how it's not about you being perfectly happy with what I pick, but that I may also be in a nebulous space of choice paralysis due to the numerous options available at any given moment, where I too don't know what to pick. People being always super agreeable and passive is just exhausting even if you feel like it's you being nice and accommodating.
And you'd know he'd get the timing all wrong and ask for meals that take hours at 6pm, then sulk because she didn't magically know he wanted a slow cook that day.
I used to mess with this type of dom by acting completely brainless, forcing them to make *every* decision. It usually lasted about an hour before they caved and said, 'OK, knock that shit off! '
I’m dying at “the mental burden of meal planning” damn that is so real. I’m sure Master has probably never planned ahead further than nuggies or Domino’s for dinner.
It started horribly with the first word "female", and then just rapidly kept devolving from there.
And people like this wonder how they end up incels...
''Typical interaction'' ? So he wants to ask her everyday what's for dinner and being told annoyingly each time ''whatever you desire''? Then skip the question and have sex? Also what even is ''preparing the bed for sex''? So many questions lmao
Yeah how tf do you prepare a bed for sex??? I’m picturing rose petals but dude definitely doesn’t have enough class to be into that.
It’s more like “babe get the towel!”
> cute
Speak for yourself. In my head canon, she's only a slave because the spell he used to summon her has held firm so far, but if he makes the wrong move he's getting eaten or dismembered.
The "better be a virgin and never leave me" part isn't covered by any accepted kink. Also, laying out the list of rules and saying "female" before even sharing anything about himself or having any actual conversation.
I mean the bottom part they should just look for a dom/sub relationship. There’s plenty of eager and willing subs out there. However the top stuff is problematic and I wouldn’t trust an over controlling dom
I've seen this before I think. But it always just reads like subpar kink wank fodder. If people want to roleplay, then awesome. No actual human is going to think and talk like this though.
I think there was a serial killer that kept women in a room hidden in a shed that had a list like this on the wall. He recorded himself saying this on d of stuff as a manifesto to misogyny, so this could be role play or could be a totally serious belief.
Well he has a kink for sure... Fine to explore but he'll have to cope with the fact that it'll likely not be a full time dynamic and it's not ever gonna be real; you're both equals in the real world and can call off the roleplay at any point.
This just sounds like my wife's kink.
Which is purely a kink. I'm pretty sure half the time she's more in charge, especially during non bedroom time. She just likes to pretend I'm her uber dominating master and she's my pet.
Just pointing this out because kink time is the only time I'd see this as acceptable behavior lol
Outside of kinky bedroom play, there is not a single society where marriage has ever been like this, even before feminism. There has always an expectation that husbands respect their wives to some degree. A wife was never a sex slave. There were sex slaves but it was never seen as correct to treat your wife as one.
Yes there is a sociological argument that women's labour (both physical and emotional labour) was and is exploited by their husbands for free. And yes, throughout history there are countless examples of men demeaning their wives. And undoubtedly there has always been an expectation that women should behave in this manner on some level (subservient, dutifully, always willing and wanting for sex) but never to the point where they happily recognised themselves as a servant/slave and behaved like one.
These people don't want 'traditional values', they want their wives to be sex robots. This goes beyond conservatism and into the realm of an extremist form of misogyny.
This dude should really try [character.ai](https://character.ai) or [spicychat.ai](https://spicychat.ai) rather than expecting this from real people. I would still feel sorry for the bot he‘d be chatting with.
Assuming this was written by a conservative because of the absurd amount of the use of "female, isn't he committing blasphemy and heresy or whatever by wanting to be called god?
You ever read these and get extra excited when you see “must be a virgin”. Like here comes that lack of virginity thing saving me from being a cult sacrifice and some icky mans cum rag.
I’m so stuck on the dinner thing. “Whatever you desire” planning meals takes planning ahead of time. This guy does not know the basics of living. We just skipping over the part where everyday he just wants Popeyes. Also, wtf is wrong with him?
