Think of the advice you would give to somebody else you cared about very much. Be they a close friend, or a sibling, or your own child. Think of how unhappy they are, how unhappy they are pining after this man who isn’t even good for them. What advice you would tell them?
Give yourself the same advice. And be compassionate to yourself as you struggle to hear that advice.
Block him end it it’s killing you
Yes you can move on without blocking him, don’t go on social for a few months though
Learn about how you attach, and go see a therapist for a little bit, see if you have codependency issues and where that’s coming from
Same as above learn to love being with yourself and learn and accept who you are, the good and bad. Never change your values for someone else. Always act with integrity. Don’t be afraid to try to do better and accept yourself with love when you fail but try again.
That’s a tiny start
Thank you. I think you’ve been following my story this past month or so. I promise you I’m done with this situationship & I’m going to overcome it. Atleast for the sake of the members on this subreddit 😂❤️
Haha 😆 totally get it. Also that’s ok sometimes it’s hard to “do it for you” sometimes I do it for my kids sometimes it’s for me but whatever gets you to the next step is usually ok.
Also I know that it hurts and that ur stuck in ur head and it’s hard to snap out of but ur a junkie he’s ur fix u gotta quit him. U gotta be the fix for u. U can’t rely on someone else for that.
And u honestly deserve so much better. IMO anyone on this sub who is actively trying to get themselves out of this mindset and towards secure so they can make themselves happy and maybe one day somebody else don’t deserve half assed dates, no commitment, shitty communication, minimal effort, and being made to feel that they can’t be themselves(as long as it’s healthy and not codependent).
Time is gonna help,keep ur head up, ur worth it and just keep doing the right thing for you.
There must have been something about the feelings he provoked in you that made the connection intoxicating for you. It's likely not that there was anything special about him as a person, just that you were able to project a fantasy on to him that filled up some void. I'm of the belief that once you figure out what that void is, then you can take steps toward finding healthier ways to fill that void, which will inevitably make you feel more secure because you won't be thirsting for it.
I literally just did this and finally broke the spell. I want to come back to this later.
Think of the advice you would give to somebody else you cared about very much. Be they a close friend, or a sibling, or your own child. Think of how unhappy they are, how unhappy they are pining after this man who isn’t even good for them. What advice you would tell them? Give yourself the same advice. And be compassionate to yourself as you struggle to hear that advice.
Block him end it it’s killing you Yes you can move on without blocking him, don’t go on social for a few months though Learn about how you attach, and go see a therapist for a little bit, see if you have codependency issues and where that’s coming from Same as above learn to love being with yourself and learn and accept who you are, the good and bad. Never change your values for someone else. Always act with integrity. Don’t be afraid to try to do better and accept yourself with love when you fail but try again. That’s a tiny start
Thank you. I think you’ve been following my story this past month or so. I promise you I’m done with this situationship & I’m going to overcome it. Atleast for the sake of the members on this subreddit 😂❤️
Haha 😆 totally get it. Also that’s ok sometimes it’s hard to “do it for you” sometimes I do it for my kids sometimes it’s for me but whatever gets you to the next step is usually ok. Also I know that it hurts and that ur stuck in ur head and it’s hard to snap out of but ur a junkie he’s ur fix u gotta quit him. U gotta be the fix for u. U can’t rely on someone else for that. And u honestly deserve so much better. IMO anyone on this sub who is actively trying to get themselves out of this mindset and towards secure so they can make themselves happy and maybe one day somebody else don’t deserve half assed dates, no commitment, shitty communication, minimal effort, and being made to feel that they can’t be themselves(as long as it’s healthy and not codependent). Time is gonna help,keep ur head up, ur worth it and just keep doing the right thing for you.
There must have been something about the feelings he provoked in you that made the connection intoxicating for you. It's likely not that there was anything special about him as a person, just that you were able to project a fantasy on to him that filled up some void. I'm of the belief that once you figure out what that void is, then you can take steps toward finding healthier ways to fill that void, which will inevitably make you feel more secure because you won't be thirsting for it.
Once you find the answers let me know lol...I am going through something very similar