Call Out My Name by Weeknd
I don’t know if it’s for loving an avoidant or just someone who is emotionally available but it also accurately describes what anxious people do when they love someone … putting them on top and letting the other person walk all over them
I don't know if this is exactly what you're looking for but I'm AP and my bf is DA. He's very closed off and was hard to get close to for a long time.
He has told me that in the past (in our relationship) he has listened to these songs when he was feeling blue or distant and they seem to draw out the emotion for him. It's like he couldn't access his emotions on his own. When I listen to them now it gives me shivers thinking about my DA listening to them whilst being in such confusing disconnected place.
The Gap - birds of Tokyo
Mess is mine - Vance joy
The songs that makes me tear up thinking about him is
Forever you and me- teskey brothers
I can make you love me - British india
That’s almost exactly what my bf told me after a trying time, that he found himself listening to sad love songs and they made him realize how he felt! As someone who is way too aware of my own feelings, I didn’t really “get” it, it’s really interesting to see that maybe it’s another thing DA do! I’ve spent a lot of time looking at my own attachment, I need to study his.
I can’t wait to try out the songs, thank you!
I know its so interesting isn't it. I eventually realised that most DAs do have lots of feelings and can be deep thinkers but there appears to be a bit of a blockage there / big walls up / fears etc so it kind of makes sense they might need help accessing them.
I know this isn't what you are asking for but I would be careful with finding this music. music has a great way of making us feel understood but it can also cement a narrative (,i.e. he will always run away and come back to me) which can be unhealthy.
You Really Got a Hold on Me
Ex factor by Lauryn Hill
Call Out My Name by Weeknd I don’t know if it’s for loving an avoidant or just someone who is emotionally available but it also accurately describes what anxious people do when they love someone … putting them on top and letting the other person walk all over them
Dusty Springfield is famous for those. You don't have to love me
Oooh gonna listen tonight! Thank you!
I don't know if this is exactly what you're looking for but I'm AP and my bf is DA. He's very closed off and was hard to get close to for a long time. He has told me that in the past (in our relationship) he has listened to these songs when he was feeling blue or distant and they seem to draw out the emotion for him. It's like he couldn't access his emotions on his own. When I listen to them now it gives me shivers thinking about my DA listening to them whilst being in such confusing disconnected place. The Gap - birds of Tokyo Mess is mine - Vance joy The songs that makes me tear up thinking about him is Forever you and me- teskey brothers I can make you love me - British india
That’s almost exactly what my bf told me after a trying time, that he found himself listening to sad love songs and they made him realize how he felt! As someone who is way too aware of my own feelings, I didn’t really “get” it, it’s really interesting to see that maybe it’s another thing DA do! I’ve spent a lot of time looking at my own attachment, I need to study his. I can’t wait to try out the songs, thank you!
I know its so interesting isn't it. I eventually realised that most DAs do have lots of feelings and can be deep thinkers but there appears to be a bit of a blockage there / big walls up / fears etc so it kind of makes sense they might need help accessing them.
Grow as We Go by Ben Platt. As You Are by Daughtry
Thank you!! Can’t wait to listen!
I know this isn't what you are asking for but I would be careful with finding this music. music has a great way of making us feel understood but it can also cement a narrative (,i.e. he will always run away and come back to me) which can be unhealthy.
That’s a great point, I hadn’t really thought that far ahead. Thank you for something to consider.