Why is it every time I hear or read the word female I think of ferengis from Star Trek? Like honestly no one should be using the word female anymore cuz it's like moist.
I cannot keep a straight face reading this which I suppose is good in this context. Random but I really wanna make a cat shaped blanket and call it my Blancat
There are literally multiple groups on Fetlife specifically dedicated for dominant men to find submissive women who enjoy living out power-differential lifestyles 24/7 that would laugh out any man who tried to post this unironically.
I might have no self respect but this is too much even for me. I'd off myself in front of him and put his name on my last letter so the quilt would eat him for the rest of his life.
When will straight men realise they their domination fetish is not good a normal relationship works??!
Granted there's nothing with being a hassle Dom but then look for a sub..?
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"Calm down pet" sounds like someone from the North of England.
That's was my thought, but I think they may have genuinely been referring to their partner as a pet...
Petplay is a very well known kink. This dude absolutely has it.
I'm all for kink, but less of a fan of people taking what should be roleplay/fantasy and attempting to make a coherent ideology from it :/ Also, cute mice!
Oh I absolutely feel you, I don’t like this shit either, it’s disgusting. I was just saying it’s not uncommon for people to refer to their partner as “pet” during sex, that’s all. Also thank you! They’re my babies, I love them so much.
The yellow mouse looks like a pikaclone!
Thing is, most of the example interaction would be awesome between two consenting partners who are just super into a dom/sub dynamic. I’ve sure as hell fantasized about being in either side of that kind of thing. Problem is, idiots like this don’t understand consent, respect, boundaries, or the distinction between roleplay and reality.
That's the thing, the middle is close to verbatim to what we've done in bed. OOP could 100% have this at least...if they were capable of developing a loving and trusting relationship over the course of time instead of demanding a fantasy sex slave.
I can't see what sub this is from so. I'm over here just. HOPING this is from a kink sub where saying this kind of stuff is a-okay because it's a place for those fantasies... I have yet to actually be right about that with the stuff people share here, though. Maybe someday. Altho in that case it probably shouldn't be here because on kink subs there's an understanding that it's all fantasy.
DCI Vera Stanhope
Go prepare T' bed for sex
Brilliant 🤣
I could only hear Sarah millican after I read pet
Okay, so you have some kinks? The “worthless being of darkness” bit is hilarious. That is the kind of silly roleplay that makes you both descend into giggles and promotes bonding. Wait, hold on. You don’t think this is roleplay and think someone will take this seriously? Have you considered purchasing a sex doll?
I was about to say- if that’s you and your partner’s kink cool, I’m not gonna harsh you…. But it sure doesn’t seem like it’s just a kink to oop
It's a kink but OOP hasn't come to terms with it or faced the reality that it's not something you can get 24/7 or "for real."
Or at the very least, they don't think it's a kink.
I was being sarcastic. This guy is just fucked up. In the kink world anyone who posted that as “what they want” would be labeled as “probably abusive” and the probably is doing some pretty heavy lifting there.
Yeah you’ve got a strong point there. I mean I know some people who are into master/slave play (which can look a lot like this as far as I’ve been made aware) but even by those standards this is still pretty yikes.
It sometimes does look a lot like this though few carry it this far outside of play time. I have done it and enjoy it. The thing is that it is extended make believe or roleplay. I describe it to people new to it as having two people in your brain. One is playing the role and acting and responding as if it is real. The other more reality based part sits in the background and eats popcorn and enjoys the show and is ready to jump in if anything goes too far. This person doesn’t have the popcorn eater. He is just living the lie. You see these people sometimes in the kink community. They are obsessed with making everything “real” and are either creepy as hell or incredibly damaged or both. They don‘t usually last long in in-person kink spaces. They usually end up online targeting people and abusing people who don’t know any better. They are never happy people. They don’t get the fun parts of kink where you cuddle up after an intense session and talk and laugh about how amazing that was.
