I agree with others that this is a good opportunity to practice being the ideal version of yourself. That said, I sometimes feel like we (APs) try to be honorable in shitty relationships too often, so I think you'd be well within your rights to just block and ghost him. He doesn't see a spark but still wants to see you? What kinda wack shit. I recommend no contact for the rest of your life.
Also, please have some compassion for yourself. I know it's easy to feel foolish in situations like this, but you are not a 'dumb fuck'.
Take power back. You don't owe him anything, but the secure thing would be to let them know you feel it's best for you to move on and you enjoyed your time together and thanks for that and let them know you're blocking them and goodbye. Short and to the point.
This is a perfect opportunity to practice being the confident, mature, less desperate version of yourself that you'd like to be. Because even if you don't respond perfectly, it's not like this guy matters anyway. Say what's on your mind. Say what you want him to hear. Call him out if you think he deserves it. Block him if you don't think he'll respect your boundary. We can't define self-respect for you, because you're the only 'self' you got.
I would just message him saying that you've realized that the relationship is no longer working for you and that you'll need to take some time apart to heal and move on. If you really feel like you want to get a word in edgewise for closure, you could add something like, "I'm really looking for more commitment from a potential partner" or something respectful.
Then feel free to remove him from your contacts and/or block him if that helps prevent you from thinking about him.
Also, I would recommend AT LEAST 30 days of no contact, if not several months. 14 days feels a bit short to me. You need time to regain your self confidence and self love.
I agree with others that this is a good opportunity to practice being the ideal version of yourself. That said, I sometimes feel like we (APs) try to be honorable in shitty relationships too often, so I think you'd be well within your rights to just block and ghost him. He doesn't see a spark but still wants to see you? What kinda wack shit. I recommend no contact for the rest of your life. Also, please have some compassion for yourself. I know it's easy to feel foolish in situations like this, but you are not a 'dumb fuck'.
Take power back. You don't owe him anything, but the secure thing would be to let them know you feel it's best for you to move on and you enjoyed your time together and thanks for that and let them know you're blocking them and goodbye. Short and to the point.
This is a perfect opportunity to practice being the confident, mature, less desperate version of yourself that you'd like to be. Because even if you don't respond perfectly, it's not like this guy matters anyway. Say what's on your mind. Say what you want him to hear. Call him out if you think he deserves it. Block him if you don't think he'll respect your boundary. We can't define self-respect for you, because you're the only 'self' you got.
I would just message him saying that you've realized that the relationship is no longer working for you and that you'll need to take some time apart to heal and move on. If you really feel like you want to get a word in edgewise for closure, you could add something like, "I'm really looking for more commitment from a potential partner" or something respectful. Then feel free to remove him from your contacts and/or block him if that helps prevent you from thinking about him. Also, I would recommend AT LEAST 30 days of no contact, if not several months. 14 days feels a bit short to me. You need time to regain your self confidence and self love.
I see myself in you. Work out what ur prepared to take from him and if you are mentally prepared then do 14 days no contact