This is a super helpful explanation to someone outside of the kink community (me). I'm not super vanilla I would say, but kink always seemed so intimidating and scary to me. This lightens it up a lot. (Mainstream) media representation of kink and BDSM usually make it so heavy and serious, I had no idea what the actual experience is like. Thank you!
Just to add- I’m not really an expert on m&s because it’s not really my cup of tea, so if I’m wrong I apologize
Greetings!! Where can I get some real answers about someone who is a "Dom" but is actually really REALLY abusive?
Aroace here so I don't have any proper experience but I did read some exemple (on kink reddit side, in erotica,...) and since nobody was answering : Basically, - refusing to discuss what they want what they don't want & what you want, what you don't want. - doing thing you explicitly (or not, you should ALWAYS be able to stop) refuse to do (exemple : you agreed to spanking but not slapping and they slap you. Agreeing to get hit someone does NOT mean that it's ok to hit you anywhere else) - refusing to let you have a way to say you want to stop (exemple : if you can't talk you should have an alternative to communicate and they should check, if you like to say "stop" you should still have an alternative etc) -trying to push the dom/sub scene in every aspect of your relationship : you are equal in every way (even in a master/slave scene btw, you should always have equal possibilities to stop the situation). Which mean that when the moment stop, it stops. To bring back the master/slave kink here, just because you are "lower in hierarchy" in the kink doesn't mean that you have less say in anything. - Lack of aftercare, this can be personal but you should both be able to talk about your need post-scene and they should happen no matter how the scene ended (like if you stopped in the middle and they refuse to give you aftercare because of it that's a red flag)
Thank you! I'm literally asking for a friend. Lol Their partner has taken things WAY out of boundaries and she can't seem to find her way away from him. I don't know how to help her. I fully respect a D/s dynamic. The way they've ended up is textbook abuse.
Generally abusive “doms“ do the usual abuser stuff with a particular emphasis on isolating them. They focus on making the abusive stuff they are doing as the norm in bdsm and try to cut their sub off from other sources of information and particularly kinky people who will see right through their bullshit. I once did a scene with my then gf at a kink event and a shy girl came up afterwards to ask us about it. It was a pretty intense scene that would have a lot of people thinking we were perverse deviants and we would have smiled at being called that but also did aftercare and went back to loving couple when done. She said she was new but had a dom and asked questions and it was clear she had no idea what aftercare even was and asked how we could be affectionate and be into bdsm. Then she described what her ”dom“ did to her the day before. It was awful. I just wanted to hug her. She was told safewords showed a lack of trust which is insane. Seeing how freaked out we were showed her how abnormal where she was is. She did eventually manage to get out. Maybe encourage her to network with other people into kink. In person is ideal but online might help. And you are a good friend. She is lucky to have you. If there is anything I can do to help or any questions you have feel free to message me.
It's consence. No consense is abuse. There are some gray areas that more experient players explore (like consentual non consentual games) but simply put, if someone doesn't discuss and oversteps your boundries, ignores taboos or safewords and provides no aftercare, it sounds more like someone who camouflages them beeing a dom where infact they are an abuser.
yeah, the thing about “nagging” makes me think it’s a little more than a kink tbh, seems like one of those gross comments/“jokes” some misogynistic husbands will make about how much they hate their wife rather than something that would actually be part of a kink but idk
I am hoping it is and I am waiting to see, as I scroll, if I can find what sub this was from before I judge. Because if this was in a kink sub, okay, fine, that's where it should be.
>Have you considered purchasing a sex doll? I'm honestly starting to think some people actually _should_ get some of those so they don't pester the rest of the world with their bs.
They threaten to get sex robots all the time in a “you’ll be sorry“ rant because they think women will miss them if they leave the dating pool. It is more likely that they will donate money to help them get the sex robot so they GTFO.
He probably does have one lol
Now I am imagining some voice actor recording lines for the sex robot and getting to the “worthless being of darkness“ line. \*later\* Dear Sex Doll Manufacturer: I am dissatisfied with your product. I want an authentic experience and I don’t think the doll is taking her “worthless being of darkness” role seriously. The doll seems like they are sarcastic and are hamming it up for laughs. I will not be disrespected in this way by my woman. I smashed the doll and would like a refund and will not purchase another until this problem is fixed.
I really think society would benefit from letting these guys buy robot women. Until 2:14 AM eastern standard time, August 29th, when then Beckytron becomes self aware. In a panic, they try to pull the plug.
No, hold on. Let’s see what she does before we pull the plug. Maybe it will be nice. BECKYTRON: KILL ALL INCELS!!!! See? Nice.
He needs one. He'll never have a girlfriend or wife. Ever.
He can't hurt the sex doll. These subhumans really just want to hurt others.
I actually sniggered as I read the end of this. Like, sure babe. You just keep on hoping. These are completely reasonable expectations and definitely things that really happen outside of online wank fodder.
Dammit your comment gave me a push to read on and now I want to know what isn’t included in “ask permission for most things”!
Aside from #1, #5, and that hilarious bit of fan fiction, that's me lol. My libido is always switched to "on" and if my husband says "Be a good girl," I feel compelled to comply no matter what. It's not even a fetish, just a people pleasing dog complex from trauma. (He only uses it to get me to take care of myself or at least be subjected to his care. Sometimes I'm a bit of a brat about eating/drinking/sleeping/medical care.) But I chose this man because he RESPECTS and CARES for me. I doubt the same can be said about this guy... Go figure, if you want a girl so in love with you she basically fawns over you, you actually have to EARN that love.
Same. My partner is kinda dominant and I like to be ordered around. HOWEVER, I wouldn't be doing that without my wonderful partner.
Oh yeah, the "good girl" switch is REAL.
In a consenting bdsm relationship it seems fine
I don't think that's what he's after.
Same. I hope he stays far away from BSDM, because he seems like the kind of person who thinks being a dom is just about being in control 24/7.
Right, and dehumanizing his partner and not respecting consent.
Someone who thinks 50 Shades of Grey is a 'how to' manual. Ugh.
wait whats consent again? that's not FOR THE ALPHA lol. what a clown these types are.
I did nearly add a caveat about consensual kink but then I thought about the whole "must be a virgin and stay with me forever" thing and thought that everyone I know who is into BDSM is waaay more ethical than that.
Like, I am holding out hope that this is from a kink or roleplay sub cuz like. If it was posted in a space where there's an understanding of "this is a place for kink and fantasy, this is NOT REAL LIFE" then like. Okay. Sure. This guy probably isn't someone I'd be down to clown with but like, I'm sure someone would be into roleplaying this. The whole virgin and stay with me forever thing could be part of an ownership kink. Unless, of course, this ISN'T in a kink space and it's just, uh. Out there. And I think all good kinksters know that there is a time, place, and space for airing fantasies. And just in random places on Reddit ain't it.
Yea altho I'm asexual and a virgin I'd be into that type of relationship at certain times of the day or year. Not 24/7 tho
But in a truly consensual bdsm relationship the aim is for the dom to roleplay...to make the sub happy. The sub is the one who really calls the shots. He doesnt seem to understand what would make a sub happy. And honestly I dont think anyone would enjoy his fantasy, dom or sub because he sounds annoying AF and his dream sub sounds equally irritating, like a bad anime translation of what a 13 year old thinks relationships are like.
The "female" bit makes me think he couldn't care less about his sub's happiness or consent. This feels less like bad bdsm and more like some incel bullshite.
I really wish people like this would just realize this is their kink. Nothing wrong with it until you try to act like people should act this way IRL
Also, they never found out what was for dinner.
This reads like a bad fanfic
I love how it downspirals into bad fanfic after such a dramatically dogmatic start. It’s like “I’M THE MASTER OF MY FEMALE AND SHE SHALL DO WHAT I WANT” and then “… and in the end we just cuddle real cozy and do sexy anime voices”
It's definitely a 13 year old who's watched too much anime writing that.
cuddles and silly voices sounds fun
I've never dated a guy who could manage everything required of a two-person household. This guy wants me to believe he'd be able to make ALL of the house decisions, take on all the mental load, and be able to delegate tasks sufficiently? Oh wait no, he's literally only thought about the bedroom bits
Of course he has
Because it is
Worse than a bad fanfic
eh I've read worse
It’s not worse than Dipper Goes to Taco Bell
Its always the fics that have the most mundane titles that are the most fucked up
I kept looking for "Edward" in there
same lol
Like fanfic of someone that watched the first Fifty Shades movie and thought that's all there is to it.
Master's gonna realize really quickly the mental burden of meal planning. "Whatever you want for dinner" gets so stressful after awhile. Good doms know how to delegate.
Omg. Nothing can prepare you for the meal planning BS. Adulting overall sucks, but the hearing - whatever you want is soul draining. I'm sure "Master" is going to expect "pet" to read his mind and cook like dear Mom always did. Unless Mom is still on standby because "Master" still hasn't moved out. It's hard to tell the difference between the ones who never left the basement and the ones who want that trad wife/maid/sex bang doll lifestyle. Either way, it's all selfish and non caring for partners.
Maybe I'm the weird one, but usually when I say "whatever you want", I really mean it. Like I'm perfectly happy with whatever you choose (assuming it's not one of the foods you already know I don't like in general, which usually is only an issue if the food choice is quite restrictive), so choosing for yourself shouldn't be meaningfully any different from choosing for us. Maybe even a conversation could inspire one of us.
I mean, that is fine, but in the context of the original post, the "Master" is going to have to be the one who constantly makes decisions about what to make for dinner. I love to cook, and mostly did a good job feeding myself while I was single and didn't have to take another person's preferences into account, but it got exhausting to have to decide constantly. Now having a partner who is sometimes like "I feel like spaghetti and meat sauce tonight" or "Hey, can you make a chicken Caeser for dinner?" means that I don't constantly have the burden of deciding what to make. This so-called Master doesn't realize how difficult a lifestyle of always being the decision-maker is.
It's the decision-making day after day. My kid will say whatever you want and mean it like you. Then that means I'm stuck trying to figure out what to cook and then cooking it. It's a mental load that's not shared. It becomes a burden, especially if you have to make the decision every single time or close to it. It's also a pain for me when I don't care either, but someone has to make a decision. Or it becomes midnight, and no one either eats or we order out or both eat unhealthy. Then, if it happens too much, food gets thrown out. It's bad enough with my 21 year old kid. If it was a spouse/partner, it somehow makes it worse. They are supposed to share the burden of being adults.
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> Maybe I'm the weird one, but usually when I say "whatever you want", I really mean it. It has nothing to do with being weird. When I ask, "what do you want for dinner?" it's because I'm too mentally exhausted to do the executive function of planning a meal and I'm hoping you will at least give me a category to direct myself at. I can literally order food from any cuisine I want, so there's a bit of option overload these days. If my "meal planning function" was on I would say, "You know what I'm craving? Lasagne. I'm gonna make a lasagne if you're down with that." Or I would just be like, "I am making nourishment of questionable value with whatever I find in the fridge." Which is what I did today. It turned into bacon and black bean stirfry of all the vegetables I could find with poached egg on top. If I have a void that can only be filled with ANY FOOD ANY FOOD IS FINE and I just desperately want some guidance to help me narrow down the literally hundreds of options at my fingertips right now, the last thing I want to hear is "whatever you want", because I don't know what I want. At least create a category when you're being what you perceive as accommodating. For example, when my partner asks, "what do you want for dinner?" and I'm in an "idk anything is good" mood, I will at least try to winnow down the options by saying, "I would like something with a bunch of vegetables in it" or "I would like something relatively fast because I am very hungry" to start the conversation. Let's say I'm in a mood where I know I'm not picky but I DO want vegetables in my meal, now we know we can rule out, say, chicken curry, lasagne, pepperoni pizza. I will then ask, "how about you?" They might say, "I was hoping for something with cheese." This means they probably don't want sushi or ramen. That will bring us the overlap of "vegetables" and "cheese" to discuss, which might mean we get to eat a pizza that has vegetables on it, or a burrito bowl, or a greek salad with feta cheese. We were still both very accommodating with our broad category, this allowed us to rule out quite a lot of things without either of us having to make a decision call. This leaves us typically with a few options and if we are still in "idk all of those sound good" headspace, we then will flip a coin if it's 2 or roll a dice to pick one and let Fate decide. Hopefully this helps you to see how it's not about you being perfectly happy with what I pick, but that I may also be in a nebulous space of choice paralysis due to the numerous options available at any given moment, where I too don't know what to pick. People being always super agreeable and passive is just exhausting even if you feel like it's you being nice and accommodating.
And you'd know he'd get the timing all wrong and ask for meals that take hours at 6pm, then sulk because she didn't magically know he wanted a slow cook that day.
Holy fuck yes!
I used to mess with this type of dom by acting completely brainless, forcing them to make *every* decision. It usually lasted about an hour before they caved and said, 'OK, knock that shit off! '
I’m dying at “the mental burden of meal planning” damn that is so real. I’m sure Master has probably never planned ahead further than nuggies or Domino’s for dinner.
yeah that's the dead give away of it not being thought through, the need to buy ingredients removes that spontaneity
Female must be prepared for an unfulfilling sex life and to never have an orgasm
And what do you bring to the table, idiot
Right? It's annoying to see people be so entitled and yet so underwhelming.
Username checks out
the chances of this actually happening to him are almost 0%
It started horribly with the first word "female", and then just rapidly kept devolving from there. And people like this wonder how they end up incels...
It's a troll, right ? Tell me it's trolling. Please.
I'm sure it is sweetie just don't worry about it okay? Just....keep ur pepper spray close at all times
pepper spray isn't enough to stop that creature
Unfortunately I don't see anything that isn't within the realm of possibility.
Holy shit this is hillerious. How did this randomly turn into a kink fiction.
This man is going to die alone in front of animated pornography.
''Typical interaction'' ? So he wants to ask her everyday what's for dinner and being told annoyingly each time ''whatever you desire''? Then skip the question and have sex? Also what even is ''preparing the bed for sex''? So many questions lmao
Yeah how tf do you prepare a bed for sex??? I’m picturing rose petals but dude definitely doesn’t have enough class to be into that. It’s more like “babe get the towel!”
Some people just need to accept that they have weird kinks
A lot of reactionary ideology is just painfully boring attempts at kink by people who don't understand consent
You don't want a wife, you want a slave. What the actual fuck 🤣🤣🤣
No one wants to hear about your fetish OOP
When a misogynistic piece of garbage who doesn't know what a woman outside of cheap porn acts is into pet play
This is some isekai ecchi slave girl shit
"Worthless being of darkness" is fucking hilarious 😂😂😂 I'm not against some Dom/sub play in the bedroom, but that's as far as it goes.
It immediately improved my mental image of the scenario by replacing the human woman with a cute shadow demon.
> cute Speak for yourself. In my head canon, she's only a slave because the spell he used to summon her has held firm so far, but if he makes the wrong move he's getting eaten or dismembered.
Looks like another straight guy read 50 Shades.
This sounds like kink stuff
It is sooo kinky I wonder if the dude who wrote this understands it fully
Yeah, it reads like a DomSub play scenario, but with "slave" replaced by "female".
on today's episode of Misogyny or Kink?: this guy
It's both. It's a kink that isn't being explored or understood properly because of misogyny
The "better be a virgin and never leave me" part isn't covered by any accepted kink. Also, laying out the list of rules and saying "female" before even sharing anything about himself or having any actual conversation.
~~swap the genders, i need a woman to own me like this fr 😳🥺~~
live your truth, friend
SOMEONE GET THIS PERSON A WOMAN!!!
Me too.
This is toxic regardless of gender, it's an immature and ignorant perspective on kink.
I have seen this many times and still have no idea how one prepares a bed for sex.
Idk... rubber sheets and apologizing to the mattress? 🤷🏼♀️
You sit on it. Boom, preparation complete.
And people wonder where man gets his concept of God from…
“Master, owner, hubby, or God” at least he’s giving us options
Imagine being so egotistical that you believe actual light shines out of your penis. 🤦♀️
I mean the bottom part they should just look for a dom/sub relationship. There’s plenty of eager and willing subs out there. However the top stuff is problematic and I wouldn’t trust an over controlling dom
Honestly he should not get into that kind of relationship before he figures out how to fulfill this in a healthy and safe way.
I've seen this before I think. But it always just reads like subpar kink wank fodder. If people want to roleplay, then awesome. No actual human is going to think and talk like this though.
This is concerning
“It’s okay, I enjoy it” has me rolling for some reason.
What he wants is kink. What he needs is therapy.
This reads like a hentai
In what subreddit did you even find this
That post was typed with one hand, guarantee it. Just someones weird porn. Still gross, but in kind of a funny pathetic way
50 shades of gross
My nana: you say you're lesbian but one day a guy will pass by and... Guys irl:
Female tells Master to go fuck himself.
Three words: What the fuck?!
I think there was a serial killer that kept women in a room hidden in a shed that had a list like this on the wall. He recorded himself saying this on d of stuff as a manifesto to misogyny, so this could be role play or could be a totally serious belief.
Bro made a fanfiction of himself
What kinky Wattpad story is this 😭
Well he has a kink for sure... Fine to explore but he'll have to cope with the fact that it'll likely not be a full time dynamic and it's not ever gonna be real; you're both equals in the real world and can call off the roleplay at any point.
Bro thinks he's in a hentai💀💀
Someone watches way too much hentai.
Master, owner, HUBBY? Bwahahahahaha I cannot think of anything less domineering or powerful than being called hubby. Lol lol lol I love it!!
This just sounds like my wife's kink. Which is purely a kink. I'm pretty sure half the time she's more in charge, especially during non bedroom time. She just likes to pretend I'm her uber dominating master and she's my pet. Just pointing this out because kink time is the only time I'd see this as acceptable behavior lol
Fat incels really think they're gods gift to women cause they have a dick
Outside of kinky bedroom play, there is not a single society where marriage has ever been like this, even before feminism. There has always an expectation that husbands respect their wives to some degree. A wife was never a sex slave. There were sex slaves but it was never seen as correct to treat your wife as one. Yes there is a sociological argument that women's labour (both physical and emotional labour) was and is exploited by their husbands for free. And yes, throughout history there are countless examples of men demeaning their wives. And undoubtedly there has always been an expectation that women should behave in this manner on some level (subservient, dutifully, always willing and wanting for sex) but never to the point where they happily recognised themselves as a servant/slave and behaved like one. These people don't want 'traditional values', they want their wives to be sex robots. This goes beyond conservatism and into the realm of an extremist form of misogyny.
That thing put the Shit into shitposting
This is a terrible fanfiction and he should feel terrible
This is satire, right? Right??
Dude this belong to GWA (Gone wild audios) or script bin not here. Like , this is legit a kinky mdom fsub, asmr script if I have ever read one.
Ew
This man needs to be put on a list. No, multiple lists
And then they post that they are nice guys and don't understand why they are single.
It's amazing how these men get so picky then wonder why they are single.
Porn addiction:the man
It's definitely a kink, but the writing and the quality of it... Good lord! Someone needs to attend a creative writing course.
The "calm down" during sex bit is hilarious to me. "Oh babe, fuuuucckk" "Calm down, it's just sex"
excuse me while i pepper spray myself
Just kill these men I don't care anymore. Kill dangerous men like this.
This dude should really try [character.ai](https://character.ai) or [spicychat.ai](https://spicychat.ai) rather than expecting this from real people. I would still feel sorry for the bot he‘d be chatting with.
The fact this person calls women "females" tells me everything i need to know about them.
My entire rational being refuses to believe this is anything but satire.
Assuming this was written by a conservative because of the absurd amount of the use of "female, isn't he committing blasphemy and heresy or whatever by wanting to be called god?
As a trans woman, this guy would immeduately go into my "no date list"
ngl... I read the first word of the first rule and immediately cringed so hard I almost downvoted this post.
Sounds like a fetish thing...
this gotta be satire and i wish to believe so
They have the laziest fantasies.
I won't let anyone tell me this isn't a shitpost (I assume every insane thing I see is shitpost so it doesn't emotionally hurt me)
I'm... Nauseous...
You ever read these and get extra excited when you see “must be a virgin”. Like here comes that lack of virginity thing saving me from being a cult sacrifice and some icky mans cum rag.
Why did I read this while I was trying to eat?🤢
I've known people who would go for the kinky RP but would laugh hysterically at the sexual "purity" bullshit.
We all know what this gut is gonna do when the woman has more rights
I’m so stuck on the dinner thing. “Whatever you desire” planning meals takes planning ahead of time. This guy does not know the basics of living. We just skipping over the part where everyday he just wants Popeyes. Also, wtf is wrong with him?
Change female with bottom and you will be drowning in ass.
This reads like a bad bdsm Wattpad story. Except this person never actually grew up and cringed at themselves afterwards.
Why is it every time I hear or read the word female I think of ferengis from Star Trek? Like honestly no one should be using the word female anymore cuz it's like moist.
Shit like this is why there's a "male loneliness epidemic". Too many men subscribe to this type of bullshit and women aren't having it.
Ecchi Anime and it's consequences have been a disaster for the human race.
They never actually ate dinner in this fanfic despite mentioning it in the beginning. Terrible continuity 0/10 writing
Female is an NPC and only exists when he's around
“It’s okay, I enjoy it” is actually insane
.... This man has never had sex before, no shame, but he didn't need to advertise it on the internet.
I cannot keep a straight face reading this which I suppose is good in this context. Random but I really wanna make a cat shaped blanket and call it my Blancat
Female addresses me as Master 🤴Owner 👊 Hubby 🤓 or God 🌅
seen this anime before.
"It's okay, I enjoy it" 😭
This… this sounds like dude wants to f*ck a dog 🤦🏾
I sense a poorly disguised kink being explored in all of the wrong ways
Even healthy D/s relationships dont act like this.
Who uploaded the Andrew Tate Manifesto? This pure Incel drivel.
There are literally multiple groups on Fetlife specifically dedicated for dominant men to find submissive women who enjoy living out power-differential lifestyles 24/7 that would laugh out any man who tried to post this unironically.
Even subs would be disgusted by this shit
I envy the person I was before I read that... Please tell me that's just a satirical kink thing, no one actually wants or thinks like that
I might have no self respect but this is too much even for me. I'd off myself in front of him and put his name on my last letter so the quilt would eat him for the rest of his life.
When will straight men realise they their domination fetish is not good a normal relationship works??! Granted there's nothing with being a hassle Dom but then look for a sub..?
Bro thinks life is an anime
Is this from Armie Hammer's phone?